It is up to you as the male figure to be the dominant one and “explore” the female body.

Keep in mind that every girl is extremely different in every way regardless of slight similarities in appearance or even in their desires.

They all have their differences. These five places are very common in females and even if not their main sensual will arouse them to no extent.

First I will list some rules that you will need to follow before you can consider these places of any use to you.

Rule 1) The golden rule. TAKE IT SLOW. We are not gorillas, neanderthals, or cavemen before the time of neanderthals. Love making is a very passionate thing and females should be considered beautiful creatures. If you do everything slowly it will make it ten times more sensual to a female.

Rule 2) MAKE THEM WANT IT – It should be your lifelong goal to have the female your with want you more then you want them, (or at least to where they think they do), to the point where you can get what you want whenever you want and sexual favors will not be held against you or considered rewards for good behavior. Let me remind you, gentlemen, we are not dogs. If you hold back from giving it up completely just a little bit and take the time to make them want it and ask for it – you will get farther. Maybe you “veterans” know better than me in your opinion, but I get mine everyday, not every week, not every month, not on my birthday. Three times a day if I so choose.

Rule 3) LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION! – Yes that’s right. Places DO matter! Everything matters in this situation. You may think you have it down to an art – well my friend – You just may be wrong. Sure in the backseat of your car – wherever you may be seems like the right place. No – Not even your bed is always the right place. You need to find a very comforting place to be. Things such as light aromas, lighting, and even the paint of your bedroom can set the mood! You may never find that perfect place but at least now you know to start looking!

Rule 4) FABRIC – Yes, that’s the only real name to describe what I am about to tell you. Everything from your clothing, to your sheets, even your boxers matter! Maybe you consider your whitey tighteys and your thick woolen blankets appealing! WRONG! Remember fellows – we are not cavemen, although I’m pretty sure a loincloth would be more appealing for some people than your plain white (or not) pair of skin tight underwear. Now is the time to consider investing in ANY form of boxers, not excluding even the cheapest packages from Wal-Mart. Also, you may find yourself sweating more because of the temperature in your room, the clothes you wear, and that huge woolen blanket. Invest in soft, thin, blankets that can be removed or added in quantity to fit the temperature of your environment.

Rule 5) TIMING – Yes, that’s right… Just like the golden rule. Take your time, wait until you know for sure that she wants you to proceed. Consider that if you rush into it she may realize that you want her alot more than she is wanting you. She will slowly grow into using sexual activities as bribes, and then even sooner she will use them as punishment. All of you guys know as well as I do that this means hitting where it hurts. Love making is a cure to all pain and can fix many problems or make you forget problems in your past. You just need to find the right timing.

OK, now for the 5 places that you should consider trying out.

1) The ears! – Start by small, slow kisses along the jawline, making your way to the neck and then to the ear. The slower the better. Then when you reach the ears begin by taking the area where a piercing is most commonly placed between your teeth without biting and using the tip of your tongue to move along behind the ear.

2) The Stomach (belly button) – Run the tip of your tongue all around the stomach and the waistline before making your way up. Don’t rush anything and don’t stop if it tickles her, relax her by staying where it doesn’t tickle and then try again.

3) The Thighs – It is very important that you take your time doing this and continue using your tip of your tongue to extremely slowly progress farther up her body.

4) The Neck – The two places most ignored by male figures is the back of the neck. It is easily accessible on many occasions that I know you can imagine. Take a second and lean in and gently kiss the back of your girls neck. It won’t go unnoticed. Small kisses under the jawline are appreciated too – No hickeys now

5) The Hips – The pelvic bone is very sensitive and whether it be foreplay or closed door play it is very important that when either holding or kissing this area you are gentle and treat the area with care! If you damage the pelvic area while having fun you may find that she doesn’t want to go for round two!

Thanks again for reading my article,

Good luck Gentlemen!

BDSM is a complex field in which mobserverany of the practices cannot be understood until they are experienced. That is to say, research conducted from a distance can establish quantitative data, but only full participant observation can begin to elicit understanding.  Henkin (1989) explains that to examine sexual attitudes, one needs exposure, practice and hands-on experience to achieve a perspective for intellectual assessment unrestrained by cultural norms.

As a trusted psycho-sexual counsellor and participant-observer of the UK BDSM Scene for nearly a decade, I am ideally placed to do just that, but I do not see my role in these interviews as therapeutic.

I have a personal assistant to accompany me outside my home and assist with practical difficulties associated with my variable vision, co-ordination, mobility and intermittent fatigue. He is an ex-policeman, familiar with and sympathetic to the BDSM scene, who is present at all interviews. As for my personal reputation, although I am discreet within my home environment, I have had previous interactions with media and with both hostile and sympathetic opinion, which I am quite competent to handle, especially in the role of investigating academic.

I am well-known within local and national and international BDSM communities and I have previously published papers and a semi-autobiographical novel, The Triumph of Hope, on the topic of BDSM.  For 10 years I maintained a free, interactive self-esteem website which included specific reference to alternative forms of sexuality. I was also a Backlash  political activist for several years, speaking at conferences and university seminars as well as being involved in international debate via the world-wide web.

In preparatory work for this dissertation I have conducted practical exercises, concentrating on heterosexual practitioners of BDSM, particularly on male Dominants and female submissives. For many years I found the male, heterosexual submissive too complex and too uncomfortable a concept to be able to investigate without bias. After a great deal of work on my own perceptions and cultural influences, I am now able to treat the topic more objectively and work closely and sympathetically with the full trust of male, heterosexual submissives as an original project for this dissertation.

BPS and ESRC Ethical Principles were followed.

Since the study of BDSM practitioners involves the sensitive areas of sexuality and bodily practices that could be “ indirectly and selectively criminalised”, (Beckman, 2001) my access to informants was through strategies of “networking” or “snowballing” and “relational outcropping” (finding chains of access through gatekeepers and sites in which its members congregate) which Lee (1993) recommends for accessing and sampling rare or deviant populations. He warns that potential informants will be tempted to conceal their activities the more sensitive these are.

Since practitioners of BDSM are vulnerable in many ways to public opinion and have been the victims of persecution and discrimination, (Wright, 2006) and are now liable to imprisonment under Section 63 of the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008(made law on January 26th, 2009), it is crucial that their responses and identity are treated with the utmost discretion, their anonymity protected and their right to withdraw from the project unconditionally conceded. All responses, surveys, transcripts of interviews, photographs, graphics, letters, reports and donated journals are accompanied by signed forms consenting to their use in this study. All data is anonymous and carefully protected, either in a locked safe or encrypted and password-protected computer files. Participants known to the researcher are never referred to other than by mutually agreed nicknames. All records that could conceivably reveal their identity were destroyed at the conclusion of this research. Since I have promised my correspondents total anonymity I was concerned that they could fall into the wrong hands, therefore I obtained examiners’committee approval to submit only anonymous SPSS data files, selected transcripts and mp3 files. The information my respondents gave me and opinions they expressed will be identified by nickname only.

For the purposes of this study a range of practices may be discussed. Many submissives are eager to report their experiences in an effort to achieve acceptance and understanding both from and for themselves and others. Counselling is accessible if anyone should feel disturbed by their participation, through my contacts with the local counselling community.

Warning and disclaimer: This paper could encourage readers to experiment with BDSM. I would strongly recommend anyone contemplating such a step to do so with great caution through established social BDSM organisations where practitioners are known to each other, strict standards of behaviour are imposed and safety training is available, since the practice of BDSM can be dangerous and can attract people who have not separated the concept of dominance from abuse.

The bdsm symbol is basically a circle with three equal sized pieces inside of it and the three pieces have a small hole each. The rim of the circle is a colour of a metal, usually the metal is gold, iron (looks like a shade of blue) and the three pieces are black & they all point clockwise.

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The bdsm symbol has three different meanings, the first meaning is that each of the three pieces in the symbol stand for the three parts of bdsm. These parts are: Bondage & Discipline (BD), Dominance & Submissive (DS) and Sadism & Masochism (SM).

The second is also the bdsm motto which is “safe, sane and consensual”. This basically means that any bdsm scene or act no matter how big or small it can’t be life threatening or cause any injury (whether it be serious or not) and has to have permission from anyone involved.

The third and last meaning behind the bdsm symbol is that it stands for top, bottom and switch. These are the positions you are in bdsm. The top is basically the dominant person involved and takes control over the bottom who is the submissive. A switch is a person who has feelings to be a top and a bottom, not all switches have the same amount of feelings to both of the positions, as some might enjoy being one over the other. Myself for example I am a switch but I have more feelings to being a bottom (sub) however I still enjoy being a top (Dom) but I only tend to be a top with someone I know and love.

You can wear the bdsm symbols in a few ways, the two obvious ways is jewellery and tattoos. It doesn’t have to be a big piece of jewellery if you don’t want it to be, for example you could wear a ring for your finger as it is small and discreet. The same applies to a tattoo as it doesn’t have to be a big tattoo that stands out but a small and discreet tattoo.

I hope this has been to some use to you and has provided an insight to the bdsm symbol.

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Out of the three parts of bdsm dominance and submission is definitely the most mental and psychological branch. All though bondage is very often associated with dominance and submission it isn’t always the case.

Dominance & Submission isn’t just about the erotic side but is very often about the lifestyle that both the Dominant and the Submissive lead. This lifestyle can continue infinity and can consist of a few small submissions or total submission from the submissive to the Dominant, this is called total power exchange. The basic build of this relationship is that the Dominant gives love & care and the submissive gives love & devotion, this provides a stable and healthy relationship.

There are a lot of relationships that have a dominance and submissive relationship but it is only considered to be a part of bdsm if it is practiced purposefully.

In some of these relationships the submissive might wear have something to openly show everyone that the submissive belongs to the Dominant. The submissive might wear a collar (it is usually a leather collar with a ring at the front), they might have a unique & special tattoo(s), piercing and/or have a very short haircut or even bald.

In some rare instances a slave contract is formed between the Dominant and the Submissive stating the power exchange between them. It’s main purpose is to encourage discussion and negotiation about what both the dominant and the submissive wants from this relationship. The slave contract (and similar contracts) are not seen as legally binding.

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Unlike the two aspects of Bdsm bondage & discipline are not connected as such but they do share some similarities. Unlike Dominance & Submission and Sadism & Masochism there is no set and defined top & bottom itself, as the activities are general and vague where as the other two aspects are specific in what they are.

Bondage is the practice of physically tying someone up or restricting them (physical restraining) and very often a sexual practice, although it is not always. An important part of bondage is trust from both parties, whether you are tying someone up or someone is tying you up. The bondage doesn’t need to be painful or uncomfortable, it could be as simple as the hands tied to a bed post just before sex.

Discipline on the other hand is about mentally training and restricting them (psychological restraining) using rules and punishment to change behaviour. The form of a punishment can be very different depending on the other person. Some punishments could be in the form of pain caused physically (spanking for example). Another punishment could be humiliation, it doesn’t have to be public or sexual humiliation and is very often psychological rather than physical. Orgasm denial can be another form of punishment, for example the person getting punished could be teased but not allowed to orgasm.

Hope you enjoyed this article and that it increased your understanding and knowledge about Bondage & Discipline within Bdsm.

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The traditional wife as defined by men

For most men a traditional wife is a ‘plain housewife’. Her chores usually include house work, taking care of the kids and her husband. This type of wife is a typical desire of any man. A simple woman, who keeps his house clean, prepares meal for him, takes care of his children personally and let him do all the decision. A traditional wife for them is, ‘a woman who doesn’t have to work for a living, who lets her husband to take care of her.’

And sadly, some men prefer their wives helpless.

Modern women dominating their men?

Some men don’t trust a modern woman because she is not helpless like the traditional type. She has her own job thus she can stand on her own even without support. On the contrary, a traditional wife can be dictating too.

Dominance is power and anyone can be manipulative if he or she wants to. For the traditional wife, she can blackmail her husband by not cooking his favourite dish or by simply denying him sex.  As an article of a friend cited, sex deprivation is one of man’s weakness.

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Women can never be an equal to men

The male specie by nature is more intelligent than the women. Even if a female, build her muscle, men are still the strongest. More to this, when a woman becomes a whore, stones are automatically cast into her. The man, on the other hand, when he becomes a man-whore, flowers are thrown at him as salutations.

Of course I only wrote these up to make up with our men.

The bottom line

If a man doesn’t want to be dominated by a partner, he should choose someone who is in love with him. A woman in love with her man will understand him, respect him and will never make him suffer.

Between me and my husband, the word ‘dominance’ doesn’t exist.

It means I have vowed to guide her in the ways that I expect her to be through allowing her to be totally true to her nature. Her expectations of me consist of insuring that wrong choices are not made and conflicting emotions that would stagnate the thought process are separated and labeled for what they are, distractions. It is that muddled mind that I’m am committed to clear. It means that I will treat her as I would a rose in that I will administer the proper care and encourage her to blossom into the beautiful garden that is desired. It means I have accepted the responsibility in making sure that she is healthy and happy by giving her the dominance she desires. It means I will weed out all the bad habits that in the past have led to negative and irretrievable consequences. From the moment a decision to enter this is made I committed to shaping her into the woman she desires to be. It means control. Control of not only her but of the shared destiny we both crave. To take control of another being brings strength to me in the form of an example. It causes me to reevaluate my own life and my own choices and to transfer those to her so that she may benefit from them. It means I must now lead by example. And never falter in any endeavor that is undertaken. To gain control like this brings power to me. The kind of power needed to be strong in my convictions and grants me the freedom to truly be who I am through all of this it is she who has given me that gift.

Finally, it means devotion and love not just any Ole love, but the kind of love that is born in knowing I am depended upon to provide a safe haven for which solace can be found. It means my love is so strong that through the good and the bad I will still be there to to sooth the fears and encourage the successes. It means I’m honest in my criticism not to degrade but to nurture. It means my love will never worry again. For much of society the only glimpse that is seen is that in which the mass media gives to society to view, which is often negative and totally inaccurate. Through my commitment to my slave I am vowing to provide all that she requires. Here’s the the part that society often overlooks or just plain old don’t get it. I do these things in order to allow happiness to come into the life of someone who desperately wishes to only be themselves. It allows them to become the person they want to be and not the person that society demands them to be. In other words I offer freedom from the bonds of societal expectations and in its place I give the strength to be true to herself.

In this world in which we live in we are expected to conform to molds of what society deems as right. But through the bond and relationship that develops through this commitment I am able to give her something that the world at large cannot. What I give are the gifts of choice, freedom, and self awareness that is needed in order for her to be who she truly is. When I became a master I accepted a magnitude of responsibilities. These responsibilities give me purpose, they give me peace, They grant me my own escape from the chains society uses to make us conform. But what being a master ultimately gives me is the one thing that none can give me and that is the right to claim my own life back.

There are many images that come to mind whenever anyone thinks of the word slave. Most of the time the word itself is used in a negative context in reference to being forced to behave in a way that one does not wish to behave. It is a word that references a person that is under the complete authority of another with little to few rights of their own. The definition of the word has been put forth as having several meanings, one of which would be “a form of forced labor in which people are considered to be, or treated as, the property of another”.  There is much stigma attached to the word itself since the days of the slave trade that was abolished in this country upon the closing of the civil war.

So many different meanings can be addressed and yet I find that they are not what come to my mind when I think of the word slave. Upon hearing the word or thinking of it I am filled with warmth and a gentle joy deep in my heart. You may want to ask, why would anyone feel that way? I will tell you happily. It is because I myself am a slave. Not only am I willing, but I am an eager one in my service to my Master. You see there is another meaning to this word that I have come to treasure so. You may in fact find it a truly ironic meaning, for I have come to see my own slavery as the only form of true freedom.

How could this be? You may be thinking to yourself, surely this girl is mistaken and confused in her use of language. But no! It is true! I see my slavery as freedom indeed. You see, it allows me the freedom to behave toward my Master in the ways that feel natural to me when it comes to how I relate to the man I love. I respect Him greatly of course, and I value his thoughts and opinions, but this isn’t the driving force behind my internal serenity. I enjoy being able to behave as a slave because it is the ultimate expression of my true feelings for Him. When He requests something of me by way of action or words, He is able to freely express His wishes without being hindered by society’s views of what is and is not appropriate in His requests. In turn, by bending to His will, learning from His instruction, serving Him and following His lead obediently, I am freed from society’s confinements on what is viewed as inappropriate behavior in my expression of adoration.

Perhaps I should explain a bit further with example. If a woman of mainstream society is seen to approach her mate with lowered eyes then kneel before him and bow reverentially to then be patted on the head and called a “good girl” as she gives a beaming smile in response to his words, it would be seen as a lowering of her station and an act of disrespect toward herself. No matter how much she loves him, he is then seen as something of a bully that treats his mate as a dog. The real magic behind consensual slavery is that, with the simple act of declaring one’s slavery, a woman can walk proudly in her status as slave and a man can be seen as a strong and loving mate who cares deeply for her and treats her well. When a slave bows before her Master it is done out of love and an eagerness to express that love in a physical way that bellies the true level of adoration she has for Him. To be limited to societies accepted acts of love such as kisses, hugs and other “vanilla” forms of affection; a true and natural slave is in essence being bound from expressing herself to the full extent that she desires. Only, the difference is, the ties that bind her are not being held by someone she loves and trusts but rather by a cold unfeeling society that arbitrarily doles out its views of right and wrong.

Take a moment to think this over in your mind. If it is wrong to deny women the vote based on their gender because they are equals, then isn’t it also wrong to determine for them how they are to display their feelings for their mate?  Is it not wrong to tell a person that was born with a natural inclination toward submission to behave in any other way then that which comes to them as the right thing to do? And finally is it not wrong for one that is an internal slave to be forced upon with the “freedom” society would have for her? In my humble opinion, that is tantamount to emotional rape for it is, in essence, a violation of a woman’s right to decide for herself how she will lead her life.  

It is natural for a slave to be as she is and to behave as she does and that my friends, is a beautiful thing. Quite contrary to popular belief a true slave is a very strong person that must know her own mind in order to achieve happiness and success in her endeavors in life. She must be strong enough to cast aside the bonds that society has placed on her. She must know herself well enough to trust her decisions in choosing a Master. She must display courage in bending her will to His so that she may know the elation of a deed well done and a Master well pleased. She must have the fortitude to walk the gauntlet of disapproving stares directed at her from those in the world around her so that she may be able to take the opportunity to truly be whom she was born to be. Yes, a slave is a strong individual indeed for she has chosen her only true freedom. Rather then simply dream of it or fantasize about it when no one is watching she has spread her wings and leapt forth to grab it, only to find that at long last she can finally soar!

INTRODUCTION

Aim:

The purpose of this research was to investigate whether or not people who are left handed are more ambidextrous (able to use both hands) than right handed people.

Previous Research:

Previous research indicates that left handed people are less lateralized (one sided) than right handed people. In a left handed person’s brain there is a less distinct specialization between the two hemispheres of the brain. Even the actual size and shape of a left handed person’s cerebral hemisphere are more alike than that of a right handed person’s.

Hypothesis:

“People who write with their left hand will be more ambidextrous (able to use both hands) than people who write with their right hand.” The independent variable of this research is whether a person writes with their left hand or their right hand and the dependent variable is how ambidextrous (able to use both hands) a person is.

METHOD

Participants:

There was a total of fifty-eight participants. Fifty of the participants were right handed and eight were left handed. The participants were selected from a range of friends, family and classmates of the Year Eleven VCE students.

Materials:

A Survey Sheet and a calculator

Procedure:

How the results were obtained was by asking friends, family and classmates the questions on the survey sheet. Then the total amount of participants and their answers were calculated and a percentage was found for each question. After a total percentage of the given tasks was calculated, the two different variables (right handed or left handed) was then compared.

RESULTS:

Table.Summary of results

The results in the table show that people who are right handed used their right hand more when completing or doing a task then the left handed people, excluding writing their name on a piece of paper. Eighty-eight percent of right handed people used their right hand when cutting paper and eighty-eight percent of left handed people used their left hand when they were cutting paper. Another result which can be obtained from the table is that seventy-eight percent of right handed people use their right hand to throw a ball whereas only thirty-eight percent of left handed people used their left hand. Also shown in the table is the sixty-six percent of right handed people shuffled cards only with their right hand and only fifty percent of left handed people used their left hand. In regards to all the other tasks, the right handed people were the most dominant.

DISCUSSION

The hypothesis was stated that left handed people were more ambidextrous than right handed people and this can be seen by the results in the survey. Right handed people used their right hand more and were therefore less ambidextrous than left handed people. The sample is not big enough to be generalized to the wider population and therefore can not be used. Previous research stated that left handed people are less lateralized (one sided) than right handed people. The results of the survey showed that left handed people are indeed less lateralized than right handed people.

Problems with the research.

- The sample was too small
- There should of been more survey questions
- The participants should of completed the tasks instead of just answering the questions on the survey.
- There was not an equal ratio of left handed to right handed people.