There was an newspaper advertising campaign, recently, that showed people being asked questions about their country, but they were only able to answer a question about a celebrity. The only reason why this is true is because that news broadcasters only show this type of news. Unfortunately, it is not all the fault of the broadcasters. It is also the fault of the readers and viewers. The only thing we are intrested in is gossip, gossip and more gossip. Most of the media companies are just a bigger and more widely distributed form of the Gossip Girl (from the TV show, Gossip Girl).

 The media can be easily compared to a stereotypical teenage girl. They both gossip a lot, rarely disucuss important issues, overlook a majority of the population, target the “audiences” and are quite annoying. 

An evident conclusion to draw from this is that media should be reformed. 

Emphasizing the idiocy of the media, I DON’T WANNA LIVE ON THIS PLANET ANYMORE. (for all of you who know about this meme).

Tidak mau kalah dengan Artis The present biz industry, ternyata artis The philipines juga  segudang aktris cantik dan seksi. Siapa sajakah Artis The philipines Tercantik tahun 2012 saat ini ?
Meski usia Kim Hye Su tak lagi muda, artis korea kelahiran 5 Sept 1970 ini  masuk dalam daftar artis terseksi di The philipines. Artis  lahir di Busan ini  aktif di panggung hiburan The philipines. Selain menjadi style dan aktris, Kim Hye Su juga dikenal sebagai speaker.

Banyak acara  dipandu artis korea ini termasuk discuss present ‘SBS Plus You’. Kim Hye Su memulai debutnya di dunia hiburan The philipines pada tahun 1986. Ia mendapatkan peran di movie ‘GGambo’. Ia mendapatkan peran utama ketika ia  duduk di bangku SMA.

Tetapi, nama Kim Hye Su mulai dikenal publik saat ia membintangi sequential ‘Did We Really Love? mendampingi aktor Bae Yong Joon. Meski banyaknya artis pendatang baru, Kim Hye Su tetap  bertahan. Ia  mendapat tempat bila karir keartisannya.
Shi-Hyang dikenal sebagai style seksi The philipines. Tak jarang wajah cantik dan tubuh indahnya itu menghiasi halaman majalah di negaranya dengan pose-pose  menantang. Selain dikenal sebagai style, artis korea Shi-Hyang juga membawakan beberapa acara actuality present di televisi The philipines.
Han Chae Youthful, merupakan salah satu artis The philipines  terkenal saat ini. Ia sengaja mengambil jurusan seni di Universitas Dongguk. Penampilannya di sequential ‘Delightful Girl’, sempat mendapatkan kritik dari sejumlah pengamat.

Mereka menganggap sequential  dibintangi artis kore Han Chae Youthful kelahiran 13 Sept 1980 ini tak  meraih sukses. Ternyata anggapan itu salah besar. Serial  sukses dan melambungkan nama artis korea  cantik ini. Serial itu menjadi favorit di kalangan muda dan juga orang dewasa di korea.

Penampilan Han Chae Youthful  cantik ditunjang dengan tubuh  proposional membuat Chae Youthful mendapat julukan sebagai boneka Barbie-nya The philipines. Ia juga sempat mendukung sequential laris lainnya ‘Boys Before Flowers’  melambungkan nama Lee Min Ho.

Di sequential  diangkat berdasarkan cerita Jepang ‘Hana Yori Dango’ itu, Chae Youthful berperan sebagai Min Seo Hyun seorang style  juga cinta pertama dari Jihoo diperankan Kim Hyun Joong.

That is the conclusion of researchers from the University of California, Berkeley, who conducted four trials involving thousands of participants.

“Gossip does have a bad reputation, but we found evidence that gossip plays an important role in maintaining social functioning,” said one researcher, the social psychologist Robb Willer.

Willer found a kind of gossip can be therapeutic. When the study participants to see other people misbehavior, their heart rate increases. But the increase was only in the scale is if they tell others what they see.

“Disseminating information about other people they see behaving badly it makes someone feel better, and reduce the frustration that drives them to gossip,” said Willer.

Not only that, the researchers also found that study participants were also willing to spend extra effort to tell others who try to cheat in an economic simulation game. In this case means preventing others from gossiping hurt by people who were cheating.

“We do not have to feel guilty if the rumors are we aiming to prevent others from being played,” said Matthew Feinerg, lead researcher.

The study of the habits of gossip in 2009 found that about 80 percent of the content of our conversation is gossip. In a study involving 300 people was also found that about 5 percent of the gossip is harmful.

Why do people assume and gossip about and blame others when they really don’t know the whole story?  I wonder why we so often judge others, family, associates, neighbors and our self in such a negative light and all because we think something might be such and so and all because we of what we think we saw or heard.  To assume anything and spread that assumption around is deception dressed up in a coat of whitewash.  It will never hold up in the end.

We need to be very careful about judging others falsely, judging them on what we assume to be the truth.  We have not walked in their shoes.  We don’t truly know the full circumstances of a given situation unless we have personally lived it.  We cannot read another person’s mind or heart and yet we assume and believe our judgments must be true since so and so saw or so and so said and they are presumed to be telling the truth about whatever and there might possibly be truth to it…and we end up repeating or doing, saying things and doing things that reflect negatively on others rather than ever really seeking out the truth, encouraging and building that person up, offering a helping hand where needed and we do it all on the weak foundation of an assumption on what we think we saw or heard or someone else told us. 

Truth is, they, we may not have truly or fully comprehended what they think they  saw or heard and to assume they got it right and we understood clearly the truth they assumed, has from the beginning of time been the downfall of man; of kings and of nations.  Deception, assuming that which is not true to be true is a powerful and destructive weapon.  It can’t be a good thing. 

Fact is I know it is not good in any way, shape or manner.  It is painful.  It is destructive in the greatest sense of the word.  It is not just.  No good can come from it.  It not only hurts the person you have made assumptions about, it hurts everyone connected to that person and yourself.  I know it is so because I have been there, been on both sides of the coin and both sides of the coin dealt me a crushing blow.  Never assume that which you do not know to be fact.  You cannot know if you were not there and a part of whatever the situation may be.  You cannot know what is going on in the heart and mind of another because you are not them.

“Great Spirit, help me never to judge another until I have walked in his moccasins.” American Indian proverb.  

Assumption is no more and no less than deception dressed up in a coat of whitewash.  Thou shalt not assume and then bear false witness.   What a situation appears to be from a distance is seldom, if ever, what really is and when the rains come and the whitewash is flushed away; the truth becomes evident, much to our disgrace. When we assume and presume we know the truth without ever having been there and gone through it, everyone gets hurt.

In the process of all this assuming we bring irrevocable harm to others.  We can destroy their reputation, hurt their family, their children, and cost them their job, their livelihood.  We can destroy their credit, cause others to lose trust in them; bring mental and emotional anguish to their being and to those they love and maybe even cost them their life.  It is a terrible thing to do to anyone and we certainly would not like it if someone did the same to us.  Thou shalt not assume.   

Now what does this tell you about the person you’ve just met? 

Generally speaking, for the first one:

• If the stranger is female and you’re female as well then it’s either she’s a very sexual person and wants you to share your experiences OR she’s a lesbian.
• If the stranger is male then of course he’s interested in the woman he’s talking to or he’s gay if he’s talking to a guy (or maybe he just wants to brag about his escapades).

For the second one:

• It shows that they are interested in who you are and not how sexually active you are.

I just don’t get it when people who just a few minutes ago were strangers suddenly ask you about your love/sex life when you aren’t even friends yet. The only thing i can think of is that they are more attuned to their bodies and material things than they are to their minds or spirit.

Call me old-fashioned or conservative but my sexual life is not for public consumption. I don’t share it around to people i just met who aren’t even my friends yet. I don’t even share that much to my friends because it’s my body, it’s my life and they don’t need to know what i do with my body. 

I mean if you want to know more about someone, it doesn’t need to start with their sexuality unless that person is also open to talking about such and broached the subject first. And don’t put the person on the spot in a group later on by asking him or her about it in front of everyone just because you couldn’t ask him/her personally.

Like srsly people? Hello? Not everyone is as liberated as you would think. Bear in mind that there are people who are stilll conservative and not comfortable talking about private stuff like their sex lives especially to people they just met a day or two or even a week ago. Just because you or they are now in a new place/environment doesn’t mean you have to know how sexual they are. What they do with their partners (or what their relationship status is) is initially none of your business. 

Several sources suggest that the screenplay for Pirates of the Caribbean 5 has been completed by writer Terry Rossio, but without co-writer Ted Elliot (Who has co-written for all previous Pirates of the Caribbean films ).
One possible title for the film is Pirates of the Caribbean 5: Beyond The Sea’s World, found from a leaked draft of the now complete script.

However the film’s future could be jeopordized with star Johnny Depp having not yet cemented his interest in making more Pirates of the Caribbean movies, saying that “It boils down to story, script, and filmmaker..It’s not something where I’d say let’s shoot it next month…We should hold off for a bit”. Could this mean that Depp has doubts about the integrity of “Pirates of the Caribbean”, especially after the rushed fourth movie? Only time will tell. What is for sure is that the franchise still holds an incredible fanbase, and any future movie is sure to be just as popular as its predecessors.

Are you a gossip?  Aren’t we all?  Come on, admit it.  We all dish the dirt at one time or another.  We know we shouldn’t, but we just can’t help it.  Now, researchers are giving us a pass on our gossipy ways and are telling us it’s not only ok to gossip, but it may be good for you.

Scientists at the University of California, Berkeley (Cal) say gossip has gotten a bad rap over the years and have concluded there are real benefits to gossiping – at least certain kinds of gossip. They say that “prosocial” gossip, that is the kind that warns people about untrustworthy or dishonest people (as opposed to the “voyeuristic” rumor-mongering as you might find in tabloid magazines or gossip columnists and television shows), can help us.

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How Gossip Helps

So, how can gossip help us?  The researchers say gossip can help us avoid bad behavior, prevent us from exploiting others or being exploited by others, and can lower stress.  Really!

What makes the research interesting is the way the Cal scientists went about conducting their experiments.  The had a bunch of volunteers play games that focused on how generous they were to each other by way of how much cash or points they shared with one another.  In one experiment 51 people were attached to heart rate monitors as they watched other people playing a game.  After a while they realized one player was cheating and hoarding his dollars/points.  As they watched, the observers’ heart rates increased when they saw the cheating occur.  They also slipped a “gossip note” to warn the other player about what was going on.  That action caused the observers’ heart rate to calm down.

Are You Unselfish?

In another experiment, 111 participants filled out questionnaires that asked about their level of unselfishness and cooperativeness. Then the volunteers were asked to watch a game of “economic trust” where one player, again, was seen to be cheating.  Just like in the first experiment, heart rates increased as the cheating was seen and came down when a note was passed on to the non-cheating player.

In a third experiment, volunteers were asked if they would sacrifice their own pay in order to pass a note to someone alerting them to cheating by another person.  A majority of the volunteers said they would.

The findings suggest that gossip for positive reasons was a good thing and caused physical and psychological change in the people who engaged in the practice for positive reasons.

But, doesn’t a lot of gossip take place for less altruistic reasons?  Doesn’t gossip generally occur for the purpose of just passing along something juicy you heard about someone?  How about celebrity gossip?  That’s probably not going to fall into the category of “prosocial” activity. The researchers didn’t delve into that realm, leaving the question unanswered – what have you heard lately about Lindsay Lohan?

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Actually, women need to better understand the mindset of men. You must be smart to read streaks that are not implied. That is despite the sweet face she always appeared in front of you, does not mean he was always happy in his heart, you know. Therefore, to better understand men, let’s know better the few things that do not like the man from her partner.

My time is (not) just for you
As much as any men in your love, they do not like the couple that demands full attention all the time. Including when the couple too curb and require all his time just for her lover. However, if indeed he could, no doubt she will spend time with you. But, if he starts hot with your demands, does not mean love is not sincere. In essence, men need space to move freely. Whether for hobby or tamper with the motor bike riding with the club until the night of indoor soccer with his friends.

The solution for you is to balance the masculine side. For example occasionally participate in these activities. Also avoid jealousy, for reasons you will be deemed unreasonable. Although naturally you also feel frustrated with the boys night out husband. But, take it easy. He was only gone for a few hours and will return with good feelings into your arms, whenever you want.

Dating while shopping
Lots of women are grateful to have a partner who will be invited to the window shopping and shopping mall. Just so you know, yes, almost all men hated to linger in the shopping center. Especially when you stand back and forth to choose one pair of shoes in three different stores or more. If you get bored, she will usually provide comments at random when you memintai opinion.

Still would like to invite the couple to shop? It’s okay. Provided you already know needs to buy. Then make sure the timing is not too long. In addition, it is better left to the affairs of shopping your female friends.

Fussy
Most men also hates it when her partner is too fussy. Whereas women are gifted by nature fastidious and controlling. You must remember, he was happy to be noticed by her partner. Treated like this, it is quite possible the he feels you are The One. However, if excessive up like her mother, feels embarrassed too.

The solution, position yourself as a friend, who always had time and wide ears to hear complaints kesahnya day. You should also be wise without having to nag moment. If he asked for an opinion, do not jump to judge him, but give him input spicy jokes that his ego was offended.

Always Gossiping
In addition to shopping, women often indulge in gossiping while coffee with his best friend. Rumor can be various kinds, ranging from the Rika who buy new shoes millions of dollars, up to a flirtatious boss in the office, and the girlfriend of one of her friends are concerned.

Well, if the “spiced topic” is out in the middle of a chat when he’s there, it was certainly too long will make it cranky, too. Men are lazy gossip because they think these activities waste time and energy. Especially if the topic widened everywhere. The solution, simply gossiping with friends of the woman, than he ran away because he just can not stand the gosipan you or assume your mouth “venomous”.

Silence is not always golden
When things heat up, you choose silent because he felt the words would not solve the problem. Whereas men tend to not like it when staged a silent partner. They prefer you to express directly the problem at hand. Moreover, when the he thought the problem was a small problem, which is usually considered large by women.

Silencing action performed by couples who love women basically makes you happy, right? It’s called the silent treatment, are staying digadang as the worst punishment for the pair. Husband or boyfriend can be frustrating if you are squelched. But, remember again, if the problem can be completed in this way?

Better, put this practice on the exact problem. If it can be discussed, simply express. Especially if it can be completed the same day. Discard any resentment in the day with words that are easily digested and not pitched anger. Silent action is not always able to fix things. Furthermore, if only the habit of throwing garbage problem or brushing your teeth before bed, etc., should not be exaggerated, yes.

Hiding money
Not only men, women also often hide financial problems from their partner. If still in the exploratory stage, it is only natural. However, for couples who have been married much less serious, could be disastrous. The Adam happy, really, if the couple is open about financial matters, including your financial plan

The solution, it opened. Especially if the couple also opened wide its financial condition. Openness will show “holes” which should be covered. Including if you still have to support the needs of large families. Husband would feel cheated if you secretly helping the family. It might, he wanted to intervene lighten your load, right? Remember, worse than either choose the path that is not too pulled into the abyss lie after lie.

     The topic we have at this moment is intended for ladies. However, it is also a good way for men to evaluate the veracity of this article.  What turns men off?  Here are some ideas I picked up from the mind of an author named Tina Jones.   In a conversation between a man and a woman, it is important to maintain feelings of interest in both parties; otherwise, the sweet  exchange of words will end up sooner than expected.

    According to the mentioned author, there are topics in a conversation that men do not want to focus on; specially, if they are talking to a woman they like secretly. First is the topic regarding money; to be specific, their income. Men, in general, are very protective in this aspect; many of them are afraid that if their real financial status is revealed, then they could not live up to the woman’s expectations and as a result,  would finally be rejected. Second is, the topic of emotions.  Men are known to be experts in keeping their feelings locked up inside; they don’t want to show it right away.  Third is, the topic of a woman’s  present or past relationship. Men don’t want to hear it; for instance, the admirable qualities of the woman’s ex-lover; their happy moments together and much more the words “ I miss him badly” or “ I wish we did not part ways”.

    The last is, any topic that hurts other people; gossip is the best word to describe it. If a man find’s out that a woman is fond of destroying other personalities through backbiting, then for sure it can turn him off. Well, I guess the idea presented is not only applicable for women, but it is also applicable for men or vice versa.  Meaning, for the men out there, don’t bring the topics we just discuss in front of women, it can turn them of too.