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But now it seems that the movie will not be coming out at all stars, like John Depp say they will not be returning to the set.

Could a fifth movie be too much? Maybe, but if the producers fell they could make a profit out of this move, it will happen. Maybe its for the better. People love pirates… at least in the movies. But using the pirate theme too much can make the DVDs worth, and be nothing.

Many agree: They should not have a Pirates of the caribbean 5

On The 15th of April 1912 the Titanic sank in calm but icy seas on her maiden voyage to New York.

The Titanic sank in a usually busy shipping lane and one might wonder how it came about that nobody went to the rescue of the distressed ship. People certainly wondered about the lack of assistance from The Californian who was present that same night!

Apathy or genuine error?

Flares were sent up by the sinking ship and Captain Lord of The Californian was awoken. He dismissed the flares while the Titanic tried in vain to contact the ship using Morse lamps.

Lord later testified that the sea was calm and he had mistaken the Titanic’s lights for stars. He resigned in August 1912; some sources say he was dismissed. He was never tried for any offences under The Merchant Ship Act, but his reputation is dubious.

Construction

Rivets and steel from the Titanic were recovered and analysed. The rivets were said to have been made of low quality iron which broke on impact. The steel was found to become brittle at freezing temperatures.

Lifeboats

Titanic carried more than the legal requirement of lifeboats according to the British Board of Trading Regulations.  Of course they were not intended to accommodate passengers for any length of time but to ferry them to safety and return. The rescue mission seems to have been somewhat disorganized however. Lifeboat Seven carried 28 people with a capacity of sixty five. Lifeboat one was launched with only twelve passengers and Lifeboat Eleven was overloaded with seventy.

Bruce Ismay                   

Managing director of the White Star Line was under pressure from competitors which lead to a vested interest in the ship making the six day crossing.

Thomas Andrew

White Star requested that the six water tight compartments not go as high as they should because it compromised passenger living space. If Andrews had made the compartments to the correct measurements perhaps the Titanic would have arrived safely in New York.

Captain E Smith

Smith was on his retirement trip to new York and he wanted to get to America in record time. He ignored warnings of icebergs.

Chances of Survival

The 90’s film version of Titanic demonstrated how the upper classes had more of a chance of survival than those who were from the lower classes.

When a person is loved he does not feel the gnawing sensation that life is empty and there is nothing to work for. Receiving love helps us feel valuable and that we have a good place among people. It makes life more rewarding and free of the lonesomeness and longing that accompanies constant solitude and alienation. The lack of love may begin in childhood and continue on into adulthood; when the child is exposed to hateful dialogues between parents he can carry them on into adulthood thinking that this is the normal way of discourse between adults. Children learn by imitation and so the quarrelling they hear when little can become the bickering of adults.

A mother-in-law may cause her son’s children to go against the wife because she herself did not receive affection or was selfish about that as a child. A husband may impose his will on the wife while causing her distress at not being able to express her personality and that may cause her illness. Both these situations are examples where the lack of love in the environment is detrimental to a member of the family.

Sexual intimacy is part of the formula for loving a partner; physical demonstration of affection does not necessarily have to be sexual and that too is essential in keeping both partners satisfied. Some illnesses are caused by the distress of not getting this affection and once it returns their symptoms can disappear.

A positive attitude can be defined as an attitude of self build of obstacles or difficulties that occurred. Any obstacle or failure can occur in this life in any form and is part of the dynamics of life that cannot be avoided. There are obstacles or difficulties which may be known of his arrival. But it came with a sudden without predictable, even possible continuous way in a short time.

 Obstacles or difficulties there will never end. This situation can happen to all men in all social levels there (rich – poor, normal body – disabled, education – not education, adult – a baby,  etc). The only thing you can do is to have a positive attitude toward the events that can cause stress.  Attitude that brings about positive change for themselves.

 There is some positive attitude,  among others:

 1.     Be  Calm.
Positive attitude with a calm mind is the main capital in the face of any change. With a positive attitude, keep calm mind makes you more creative and nimble, so that will be able to solve various problems you are. Meanwhile, reacting with a negative attitude or angry you are actually triggering a nerve reaction that covers parts of the most creative part of your brain. With poise is your strength. Think calm can develop your positive attitude.

2.     Be  Real.
Having a positive attitude is realistic about the situation that occurred not as expected rather than assumed. You are dealing with walking difficulties of that day is not yesterday or earlier. Troubles can make you better if you stay positive and not the reverse that can make you a bitter attitude toward life. Distress can bring maturity. Positive attitude that determines your gain wisdom in the learning process. The problems we have now is prepare yourself to deal with rising levels of resistance or distress will be the future. So a positive attitude to help you.

3.     Be  Hopeful.
The higher the quality an item the higher the level of difficulty of manufacture. The higher the achievement that you want to achieve, the greater the positive attitude needed to overcome these barriers. And requires a positive attitude that has the quality of long-term persistence. Distress that you are aware of limitations as a human in the making, “perfect plan”.  Only God knows.  Troubles day, enough for one day. Tomorrow has its own dynamic. Barriers or distress is a tool to encourage a positive attitude you to rethink the existing status quo.

 4.    Be  Creative.
By removing obstacles or difficulties will limit the potential for yourself or hinder change your positive attitude. Troubles a transfer of “limited potential” to “unlimited potential” through positive experiences facing obstacles or difficulties that occurred. With you living out of his “comfort zone”. Always have an attitude to learn to make adjustments that occur. Your positive attitude helped develop such creative attitude. May fail but do not be afraid to have an attitude to try again.

 5.    Be  Strong.

         Your victory is not determined how many times you fall but a positive attitude to bounce back that determines your victory.

         “The incident happened in this life has value only 10%. The value of 90%, so depending on your attitude.  Positive or negative?  The hands of your choice.  ”

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             Playtime or recreation time is essential because it gives us the time to withdraw from the demands of everyday routines. We let go of official roles, experience new things, and get to know ourselves.

            When we are actually at play, we aren’t trying to achieve anything. We give ourselves permission to let go. No longer a means to other people’s ends, we exist as people in our own right. It is enough just to be natural selves. When we learn to play, the other aspects of our lives, including work and family, begin to take on new, healthier perspectives.

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             Many people, however, retreat to security of their work rather than confront the insecurities of the world of play. Some hate feeling uncharted, having un-programmed contact with life itself. Leisure calls for independence, initiative, and creativity. This can be uncomfortable for some people. They find it easier to adopt a dull or useless idea of leisure by diverting and stimulating themselves with non-interactive, non-demanding entertainment – television, for example. A friend of mine quipped, “I wonder sometimes if we’d be better if fewer films and more actors were shot.”

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            There’s nothing wrong with some mindless diversion once in awhile. But too much monotony, too much boredom, too much doing nothing can produce a sedentary mind and actually cause distress.

A few torture machines are well known to have been used in the past, but many of the machines and means of torture that are the most terrifying, utterly disgusting, and painful to think about aren’t taught in the normal history classes.

One of the better known means of gaining information from the enemy was the rack. This contraption dislocates many of the joints in the body including the shoulders and hips. The person to be tortured had ropes tied to their hands and ankles; the ropes were then stretched out to where the arms were above the body and all limbs were spread, creating an uncomfortable position. Said person was then questioned, and if the information the torturer wanted to know was withheld, the ropes were pulled, thus stretching the person until their limbs were dislocated. A much worse form of this was called quartering, which was a form of execution. The person’s limbs weren’t being dislocated, but, as the name suggests, the person was being pulled into fourths by having the ropes attached to horses that were whipped and sent off in different directions.

Another rather discomforting device was called the coffin. This means induced claustrophobia by having the person to be tortured put into a coffin or box and left in there for long periods of time. Eventually this form turned into something called the iron maiden, which was essentially the same thing, only with sharp objects attached to the insides of the enclosed space; with the iron maiden, when the said person was shut into the area the sharp objects would puncture the body, usually avoiding major organs so as to not kill the person.

One device with an innocent name, the tickler, is less extreme than those above, but is still torturous. The tickler is an object with extending “claws” which, when scraped against the skin of a person (tickling) long enough, the skin of the person would get worn enough that it is barely there; eventually no skin in the area is left.

A form of torture that eventually lead to execution rather quickly was the saw. In this method, the person was hung upside down, both feet attached to a stable object in different areas; this made the blood flow to the head to keep said person conscious for longer than normal under such distress. A saw was then used to cut the person in half from between the legs to about the navel, or until the person passed out from the pain. A relative to this technique was the horse, where a person was sat on a pointed wedge with their feet weighted down. Eventually the point would wear itself so far into the person that the weight of the body combined with the weights would split the person in half.

In yet another manner of torment, rodents were used, usually rats. The rat was placed against a person’s skin, usually in the abdomen region, and a cage was placed over the rat, trapping it. Since rats weren’t domestic when this torture evolved, the rat would do anything to get out of its entrapment. This usually meant that the rat would burrow into the softest area to find a way out, in this case, the human skin.

This last mentioned device is perhaps the most repulsive to the thoughts. The pear was an object, obviously shaped like a pear, which caused major internal damage. If inserted into the mouth, or the anus or vagina, and then un-tightened by a screw near the smaller end of the “pear”, the larger end would extend, causing the bones around it to shatter.

There are some people who feel that they should not be involved in incidents that do not concern them. There are those in a hurry, and think that business should be their first priority.  When there is an immediate need for help, we should not hesitate to extend it.  If we have a cellphone, we should dial 911 for an ambulance.

Homelessness has become so common these days, that people have gotten accustomed to it.  They seem to ignore those who stand or remain huddled on sidewalks.  The impulse to ignore sights such as these has become understandably prevalent.  Not long ago, I observed a homeless woman of advanced age, standing in close proximity to a fast food restaurant.  She looked famished and her speech sounded unintelligible.  I asked her if she was hungry.  She nodded affirmatively.  Instead of offering her money, I directed her inside that restaurant, ordered  a hamburger, fries and a soda and offered the food to her.  She smiled and thanked me. Judging from the way she kept eating, I was convinced that it was her first meal of the day. 

Good feelings are generally spontaneous.  Those that walk away from the misery of others, should realize that, as human beings, they might some day suffer similar reversals.  We should not be deliberately indifferent to other people’s pain and suffering, just as we would similarly expect others to be cognizant of our own predicament. 

Without a doubt, there are moments when you are compelled to help a friend in distress. Helping a friend though has its guiding principles when you’d like to reach out and offer your assistance. You can’t just barge into a friend’s life and start untangling the web of problems that he or she is confronted with. You can’t seize a friend’s territory and treat it as your own. At the very least, you have to ask permission. You have to ask yourself does my friend really need help? Or am I just being an overeager savior of an empty cause? Prudence is still the better part of valor.

Before you extend a helping hand, determine first if your friend needs one. Then ascertain if you’re only willing to listen or you are ready to go all out should the need arise. Finally, know if you pay attention to your friend’s emotions instead of his or her existing problem. These three outlines of conduct are what you have to be aware of if you aim to save your friend from whatever is bugging him or her.

Let your friends think for themselves

Your friend can think for himself/herself so beware of being so fast in giving unsolicited advice. Your friend may feel offended if you suddenly offer explanations and interpretations without being asked. For example, don’t step in and say that Mr. A is better than Mr. B because of this and that without any factual basis just when your buddy is having a hard time choosing between her two suitors. She might misconstrue your gesture as an act of meddling in her affairs and it could lead to a break up in your otherwise healthy relationship. No matter how noble your purpose may be in sharing your thoughts, you have to be conscious of the timing of your advice. Wait until she asks for it herself. If she stays mum about the matter, don’t open up the subject.

Be careful not to invite heavy emotional release

When a friend asks you to come to his/her aid, be there. They may need someone who can listen attentively and compassionately to their story. They may want a trusted friend to confess their current plight. Through it all, pay attention to what he/she is saying. Look at them straight in the eyes and make them feel comfortable. However, don’t give them reason to unleash a heavy emotional outpour unless you’re ready to handle it. Some people are plain good listeners but become disoriented when the person they’re listening to shifts gear from being mellow to being excessively dramatic. Encourage pure revelations from your friend but don’t make the mistake of saying, “have a good cry if that will make you feel better” unless you’re prepared to sit through the tears.

Don’t get buried in the problem

The moment you come to a friend’s, you can expect him/her to pour out feelings to you. Under this scenario, focus on the emotion and not on the problem. This is one way of not letting your own mind and feelings get lost in the intricate web he’s or she’s weaved himself/herself in. For example, if your friend is a bit rejected over the way his/her career has been going, show your sympathy by telling her how you feel the same thing just thinking of his/her predicament. If he/she is burning with anger help them diffuse by talking it out. If they are frightened, comfort them physically or verbally; whatever is possible. If they are being penned with guilt, free him/her up by replacing their emotional state with a different one.

Don’t forget the reason why your friend picked you

A friend who is looking for parental advice would have gone instead to her mom or dad. A friend who is seeking medical aid would have visited a therapist. The reason why your friend has chosen you is simply because he/she wants a friend – a person who truly understand them. Act like a friend. Converse like a friend. Offer love like a friend. Be proud that of all people you are the one who has been handpicked to be his/her confidant. As Ralph Waldo Emerson put it: “The only way to have a friend is to be a friend.”

Be careful not to oversee the pitfalls

There are some people who don’t seem to run out of problems. They always get depressed for one reason or another. They feel enraged at the slightest provocation. They seem to relish their life of negativity so much that they even pull their friends into it if they can. If you think that your friendship with someone exists in the premise that they are the perpetual complainant and you, the constant advisor, then such a relationship can never be called as one. Maybe what they need is not a friend but a counselor – someone who will always lead the way for them. In this case, you may have to reconsider where you stand, as there are too many pitfalls to think about for the friendship to soar. Either back out of this one-sided friendship cautiously or insist that it develop into something that can be enjoyable for both of you. You can help your friend deal with things by not always trying to lend a hand. Stop asking “Do you have a problem today? Tell me how may I help you?” if you want them to escape from what is becoming a virtual helping relationship. Display you concern in some other way.

If your help is not helping

You can only do so much in helping a friend. If you feel like your love and attention aren’t enough, don’t be afraid to step backward and let another person assume your position. Bear in mind that you can’t really help unless you feel it in your heart and you can’t possibly want to if you are feeling tired and uninspired. Because if you insist, you might only end up a liability than an asset. If your help is not being effective anymore, have the guts to say to your friend that there’s nothing else you can do. Don’t leave them hanging in the balance though. Before you turn your back refer them to other resources that may somehow assist in alleviating their problem and improving their condition. This will give them hope to go on and provide you a clear conscience as you move on.