Professionalism and Public Images of Civilization

‘Consideration’ is our ability to think about how our words/actions effect ourselves and others before we speak or act upon something. It’s a process of making sure we do the Knowledge (Aware) before the Wisdom (Discernment), because we Understand (See) the effects of our words/actions. To Civilized People, this is a Righteous obligation, not an option or elective…

With the popularity of Reality Shows and ‘rewarding bad behavior’ approach towards the crass, uncivilized, and unprofessional attitudes displayed in mainstream HipHop, basic ‘Consideration’ has become a lost art amongst People. I can understand those who have an allegiance to these American Cultural Trends that are going with this flow, b.u.t. this mentality/behavior is totally unacceptable for Gods/Earths or any person, whether Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, or etc.., who professes to live in accordance to a standard of Civilization, Righteousness, or Godliness.

Recently I had a conversation about the importance of being aware of what we say/do as a Representative/Contact Person within our Culture. Part of this conversation involved me sharing some of my experience as a Public Figure who’s been doing Community Work for many years now. As an add-on to that conversation, I just wanted to share with you a few points of interest.

First and foremost, it’s important to understand that whenever we take a stance of responsibility within our Families and Communities, we are expressing a position of Leadership. This is Leadership because we are actively involving ourselves in the solution process of addressing current/future problems. Leadership doesn’t just mean you’re THE Head, Leadership means you’re a part of the ‘ship’ to ‘lead’ People in the right direction. Anytime we take responsibility for Leadership, we must be ‘Considerate’; able to think about how our words/actions effect ourselves and others before we speak or act upon something. To claim responsibility and then minimize or dismiss the importance of maintaining a Professional, Mature, and Respectable Public Image to those within our Family and Community is not showing a sense of ‘Consideration’. The People whom we are claiming to assist are already looking towards us for guidance and support in addressing their needs, and to have an Attitude like “it doesn’t matter what People think”, “What I do is my business”, “I’m not a Leader”, or anything else that displays no ‘Consideration’ for our constituents is detrimental to building positive/consistent Relationships with them. For example: It’s like working with the youth during the day and then not caring if they cee you selling crack on the block at night… It’s like talking about how much of a God/Earth I am on FB one minute and then five minutes later posting about how the b*tches/n*ggas had it poppin at the strip club last night… Again, ‘Consideration’ is our ability to think about how our words/actions effect ourselves/others before we speak or act upon something. It’s impossible to demonstrate and maintain effect Leadership without a level of ‘Consideration’.

Secondly, in order to even be ‘Considerate’, we must be able to listen. That’s right, LISTEN. Most People don’t know how to listen and that’s one of the main reasons why we don’t learn anything –from others or through our life experiences. Non-listeners either cut People off so they can say whatever they want to say, or simply wait for People to take a breath so they can jump in and say whatever they want to say. Add unbridled emotions to this otherwise poor display of communication and it’s a sure shot recipe for disaster. Rarely do you cee effective communication taking place between People where one person speaks while the other is listening, and then they exchange roles until they both have an understanding about the information being exchanged. It’s a skill! A discipline even, and not everyone is interested in really hearing what others have to say. If you listen closely you’ll notice that they really just like hearing the sound of their own voice bouncing off of you.

The Third point I want to make is in regards to Professionalism and Public Image. There is no substitute for Professionalism, none. How many times have you gotten terrible, unprofessional service at a Store/Restaurant and have vowed never to go back again? Hey, the food or goods may have been great quality b.u.t. because of the lack of service you received, maybe even on more than one occasion, you decided to not patronize this establishment anymore. Well, teaching Civilization is the same way. As Civilized People, we must always anticipate People’s needs and exceed their expectations! This is the greatest service you can provide for someone, so it’s important that we’re Professional; or People will decide to never come back, AND tell many other People about how negative their experience was! Because of our standards of being those who have “knowledge, wisdom, understanding, culture, refinement, and are not savages in the pursuit of happiness” (17/1-40), our job is 25/8 (not 24/7). We are not only on the Stage of Humanity, we set the Stage, and as The Fathers and Mothers of Civilization, People should always be able to look at us as models of Integrity and Wisdom. Even on our sick day we should be great! This means that our outward Public Image should coincide with the Principles and Values we inwardly subscribe to. What People cee on the outside should be synonymous with what’s ticking on the inside. How we’re living at Home should be a reflection of what we’re doing Abroad. Everyone who claims to be God/Earth is an Ambassador of our Culture. If you’re a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, or etc.., you are an Ambassador of your Religion/Metaphysical System. What is the purpose of claiming something, that’s supposed to help you become a better person, if you don’t care how it effects (looks, feels, instructs, etc…) others? To me, this sounds like someone who wants the milk and no responsibility for milking the cow. It looks like a person who wants fulltime pay and benefits without being responsible for doing the work… Not only is it selfish, immature, and Egotistical, b.u.t. it’s also completely inconsiderate to expect that People be receptive to any and everything we want to say/do (our Public Image), and then dismiss their thoughts/feelings about it by proclaiming, “I don’t care what People think/say about what I do”. Not only has this person closed themselves off from receiving any comments or constructive criticism that will be effective in helping them grow, b.u.t. they’ve put a great big sign on their back that reads, “please kick me!” Being aware of our Image and how we represent ourselves to the Public is only an advantage to us, and the lack of awareness or outright inconsideration of our Public Image will always be a disadvantage and eventually our demise.

In closing, I want to encourage all of us who claim to uphold the meaning of Civilization and duty of a Civilized Person to continue taking the higher road and being a beacon of light/life amongst our People and the Human Family as a whole. What we’re saying/doing should matter first to the person in the mirror, and then this ‘Consideration’ must extend to our Family and Communities. By claiming Righteousness, we have taken upon the responsibility of adding our contributions to make this World a better place than when we got here. This is a Professional endeavor and demands the work of People who are unwilling to cut corners, take shorts, and do a half-ass job. That is unacceptable! This means that we must provide exceptional service to our People by anticipating their needs and exceeding their expectations of what being the True and Living God/Earth, a Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, or etc… is!

Peace,
Saladin www.atlantisschool.blogspot.com

Contracts may be written or oral.  But oral contracts are generally unenforceable in a court of law.  All enforceable contracts must include certain required elements.

An offer and consideration must be present.  An example is John will sell Sue a piece of property in return for $20,000.  There is an offer to sell property for consideration received in the amount of $20,000.  The document will contain a legal description of the property.  Both parties involved in the transaction must sign the written contract.  Both John and Sue must be competent and of legal age.  If Sue is elderly and has dementia, her daughter who has power of attorney may sign the contract on her behalf.  If John is a minor, the contract will be null and void.

The contract must also have a legal purpose.  So a contract to place an illegal bet on a horse race is not valid. 

When considering executing a contract, you will be warranted to ensure the other party is who they claim and that they are in fact the registered owner of the parcel for sale.  Most properties these days are searchable via the internet in the form of property tax records.

If the contract is complex and contains many provisions, it may be prudent to insert standard language so the whole document will not be deemed unenforceable because one provision is found to be illegal.  There are so many standard contract formats available for free via the internet.  But remember you get what you pay for.  If the transaction is important to you or you are unsure about certain aspects, it would be prudent to consult a lawyer.  Legal advice is well work the money spent if you find yourself in a court of law.

     It allows humans to share, in a specific manner what their thoughts, feelings and emotions are at any given time.

     However, like most traditions of old, verbal communication, today, is given short shrift. We live in a fast paced environment which regards time as a precious commodity. Time is, now, valued in dollars and cents(ask any lawyer). We are in such a hurry that, instead of conversing on the phone, we resort to “texting” one another. What does that say about closeness of family and about friendship? Have we come to the point where we look at people as just another commodity to use when necessary and cast-off when no longer needed?

     We are almost at the point where we will soon use “texting” abreviations to speak to one another. And…God, help the poor soul who still believes in speaking in (aaaaarrrrrrrgh) full sentences!!!

     And, what is this need, suddenly, that has everybody talking over one another? I, myself have had a couple of situations where I have had to resort to, repeatedly, say: “Excuse me…Excuse me…I am trying to say something very importand here…” . That tells me one thing. People are so obsessed with themselves and their own “little universe” that they no longer have the time to listen. That their ideas and opinions are the only ones that matter… Anything different is just noise from “rambling idiots”.

     There are consequences to this sort of behavior: Children poorly raised, married couples ending-up in divorce court, destroyed relationships, a lost sale, a business project gone awry and I could go on…

     Communication is what keeps things going in an orderly fashion. Lack of communication produces confusion, chaos and, yes, heartbreak.

     Practice taking the time to listen now and then. You could discover a new “spark” in your relationship, more loving children, save money sometimes, realize an unexpected profit in business, and, in some cases…save your job.

     There is nothing to lose in listening, and, sometimes, a lot to gain.

     Pay attention… You might be pleasantly surprised.                                       

Arousal is almost  instantaneous for most men, only the ladies just do not get excited anywhere near that quickly, often needing at least  30 minutes worth of soft caresses by her lover, before she reaches a fully aroused state. The more experienced sexual partner would be aware that this is the case, exercising extreme patience with foreplay prior to the sex act.

When the woman is fully aroused,her vulva will exude natural lubrication , and the breasts become as much as 20% larger in size.  Fine sex can become  corking sexual activity at this point, as long as you remember that an  individuals skin is an immense and very tactile sensory organ, full of erogenous areas zones holding lots of  nerve endings, which respond in an electric manner  to  touch, prior to sex  making the anticipation so much more intense.

How come you never put enough  variety into the ways  you and your lover kiss each other? Bring in new factors to your lip actions, like  deep tonguing. which involves making an O of your lips, before  sucking their tongue through your lips toward the rear of your throat, releasing and repeating the action several times for the most erotic sensations

Powdering your lips with  icing sugar, passing things between yourselves, whilst kissing, adds especial familiarity  to the whole kissing thing that must be felt to be thought possible.  Women should bear in mind, when considering this kind of intimacy, that the scents of Vanilla and breast milk are so similar, and  unambiguously attractive to any man. t

The way one smells, to others, is very much a vital element of sexual attraction, some scents known to have aphrodisiac properties, sandalwood carries androstenone, a internal secretion  to increase  libido , all such scents making any sexual ambitions more naturalistic, the sex itself acting as a good antidote to depression, especially if the sex is unprotected.

male ejaculate in reality carries beneficial  hormones which, upon reaching the woman’s bloodstream assist in boosting her mood, so that, though personal choice is always important, without doubt women who prefer unguarded sexual activity are far less liable to depressed.

Continuing to supply your body with the correct measure of herbs and minerals will likewise advance your libido, helping to combat the naturally decreasing testosterone levels as you get older. Fagging sex-drives can frequently be furthered to some extent by regular vitamin intake as well, and being physically fit is very helpful

Good shape is, to a great extent, much more than just working out regularly, the more physically active people possessing heightened senses of sexuality and passion, their brains encouraged, by good exercise sessions, to produce endorphins. These are the keys to intimate freedom, in some respects, acting to block  pain and produce sensations of  exhilaration and joy. The pelvic area of the body receives

Increased blood flow during exercise, so doing this with your partner could easily lead to your both feeling sexually aroused, when finished with the workout routine..

Absurd as it might today seem, in times past he thought that an adult female should get delight from sexual activity was ludicrous.  Female orgasm, during olden times, was linked with devil worship, 17th century people seeing the female climax as an illness, believe it or not.

As long as you honor the perspectives and orientations of other people,  being sexually enlightened enough to get what you want from relationships should present no problem. to you in the future. Just bear in mind that the greatest means of capturing delight from other people, is being educated enough to attempt to give it back to them in equal amounts, both relationships and sex being great fun, if you approach them in the right way

Being prepared to acknowledge the needs and wants of your partner is forever worthwhile, and enjoying variety in sex does not have to mean men sleeping with an assortment of women. You are able to keep sexual activity energizing, interesting and  different every time it comes about with the same partner, simply by being ready to listen carefully to what they desire. 

Good as it may be to play around,  experimenting with new things, surely sexual knowledge would be best shared with the one partner. If such knowledge were used properly and applied correctly, you never need be short of sexual satisfaction, partners, or passion again.  

Essentials to constitute consideration

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Shahzadi queen

Section 2(d), Contract Act 1872 postulates that anything done or abstained from any promise made by a promisee, in order to amount to “consideration”, must have been done or abstained from or made at the desire of the promisor. If, therefore, the promisee does or abstains from doing, or promises to do or abstain from doing something, at the desire of a surety, such act or abstinence or promise would be good consideration for the guarantee.

 If, on the other hand, the act or abstinence or promise of the promisee was not done or made at the desire of the surety, such act or abstinence or promise was not good consideration. For the same reason, a guarantee given subsequently, for an act or abstinence or promise which was not done or made at the desire of the surety, was without consideration and such act, abstinence or promise could not be treated as consideration for a guarantee given subsequently without any further act, abstinence or promise done or made by the promisee.

If, however, a guarantee was given afterwards in return for something more done or abstained from or some promise made by the promisee at the desire of the surety, such something more would be good consideration for the guarantee for future as well as for past transactions. Such, in fact, was the effect of illustration (d) to section 127 of the Contract Act and all that section 127 does is to make it clear that it is not necessary that the surety himself must receive some benefit in return for his guarantee and that any benefit to the principal debtor was sufficient consideration for the guarantee. 

Let’s be honest. However gorgeous you might think you are a man, not every woman you come across will be on the prowl for sex. Lovemaking is how the girls prefer to refer to it, and the actual sex act begins way earlier than the bed stage, so bathe before you go out. Fact is that everyone emits bodily odors,and though some girls are turned on by scenting fresh male sweat, it is betterto be safe than sorry.

If you find that there is some sexual electricity between you, then sometimes the build-up to the actual sex can be more stimulating by sitting down together to watch steamy films, because the sight of others being intimate is incredibly erotic for any viewer, and can help get things moving in the right direction.

Ber aware, at all times, that for most women, self-esteem in terms of looks can be problematic. 10% of all ladies feel bodily embarrassment so strongly that they want lights turned off before undressing. Make sure that you takecareful note of how she feels in this respect, and tell her how attractive she is constantly, because such reassurance makes a big difference,

Never force the issue when it comes to getting her to do the things you want. If you really enjoy being giving head, then let her movements in that direction be all from her, and be receptive to her needs. Do not use her throat as a battering –ram, or grip her ears, or indeed do anything to force things. Let her know that you are about to orgasm, because not every woman enjoys swallowing the semen.

As the two of you lay down together, preparing for the sex act itself, be as attentive as possible, using lips and fingers to stimulate, titillate and massage her various erogenous zones, all the while telling her how good she looks and how turned on you are by her naked body. Increase her excitement and readiness for sex itself by gentle manipulation of the clitoris and surrounding area.

If you can bring her to the point of orgasm before penetration, then sex itself is far more exciting for the two of you, and bear in mind that women find any sort of change in sexual technique at this point a real turn-off, just as much as they would the man thrusting for ages without reaching a climax, which would just cause her numbness and soreness.

Remember always that, for a woman, slow sex is far more satisfying and they really get as much, if not more pleasure from the kissing, cuddling and general sex play that precedes the act as they do from the sex itself, though the penetrative element of intercourse is a major source of pleasure for them.

It is often the case that less can, in reality, be so much more, and girls really appreciate the men prepared to take their time over physical loving. With far more to successful sex than simply pushing the right button, those men who truly take note of the peripheral considerations are always far more likely to have satisfactory sex-lives, with partners willing to do what they ask of them, because the men are so considerate in the bedroom.

If the man always pushes his own wants and needs to the back burner, and concentrates instead on hers, then happiness is guaranteed for both of them. After all, what girl would not want to please her man, in whatever way she can, if he is always so thoughtful about what she wants? A real no-brainer, I think.

A U.S. National Bureau of Economic Research study proved what many thought, that being sexually active makes a big contribution to the well-being and happiness of the person concerned. Ideally, one should be having sex two or three times in any one month, though one half of all women and one fifth of men asked, over forty years of age, had not had sex at all in the year before, while most under forty had been with only one sexual partner in the same period, those who were married having had sex more often than single, divorced, widowed, or separated people had.

A supposedly good measure of the strength of good relationships is how often sex happens, depending on the individuals concerned, though just because you reach for one another less often than you once did is no indicator of how strongly you feel about the other person, relationships developing in the knowledge that good sex is a direct result of quality time spent with one another. People’s lives do lead them to feeling weary, often up and out early, getting home late, and sex is not always on their minds.

Sex drives, and the libidos of people can and do change, with many variations in between times. The inevitable cooling down of the originally urgent need for physical contact with a partner does not indicate a lessening of the mutual attraction, but more likely that those concerned have less time for intimacy and contact than they once had..

It is a given fact that women do enjoy sex, when environment and mood are right, in combination Pharmaceutical company Pfizer claimed that their studies revealed the brain to be the strongest female sexual organ, a woman achieving most sexual satisfaction through brain stimulation than in any other way. Apparently, when it comes to sexual activity, women warm to it far more slowly men, who always want to proceed quickly, whilst women, with longer endurance rates, prefer to take more time.

Men are physically designed in such a way that sex for them is always a matter of urgency, but other factors can influence their ability to perform properly, such as alcohol, improper diet, stress or prescription medicines , anti-depressants or recreational drugs, for example. M often have the mistaken belief that they  fail, sexually, if both parties do not achieve climax, not realizing that women can enjoy sex even they have not managed to have an orgasm

The harder you try, during a sexual encounter, to reach a peak of pleasure, the more you might struggle to do so, through simple mental blocks. Simply relaxing, into a different kind of sensual experience, where the pace is far slower, can be just as satisfying, if not more so, than the initial attempt allowed for. Kissing your partner all over., touching them gently, simply cuddling or deep conversation can be equally sexual.

Good sex need not involve intercourse, often sadly ruined by the pressure to perform that the man feels, but sensational sex can be long-lasting and , leisurely, the fun not starting and ending at the act itself, though there are, of course, those people who can never see it in that way, gorgeously slim and sexy people who always look great.

Not that those wearing the skimpiest outfits are most sexually active, often quite the opposite, in fact.

Deeper and meaningful sexual attraction happens most satisfyingly in the presence of a truly sexy person, usually someone who loves the body they have, obviously enjoys and flaunts their sexuality. They silently hint at being amazing lovers, laughing a lot, with playful and relaxed attitudes that make their partner feel really special. These amazing people project reflections of how they really are, on the inside, and never want or partners.

The secret to a more satisfying sex-life is a willingness to try all s new approaches with your partner, allowing you both to be pleasantly surprised. The two of you should, for instance, dress up and meet at an arranged location,acting as if being strangers to one another, and  possibly discovering something new about the relationship by doing so. Do a strip-tease for your lover, finding music that turns you on, dressing in layers and allowing the teasing to be the main element of the treat.

Sensual rituals can be created using candlelight, touch being only through the use of feathers, silk scarves, or sensual fabrics, heightening sensations of taste and sound by massaging with fragrant oils,  accompanied by seductive music and edible erotic aids, such strawberries, chocolate and champagne, fed to your lover as sensually as possible. Let your imagination guide your foreplay, teasing as much as your partner seems to enjoy, the situation much sexierif they beg for more of the same.

A good sex life starts with you, and your approach to the whole concept, our partner no doubt being more than willing to show their appreciation for the consideration you show, as most people are. As long as you see sex being the culmination of a pleasurable time, having had fun building up to it, then you will almost certainly be enjoying a highly rewarding and satisfactory sex-life for a long time to come. Wham-bam, thank you Mam is never going to cut it with a sexual partner, at least not in the long term. Care enough to be considerate, always, and you will never be lonely.   

Studies on women’s sexuality are still in their infancy, but women’s bodies are now known to be wired in a completely different way to those of men, mainly because of special nerve endings that are in different types of skin. Female mucous type skin like nostril, vaginal, and anal skins, is thin skin that secretes its own built in lotions, and is especially designed with an interwoven network of blood vessels and nerve endings that are very near the surface.

This is why  women are so sensitive to being penetrated, and having the clitoris stimulated drives them crazy.

Women’s skin doesn’t have much hair, and wherever their skin is particularly soft and translucent are the places where their erogenous zones will typically be. Behind the knees, under the arm, toes, inner thigh, eyelids, mouth, back of the neck, earlobes.

Women are especially sensitive after a good rub down in the bath or shower, and oiling their skin down. They have been massaging the skin so that it is supple, and much more receptive to pleasing, tickling sensations. In effect, their whole bodies become erogenous zones. Don’t forget, either, that thicker skin is often also more hairy, with nerves farther below the skin surface. This is why they enjoy someone brushing or playing with their hair, because the slight pulling at hair roots is stimulating those nerve endings there.

Certain specific parts of the body, such as the mouth and tongue, have far more nerve endings than others, especially crafted for pleasure, but each of us also has those strange, surprising little spots, in different places, that just drive us over the edge. Erogenous zones are as individual as fingerprints so it’s no surprise that different people will have different sensations in different parts of the body. What is erotic for one is annoying to another. And what feels good when you’re in a good mood is not going to feel good when you’re not.

It isn’t physical. It’s emotional. This is what people mean when they say the mind is the ultimate erogenous zone. It’s the zone where all those sensors are told how to interpret what they’re experiencing. It’s your own personal experiences that tell you if the sensation tickles, hurts, inspires, arouses, makes you angry, or makes you scared.

We’re all wired differently. But to make things even more interesting, we experience the fuse differently too. A useful map of all the female erogenous zones isn’t really possible, because even though ALL bellybuttons have special receptors that are more sensitive (thus the strawberry in the bellybutton idea) that doesn’t mean all people will respond the same to having their bellybutton licked or kissed. Someone will be tickled, someone will melt, and someone will be horrified.

The bottom line is that you need to make every physical encounter a voyage of exploration. You never know what button you might discover entirely by accident. Learn your partner’s every bodily centimetre, and experiment further in different types of settings, different times of day. A light touch to the neck while you’re out shopping has a different meaning to the sly buttock squeeze as you enter the restaurant.

Every man or woman wants to feel that they make their partners happier in bed than anyone else could, and the way to make sure that is true is simple.  Take the time to find out exactly what it is that makes them shiver with pleasure, and then use that knowledge every single chance you get.  The only way to be gloriously happy, both in bed and out of it, is to know for certain that that you will always be pressing the right buttons.  Get it right, and you will never look back.  If you want to keep them with you, keep them happy.  Can you imagine anything that sounds better?

There are a number of rules governing consideration. Firstly, it need not be adequate, i.e. it does not have to reflect the true value of the promise. This is can be seen in the Thomas v. Thomas (1842) case, whereby the plaintiff was bound to pay £1 per annum for the benefit of use of her deceased husband’s house, as expressed in his will. Clearly £1 does not reflect the value of the house, but is valid consideration nevertheless.

Secondly, consideration must be a something, which the promisee is not already bound to do by general law or an existing contract with the other party. A good example of this is the Stilk v. Myrick (1809) case: to prevent his crew from deserting the ship, the defendant promised the crew, including the plaintiff, that they could share the wages of the deserters provided that they complete the voyage. Upon completion of the voyage, the plaintiff requested his pay-off but was refused. It was held that he was already bound to complete the voyage and provided no consideration for the extra pay.

Thirdly, consideration must not have been provided prior to the formation of the contract. In the case Eastwood v. Kenyon (1840) the plaintiff had paid for the education and maintenance of a girl. On her marriage, her husband, the defendant, promised to refund the plaintiff the cost of this. He failed to do so. It was held that the defendant’s only consideration had already been performed at the time of the contract.

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