What is Dream therapy? 

Dream therapy is a branch of alternative psychology which involves learning to interpret your own dreams by keeping a dream diary. When the term “dream therapy” pops up, it is common to think that it is the practice of having your dreams interpreted for you. But Dream therapy is not about having your dreams interpreted for you by a therapist. Rather it is a process by which you record your dreams (whatever you remember of it) in a diary and study or analyze the dream with the help of your therapist.

Having your dreams interpreted by someone else, isn’t dream therapy.

In dream therapy, you journal your dreams and study them. Analyzing your dreams, in such a way, can help you gain emotional well-being by providing a better insight into your fears or dilemmas.

There are several “dream” dictionaries” available in the market today. A dream dictionary is like a directory of possible meanings that can be applied to the symbols we remember from our dreams. However, when interpreting dreams, dictionaries should be used for general reference only. As any symbol in a dream can really mean will be specific to the person who has the dream.

Dream Therapy is as individual as you are. What one symbol means to your subconscious is probably totally different for someone else. Dream Therapy is based on the theory that the reason we dream is to make us aware of feelings or information in our minds that we have either suppressed or not even thought of. Only the person who dreams can truly interpret and understand the meaning of the dream. Dreams are unique to the person and so are best understood by the individual himself/herself.

The effectiveness of Dream therapy thus depends a lot upon the individual. It is a progress that takes time and commitment on the individuals part. .

 If you would like to interpret your dreams, you can start now by trying to recollect your dreams and noting it down in a diary. Then you may approach a therapist or person qualified in the interpretation of dreams or you can buy a dream dictionary to help you understand the meaning of the symbols that appear in your dream. 

You can just picture it: your mother standing in the middle of the room, frozen on the spot, the look of sheer terror on her face. From your perspective as a little three year old toddler, you look at the point where your mother’s eyes are transfixed, then ping pong back to her face, and back to the spider, and in that split second your own fear is confirmed. In your mind, and as a natural survival instinct you learn that if that little thing can scare my ‘big’ mama, big because as a child all adults are huge, then that little thing is very dangerous.

You live with the fear, brewing within for years, and becoming bigger but yet unnoticed. Twenty years later however, if on the good sane planet, you do receive a deathly spider bite while on vacation because you threatened one by being fearful, is it possible to say that you were the only creator of that reality? History is as much part of our reality as our thinking today, and we can never as human beings, unless we are born as adults, have complete control over the events of our history.

Oh, but then, how I digress! The issue was not about how reality comes to be, but about beliefs and how those beliefs make the person. The famous Bible quotation is, ‘as a man thinks in his heart, so is he’. Obviously, there is no correlation in that statement between the fear brewing within, and the eventual spider bite. It just assumes, I was thinking of a near death experience, and the deadly spider bite came because my vibration matched it. It does not, in any way mention that there is a Law of Least resistance at work.

Alas, I digress yet again, from what I initially set out to ponder. There has been a lot of talk lately about which Presidential candidate accepts the rights of those ‘terrible’ people that are doing funny things to other people of their own gender in private, and which Presidential candidate does not. Mine is not about Presidential candidates either, for I have no knowledge of politics. Mine is to wonder… some years back pre-marital sex was a taboo. Such a taboo, that in some communities, it was not even discussed in jest, let alone as a serious family issue requiring well planned choices.

Yet, I have watched, in my lifetime no less, the issue of pre-marital sex move from a taboo, to a topic worthy of open discussion. Even in the most Christian of homes, who of course present as the trendsetters on morality and this is a morality issue they say, parents sit with their children now to ‘guide’ them against this ‘bad’ behavior. Yes! Pre-marital sex has moved, in my lifetime, which is way less than five decades, from a taboo to bad behavior. It figures, it never ever was a taboo at all, except we feared that it was.

Seated upon my speculation stool then, I wonder, is it not possible that the ‘fear’ of this new gay/lesbian taboo, is more about our earliest fears, firmly planted in our minds of the potential of the wrath of God released upon the corporate body of humanity if we dared commit it? Is it not possible that our sudden interest in what people do in the privacy of their bedrooms, and that we now strongly feel should have legislation against, is more about ‘me’ than about them? Is it not possible that an act, that has no life threatening implications on anyone whatsoever, other than of course to the extent that sex predisposes one to HIV/AIDS, is so frightening because we think we will die under the ‘wrath of God’? Is that not why we urgently need a head of state to discuss it?

I am not lesbian, and I am not in support of or against the gay/lesbian lifestyle. I have no business concerning myself with what consenting adults choose to do in the privacy of their bedrooms. They should have the freedom to choose! I hate caviar! I know people who love caviar! I’m I running around needing a president to legislate against it? Let them drink what they like if the taste suits them!

I am however concerned that people are allowed to carry guns legally, guns that they use to kill. I am concerned that adults rape, molest, and destroy children, turning them over to realities in their history that scar them for life. I am concerned that we would rather waste time thinking about ‘harmless’ personal habits, that health wise fall in the same category as drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes, than thinking about how to make our world safer and healthier for our children. In my view, it is selfish, depraved, and altogether immoral. It reaches to the highest possible levels of immorality!

Why aren’t there more voices calling for more stringent rules against carrying fire arms? Why aren’t there louder voices supporting incarceration for life of child molesters? Why is there such lackadaisical support of better health plans for the majority? Please tell me there is one Christian, one morality fundamentalist, just one who can see the stupidity of the pro/anti gay-lesbian rights talk, over other pertinent life threatening issues!

People ask me why I don’t hate. Why don’t I hate my abuser. I really dislike them of course I do.

I realized I have allot of anger but it isn’t directed at the person, but at the behavior. What they did to me. I hate how they treated me.

That is why I stay away from them. I don’t like the drama and lies. The backstabbing and deceit. The falseness and superficial relationship.

I like honesty and keeping it real. I like to smile and laugh. I had enough crying in my lifetime. In my childhood and in the military. Enough is enough.

So as a adult I can control my life, I can control my environment and what type of behavior I allow in my life. That means the type of people I develop a relationship with. I can’t be a fake friend. I am to real for that.

I keep bad behavior out of my house and life. We control our world. Don’t let other people’s bad behavior interfere in your world no matter what the relationship is. Relatives, co-workers, siblings, neighbors…..if their behavior isn’t good for you, irritates you or your home darn it control your world…….

Stop it at your door….You don’t have to allow the behavior in your world…..It is YOUR world!!!!

How I don’t hate the person but the behavior? I know many donn’t understand that. But think about it.

How does a person forgive? How do they allow a person back into their life? They forgive the behavior, the act the person committed. Because the person is still the same. You can hope they change, you can hope they won’t do whatever it was they did again. But you didn’t forgive based on character. You either decided it was good for you to forgive the act or they asked for forgiveness. That doesn’t mean “THEY” changed.

It is the same concept as fear. It is the ACTION..Not the person…….Not the place…It is what was done or is done…..

Reality of Fear:

You arent scared of the dark, you are scared of what is in it.

You arent afraid of heights, you are afraid of falling.

You arent afraid of the people around you, you are afraid of refection or distrustful.

You arent afraid of love, you are afraid of not being loved back.

You arent afraid to let go, you are afraid to admit they are gone.

You arent afraid of getting hurt again, you are afraid of getting hurt again for the same reasons.

It is funny how we can turn things around in our head. For those that have been hurt, it isn’t love they should be scared of ….It is the TYPE of people that hurt you. For those that have are distrustful, learn to set boundaries….then you wont be afraid of those around you For those that don’t know what is in the dark, take a light..don’t put yourself in places or positions where you know you are going to be uncomfortable.

For those afraid of not being loved back, dont give your all to someone who treats you as a option. Never love someone more than yourself. So instead of generalizing your fears, narrow them down alittle. Then you can tackle them head on a little at a time…step by step…..

You see you set boundaries….You can love…You just insure you are also being respected. You insure it is 100%/100%…… Reality of fear is everything is not what it seems at first…. Baby steps…….narrow it down and take small steps……and you will find facing your fears isn’t that hard after all.

If you think you are afraid of water is that true or is a fear of drowning? Don’t BLAME the water…It is YOUR fear of drowning…

There are many factors involved in BLAMING, finding reasons, fault or any excuse to validate feelings……Always look at the facts…THINK not feel about the situation and you will react differently. Because if you were truly afraid of water…you wouldn’t bathe…

So always look at your “FEAR” and see what it is you are really afraid of.

Makes it alittle easier to deal with… SO look at your fear and place the blame where it belongs…..The action, the behavior…Then you can do something about it

One step at a time ♥

MOVING BEYOND DIVORCE

You fell in love (or at least you believed you were) and you got married with every intention of having a happy and full life together.  You are realistic enough to not believe in fairy tales and have no doubt you will have your differences from time to time but you honestly believe that nothing is going to happen that the two of you cannot work out and get through together.  That is the way it is supposed to be, two people in love, pulling together, sharing the weight of all life’s ups and downs, being best friends, always there for each other…and it was like that for a little while; and then the hammer fell and you find yourself standing in a divorce court and suddenly it is over.  You and your spouse are now among the ever growing statistics of the divorced society.

This is no time to play the blame game.  Truth is; it takes two, two people to make a marriage work and two people to destroy it.  Don’t blame third parties if there is a third party, don’t blame your children and don’t blame your extended family.  You and your spouse are both adults; responsible people (who may or may not have participated in irresponsible behavior; we all do from time to time) and need to hold yourself accountable for your own actions and decisions.

Don’t feed on gossip and rumors or allow your imagination to play head games with your emotions.  The bottom line is that the two of you either couldn’t or wouldn’t work out the situation that was pulling you down and in different directions and you both played your part and now there is no fix to it; it is broken and you both need to pick up the pieces and move on…and don’t play the blame game.  You both made mistakes.  Admit it and learn from them.

You were married, partners, a part of each other’s life for a long time and even though you both may agree divorce is the only option for the two of you there is still that feeling of loss, failure, emptiness. You have that torn feeling, like there is a hole in your life that needs to be filled but you don’t know how to fill it.  A part of you is missing, no matter what the situation was that brought your marriage to an end and you into that divorce court and you feel that loss.  That is normal. 

Walking into that house or apartment and knowing he/she is not coming home, (no matter how bad the coming home may have been or the dread of that moment you may have felt before you separated) knowing you will not share another meal or sleep in the same bed again, share any more holidays, ever do those things you once enjoyed together again; is the loneliest feeling I have ever known.  That is normal.  A part of you is missing…but you can rebuild.  Life does exist and go on after divorce.

For the first few days (up to a week or so) you will probably just need to go through the motions of living, make yourself do what you need to do; eat, sleep, care for your physical being, go to work, do your shopping, pay your bills; all those day to day things that must be done.  This is a good time to change your furniture around, pack up or get rid of all those constant reminders of what might have been (your now ex-spouse’s things he/she left behind or special gifts from each other that are sitting there to remind you of the loss you are feeling.  Pack away the pictures of the two of you for now and replace them with something else.)  Take this time to digest the decisions that have been made and take an inventory of what you have left.  It is what you have left that you need to rebuild on.  It is okay to feel hurt and feel sad.  It is okay to feel angry.  It is okay to cry.  Give yourself permission to have those feelings and don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t and to just get over it.  Those feelings are real and it is okay but don’t let them consume you to the point that you can’t or won’t move on. 

Now is the time to pamper yourself a little and push yourself into doing something, anything that is productive for your own life.  Get yourself involved in one of those projects you always wanted and intended to do but never found time for in your married life.  You have time now.  Keep yourself busy and don’t dwell on yesterday.  It is over.  You can’t go back and undo or change one yesterday.  You don’t know what the future may hold but you have today and today you need to make the most of it.  Be creative and set up a new routine for your life including those fun things you like to do; you can rework and adjust it later and you will.  Eat healthy and get some extra rest.  Your life has just taken an emotional beating and needs time to recoup. 

Don’t allow yourself to crawl into a shell of loneliness, shame and failure and sit there on your sofa feeling sorry for yourself while you munch on potato chips, cookies and ice cream and stare at the boob-tube not even comprehending what is going on in the programming.  Exercise some damage control by getting active and involved in your life instead.  You are not the first person, nor will you be the last to ever go through a divorce.  Knowing this may not make you feel a whole lot better right now but knowing others have survived should help you realize you will too.

You are not responsible for your ex-spouse or your ex-spouse’s decisions or actions.  It is no longer any of your affair or business.  You are only responsible for you (and your children if children are involved) so don’t waste your time checking up on him/her or listening to gossip and rumors that only serve to stir up old negative feelings and resentments.  The only contact and communication necessary between you and your ex-spouse are where it involves the welfare of your children.  For now that is all you need to be concerned with.

This is no time to put your life on hold and wait around until you feel better, start feeling happy again.  Trust me when I tell you that there is no fairy-godmother that is going to show up and sprinkle happy dust all over you and make life all better and all that hurt go away.  Your happiness, contentment in life, building a full and productive new life for yourself is up to you.  You have to make it happen.  Get out there and do it.  Think positive and believe in yourself.  It really is not the end of the world. 

Remember the story from your childhood about “The Little Train That Could.” Well that is you, and you can.  You will probably spin your wheels a few times and make a few mistakes on your way back up that steep hill but you will make it to the top if you just keep chugging along and you will find yourself building new strengths and confidence and power and you will make it to the top but only if you believe you can; “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can,” and suddenly you realize you made it, you did it.  Hurray for you.  Good job.

One other very important thing, and I am telling you this from my own experience and learning the hard way, you do not need another special he or she in your life right now to make you feel you “have a life.”  It is good to have friends and share time with friends and family but don’t jump from the frying pan into the fire and couple up with someone, try to build a new relationship right now.  Don’t let anyone try to push you into it or goad you into dates or blind-dates, especially single dating.

Your emotions are still too raw and it takes time to heal.  Loneliness and feeling like you are on the outside looking in can lead you down a very dark road if you let yourself get involved too quickly. 

You are still carrying around a lot of old baggage that needs to be dealt with, dumped and getting involved in a new relationship in the first few months or year after your divorce is a bad decision.  You will carry all that old baggage into the new relationship if you don’t get rid of it first and you will only get hurt and probably hurt that new he or she in the process.  Neither of you need that and it will only serve to cripple or maybe even destroy what might turn out to be a beautiful friendship if you don’t get involved too quickly.  It is okay to have friends, even good, and to share time together; and if you do decide to date, keep those dates in public places and not where temptation can lure you into something you will regret later.  Build on friendships but leave the relationship until later; once you have really got your life together again. 

You don’t need a significant other to live your life or have a life of your own. Now is the time for you to enjoy your new independence, your freedom to be you and involve yourself in those things that make you the person you really are inside.  Go back to school.  Finish that degree.  Get involved in a sport or creative activity that you enjoy, the theater, music, pottery, learn a new language or something else you have always wanted to do, whatever interest you.

Get yourself involved in life outside of marriage again.  Get actively involved in your church or other organization you are interested in, the PTA or school sports booster club, scouting; start enjoying that old hobby you loved but put on the back burner for a time, join the writing group or book club at your local library, the garden club, the community band, choir or theater group, take up skiing, skydiving, go to the gym; make new friends in new circles that bring joy to your life.  Keep the old friends so long as they remain truly your friend, otherwise, there is nothing wrong with distancing yourself from them.  Make your life happen and enjoy the freedom to do so.  However, don’t overdo it.  Don’t stretch yourself so thin that your involvement becomes only superficial and you cannot truly enjoy it.     

Above all, don’t neglect your children if there are children involved.  They are children and your responsibility and their welfare need to come first.  Include them in your life where possible and is appropriate and stay involved in theirs but don’t smother them either to cover up or try to fill your own emptiness.  You can still be a whole family and unless there is a justifiable, legal reason not to, you need to let your children be a part of both their parent’s new life and don’t ever, ever make them feel they are in any way to blame for your broken marriage.  They are not. 

Your children need to know that it is okay to love both parents and be a part of both of your lives no matter which one of you is now the custodial parent.  Children adjust well when it is made acceptable and they are given reasonable explanations, without all the details.  No matter how you may feel toward your ex-spouse, do not cut that person down to or in front of your children or allow others to do that.  That is not acceptable behavior.  Your ex-spouse is still their mom or dad.  They love both of you.  Be glad.

Your “I love you truly, happily ever after” dream didn’t happen.  You’re divorced.  Learn from the mistakes you both made and move on beyond the circumstance.  There really is life beyond the divorce court but it is up to you to make it happen and to live it.

Fears and tears

·                    Children need comfort and reassurance at a time like this as they worry about all kinds of things. They are afraid to lose their father and worry that their mother will not be able to care for them on her own,

·                    They fear that a new man will come along for their mother and that their father will meet a woman and they will have to live with a stranger in the house. What will they do? How will they pay for things?

·                    They fear that either their mother or father will leave them or that someone else will come into the family,

·                    They see their mother in distress and feel helpless,

·                    Their go to bed at night feeling sad and alone and compound the anxiety they are already experiencing.

It is not easy being a single parent with a low-paying job who has to pay rent, school fees, food and utilities and has to be totally responsible for the family. It is normal under such circumstances for a child to be worried. He is used to having two parents in the home. He does not want his father to leave. His life will be interrupted. A few months later he watches his father sullenly with the new woman in his life and hates him. He hates his father for not doing enough, and blames him for the mess they are in. He wants to speak his mind but he is too angry to articulate what is bothering him.

Reassuring children that things will work out

1                    Tell them repeatedly that they are safe and ask them to tell you if they have any particular concerns,

2                    Make an effort comforting and reassuring the kids no matter how devastated you are and sick about the whole thing. Listen to what they have to say. Draw it out of them. Tell them to express themselves, and if they want to talk privately, let them, and don’t push for an answer.

3                    If their father has left and they are feeling sad, sit with them, let them talk, make a pot of hot chocolate, do some of the things you have always done, like watching a movie together that everyone can enjoy.

4                    Do all the normal things with the family that you used to do, like inviting friends over for supper or going bowling on Friday nights.

5                    Believe in God and believe that you will all be all right again.

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Motivation is a very important topic; we can bring a positive and meaningful change in our life by understanding it fully. Let’s examine what is Motivation? What is its importance in our lives? What is the relation of motivation with success? Which factors are essential for elevating motivation and what are the factors that reduce or kill motivation?

In simple words, motivation is a name of “energy” or “power” that enables a person following his targets with full heart and soul. In the presence of Motivation the journey of a person keeps on moving ahead automatically and a person completes the most difficult tasks happily and easily. Will power and motivation are the essential ingredients for success.

It is the same power that pushes a worshipper leaving his warm bed in the severe cold for worshipping, convinces any soldier performing his duty in unfavorable conditions in a desert. It is a strange power that uplifts a person for converting impossible tasks into possible ones and it its absence the easiest task seems impossible.

In respect of motivation different experts have put their ideas in front of the world, all are important in their places, but the idea that received the most popularity was presented by American Professor Abraham Mosley in 1943. In this Article we will examine his idea thoroughly/in detail, understanding which we will be able getting the answer of the question, “What are those factors that affect motivation?”

The Abraham Mosley’s idea about Motivation cleared on the world that there are five types of human necessities in life, which on step by step completion elevates motivation in human and in case of non completion of these requirements, motivation starts declining. It must be cared much that the order of these requirements are very important because their order is set as per their importance. The human needs according to Professor Abraham Mosley are:

1- Physiological Needs

Physical needs are the foremost needs of human life, without which it is not possible keeping alive. These needs include food, shelter and cloth. With the civilization progress there are many other needs in the modern age that can be included in the category of physical needs as per our standards of living.

2- Security Needs

After fulfilling the physical needs, security needs are important. Who is not aware of the importance of security needs? A person cannot focus in the presence of insecure feelings and remained overwhelmed in variety of doubts. Possible fears about future keep him worried all the time.

Every person feels the necessity that his life and wealth would have no fears at all. He should have security in wealth and social affairs. The better condition of law and order, justice in the country, reliable punishment and reward system, conduct of merit in the society, arrangement of safety from accidents and health fulfills the human security needs.

3. Love and Belonging Needs

After fulfilling the health and security needs love and belonging needs are important. We all know that human is a social animal. He possesses the natural desire of giving and receiving love. Due to this need he makes friends, grows family and searches his life partner, all these things help him creating emotional bonding with others. These relations can both be sexual or non-sexual. It is also in his instinct that he wants to be a part of group whether religious, political or social.

Doing all this fulfills his requirement of love and relation. If his requirement of love is not fulfilled fully he feels himself lonely and the extreme feeling of loneliness can create depression in him. The most important aspect of this need is that in case of non-fulfillment, a person may also lose interest in the fulfillment of physical and security needs. You might have seen many people who leave eating food, leave there houses and sometimes leave their lives as well, in case they fail in getting love or face separation from their loving personality,

4. Esteem Needs

Every person has a natural need that he must be respected. He desires that other people admire his qualities and abilities present in his personality, he receives acceptance everywhere and he must be seen as respectable. In order to fulfilling this need people associate themselves with different activities and hobbies which creates a sense of contribution in him and the need of self-esteem fulfills.

If this need is not fulfilled to a considerable extent, his self-esteem gets affected and in some cases he can become a victim of inferiority complex. The more the people have low self esteem, the more they need admiration and respect from others. Such people are more inclined getting popularity and dignity, because in this way they get more respect and honor from people.

The interesting thing in this respect is that the people with low self-esteem do not get satisfaction even by the getting respect and honor externally rather the improvement process starts only when they recover their self-esteem internally. The depression cases are more critical. Such people cannot show any extraordinary performances due to their mental condition, and hence, neither considered deserving of any respect or admiration nor succeed internally recovering their low self-esteem.

5. Self Actualizing Needs

Among Abraham Mosley’s idea of needs this is the last one. The relation of this need is with the desire that if someone is using his full potential or not. It is the name of the desire by which a person wants to achieve every possible thing in life. This is an exemplary situation.

It can also be described as the growth process has not stopped in a person but is still going on with the time. The needs of self actualizing can be different in different people. Some people satisfy their desire of self actualizing by putting their energies in painting, photography, poetry and inventions.

Understanding the above mentioned details you would have guessed that these cover almost every aspect of our needs in life. There is no easy or short way keeping you motivated all the time but it is worth taking care of all these necessities in an orderly way as stated above.

Only financial stability and progress is not a guarantee of happy life but a human personality is a combination of variety of needs and every need has its own importance. All these requirements are entire reality and demand their fulfillment. Ignoring any one of these can only create a long term complexities in any one.

We often indulge in a mistake of using all of our energies, abilities and time for fulfilling any one of the above mentioned needs, while ignoring other needs of our personality. As a result, in due course of time, our motivation starts declining and ultimately we come across a mental condition where we feel lack of motivation.

The only way of dealing this situation is that we shall examine our life style and priorities carefully and evaluate the following:

To what extent can we fulfill these needs?

Where are we making mistake?

What important aspects of our life demand our attention and time?

After fulfilling all these requirements considerably, a person becomes capable of passing a complete, fulfilled, happy and satisfied life and develops an unlimited providence of energy that enables him achieving any target in life without much difficulty.

Muhammad Irfan Zafar

Content Writer

Neck hairs stand proud whenever we hear about vampires and werewolves, yet elves, and faeries make us all smile. Scandinavian folklore has trolls, the Irish have leprechauns, ideas familiar to us all, but how much of it is based in fact?

Questionable eye-witness testimonies are all anyone has to go on, but we all know that refusing an elf food or shelter is bad luck, but since they avoid people, no problem, though certain archaeological discoveries could make you think again.

Gold prospectors in the Pedro Mountains, Wyoming, found in 1932 a 14-inch tall mummy sitting in a small granite cave, on a ledge with legs crossed and arms folded. With a flat nose, low forehead, and a broad, thin-lipped mouth,  intensive x-rayed analysis saw it certified it as genuine, possibly a 65-year old man, by Anthropology Department of Harvard University.

That odd mummy could have suffered from anencephaly, a congenital cause of tiny adult proportions, yet local Shoshone and Crow Indian tribes of the area tell legends of  little people in ancient folklore tales. In the late 1800s, in the Pennine hills of England,  several hundred tiny flint tools, half an inch long only, among which were scrapers, and crescent shaped knives, all fine craftsmanship were discovered

Those involved needed  magnifying glasses to see details, but could these things have belonged to so-called little people? Finds of similar size tools have been made worldwide, and legends abound of Himalayan Yeti and North American bigfoot, so tiny creatures would have found remaining hidden relatively easy.

The vampire movie is a horror standard, like the werewolf, and not everyone thinks that these conditions are pure fantasy. A group of Americans, seeking the truth about vampirism, want to exhume Vlad the Impaler, the ancient tyrant who was inspiration for Bram Stoker’s Dracula.

Vampirism may actually be a medical disorder dubbed Porphyria, a rare, metabolic condition, which stops sufferers producing Haemoglobin – the red part of the blood, and renders them very sensitive to sunlight. Their gums recede, so teeth become more prominent, and Garlic is bad for them! So-called doctors in the Middle-ages doctors would encourage them to drink large quantities of fresh, red blood, in the hope of curing them, quite possibly the cause of all vampire legends.

Lycanthropy might well be a genetic disorder too. Greek god Lykaon was turned into a wolf by Zeus, but it was in medieval times that fuel was added  to the fire, as fear ot the supernatural gained in strength.  Advancing Christianity spurred belief in the supernatural being regarded as The Devil’s Work, those claiming to be werewolves condemned as insane.

Believe it or not, the first ever recorded serial killer was German Stubbe Peeter, in 1589 killing and eating twenty-five people, including his own son, having, he claimed signed a blood pact with Satan, who made him into a werewolf. If you have hairy hands, leave your left thumbnail uncut, have a tattoo of a crescent moon son your body, very long third fingers on each hand, eyebrows that  meet in the middle and find it impossible to sleep with your mouth open you could be in trouble when the moon is full.

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Werewolf sightings have been reported in their thousands, yet no werewolf has ever been caught, and the  more medical scientists uncover about the human genome, the more convinced are they that many myths are founded on previously undiscovered medical conditions.

 As long as it remains a physical impossibility for one creature to morph into another, the human mind will continue to let people believe the myths and legends which  keep us both fascinated and entertained. Dream People may be just that, but the delicious uncertainty is what gives all of us a thrill.

Back in the early 80’s, a certain karate class existed at a college a friend of mine attended in Northeastern Georgia.  In their classes students learned how to focus and overcome seemingly impossible tasks, both physical and mental.  Breaking boards, then patio stones, and finally bricks or tiles, requires both physical and mental training, the ability to focus, to block out all the thoughts that say you can’t do it.

During one demonstration they were performing at a Church, I remember watching a breaking technique they were doing on regular patio stones you would find in your garden.  It was their first time breaking patio stones so it was a new experience for them.  The first student did an elbow break on his two patio stones only to find there were reinforcement rods inside!  He was not hurt, just surprised more than anything. Then it was the next students turn. . . he was using what they call a hammer fist technique.  He could have let the knowledge of those patio stones being reinforced keep him from focusing properly; but he was able to concentrate, focus, and put aside any fear he may have had.  He busted through those patio stones like they were not even there leaving just a couple reinforcement rods hanging between the support blocks.

Doubt and fear can stop a person’s dream right in its tracks if they cannot overcome what it is holding them back.  Following are some suggestions that may help you tap into that inner strength we all have buried inside and allow you to push through any road block getting in your way.

1.   Hold onto your Dreams – there are always people in our circle of acquaintances who will listen to your dreams and when you are done sharing with them, will give you ten reasons why that dream could never come true.

“Dream Killers”, shoot down every adventurous idea they can.  A friend recalled how his Father would always give him several reasons why he would be a failure at whatever he might try.  Still, he chose to push ahead with his dreams and today he not only achieved his dream of becoming a teacher he teaches others how to achieve their dreams too. 

The plain truth of is that we never know what a person might be capable of accomplishing if they have the desire and passion to push ahead of fears and doubts and aspire to overcome whatever may come their way.

The main thing everyone needs to remember is to believe in yourself, your abilities, and keep moving forward until you achieve your dreams.  Someone once said, “Quitters never win, and Winners never quit.”

2.   Move forward in small steps – a math teacher learned how to use this idea when teaching his students their required math skills.  When students begin the school year and are given their books they tend to get overwhelmed with the thought of having to learn so much information in such a short length of time.  It seems such a daunting task to their young minds and with so much else on their plates like, after school activities, family duties, getting together with their friends.

What this teacher did was to break down the topics in the text book into small skill sets they must learn and we focus on just that skill.  Once proficiency in that set is mastered the class moved onto the next skill and worked on that.  They never, ever, tried to bring tackle more than they could handle because they might get overwhelmed and begin to doubt themselves.

As they moved through the steps they not only developed self-confidence, they learn the importance of taking small steps in learning new skills.  This change in focus allowed them to look at what they knew, rather than on what they didn’t know, and develop self-confidence in their abilities which gave them confidence in other areas of their lives.

Approaching any new skill this way can be of immense value when starting anything new.  Never focus on the whole task before you.  It’s best to take small steps you are sure you can accomplish.  Step by step until you achieve the successful completion of whatever task you venture to tackle.

3.   Never say “I Can’t” – this is something you hear from children all the time when they are just learning something new like math.  They always expect to fail their exams; so, they go into class expecting to fail and they do!

Their teacher understands this problem and teaches them to compare class to a sport they enjoy like baseball.  Home work is like the practice they do every day before the big game.  The exam is like the big game.  When you practice, you build confidence in your abilities, and hopefully perfect your skills.  So, when you go into the big game, you step up to bat, look the pitcher in the eye, and you know you are going to strike out!  Right!  No, you stare that pitcher down, knowing you are going to hit that ball right out of the park!  Yay!  The same thing should be true with your math exam.  You have practiced and perfected your skills before the day of the test: so, when you go into the test.  Be confident!  Look your teacher in the eye and know inside you are going to get a 100%!

You have to focus on what you want to have happen, picture it, and then see it through until you achieve your goal.  You make your own reality by the attitude you carry into any situation and if you want to succeed, then you have to be confident and trust yourself enough to see yourself through until your dream is reached.  Can’t, cannot enter into the equation if you want to see your goals come true.  As someone has said, “Can’t never did anything, but you can!”

4.   You set your own rules – successful folks know they need to think outside the box if they are going to achieve their goals.  They refuse to listen to the nay-sayers and tradition choosing to think outside the box and make their own way.

Be the one who makes the path others will follow rather than the other way around.  A machinist I knew years back learned the value of this at work when he began to question the way things had always been done.  The traditional way of grinding a particular steel called CPM-4, was to feed down on the part literally chewing the steel away often burning the steel which isn’t wise.

One day, rather than feeding down on the steel, he simply fed the part into the side of the grinding wheel.  This smoothly removed the steel without over heating it and cut the time to produce a finished part in half.  The others had been using the other technique for over 25 years and had never considered doing anything different.  After they saw the ease of the new technique they too quickly changed their methods.

From this point on many other techniques that had been used for years were ultimately questioned and challenged.  Many remained the same; but, several were updated in favor of better ideas.  New innovations require creative individuals who are willing to question the norm and try something new.

5.   Mistakes can be your greatest teacher – when learning anything new, a skill set, you are always going to make mistakes, which is simply part of the process.  You can prepare yourself as best as humanly possible; but, in the end you will likely fail several times before ever mastering that which you are attempting to learn.  No successful person ever achieved their goals without facing great challenges and failing several times; but, they continued to move forward challenging themselves to go beyond their abilities.

As with the karate students mentioned earlier they learned that no matter how good they became at whatever skill they were doing, they may still fail to overcome a competitor during a competition they may be in.  Failure is part of life and those who learn to accept this and learn from it are the ones who become great successes in their field o expertise.

Baseball legend, Babe Ruth, hit 714 of Homeruns during his career and everyone in baseball remembers how great a player he was.  But, the Babe, also struck out 1330 times!  He was not the kind of player who cared to hold back.  Swinging for the bleachers was normal for the Babe.  The Babe instinctively knew that by embracing risk, he could accomplish more than anyone would have thought he could.  As a result, he became one of the greatest baseball players of all time and transformed the game of baseball along the way.

If people cannot overcome what fears are holding them back, doubt and fear can steal a person’s dreams.  My hope is that these suggestions help you tap into your inner strength buried inside and allow you to push through any road block that might get in your way.  May Success and Prosperity become your Reality.

We live in a information age and to cope with the fast paced world, we often forget ourselves. Troubles are a part of life. When you are going through a confusing period, you are surrounded by negative thoughts. In a way to leap forward you have to leave the pessimist and encourage your positive being. A small ray of hope can change the way you think, so every time trouble knocks at the door, you should be ready to accept it and change yourself with positive thoughts.

The problem now is that, we human race are afraid to change. It is because of “risk factor”, we are afraid to take a chance and leave our fears. As we are more comfortable with our present state than risking our life for better future. Every big success has a story, in which people move ahead with the risk. This group of people have fears, but they cover it up by moving ahead with the risk. They think in a positive way
and are open minded about the change occurring around themselves. People know this, still they don’t want to change. Its the harsh truth of life. Mahatma Gandhi said, “to see the change in the world, change yourself.” This quote clearly depicts that there are people who knows how to live life. Dreaming state is the world full of possibilities, though some of it are unreal in true world, you shouldn’t stop because it has no base or true facts. For a chance, go ahead with the fear, with the trouble and see it happen yourself. What will you loose ? Money; relations, society standards ??? the important thing is you will be aware of yourself and you will gain an exposure with the knowledge. So this things does matter, even with the risk factor. It’s hard to believe things that you have not seen or heard or felt, but you can experience. If you don’t believe in yourself, don’t even expect others to have faith in you. It’s you who is responsible for your own behaviour and attitude. Every second of your life, you are changing yourself and making yourself aware. It’s just you don’t know.

More fears: Some people fear loneliness. They can’t stay in a place alone. Some people fear financial problems. Some fear of sea and deep water. More people are scared of snakes. But almost all people fear of death. Many people also fear of failures in career, relationships and making money.

How to overcome fear: You need to write down your worst fear in a paper. You should think of the losses that you incur because of this fear. You can also think of the worst situation you might get into if your fear is right and be prepared to accept it. Most times the situation is not that bad as we imagine. If you have a fear of sickness, you can write down in a paper that you are healthy and can survive any disease. You can shout these words in front of a mirror several times every day. This will help to boost your heath confidence.

Tips to overcome fears: If you are scared of darkness, try to stay in darkness for a few minutes first and increase the duration slowly over time. If you fear of death, learn that death is inevitable. Millions of people had died already. Millions are dying every day. May be life after death is better, who knows. Regular meditation helps to reduce anxiety, stress and fear. Eating healthy foods particularly vitamin C rich can be helpful.

Summary: People have many fears. You need to find out the roots of your fear. Most of the fears are baseless. Some fears may be real but you can overcome them as well using simple techniques. Fear can slow down your success, so kill the fear before it kills you. Thanks for reading.

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