I’m not sure what’s going on around our office recently but ever since the turn of the year we’ve been really getting into the community spirit. Usually I work in a pretty insular and quiet environment where most people have their headphones on or they’re trapped in meeting rooms or on conference calls. Christmas is pretty much the only time that we get involved with secret Santa gifts and going out to celebrate as a group. However, just recently, things have started to change.

Now, don’t get me wrong I’m all for togetherness, caring and sharing but things are starting to get out of hand! Anyway, below are the 5 separate office-based clubs that I’ve managed to get myself roped into and, you might be pleased to know, there isn’t a squash ladder in sight.

Coffee Club
Every two weeks or so an email enters my mailbox declaring that it’s coffee time which means that I now have to find £3.00 to place on the desk of my colleague, Keith. Since January, Coffee Club has developed from two people to four and although we’ve lost a couple of ‘clubbers’ along the way we’re still going strong after three months and counting. It does make sense to join together and buy coffee in bulk and for my £3.00 contribution I get a part share in 908gs of ground coffee that originates from the furthest corners of the globe.

Cake Fridays
This little club does exactly what it says on the tartan tin and as Laura (CF organiser) always says: ‘no bake no cake’. Basically, one of fourteen members bakes a cake on Friday and the other thirteen members happily devour it with a cup of tea and give their feedback through crumb-laden mouths. So far we’ve had a selection of fudge brownies, some amazing rocky road and a plate of delicious Polish delicacies. Personally, I’d never ever contemplated baking before but inspired by my colleagues’ endeavours and the Great British Bake Off I knocked up a passable coffee and walnut sponge that went down rather well I don’t mind admitting.

Get sporty
There’s nothing better for team bonding than a good old game of sport, and as we’re lucky enough to work close to Brighton beach, chances to play volleyball are numerous. However, after a recent fit of ‘let’s do something sporty’ six of us ended up travelling to Crawley to take on the IT department at 5-a-side football. Now, I know it’s the taking part that counts but, suffice to say, we won now let’s move on. Anyway, I got to talk to people I wouldn’t normally talk to and kick people I wouldn’t normally kick so all in all, a jolly good time was had by all.

Volunteer Day
Once a year our company allows us to break free from our work desk shackles so we can disappear into the local community and do something other than pen pushing and screen staring. This year we visited an allotment that produces vegetables and fruit for local people and also encourages volunteers to get involved and find out more about gardening and working on the land. I used to associate these sorts of projects with volunteer work abroad but since getting involved I’ve realised that there are plenty of disadvantaged people closer to home that need help as well. Still, here’s hoping upper management have a sudden attack of philanthropy and decide to send us off to Thailand or Nepal to volunteer abroad somewhere a little warmer!

The Friday Club
About a month ago I was sitting at my desk, minding my own business, when an email popped into my in-box inviting me and about twenty others to lunch. Now, this is quite an occurrence in itself as I usually spend lunch breaks alone counting seagulls but to be invited out with twenty others was just plain odd. As I read the mail in full I was delighted to find that a colleague in a different department had invited us all for what was to become the Friday Club. FC is where like-minded people get together at a different venue each week, eat a few savoury snacks and chin-wag until the siren calls them back to the office. This is a genius idea and a great way to end the week.

If you’re staring at the same four walls and wondering which one to climb first then STOP! Look around at your colleagues and think to yourself not what they can do for you but what you can do for them to make your working life just that little bit more communal.

Biog: Since writing this article Chris is sorry to inform you that Keith has decided to leave the Coffee Club and go in search of volunteer work abroad – the rest of the club are, of course, devastated.

This is the second article to my series about the freshman year of high school. In this article I am going to talk to you about the “extracurricular” part of high school (again this applies to pretty much everyone in high school).

 I was only involved in one club /organization through my school and that was theatre. I was in all three of the plays my freshman year and stayed at school until 5:00pm pretty much every day for practice. And I loved every minute of it! I acquired some of my (if not all of my) best friends through theatre. I HIGHLY recommend getting into a club of some sort, whether its a club like anime; or sports like swim or track; or organizations like student council, GET INVOLVED. It makes you a ‘more rounded student/person’ so colleges like you a little bit more, and the even bigger plus- you get a whole bunch of really close, awesome friends who you will love!

The trick is to find something, whether it is a sport or a club, that YOU will enjoy. The rest follows. If you enjoy it and the other people there enjoy it, then more than likely ya’ll will enjoy a lot of same things, giving you some really close and great friendships that start and are connected on a little bit of a deeper level.

Tip: If you hear about or have an idea for a club that your school does not currently have, talk to your administrators about it and if they approve, find a sponsor for it and voila! You have a club, it’ll be easier if you get one or two other people to help you get it started, from there see if you can get it put on the announcements for the word gets spread fast and those who want to join, can! (P.s that will ALSO look great on college applications- “I started my freshman year and then ran the _______ club all four years of high school” ß Awesome!)

The most important thing is to HAVE FUN. Don’t NOT do something because of other people, even if those other people are your friends. Be YOU, if you want to join the swim team DO IT. If you want to join the ‘Glee club’ then DO IT. It doesn’t matter what your friends say because odds are you will find other (possibly even better) friends in the clubs you wish to join. (If they are REALLY your friends they will support you no matter what.)

Also, try out a little bit of everything, if you are slightly interested in joining something, go to a meeting or talk to someone who is in the club to see what it’s like. You may be surprised!

Being a part of something makes high school SO much more fun! Makes sure to check out the clubs at your school, you can even talk to your counselors about what clubs your school has available to you and find out who you need to contact for information about them. Don’t be that kid who goes to school and then goes home. Colleges don’t like that and honestly, YOU won’t like it.  High school isn’t ALL about the academics- it’s about having FUN too, and being a more ‘well-rounded person’. So ENJOY high school while you have the chance, but don’t OVERLOAD yourself by signing up for 10 different clubs, find out how many times the clubs meet a month and on what days they meet, along with for how long. Make sure they don’t conflict OR take up all of your time. You need down time and time to keep up with your school work so I recommend joining the 3-5 you want to join THE MOST. And if you only want to join 1 or 2- that’s fine! As long as you are in something and enjoying it- that’s all that matters!

Martial Law

Martial law is definitely coming to America. The only question is when. Most people don’t understand the true meaning of this law and what American citizens will soon experience. The definition of martial law is the temporary rule by military authorities over designated regions on an emergency basis. Unfortunately, it is a lot more complicated than that. Martial law is another term for “police state”. If the United States was to become a police state, that means the Constitution and the Bill of Rights will no longer be effective. Citizens will no longer be innocent until proven guilty because they will have no rights to a trial by jury. People can be arrested and imprisoned without charges. Gun owners will also come under attack during martial law. All it takes for martial law to be enforced is the president’s signature on a proclamation (such as the one signed by Obama for the H1N1 flu) and the attorney generals signature on a warrant that has a list of names attached. If there is a national emergency declared, such as a terrorist attack of mass destruction, the constitution will be discarded in favor of a military form of government. Those left in power under martial law involves people in high levels of society, the wealthy elite, international bankers, and secret societies.

The people in the highest ranks of the global elite are the ones planning to enforce the martial law and the New World Order. This includes secret and occult societies such as the members of the Illuminati, the Freemasons, the Bohemian Grove, Skull and Bones, The Bilderberger Group, the Council of Foreign Relations(CFR), and the Brotherhood. Some members are believed to be David Rockefeller, the Bush Family, Rothschild, and Barack Obama. These members plan to take total control over the world. When this national “emergency” happens, FEMA (Federal Emergency Management Agency) will be here to send you to their detention camps where you will be put on the “red”, “blue”, or “yellow” list.Citizens on the “red” list are enemies of the New World Order such as leaders of patriot groups, outspoken ministers, and community leaders. They will be taken from their homes around 4 a.m. about two weeks before martial law is implemented. These citizens will be temporarily imprisoned and killed. Those on the “blue list” will be taken to the FEMA camps a few weeks after martial law is enforced. They are people that followers of the “red” list. The citizens on the “yellow” list are people that have no knowledge of the New World Order. They will be told what to dohow to behave, and be re-educated. There will be too many on this list, so many of them will also be killed or starved. Those that are not killed will be chipped, released, and tracked. This includes the implantation of the RFID chip or Radio Frequency Identification tags.This electronic device, which is smaller than a grain of sand, will be implanted in the hand or forehead

2011 Hot Christmas Gifts
We start counting down; so here you go…

Number 10 – Xbox 360 with Kinect
You are the controller! That’s what the new Xbox 360 with Kinect is providing the gamers with. Now, let go of the handheld controllers and become one yourself. The all new and revolutionary Kinect sensors transport the gamer into the television itself with your inside-the-idiot-box avatar doing exactly what you do in front of the sensors. And with Kinect Adventures bundle you’re sure to come across adventures that you always wished you could partake in. See a ball? Kick it! Want to join a friend in fun? Simply Join in! A brilliant gift for the entire family or just your game lover of a friend or relative!

Number 9 – 3D LCD/LED Televisions
If you have a big budget, this could well support the above gift or be a perfect standalone gift. Gaming like above can really come alive if played on a 3D television. Normal television viewing on big LCD/LED television is good and all, but there’s just something extraordinarily mesmerizing about 3D when it throws the football right at your face during your favorite game or takes the movie watching experience to an all new high with all the action happening as if you were right in the middle of it. Again, it’s a fantastic gift to give to your family or to friends this Christmas season. The fun is right here!

Number 8 – Apple iPad 2
PCs and laptops are soon becoming things of the past. It’s the new generation of Tablet computing: the generation of Apple iPad. Loaded with extraordinary features, the new Apple iPad is smart computing right in your hands: thinner, lighter, and full of ideas. With 10 hour of battery backup, it’s even giving laptops and netbooks a run for their money. With dual core A5 chips (does twice the work at same time), it’s got superfast graphics, LED backlit display, Wi-Fi & 3G, two cameras front and back, multi-touch functionality, and whole lot more; no recipient of this gift from the present generation will be able to thank you as much he/she would like to.

Number 7 – Espresso Coffee Machine
In the midst of the chill of the winter that runs during the Christmas season, and after being tired from setting all the decorations, guests & gifts handling; there’s nothing like a piping hot cup of fine espresso coffee to send your tired senses into a state of ecstasy and infuse back into you the spirit of the season. Gift an espresso coffee machine from a reputed brand to your near and dear ones and allow them them to savor every sip of that freshly brewed coffee without giving up on the excellent taste and quality and without having to run to Starbucks every time there’s a craving.

Number 6 – Sports/Concert Tickets
All will agree that the hectic schedule of festivity before and after Christmas can take a lot out of us. At this time, many of us wish to get away to spend some time doing things we love all year round (festivity or no festivity). And if at such a time, somebody gifts us with exactly what we’re wishing to do and get away from the routine of the season, the joy of the season is sure to get multiplied. Even if you can’t get away from the routine in a way you like, you surely aid your loved one in getting away with it: by gifting tickets of a sports event or concert that’s in town. It’s a gift whose memory will be cherished for a long time to come.

Number 5 – Golf Clubs
Christmas isn’t just for the young bloods with all the cravings for latest technologies. Sweetest pleasures are also derived from the simplest of things. The gift number 5 is exactly that: simplest pleasure derived out of just clubbing a golf ball into the hole with finesse while playing with your golf buddies. Yes, a set of golf clubs can make for the loveliest and most adored gift to your golfing father or uncle.

Number 4 – Clothes
Be it 30 years before or the present year, new clothes just can’t be out of demand or love. Doesn’t matter what month or season of the year it is, clothes are one of the most loved gifts to give and receive. You can either choose to take your loved one shopping or shop on your own and bring home the clothes neatly wrapped up as gifts. You can also choose to shop for accessories that you think will go well with the clothes. Keep your loved one’s size of clothing and preferences in mind before you go shopping for them.

Number 3 – Foot Massager
The gift number 3 will have the users release a sigh of relief and bless you every time they put their feet on it. Foot massagers from numerous brands are gaining a huge fan base among the gifting community. The Christmas season brings in a time of peace and solitude, away from daily traveling from home to office and back. It’s a time to relax and to let go of all the cares of non-festive routine. And foot massager is surely a way to go about, or shall we say – gift about. Not only these massagers are reasonably priced, the ease with which they drive the pain and stiffness out of the feet is remarkable. Just put your foot down for this gift and let the feet of your near and dear ones be smoothened.

Number 2 – Pet
For those born with inerasable maternal instincts, there’s nothing more pleasurable than having to take care of someone. Keeping this in mind, gifting a pet is surely not a bad option. On the contrary, it will definitely be a gift that will be cherished with utmost love and care, reminding the recipient of the thought behind it. If you have someone in the family or friends who’s an animal lover and a caretaker by heart, a pet will make up as the best gift that they could’ve ever gotten. Added joy to the spirit of Christmas season!

Number 1 – Amazon Kindle
In the first position we have a gift that has the makings of one of the most innovative and best gifts to give during the Christmas season. Whether you’re looking for a gift for your mom, wife, girlfriend, sister, your favorite aunt, or a friend who loves to read; Amazon Rekindle is the thing for you that is sure to rekindle the spirit of reading in them. It can store up to 3500 eBooks and will please both casual and avid readers alike. Having 50% more contrast, the stuff in it can be read clearly in sunlight as well: a fine way to read your favorite book while bathing under the crisp sun of the winter sky or reading on the go. Truly an amazing gift!

Do not stop to have a whole new wardrobe, even if this is what the majority of students. In order to count, wear what is comfortable – not to shake so bad nothing like a new shoe. If you are not sure, jeans and a T-shirt will do the trick. Keep accessories to a minimum, do not make the mistake of dressing up like a Christmas tree!

Know your campus

Most colleges have an orientation day before the course starts. I take this opportunity to explore the campus – find the key places in the university – Junior College

classrooms, library, dining room and toilets. This way, you will not feel lost and bewildered at first.

Be prepared

A new place, and people need introductions. Your teachers will probably spend the first couple of lectures to get acquainted. You practice before a mirror – say your name, what school you are and your interests – in short.

Make friendship with someone

If you are one of the few friends the fate of the school will be in the same class as you. However, the university has the opportunity to make new friends. Keep a smile on your face, sit with someone who looks like “a person of her son.” If you have someone to hang out, and not just the first day of the cruise, your confidence level will rise.

Join the Club

Universities have many clubs and organizations – theater, music,

science, art, etc. These clubs always welcome new ones. Use your starting day to learn more about these and interest. The sooner you establish a sense of belonging to, the more confidence!

Be yourself

Do not go to college just before Extreme Makeover – both in appearance and attitude. This

surely make you feel wrong and uncomfortable, in addition to being difficult to maintain over the long term.

Some students may be influenced by an emphasis of feeling “cool”. But remember, nothing works better than the loyalty of person you are. Make friends who appreciate you for who you are – you can feel safer too.

Make sure you get a good night’s sleep, good breakfast, wear a bright smile and walk tall – the first couple of days in college is a breeze.

Wife swapping was historically an adult activity that solely couples took half in. As time went on single swingers conjointly began to get pleasure from the wife swap lifestyle. whereas most couples respect the swinging rules that goes with this activity several singles, particularly males, tend to bend the principles.

Swinging Etiquette

Following the wife swapping etiquette is simply as necessary as finding the proper person for swinging. several single males are therefore eager to get free sex or to induce invited to wife swap parties that they usually flip to inappropriate behavior. this is often the most reason why most swinging couples like to not come back to open single male nights at wife swapping clubs.

There is no reason why single men needing to follow the approach to life cannot follow swingers etiquette. the principles are straightforward and that we are progressing to provide you with a breakdown of the fundamental behavior that’s expected of everybody at a swingers party or wife swap club.
The first rule is straightforward opt for the proper partner to accompany you to a swingers party. If you’re taking someone with you that do not apprehend something concerning the wife swapping community then things will get awkward for everybody. If you’re single and wish a partner to require along then rather use a swingers web site to hook up with somebody then to only take a price ticket along. (A price ticket is somebody who simply uses you to induce into the swingers party and then drops you at the entrance). You and your partner are expected to be along at the swingers party and to conjointly leave the party along.

The second rule – ‘Don’t be Rude’ is additionally common data however most single males dump it when their libido’s begin seizing. nobody at a wife swap evening goes to possess sex with you. do not take it personally once they say no, simply move on and never raise them why they do not wish to swing with you because the answer would possibly hurt you even a lot of.

If someone comes on to you and you’re not interested a polite no thanks can do the duty. If the person keeps bothering you then go straight to the hostess.

The third rule involves personal hygiene and safe sex. If you’re taking care of the approach you look and smell then different adults can naturally raise you to swing with them. With swinging couples the ladies typically takes care of bringing essential things like deodorant, condoms and wet wipes to the wife swap evening. therefore it’s single males responsibility to bring enough condoms and a clean set of garments to a swingers party.

Real swingers stories conjointly feature horny however real swingers. These real swingers are not afraid to open up regarding their emotions and to admit that they are not good. Their real swingers stories also are humorous and witty as a result of they’re going to typically observe embarrassing things that happened whereas they were swinging.
The funniest real swingers story that I ever browse was a couple of couple that was putting on a show at a dogging hotspot once they realized that they locked themselves out of their automobile. once they reached orgasm the husband had to raise one among the voyagers to assist them break the automobile window with a close-by rock. What created the story even a lot of humorous was that they were each however naked which it started raining.

Some of the horny swingers stories that I recall involve a red headed single ladies who had to seem when someone’s house whereas they were on vacation. She poked around their stuff and found their swinging cards. Curious enough she logged onto the web site with their passwords and shortly she was mesmerized with this swinging lifestyle.

In the real swingers stories she goes on to explain how she pay ensuing few days swinging with the couple, who’s house she was taking care of, regular swinging contacts. When the couple came back from vacation they were stunned to seek out that the red headed ladies was still there lying naked on their double bed watching for them to come from vacation.

There are several funny real, serious and really horny swingers stories that are simply watching for you to browse them.

A lot of my friends believe that going to clubs is the only fun they can get. Yes, it is fun sometimes. but, going every week? that’s boring.

I don’t dance, I have to scream a person that’s next to me so he or she can hear me, I can’t open my eyes because there are like 300 people smoking. The worst part is to see how many kids (17, 16 even 15 yo) can’t control alcohol. When a 16yo kid told me he could drink 10 times more than me I laughed. After 4 beers he was drunk.

I don’t like how many feel older because:

“I went to the party oh yeah!”  

“I kissed him because I was so drunk oh yeah”

“I am a serious and grown up person because I drank a beer and maybe two oh yeah”

This should not be permitted, it is illegal. But of course, clubs make lots of money. Police do nothing and if they do it doesn’t last more than two weeks.

I like beer, rum, whisky but I don’t think that being free is to drink because you can. Or being sociable is to go every fucking Friday to drink with your friends to some club and if you don’t you’ll be boring and unsociable.

Party is really fun, but I don’t think that is the best and only thing. There are thing funnier than hangovers.

Plant and Human Life Cycle

Human beings can be compared to a flower bulb wherein the roots represent the family and the ties that you have and are related to whether you like it or not. If the roots of life are not strong there is no way a good plant can stand the tides of life as all the forces of nature would destroy them and kill the roots too. 

In life, we start off babies, grow into children and then slowly enhance and develop into who and what we are today before we shrivel up wither and die away. We do leave memories behind, but what kind of memories would you leave for yourself. I will leave you to think about that as you read through this analysis.

The Little Seed of Life (Babies)

I Need Unconditional Love

Babies can be compared to the little seed that you plant into the ground and constantly tend, nurture and nourish it into the little root and shoot you finally see popping out. The quality of the sapling/baby is very dependent on the type of food that you eat along with the characteristics and habits that are displayed to the embryo at the bud stage.

What do the little Seed/Babies look for??

What do we look for???

When we are babies, the one thing that we look forward for is love and warmth to be able to feel secure and the closest world that one can have is the family. They start to learn the actions and reactions of their surrounding and start to manipulate and develop behaviour that can influence a reaction from the people they associate which tend to form the foundation that would remain for the rest of their lives.

The Little Sapling (Children)

Children

Just the way you would tend the ground with plant food and water to get a little shoot popping its head out from the ground, you take care of the little baby to raise them into future pillars of tomorrow. 

How you raise your babies will impact the way they become as children. Personally as a mum of a five year old son, I have given my son the free hand to talk to me as a friend and till date we would rather walk around kicking each other and playing rather than a total I am your mum and I said so thing. The reason is simple I want to build a rapport with my son so that he understands things and sees them as as they are. 

Discipline

But that said, when there is a need for discipline, it goes down really hard and they will remember it for a life time. One needs to be understanding and never chastise the child or the personality but the behaviour. You kill their personality and their self esteem by doing so. I correct my child by talking to him and yes I do punish him in the corner. My heart breaks to give him a slap so never, not that he needs one though. 

The Beauty of Parenting

The beauty of parenting lies in being a friend to a child as they look up to you and follows every action and reaction you have and incorporate that into their behaviour thereby shaping their personality. They will automatically learn to choose the right friends and associates that would help enhance their abilities and lives without becoming a parasite to others for one particular object of motivation. 

I personally want my child to be raised as a boy who is aware of the negative and positive aspects of life and is able to think for himself rather than rely on intermediaries who could just as well destroy him. Yes, I do believe the right company and positive environment would certainly help him grow into a well balanced person. He is my sapling, I need to teach, nurture and nourish him will all the goodness of life and at the same time educate him about the other side of it to understand the effect of the action.

The Shoots (Teenagers):

Teenagers They have a Mind – Channelise them

They are young plants who are still kids yet not kids, adults and yet not adults but still have all the attributes of an adult but an immature mind and body that are still not ready for fruitation. 

Tampering with Development

It does mean that the bones are not fully developed as with the various stages of maturity that manifests over a period of time. Any tampering during this period usually results in medical complications, problem with bones and yes, most importantly influences the mind differently. 

Its similar to the case of natural grown chickens and genetically enhanced ones used for human consumption. The Latter is usually fed medication to enable them to grow up faster than their age (precocious teenagers) and ultimately die a very painful death if not consumed within a given period of time. In plants ripening fruits and vegetable before their time, genetically fusing In plants ripening fruits and vegetable before their time etc. Its the same with humans as teenagers have raging hormones and it takes years for them to stabilise properly and some of them need professional help to be able to achieve that stability.

Most Difficult Period of Life

It is considered to the most difficult period of life as many parents put it but they are not people without brains, so if you reason with them considerably they are able to understand what is being said. I know as a teenager I was a real rascal (still am too) who was a renowned prankster who was never shy of the stage. Yes, I can take on an audience at any given point in time and give them a show of their lifetime that would make them enter my world of make believe. I try to make it the greatest show on Earth. This is what I did as a teenager, while everyone ran around satiating their hormones, I danced and won awards for it, started music schools, took over family businesses. It kept me out of trouble. 

Channelising Energies 

As a teenager, one needs to be able to channelise their energy into more constructive things that would help them understand the meaning of life rather than doing the obvious, exploring their sexuality. There is a time and place for everything and the same goes with regard to discovering one’s body. As mentioned earlier it is the time for exploration so if one were to instill in their kids that their body is a temple of god it would make a world of difference as you always keep your temple clean to enable god to reside within. 

Screen the Company Your Children Keep

The parent has to learn to screen their children’s company including the teachers they associate with as you never know what they may have up their sleeve. This particular statement is based on personal experience and I am not going to elaborate much but 80% of the girls are in danger with lecherous teacher who try to take honey from the bud and destroy them psychologically. It takes a number of years of undoing to reach a stage for that person to come to terms with has hit them and why it had to be them. Most of these victims end up becoming sexual deviants and still others end up committing suicide because of some adults lecherous act.

Examples of Poor Association and Company — Real Life Examples

Grown Man posing as Teacher Going to bed with an Underage Girl

I personally know of a man who claims that he is a teacher and a father figure them but at the same time uses the teenage girls by first befriending them, confiding in them and then starts presenting them little trinkets and as time goes by touches them inappropriately and finally getting them to sleep with him in the most despicable way.

Blackmailed For His Colour 

His victim right now is a fourteen year old girl whose mother ordered him to do this to her under threat of exposing him as a criminal because of his colour. 

I feel sorry for the girl for the kind of mother she has and for the man before being blackmailed by the woman. But what I don’t accept is the fact that he went ahead doing it all in the name of teaching love and beauty and is even cutting his office hours and spending less time with his wife and kids all because of this mother and daughter duo. 

He Calls them Sunflowers because of their colour and Green Eyes

I was also told by the man, who right now calls them the Sunflowers of his life (not me although he knows I am called The Sunflower by my mentor Dr. Richard London (Author of The Doctorate of Life and Mentor to many celebrities, companies and lost souls – like me)) neglecting his wife and children to the that the mother wanted to have a twosome with the poor man only because he used to come up and talk with them while studying at university on office deputation and only because he was from a nation that was once suppressed for slavery. 

Grandmother at Thirty Three Wanted Daughter to attain Womanhood before Maturity according to her Religion

Apparently, the mother wanted her daughter to attain womanhood before her maturity (claiming it was part of her religious beliefs) and got the man to do this to her by calling it a marriage according to her religion (Muslim). Now she has to bear the stigma of becoming a grandmother at the age of thirty three and explaining to the girls REAL father what really happened to his pretty green eyed daughter. 

Its shocking that the man, who is presently thirty five years old never saw the effects of the law which would try him for rape of a minor, child abuse and paedophilia, lose his family, children, job etc. Such a waste of brain, as he was considered brilliant and gifted by many took up a challenge of a fellow lecherous female colleague and got caught in the quagmire of sin as he not only did the Mother Daughter duo but also the sister and friend in the family.

It just goes to show what kind of parents raise kids in this world and then cry foul that the discipline has gone to dogs. This is one of the reasons why the our teenagers seem to lack the discipline and character.

The Insight into Culture Around the World

As a culture consultant to various world renowned companies like Dell, AOL-Time Warner, Microsoft, British Telecom, HSBC etc. and a English Trainer to various Arab, African, Chinese, Korean students at one point, I was exposed to their lifestyles and culture and have enlisted some of the startling truths from them. 

The personal Analysis on Teen Behavioural Traits highlights the similarities of reaction despite it all. They all have raging hormones, their outlook reflects their parenting and above all, lack of proper direction to choose their goals and right friends makes them easy targets of predators around.

A Little Fact from the Arab Nation

In the Arab society, the girls are married off as soon as they come of age and only for the fact that it is part of their culture. My Iranian and Yemenis students (I teach English to foreign students) from there told me that as males most of them were married off by the time they were nineteen and the girls by about twelve years of age. They were allowed only four wives at any given point in time and had to perform the Talaq Talaq Talaq before having a new wife in hand including a remarriage. 

In other words, the youngsters are groomed into marriage by the time they are around 12-13 years of age to any alliance irrespective of their age but is more acceptable within their own country and scorned at by the Western World. 

It is worth noting that men are subject to circumcision as part of religious requirements.

A Religious Fact – Christianity

We have had the debate numerous times but it still rears its ugly head up time and again. 

We shout about religious moral ethics in life but then go on to talk about Virgin Mary getting pregnant and making a Goddess of her (but say no idol worship) as she was the mother of the Son of God. 

I was sitting at church during Christmas and the preacher out there told us if we were to view Mary mother of Jesus in the modern day and age, it would be nothing but a teen pregnancy and went on to show a powerpoint slide of a pregnant teenager in school uniform. 

Now, considering that the birth of Christianity was around the same area and location with the reference to the Valley Baca or the Valley of Tears or Mecca, I thought it appropriate to make a mention of it. 

But that said these were practices prevailing back then but still existing in the current day and age in varied degrees but looked down upon in the Western society. 

Its more of the location where to follow religious belief that matters rather than blind faith that brings about problems for people associated with it especially the children. 

While on the topic, it would be controversial to say that the first natural born of a woman is usually called a Virgin Birth as its the first time the passage opens to bring forth a new life, which does mean there was a ‘finger’ involved in the Creation of the baby. But that said, I heard it in church too so I am not sinning by quoting this to the world.

Circumcision is again a common thing with the Syrian Catholics.

Welcome to the Real India

In India, where child marriages are prevalent, it is sad but true; many of the girls are sold because of the overhead of dowry. They are also killed under something called female infanticide (either by breaking the neck, or feeding them poison at birth as they believe boys are sacred). 

Many parents don’t have the money to marry off their daughters and they are sold to the temples to become a Devadasi (or a Gods servant) which is a polite term for a male entertainer. I have been to areas where this is prevalent and have literally had ten bodyguards surrounding my mum and myself while dad held both our hands as they kidnapped women to put them into this age old business. 

Dowry

Dowry is a fee that is paid to the man to take their daughter and take care of her. It is more of selling the girl to a man rather than anything else and non conformity to the amount to be paid results in Dowry deaths and numerous cases of infidelity in the legal modern day society, although in the tribal customs, it is perfectly acceptable. 

The Dowry harassment law has been freely used by many women to put innocent good men behind bars but not all of them are innocent and good, many have secret lives that are triggered off by external influences, some of the most controversial influences include: 

1) Daughter In-Law sleeping with the mother in-law after marriage- Its fairly prevalent in many Hindu homes and the man has to go call the woman in front of his mother to get his ‘happiness’. Now here comes a character in the office, freely available for a bathroom stunt why go call wife, go bathroom, hotter and forbidden too, has the appeal. Grass is always greener on the other side, don’t they say??

2) The Time of the Month: Well in India there is a tradition that a woman who is menstruating cannot cook food, bathe or go near a man. Result: Frustrated man looking for external influence love and satiation. This tradition is passed down to many of the girls and one can notice them well as they leave their open, wear dull clothes, walk around with their own plates and have to be served food by other people. 

3) Widows and Divorcees are untouchables: God forbid you become a widow at a young age, men swoop down like vultures to have cheap fun and make offers for secret relationship. They are not allowed at social gatherings and have to either wear total black or white with no makeup or jewellery. 

As a separated Indian born, I know what this feels like as I have been subjected to it and so is my mum who was a widow at 47 was given indecent proposals a week after dads death and grandmother who was one at 57 had men standing outside her shop trying to propose. 

4) Men are King: Well It means what it means 95% men out there think themselves to be kings and ply their women to submission through violence. Sad but true, not many come up and speak about it but they bear scars on the bodies, broken bones, no teeth, disfigured countenance. Their only crime?? She is a woman. 

The Result is simple, the girls are trained to submit to the man and not make a sound to any torture that is meted out on them. They just bottle everything and ultimately commit suicide because they are unable to cope. That is one of the reasons; India has one of the highest suicide rates in the world. They have no Voice.

Boys on the other side are trained to be kings and not do any work as it’s mediocre and demeaning to their gender. Women who train their sons to do housework, help in the kitchen are looked down upon as making boys into girls and this can result in violence.

Most of the cases read in the newspapers in India are filtered significantly just to produce the greener picture of the nation but the stark reality is very different. It’s a chauvinistic society, filled with colour bias especially for the dark skin and that results in poor quality in the marriage markets. 

Girls and women are pushed to become models and what not for societal requirements related to the marriage market. 

Are They really Virgins??

It is also the land where Hymen repair for girls is highly prevalent and is done just to put the girl out to the world as a virgin despite having couple of abortions and a bus load of boyfriends. Yes, girls with boyfriends, are usually subject to becoming underage (fake birth certificates, yes) and the men are thrown into jail for kidnapping and rape and the girl on the other side could be killed by the family as honour killing and put down as suicide or accident (stove burst is one of the most common excuses out there).

With parents encouraging such artificiality in life, where are the moral ethics that the land used to portray at one point. Its all superficial as the rocks beneath have secrets that are unknown to the outside world. 

This was highlighted in the book Freedom at Midnight by Larry Collins and Dominique Lapierre and the Indian put it down for their biased and judgemental take of History in the making to make them the victims whilst they were the cause of the destruction around. 

Fathers raped daughters for religious continuity, killed other religious associates and what not. The festival of Raksha Bandhan came into being to show Universality of religious beliefs but this is what was taking place behind the scenes when India and Pakistan came into being on the 14th and 15th of August respectively. There was anything but religious tolerance taking place and that is seen till date with the demolition of a mosque in India and the Hindus and Muslims fighting over it. 

Well God is everywhere, not in a building so build a park and get done with it and show Universal Brotherhood not by physical exchanges but by encouraging people to mingle as friends without hurting religious sentiments.

In Africa (Masai of Kenya in specific)

Masai Herdsman

The teenage boys are made to fight REAL lions when they came of age to be properly inducted into the tribe after circumcision. It is usually done with a spear, shield and bare hands. 

The men of marriageable age are sold to the women based on the number of cows they owned. So the more number of cows the better the proposal and the man goes to a good home. Cows are also their form of determining the amount of wealth in that particular strata of society. 

Any Number of Wives

The number of wives are not limited but when these men step out into other parts of the world, that is when the trouble starts to crop up. They find it hard to conform and end up legally facing penalties based on their land of residence.

The best way to notice a Masai is their height (they are very tall), dark and very athletic. Their clothes also tell of who they are. 

It is again a patriarchal society and women raise the kids into the people they are to become for the future. 

Womanly Carnage

Yes, wherever there is an African man around, there will be a trail of womanly carnage too as the women don’t mind doing a bare all to satiate the myth that they are the greatest in carnal satiation. 

Such is their species, they are forever chased for their colour and personality alike (remember Michael Jackson?? He had certain amount of African Blood flowing through his veins and went on to become the Greatest Entertainer of all time).

In the European Countries and Influenced Countries

Children with Child

Well the legal age for a family is usually around sixteen years but that said there have been a case of the youngest father of a baby, Alfie Patten was twelve years old and that too in developed United Kingdom. Now, where were the parents when this was taking place?? Why was a child playing adult games when he should have been in supervised care?? 

With so many kidnappings and deaths of children occurring in the UK, it is high time that people open their eyes and think for themselves, what are we doing to the world and why are our children behaving this way. 

The answer is simple, look at the parents, what are the parents up to. Are they busy playing their own games at work?? Or spending time in the pub drinking the night away, leaving the children with the babysitter?? Who are the babysitters, again children/young adults or teenagers trying to make a living and with raging hormones. 

With the urge to party all night till 4am or later, drink the night away, the high drives are always common and guess what, you bring your partner for the night home and the children observe it, do you think they will not try to copy it when they are older. They certainly would, as their inner world did the same thing and its part of the family culture and tradition now. We end up bringing future dipsomaniacs, Philanderers and drug addicts into the world and then should “Shit!!! The world has gone to dogs.” All that the poor Queen can do is shrug her shoulders and get her grandson married to a girl who modelled at one point with next to nothing and has a sister who easily poses without clothes and wants Butt Implants. 

Men are Like Cockerels

Legally speaking that Alfie’s case unacceptable but think about it, he is a male, he can get away with it only because he is a male, a cockerel who says cock a doodle doo to anyone and catch a chicken do it and she will lay the egg not him. Now where is that moralistic Mother hen teaching her Chick of a daughter about the Cockerel and his antics. Gone Clubbing and too drunk after that I guess!!!! 

Children Gain Celebrity Status for Producing Baby

But all said and done, the ‘couple’ got their field day in the news because of a baby and got their share of money coming in for two kids with a kid of their own. Now if we are giving them such encouragement what is the message we are sending out to other children around?? Telling them that its okay, you made a mistake and the press will make you famous?? We are carving the doom for our own society and life, hence the number of AIDS cases are on the rise. 

Well I saw pamphlets on our bulletin board in University in the United Kingdom asking us to donate funds and clothes to an eleven year old who had just had a baby and that was my first exposure (alone) in the UK to what forward life was all about. 

Seen it in India though, its common knowledge and babies/ kids are dumped in orphanages or aborted in back alley clinics rendering girls sterile and some of the girls are then married off as virgins too. 

Welcome to Reality in the Modern world, we are not what we portray ourselves to be and our kids are telling it aloud in their actions.

Greater Europe/Asia

Beauty is Only Skin Deep. Whats in Your Heart??

Well Russia is one of the coldest places on the planet and guess what, they have some of the most prettiest women on the planet out there too but the iron curtain prevented many of us from seeing that. 

A little History shows us that the poverty in these nations made the women play things to many military bases in Europe during the Second World War. This is one of the reason why there are quite a concentration of Russian/Ukrainian/Turkish etc. in Europe as they were brought in for Entertainment. Its sad but true. 

But that said we owe half of the Technological advancement and development of the world to the Germans and Europeans. The modern submarines are nothing but the U-Boats of Yesteryear and same with the modern day Aeroplanes which made their advent during the First World War. 

The Polish Scientists are the ones who help build NASA to what it is today giving the world their first rocket and satellite. It would have been a great loss to the world killing such intelligent minds only because people like Adolf Eichmann (mastermind behind the killing of 6 million Jews) brought the race a bad name.

Adolf Hitler

The Oratory Power of Hitler

Well honestly, I have great reverence for the man and consider him an Oratory Genius with his goals and aims of life wrong. The only reason he hated the Jews was for the fact that he wasn’t allowed to become who he wanted to become an architect and went opinionated about the Jews. It could be well noted that the man who helped him during his hard times out there was a Jew and perhaps the only Jew whom he loved from the bottom of his heart. 

It is the constant brainwashing right from childhood that made him such a deviant in as an astrologer once told him that he would grow to be an evil man at the around 5-6 years of age by just looking at his palms. The little boy took offence to that and when and sliced the lines on both his hands and came back bleeding and told them from today, I make my own destiny not what is marked on my hands. 

It could be well noted that Hitler was an illegitimate child who took the name from his mothers side and modified it to the one we know of today. 

Perhaps, he would have grown to be a positive genius if his family had raised him with a little more positivity and encouraged him with love and kindness rather than the way he was raised. Perhaps all he needed was love and understanding that could change the course of destiny. 

I don’t support the torture that was meted out on people but I do feel that his intelligence and oratory power could have been put to better use rather than misguided by power hungry scalawags like Adolf Eichmann who brought about the whole regime a bad name. 

It goes to show your attitudes and beliefs change based on the company you keep while keeping the foundation more or less intact.

Australia and New Zealand

I personally had a pregnant thirteen year old girl attending antenatal classes with me and the mother bringing her along too with a smile. 

It shocked me but that was the fact as it gave me the shivers to think that this woman actually supported her daughter with a pregnancy at thirteen. 

Where was her sense of education to the girl about the birds and bees and how they come and attack the flower for their nectar? I blame the parents for the children not having their sense of direction. 

As a single mother now, I can tell you most of my friends and associates are teens or young adults and they have told and showed me so much about their lives and it shocks me on how forward they are but they did give me an insight into people though. Even had to talk couple of them out of going to act in porn movies (Indian by the way and not related to me) but the chap had no inhibitions in showing his teeny weenies to the world and then buy an upbeat car, go to a pub and guess what have a fling in the toilet and then say It Wasn’t Me but my twin brother who looked and sounded like me. Its a strange case of Dr. Jekyll abd Hyde don’t you think?? We tell our kids be good and then run like chickens pecking at grains for food, sell yourself over the counter and then end up at 69 Albert Street (Divorce Court) saying he did and she did and when what happens to the children?? 

Mother Happy about 13 year old Pregnant Daughter

Well they will take care of themselves like the parents who say taking care of themselves like the thirteen year old in my antenatal class and make their mothers grandmothers at Thirty Three and the ‘Bloody Mother’ accepts it with a smile not knowing who the father is either. The girl had no idea who the father was and that is why I was waddling uncomfortably listening to the whole thing from the mother. 

The Toilet Fantasy at a Club makes her a Penguin with a Baby

A fourteen year old Waddling Duck, doing happy feet is no jokes, you get ducklings or penglings if you did ask me. Now that is an underage caught in a pub with fake id and has a go with an unknown and gets pregnant and asks the parent for support and blames the famous DJ look alike who was playing heart games that night.

What does his Family Say about his Cry “Honey, It Wasn’t Me”

Now I hate to see the reaction of the wife and the mother of the DJ look alike as the sister is already stomping, the girlfriend is crying and the good friend is lying saying It Wasn’t Me, it was my twin (I am the Twin it seems, yea right!!). Mother knows there is no twin after all she gave birth, the wife cracks the whip and everything goes quiet till she cools off and he starts again and this time he is off to the divorce courts and losing his two legal kids but has a kid with a kid who is fat yet pretty with green eyes.

Now that is life in New Zealand for you and I saw this first hand on My Baby’s Saturday (with Mikey, the friendly neighbourhood ghost who brought the beat Don’t Stop Til You Get Enough upon entry) Out to party (my first time to an all night clubbing spree in New Zealand) on invite from the REAL DJs and got photographed and rubbed up the wrong side and shrank away in disgust as martial arts are not to be practised on innocent people unless it is self defense.So I revitalised with Water on the Rocks (don’t drink except Cider) and danced the night away. 

Parents are entitled for their fun too, get a trusted aide or parents to look after your precious gift so that they don’t end up like Nia Glassie, who was abused and murdered by relatives of famous Hollywood Star Cliff Curtis of Once We Were Warriors Fame. 

USA – Need an Introduction?? Hollywood Says it All

It is a common feature in the USA to see kids with kids and it is well portrayed on television in the various movies that are brought out. it is real life that inspires reel life so why are people making celebrities of people who are just like you and me and some of them kids too.

Some people think that looking like Hollywood stars and behaving like them would leave the world Lost in Translation but guess what Rock Hudson was one of the first Hollywood stars to die of AIDS and he also played the part of James Bond, variety is the spice of life in the 80’s. He was one of the most handsome stars and his death catapulted AIDS to the world radar. 

It was followed by Freddie Mercury who was incidentally Born Indian and from Pune and a reowned bisexual who had a girlfriend and male partners too. Girlfriends name was Mary and she inherited his wealth. So yes, they did go Another One Bites the Dust Hollywood Style and got the virus too. 

Marilyn Munro told the world Diamonds are a girls best friend and went on to do the President of USA while Jackie O looked on in tears knowing there was an affair. The former carried on with the brother who was running for president and got killed mysteriously (they say she was injected with cyanide under the tongue) just before the election and guess what he got shot too and died and never got to be President. 

Angelina Jolie is the world’s most renowned husband snatcher who goes around the world as the Peace Angel and also collects kids as a Hobby which she took Jennifer Anistons handsome Hubby and turned him into a harried father of six with three of their own and couple of extensions. Now he goes to Troy shouting is there No One Else as he has to go home to take case of 6 hungry mouths plus a Mrs.Smith of an acting wife who says Yea Baby!!!.

Well thats Hollywood for you with a tinge of reality and people use it thinking it is okay to dive into bed at any given point in time. No wonder marriages don’t last and we have people like Paris Hilton who has a Porn movie to her name who get induced in the Guinness Book of World Record for the record of being Famous for just being Famous. So much for the name Hilton which is a brand name for the Stars. 

The result is simple people now want to run to Hollywood to become Stars because of all this artificial lifestyle and get raped, used and abused and lose their moral ethics and values to fame. We also end up with dimwits as they would rather watch television than read and some even play Stars in their Eyes and forget who their friends are and kill them for not participating. Some even use their Hollywood looks to claim other women’s husbands irrespective of the fact that their wives have had babies (some as young as six weeks) and are coping with a lifestyle change, perhaps new country etc. to adjust and start afresh.

Well that is Hollywood, the land of artificiality, surgical body enhancements, BOTOX etc. to keep them with toothpaste smiles and ever ready batteries for bodily fluid exchanges onscreen and off screen alike. Practice makes perfect don’t they say. Do try it at home and change spouse like clothes on set.

Asia Pacific

Child Abuse

Well it is common out there too as part of the culture and patriarchal societal beliefs. The women are again treated as objects of entertainment and are suppressed just as much. The similarities between India and the Oriental nations are particularly similar as they all have the men taking the upper hand and ruling the life of the woman and many use force and even rape them just to get them to submit to them. There are very high cases of child abuse and some of it beyond description. I saw this while living in Singapore and I never wanted my child growing up out there.

Discipline

I have seen children out there lacking the discipline that is required to be good citizens. Some of my experiences included being pushed into supermarket shelves at six months of pregnancy, being made to stand in the train until there was heavy breaking and I nearly fell over and needed three people to grab me as I was going stomach first, I thank them for that as I have my little one with me today.

Worst Customer Service

It has been rated that people in Singapore have one of the worst Customer Serivice manners and lack the empathy needed to make the world go round. They are great in doing things at Military precision but it is not worth anything when you have hard hearts, many vices like drinking and smoking, sleeping around etc. It is also one of the places where prostitution is legal and traded in the Stock Exchange too. 

Almost 90% of the population smoke or have smoked and there is no redemption once you get into the web. 

The club life out there (yes, I have gone clubbing all night for Ministry of Sound Parties and have been the artists (Roger Sanchez, Steve Lawler to name a few) face to face and had the time of my life till 6am with no alcohol, just Lime Juice) and have been through three levels of the club but entered just two as the last one was an adult only lounge and I am a kid and always get caught for my id (till date) as no one believes I am Thirty Two years old and a mum of a five year old. 

So in a place where physical satiation is so rampant, it is no doubt that at the time I was there they had an aging population and yes there were just 17000 babies born that year too. Everyone is too busy being materialistic and earning money to enjoy rather than spend time with the family. Even divorces take place like changing clothes. All you have to do is sneeze and you will end up with a divorce. 

Abuse

Child Abuse is also at its highest out there and there are many who have been killed by parents and parents boyfriends/girlfriends etc. as they views on bedroom talk are quite liberal. Seeing children falling off buildings, babies being dumped in the trash can after birth, Maid beating/killing are all very common headlines out there. This is what propelled me to move country as I wanted a more empathetic environment.

Teenagers Characteristics

Not Kid but Not Yet Adults

Teenagers as a rule love to try out new things but it is only when we educate them with practical proof, using the Seeing is Believing Technique would you get the result that you need. 

I would certainly take my son to the hospital to see people who are ailing because of excessive drinking, drugs, teen pregnancy etc. It will help him see the reality of the actions and reactions in life and get him to learn where to stand. 

As a Mother

I am not a film style mother but a practical mother, I prefer showing my child the reality not pushing them to do things just because I wasn’t allowed to them, or to get my child into movies and modelling, professional sports etc. I have been there done it and can tell you it was on my own free will and I always told my parents what I was doing, where I was going and yes, even introduced my teachers and friends to them each and every time and still do till date as I have nothing to hide.

Raising a Teenager

Raising teenagers all boils down to the fact that parents need to treat them as friends and be shining examples to their offspring’s right from birth till they are ready to let go and lead their own lives as responsible adults. Many of us till date use our parental guidance and discipline as a benchmark to raise your kids the same way. I personally would take the style of my parents and find my own pathway of raising my child as that is the way you can sieve out the good and bad from your upbringing. No one is perfect, but if you strive to achieve that filial rapport wherein they confide in you and tell you what they are doing, you can easily find a way to converse and get them to understand your point of view. Its more of the personality rather than the upbringing and that is usually cemented by the time a child is six years old. 

Personality Develops between 0 years to 6 Years

So whatever you do give your child the best six years of nourishment, nurturing and education and you will have a breeze through the teen years as they will know where they stand with you. Also have great role models and when you have people within the code of decency, you will have the teenager following the same footsteps. Don’t let them hero worship, get them to see them for who they are, they are humans like us and we should take the best of them to make the world a better place.

The Fruitation (Young Adults)

We are the World of Today

The stage is set as a child, the life is founded as a teenager and finally lived as an young adult when you finally put all that you have been instilled with into practice and carve your own name and association with other human beings. The personality you develop, the clothes your wear and the make up etc. Would actually determine how the world will want to view YOU. They are the ones who talk about you not you talk about yourself. You only sell yourself on two sheets of paper when you are getting a job but that doesn’t bring out the real prowess that you have within you as two sheets of paper isn’t enough. 

Let your personality and character do the talking and that is when you will draw the right types of people and company towards you. .

The Mature Flower (Middle Age)

Our Fruitation

The Mature Flower refers to the time we become the seed thrower and begin giving others the advice and the raising of life to help them come within the correct pathway. This is the time when we see how well we have raised our offspring, what we have achieved in our lives and how many friends, fans and following we have created. We are all celebrities in our own right as we have many people who admire us for who we are but very few write about them with love and adoration, only because they are not famous.

Be proud of who you are and look back and review yourself and your legacy, what will people think of you when you reach your end of the road. Would they respect you for the person you are or kick you out for not understanding you or even better still because they are jealous of you. Some may just do it as it is part of their legacy and human nature, they just love to use, dispose and move on to the next flower. Is that person you??? If yes, Look at the Man in the Mirror and ask yourself Do you Like What You See??? If the answer is no, change for the better not for the worse.

Look at the Man In The Mirror Do You Like What You See??

Do I Really Look Like that??

How many of us look back at the actions done and achieved till date and feel proud of ourselves?? We are all flowers in the breeze of life and what is the reflection that you see. Do you see something that would help you see yourself in a positive light or someone whom the world now calls in despicable? The world is the people around you, it’s not what you tell the world you are that matters but what you portray to the world you are. 

If you are able to see a positive image of yourself like that of a friend, a good sister, brother or company, you have achieved your goal. If not look in the mirror and change your ways and make the world a better place as its your behaviour that is observed by kids, vibes that are absorbed by them and it will keep the cycle going on till you say stop, enough, I need to change for the sake of my children as that is the right thing to do.

Behind the Mask of Marriage

Marriage is More than I Love You-Its Respect

I haven’t touched on marital relationships as that is more of a personal friendship that entails people to stay together and have children as it takes two to tango. In the modern facet of the western world, it is bound legally to a single person (irrespective of what you say) and that is the one who inherits all your wealth and entreaties you have accumulated over a period of time and take it away just as well too as the law sides the cheated spouse not the one who is cheating unless proved otherwise and the other is deemed unfit to take care of the children. That is when they are stripped off parental rights and perhaps visitation rights depending on how severe the case is. 

If you are unable to cope with them, show them the respect and move out of the relationship rather than bringing them the greatest disrespect by staying with them and doing things behind the back and hurting them by giving them the doubt to the extent that when a friend texts you they intercept with an I love You message and then call to fight with you. Even better they tell the friend who stood behind the scenes during the birth (and even called to wish them upon birth) of their offspring that he is a married man with two kids and you should learn to keep your distance.

It shows that she is insecure of her husband and anything with two legs, two buns, a cave and can apply lipstick and makeup becomes a target of distrust because she just feels it in her veins. That is when she starts to ask her partner to take off his mask and tell her who he really is. Would she like what she see?? That’s a million dollar question. It goes the same way for a man who thinks his wife is cheating on him.

The Wilted Flower (Old Age)

How Would You Remember Us??

This is when you look back to reflect your legacy that is left behind, are you able to make a legacy that the world around you can associate with as the most beautiful memory??? Or would it be something wherein they say, thank god he/she has gone; they were a real pain the butt. Good Riddance to Bad Rubbish.

The Eternal Flower (Aiyanna)

My Flowers of Life

This stands for your deeds and actions that live on beyond your existence.

Well I know I want to immortalise myself with my works as My pseudonym suggests that I am the Eternal Flower. My REAL name Anisha, means No More Darkness and may my works reflect the personality I really am. I personally prefer being associated to The Sunflower and the Rose as the former is the Inca Symbol of the Sun, which is directly associated with my real name and the latter signifies Sacrifice, Immortal love and may my scent linger on long after I am gone. 

The Eternal Flower grows within,

It keeps you free and far from sin.

It is the beauty undefined,

Of passion so refined.

For it is the actions that give out scent,

Telling the bee it is God Sent.

To pollinate the world with prayers of love,

To spread the anthem like the Above.

For that is the essence of Aiyanna,

Who writes the rhyme not a liner.

It stand for the name Eternal Flower,

Always forever waiting for the shower.

For I am No More Darkness and always shall be,

The One who walked through this life of Mystery.

To be with the One when the time is right,

Never let my life go out of sight. 

May my works forever Immortal Be,

That is what I duly decree. 

For it reflects my message from heart,

Etched forever, never ever to part.

May we work together to make a better place,

For our children the future love and mortal race. 

To be the anthem of Love, Happiness and peace,

May the abundance never ever cease.

A Little Fact

This article was written in cumulative time of around two hours during work hours and I reasearched and enhanced the same and I copied and pasted it out here. Its all freelance, no copy and paste but bits of it have been researched but most of it is from personal experience and observation. People all around the world lead similar lives and many can read and identify with it. The question I ask you is what are you going to do about it. I would certainly sit down and analyse myself and make a change for the better. 

Does this Explain who our Children Are??? They are citizens of tomorrow’s Universe.Be a good example to them with your actions not words.

The element of life is contained in every action and reaction of existence that is seen around us and most importantly in the deeds that we do, the voice that we call and hear, the air that we breathe, the water we drink. It is reflected in each Sunrise and Sunset bringing about historical memories that last a life time for all those associated around us.

By Anisha Achankunju (Aiyanna) (C) US Copywright protected Magic in the Mind Literary Art from the Heart, 29th June 2011