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		<title>What If You Gave Your All &#8211; Instead of Just Going Through The Motions?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 09 Jan 2010 12:54:11 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There is a question that I must ask you&#8230;<br />And&#8230;<br />I feel like it has to be just the right question<br />or else the answer -<br />the real answer<br />will never be found.</p>
<p>So, I&#8217;m going to throw a few of the many not &#8220;right&#8221; ones<br />out there in an effort to find just the right one <img src='http://socyberty.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>What would you rather be doing?<br />Seriously &#8211; right now at this moment,<br />what would you rather be doing ?<br />Are you doing it ?<br />Close??</p>
<p>I got to thinking about my own answer to that one,<br />and at this moment in time, I am thrilled to be doing<br />exactly what it is I want to do !<br />Yep &#8211; at 2:36am Thursday night/Friday morning<br />I am completely psyched to be writing to YOU !<br />The noise and distractions of Life are but a distant whisper<br />of the passing day; the chores and challenges past.</p>
<p>Now&#8230;<br />I&#8217;ve go to tell you that, in a way it&#8217;s a bit sad and<br />disappointing to say the least that the majority of our<br />lives are spent NOT doing exactly what we want to do.<br />The best hours of the best years of our lives<br />are rarely spent pursuing our true Passions.<br />Instead, we forfeit our freedoms and relinquish our rights<br />to the greater pursuit of Happiness in a desperate trade<br />for what we believe to be safety and security.<br />Why?<br />And am I willing to be honest with the answer??</p>
<p>Well, to be brutally honest in my case;<br />it&#8217;s just been easier to go though the motions.<br />Sure, I&#8217;ve tackled many challenges &#8211; I&#8217;ve gone after<br />numerous pursuits; yet when the dust has settled and<br />despite knowing better &#8211; I&#8217;ve take the easier Path.</p>
<p>You&#8230; you really have to know how tough that is<br />for me to say to you. For years I&#8217;ve poured my heart<br />and mind into trying to convince YOU not to give up;<br />tried to tell You that the rewards in Life are worth<br />the struggle and pain to achieve.<br />And for most of those years I&#8217;ve been cheering you on<br />from the sidelines; not the stage.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m reminded of part of a song I heard the other day.<br />Here you go: <br /> <br />
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<p>Here is the part I heard that hit me hard:</p>
<p>&#8221; I don&rsquo;t wanna spend my whole life asking<br />What if I had given everything?<br />Instead of going through the motions &#8220;</p>
<p>This is relevant &#8211; very relevant to my thoughts,<br />so here are the lyrics in their entirety:</p>
<p>&#8212;&#8212;- The Motions by Matthew West &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;</p>
<p>This might hurt, it&#8217;s not safe<br />But I know that I&#8217;ve gotta make a change<br />I don&#8217;t care if I break,<br />At least I&#8217;ll be feeling something<br />Cause just okay is not enough<br />Help me fight through the nothingness of life</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions<br />I don&#8217;t wanna go one more day<br />without Your all consuming passion inside of me<br />I don&#8217;t wanna spend my whole life asking,<br />&#8220;What if I had given everything,<br />instead of going through the motions?&#8221;</p>
<p>No regrets, not this time<br />I&#8217;m gonna let my heart defeat my mind<br />Let Your love make me whole<br />I think I&#8217;m finally feeling something<br />Cause just okay is not enough<br />Help me fight through the nothingness of this life</p>
<p>Cause I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions<br />I don&#8217;t wanna go one more day<br />without Your all consuming passion inside of me<br />I don&#8217;t wanna spend my whole life asking,<br />&#8220;What if I had given everything,<br />instead of going through the motions?&#8221;<br />take me all the way (take me all the way)<br />take me all the way<br />(cause I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions)<br />take me all the way<br />(I know I&#8217;m finally feeling something real)<br />take me all the way</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions<br />I don&#8217;t wanna go one more day<br />without Your all consuming passion inside of me<br />I don&#8217;t wanna spend my whole life asking,<br />&#8220;What if I had given everything,<br />instead of going through the motions?&#8221;<br />I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions<br />I don&#8217;t wanna go one more day<br />without Your all consuming passion inside of me<br />I don&#8217;t wanna spend my whole life asking,<br />&#8220;What if I had given everything,<br />instead of going through the motions?&#8221;<br />take me all the way (take me all the way)<br />take me all the way (I don&#8217;t wanna go, I don&#8217;t wanna go)<br />take me all the way (through the motions)<br />take me all the way<br />&#8230; I don&#8217;t wanna go through the motions &#8220;</p>
<p>So&#8230; back to my first question.<br />What would you rather be doing?<br />What would you rather do on a daily basis<br />that you aren&#8217;t doing now because, like me<br />you&#8217;ve settled for some easier path?</p>
<p>Another question:<br />What if you gave your everything &#8211; even if only for a while,<br />if it meant being able to finally pursue and obtain<br />the Happiness you truly desire ?</p>
<p>Most people in this country (I&#8217;ll say the average)<br />have chosen to settle for taking sips of what they want<br />out of life instead of going for the gusto &amp; drinking deeply.<br />They live within a certain comfort zone,<br />work about 40 hours a week,<br />take a 2 week vacation<br />sleep 8 hours a night.<br />They live for the brief freedom of their weekend,<br />doing those things that relieve the stress and<br />strains that they&#8217;ve spent the week creating.</p>
<p>Years ago I believed that the reason this was<br />the path of the &#8220;common&#8221; man must be simply<br />because they didn&#8217;t know any better.<br />What I&#8217;ve come to realize is that most people,<br />even if given a choice and the opportunity to change<br />their situation will STILL do the familiar and comfortable.<br />They go through the motions of Life; they settle for<br />what is given them and rarely stretch themselves<br />beyond what they know and believe is achievable.</p>
<p>Like I&#8217;ve said before,<br />it&#8217;s always easier to NOT do something<br />than it is to DO.<br />With that I should add that it&#8217;s far easier to tell stories<br />and create justifications as to WHY we live our lives<br />the way we do &#8211; and how we&#8217;re right to do so.<br />Now, I didn&#8217;t say out loud &#8211; though I&#8217;ve heard every<br />excuse in the book from people as to why they don&#8217;t<br />do the things in Life that would allow them to achieve<br />those things that they&#8217;ve shared they really want.<br />Typically the excuses &amp; justifications are kept in the mind -<br />that way they aren&#8217;t open for any debate that might require<br />contemplation, change, and possibly confrontation<br />with the man (or woman) in the mirror.</p>
<p>So&#8230; what I&#8217;m wondering now that we&#8217;ve made it this far<br />is that maybe we&#8217;ve lost sight of what we really do want.</p>
<p>This could be the greatest and most rewarding<br />investment of time you will ever make, and that is<br />to take a few hours and really go over<br />AND <strong>WRITE DOWN what it is that you want.</strong></p>
<p>If you&#8217;re really serious about it -<br />eliminate any and all limitations.<br />What I mean is,<br />don&#8217;t base what you want on exterior circumstances.<br />It doesn&#8217;t matter your current income,<br />profession / job / career, education,<br />ethnicity, ability, history, background,<br />beliefs; nothing matters &#8211; you have a clean slate.</p>
<p>And on that note &#8211; I&#8217;m going to end this,<br />because I don&#8217;t want to distract you from<br />taking the time to write down what you want.<br />Goals, dreams, ambitions, achievements;<br />no boundaries and no limits.</p>
<p>You know what else ?<br />I&#8217;d love to hear what you come up with&#8230;</p>
<p>Dare to share ???</p>
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		<title>Tell Us Hillary, What&#8217;s Going On?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Mar 2008 14:22:37 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Would there be anyone around, who is watching theDemocratic presidential nomination process?  Theone segment, that is of interest to me, is the HillaryClinton campaign, and all its moving parts. It appearsto be just a bit on the schizophrenic side, to say the least.Since the beginning of the campaign, with her husband,former President Bill Clinton being sent off to clobberthe challenger, Senator Barack Obama, as hard as hecould, and wound up alienating, one of the very groupof people  they would surely need, in a general election,African-Americans.</p>
<p>The next step in this interesting campaign, was wherethe campaign, as we learned later in the process, ranout of money and Senator Clinton had to infuse thecampaign coffers, with five-million dollars, of her ownmoney, because they had overspent their budget.Then we come to the point where Mrs. Clinton statesthat, only she and Senator John McCain, which is anendorsement of an opponent, if I ever heard one, have&ldquo;crossed that magic threshold of being Commander-in-Chief&rdquo;. What is that threshold, and when did she orSenator McCain cross it? Somebody, anybody, pleaseenlighten me.</p>
<p>If she is referring to her time as first lady,with all due respect, what did she do? Senator Clintonin her speeches, has made reference to helping with thepeace process in Northern Ireland, a media interviewerwith officials in Ireland reportedly said that Mrs. Clinton&#8217;srole in those negotiations was a minor one. So much forthat crossing. When in fact did Senator McCain, cross theimaginary threshold as well, when he was being the&ldquo;maverick&rdquo; that he is, and rebelling against his party policiessuch as illegal immigration and tax cuts? Who sets theselines that have to be crossed, before you are qualified to beCommander-in-Chief? My opinion is that the experienceneeded to be President, can only be learned on the job, asPresident, and even then, particular events occur whereyou must use the best judgment you have, along with asuperior group of advisors to arrive at the best solutionpossible, at the time. There is no threshold! You are continuallygrowing in the job as leader and sometimes nothing, nothing,in your background prepares you for some of the decisionsthat have to be made.</p>
<p>The next little morsel in this saga, is the continual psychologicalgame playing the Clintons are doing, by suggesting that theywill confer with Senator Obama and let him be her Vice-President, all you have to do, is vote for her to be the nomineeand you get Mr. Obama as well. Mercy, and all this time Ithought he was the front runner, and she was in second place,what happened, does the second place person choose the Vice-President? So, I ask you, what kind of schizoid games are goingon here?Senator Obama has run a better campaign, has raised moremoney in small donations, won more states, more delegates,more of the popular vote, drawn larger, more enthusiasticcrowds, with the hope and belief that there can be a change,a different kind of leadership in the Government, wherethings can be accomplished, instead of the same old grid lock.A new day on the horizon, with Senator Obama as the Presidentof the United States.</p>
<p>Citizens overseas are excited about the prospect of theUnited States, regaining its position of leader in the free world.But the team of Bill and Hill are determined to stop Bambi, asI refer to Senator Obama, at the gate. No, you cannot believe,they are in effect saying, to the thousands who are lookingforward to the future and better times, you don&#8217;t know whatyou are doing, we know better, let us take you back, you shouldnot even want to go forward. What a message, and they arefervently trying to sell it, along with their strong supporterswho want to keep trying the same old methods.If they are successful in wresting away this Democraticnomination from this man, who has not won it yet, but iscertainly positioned to do so, hundreds of thousands ofyoung people, a generation of believers, as former SenatorBill Bradley said on PBS, will be lost to the democraticsystem.</p>
<p>Those who have just aligned themselves with theprocess because, they have a cause, at this moment to bea part of, and to participate in, as they never have before.As former Senator Gary Hart stated, it appears that SenatorClinton&#8217;s personal ambition, is much more important to her,than the best interest of her party.We are watching as everyone else will be, to see how thisall turns out.</p>
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