When Nelson “Madiba” Mandela became the President of South Africa back in 1994, we started calling ourselves the rainbow nation. That ties in neatly with the LGBT community, but it actually refers to the varied colours of our skins.

Rather a lot of people ask me what it’s like being “the only gay in the village.” Of course, I’m probably not – just the only out gay in it. When my girlfriend visits, the queer population doubles and every walk on the beach feels like a pride march.

Gay isn’t a choice, and here’s the obvious, logical reason why – a reason that even straight people can relate to.