Yeah, the nostalgia of the first love… or was it? Was it really love what we were feeling?

Was it love when the sleepless guy, would come under the balcony with a guitar to serenade you?

He said,- “ I think I am falling in love with you. I mean, I love you. From the first moment I set eyes on you”.

And for what the guy new, everything he was saying was true, but  is falling in love the same as loving? No, not according to scientific research.

Falling in love and love are two quiet different feeling.

Researchers have now documented that stormy infatuation and deep, lasting love are two entirely different things. It has become evident that the feelings behind the two states arising in various parts of the brain and controlled by different hormones in the body.

A new meta-analysis study conducted by Syracuse University Professor Stephanie Ortigue reveals falling in love can elicit not only the same euphoric feeling as using cocaine, but also affects intellectual areas of the brain. Researchers also found falling in love only takes about a fifth of a second. Results from Ortigue’s team revealed when a person falls in love, 12 areas of the brain work in tandem to release euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin and adrenaline. The love feeling also affects sophisticated cognitive functions, such as mental representation, metaphors and body image.

Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. Falling in love is crazy, it very physical, it is when knees are getting weak and temperature rises. Falling in love produces the same changes in the brain as drugs and mania. This is what brain scans of newly in love people show. They fell asleep less have a more obsessive behavior, filled with ideas and creativity and are more likely.

 Differently from falling in love, love is calm, comfortable and mental. The new research also suggests that we can easily learn to love a partner who, from the start we did not have love for. Falling in love can be the first step towards loving.

 Sources: Search Your Love

              Illustrated Science

              Science Daily (Oct. 25, 2010)

              Stephanie Ortigue, Francesco Bianchi-Demicheli, Nisa Patel, Chris Frum, James W.    

              Lewis. Neuroimaging of Love: MRI Meta-Analysis Evidence toward New Perspectives in     

              Sexual Medicine. The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

The true question to ask in this situation is, ‘is it ever possible to loose control of the mind?’  We instantly come to the conclusion that this is so, when we read articles to do with mind control, hypnotism, mind sicknesses and subjects relating to drug usage.  However we never consider the true position of the mind and how strong it really is in relation to our material experience.  The mind truly is a step outside of our physical world, especially when it comes to thought, yet we immediately presume that thought is just as material as any object in our life, able to be materially manipulated by outside means.  The mind has no material physical position, yet we presume automatically that it is able to be altered by others, without choice, even to the point where their thoughts become our own, just like when visualizing the idea of a robot.

Although most would automatically presume that this has already been achieved, (the concept of mind control and the ability for another person to alter the mind of another), I will in this article attempt to detail why this is not possible, for another to ultimately control over another person’s mind, especially when it comes to the foundation of what the mind truly is.  I will attempt to explain why life should be determined by choice and freedom of thought rather than by presuming that it is able to be ultimately controlled in a robotic way, and why this will never be able to be fully achieved, no matter what technology is produced in order to read or determine a person’s thoughts, they will never be able to ‘direct’ thoughts, without first the acceptance of the person involved.

There are a lot of things in life that need to be considered through perception especially when it comes to choice and freedom of thought.  We all live in a world that not only encompasses our outside experiences in our everyday life but also a world that goes on inside of our head, that most do not have the ability to even hear, but ourselves.  This world is the determining component of our lives where we think about what we are doing during our day.  This is our mind, a place where we inspire towards our inner desires.  We also have the component of thought that relates to our brain, things such as memories and patterns of material experiences that we have stored as memory.  This place although it seems rational to say that it can be manipulated in one way or another, purely based on thinking that the mind is only made possible through material means, that the mind is purely based on synapses within our brain.  This is not so, for the fact that we not only remember our experiences, but we inspire to create new ideas, and these new ideas come not from patterns of old thought but from a mind that drives us to inspire to create within creation. 

Old ideas cannot formulate new one’s, they can only be used as influences, as markers in order to choose new experiences.  The mind is the place where true inspiration comes from, and it can never be manipulated without the individual choice of person to give away their freedom to choose and think about what he or she truly wants for their life.  Decision and choice is momentary, inspirational and spontaneous, and cannot be controlled robotically by any other means.  It can be ‘influenced’, whether that be subliminal or obvious, but not controlled, and this is where the true understanding of individual freedom comes into understanding. 

Influence is not the same as control.  When a person decides to watch television they firstly choose to turn it on, when they then watch an advertisement they ‘choose’ to take notice of what is being sold.  If then they are ‘influenced’ by the advertisement to go and buy that product, then it is based on individual choice and the decision to allow the advertisement to influence on their desires.

The only point in which someone can truly say that they are made to go and buy that product by the advertisement is when a person relinquishes their own personal responsibility onto another for their own inability to choose wisely.  This then occurs in relation to someone who blames another for the fact that they are maybe too overweight, they then immediately blame society for making too many delicious food items to eat, but forget to realize that they also do have a choice whether to eat it or not. 

This all then comes down to individual self will and choice to allow another to ‘influence’ personal choice.  Personal choice can at any time be changed and taken back by the individual when they decide to take the control of their own life back into their own hands, responsibly.  It does not always have to remain that a person is in constant vulnerability to another who is ‘said’ to have control over them.  This really means that the idea of mind control is really just a fear based philosophy that looks at the vulnerability of a person to not take control of their own life and full responsibility for their own choices. 

This is a whole other matter that does not at all relate to mind control.  It relates to fear and the ill confidence of a person to take responsibility and make choices for themselves, knowing that they are the only one who can determine whether they will think about certain topics and that this could never be internally manipulated.  One example of this would be if someone were to be tied up in a room being tortured, physically they can be held against their will but there is not any stage that that person can be forced to ‘say’ or ‘think’ in a certain way.  Even if they were tortured to death, physically, they would never have to reveal mentally anything against what they believe and think internally, unless they gave into the demands consciously and willingly. 

This is the influence of fear and pain that allows a person to give their power of choice away, forgetting that pain is momentary, but choice is forever and will determine their outcome for the future.  Fear and pain is not ‘powerful’ in itself.  It is influential depending on the individual and their threshold for dealing with emotions, feelings and the things that they do not like to experience in life.  It can also come purely down to the fear of the unknown and the fear of death in total. 

What truly needs to be asked when it comes to fear is why?  Why fear a momentary experience that has not yet occurred?  A person then fears the ‘possibility’ of pain, even if it has not yet been experienced.  Pain is something that is momentarily experienced and dealt with when it occurs, and is not something that requires thinking about.  Whether or not it is thought of earlier, it might very well still occur, especially when it comes to certain sicknesses and illnesses.  What would be the use in thinking about how it would be felt when it has not yet occurred?  This only then brings up the fear of the unknown of something that a person thinks they have the inability to deal with.  Then it comes to the point when the person must confront the pain, just like in childbirth, and whether or not they have fear of it, they will still have to experience it in the moment of time.  In the moment it is experienced, then later it is no longer being experienced, but only remembered.  Memory fades and this shows especially when we see a woman choosing to have more than one child.  If she were to linger on the pain she would not be inspired to have more children in the future.

If a person takes away fear of pain and death they are then left with choice and momentary decisions based on what they enjoy, and what they are in the moment experiencing direct.  This is the power of choice that we have in our mind and what it can do for us.  It could be seen also in this way…

Imagine that you are walking down the street and you are focusing on having to go home to your mother to tell her that you failed your exam.  The thought of telling her brings up fears of that she will yell at you in her own disappointment of your inability to succeed.  These might be the things running through your head at the time.  Then as you are walking down the street you are fully absorbed in your thoughts of a painful experience that is to come, you do not take in what is going on around you.  You then in your own pain of thought, try not to look at people because you feel upset.  You avoid people and do not smile at them.  Maybe you even push at them and growl as you are trying to get past a group of people in the cue at the train station.  You sit on the train and you get annoyed at the person beside you talking on the phone too loud and then you growl to yourself at how hard life is and that it is unfair that you had to be ‘put’ in this position in life.  You immediately give away your power to life saying that it is the fault of circumstances that brought you to this position that you find yourself in, thus relinquishing your own responsibility and choice in life.

However, how would your life then be if you had earlier taken things into your own hands and taken responsibility for all the choices that you made.  Maybe you would then not have had to do the test in the first place, and have chosen for something more suitable to what you enjoyed more, than what you were feeling forced to do.  Maybe then if you had enjoyed and chosen for what you were doing you might have even passed the exam.  Then you might be walking down the road smiling at everyone you saw.  They might even say hello to you and make jokes and laugh at life.  The world would be seen through such different eyes, just through choice alone, through the freedom that we have to think and focus on what we individually decide.  You might then get on the train and someone offers you a seat, and then you find yourself immersed in a conversation with a very interesting person who has a lot in common with you.  You might be relaying back to them about how you passed your exam, and in all this time you had not even yet thought of going home to tell your mother that you had passed.  You have just been totally absorbed in enjoying the moment and experiencing all that comes your way, never even caring that you had to line up to get to the train.  Nothing bothers you and is not seen as a possible moment to experience pain or failure.

This does not mean that a person who experiences things through choice does not experience moments of pain and the possibility that horrible things can come their way.  Even in this moment of enjoying life you may have kicked your foot against the pavement, but it was soon forgotten when a person smiled your way as you were walking to pay for your ticket.  However if you were the person who is dwelling in the thought of pain and fear, when you kick your foot you linger longer to think about it and it might be remembered that it was throbbing for at least 20 minutes after the event.  This person makes the conscious ‘choice’ to focus on these things through their thoughts, and allows it to be the way that they think and see life.  It all comes down to choice and the ability for someone to take their own thoughts on responsibly and to see them as their own making.

A thought is spontaneous and it does not come after a command has been issued, and even if a person were to hear words in their mind, they still have the choice to listen to the words and take them on as their own, and use it as their experience.   The true free thought is produced spontaneously and comes not in a robotic fashion, it is free flowing and it is driven purely by desire and feeling.  You can see this when a person is talking in a conversation and they are speaking out everything that they are thinking internally.  This sort of thought moves in a flowing way, driven on by an interest that a person has in life. 

There is a big difference between structured thought that is based on memory and thought that comes purely from the mind and I will describe this in more detail.  Understanding this truly determines what sort of thoughts that a person is allowing to control their experiences of life.  As I said earlier, we have memories that preside in our brain, and there are thoughts that are produced spontaneously through the mind.  Memories and thoughts are produced in a completely different manner and come from a completely different place within creation.

Firstly I will begin with memories that are stored in the brain that is associated with experiences that were of the past and help us to produce thoughts relating to the future.  Memories of the brain are always associated with past and future and never the now moment.  These memories are based on what I call a trigger system and are produced in sequence.  The brain as we know works on the delivering of electricity through synapses in order for us to remember time and linear experiences.  Brain memory is important for the physical survival of the body and is required in order to co-ordinate the structure of our physical lives.  Memory allows us to determine how we wish to proceed through the physical experience that we are having.  Things that are stored in the brain are:

• Physical experiences – relating to material events that occurred in our life.
• Memory of feelings that we have, whether they relate to fear, pain, happiness or excitement and how to turn them into emotions.
• Words and knowledge that we store in order to use it to communicate with one another, so as to develop our technical and explorative abilities.
• Beliefs.
• Anything relating to past and memories of thoughts we had relating to possible future.
• Memory of dreams and desires that relate to the physical.
• Systematic picture and word related memories that are played over and over like a movie.

Basically anything that is required to be remembered through system is related to the brain and memory.  Memories are stored in the brain for future reference and are used as tools in our world in order to interact with our environment.  Thoughts that come from the mind relate purely to:

• Inspiration
• Spontaneity
• Questioning
• Choices
• Decisions
• There is also information that comes through the mind as energy that can be utilized through inspiration. This energy relates to anything that is ‘possible’ in creation and can be utilized when a person is able to understand how to read energy language to which I call impulse. This reading of impulse is choice based. Some people see this in a spiritual way but it can also be understood factually.

When understanding the difference between the mind and brain and how they both work in our world to give us information that we need in order to formulate our lives, it is important to know that they are both totally separate constructs when it comes to reasoning.  The brain has an element of physical and chemical sustainability, but the mind is already there and is related purely to the core of creation which is dependant on force that is not considered physical until it is utilized in relation to matter in creation. 

Most consider that we have a mind that is conscious and one that is unconscious.  This is not my chosen way to see it purely because I see the mind as being a totally separate component in creation itself to matter, so it does not at all relate to one entity the brain and how it stores information.  I also believe that at every moment we can be aware of ourselves consciously, even if most would debate me on this.  I would be more inclined to show that our conscious awareness is produced by two components, one that is matter based and the other non-matter based relating to the motivator of matter, the mind.  This is based purely on the fact that we are the creation or formation experiencing inside creation, and that we are not the mind as such, but a formation that utilizes it as a tool.

The mind is always conscious in the moment of time where we are experiencing our reality, and able to be utilized and accessed at any other moment in time that we are concentrating on reality.  These concentration moments are what I call ‘points in perception’, which are moments where we are realizing that we physically exist.  The mind does not work through a chemical or trigger system as the brain does, instead it is what drives our inhibition to process thoughts into memory that is then stored in our brains through choice perception. 

When we consider then the idea of hypnotism and hypnotherapy, most immediately think that these forms of ‘entering into the brain and memory’ show that we can in life be controlled in our thoughts.  What is important to remember when considering these methods of bringing a person into dream state is that they relate purely to accessing the brain and information, and the highly suggestive state of a person’s reasoning mind and how it formulates decision in the moment of time.  What is not often told when it comes to hypnotherapy is that not all people can be brought into dream state by outside physical influence, purely based on whether a person is highly suggestive or not.  A highly suggestive mind has already chosen to give their power away to another and allow a person to delve into their thoughts and experiences. 

Many years back I talked to a person who was a therapist at the time working with hypnotherapy and the first thing they discussed with me was the fact that hypnotherapy itself is not always successful.  That it depended on how suggestive a person is within their own perception and mind.  A suggestive mind relates purely to a person who will immediately ‘believe’ all that they see and are told.  This might relate to a person, who, when they read things in magazines or books, they will immediately believe all that they see and hear.  A suggestive person never questions, but merely accepts their position in life based on the thought that they have no mental power at all to choose for themselves and that it is others who are influencing on their lives, and that it is others who determine their choices in life.

What is important to consider is the fundamentals of hypnotherapy and how it works in accessing the brain.  This is what hypnotherapy is doing, merely accessing memories in the brain itself that have been stored by the person throughout their life, their experiences, concepts and ideas that they have stored in their brain.  It is also important to know that these ‘memories’ can also relate to thoughts that a person creatively ‘makes up’ through their mind and stores it in their brain as part of their experience.  When a hypnotherapist then accesses the person’s brain through the dream state, they are then allowed to ask questions and ‘ask’ a person to do things physically through verbal communication.  These ‘suggestions’ given by the therapist do not at any time have to be taken on by the individual who is being accessed through hypnotism, but are taken on by choice of the individual depending on how suggestive their mind is in the moment of time.

A highly suggestive mind will act out things that they are being told and will relay all information that they have stored inside their brain, whereas a person who is not so highly suggestive even under hypnotism will not always respond to the person who is issuing orders to them.  They will determine what they tell the hypnotist based purely on what they ‘wish’ to divulge during the procedure.  This leads to a lot of questioning when it comes to hypnotism itself as to whether this method of therapy is successful in providing an accurate measure of a human memories and thoughts, based also on the fact that the human mind has always the capability to produce lies even within the structure of physical reality.  This is why hypnotherapy has not been recognized fully as an accurate means to explore a person’s brain and memory and influence over their thoughts and experiences. 

Even under hypnotism a person can decide on what they wish to discuss or do within this state.  Just like when we are dreaming at night, we are in the same state at this time and people can also talk with others, sleep walk and participate in various physical interaction even during sleep.  The dream state itself is fourth dimensional in nature and is polymorphic when it comes to perception of reality.  Please refer to my previous article:

The Polymorphic Perception of the Fourth Dimension State

A polymorphic state relates to focus and perception, and the way that memories can morph depending on how information is considered by the individual.  You can look at it in this simple way.  When we dream we focus on things that we are considering in our everyday lives.  Say for instance there is a person who has a body issue within their physical life.  In their dream state this concentration of focus on this problem would become polymorphic in nature.  This would make the object seem perhaps bigger than normal in perception.  Like for instance if a person thinks that their ears are too large for their head, they would in their dream state, when focusing on their ears, see them even bigger than how they are seen in real life in a totally three dimensional physical sense. 

This also relates to everyday thoughts which are also fourth dimensional in nature and can change the way we view things in our everyday life.   This might produce someone in life to see certain things on their body as being larger than they really are, made larger purely through focus and attention.  This is polymorphic perception and it is what we experience when we dream and go under hypnosis and is also utilized during the thought process as a tool in perceiving life. 

Hypnosis then is just putting someone to sleep and talking to them and asking them to do things while they are dreaming.  The person still has choice on what they wish to talk about or what they wish to do.  What they decide to do will be dependant on whether the person wishes to do this or not through their mind in that moment of time.  Even in the dream state the mind works in deciding in the moment through choice.  This is evident when a person during dream realizes that they are dreaming and are able to wake themselves up.   

The only other thing that can ‘influence’ on our perception in life is the chemical body.  This relates to chemicals that are produced or placed through the body to effect feelings that are produced and experienced through the nervous system and brain.  Feelings tend to dictate a lot of a person’s choices based purely on a person’s level of concentration.  We do concentrate naturally a lot on our feelings and stimulation through our bodies and as a result of this, these feelings dictate a lot of our choices in life in general.  We even produce a term called ‘emotions’ in order to identify with certain feelings, giving them a name in order to be able to access them when we want.  Emotions then become the expression of feeling and sensation that we experience through our bodies.  Refer to my previous article:

Emotions are learnt paradigms

Chemical interactions through the body, although they can at times be very strong in impression, will not also have the ability to totally control over a person’s mind.  Chemicals will however ‘influence’ on a person’s decisions, but they will still not determine the total outcome of a person’s choice.  This depends also purely on the threshold of what a person has the ability to handle through feeling.  Intense pain for instance is experience by everyone differently.  One person might go to have a tattoo done and cry the whole way through, whereas another will not even consider the sensation and see it as being under control within their mind.  Sensation is experienced differently depending on how a person has wired their brain chemically, mentally, and through perception, based not only on memories, but also on their entire personality structure (to some called spirit, to others called energy and expression) and the way in which they utilize their mind in the moment. 

All in all the most important thing to realize when considering ‘choice’ in life is that the mind has in every moment within creation the ability to decide, no matter what physical restrictions we are dealing with.  The mind is not restrictive in nature and has at all times freewill in which to motivate the physical experience, simply because it is based on momentary experience and thoughts that are produced in the now.  This will not ever be changed, no matter how much chemical and physical influences we have around us in our lives.  The mind will always remain the true controller of our inhibitions within physical reality, whether we ‘choose’ to see it this way or not.  The choice is ultimately ours to decide through individual responsibility and perception.

There are a lot of people who like to delve even further into viewing perception of life, to say that when we put energy into what we want in life that this will give us all that we desire.  Although this is a nice idea and for some it can give them drive and determination, it will not always bring to them their dreams just by thinking that it will come true.  It can certainly direct them on the right track of focus to finding doorways that will lead them towards there path of desire.

Choice and the way we view life is the key to searching for what we want in life, and choice will be what determines whether we get what we want or not.  It will not guarantee that we will have immediate results but it will always direct our focus towards our goals.  Without focusing on the things that we want, we might as well put horse blinkers on our eyes, because without interest a person will at most times not even be drawn to look at things.  They might not even see it at all, even when it is in full view. 

Focus and choice of perception will ultimately guide us to things that we want to experience.  It does not matter what sort of experience that we wish to have, it will be through perception that we find all that we desire in one way or another.  Whether this is emotionally based, what we choose to focus on in life will be what we ultimately see as our truth and purpose.

If a person says to another that they are unhappy in life, and that there is very little purpose for them when it comes to experience.  What that person is really saying is that they are focusing on these thoughts and they are their truth at this time.  This does not mean at all that this person ‘has’ to focus on these thoughts and he or she has a choice at any time to change their viewpoint on life.  What this also means is that the person is choosing to focus on unhappiness in order to fulfill what is thought to be the way to live life.  It is not until they realize that a change in thought is what will determine their focus and will lead to a change in the way that they feel inside. 

Even just by saying, whether a person feels it or not, that life is happy and that they are enjoying it will make such a difference to how they are feeling inside.  The words also present a sort of feeling and will influence a person’s perception of life through choosing to take these thoughts on as their own.

What this means at the core is that what we choose in life to focus on will in the end give us what we ultimately desire, just through changing perception alone.  It will not always change things physically, but it will immediately have results mentally changing the feelings that we are having inside and our direction of focus in life. 

Imagine that you are focusing on a tree and this tree is wilted and dying.  You feel sad to focus on the tree because of the state of its condition.  Maybe you then feel sorry for the tree and you continue to focus on it everyday hoping that it will come back to life and sprout a new bud, but it continues to die until it is decaying on the ground.  Through viewing of this tree it brings up all sorts of thoughts, making you focus on death and limitations in life.  It brings up also feelings of sadness and pity. 

What if you were to accept that the tree will die, and that it is part of life and instead by focusing on the tree which is making you unhappy, you choose to focus on the new young tree growing at the other side of the garden?  Everyday it is getting bigger and sprouting new leaves and growing up strong and healthy.  When you look at this tree it makes you think of new life and possibilities.  It makes you feel happy inside and full of hope for the future.

The wilted tree still stands in the garden and you see that it is there, but your choice of focus has changed.  You are no longer only focusing on sadness but also on happiness, bringing you to an eventual acceptance of change and to the fact that although the other tree will die, life will still go on. 

A person could choose to focus on sadness as the only thing that is a part of life, but this is not the totality of it all.  It is a choice based focus that is allowed and accepted as normality for the person who is experiencing it.  At any moment in time they can with their mind, choose to focus on something else just with one thought alone, and it is the key to knowing that choice of perception can lead to happiness. 

Happiness is chosen in life, it is not awarded to us.  Even the most successful and luckiest person in life can be unhappy, if it is what they decide to focus on.  Feeling happiness comes from our choice of perception and it can be achieved by anyone in life.  Thinking can be changed in just a moment, even if physicality has limitations.  We can first focus on our thoughts and what we want and then later find ways in which to achieve our dreams physically, hopefully leading us to focus on what we want rather than what we do not want to experience in life.