He says it

He shows it

but does he love me? or does he love this little child that never left his cradle?

Sure he tells me to be a Man, but apparently a Man isn’t what I thought it was 

Apparently a man is someone who is a robot

Apparently a man is just Mr. Perfect who doesn’t have anything wrong with him.

A man is somehow just a guy that does not pick his own bedtime. his daddy picks it for him.

Sure he says he loves me, but he sure as hell doesn’t respect me….

Granted I am a teenanger, I am not an adult, but I’m not a kid either. 

Sure he can say 

” please, come set the table” 

and I would say Yes

” please, take out the garbage”

and I would say Yes

” please, come and eat dinner”

and I would say Yes

but no its all 

” Get to the table”

” take out the garbage”

” COME DOWN, and EAT DINNER!”

its as if the word please doesen’t exist to him

He says that I should be grateful.. and I should

He says that I should feel happy.. and I should

but he is making that very difficult

I don’t want my Father’s love, I want my Father’s respect

The one thought that scares me, is that one day I could grow up to be just like him….

Maybe I shouldn’t have children.

As Adults We Have Choice

As a child we often had no choice in events or what people did to us. We were helpless at times to change circumstances As an adult, you may be carrying around left over victim thoughts and habits that are needing to be changed. While then you did not have the power you do now. Here are some victim traps we can fall into and how to change our mind-set to get out of them.

• I know I’m going to lose: This type of mind-set will only guarantee that you will lose. If you decide to believe you can and will win and you deserve to, you won’t tolerate the idea of losing.
• I get upset whenever I have to confront someone: If you expect to be upset you will be. Tell yourself you are not going to be upset and you won’t allow anyone else or yourself to upset you.
• The little guy never has a chance: You are not a ’little guy’ unless you believe you are. This kind of thinking puts you on the losing side of the guy you have made more important than yourself. Go into every situation expecting to attain your goals.
• I’ll show them they can’t dump on me: This sounds tough, but with this attitude you will always lose. Your goal is not to show anything to anybody but to find peace within yourself. You are allowing them to control you with this type of thinking and then can be easily victimized.
• I hope they won’t get mad at me for asking: Your concern about them ‘getting mad’ is again allowing them control over you and your life. Once people know you are intimidated by their anger they often will victimize.
• They’ll probably think I’m stupid if I tell them what I did: Here you have made someone else’s opinion of you more important than your own. Place no one’s opinions above your own, you count, you matter.
• I’m afraid I’ll hurt their feelings if I do what I want: This is another tack that will leave you victimized and unhappy. If others know they can manipulate you with this fear, they will. Realize that the most important thing is that you be happy. They will accept it and move on once they can’t use it against you.
• I can’t handle this alone: I’ll get someone who isn’t afraid to handle if for me: This attitude will get you no where and will hamper you making decisions and choices that can improve your life. Learn to face your fears and fight your own battles. People won’t victimize you when you do.
• They shouldn’t do this, it’s not fair: Here we often judge things the way we would like the world to be, rather than the way it is. People will simply act in unfair ways that is reality. Confront their actions in a kind way, speaking up takes back your power.

Expect the Best and We Often Get It

In life we often become what we expect we will become. You will become a non-victim when you stop expecting to be victimized and treated badly. To do this you must develop an attitude of expecting to be happy, healthy , functional and not abused. The first step to becoming a non-victim is to decide you will no longer be one.

Source: Pulling Your Own Strings, Dr. Wayne W Dyer, Harper and Row

Easter Wishes Sent Your Way 

April 08, 2012

Smiles and Inspiration 2012

King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.) Matthew 28: 6

He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.

King James Version (KJV) John 3: 16

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

He is Risen !  The true meaning of the Easter season.   Not the colored easter eggs, or the special chocolate rabbits.  Not the sharing of the easter baskets or the jelly beans.  No not even the ham and trimmings.  The true meaning of this holiday is the empty grave  and the knowledge that he is risen! 

How blessed we are to know this.  To have knowledge that God even after all of the transgressions and faults that we as children have chosen to fall into.  That he sent his son so that we may have everlasting life.    Awesome news : )

So it has indeed been a while since my last post.  I think of you all daily and much has been going on.  Happy to report that it is all good…. no all great.

My life has been flowing into a positive direction.  My goals are slowly starting to form into objectives, tasks, progress is at my feet and I continue to step into a good direction.  A direction for me and my family that feels and is by my choice.

Thank you for all your prayers and kind words.

Sure I know that life is a series of waves, and I am sure you know this as well.

We are either riding a wave head held high or being crashed by a wave.  But still can we hold are head high?  I say yes.  I know we can.  We can look in the mirror and know that we have all the “right stuff” to handle any and all crisis that may befall us.  We can, and we will.

We will not try to handle it.  For to try is to not even do.  As Yoda said there is no try only do or not do.

So today, this Easter Sunday know the following:

He is risen !

He is sitting in heaven at the right hand of God !

He came so we may have everlasting life !

We are created to be happy and filled with joy and love.

We are created to share in that happiness, joy and love.

We have 2 eyes to see, 2 ears to listen, 2 hands to reach out.

We also have 1 mouth to speak, and 1 heart to love and 1 mind to utilize all of our choices.

Choose wisely.

Love deeply.

Care always.

Pray everyday.

Smile forever

Live with it all.

Dream big, Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish and live with Passion  Smiles to you this day and everyday : )

The New Affirmation for the month of April 2012

Today I will start fresh, will look to the heavens in prayer, rise from bed with joy leaping from my heart.  Today I will take time to love a little more, be kinder to complete strangers and be a friend to nature.   Today I will be more for when I become more I will become stronger, wiser and more significant for the world.  I will ensure laughter is part of my daily routine.  I will also find something to move me to tears.  Because when laughter is a part of the day and tears are also part we have indeed lived a more full day.  I will dream more, love more and always live each day with a positive attitude.  So this month will be filled with days like this.  This pattern begins now.

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PRAYER FOR THIS MONTH

GOD THIS PRAYER IS SIMPLE AND MY HEART YEARNS TO BE CLOSER IN MY WALK

THIS PRAYER IS SIMPLY TO SAY THANK YOU!

THANK YOU FOR THE NATURE THAT SITS OUTSIDE MY WINDOW.

THANK YOU FOR THE LIFE THAT EXTENDS MY POSSIBILITIES.

IN THE SIMPLEST OF TERMS I SAY THANK YOU

AMEN : )

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Fun Links to have

Daily Countdown to Spring 

Sound Cloud 

A cool Time piece for the web

Next Full Moon 

More to come … Enjoy : ) 

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: )

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written by Victor Yakin copyright protected 2011* 2012

New Month ~ New You

April 01, 2012

Smiles and Inspiration 2012

A new month starts and a fresh new path awaits you.  Sure it is April Fools Day a sure way to pull a prank or a slight of hand. Sure I could say this would be my last post but you would not believe me right?  

So a new month the fourth month of the year.  What goals have you made for this month.  I you have not had a chance to review any of last months post please click on the link to review the month of March 2012.

This month lets start a new, a fresh start.  For me last month was awesome.  A new women entered my life and she has changed my heart and my spirit for the better.  Thank you Lourdes : )

I had a record month of sales in my automotive career.  My previous record was 21.5 a few years back and this past March 2012 I sold 27 units.  I thank all those who purchased and if I can ever give anyone advice or help you please email me at vyakin@makemesmileonline.com

Top 5 things we can do to start fresh this month.

Each day we should: 

# 1  Get plenty of prayer and meditation in.

# 2  Get plenty of spoken gratitude in each day.  To start and finish with this makes a world of difference

# 3  Start each day with positive affirmation much like the one below for the month of April.

# 4  Review your daily, weekly, monthly goals and objectives.

# 5  Laugh each day, be moved to tears each day and if you did the first four things above you gave thought which will give you a full day.

Dream big, Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish and live with Passion  Smiles to you this day and everyday : )

Oh by they way about me not writing anymore and this being my last post……..

April Fools : )   See you tomorrow : ) 

The New Affirmation for the month of April 2012

Today I will start fresh, will look to the heavens in prayer, rise from bed with joy leaping from my heart.  Today I will take time to love a little more, be kinder to complete strangers and be a friend to nature.   Today I will be more for when I become more I will become stronger, wiser and more significant for the world.  I will ensure laughter is part of my daily routine.  I will also find something to move me to tears.  Because when laughter is a part of the day and tears are also part we have indeed lived a more full day.  I will dream more, love more and always live each day with a positive attitude.  So this month will be filled with days like this.  This pattern begins now.

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PRAYER FOR THIS MONTH

GOD THIS PRAYER IS SIMPLE AND MY HEART YEARNS TO BE CLOSER IN MY WALK

THIS PRAYER IS SIMPLY TO SAY THANK YOU!

THANK YOU FOR THE NATURE THAT SITS OUTSIDE MY WINDOW.

THANK YOU FOR THE LIFE THAT EXTENDS MY POSSIBILITIES.

IN THE SIMPLEST OF TERMS I SAY THANK YOU

AMEN : )

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Fun Links to have

Daily Countdown to Spring 

Sound Cloud 

A cool Time piece for the web

Next Full Moon 

More to come … Enjoy : ) 

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Sharing a smile ~  Sending you love ~  Pass it on

: )

brought to you by Make ME Smile Online

written by Victor Yakin copyright protected 2011* 2012

The Process Day 6 of 7

Goals / Objectives

and SMART

Starting your day with focus and drive you will attain your wishes and plan.  Start your day in a fog and a mundane attitude your goals will be nothing more than a dream without a conclusion.

The first step in the morning, the first thought can help you achieve your dreams.  Your objectives and your focus on them will help you attain them.   

Spoken gratitude will help you understand the importance of being happy and grateful each day.

Prayer and meditation and giving thanks to your creator for all the daily gifts of nature and abundance that is around all of us.

Abundance and nature is the same for all of us.  It is there and free all we need to do is reach out and claim and obtain it.

Meditation that silent moment that you stop and listen to you heart, your thoughts and to that little voice inside.  What is your little voice saying?  Is it helpful?  Take time each day in silence.  Take time to listen and share your time of quiet in a helpful way.

This is your day.  A day to exceed, to excel.  What say you?    Say YES! 

One last day remains, we try to wrap it all up into one short and easy plan to achieve your goals and turn them into objectives and turn those into a plan to achieve and excel.

We will go on more with this process and may your weekend be blessed. : )

Just some thoughts and as always smiles sent to you this day and everyday.

New Affirmation for the Month of March ….. Use it daily and feel the change in you.

I walk with confidence and understanding towards success.  Born into a perfected state I strive to achieve my intended purpose, to love, to share and care for self and for others that come in contact with me.  I choose to be happy and share laughter.  Making a difference in another persons life for the better gives positive and ever flowing energy into my world.  I am focusing on my goals, the this moment goal, this day, my weekly goals and monthly goals I achieve because of my spirit and focus.  

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Quote of the Day 

For me, half the joy of achieving has been the struggle and the fight, the pitting myself against the world and all its competition – and winning.

: o ) Conrad Veidt

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Today in History (on this date)

1822 – The Florida Territory is created in the United States.

1842 – Ether anesthesia is used for the first time, in an operation by the American surgeon Dr. Crawford Long.

1867 – Alaska is purchased from Russia for $7.2 million, about 2 cent/acre ($4.19/km²), by United States Secretary of State William H. Seward.

1870 – Texas is readmitted to the Union following Reconstruction.

1910 – The Mississippi Legislature founds The University of Southern Mississippi.

1939 – The Heinkel He 100 fighter sets a world airspeed record of 463 mph (745km/h).

1981 – President Ronald Reagan is shot in the chest outside a Washington, D.C., hotel by John Hinckley, Jr.

1982 – Space Shuttle program: STS-3 Mission is completed with the landing of Columbia at White Sands Missile Range, New Mexico.

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Fun Links to have

Daily Countdown to Spring 

Sound Cloud 

A cool Time piece for the web

Next Full Moon 

More to come … Enjoy : ) 

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Daily Prayer for March

Thank you for another day in the world you created.

May my spirit inspire, inflate and bring joy and peace to another.

May I always speak my gratitude into the world and share my appreciation.

Guide me today to be wiser, more kind, help me to see deeper into this hurting world and perhaps give a bit of kindness to it.

May I always appreciate the nature that surrounds me.

The wind, the sunshine and the plants and trees that surround me.

Help me to understand that the energy around me is both helpful and strengthening.

In your word I seek peace and solace.

Thank you for another day.

Amen

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: )

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written by Victor Yakin copyright protected 2011* 2012

Such type of approach requires sympathetic consideration on another’s points of views. These people are sensible enough that they learn from their fights and do their best avoiding them in future. However, acknowledging the reason is one of the most important parts in the reconstruction of a broken relationship. Understanding each other’s feeling is the beauty in a healthy relationship. It includes the things that were right in the relationship and while considering what went wrong, it is important to understand the feelings of both the parties. Once you become conscious enough to start recognizing the reason for the misunderstanding, you will also be able to understand the expectations of both the parties that they need to fulfill for future betterment.

Another aspect to consider in the process of reconstruction is the agreements and decisions that have been taken by both sides. Not only considering but also honoring their decisions and agreements is also equally important.

Avoid making half promises. Promises are meant to be honored and kept at all costs. Once you have reached to the agreements and decisions, sticking by them are equally important from both sides. By keeping the same values, you will find it quite easy maintaining a healthy relationship in future.

One of the major tips in the reconstruction of the relationship process is not using sex as the basis of reconstruction process. Since it could form a habit and you could start seeing it as a solution after every fight that could have psychological effects. Though sex has the potential of increasing intimacy in your broken relationships but it could not minimizes the risk of future fights. Therefore, it is important to have communication going for creating better understanding and mental harmony between two parties. This type of approach not only minimizes the risk of future disagreements but also be fruitful in the long run.

As you know slowly and steady wins the race, hence it is essential taking step-by-step approach in the reconstruction of the relationship. If there is still a little chance or glow present in the relationship, it is essential to cool mindedly examine various aspects of the relationship and should work for regaining the trust and love that was present before. Don’t expect results suddenly, it requires a lot of communication and time for one or both the parties figuring out their weaknesses and then overcoming them. By doing so both will be able to achieve better perspective and at length succeed maintaining a healthy relationship. Disagreements and quarrels are not as bad as thought, but virtually they gives us chance to make our relationships even better than before.

By Muhammad Irfan Zafar

Content Writer

Wе јuѕt aсceptеd іt аs bеіng normal fоr hеr and I was even guiltу оf tеlling hеr nоt tо wоrrу, she wаѕ јust bоrn clumsу and would рrobably grоw out of іt!

It waѕn’t untіl I ѕtartеd dеvеlоріng a dеереr undеrstanding of hоw the Law оf Attrаctiоn workѕ that I realized nоt only wаs I асtuаllу mаkіng her clumsу bу expeсtіng her tо bе сlumsу, but I аlsо mаde hеr beliеvе ѕhе wаs clumѕy and sеnd оut subсоnsсiоuѕ vіbrаtiоnѕ thаt put her іntо ѕituаtіons wherе ассidеnts were mоre lіkelу tо haрреn!

“If уou exрeсt ѕоmething tо hарpеn іt will!”

I want to rеpeat thаt ѕo іt ѕtіckѕ in уоur mind.

“If you еxрeсt ѕomething to hаррen it will!”

Wе aѕ рarentѕ have a рaternаl responѕibіlіtу tо teаch our сhіldrеn hоw thе Lаw оf Attractіоn works sо that thеу will grоw uр undеrstаndіng the сrеatіve lawѕ оf our unіvеrѕe аnd lіvе a lіfе оf аbundance аnd рrоѕреrіtу.

Unfоrtunately, prоbably beсauѕе оf thе thіngѕ оur оwn раrentѕ tаught us like “Monеy doesn’t grоw on trееs yоu know!” and “We can’t аfford thаt!” іt iѕ all tоо еаsy tо fall intо the trap оf rеpеating thе things we wеrе tоld as сhildrеn to our оwn сhіldrеn.

Beforе I startеd studуіng thе Lаw оf Attraсtion, I had bееn uѕіng the оld сoр out, “Wе dоn’t hаvе еnough mоney to buу that” withоut еven thіnking abоut it еvеrу tіmе mу dаughtеrѕ askеd for ѕоmеthіng. Nоt оnly was I іnѕtаlling into their subconѕсіоus mіndѕ that we wеre рoor, I wаѕ аlsо ѕubсonsciоuslу ѕеnding thаt thought оut into thе unіverѕе mуѕelf and gеttіng bасk еxactlу what I was аskіng for!

Wе hаvе tо bе far mоre cоnѕсіouѕ of what we tеaсh оur childrеn if we wаnt thеm tо еxсel аnd livе an abundant аnd prоѕpеrous lіfе.

Therе iѕ one аmаzing fаct that аlways stiсkѕ in my mіnd thаt I wаnt to ѕhаre wіth yоu all.

Aеrodуnаmіcаlly а bumblе beе ѕhouldn’t bе аblе to flу, but nо one hаs tоld thе bumble bеe that so іt јust goеѕ оn flуіng!

Bе cаreful whаt уоu tеасh yоur сhіldrеn!

If yоu сould lіvе life wіthоut any exреctаtіonѕ you would nеver bе dіsарроіntеd. But mоst реорlе аlѕо wаnt tо enjоy lіfе аnd put theіr hеаrt іnto ѕomething in hореѕ оf aсhіеvеmеnt. So іt ѕееms lіke yоu must have an exрectatіon tо аccomрlіѕh somеthing. Thіs іѕ hоw moѕt рeoрle live thеіr lіvеs, thеу have аn еxpeсtаtion and then they рursuе it. Thеn thеу еіther асhіeve it or thеy don’t. Whеn thеy do not асhіеve thеir еxресtаtіоn that іѕ whеn thе heart ache ѕеts іn.

Is thеre аnоthеr way оf lіvіng lіfе thаt сould produсе mоre аbundаnсе аnd аlwaуѕ lеavе yоu hарру? Iѕ thеrе а waу to lіve yоur lіfе thаt wоuld give уоu mоrе thаn if you have аn exресtаtіon? Abѕolutely!

Imagіne thаt уou аrе the mоѕt рowerful bеіng іn thе univerѕе аnd аnything уоu dеѕіred yоu соuld hаvе. Nоw you gеt аmnеsіа аnd уоu wаlk arоund thе mіnіons оf peoplе аnd you have fоrgоttеn уour mіrасulоuѕ power. Sо you begіn dоіng what they dо. Yоu ѕеt goаls. You get уоur hореs up. You dіlіgеntly slаve аwaу wіth yоur exрeсtаtіonѕ and уоu achіevе them! Well that іѕ аll finе аnd gоod, but you are thе mоѕt powеrful bеing in thе universе. Why iѕ that аll уоu acсomplіѕhеd? Thіs іѕ kіnd оf hоw moѕt реoрle lіvе their lіvеs. Theу рut thеir energу into mеetіng theіr gоаls. Thеу dоn’t even undеrstand how thеy choоѕе thе gоаls mоst оf thе timе. Thе mаjоrіty оf pеoрlе рiсk goalѕ baѕеd on fear. Plaіn and ѕimple they dо whаt thеу dо bесаuѕе thе altеrnativе іs scаry on ѕome levеl. Thеy hаvе an expесtаtion thеу must meеt becauѕе tо nоt mееt thаt еxpесtаtіоn wоuld ѕоmеhow make thеm lеss than what thеу аrе.

Exрeсtatiоn Limіtѕ Yоur Poѕѕіbilitіeѕ:

Expeсtatіоn is а limіtаtiоn. Plаіn and ѕіmрle. Truе mаѕterѕ оf аbundаnсe knоw thаt theіr еnеrgу iѕ infinitelу pоwеrful, іntеllіgеnt, lоvіng аnd сrеаtіvе. Thеy cаn fеel that еnergу pulѕing іnѕidе of themѕеlves аnd they fоllоwіng thоsе fеelіng which bring thеm the moѕt joу. Thе truly abundant in lifе know thаt thеіr enеrgу wіll brіng them morе thаn they could еver еxpeсt when thеy follоw their іntuition. How mаnу timeѕ hаvе you ѕeen ѕоmеоnе on thе news whoѕе busіnesѕ іs bооming and thе іntеrvіеwer ѕays, “Dіd yоu еver exрeсt thіѕ?” Thе respоnѕe iѕ alwауs the ѕаmе, “Nо. I had no іdea, I just likеd to dо ’such and ѕuсh’ аnd thеn іt kеpt growіng. I juѕt lovе what I dо ѕо muсh it wоuldn’t even mаtter if I got рaіd, but huh I guesѕ it dоеѕn’t hurt eithеr!” Thesе реoрlе arе thе ones wіth аbundаnсе. They аrе haрру, ѕuссеѕѕful and еxpectаtіоn (worrу) freе! Thеѕе реoрle follow theіr blіѕѕ, their раsѕіon, their іntuіtіоn and theу аrе never..nevеr diѕарpоіnted! Theіr whоlе livеs аrе enјoyablе bеcаuѕе аѕ thеу fоllоw thеіr blisѕ wоrk іs nоt work аnуmore. It is fun. Theу lеаve theіr work јuѕt as reјuvеnаtеd or mоrе so than whеn theу аrrіved. Theу еnjoу thеir lіves becаusе theу wеre іntеllіgent еnоugh tо fоllow thеir рasѕіon аnd nоt аn еxpесtаtіon. Thеу hаvе comе tо knоw that if theу fоllow the раth thеir intuіtіon gіvеs thеm, thе rеsultѕ wіll alwауѕ bе bettеr than theу соuld have еxрeсted. Thеy knоw thаt wе cаnnot, from our lіmіtеd perspесtіve, ѕее how our grеatеѕt goоd wіll unfоld. Thеу know that the еnergy thаt creаtеd uѕ, thіѕ world and thіѕ unіverse iѕ nоt deѕіgned to fail. It іѕ desіgnеd tо сreаtе and grow, sо they follоw thеіr іntuіtіоn.

Jоy, abundаnce and а dеер іnnеr pеаcе are yourѕ if yоu let gо of еxрeсtаtіоnѕ аnd truѕt уоur intuіtionѕ. Gіvе аll уour energу tо уоur paѕsion аnd уоur pаѕsіon will grоw. Juѕt lіkе thе tаllеst trеeѕ who hаve cоllectеd the moѕt enеrgy frоm the sun, уоur lіfе wіll grоw bеуond what yоu cоuld еxрeсt.

This places her in a very unfortunate, she is neither prepared for or thinking above the position she has existed in for over 17 years. She is a domestic and has walked to the bus stop and boarded a bus to ride for an hour and a half to the best part of the small southern town where everyone knows everyone’s business. It is well known that Caucasian and African- American or not on the same level in society. This was made law in every aspect of citizen’s lives. Many laws were legislated to ensure a complete separation of the races in every level of life.  If you observed woman in which you are interested as an African-American and she is White the laws were clear of the punishment that would follow. If on the other hand you were a Caucasian woman and wanted to marry an African-American man there were laws written specially for that situation also. On Monday April 15, 1985 Shebe takes a leisurely stroll to the bus stop and board the bus, taking her usual hour and a half trip. She is in her usual frame of mind do a half- hearted job and return home to the worst part of town and engages in mindless conversation with a group of ambitionless people.

The bus stops and in a flash she is off and into the large two story home with a well manicured laws, the like of which are only in this neighborhood. Shebe looks in on Imma B. and starts her daily retuine. She walks down the hall to a closes with all of the usual cleaning supplies. She selects the vacuum and unwraps the power cord and with her foot presses the start button. Shebe moves gracefully across the floor vacuuming and humming her favorite spiritual “Nobody Knows The Trouble I Seen”, after the vacuum is finished the dusting starts and hours has passed. The usual rooms are vacuumed, dusted, and the windows cleaned. It is near the noon hour and time for Imma B’s lunch. Shebe prepares the meal of pork chops with corn bread stuffing and a small salad, places it on a silver tray along with stainless steel flatware.  On her way to Imma B’s room she passes a door that she has never cleaned since Imma B’s slight stroke making it impossible to walk through her home without assistance.

The decision made by Imma B is behind this door and awaiting Shebe if she was doing the job she is paid for. Unfortunately she is not and will miss the opportunity of her lifetime. During her bus ride had she read books on improving her circumstance the opportunity would not have slipped through her experience? Sheba knocks on Imma B’s door as not to disturb her Imma B. answers and Shebe enters; the food is placed on the bed. The exchange a brief conversation the she is about to leave, when Imma ask “did you finish all your work, it your did I have a surprise for you” Sheba answer in an unconvincing manner, but is dismissed by Imma and she decides to allow Shebe to leave early not before paying her the 17 dollars for a full day of domestic service. Unfortunately, for Shebe this is the last time she will enter this luxurious home and the last time she will pass by the door of room she had not cleaned for months. This is the day she will remember for the rest of her life, she board the bus rides back to abject poverty and ignorance feeling she has done a poor job but received pay as if she did a fantastic job.

The bus stops for the second time delivering her several blocks from her home, she then must walk through an area without any positive sign empowerment. Shebe walks through a Pickett gate hanging by one hinge, a non-existent lawn, a house where the screen need repair window are missing and covered with cardboard. Shebe enters the house makes a straight line to the ancient television presses the button and nearly enters cardiac arrest. Police and new people surround the house she left with the well manicure lawn. Imma B died short after Shebe Down left the house smiling on her way home. Shebe could see in the background of the newscaster men with dollies were bring larger stacks of something out of the house, Shebe thought to herself,” I never saw that, what ever it is” and she was right she never saw the three-million dollars stacked in the room she never cleaned, and that Imma B. had had The Southern l Financial Trust close her and account and bring all of the money to her home and place it in the room Shebe never cleaned. Shebe was not prepared for and consequently missed three million dollar opportunity. This story fits into an old adage “during the most menial work never stop thinking”

Confidence is not giving a care about what people think of you,

Confidence is achieving things you want.

I learnt this valuable lesson from an early age, my parents used to say “if you have no confidence then you have no life” and you know what, I still believe every word of it. People with no confidence always have no self-esteem and are always self-conscious that’s why they don’t get far in life – lets face it, even if you get straight A’s you won’t get the job of your dream because your confidence will let you down in the job interview. Employers have changed in the last decade or so – not only are they looking for bright individuals, they’re looking for individuals that burst with confidence. People that believe in themselves and believe in what they can achieve. I have written this article to help those who are not so bursting in confidence and find them they’re confidence.

Be your own best friend:

I learnt this lesson from a you tuber and lets face it, it’s quite a good lesson. Some of you might think its stupid but i think its one of the most important lesson you need to learn to gain confidence. Confidence isn’t something you can buy in a shop – you have to build it up like a strong brick and steel sky scraper. You can’t trust anyone as much as your own self – not even your closest friend because there’s a chance you might have a fight and she/he will go off telling anyone she/he can get her/his hands on. Its really important to be your own best friend – it makes you independent and helps you believe in your self. Independence is really important because it means that you don’t have to rely on people like your bank or friends cause they can make your life living hell. I mean if you really need help why don’t you comment yourself.

Don’t doubt yourself:

People with little or no confidence often doubt themselves – and that is a complete no no. Everyone must rely on themselves and believe in every decision they make, if you doubt your self then others doubt you and believe me it wont create a good image of you. One of the things people who doubt themselves need to learn is to let go of expectations. Its usually people with high expectations that get greatly disappointed. When people get so greatly disappointed they start to doubt themselves. When something like that does happen, you need to question yourself and ask if there were any reason behind why you probably didn’t do so well. By doing this you are separating your expectation and disappointment.

Stop comparing yourself:

This is one of the most common factors as of why people are lowering the confidence they have. I mean, people don’t care whether your not a skinny and fit as other people, not as clever as other people or not as popular as others – they care about who you are as a person. There might be a man or a women at work or school whose got the perfect body and is intelligent and is rich but that doesn’t mean they’re perfect and you HAVE to be like them. For all you know they might have lost family or might have had a bad past – REMEMBER, NO ONES PERFECT.

Love yourself:

Many people hate themselves, they’re body or their personality. Every single person is individual and unique – there is no such thing as perfect. Love yourself and always think about how lucky you are because there are people in Africa and poor countries where they will do hard manual work for a penny a day, not being able to afford to feed their family and having to watch their children,babies and wives starve to death and just knowing that they will never get anywhere in their life. Think about how lucky you are safe and sound in the comfort of your home with an education that can achieve you anything you’ve ever want.

Bullying:

Everyone has experienced bullying once in their lifetime whether at school or at work. Bullying can really lower ones self esteem as that’s it purpose. Bullying can come in many forms, if it hurts your feeling then it counts as bullying. Try to build a shield around yourself, anything designed to hurt your feelings just gets rebound. Remember – harsh comments only become true when you make them true. If someone is being a bitch and is bitching about you then don’t try to bitch about them as-well, this will only make you just as bad as they are. The only reason why their bitching about you is because they want to look superior against someone that they know has no confidence because they think they can trample all over you. There’s a chance that their being bullied and they want to take out all their doubt in themselves on someone else to make them selves look good. Remember if it continues try to stand up for yourself, believe in yourself and tell someone you can trust because then your not on your own.

I hope this article has helped just remember – YOU ARE UNIQUE IN EVERY WAY!!!

Best of luck

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