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      In contrast to modern usage, the word “virgin” does not properly apply to boys, but only to girls. Boys have no anatomical structure that would distinguish a chaste unmarried boy from his married counterpart. Accordingly, when the Roman poet Horace speaks of boys and girls who have not been initiated into the mysteries of love, he calls the girls virgins, but he does not apply the term to their male counterparts. Instead, he calls them “chaste boys.”

      Of course, usage has never been consistent. Greek literature occasionally refers to unmarried young men as virgins, and there is even an example in the book of Revelation, but only in a figurative sense. Those who have been washed by the blood of Christ are described as virgins because the robe of righteousness with which Christ has covered them is as pure as a maiden who has never defiled herself. Included in the number of virgins described in the book of Revelation are men and women of all ages, both married and unmarried, even repentant harlots. The blood of Christ has cleansed them all.

      The widespread indiscriminate application of the concept of virginity to both men and women is largely the result of ascetic movements. About eighteen or nineteen centuries ago, many people began to think that abstinence from marriage was a virtue. Such cults as Manichaeism and Montanism deplored marriage as a form of contamination. And although the Apostle Paul warned people not to believe such teachings (I Timothy 4: 3), these ideas infiltrated into the Christian Church. The result was monasticism. Both men and women were encouraged to remain virgins all their lives.

      Modern thought looks upon virginity from a different point of view. Because of such influential philosophies as humanism and Marxism, a classless society is considered the ideal state of affairs. In traditional thought, a virgin girl occupied a higher rank than an unmarried girl who lost her virginity. In his novel “Tess of the d’Urbervilles,” Thomas Hardy expresses sympathy for his heroine, describing her plight as a great loss of caste. But modern thought abhors class distinctions. All should be equal, whether they deserve it or not. Such a posture is suitable when dealing with a rape victim like Tess, but modern thought wants to degrade a virgin girl to the same level as a wanton.

      However the word may be used and whatever conflicting ideas may dominate world opinion, the virginity of a maiden is something special, and the Lord has endowed her with virginity not to keep it all her life but to give it to the man she marries. The Bible teaches that the woman was created for the man (I Corinthians 11: 9), and when a man marries a virgin, it is not a mere momentary pleasure, but a joy that lasts a lifetime.

      Some girls give their husbands a special treat. In our day when boys and girls must go through the dating process to find their life’s mate instead of a more sensible system of arranged marriages, a girl usually receives an innocent kiss from some eventually unsuccessful suitor or a seemingly innocent kiss from some would-be seducer. But it still happens that a girl manages to reserve her love’s first kiss for her husband

      In the past, Moslem husbands enjoyed a still further treat. Judging from the “Shah Nameh” of Firdawsi, it frequently happened that a Moslem girl would show her face to no man except her husband. Perhaps some Moslem men still enjoy this pleasure.

“Novum Testamentum Graece,” edited by Eberhard Nestle

“Horace Odes and Epodes,” edited by Charles E. Bennett

Choose the heading that applies to you and try to abide by what comes underneath:

• “Husbands, continue loving your wives…. in this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but feeds and cherishes it, as the Christ also does the congregation” Ephesians 5:23, 25-29. 
• “Keep on loving your wives and do not be bitterly angry with them.” Colossians 3:19.

• “The head of the Christ is God,” just as the head of the woman is the man.” 1 Corinthians 11:3.
• Do not belittle your husband or try to take over his headship.
• “The wife should have deep respect for her husband.” Ephesians 5:33.

A Six days challenge for both Husband and Wife

Day 1: Try not to say anything negative to your spouse for one day. This might be hard but if temptation arises, just keep quite.

Day 2: Show thoughtful actions. Do one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness. Do it even though you don’t expect anything in return.

Day 3: Invest something small. When you have something that is dear to you, you invest time and effort in it. Buy your spouse something nice to show that he/she means something to you.

Day 4: Do something different. When your partner is at work or not around, call  him/her to find out how he/she is doing.

Day 5: listen to your spouse. When he/she sees that you are listing to him/her for a change, that will give the relationship a little light. Don’t just look as if you are listening. Show that you understand and really care about the matter. Also do things around the house that you never used to do before.

Day 6: Start studying your partner again. When you were courting, you tried to find out every detail to know what he/she liked or disliked. That was actually studying your partner. When you  finished studying and gained the approval of marriage, that knowledge was equal to a high school certificate. Similarly, to be successful in any business venture, you have to continue until you get your Bachelors Degree, then your Masters up to your Doctorate.  Since marriage is a life long commitment, the mistake  you made was to stop studying. You should have never  stopped studying your spouse. Your new job is to  pick up the pieces and go back to college where you left off. Your only subject should be your wife/husband.

You have both trampled on each other with your words and actions. If you have anything left in you that wants to save your marriage; it is now time to ask for forgiveness. Most importantly, while waiting, give each other some time to think while doing all the kind acts of love, including helping with house chores, making dinner and saying “I Love You.”

1. Just Relax
   
   Hey, I know you are nervous. Understandable so.  But you have to relax ok? If you get all worked up you won’t be able to enjoy it as much as you should. Take a deep breath. Think happy thoughts. Don’t think about things going wrong instead visualize things being absolutely wonderful. Sounds crazy but it really works. Be confident in your abilities.
2. Take your time
   
   Don’t rush it. You will be feeling all kinds of emotions that you have never felt before. And that’s ok it’s actually a good thing.  Just go with the flow. Remember, you are making love to the man or woman of your dreams for the very first time. You want this to be an unforgettable time. So take your time.  Explore each other’s body.  Have extended foreplay.  Did you know that the single best way to intensify orgasms is to have prolonged foreplay? Keep that in mind.
3. Pay attention
   
   As you are kissing and touching each other pay close attention to the spots that make your spouse moan or grab you closer. This means they like it. If you find something they like you can continue to do it but switch it up a little bit. Don’t continue to do the same thing over and over and over. This will get boring.  If she likes it when you caress her breast then continue to caress her breast and then work your way up to kissing them gently. You see where I’m going with this? You continue to build upon what you know your spouse likes.