Having mastered those two little detail, let us now explore two other things you can go that can ensure your GOING HOME WITH YOUR MAN each time, every time… and making it last.

Rule #3: Understand Love

Love is when a guy cares for you and you care for him back; love is when you can’t wait from the instant you part until you can see each other again. Love is when you can’t keep your hands (or mouths) off of each other; or when you can’t stop exchanging gifts, because you care that much for each other. Right?

WRONG!!!

Love is a decision, a choice… and the actions you take because of it. Too often you find an average woman thinking or believing that love has anything to do with how you feel about the other guy. But this is a hugely dangerous premise because if love were a feeling, it would be doomed to fail – just like all those other human feelings and emotions that change with the circumstance, or that get sated. Hunger, anger, fear, pleasure… all these are fleeting human stimuli that are no more than mere secretion of chemicals in the body. The emotions are gone the instant the chemicals stop flowing. It would be such a shame basing an entire life on a choice that was made based on a fluid that flowed for a brief and passing moment in the human body. Love is supposed to last forever has got to be a lot more than that.

Love is when you consider all the pluses and minuses to be had in your man, and you DECIDE that you are going to be with him whether they add up or not. Love is when everything adds up wrong and you CHOOSE to still be in that relationship/marriage irrespective of the science behind it. Love is going the distance despite the hurts or challenges you may encounter along the way. Love is knowing that the same man who makes you most happy and so starry-eyed today WILL one day hurt you so badly you’d could kill him and then yourself; love is knowing that when that day comes you will still OPT to go on with it. Love is committing that you are going to be by his side through thick and thin, and you are going to help him be all that he can be!

It’s heavy, I know, but its truth. Love is courage; love is faith; love is IN SPITE OF, not BECAUSE OF; love is strength. This is why genuine love cannot fail, because it looks out for the bad times and the failures and deals with them when they occur, not quitting.

You do not have to “give it up” to every guy you spend the time of day with, but you need to at least love them a little. The average person on the street will consider it giving too much of yourself, but I call it stooping to conquer, since you are stronger and better because of it… And when you do decide to be with that someone, your marriage/relationship is going to be that much stronger because of it.

Rule #4: Learn To Forgive

You know, when you don’t forgive someone, you aren’t hurting them; you’re hurting you. Really, they go around not knowing that you’re having such misgivings about them, sometimes not even knowing that you still exist at all. Sometimes, such folks actually know that they have hurt you and go around proud or unhappy about it, but the sad part is that you actually still use up all of your energy holding on to all that negative emotion, hurting the people around you because you have chosen not to forgive. And so you find it impossible to learn how to trust again. It drains you – unforgiveness; it makes you bitter and difficult to be or have around. But if instead you understand that the other person is human and they are bound to make mistakes at some point – just as you are human also and bound to make your own mistakes as well – you’ll be able to let go of all ills, big or small. This way, your relationships will not have to hit the rocks every time one of you hurts the other. Simple, controversial… but true.

There are a truckload of other dos and don’ts anyone can come up with, but I’d be surprised if any of them trump these simple truths. The problem is we keep trying to be smart and independent, moral and upright; but if humanity has proven anything about these things over the course of history, it’s that smart and moral tend to fail, but sacrificial doesn’t.

I am a guy; and possibly my views may not be views you readily agree with, but if you gave them a try they just might work for you as they have for my wife and I. I used them with her and they worked; I USE them with her and they work! And I guarantee that if you are sincere about bearing these words in mind with a view to doing the right thing, you will end up GOING HOME WITH YOUR MAN each time, every time!

Rule No. 1

First of all always be hopeful. Despair is a sin and it embarrasses the person more. Therefore, try to look at the bright side of every matter and be hopeful for success. If you are not succeeding in any matter, then be satisfied in the God’s will for He may want to give you something better than this one.

Rule No. 2

The second important rule is to keep smiling every time. Think how many people will smile seeing your smile. Smiling opens the gates of spirit. When a little child smiles, you can see smile on everybody’s face and you feel unique internal gladness that cannot be given any name. Smile also keeps the body healthy and you know soul cannot be separated from body except after death. Therefore, smile and let others smile as well.

Rule No. 3

The third rule is never breaking anybody’s heart because if you break other’s heart, you will also feel pain. It is said that there is a reaction of every action. When you curse others, you also feel recklessness internally. This recklessness serves the purpose of dam in front of your happiness. Always remember, who do not respect others, people do not respect him too. Therefore, be obliged to other’s people love and faithfulness. Forgive others’ short-comings whole heartedly. Remember, forgiving whole heartedly means, forgetting displeasure incidents in a way as they never occurred before. It is difficult but not impossible.

Rule No. 4

Fourth rule is passing your time with your friends and relatives. Meet each other and share gifts, but remember always admiring other’s gifts, because the love of giver is also included in it and people who reject other’s love remain emptied from love themselves.

Rule No. 5

Fifth rule is describing your happiness. If you get any success or any of your desire fulfills, express it with an open heart, but not in a way that other’s feel jealousy. Thank your God and if anybody else has got any happiness, pray that God may prolong his happiness. When anybody prays for others, the same pray become blessing in his favor as well.

Rule No. 6

Sixth rule is your relation with your Creator and that is very much important one. Strengthen your relation with your God.  Worship Him and share all of your heart feelings with Him. It is only God, in front of whom; we can open our heart’s secrets without any fear. Do virtuous deeds and also invite others. Your virtuous deeds should be of a kind that can benefit majority of people.

Rule No. 7

Seventh rule is learning from your environment because knowledge is that treasure that keeps on increasing and it does not get any harm from the ups and downs of the circumstances. It is not necessary that you always use books for gaining knowledge. Learn from Newspapers, Magazines, T.V. Internet and from incident that are taking place around you. Try to learn from the experience of elders, since they have already seen and understood the world more than us.

Rule No. 8

Eighth rule is helping others. Believe me, you will feel happiness that can neither be expressed in words nor can be valued. Helping some blind person cross the road, leading to the right path, helping the poor, guiding the sinful person will surely give you happiness.

Rule No. 9

Ninth rule is very important. Choose words sensibly in your speech because the wavering of tongue is more dangerous than the wavering of feet. Making the cheek red by slapping will disappear after sometime, but the slap on the heart sometimes cost much. Therefore, choose words thoughtfully in your talks. Whatever difficulties and problems we are facing in the world now most of them are the result of this tongue alone. Speak politely, you will receive politeness in return and if you speak bitter, the opponent will also utter bitterness.

Rule No.10

Tenth rule is giving room to truth in your life. Speak truth and support truth. If you want to punish anybody, keep speaking truth with him. Don’t find faults or criticize others because when you criticize, you yourself give an opportunity to others to raise finger on you. Remember, when you raise you finger on anybody, the remaining four fingers points towards you.

Rule No. 11

Eleventh rule is taking care of your health. Do light exercises daily. Your most of the brain and body tension is released by exercising and you will feel relaxed.

Happiness is present inside a person. Setting of few rules can make your life simple and more attractive. Before applying these rules, remember, come what may, you have to adopt these rules and then success will be yours destiny.

By Muhammad Irfan Zafar

Content Writer

Beyond popular belief, forgiveness is not something that we do. It is a state of being that we live in. I know, because I live in the state of forgiveness everyday. Well of course I do — I am the Queen of Forgiveness.

Here is my definition of forgiveness. It comes for “The Queen of Forgiveness Dictionary.” Let’s begin with the root.

Forgive: 1To release the feelings of hurt, anger and resentment in relation to a person, place, situation or thing. 2To free others to do the same.

Forgiveness: To allow people to be who they are and do what they do and allow situations to happen as they are happening with pure and total detachment.

I know that sometimes this level of forgiving can seem daunting. However, everything seems daunting when we have not experienced it. When you begin to practice forgiving, then forgiveness is the state that follows.

So next time you hear the word Forgiveness, you know that it is not something that you do, but a something that you are. More love.

-Anasha Kundalini Shakti

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1. Talk!  – If you dont talk, how in the world will you be a relationship?
2. Love – If you are in the relationship to love than love! Do not waste your energy on fights!
3. Forgive – People say things and do things they don’t mean, so forgive. (Unless its cheating, etc. )
4. Time – Give that special person some of your time. Do not just wait for the last moment to talk to them or hang out with them.

Forgiveness is not allowing people to walk all over you. It is possible to forgive someone, yet still take steps to make sure they don’t hurt you again. If for example your son is an addict and habitually steals from you , you might forgive him but still lock away your purse.

Forgiveness means that we let go of resentment and bitterness toward that person. we dump bad thoughts. This benefits us much more than it benefits them.

Racism against black people proves the human absurdity and cruelty. Human beings are not really ‘human’.

I continued the dangerous research of the psychiatrist Carl Jung into the known region of the human psyche through dream interpretation. This research was very dangerous because there is craziness in the human mind. Jung discovered that this content is inherited, but he didn’t know where exactly it was. I discovered that all the human absurdity comes from our wild conscience; the anti-conscience.

We are in fact under-developed primates. The biggest part of our brain belongs to our wild, primitive, violent, immoral, evil, and cruel conscience. I named this terrible part of our brain ‘anti-conscience’ because it works against our conscience.

This is why our civilization is so barbarous. Discrimination against blacks proves that human beings are in fact wild monsters.

If you are a victim of racism and you are revolted for being in such position you are right for feeling disgusted, but you must calm down and understand that your enemies are crazy animals. They don’t know what they are doing. They are not sensible and sensitive human beings. You should feel sorry for them.

There are some racists in Brazil, but I believe that most people are not racist in my country. Black people are loved and respected in Brazil because of their extraordinary talents. I love black people and I have many black friends.

There are many other people that love blacks too. Not everyone is so crazy in our world. Fortunately, there are a few real human beings among all the monsters, even though the monsters prevail.

Carl Jung’s brilliant discoveries and my discoveries after continuing his mission prove to the world that everyone can be cured from any mental illness through dream therapy. When everyone will respect the meaning of dreams, discrimination against blacks and many other absurd reactions won’t characterize our population.

Write down all your dreams in a dream journal and follow the unconscious guidance. Dream interpretation will open your third eye. You will attain a higher level of knowledge and learn many things that will surpass the limited (and false) knowledge of your historical time.

Forgive those who are controlled by their anti-conscience, and help the world find peace. Your example will help humanity understand the power of goodness and wisdom. Through dream therapy you will become a superior person, besides becoming a genius. Everyone will admire your extraordinary personality because you won’t be an indifferent hypocrite. You’ll be a wise, humble, sensitive, and generous human being.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to accurately translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

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It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that

we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as

it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.  

~K.T. Jong

After you read this post and before you go on to your next make some deliberate time for solitude.  Be still and be quiet.

Listen to your whispers of truth, just be still and listen.

Present your most pressing or dominant problem or life struggle and be still.

Be quiet…… Listen to the silence, to your inner most thoughts.

Silently and with out hurry lift your pain, your worries, your noise up to God in prayer.  Give thanks for all that you have that is good and ask for the wisdom, admit your weakness and turn the problem over to God and listen to the whispers of truth that your heart already knows, its knocking, do you hear it?

Only in quiet waters do thing mirror themselves undistorted.  

Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.  

~Hans Margolius

A quiet mind, no noise, no music, no t.v. perhaps a walk and a sit in natures glory.  But no noise, no sitting in traffic is noise.  Find that quiet place, a lake, an empty park, a quiet forest.  

Listen and be quiet and sit still from all the noise this world has a habit, a daily habit of presenting.

Be still

Be quiet

Pray

Give thanks

Present your troubles to God

Listen

Be still

Be quiet

Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and

that’s where I renew my springs that never dry up.  

~Pearl Buck

Renew your springs of joy, of laughter, wear your smile, that simple smile as you would a fresh clean shirt.  Wear it, use it, share it.

Often I think that being alone, living alone, sucked….. no… our thoughts suck.

Our beliefs and perceptions, suck.  We don’t use solitude or that quiet time enough.  

I used to love when my wife, Janice would call me before or after work.  I looked forward to it to share, to listen, to compare notes, to share love.

But, when faded away, as her love and commitment did, the perception turned from waiting for her to call to me calling her, and often the call was quiet, on sided, and inattentive towards me and towards each other.  The quiet on her end was deafening and nothing I said or could do would help.

Next Monday would have been our 1st anniversary.  

Who does that, leaves in the first year, turns their back on commitment and just goes, does not call, sends an email and wants nothing at all.  Who does that and what are they truly about?

On my wardrobe for that year stood a vase and the bouquet, the wedding bouquet of flowers, I left there and yesterday got very tired of looking at .

So I took the vase and the bouquet and removed all the artificial flowers, ribbon  and took it apart and discarded in in the family trash can.

For 359 days those flowers stuck together, showed beauty, shared the binding of the floral tape and wire.  

It was about 20 days longer than we stuck together.  It was time to discard them.

I appreciate the effort and time the person that made these took, the beauty that they saw in those flowers separated was much like the beauty that I saw in Janice when we first met and years later when we lived together.

The fact is the flowers meant nothing, signified nothing and they too deserved to be unwound.  Maybe not tossed away but everything has a shelf life in the artificial flower world.  Shelf live in marriage should not exist it should be forever.

I takes work.  It takes both parties effort and commitment. That she walked away from.  The phone still does not ring.  And it won’t.  Nor will an email from me flow, or a text, or anything at all.

I will choose to be quiet.

To be still

To listen

To love

To share

To heal

To laugh

To smile and I will wear that smile proudly.  So should you……

As always smiles sent your way !  : )

10/05/11

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Get off it with his foot Estel
A great void you invaded after the break. Whether she has left you solemnly before dinner (in addition you have to pay) or whether you are using an SMS, it occupies your daily thought. Rest assured, these symptoms are quite normal .. You shared some great moments you had hoped and that it is the right one. One with whom you would buy a motor home to tour DE France and get married in Las Vegas.
Remember one thing: the brain retains only the good memories. N’idéaliser not this girl too and remember its negative sides.In addition you have a great complicity together because you knew you long ago. Naturally you do not immediately find the same thing with a new girlfriend he will have to be patient and let his chance at the next.

Do not contact more
As the days pass, you miss it more and you are trying to contact her to find his presence and hear his sweet voice of a smoker. It is quite natural because you want to ease your pain and you think that by contacting it will get better. What is it?Does she found herself a man? Part of you always hope to emerge with her.
Be aware that the contact will increase your love for her. Think of it like a drug high and harmful to you. Like all drugs, stopping to eat is very difficult but there will come a day when your addiction will fade and you will release its grip.
Remember that the more you contact her, the more you become dependent on it and it will be harder for you to spend it. It’s a vicious cycle and it is important for your salvation that you put one term.

Take a social life
Have to live without it is already not easy to accept. But also in finding you home alone you realize you have a lot of free time and little to do. To make it worse, you realize that your buddies who were single at the time are now a couple. Here you are alone and helpless, it’s called The Return of Vietnam.
To get away, you must take a balanced social life. This will open the passages out of this long tunnel hell you are going through. Tell your friends, meet new people, discuss new women, you do not feel better.

Remember the reason for separation
You look at your phone every two minutes to see if she has not called and you dying to go ringing at the door by inventing any excuse “hey I passed here by chance, you invite me to a drink? ”. You must learn and remember why you broke. If this really was justified because, being back with your ex will not solve anything to the contrary. This will only increase your vulnerability and you’ll be forced to suffer the same kind of problem in the past. And so, another break. We must stop turning around and break this cycle of failure. Remember one thing: people never change.

Accept that the time would have it
You wonder if you’ll be able to emerge unscathed from this ordeal? So you’re not far from the alcoholics and other people trying to break free of their addictions. Know this well, time heals everything! Yep, with a little good will you get there and would grow up.

Evidence? Many people have experienced the same situation as you and were uninjured. Someone I know could not forget his love, yet today it is related to someone she loves and smiles back to life.
A man very close to me had lost his wife in an accident. The shock that he did was unprecedented. I had never seen in such a state of distress. Imagine, he planned to make a living with this woman there, it was 4 years they were together. It’s tough.Very hard! And today, two years after the tragedy, he lives with another woman and they will have a child.

Out with the right dredgers
Whatever one can say, you must fill the void with something equivalent. You have guessed that the best antidote to your ex is nothing less than another woman! But you say you are probably rusty and you do not know how to do it. To simplify things, attending the right people and right places. Good sweepers that will remind you find a beautiful princess is not rocket science it and they will help you with the décor. Thus, your confidence will grow really.

Do not associate with friends of friends
As you have many friends in common who talk constantly of your break. It is not good for morale and you do not cut the reflections like “this is it she resettled with a guy who earns twice your salary.” In each of these friends you will find some of it.By attending friends of friends it will be difficult to forget because it will be virtually continuously through to them.

Better to leave now than later
Would you have had to wait before leaving? Or prevent this from happening? And then, every moment that you no longer live with … If you had no choice but to break to be happy, then it was better to leave now. It’s hard I know, but you say it would have been more if you would have continued with. So smile, it was better to leave in a few years now with a credit and more on the back and three children!

Enjoy your new found freedom
Now that you’re separated from your ex, you’re a free man. Do you consider all the possibilities available to you? You are free to leave whenever you want, drinking with friends when you like, invite whoever you want and who you want to dredge.It’s hard! Many women can not hope it so … enjoy. You are a free man after years of confinement in compromise.

1 lost, 10 found
Of course, you have lost a beautiful woman. But think of all the goods that this disruption may have in your life. For not having more in the legs, there is nothing that will prevent you going to conquer new women. Think of all those who wanted by their eyes and their smiles to be addressed by you! If you have managed to win one, then you know how the game of seduction works to bring down the ladies again and again. Most women in your life are potentially at you. So finally let out your pet inside its cage, and the hunt begins!

Other people are trying to survive in a bad relationship that holds their greatness hostage. They live in fear and anger every day but don’t know how to get out of this prison. Do you know such people? Does this sound like you? Do you feel lonely, are you dreaming of the right one who will show up one day and end all the misery you’re going through now?

Life is like a building. There are a lot of floors : the ground floor, the cellar, the first floor, second floor and so on. The higher you go in the building, the more light there is, the easier and lighter things are, the more friendly and energetic people are, the higher are the vibrations and most of all : the more love there is.

Now picture this building of life in your mental eye. In the cellar you will find people like rapers, thiefs, harassers, killers, people who beat their children or companion and others who made a life out of hurting others.
On the groundfloor you will find a lot of people. In fact most of humanity lives here. These are the ones who content themselves by vegetating instead of living. They don’t think by themselves, they undergo life. They do nothing. They live like robots. They go to their job every day, come home every day, watch the same television program every day with a beer in one hand and a hot-dog in the other hand. They do not dream. They are stuck in their lifestyle and think everything will always be the same.

Then you go up. As I said, the higher you get, the easier, the lighter life is. Life IS easy, life IS light. The cellar, ground-floor and lower floors are creations from the human mind. We created these lifestyles by our heavy thoughts, thoughts about scarcity, fear, death, anger, sadness, revenge and so on. Here are the lives of those who choose to think low energy thoughts. Those who live in fear, hate, jealousy, doubts, low self esteem, troubles. Those have bad relationships, where struggle and anger and negativity set the tone. They are not happy. They maintain the illusion everything is someone else’s fault and they have either to wait for the other to change, so their life will change, or they have to destroy the other one to have a better life (think of the one who kills the husband of the woman he wants to live with, or those who kill other minded people in order to be free to live like they want). This will never give freedom or love.

So what to do if you want to move up in that building of life and live free and in love? First you have to make a decision. Yes, you have to decide WHERE you want to be. On which floor do you want to live your life now? Is it the cellar? No, I don’t think so. Is is the groundfloor? I don’t think it either. Let’s say you want to be at the 17th floor. But you feel you are at this moment in your life at the 3rd floor only. You hate your job, you have a lousy relationship with your partner, you’re in bad shape and your energy is low. So you decided you wanted a life in the vibration of the 17th floor, where there is love, real friendship, positive expectations, inner strength, power, a job you like, health and wealth.

What to do? You decided where you want to be. What you will do now? Should you wait until someone will knock on your door to take you there? No way! Will never happen! Even if you would meet someone with an energy level of 17, he will never carry you from the 3rd to the 17th floor, because he will be exhausted. It needs to be YOUR decision and YOUR action!!

So YOU have to move yourself up. How? Read! Read more! Read how you can create your life by changing your thoughts and your behavior! Go to workshops where you can learn how to unleash you inner power. Use the wonderful information bank which is called Internet and which offers you a bunch of positive information and e-courses (often for free). Surround you with loving people. Learn how to love yourself.

So first you decide where you want to be. Than you do whatever you can to get there, on your own. You may ask help of course, you may find yourself a coach (which is really a good decision!) but don’t look for somebody to carry you. You will fall down immediately the moment he puts you down. If you didn’t get there by yourself, it won’t last, it is not worth anything because you moved yourself up with somebody else’s energy and you are depending on his energy.

Once you get at the floor of your choice, let’s say 17, you will meet automatically people who vibrate at this level of energy. Energy-17 people. Loving, caring, wonderful people. People who feel good about themselves and who don’t need others to steal their energy. They learned how to generate energy by themselves. They are not slaves. They are not dominators. They love and respect others.

Do you want to meet someone like that? Do you want to share your life with somebody who has a 17-energy (or more)? Go there! Go at their level and you will meet them, that’s a guarantee!

Move yourself up.

If you live in a bad relationship right now, and you do whatever you can to get yourself moving higher, you will see what will happen. Your partner, who is still vibrating on energy 3 or 2 or on cellar-level won’t be able to follow you and you will take separate roads.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to pull someone up who wants to stay at his low level. You will never succeed. Especially women should be aware of this : don’t spoil your energy at trying to get others moving up with you. It’s a waste of time. Everybody should decide for himself. Don’t carry others on your back, you will crack down! Decide for yourself, go for it, and see what happens. The higher you get in energy-levels, the better it will be. There you will agree with me : life is wonderful!