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Write About Your Experience with Problem Solving

Fri, 06 Jan 2012 00:52:46 +0000

In my freshman year of collage at Anderson University, I was having a hard time finding people to socialize and hangout. When I attended to this school I was thinking of ways of finding people to talk to. On the first or second day of the orientation, I met with my Lart group and we introduce ourselves. I notice that the students in my group knew each other before the orientation and they were having a good conversation. It was also like this throughout the orientation and when school start. I tried to talk to my Lart group and also on the first week of school and nothing work. I was so at a disadvantage from everyone else. I went to my dorm but I stood outside from it and had my head down. The other guys realize that I was sad and they had a talk with me. In order for me to achieve my goal is to know the people on my floor and start hanging out with them. Then I realize that I cannot always hangout with them all the time because they are busy. What I did to solve this problem is taking the initiative on talking to other people around campus. Wants I introduce my self I started to socialize and hangout with people. I learn that when your in college you have to do the work instead of the other people doing it.

How to Make Friends

Sun, 30 May 2010 13:23:45 +0000

1. Be friendly and non-aggresive.

2. Try to be funny because most people look for that in friends.

3. Don’t be extremely cheap when you go out with your friends.

4. If you see someone you want to be friends with, be nice to them and have a nice conversation.

5. Some fun things to do with your friends are skateboarding, shopping, jogging, playing team sports, watching a movie, and hanging out.

6. If you have no friends because of something you can change, change it.

7. Hygiene is a very important part of having friends, no one wants to be your friend if you smell bad.

8. Spend some time around people and get used to what other people like.

9. Make friends who have similar interests.

10. Being nice is a key role in making a lot of friends.

If I Could Meet John Mayer

Thu, 07 Jan 2010 18:23:30 +0000

Dear John Mayer,

I think you are a pretty cool dude. I enjoy your songs, but do not get all wet in my unders for you. Your songs as a whole represent my miserable misadventures. For every song you have ever uttered, I can give you a story about my life and the person or situation it is associated with. I am a pretty pathetic character and if anyone ever wrote a book or movie about me, they would want to hang themselves from a tree somewhere. I myself, have to find the funny in life.

I look at things differently. The world is the biggest small place I have ever known. It is amazing how a song can be so different in meaning from one person to the next. When you write a song, I am sure your meaning is not what the listener may have in mind. It is so crazy. Like the difference between tap water and bottled water, wait, there is not much difference there. Umm, anyway, I am sure you get what I mean.

If I were ever to meet you and spend a few days hanging out. I promise that I would not rip out a lock of your hair while you are sleeping. I would just ask you if I could cut it. Duh… I am sure a few days of hanging out would be some great publishable YouTube stuff. Do you need a useless entourage person. Well, I would make myself useful and piss people off that were bothering you. But it seems that not too many people bother you. You seem like and “Everyman”. Your star is not too big and bright in the night sky. You seem pretty grounded.

I see you on the cover of these magazines from time to time talking about your latest “He & She” drama. Who is he with this month. Who cares is what I say. I think you should just make it look like you have decided to live in your car for a few weeks and see what they say. Anything to keep them wondering. Celebrities seem to be dumb sometimes. They make their money off of being in the public eye, but want to punch out those people that keep them in the spotlight. They should just smile and wave and be nice to those folks. It is because of them that their star status is where it is. I think you should not have a job in the spotlight if you do not want to be in the spotlight.

If we hung out, I would just want to see what you did on a typical day/week. See where you hung out, where you got groceries, who your neighbors were, what you kept in your car ashtray. Goofy stuff. If you ever get to reading this Mayer, it would be cool. We could video tape some goofy stuff to put on YouTube, like mock fighting or stop frame foolishness. What do you say Mayer?

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Dating: What I Don’t Like About You

Tue, 19 May 2009 08:29:01 +0000

A friend of mine recently asked me what I thought of dating, and the first words that came to mind were “a necessary evil.” Sure, it can be fun; it can be interesting; but, for the most part, it is painfully awkward. Of course, “dating” is a very broad term whose meaning differs from culture to culture. Loosely, it is the social stage when two people are getting to know each other. For this article’s purposes, when I refer to dating, I refer to the limbo during which two individuals who do not yet know each other are in the process of getting to know each other. Two friends who go out together a lot could be “dating,” but if there are no romantic intentions involved, these two are simply “hanging out.”

I don’t mind “hanging out.” When two people hang out, you don’t have to worry about who’ll pay for whom; the bill is usually split in half. You don’t expect a lot of things: the door being opened, the chair being pulled, the crossing the street at the dangerous side. However, if I’m on a date, I have all these and more in my mental checklist.

When you’re “dating,” you’re already assessing if the other person is worth the hassle or the heartache. Your compatibility meter is out, charged and ready. You just about fall short of collecting pheromones, analyzing their sequences and declaring whether you’re a perfect match or not.

My beef with dating is you’re already preprogrammed to assess, analyze and overanalyze everything that’s going on, instead of just enjoying the company you’re with. If you don’t hit it off, do you become friends? Probably not. I mean, what for? You just classify each other into the “someone I’ve dated” category and move on. If you *do* hit it off, lucky you! Hopefully the dating blossoms into a relationship and you won’t have to deal with if-the-shoe-fits issues ever. Or for a couple of months, depending on how lucky you are.

Regardless of what I think of dating, I know I’ll be eating my words soon enough. I said I didn’t like it, but it doesn’t mean I won’t be doing it. For now, I’ll just be by the benches catching my breath, but when I do, game on!

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Pick Up any Girl, Anytime, Anywhere

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:03:07 +0000

You see her across the room, bar, class, resturant, or park. The girl of your dreams. But you have had horrible luck with women. The only ones that show you any attention are ones that you would even warn your drunk buddies off of. Why can’t you seem to attract the kind of woman that YOU want? I’ll tell you why, and it has nothing to do with “game” or “class” or money, or good looks, or even charm. It has everything in the world with not knowing how to relate, not knowing how to start a conversation without looking like a jerk, and not having the confidence to successfully approach any woman. Follow these five steps, work on them, practice them, and concentrate on them without looking like you’re trying too hard. It’s easy, and in no time, you’ll be able to not only approach those beautiful women, you’ll get that second, third, and so on dates you really want.

Approaching a beautiful woman isn’t hard. Any schmuck can do it. The difference is, they do it badly, and you’re going to learn how to do it successfully. It’s not about having the perfect pick up line. Women see those coming a mile away, and the only thing that they think about is “great, here comes anothing guy that just wants to sleep with me.” The very first key to picking up a beautiful woman is putting sex completely out of your mind. Of course you want to sleep with her, but eventually. If you’re looking for that one night stand, just keep going for the women that you don’t want. Putting sex out of your mind makes you into something that women really want first. A friend that they can get to know. I know you don’t want to hear that, but that’s what a woman wants. She wants trust, conversation, and shared fun experiences. What she does not want is to be treated like a piece of meat.
Now that you have gotten sex out of your mind for the moment, it’s time to spot a woman that IS approachable. If she’s around a large group of other women, she’s probably not wanting to be zoned in on. If she’s with a date, don’t try to grab her eye. If she’s with maybe one other women, looking around the bar or club, or sitting alone reading a book, then give it a try. What can it hurt. You have to be used to being turned down. But I’ll tell you this. The ones that are worth getting to know, and picking up, they will be receptive to what you bring with you.
The first and only way to physically approach a woman without freaking her out is to have something in common. Otherwise, they don’t really know why you are there, and probably getting scared and ready to pull out the mace. Look for something that you can talk to her about. Maybe she’s reading a book by an author you like. She could have something you can talk about on her t-shirt, bag, on a jacket. Anything that you can talk about that doesn’t make you look like a stalker. And if you use your head a little, you’ll come up with something to talk about. If you just jump right into meeting someone with a relationship on your mind, you’re shooting yourself in the foot. Talk about being out at a certain place, like the park you see her in, or the music store. Be cool. Don’t sweat and stumble over your words. Pretend that you’re talking to a really good friend of yours. You have to be comfortable to be confident. A woman gets more turned off from a scared, shaking man then she does by a dirty, smelly person.
Alright, now you’re talking to her. You brought up a subject that you are somewhat knowledgeable about, and you asked her opinion about it. Now listen to her. Ask leading questions about what she just said. If you ask her if she has always loved Star Wars, like the t-shirt she’s wearing, then ask her who her favorite character is. Ask her about which movie she loves. Listen to her and respond to her. Put the focus ON her, and her opinion. Lead the conversation further. You don’t want to be at a lost of what to say, so keep it interesting. I picked up a woman once by pointing out that I just loved watching people, and I got her laughing by making up stories about people walking by. She confessed to enjoying the same thing, and we sat there for thirty minutes just watching people walking by. I asked for her number and we spent the next seven months together. The point is, don’t be a doof by using some line. Don’t start complementing her. And stay confident and comfortable. Get her laughing, that always works. And please, don’t offend her.
Finally, it’s time to close the deal. Once you have her talking about herself, laughing, and staying comfortable in your company, it’s time to finally tell her that you wouldn’t mind talking longer. The best way to do this is to suggest that you continue exactly what you’re doing at that moment, and the sooner you do it, the better. The same woman I picked up at the mall that day told me she had to get going when her friends came up to her. I suggested that I would like to keep people watching with her, and asked what she was doing that night. It so happened that she wasn’t busy, so I asked if she would like to meet me at a baseball game i had tickets to that night. Yeah, I had a pre-set plan, that wasn’t some boring dinner or a walk. She agreed, and it was sealed that I would meet her at the gate at the ball game, and not alone somewhere. She felt comfortable, was excited about further conversation, and something stimulating to do. I didn’t seriously ask her out until we had hung out in public three times. I took my time, didn’t pressure her, and let her know that she was a great person that would make a great friend, but also that I was feeling something for her. Just remember this….it’s all about her until SHE makes it about you.

So, follow these steps. Be comfortable talking and responding to a beautiful woman. Just remember, she’s a person just like you. And if she doesn’t have a boyfriend or husband, then she’s looking for one. And you could be it.