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When is it spanking? When is it abuse?

Many will quote the Bible verse “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” The Bible Says: “He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes” (Proverbs 13:24) and “Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell” (Proverbs 23:13-14).But this was written in the Old Testament.

But the New Testament adapts the parenting instruction advising that a Christian leader should be “one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence, (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?). So then in considering these verses located in I Timothy 2:4 and 5 we can draw the conclusion that a good Christian leader leads his family with Christian doctrine not by striking them. The ultimate authority is Christ so the wise parent lives a Godly life leading by example.

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Encourage not discourage your child.

A child is to be disciplined with grace not beaten into submission. It is not about breaking the will of your child, but building up your child. We are given instruction on how to not discourage but encourage our youth. Physical punishment may keep your child in line while you are present to inflict the punishment, but what happens once the child is on his or her own? A child who is grounded in faith has a foundation which is instilled and helps a child to make appropriate decisions on his or her own.

Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. “

Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs provides a promise and a command, not a suggestion.

Grace can undo poor child training and one of God’s gifts, His righteousness is one of the best instructional tools known to man. Train your child with consistency, God’s doctrine and by example tempered with grace and love. We cannot make our children righteous as it is a gift from God. We can teach them God’s word and by living in a Godly way, they will seek the righteousness of God. “Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God” Romans 10:17. Is the child hearing the word of God?

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The author of the best-selling book “Raising a Thinking Child, Myrna B. Shure PhD wrote in her book Thinking Parent, Thinking Child “I don’t say “Never spank” an occasional spanking won’t hurt your child, and it may legitimately relieve your own anger and frustration. However, if you rely on spanking, you’ll encounter many unintended consequences. Perhaps the most serious result is that it teaches your child to disregard his own feelings.” Caring for their own feelings is the first step towards learning empathy.

The following results are born from frequent and harsh spankings:

• Spanking can cause a child to feel overpowered and helpless leaving him or her angry and frustrated. Needing to regain power they may feel the need to exercise power over those who are less threatening to them. This is how a bully can be born.

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• A child may withdraw emotionally from the parent who spanks them frequently losing trust and an emotional bond with that parent. They may also rebel from the very values that parent is striving to instil.

• Spanking causes a child to avoid the behaviour which caused the spanking but not to think about proper behaviour.

• Spanking may teach a child that hitting is an appropriate way to express anger and they may lash out physically when they are angry.

In conclusion, spanking should not be the only form of punishment. A parent needs to learn how to instruct a child as to the consequences of bad behaviour in a positive way to make discipline a teaching tool. Train your child in the ethics of the law, not the letter of the law so they can make wiser choices and they will feel more confidence and a stronger self-esteem when faced with life’s trials.

A farmer understands the need to separate animals to prevent violence and competition in the ranks, especially among males. Those who spend time observing creatures in the wild can also relate tales of sudden violent actions among animals that would be bereft of moral sanction in many human communities.

Selfish behavior is rampant in the animal kingdom as, in the wild, selfishness can often be a survival trait. Without the intellectual capacity to make a decision to share learning and training with others of a kind, self-preservation manifests as survival of the fittest and, most often, the strongest. Among insects, we can observe social structure dictated by chemical influence during the larval stage. In the herd and flocking structure of more advanced species like mammals and birds, we can see the evolutionary development of protected, if often exclusionary, societies.

We observe competition within herd and flock structures, as members chose mates, struggle for food, move up the ranks and eliminate competition. Research justifies this animal behavior as a method of eliminating the weak (burdens to the society) and insuring that only the most fit can breed. It is considered nature’s way of guaranteeing survival of species.

Following evolutionary principles, in which successful survival traits are passed onto the young and to new species, we can understand how the desire to bully enters the human framework. It is a 100% natural tendency that, in the wild, guarantees survival of the fittest.

Yet in human beings, nature also provided the intellectual capacity to survive without resorting to bullying. This is a learned trait characterized by the rationale that there are less barbaric ways to ensure survival of the masses.

Since control of the need to bully is a learned, and not instinctive trait, it becomes imperative that parents understand that the natural propensity of the young is to try to control the world around them. Bullying is one external manifestation of this desire. All humans are capable of bullying, not just those who show certain traits. Therefore, one does not have to wait for evidence that a child is on the path to becoming a bully to act proactively against that child becoming a bully.

Before a child is even born, it is receiving communications from the outside world. Conveying from the beginning, in not just words but also actions, that forcibly exerting one’s will upon others is wrong becomes the best weapon in combating the reality that all children are born capable of bullying. It is dangerous to conclude that your sweet and innocent new-born cannot be a bully or be the victim of bullying. Assume that both possibilities are true throughout life.

A conversational comfort zone must be established between child and parent from the beginning. Recall what it was like for you to be a child, to have questions, to have no comprehension of why certain things are right and other things are wrong. Adults are easily capable of overlooking the fact that socially acceptable behavior is not known to the young. Conveying an awareness and full comprehension of why certain things are right and wrong must be done before a child encounters a situation in which an action hinges upon a moral decision or impulsive behavior.

Therefore, the subject of bullying needs to come up frequently in household conversation during a child’s growth. Both sides of the issue need to discussed. Make the child aware of what constitutes bullying behavior. Additionally, make your child comfortable enough with you to talk about even small incidents during their day that may indicate that your child is a victim of bullying.

The chief weapon of bullies is fear and intimidation. A bully can become a more powerful influence than parents in a child’s life because of this fear. There is a lot of pressure on a child not to report or ‘rat out’ a bully. This pressure can come in many forms including:

• 1) A feeling of helplessness in that reporting a bully will result in bully retaliation;

• 2) A fear of not being believed by adults and/or that nothing can or will be done;

• 3) A fear that adult intervention further lowers the child’s standing in society because that child is weak enough to require adult (ie: ‘outsider’) protection…the fear of being labeled a wimp

• 4) Fear of disappointing parents (and in abusive households, fear of being punished for being weak).

We live in an intellectual society where physical prowess is no longer a major component of survival or even of finding a mate. Social reasoning has been the means through which humans have developed a more comfortable, healthy and protected society than has ever been observed in nature. Our intellect, combined with empathy for others, has made human beings fit to become the dominant life force on the planet. Physical strength no longer holds sway as our dominant survival strategy, but the instinct to use that strength has not dissipated. We still often tend to perceive weaker individuals as not being up to par.

If we instill a recognition in our young that all people have feelings, emotions and desires similar to theirs, it may affect a change in their behavior. The concept of “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is one that every child should be educated about from the moment they become capable of oral communication. Bullying is 100% natural but is also 100% unacceptable in human society.

One could viably argue that we are here to procreate, nothing more and nothing less. Just like any other animal in nature, we are driven to create and foster new life.

For some, religion answers the question, sort of. Religion suggests that human are here to please their Gods, to face trials and tribulations that will prepare them for the promised land, the so called “life after death”.

Some cultures believe that we continue to live on Earth, in different forms, until we reach perfection, to move to that promised land. Reincarnation can be in any form, from a short lived insect to a long living tree.

People ponder the reasons of existence because they, collectively, fear Death. Most people are afraid of Death, the fear is so great that they need to believe that life, somehow, must go on. And because people do procreate, they build their lives around that procreation, they learn, work and evolve to foster the family around them. The family around them is loved, natural insticnt calls for protection, and again, fear of Death prompts the thoughts of existence.

The greatest thing about being a human is our ability to think, but it can also be one of our greatest enemies. As the greatest thing, thought brings us joy and love, emotions that we are able to express and share. As our greatest enemy, the ability to think can cause confusion and fear.

Hey, this could be all wrong, there could be more to life than just life, but one may never really know. Death is the only way to answer the question, but for me, procreation is worth living for.

Hate and Fear go hand and hand…….

People ask me why I don’t hate. Why don’t I hate my abuser. I really dislike them of course I do.

I realized I have allot of anger but it isn’t directed at the person, but at the behavior. What they did to me. I hate how they treated me.

That is why I stay away from them. I don’t like the drama and lies. The backstabbing and deceit. The falseness and superficial relationship.

I like honesty and keeping it real. I like to smile and laugh. I had enough crying in my lifetime. In my childhood and in the military. Enough is enough.

So as a adult I can control my life, I can control my environment and what type of behavior I allow in my life. That means the type of people I develop a relationship with. I can’t be a fake friend. I am to real for that.

I keep bad behavior out of my house and life. We control our world. Don’t let other people’s bad behavior interfere in your world no matter what the relationship is. Relatives, co-workers, siblings, neighbors…..if their behavior isn’t good for you, irritates you or your home darn it control your world…….

Stop it at your door….You don’t have to allow the behavior in your world…..It is YOUR world!!!!

How I don’t hate the person but the behavior? I know many donn’t understand that. But think about it.

 How does a person forgive? How do they allow a person back into their life? They forgive the behavior, the act the person committed. Because the person is still the same. You can hope they change, you can hope they won’t do whatever it was they did again. But you didn’t forgive based on character. You either decided it was good for you to forgive the act or they asked for forgiveness. That doesn’t mean “THEY” changed.

It is the same concept as fear. It is the ACTION..Not the person…….Not the place…It is what was done or is done…..

Reality of Fear:

 You arent scared of the dark, you are scared of what is in it.

You arent afraid of heights, you are afraid of falling.

 You arent afraid of the people around you, you are afraid of refection or distrustful.

 You arent afraid of love, you are afraid of not being loved back.

 You arent afraid to let go, you are afraid to admit they are gone.

 You arent afraid of getting hurt again, you are afraid of getting hurt again for the same reasons.

 It is funny how we can turn things around in our head. For those that have been hurt, it isn’t love they should be scared of ….It is the TYPE of people that hurt you. For those that have are distrustful, learn to set boundaries….then you wont be afraid of those around you For those that don’t know what is in the dark, take a light..don’t put yourself in places or positions where you know you are going to be uncomfortable.

For those afraid of not being loved back, dont give your all to someone who treats you as a option. Never love someone more than yourself. So instead of generalizing your fears, narrow them down alittle. Then you can tackle them head on a little at a time…step by step…..

You see you set boundaries….You can love…You just insure you are also being respected. You insure it is 100%/100%…… Reality of fear is everything is not what it seems at first…. Baby steps…….narrow it down and take small steps……and you will find facing your fears isn’t that hard after all.

If you think you are afraid of water is that true or is a fear of drowning? Don’t BLAME the water…It is YOUR fear of drowning…

There are many factors involved in BLAMING, finding reasons, fault or any excuse to validate feelings……Always look at the facts…THINK not feel about the situation and you will react differently. Because if you were truly afraid of water…you wouldn’t bathe…

So always look at your “FEAR” and see what it is you are really afraid of.

Makes it alittle easier to deal with… SO look at your fear and place the blame where it belongs…..The action, the behavior…Then you can do something about it

One step at a time ♥

At times, it’s these unknowns that paralyze some men and ladies and forestall them from taking action. they’re going to attempt to discover each very little issue and arrange everything before they take any action. sadly, there’ll typically be unknowns. there’s no such issue as 100 percent certainty. Things practically never ever calculate the means you intend them. you’ll actually bet on that!

On the opposite hand, you want to notice that somewhat everybody has these issues. however the distinction typically times is that individuals who appear to possess no worries typically tend to not target what they’re frightened of. They specialize in what wish and not on what they do not want. for a few of those folks, these fears
can even be a supply of nice thrill.

A person who chooses to skydive is concentrating on the fun and excitement of it and not the concern of it. Their want of the expertise is larger than their concern of it. that’s what gets them to require the action. For them, to not take action isn’t straightforward. we tend to tend to try to to what we tend to want the foremost.

Anyhow, if you’re progressing to live a stronger than average life, you’ll need to endure some unknowns, that abundant is guaranteed. you’ll need to surrender some predictability and certainty in your life. Not everything goes to materialize in keeping with your ways. you’ll ought to build modifications in your goals and ambitions on your thanks to prosperity. that’s not essentially such a nasty issue, it’ll add spice to your life.

Of course, it’s nice to create plans and set goals however be able to make some modifications. you’ll ought to become versatile. the aim of your goals is to create you are taking action within the right direction, and aid you to mentally prepare for achievement. it’s to not cause you to inflexible regarding how things are progressing to calculate.

But it doesn’t even have to be scary. the foremost vital issue to grasp is that you just can master the way to handle circumstances as you evolve and progress. Another vital issue is that you just can ought to specialize in your goals and your dreams and not your fears.

You will ought to build your dreams stronger than your fears; that’s the key. you’ll try this by attaching your passions along with your dreams. discover what it’s that turns you on, what’s it that gets you going? What evokes you? it is not perpetually more cash. Once you work out what your passions are, you’ll begin knowing what your real dreams are.

So begin along with your passions and target what you want to make, instead of that specialize in your fears. It will lead you to a far a lot of fulfilling life.

She wanted the community and world to know that children in this country are abused every day, just as she was, who are afraid to come forth. Abusers are pillars of the community. They are respected members of churches. They are your next door neighbor. They are your dad’s best friend. They are your Scout Master. They are your Sunday school teacher, sometimes it’s your own dad. Nobody wants to believe it can happen to a child they know. We don’t want to believe a leader in our community, our co worker, or pastor  is a child molester. Alby said, “Telling the truth, after feeling shame all these years changed my life.”

In Georgia a victim of abuse previously had seven years from the time a report was filed with a government agency or the victim’s 16th birthday to press criminal charges, but recently the Georgia General Assembly struck that law down to eliminate the statute of limitations. Which is a big win for all children of abuse. This will give these children a chance to tell what happened to them later in life as adults. Alby said, ” Most victims of child abuse cannot even think about coming forward before 20 or 30 years have passed.”

Alby said when she was 12 she tried to tell her Sunday school teacher but her teacher didn’t take her seriously and she was so ashamed she never mentioned it again until she revealed the truth in her thirties. Alby said her abuse took place every day in her home. This child lived her own worst nightmare with no one to turn to. She dated, married, divorced, her parents died and she was still haunted by the abuse. She said she wants to tell her story to help others who are in the situation she was in. To let the victims understand they were victims, and can still live a normal life without shame

Ruby’s Articles:

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http://socyberty.com/issues/was-the-popes-apology-another-cover-up/

http://socyberty.com/issues/violence-against-women/

Some people live for their aim, while others for happiness and success. There are yet other people who live for life itself. But since living is universal, the reason behind it should also be universal; same for everyone. But with different kinds of people(even organisms) and their ever different ideologies ; what is that one thing that makes them equal on every level.

It nothing but the omnipresent death.

Having myself faced the fear of death for two times, I think there is nothing more frightening than feeling its presence near you. It’s as if a sword is hanging over your neck and even a second of bad luck can cost your life. It makes me think that deep inside every one of us knows that one day we will get to our end, to the death bed. That there is no one who can avoid death.

But still we get so insecure at its thought. As if our whole existence is nothing in face of it. What we forget to remember is that all through the years of our lives we live for death, wait for its arrival. But the brain is a tricky little thing. It lays down excuses to live, which are nothing but our aspirations in life. We make ourselves believe that we cannot die without fulfilling our dreams. That whatever be the situation, we have to fight back and live to accomplish our aim of life.

But human aspirations have no endings. When we reach the moon, we aim for the farther stars, as if life is present at infinity. But then a day comes when these accomplishments become too small. When there is nothing that can take you back, that can stop you from dying. Then these things become mere excuses to make you believe that you have to live. Then there remains nothing big, no reason to live but to die itself.

Enigma

Bullying, according to some, is sort of a rite of passage. A source of stress and anxiety, as well as fear, that everyone has to endure at one point or another. The advent of the Internet and better, more advanced communications technologies has not really changed this, though the virtual world has given bullied children a place to go where they won’t be targeted for being physically weak. For most, the Internet is a place where one’s ideas and ability to express ideas solidly is more valuable than muscle fitness and raw power. However, that may all be changing with the times, arguably due to the Internet itself slowly changing into a more and more tangible community.

The Internet has long been home to a number of “virtual communities” that mirror those found in the real world. These communities are often based on a common interest shared by members, such as video games, anime, certain genres of books, or cult TV shows. A little surfing can lead someone to find forums, chat rooms, and wikis (databases that can be edited and added to by the community itself, rather than a single administrator or group) dedicated to a wide range of topics. This virtual environment of relative safety and anonymity has afforded bullied people a safe place to express their opinions, often using these sites as a means of stress relief and social interaction at the same time. However, one alarming thing to note is that, as these communities grow larger, their evolution starts to mirror the evolution of real-life communities.

Elitism is a major problem, particularly in larger, less-monitored communities. The mentality of making new members pay their dues by taking abuse from established members is prevalent in a number of Internet communities. Even if there is no outright elitism, it may still manifest in some form, usually with older members telling younger members to just shrug off the abuse and stress associated with one of the less friendly members of the community. Abusive members who have been established for a long time tend to be removed only with difficulty, particularly because most of the members in power have already gotten used to them and feel that newer meambers will have to do the same.

However, bullying via the Internet reaches further than that. Stress and social anxiety can be effectively reinforced on the Internet as well, especially with more and more people engaging in activities such as blogging and maintaining personal websites. While most people who set up blogs and personal sites are aware that they are risking being attacked by damaging or derogatory remarks, they are often ill-prepared for those same remarks. The fact that the Internet makes it all too easy to launch such attacks both anonymously and openly makes it a particularly inviting means of “putting someone down.” This was the case in Japan, when schoolgirls “cyber-bullied” a fellow student via attacks on her personal website; acts which prompted a violent response, resulting in the infamy of the “Nevada-tan” persona.

While not all victims of bullying turn violent, the potential damage done by this to social and psychological development can be devastating. It can lead to a number of negative behaviors, including the formation of an inferiority complex and, in rare cases, excessively violent outbursts.

SEX AND SUCCESS

“Sex plays a vital role in the achievement of success”, which is a fact that can be scientifically explained, but still amazes most scientists. This statement can also be proved by virtue of experience, time tells another tale. In history we see all or most genii/scientist/successful men (the field of success does not matter) had a high sex drive, which they had to satisfy. There’s an old saying “a man’s wife can maketh or breaketh him. The reason is not always understood. The “making” and “breaking” is the result of the wife’s understanding, or lack of understanding of the emotions; love, sex and romance.

According to “Napoleon Hill”, author of “Think and Grow Rich, the mind is stimulated by 10 principles/stimuli. The mind most freely responds to these stimuli:

1.      The desire for sex expression.

2.      Love and romance.

3.      A burning desire for fame, power and/or financial gain MONEY.

4.      Music

5.      Friendship between either those of the same sex or opposite sex

6.      A master mind alliance, based on the harmony of two or more people who ally themselves for spiritual/intellectual or temporal advancement.

7.      Mutual suffering, such as that experienced by people being prosecuted.

8.      Auto-suggestion

9.      Fear

10.  Alcohol and narcotics.

Eight of these stimuli are natural and constructive, while two are destructive, and one notices that the desire for sex comes right at the top of this list. The transformation of sexual-energy (as I prefer to refer to it), is natural instinct and influences will-power, security and strength. It also possesses phenomenal healing power. This sexual-energy cannot and should not be submerged; instead it should be given an outlet which enriches the body, mind and soul of mankind. If we look at nature, you can block and dam-up a river and control its water for a time, but eventually the water will force an outlet. I belief the in same principle as far as sexual emotions are concerned. If it’s not transformed into a creative effort I will seek a less worthy cause.

Let us, for a moment first look at the other two stimuli (negative stimuli).

Fear

Fear itself motivated men to do things he would otherwise be unable to do. Fear is one of the main stimulants of the adrenaline forming glands (Triode glands). I have seen men that would succeed in a venture because of his fear of losing something of great value, like a house, job, or even a car.

There are six basic fears which I will discuss as written by Napoleon Hill in his book “Think and Grow Rich. All humans suffer of a combination these fears at some time or another. Fortunately and lucky are those who do not suffer from the entire six.

1.      Fear of poverty

2.      Fear of criticism

3.      Fear of ill-health

4.      Fear of loss of a love (sex)

5.      Fear of old age

6.      Fear of death

All fears known can be grouped under these six basic fears, but for the purpose of this study I will only discuss the FEAR OF LOSS OF A LOVE (SEX).*** Because of the polygamous nature (habit) of man of stealing his fellow-man’s mate, and his habit of taking liberties with her whenever he could. Now the result of this inherited (habit) instinct leads to jealousy, mistrust and develops into a vicious circle of “do unto others, before they do it unto you. This fear is the most painful, and it plays the more havoc with the body and mind than all the other basic fears. This habit of stealing partners dates back to probably the stone-age. They only changed their techniques, from forceful to persuasion, promises and lies, which proves to be more effective than physical force. Women are more susceptible to this fear than men, and we have learned out of experience that women are not to be trusted in the hands of rivals. There are three distinguishing symptoms by which the existence this fear can be identified.

Jealousy: General suspicion of friends, strangers even without any reasonable evidence or grounds. It can sometimes lead to violence with the slightest cause

Fault finding: the fearful party develops a habit of finding faults with friends, relatives, and loved ones on the slightest provocation and sometimes without any cause.

Gambling: a general belief that love can be bought, leads to a desire to provide money/gifts for a loved-one. This desire is of a negative nature and leads to stealing, cheating, gambling and the taking of hazardous chances and risks just to get the affection of the other being.

Alcohol and narcotics

History is full of examples of men, great and famous, who attained to the status of a genius as a result of the use of artificial mind stimulant such as alcohol and narcotics. Edgar Allen Poe wrote the “RAVEN” while under the influence of alcohol. Being starving drunk he dreamed dreams that no mortal would dare to dream before. James Whitcomb Riley did his best writing while being drunk, when he saw “the ordered intermingling of the realm and the dream, the mill above the river, and the mist above the steam”. Robert Burns wrote his best when starving drunk, “For Auld Lang Syne, my dear, we’ll take a cup of kindness yet, for Auld Lang Syne.” But do take note, that many such men have destroyed themselves in the end. Experience from my own time and have as well shown great mechanics, doctors, engineers and lawyers who would regularly kiss the lady with cork lips. But then again, at a very high price of self destruction.

Nowhere in history ever could men construct, manufacture or fake nature successfully and satisfactory, without Mother Nature interfering and finally equalize or being destroyed. There’s absolutely no satisfactory substitute for nature’s own stimulants.

BIBLICAL VIEW

According to Christian/some non-Christian views, the bible is the oldest known written book. And we take note that all outstanding and notable men had a wife by their side. From Adam to Solomon to Paul, even Jesus had experienced the love, tenderness and perseverance of a lady in their lives, in the case of Jesus it was the love of his mother. All human lives start with the tenderness, and love of mothers. Even in the animal kingdom, we experience that even a dog surrogates cats, apes surrogates lion cups. When we look at the history of Rome, the myth of the twins (Rimus and Romulus), that found the city of Rome, were surrogated by a wolf. Although only a myth, we find the wonders of “Mother Nature”, where an animal mother cares for human kind.

When we read throughout the bible, we find successful and fallen heroes all had somewhere a lady involved in their success of failure.

Many wise-men from all times argued around the fluctuations of feelings and it’s trustworthiness versus the reasons and facts of reality. The other side of the coin is true, the world and the destiny of civilization is ruled and established by human emotion. Men’s actions are influenced by emotions.

In my own experience I can also recall of the times that I reached heights and low tides in my life, and most was involved a woman. I wrote when I was highly emotional, and when a love fail, or I failed a love/woman, which is the start of my downfall and low tide.

Abraham Lincoln was a notable and great leader, and I can make this statement, his greatness was a result of the stimulation of love experienced after his marriage with Anne Rutledge. Napoleon Bonaparte was unmistakably a remarkable leader, when inspired by his first wife Josephine, he was undefeatable. Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela, with Winnie Mandela in his mind he suffered prosecution and 27 years in prison on Robben Island, for the cause of freedom from apartheid for South Africans.

The other side of the coin, when a great man sets his wife of his youth aside, for younger blood, soon is his downfall, or defeat. Napoleon’s defeat and St Helena followed not long after he left Josephine. Great Church and Clergy man, Jimmy Swaggart. The once most loved and popular African leader, Robert Mugabe, is now hated and least wanted president in Africa. Bill Clinton, after his affair with Monica Lewinski.

Man’s greatest motivational force is his DESIRE to please a woman. Our grandfathers of yesterday did so, because of his desire to appear great in the eyes of woman. Since then a man’s greatness is measured by the materials he brought home. Times have changed, but not nature, we do not bring home skins of wild animals, but we indicate our desire for the favour of a woman by supplying fine clothes, nice cars, and great wealth. We have the same desire to please women than our grand fathers; even those lived before the dawn of civilization. We accumulate riches and fortunes, and attain to great heights of power and fame, all for the same basic reason: “to satisfy our desire to please woman”. Remove the woman out of his life, and to most men all these wealth, fortunes and riches would have no meaning, it would be useless.

 By Victor (The conqueror) 

Pedophiles in the neighborhood

 There is nothing redeemable about a pedophile or a kidnapper; they have no conscience, no remorse, they have one goal only; an irresistible urge to have sex with the child. According to statistics by the time they reach your child they would have molested about 260 victims during their lifetime. And here is the rub; a pedophile can be convicted over and over again for the same offense and come and live in your neighborhood again after he has served out his sentence.

Protect your kids from child molesters

 Your only way to protect your children is to have a serious talk with them and apprise them of what can happen to an innocent child when he gets into the car of a stranger or the car of someone he does not know. They are your children; you cannot afford for them not to know. It is your duty to teach them the danger of talking to strangers and getting into strange people’s vehicles. If someone you don’t know asks you to get into the car, you don’t. You run away as fast as you can; even if it is a woman asking you to get in. In Canada years ago there was a husband and wife child molesting team driving around the neighborhood looking for someone they can molest. They stopped for a girl supposedly looking for directions, and took the girl to their house, raped her, drugged her, took photographs, and eventually killed her. One has to be as aware of female predators as one would be with males. The most serious repeat offenders show early signs of strange behavior.

·                     Don’t let your children open the door of the house when nobody else is home; in fact do not let your child be on his own unless he is old enough.

 ·                     Don’t leave your children with a babysitter who is the same age as the children.

 ·                     Never send your young child on his or her own to the shop.

 ·                     Teach your children how to use the alarm.

 ·                     Teach them not to get into anyone’s car, not even the uncle.

Child Abuse – The Cloyne Report (Photo credit: infomatique)

Give your child a whistle and tell him or her to carry it in the schoolbag and use it when someone wants you to get into the car to give them directions. According to a report there are about 400,000 sex offenders in the United States. Protect your family by educating your children on the dangers of strangers luring you to come with them.

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