An ex-boyfriend from long long ago is still lurking somewhere in your mind? Maybe even somewhere in your heart?! Uh-oh you’re in trouble (and you know it too). But that’s the problem with a lot of us women. Even though we know that he was totally wrong for us, cheated on us, didn’t care for us the way we did… we STILL think about him every day! Why why why????

The answer is simple! The men have it right about us. Even when we have everything we need and want in our lives we always somehow manage to find something else that we could do with. Girls don’t deny it. How many of you can honestly put your hand on your heart and say that you are in a perfectly happy relationship and don’t think (not even once) how things would have been if you were still with that ex? Once again the men have it right… us women just simply can never be satisfied. And maybe some of us don’t even want to be with that ex because we have the sense to know that he is a complete idiot… but we would like at least (and I am guilty of this myself) for him be completely madly in love with us so that we can make him suffer by flaunting our new boyfriend in front of him.

Anyway forget about the men having it right… it’s perhaps the only thing they got right on us! Why do we think about our exes? Why do we want to hold on to them in some way? I think there are several reasons for this. Some of us probably still wonder if we did something wrong. Some of us think that we drove them away. We didn’t do enough to please them so they cheated on us! What a load of…!!! Surely the basic point is that he cheated! Or he just didn’t want to be with you! Whatever the case is it happened! BUT it is a woman’s nature to blame herself for everything (contrary to what men might believe). It simply comes from the desire to be perfect. If something isn’t right then it’s because we didn’t make it right, we didn’t try hard enough. But really most of us are just too hard on ourselves. He cheated because he’s a CHEAT. He’s not good enough for you. End of! Move on!

Other women (unfortunately) like to live life dangerously. Somehow it seems sexy and mysterious to have a rendezvous with a blast from the past. In some way it is seen as an achievement, a case of “I still make him feel that way”. Its control! Once again it’s about that need for perfection. If he has stopped being interested it means that you’re not as wonderful as you used to be. NO it doesn’t mean that! It simply means he’s moved on and it’s about time you did too!

The past has its place. In the PAST! If you broke up there was a reason for it. Let it go and look forward J (Obviously if it was over something stupid then use the second chance card!)