How to discipline while promoting shallowness 

1. Be consistent 
2. Stick to the results and, when the kid is aware of you won’t admit defeat, the issues can scale back. 
3. Be clear concerning what behaviour you wish 
4. Rather than saying ‘Don’t run within the street’, say ‘Please keep by my aspect once we are within the street’. Saying what you wish provides the kid a transparent plan on a way to behave and is so additional seemingly to succeed. 

Use selections  consequences 

• Give the kid a alternative a few consequence. Say, “Either you facilitate tidy up currently, or we tend to wont head to the park nowadays.” 
• Show that you just acknowledge and settle for the rationale the kid is doing what, in your judgment, is that the wrong issue “You wish to play with the toy however…” This validates the legitimacy of the child’s needs and illustrates that you just are an understanding person. State the “but” “You wish to play with the toy, however Tom is using it right away.” This lets the kid grasp that others have wants, too. It teaches perspective taking, and will lead the kid to develop the flexibility to place himself in different people’s shoes. it’ll additionally gain you the child’s respect, for it shows you’re honest. 
• Demonstrate the proper thanks to do one thing 

• After firmly stating what’s to not be done, you’ll be able to demonstrate a way to do it. This sets firm limits, nevertheless helps the kid feel that you just  them are a team, not enemies. 

• Avoid accusation 
• Even with babies, communicate in respectful tones and words. This prevents a lowering of the child’s self-image and promotes their tendency to co-operate. 
• If kids have enough language, facilitate them specific their feelings. 
• Help them trust alternatives and solutions to issues. “You feel angry as a result of I won’t allow you to have sweets. i will be able to allow you to select a cracker or a pear. that does one want?” This encourages characteristics we would like to envision emerge in kids, like awareness of feelings and cheap assertiveness, and provides kids tools for solving issues while not unpleasant scenes. 

Do’s 

• Use clear, straightforward directions in a very firm, friendly voice to make sure kids don’t seem to be overwhelmed & refuse to comply as a result. 
• Do treat those around you with respect, kids can learn and imitate the behaviour they see around them. 
• Allow the kid to feel valued inspired.

For starters it will just be good for him to get out of the house some more and communicating with children his own age. It has been proven many times that putting your child in this situation helps their development and encourages their speech. I really want this for my son. I want him to get out there, have fun and start making friends. I can just imagine all the wonderful things they’ll do with him, from painting to fun walks. In addition it will give me back a few hours every week. I’ll be able to do things I find difficult with him here, from house work to perhaps even catching up with friends I haven’t seen much of since he was born.

Today the health visitor came out and helped to ease Luthers mind a bit. We’ve reached a compromise and Luther has agreed to let Shuya go to nursery – just as long as he can stay with him at first while Shuya is settling in.

I’m quite excited to get the ball rolling.

The schools that cannot stop these children from behaving in this inappropriate manner should be sued the parents of these bullies should also be sued for lack of disipline 

It seems quite obvious that these bullies have behavioural problems that are also behavioural problems in their homes 

The parents of these disruptive children need to be accountable for their child’s upbringing teaches also need to make children more secure in schools whatever needs to be done to change this kind of behaviour

I think the children who bully other children in school should be removed from the school system learning privileges suspended and the child automatically fails that year of class

Maybe when the child cant go to school for the year and the parents have to find another means of child care they would think a little harder and discipline their child better 

Schools Teachers Parents must take Bullying more Serious and get Tougher the children that are causing this bullying need to be separated from the children who are there to learn

Maybe there should be a separate school for troubled Children who are disruptive and have severe personality and learning disabilities

How happy we started with women’s liberation or equality for women to be given her chance to perform, because only once we trained them for housework (now none). I say we really overcome, but some professionals involved in both earning good salaries and husbands jealous and envious, he left all the burden on women. They became the house and looked irresponsible men or young to see how many lines I put my machismo to the extent of the bride ask “how much you make?”.  To see if their economies were to increase or decrease. I must say that women also see their mothers by household, excellent battered housewives and some irresponsible became preferred to be in their workplaces and the famous “sexual harassment”, and several have fallen cuerpomático (pay with the body) solve or justify their income , on vacation get bored at home and housework more fortunately when they have chances of getting hired, or if you are fortunate to have a mom, aunt or grandmother to care for their kids and make food and chores, much better.
The worst thing is that we do not have time to live with the couple, much less play or talk with their children because they buy to placate them what they ask and leave education to the servants or nurseries.
Everything well organized to enjoy the true home with the help of God, you can, if you will allow time for the husband, children and work. Unfortunately many, not all make use of the handcuffs and they spend at home. They acquire services or open an account in which only they have access.  Another joint, with a little to spare, for women to contribute more.
That is reality and there are few who want to marry as a real home, married, which means house of two, who will begin their married life with the love of his life, partner, girlfriend, friend and loving every sexual experience is different and not one gets bored, watch out, when there is love.
There are many women who are mom, dad and mothers, who get their children to go forward with love and discipline. I admire them because they sacrifice as parents abandoned their children are involved. So there are deobligation both men and women who work.
I am a teacher, God led me and lit to meet and be responsible, not perfect, because as fathers or mothers, always fail at something, especially if you got a sick child, as all attention focused on him and the other children suffer from lack of love.
Let us ask God for wisdom in order to meet our various roles in life and instill the love and fear God, because what we sow, reap, living surrounded by care and love if the home environment avoid lawsuits, lack of love for children, parents, spouses and grandparents

I took our new puppy to the vet the next day and received a big surprise. The vet looked Klink over and gave him a clean bill of health. He then asked if I knew what breed he was. I had no idea, I thought he probably had some German Shepherd in the mix. Imagine my surprise when Dr. Haworth told me that Klink was a wolf hybrid. The good doctor knew the little Hispanic man, and had just given Klink his shots a week before.  I’m ashamed to say that my first reaction was of fear. I just knew that our sweet little butterball was going to grow up into a viscous animal. I asked the vet to find him a new home. Dr. Haworth told me that I should really give our puppy a chance. We were already deeply in love with Klink, so I did just that.

I went home and told my husband what I had learned. He was thrilled to find out that we had a wolf in our house. I went to the internet and spent hours researching wolf hybrids. I educated myself on the special needs Klink would have, and the special challenges we would face with him. He is by far the most intelligent dog we have ever owned, but he is also extremely stubborn. He can pick up a trick in no time, but no amount of begging or treats will convince him to try it if he is not in the mood. He picked up on house training right away, but anytime my sister brought her dog over, Klink would pee on her dog bed.

I really got the puppy for my daughter, but it became very clear that Klink was my dog. He adores my little girl, and he is very protective of her. Klink will put himself between my daughter and anything he deems dangerous, and will herd her in the other direction. One day I took them both to the lake, and Klink stood between her and the waves, as if he was afraid she was going to get hurt. But when he felt like he was off duty, he was by my side. At night he sleeps right beside my bed so that I can reach down and pet him. At one year old, Klink weighed 120 pounds. He has put on a little more height since than. The problem is that he thinks he is a lap dog. He starts out sitting beside me on the couch, but slowly snuggles closer and closer until he is on top of me.

While we have known all along how special Klink is, my neighbors were not so convinced. He does have a habit of serenading the neighbors at night with his deep wolf howl, and when he smiles at you, it does look a bit scary. Recently, Klink showed everyone just how wonderful he is. A new family moved in across the street, a very busy single mother, and her five young children. The mother had to rely on babysitters to watch the children at night while she worked. One night around 11 PM Klink was involved in one of his favorite past times,  sitting on the couch looking out the window at the street. Suddenly he started barking loudly at the window, and then ran to the door asking to be let out.  I took him outside, and he ran straight for the street. Our neighbor’s three year old had let himself out of the house and was sitting at the edge of the street. Klink started herding the little boy back into his yard. We called his mother and she came immediately. Our neighbor is terrified of large dogs, but she walked up and gave Klink a huge hug. Our dog is no Lassie, he didn’t find Timmy in the well. But he is still very special to us, and seems to enjoy being called Klink the Wonder Dog.

Now a heterosexual Step Parent can adopt a child once due cause is proven that it is in the child’s best interest. They will have a hefty child support bill no matter what (And a legal guardian or parent with custody should be paying for their child(ren) no matter what), and the child would be bought up in a safe and loving environment. The biological parent would have no rights to the child or any visitation to the child at all.

If an LGBT Step Parent does the same, the biological parent still has visitation and say in the child’s life. So while an LGBT Step parent is taking care of their step child the constant fear will nag at them since the child’s safety is in jeopardy. It isn’t fair to an LGBT Step parent to take care of a child and then be forced to put that child at risk!

I have set up a petition to change this and to make it so LGBT Step Parents are treated with equality. Also, so that children of LGBT families can be safe. It isn’t fair to the child to be placed in a dangerous scenario with a biological parent. It also isn’t fair towards an LGBT Step Parent who loves their Step Child unconditionally to be faced with the constant threat of the child’s welfare being in jeopardy.

So please sign this petition below. You may have to copy and paste it into your browser.Sign it and you can be saving a child’s life! Don’t all children deserve to be safe and in loving environments?

http://www.change.org/petitions/stop-discrimination-in-child-custody-laws-towards-lgbt-step-parents

For more articles I have written about this issue, please copy and paste the links below into your browsers.

http://socyberty.com/issues/we-need-a-new-law-in-place-gabriellas-law/

http://socyberty.com/issues/discrimination-in-new-york-family-court-law/

But later after he changed his house to his daughter attitude almost 180 degree changed. She becomes high temper, mean she is more easy to get angry, and she doesn’t help any one doing something. And later, my friend can figure out that his daughter may get bored with the new life because she can’t enjoy some of her favour activities, especially playing with her friend or enjoy the activities with other (similar age) like.

After that he changed his activities with his daughter by giving more chance to his daughter to go out to play the public toy with other, to shopping, to go out with him/his wife, and pay more time with her. 1 month later his daughter returned back to what she was while at the old house.

I got the similar thing, while my daughter sick and she had to stayed at the hospital 2 days. During this two day she also 180 degree changed as well. She was also very easy to get angry and when she got angry she cried (may be she felt afraid of doctor) and she asked my wife to bring her down from the second floor to ground and then from ground floor to 2nd floor many times per day. She didn’t much talk just cry, slept, and eat. A few talk only dislike when she was out of hospital, even the last half our she was going to leave hospital.

But 1 hour later after she got out the hospital she met her cousin and eating something (outside hospital) she become normal. Talk, play, and smile but still cry about 2 days. Now she become normal.

I said all of this story because I want to figure out from the fact that our child is pretty easy to affected from her environment so we can’t less care even a minute about what they are inside or we will not able to recover what we lost. But in this case be more careful because sometime if we too much care and take every his/her minute to control it will become pressure to them rather than help.

So please be flexible in practise your care to your children.

Bruise

If you see bruises, it could be from abuse. Children don’t just get bruises out of a where. Usually, they will be afraid to speak up because they have no where to go. They’re victims. They can’t speak up or fight for themselves. Children are the targeted group because they can’t do anything about it. They’re the target for physical abuse and sexual abuse.

Withdrawal

Children withdraw if they’re depressed or if they have problems. They will not talk to their friends or join in groups for fun. They will hide or be alone by themselves somewhere.

Cry

If they cry often or just out of no where, it could be from abuse.  Why would babies cry out of no where? They might have a reason to cry. If you see them cry, you should assess them and ask why they’re crying.

Pain

If they act like they’re in pain, there could be reasons why they’re in pain. Pain could be from previous injuries or that it’s radiated from mental pain.

Missing school

They could ditch school because they’re depressed or if they have bruises and they don’t want to be seen in public. Children who have been abused will often miss school.

Fearful

They act fearful when they’re in public. There is a reason why they’re fearful. They could be sitting in a corner by themselves. When you come over, they look down or that they use their hands to cover themselves. They react the way that they have been reacting to the abusers. They mimic those behaviors.

Depression

When they are depressed, you will know that something is wrong. Why would they be depressed out of no where? Children don’t know too much about life so there is no reason to be depressed but being abused.

Gaining weight

They eat a lot when they’re depressed. They don’t feel like keeping up with their appearance because they don’t have a reason to look good. Their future looks gloomy.

What you can do

You should report to social services and let them help the child if you’re a teacher or public worker. You can call social service, and let them know the name of the child, what school they’re attending and their home address or phone numbers if you know it. When you see a child in this situation, you should try to get as much personal information as you can from them or from their friends. You can save their lives. They can be put into foster care and they can have better lives than living at home where they might get more abuse or even sexual abuse. Some children can die from parents that are on drugs or can’t stop abusing them. Social series will be able to lawfully help them finically and get them out of those situations. If people care for animal, then they should care about human. No one deserves to live with that kind of cruelty and you can help them.

It was a long day today! After checking out from work, I had the chance to do the laundry, iron the clothes, make a brief call to Miks in the Philippines and watch my favorite Korean series which is one of the many DVD series that I bought in the Philippines during my vacation.  But before, I finally go to bed, I tried to look for some magazines inside my cabinet so I can have few readings before I go to sleep.  It was during this time that I saw a hand crafted box with my name painted on it.  Inside the box was a colorful hand crafted rosary with wooden beads and a 3 pages typewritten letter full of emotions from a young boy.   The letter contained an assurance of love and appreciation.  This was the box that my son, Edmar handed to me before I left home to take my flight back to Cambodia.  I would admit that there were several times we fought over some issues on the house and school but we usually end up forgiving each other. 

 
As I begin to look back in the past, during my kids formative years, I recalled those days when I struggled to become a good if not the best Mom for both of them. I’ve always been  a working Mom but this does not stop me from guiding them every step of the way.  From the time that they begin to walk, go to school, join school competitions, participate in school activities.  I’m always and will always be a part of their achievements.  My efforts paid off, these two kids grew up to be fine persons …. disciplined, intelligent, loving and responsible…. (proud mom isn’t it?)

I couldn’t ask for more…..The countless achievements that both of them gave me really made me fulfilled and happy.  Whatever they are now is a result of hard work and I am mighty proud of it.  Now, I realized that a good and strong foundation is very important in rearing children.  What the old folks used to say is somehow true…that the foundation and training that children received during their formative years will always reflect and dictate what would be of them in the future.

I have actually applied so many methods in an effort to bring out the best in them… let me count the ways:

1.)  I planted into their minds the value of education and the hard work that has to go with it.

2.)  I trained them to give out their best in everything they do.  Projects should always be submitted on time, unique and presentable.

3.)  I taught them how to set priorities.  Home  works and school commitments should always come first before pleasure.

4.) I applied to them the “reward system”.  I always buy gifts and give monetary rewards for a job well done to make them inspired and strive for more.

5.) I made an open line communication with their teachers and friends to monitor their progress and to understand their thoughts.

6.) I taught them the value of time and how to manage it more effectively.

7.)  I taught them the importance of having a “sense of responsibility” and how this can affect the kind of life that they would have in the future.

8.) I gave a strong emphasis to perseverance and taught them how this positive virtue can help them achieve their goals.

9.) Telling stories is an effective way of giving them practical lessons in life.  How other people failed and succeed can serve as an “eye opener” for them.

10.) It was clearly explained to them that  being disciplined and organized can create a positive impression.  Keeping the house tidy and training them to observe orderliness and cleanliness can very well reflect how they manage themselves.

These were just few of the so many things that I taught them.  I’m still on the process of guiding them and so far, we are on the right track.

There is no parenting manual that would teach us how to train up a child but your experiences in life as an individual and as a parent together with some researches and studies can be of great help in achieving your goal of being a good, if not the best Mom that you could be…..