I am afraid to talk much on these two dead-end poles, nevertheless i am going to. Don’t we all agree that we loose our nerves at times, some people all the time and some people most of the time and the rest are always serene either because they do not want to express their anger or emotions and strong enough to accept or they are weak enough to go home and weep all through out the day.

“I dont want any of this to change”, is the underlying notion for anyone to get mad on anyone. Those who remain calm aren’t those who are weak. Now, “did you notice me contradicting what i have mentioned earlier as to weak enough to weep”, Yes. I meant that. Staying calm or quiet is not weakness but anger is a kind of weakness which we need to overcome.

My grandma used to tell me when i was a kid ,”Anger is something that makes you do things in haste and you end up confused, repent, regret”. True to myself, I have grown very calm in years not because of these notions that i have been hearing from people or not because of the criticisms i heard from my relatives every day whenever i expressed myself, but because i felt the need to change.

Each of us express our emotions in the way we can at that point of time. However, it is the perception people start to have about us which changes the way we express. As a kid when i used to get angry, i used to tap my feet, get inside my bedroom and weep for about an hour and come back normal on a flat after sometime. Gradually my anger turned into silence which will cause nothing but provoke thoughts. Relationships will quickly turn into shape than ever expected once you keep anger side and step up with a smile though difficult.

Atleast when you get angry, don’t ask or think about the reasoning portion which will only burn the flames even more. Argument with your boy friend or girl friend will happen quite often though you dont quite anticipate and have love for such disputes. Yet, take time off, just step aside after a small heated argument rather than digging deeper and being left with nothing.

Be it with your friend or lover or your family or any other acquaintance, Pinpointing the wrong or misdoings will only create more of misconceptions and misunderstandings to a greater extent. Hardest and the worst point is the point of conflict wherein each person’s notions differ from the other which leads to conclusion that either if people are in relation, they wish to breakup and if it is the relations otherwise,they still want to loose family. If we can overcome those emotions such as the attitude part and egoistic or self-pride nature, we can easily overcome anger and spread love all over.

May sound philosophical but each word i wrote matters a lot if you want to be one of those in 10 ratio with the ability to handle emotions and people and situations without becoming aggressive or being rude, You will stand out of crowd in a very small span of time as a lovely human being.

I didn’t want to keep thinking about this for 3 months plus. I may be obsessed.  The title of this story could then be “eccentric older lady drags young punk into court for charging her for car labor that didn’t take place and also driving her to the bank to extract cash for work that didn’t occur because he was pissed the old lady was getting away from his clutches.

I’m slow to anger but once I get started I can become explosive with rage that has lasted on this earth for centuries; As Mr. Tolle says, it’s the pain body of women so it’s hardly even personal in that respect and yet I feel it and cannot deny it. It’s the pain body of women because it’s women who get took the most because of lack of knowledge of their car, when they take it in for a repair. I know I have to direct the anger into determinism.

That doesn’t mean it’s easy. This morning before the coffee kicked in I tried to find a place where it hurts the most. I seem to be getting more emotional this last week as a mediation session looms up on the 29th. Then I shall have to see his face again and I would rather not, nor his lawyer’s face whom has to defend this hoodlum. For hoodlum behind a desk is what he is, and no matter how I try to find his innocence, it remains invisible to me, other than the dream image I was given of him shows the man to be the equivalent of a 9-year-old boy in a 30ish body.

Back to the place it hurts the most; no it wasn’t the fact that I was made into a fool by being fooled. As this so called spiritual person I thought I was, I find myself thinking I am not all that spiritual. It represents some kind of loss, of self image perhaps. Nobody would believe me and I don’t even believe myself, that a spiritual person, call it initiate, whatever, could and would drag an unconscious younger soul into a court room.

The only reason I could and would is that he too needs a wakeup call.
Back to the pain of it all. The pain will go away. Someday I will forget it was there. Emotions go away. Sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. Such is life. Time after time, through the voice of a lawyer, my “boy” tries to find his innocence. Are those who sleep innocent of crime? Or are they just asleep?

So, too, I must watch out for myself first for I was the one who sleep walked into a car repair shop; the awakening was rude for me. Just as if a car horn had blasted your eardrum while dreaming a pleasant dream of walking through tulips.

Ok, I’m awake now I shout to the sky, will somebody please turn off the waterworks behind my eyes. I study the pain of being helpless, of being not respected, despite I thought I was so nice and spiritual, and couldn’t all see my divinity within, most people do.
Because I thought, most people see my divinity, because I am nearly always seeing theirs. There is unity and oneness around and about, just not in this particular repair shop I wandered into. First in a dream, then the next day in reality.

So it was fate I muttered under my breath. I do not like fated experiences. Something says, ah, but it doesn’t matter what you like sometimes. Or don’t like. You have to deal with it.

On the 29th I’ll deal with it, with others dealing with it with me. And the mediation may not be successful and so then a court date will occur, and I’ll have to keep living with this burden for another month or so.

Oh well, nobody promised me a rose garden here. Something tells me to just be myself and stop worrying about how things will turn out.
So I will try that, but I thought I was just being myself when I got conned and had my thoughts manipulated by the young man who believes he is so upstanding.

I cannot be emotional in court. I know that. So I will just read my statement, point for point, and if I’m the only one waking up and smelling the coffee than so be it. The courtroom perhaps becomes a place for “discovery, and disclosure upon disclosure until you get blue in the face.

I’ve learned all this legal technical language that I really didn’t want to learn. I learned it in one sense just to try and figure out what happened those 4 days of interaction with the shop. I had to find labels for it and to some extent I did. A term called constructive fraud leaped out at me from the legal files. I grabbed it and ran with it. It didn’t change the facts of what happened, but no matter how you label something, the law says it’s still fraud, whether actual or constructive.

Constructive fraud is you would think, a constructive act. Where you build on something to turn it into something else. Constructive fraud was said to occur from a lie of omission, a thing called low balling an estimate, then when they have the keys to your car, the estimate gets quite a bit higher as the days turn into more days.
The shop repair scam artists have to rely on the customer not researching the problem on today’s internet, where information of whatever kind you need is there at your fingertips.

It occurs to me boys and girls, we are in the internet age, as old as I am, and as traditional as I may sometimes be, even I know the internet age is a new age for us all.
In many ways I have blamed the internet for being so mechanical, such a platform for any filthy mouth, or any gossip and back biting. Yet I stand before you now, I might say to the court, to say someone on the internet saved my life by explaining in the greatest detail my exact car problem, on the same exact model of car I have. That is not exactly coincidental to have found this information. All I did was type in Google “Broken Drain plug, BMW”, and there it was, I looked to see if my name was there, as the car was also the same year as mine. That’s when my mind was blown over yonder somewhere, as there was an easy fix for my problem.

Now I had to get the car away from the shop. They were not going to make it easy to walk away. I felt like I was walking unto a stage. A stage all set up to look like a reputable repair shop.
A place where you go in for a routine oil change and end up mentally wrestling the shop proprietor for the keys while the tow truck driver waits impatiently in the back ground. For there’s no oil in your pan now, no plug, and you have to tow the sucker to another mechanic who actually knows his stuff.

At least you got lucky, you found your special mechanic. Thinking positive while all this is going on is not easy but I must have had protection that day, and I don’t think it was my usual spiritual, we are one state of mind being experienced. The best I can describe it, is like a set up, where you just came to play your role. The shop guy played his role well, but it was a bad part, even to the mouth twitching with greed as he counted the bills I handed over, which would make me short the rest of the month, as now I was going to pay this other mechanic for the proper work to be done.

I was already patting myself on the back for a job well done, through my internet research. However, panic attacks were occurring the day before I towed the car away as it was almost too late to back out and you have to get over your guilt feelings that you slept through all the signals given off, that something was wrong here.

The price of getting a little respect is very high. It’s called seeking legal means and making the scales of justice swing even. If you start it, you have to finish it.
I hope it’s all over after the 29th of the month. I’ve been treating, and moving my feet very fast.
1) Treat
2) Move your feet

As life proceeds in 2012, look for the changes in our society, or even world wide, for we shall see these changes as we look for them, and they will be positive changes. For one thing, people will start to stand up and be counted and they may fight for justice or just let another do the fight for them, but they won’t bury their heads in the sand anymore, and they will tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth without having to swear on a bible even. The truth will set us all free. And I will be free too, I will smile again. You have to be careful who you smile at, you have to be very, very careful.

Many experience frustrations throughout their lives and have no clue how to deal with it. They may even go so far as to try and take their life or the life of another. Its very important to deal with the problems with a clear head and talking them through will help a great deal. make a list of what makes you frustrated and why so that you’ll prioritize which ones to deal with first. Make a habit to take breaths in and out when you feel over whelmed or down right frustrated. Always make an attempt to relieve the cycle of frustration.

The current generation or the age of machines is veraciously called so, although they have a heart that beats only on the vibration of success and it thumps on the sound of failure and still they say that they have a very large heart while proposing a girl…!!

I have just one simple question that is the heart a normal human heart or is it some kind of storage device with just storing memory with nil feelings…???

Rakhi Sharma and Awadhesh Kishore*

Institute for Development of Technology for Rural Advancement, Mathura-281004 (INDIA)

*Sarvoday Mahavidyalaya, Chaumuhan-281406, Mathura (INDIA)

Summary:

A Kiss is to touch or caress with the lips. The romantic kiss is second date kiss. Bend forward in to kiss, and slowly lock your lips one time they touch the lips of your girlfriend. It develops relationship and emotional feelings and is best way to express love, hot and sex desires.

Keywords:

Date, Emotions, Feelings, Girlfriend, Kiss, Lips, Love, Relationship, Romantic kiss, Sex.

A Kiss is defined as to touch or caress with the lips, as in affection or greeting. A kiss is proved to be more efficient that can be a lot more. A kiss has an competence to express and arouse so plenty of different emotions and feelings. A kiss never gets uninteresting. There’s so plenty of different ways to vary a simple kiss that will keep you occupied for hours. The kiss is an important expression of affection and erotic emotions. The world of kissing has an immense collection of different types of kisses to jump. Start your kissing creativity, You may develop a different way of kissing. The Kiss is an exultant message of the longing of affection, love eternally young, the burning prayer of hot desire, which is born on the lips.

The Romantic Kiss:

You are meeting your girlfriend at various locations. At the time of your meeting, make her feel comfortable and experience the pleasure using a weapon of romantic kisses. The romantic kiss is rich in promise, bestows an intoxicating feeling of boundless happiness, bravery, and youth, and therefore surpasses all other earthly joys in sublimity. The power of a romantic kiss cannot be underestimated. The importance of the romantic kiss may even be significant because everyone craves for it as his noblest reward. A romantic kiss has always different meanings and values for different persons.

How to romantic kiss:

The romantic kiss is well recognized as a great second date kiss for the reason that it is slow and deepens the connection between you and your girlfriend. To feel joy of the romantic kiss, project your lips slightly, open your mouth a small bit, and tilt your head to side (usually being the right towards your girlfriend). Bend forward in to kiss, and slowly lock your lips one time they touch the lips of your girlfriend. Kiss your girlfriend’s upper or lower lip gently, then pull away slightly. Put about an inch or 3 cm between you and your girlfriend’s lips.

Be positive to keep your lips soft and gentle in lieu of hard and stiff because soft and gentle lips make the kiss much more romantic and tender. Romantic kiss is destined to be slow and soft. If in case, it is performed fast, it will be looked like appear sloppy and non romantic. Also, moist lips are necessarily must for perfectly enjoying this kiss. Dry and cracked lips feel rough and can smash the mood of kissing.

Why to prefer a romantic kiss:

-          It is helping you instant romantic relationship together with your girlfriend.

-          It does not matter in case you are married, single & dating, living together or in case you are male or female, a romantic kiss works.

-          It is helping in developing all types of romantic relationships.

-          It is helping you to bring romance back to your relationship.

All of us require that special moment when someone turns to  be comforted, both emotionally & physically, conversed with, have fun with, get indulged by, & experience warm companionship with your girlfriend.

“It is nothing to die; it is frightful not to live.” – Victor Hugo

          This quote is what apathy is all about. By this, Hugo is trying to tell us that dieing and not living are not the same thing. When one dies, he ceases to breathe, and his heart stops beating. His brain stops sending signals to the rest of his body, hs organs shut down, and, in essence, his body becomes broken. When one does not live, however, they can lose interest in life. They do not die, but they can develop depression, lack of interest, suicidal thoughts, they may stop communicating with others, among many other possible side-effects. Essentially, they lose their connection with the rest of the world. They simply stop caring, either due to events that have happened in their life, such as the death of a family member, or the loss of their home. Apathy is often caused by a feeling of helplessness, a feeling that no matter what they do, they can’t change their situation, no matter how bad it is. One example 1is when can be the risk of losing your job. When, for example, a company is bought out by another company, the company that was bought out will have to make lay-offs to their employees. When somebody who works at that company does not have a sense of job security, they may develop worker’s apathy. In their mind, if the company doesn’t care about them, why should they do any work? Either they’re going to lay me off, or they’re going to keep me on, and until then, nothing I do matters, because it’s not going to change their mind.1 Synonyms of apathy include dispassion, halfheartedness, insensitivity, disconcern, disinterest, emotionlessness, and stoicism. However, nothing quite somes up the the above situation quite like apathy. Apathy, in short, is the lack of caring, or interest in the outside world. Apathy, while not technically a disease, is a very serious condition, because, as I mentioned before, it can lead to other conditions, such as depression, suicidal thoughts, disconnection with the rest of the world, and ultimately, if these conditions are not recognized and dealt with in time, death. One who feels apathy is not likely to mention it to other people, for a variety of reasons. For one, they may not know how to talk about what they’re going through, or they may not want to talk about it, because they feel like nobody can help them. They also may not want to talk about it because they feel it is something they can deal with on their own. However, another, and perhaps the most common, reason that people don’t talk about apathy is because they don’t realize that what they are feeling is apathy. They don’t realize how destructive their behavior is, and they don’t see it as a serious condition that needs to be dealt with. Apathy is very sad, because it is not often caught until it has developed further, and oftentimes it is too late once that has happened. Therapists can help people deal with apathy, but, the majority of the time, the one thing that can help an apathetic person is a feeling of power and control. If they feel in control of their own destiny, if they feel that what they do has an effect on them and on the people around them, they will start to reconnect with life, and eventually, their apathy may go away. In short, an apathetic person needs to feel that they pilot their own life, that they are their own captain. This is not to say that when dealing with an apathetic person, we should just leave them alone and let them work it out. No, when you meet an apathetic person, the best thing you can do is to help them by giving them a feeling of control. Only then can they truly start to feel that they matter.

1 = www.personaldevelopment.com/chuck/apathy.htm

   Researchers have begun to develop drugs capable of producing human emotions. They also are studying brain chemistry responsible for the complex feelings that stimulate attraction to a member of the opposite sex and contributing to monogamy. Animal tests have begun to shed light on the complex neural and genetic components of love in the same way that led, in the past, the discovery of pharmaceutical solutions for anxiety, phobias and post-traumatic disorders. Behavioral scientist Larry Young of Emory University in Georgia argues that “drugs that can manipulate at will increase or decrease the feeling of love for someone may not be at a distance too great.” Experiments have already shown that oxytocin a hormone secreted by the pituitary gland enhance the feeling of trustand engender popular. Many websites already offer products’ increased confidence, self “substances such as water in the composition of the colony with oxytocin and esters, called pheromones,” made ​​specifically to enhance the success of individual life love affairs. “Professor Young said “Although it is unlikely that such products do nothing but increase the confidence that they use in Australia are serious studies to determine if the oxytocin based spray can be used in marital therapy.”

Canon Love (Photo credit: Phalaenopsis Aphrodite)

So, don’t cry and don’t feel sorry for your father, because whether one dies at 55 or 95, it makes no difference. Somebody’s dream is a little shorter and somebody’s dream is a little longer, but a dream is a dream! The length of the dream does not matter in the final analysis. In the final accounting, how long you dream does not matter. You can be 55 or 95, but whenever death comes, the whole is annihilated. It is just as when you wake up in the morning and the whole night and the dream world is simply no more meaningful — it loses all meaning.

Whenever somebody like a father or a mother dies, something in you also dies. A father is not just outside; his being overlaps your being. You have come through him. He has been the vehicle to bring you to life and he occupies some inner space. When a father or mother dies, something in you also dies with them. You will never be the same again — a gap will be there. A father cannot be replaced, a mother cannot be replaced. So rather than crying and feeling sorry — because those are tricks of the mind to avoid death… if you look at death directly in the eye without letting emotions interfere, then death becomes meditation.

Your father has died — this is a fact. Now, whether you cry or not makes no difference, so what is the point? Death has happened; you cannot undo it. So, rather than wasting time, look deeply into it, and in the death of your father you will see your own death coming, and the death of your children, and the death of your grandchildren.

Death is a universal fact — nobody is an exception to it; all are included in it. Look into the fact of death and you will see whole existence dying, and that will give you deep insight — not only about death but about life, because it is life that brings death.

Does the media help turn entertainer’s from good to bad? It is quite possible that all the negative attention that the media exposes could make a person go off the deep end. They are looking for acceptance and love, which in many cases none of that happens. Some are unable to function without something to hold on to. They travel from place to place with lonely feeling bottled up inside them and their bodies begin to wear down. They become weak and look for something that will kill the pain. We have a habit to think that  entertainer’s who live in their lavish homes have no worries. This is far from the truth they have worries alright. They have to pay Uncle Sam a whole lot of money and in many cases their money is stolen from them. Again there is no excuse for the destructive behavior but there may be more clarity  as to why they become more prone to such behavior. We need to be more understanding and create positive environments for entertainers. There’s a price for fame and popularity.

Would you want people around you all the time who do nothing but bark at you with their demands? They have to put so much time and effort in every endeavour that their exposed to. The media want allow them to rest and the world can place so much judgement that, some can’t deal with it. Many times they never let go of the past and bring it in their music or on screen. The world just needs to be more understanding and give them some space. We all need space from time to time and surely hate when we are judged. We have lost many and we should try and help save lives. They contribute so much and deserve so much more than they have been getting. Love is always better than hate. Love and you’ll find better results.

Hostility (Photo credit: crdotx)

My six-year-old son doesn’t like to clean his room.  Instead of cleaning his room without dispute, he argues and whines.  When I told him to clean his room, he tried to make excuses to not clean it.  This ended up into an argument between my son and I. I yelled at him when things got heated.  I threatened to spank him if he didn’t get in his room and clean it.  My beliefs were that he was trying to argue with me because he didn’t want to clean it and that he was trying to test me like he always does.  I believed that if I didn’t get him to clean his room, he would end up never cleaning it and it would be a horrible mess for me to clean up.  I believed that the only way I would get him to clean his room is if I yelled at him to insure that he knew I was serious.  The consequences of these beliefs were that I only became more angry and I yelled at him.  This in turn made the argument bigger with me yelling and my son crying and yelling back at me.  Instead of believing I would never get him to clean his room, I should have instead not fueled the argument by yelling and stuck him in his room until he decided to clean his room to show that I was serious.  Even if he was trying to delay it so he wouldn’t have to clean it, he would have been stuck in his room for him to deal with his anger until he calmed down and decided to clean his room.  This in turn would show that he can’t test my authority.  Having this type of goal makes me feel more in control of my emotions.  It also makes me feel secure in knowing that next time he tries to argue to get out of cleaning his room, I have consequences set to let him know that he can’t do this.

In class, it was discussed that hostility leads to heart disease.  “The higher percentage of hostility is equal to the higher percentage of heart disease.”  So, the more hostility that is shown, the more likelihood that heart disease will develop in those people.  In the video we saw in class, they were discussing how punching a punching bag when mad might or might not decrease anger.  In fact, the video explains “there is no scientific evidence that punching a punching bag works.”  This type of expression only breeds more aggressiveness.  It was also explained in class with the video that “anger doesn’t help relationships, it only makes them worse.  Consequences need to happen instead of yelling and screaming.”  So, yelling when people get angry only breeds more aggressiveness.  This can also increase chances of health problems in the future.  Instead of yelling, people may need to step away for a moment to calm down and come back when they are calm.  Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is “A type of therapy that aims to develop beliefs, attitudes, thoughts, and skills to make positive changes in behaviors.” (Health Psychology Linda Brannon and Jess Feist).  If someone has issues with controlling their thoughts when they are angry, they should seek out Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy.

In Health Psychology class, the instructor handed out a questionnaire for us all to fill out and score ourselves on hostility.  There were 3 dimensions that were scored.  The first dimension was cynicism, which is defined as: “a mistrusting attitude regarding the motives of people in general, leading one to be constantly on guard against the “misbehavior” of others.”  The second dimension was anger, which is defined as: “the emotion so often engendered by the cynical person’s expectation of unacceptable behavior on the part of others.”  The third dimension on this test was aggression, which is defined as: “the behavior to which many hostile people are driven by the unpleasant negative emotions of anger and irritation.”  As I scored myself on this test, I was actually surprised by my scores.  I don’t see myself as an angry or hostile person because I don’t show it too often, but this test showed me that I may be wrong.  On the cynicism dimension, I scored a 4.  On the anger dimension, I scored a 7.  This means I need to work on ways to reduce it.  On aggression, I scored a 5, which means I’m borderline on this dimension on this level as well.  on cynicism and aggression, I didn’t score that high.  But, I’m surprised on how much I scored on anger.  On question 13, I answered that “I am apt to keep thinking about something for hours if someone treats me unfairly.”  This is true, I tend to dwell on things too much instead of letting them go.  On question 16, I answered “when I am caught in a slow-moving bank or supermarket line I usually start to fume at people who dawdle ahead of me.”  I do tend to get impatient if I’m standing in a long line, but I don’t start to yell at people in front of me because I don’t feel it’s their fault.  I get impatient and keep it inside.  I usually think that it’s the fault of the cashiers and managers.  Usually, I think that there’s not enough cashiers to help the customers, and that’s what makes me impatient.

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is a good technique to use with hostile people.  I believe this can help greatly with controlling aggressiveness.  When I thought of ways I should act with my son when cleaning his room, I believ that it helped me cope with it in better ways.  It helped me have goals in the future so that way I can deal with my anger in a more effective way.  It makes me feel good to know that I have other ways to deal with my son.  Thinking of ways to deal with it effectively gives me confidence in myself for the fact that I can actually think of better ways to deal with it.  I just hope that I can remember this the next time I get angry and my son tries to argue with me when it’s time to clean his room.  Strengths on using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is that it helps people cope with their issues in other ways than using aggression.  It can give people confidence when these strategies are used because they may have thought of these strategies on their own.  It can also give them confidence because they actually used these methods instead of resulting to aggression.  On top of these benefits, it also can help with future health problems by dealing with anger respectively.  But, there also may be weaknesses to using Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy in coping with aggression and hostility.  One issue is that the person who seeks out therapy needs to realize they need the help in dealing with their hostility.  People who don’t want the help, can’t get the help they need because they’re refusing to change.  Another weakness to Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is that sometimes emotions may be so high that people may not want to or not think about the alternative way to react to their anger.  Overall, I believe Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy can be a great way to decrease hostility and aggression.  But, it does have weaknesses as well.