TIME HEALS BUT FORGIVENESS MAKES YOU WELL

I’m along in years now, elderly, and like all of us my life has had its ups and down.  Life is never easy for any of us.  Loved ones leave or die and we feel a horrendous loss like a part of our heart, our life has been ripped right out of us.  Someone gossips about us and spreads rumors without knowing all the facts or twisting truth taking things out of context and injecting their own conclusions and it tarnishes your good reputation.  We over-extend our self financially and end up with financial issues that cause us grief much to our distress and at times, our embarrassment.   

We all sometimes make bad choices or others make bad choices and we get hurt, emotionally, physically, financially and even spiritually.  Sometimes we find it difficult to get beyond the pain, the grief, the hurt, the anger and the frustration that is left behind in the wake of the injury. 

Sometimes we can fix it.  More often we can’t and we have to just pick up the pieces and move on.  It is not an easy thing to do but time heals, if we let it.  This is when you need to truly live just one day at a time; don’t cling too yesterday and don’t project the future, just live today.  It is all we really have anyhow, just today.  We can’t go back and change one single moment of the past.  It is over and done with.  We do not know, cannot know what the future holds or even if we will see a new tomorrow.  None of us know that.  We can hope and dream and even plan for days to come but we cannot know what tomorrow will bring until it becomes today. 

Eventually, after a few days, weeks, maybe even a few months, depending on what the situation is, the immediate pain subsides.  The anger, the feeling of loss or the embarrassment eases and slowly fades into the shadows of your mind.  Time heals but it also has a tendency to leave scars behind.  Too often we find our self hiding behind those scars.  With withdraw into our own shell.  We stop truly communicating.  We over-react to a look or a comment that we might otherwise blow off or simply ask, “Did I hear what I think you said,” and ask for an explanation…and worse we refuse to let go and we dwell on all the hurt.  

Sometimes we even do the unthinkable, what we would not do.  Instead of doing unto others as we would have them do unto us, we do unto others as others have done unto us and the cycle of damage rolls on from person to person and generation to generation.  As long as we allow past injury to dictate our present behavior it will never go away and nothing will change,  It will always be there to haunt you.  They say time heals, maybe, but it sure can leave some ugly scars behind.

It took me a long time to get this, really get this, accept it and put it into practice in my own life.  It is not time that truly heals…FORGIVENESS is the true healer.  It is hard to forgive when you have been seriously hurt.  It is hard to forgive those who have hurt you.  It is hard to forgive yourself for your own wrong doings, bad choices but learning to forgive is the only way you will ever truly heal.

Forgiveness is a whole lot more than “I’m sorry.”  “Okay, I forgive you.”  That is just the beginning.  You may never get an apology but you need to forgive anyhow.

Let me give you an example.  When I was a child and even into my young adult years there was someone who was treating me very badly, saying bad things about me and attempting and occasionally succeeding to do bad things to me.  I feared and hated this person.  I even tried to tell others whom I thought would help and do something about it what was going on but to no avail.  This person wouldn’t do that.

I had misunderstood.  I was the one to blame.  They wouldn’t believe me or maybe they did believe me but couldn’t or wouldn’t accept the possibilities or maybe were too insecure themselves to help. 

For years I feared and hated this person and avoided this person as much as possible.

I would literally quake inside if I found myself in a situation where I had to be alone in this person’s presence.  Eventually I learned to forgive, forgive for my own sake because I couldn’t live with that pain anymore.  I couldn’t live with the fear and the hate and ever truly move on in my life and be happy.  I couldn’t change what had happened.  I couldn’t make this person a better person.  I couldn’t make this person respect me.  I couldn’t make this person love me for who I truly am.  There was no way to retaliate and not bring myself down to their level of wrongness.  There was nothing I could do and it left me hurting and broken until I forgave this person and truly meant it.  You have to learn to love (agape kind of love) the person even when you abhor the behavior.   You have to come to recognize it is not the person you hate, it is the behavior.  Without the negative behavior you could really like that person.  It is love (agape love) that heals and forgiveness that makes you well and the love and forgiveness comes in time.  So I suppose, in a sense of the word, time heals.

Forgiving a person does not mean you ever have to like or trust that person again.  It doesn’t mean you have to be their friend or even be around them.  It doesn’t me that you will forget but you will learn from the past and are better able to keep yourself out of such situations.  It is the forgiveness that actually makes you well and able to truly move on and not let clouds of yesterday darken the sunshine of today.  You can finally dump the garbage and all that old baggage that is making your life painful, sorrowful and stuck in a bad place.  Forgiveness does that.

Not too long ago I talked with this person and I told them exactly how I felt and what their actions had done to me, how it had hurt me all these many years.  I told them I forgave them and even though I loved them as a person I could not like them because of their behavior toward me.  I did not and do not like the behavior and that for a time it had left me very broken.  Unfortunately the person laughed and said. “Yeh, but I enjoyed it and I told you no one would ever believe you.  I made damned sure of that.” 

For just a few seconds I cringed and recoiled like this person had just punched me in the gut.  For just a few seconds I wanted to strike out as venomously as I knew how but I didn’t.  I just walked away.  This person knows my feelings.  This person knows I am no longer holding a grudge or any hate toward them personally and that it was, is their actions and attitudes I hate and will no longer allow to hurt me.  I have forgiven them and shifted the burden.  It is now their baggage, their burden to carry and what they do with it is their problem.  I will probably never forget those injuries from the past but neither will I dwell on them or use them as an excuse for my own behavior.  It is finally over and I am well.

For those who know me and the Cosmic Code jurisdictions, no explanation is necessary; for those who do not, none will ever suffice…Dr. Turi

All about death, rebirth, cancer, drama and how to deal with it! Soon now…

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As mentioned in the show with Linda, tomorrow is a big day for me, its that time again to check the status of the cancer that plagued my colon two years ago at the same time in January when I was operated on in Thailand. The moon in Scorpio is already coloring the news with death and drama all over and I picked this waning moon date to “test” the human will against this evil window…Last time I did this was during a Mercury retrograde, again during a waning moon and while everything as anticipated was messy, Terania and I had a great time with George Noory at the 11/11/11 event. If you are a newcomer  to the Cosmic Code you may catch up and read it all. The Genius Of Buseyism 

THE HARDEST DAYS IN MY LIFE

While I am psychically stable and very strong facing mortality  was indeed the most difficult dramatic time in my life where the real fear of hurting my loved ones with an early departure and an unfinished mission with humanity is not allowed…I am also aware that there is no death per say but only a re-birthing process on a different plane. Since God spared my life and gave me another chance I really began to appreciate everything that meant something to me much more. I recall those awful nights where I could not find sleep crying for my salvation thousands of miles away from everyone I loved wondering how I would tell them I had an experation date and my time on earth was limited…

WILL I MAKE IT?

The depth of emotions I had to go through was pure hell where I was experiencing disbelief, pain, panic attacks slowly being engulfed by the curtain of death. I even came so low that I had accepted my own death and felt really alone and lost and cried many tears… The most difficult experience was waiting for the results that would determine if the armada of tests at the hospital would assure my demise in a few months or if the surgery got the evil away from my body once and for all. To make matter worse I caught a serious bug at the salad bar that nearly killed me before the cancer did. In fact I never told the public about this awful experience…

After the surgery, waiting for the final tests I was slowly recuperating  and forced to walk to bring life back to my intestines when disaster stroke. I was strong enough to go back to my hotel room after lunch and spent the day in and out of sleep watching television. I could only talk to Terania very early in the morning and I was anticipating the love and support she was providing me with. Around 7 PM I felt terribly hot and even with the full AC down I was still boiling. I vomited all I had in my stomach and I got scared looking at myself in the mirror. I had lost so much weight and my face was as red as a blood, I knew I had very serious fever…At this point I thought I had a bad reaction to the regiment of antibiotics I was ingesting but it made no sense to me because I was perfectly fine only a few hours ago…

HOT LIKE HELL!

I thought with what I went through already, I can tough this one out too but little did I know what would become the night…I tried all I could to stay cool but nothing worked, I finally decided to take a cold shower but Thailand is an exotic country where water really never gets cold. As soon as I was done and back in my bed I started boiling up again and it became clear to me that my weakened immune system was batting a serious infection. I could only stay cool when standing in front of the fan of the room AC but as soon as I was dry the fever eat intensified. The nightmare lasted well into the night where I knew I had to find a way to bring the fever down or dying in my bed. 

My physician told me to reach him in any emergency and I was a second away to do so, but I also felt guilty to wake him up in the middle of the night. In no way could I also walk long enough to get a cab to the hospital located only a few blocks away.   I knew he was going to be there early in the morning if I could only wait that long…The fever intensified to a very dangerous level and I knew I had to think fast and right to bring it down, I could feel my noisy heart pumping in my chest and I could barely breeze. The only way for me to cool down was to take a bath in icy water but I had no enough ice in my small refrigerator to make it happen. 

RELIEF

But I had plenty towels and after drenching two of them in the water I put them in the ice compartment and this did it for me…My fast thinking saved my sorry butt and all I did until the next day was to get up every few minutes and use those icy towers on my neck, head, chest and tummy until the Sun rose again.   I was shivering, sweating, trembling hot and cold at the same time but I managed to survive yet another battle against evil. 

Exhausted, the taxi driver took me to the hospital where my doctor immediately knew something was very wrong with me. My temperature was still above 100 as he ordered the nurses to take my blood for testing. He kept me in the hospital room the entire day making sure my fever subsided and he gave me horse killer antibiotics to eliminate the nasty bug I caught eating unclean “fresh” vegetable the day before at the hotel buffet. He was not sure if it was the water or the salad hosted the bug but I did not need much sleeping tablets  and rested peacefully the entire day. Terania was not able to reach me this day using MSN or the hotel telephone and she had her own insomnia to deal with…

A SAD MUCH LIGHTER DR. TURI

Valentine day came to pass I was very depressed, lonely thousands of miles away from everyone I love but I know next Valentine will be a very special day for me because all this is now behind me, at least I hope soon to give you more good news when the results of tomorrow’s colonoscopy and MRI comes back…THANK YOU GOD! - Growing up all I had was hardship, pain, suffering, drama and suffering the loss of my dad at 11 years old and my younger brother Vincent at 16 made me even tougher. Thus I am not used to complain and trained to deal with anything on my own because I was alone all the way…

In my book/bio the stories of my incredible life are barely possible to accept for some sensitive readers but still I did not divulge everything because this would be too much and impossible to accept for others. So these experiences will be for ever kept secrets…meantime unlike traditionally educated doctors formal educated beliefs, without those “accidents” I would not be Dr. Turi and would not be able to share my accumulated wisdom. Dr. Drew Versus Dr. Turi 

In fact it is because of those dramatic experiences that I can offer you the chance to be prepared if, God forbid you have to undergo such dramatic events. Yes I went to hell and came back  safe and sound a few times and my luck has not run out yet. I have lost so many people in my 62 years of existence some accidentally, some to suicide, others to cancer and heart attacks, and I am still here…

LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS

Life is so precious and it is only when you realize it could be taken away from you in a second that you really start to live and enjoy every moment of it. Sad enough people live their lives endlessly worrying about the future missing the precious now. Others strive daily to feed evil by signing away their souls to negative unconscious religious or conspiracy “Talking Heads”feeding and living on their own fears of the future or power. 

Its time for you to realize how precious life really is and to make the most of it while you can because anything, absolutely anything can happen to you or those you care. This is why you should tell them you love them, you care for them and stop living in your own dark world feeding evil at any given chance. The chance of you meeting with a violent death nowadays is so high, on the road or traveling by air or water. Cruise ship ran aground, kill 3

You could seriously  alter evil to enter your life with Cosmic Consciousnesses and this is too much work for you at least invest in my paperback 2012 Moon Power special edition or get the E book, its cheaper and you get it right away so you do not suffer the fate of so many people who died “accidentally.” 

Millions of human suffered early demises just because they were never offered the option to read the signs written in light by God himself, and the fear to explore his celestial tools infringing those Universal laws brought the heavy penalty. Times have changed where curiosity becomes a blessing in disguise and where your perception of God’s divinity is not to be found in archaic beliefs and man made deceptive laws.

THINK OF ME, THOUGHTS ARE  POWERFUL THING…

In a few days from now, God willing and with your prayers you will be allowed to continue  this journey with me and learn more about God’s divinity and your place in the Universe. A moon in Scorpio imposes a certain physical or hypothetical death for all of us, there is no way to escape the Cosmic Code rules for anyone, so why not playing in accordance to God rules for a change? 

Why did I pick such deadly hospices readers you may ask…well I firmly believe the human will is stronger than the stars remember, this is what I teach yes? So like Marie Curie did, I have to test my theory on myself because I am the perfect candidate. Her dedication and courage cost her life because unlike today’s cowardly scientists, there is no room for guinea pigs to test dangerous medications when respect for others is an unborn talent. 

The good news is that, under the “Scorpius” power nothing will escape the eye of the surgeon and if anything  it will be burned, killed on the spot before it kills me…Note also it is not the first time I undergo a check up this I trust my wisdom and your prayers will see me through…  While in this TV show I spoke of some of the drama I went through, a moon in Scorpio  divulge more dramatic “secrets” I just shared with you readers. 

THE SPARK OF LIFE IS PRICELESS

Lastly if you did not watch my latest video yet, or even if you did, return and let my powerful message bless your heart and give me your blessings right there, because staying alive and fulfill my mission can not fail…

Blessings to all

Dr. Turi  

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I have known pain in my own flesh. I have seen it in the groans of others. I have read about it and I have listened to stories of how people have suffered, recounted, many times. Pain is born in our flesh. And most of the struggles and sacrifices we have to make in life is about escaping pain and suffering. I will tell you the truth, the more you run away from it, the more you get hurt with it. That isn’t a haughty statement, in any case. The greatest pain is that born from the fear of getting hurt. It is that which is anticipated.

Why not just face it? This is no joke, and I will say it again, unless you embrace pain, you will never understand it. By embracing it, it gives value to the little joys of life and make them grand. By embracing it, you “rob it of its sting” . You learn to treasure the little threads that hold your fragile life with care because you know, from a certain, secret, sacred region of of your existence, that life is short-lived and terribly fragile.

A friend shared a story to me about the pain she has had to suffer because of betrayals, you know like being stabbed in the back by the only person you have grown to love, even jealously. I listened, and candidly, I asked her why she didn’t commit suicide, after all, she has has had enough fill of pain. She looked at me, and said: “I can’t”… I didn’t not want to elaborate, to ask for questions. I knew that in that answer, there was a seed of life, of something that transcends pain and suffering, of something that gives meaning to life through the dark veil of suffering. She had something to live for.

I have always meditated on the question of suffering, death and life. And i have come to the conclusion that death and life, suffering and pleasure are two poles within which vaccinate the very life we live. We would never appreciate light if there was no darkness. We would never value fidelity in friendship except we have suffered betrayal… the very pain in our flesh opens a path through which others pass through to life… Life thus becomes giving, for in living its pain, we die daily while letting others to live. If you haven’t discovered the meaning to life, ask yourself why you haven’t yet considered suicide

This challenge will more then likely be your hardest challenge. Previously I asked you to write a list of qualities you are looking for in finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. Although your previous experience when it comes to relationships might be saying, “You will never find them” you must not give up. Be realistic with this and most of all let go of any fear of rejection you might have. If you have managed to share with one trusted person in your life what type of person you are looking for you can indeed share this with those you date when the time is right, but now is not the time to go out meeting people and sharing this.

Challenge Seven is a chance to break down any and all fear you have of rejection. Consider the benefits that will come from talking to people, even strangers. Try making eye contact or smile at someone you are attracted to or want to know more about. Making eye contact says, “I have confidence and open to talk to”. (Keep in mind staring is not an option here)

There is more to this challenge though. If you want to find Mr. or Mrs. Right you must ask people about themselves. All too often I have noticed when speaking to my single friends they seem to prattle on and on about what they want. Need I say Real Lasting Love Affairs are for grown ups and grown ups know the world and its people do not revolve around them. Avoid speaking about your passions, your desires, your wants, and your experiences as much as possible when you meet someone in the beginning.

Sincerely being interested in another endears them to you and is a vital component to building any relationship.

Our past rejections in failed relationships have given us an UN-NATURAL hunger for approval, acceptance and the need to be heard. Not one single person on this planet is responsible for making up what you have lost.

My Corset of Love Challenge Seven brings back the balance by inviting others to share about themselves. Spend a week, a month, however long it takes only talking about yourself when asked.

I promise it’s going to be hard! “Smiles” but you can do it.

There is a basic difference between the static philosophy and moving philosophy, static God and moving God, static science and moving science, static tradition and moving tradition. One of the spiritual persons Basavanna once said, “There is destruction for what stands but not for that which moves”.

Whenever nature gives birth to new wonders in the world, be it in science, religion, tradition, or in something else it represents a moving character. Nevertheless, this moving character will not last for a long time because of our own static way of thinking. Whenever new research emerged in the history of humanity, it has maintained moving character in the beginning, but slowly it has lost the beauty of the moving character because of the orthodox interaction of our own finite mind. Nevertheless, the transformation of moving character to static character occurs only in human mind, not in nature.

In the western world, now there is a spiritual madness to dig out all the static philosophies of the ancient history. Some are talking on Tantra, some are talking on Yoga, some are talking on Vastu, and some are talking on mediation and so on. In fact, they are searching for the static shelter to compensate or to define their own lethargic way of life. Nevertheless, our ancient Sages, Buddha, Krishna, Jesus, Rama, Prophet and other prominent spiritual personalities emerged with moving philosophy; not with a static one, but who made it static? Ask yourself! Which philosophy, science, religion, culture, god and tradition you are representing? Is it a static one or a moving one? Vivekananda says, “Faith is not a belief; it is the grasp of the ultimate as illumination”.

In nature, there is no perfect philosophy, perfect science, perfect religion, perfect knowledge, perfect human or a perfect plan. Nothing can be perfect in this man-made finite world. Everything in the universe is moving, expanding and changing. Irrespective of good and bad every movement is the cause for further development.

When we realize that nothing can be perfect, we will be completely integrated with nature. For example, during the Tsunami attack in South East Asia on December 26, 2004, the wild animals had already moved to safer zones of habitat. They instinctively sensed danger. The question is how did they decode the signs of the impending danger sent by nature, when the entire scientific world failed to warn about the imminent threat of Tsunami? The reason is simple. We, unlike the animals, have disconnected ourselves from nature and travelled far in to the world of materialistic pleasure. We have long lost the power to decode the sensitive vibrations of nature. Whenever vibrations reach us we are busy adding our selfish meaning to it, but the animals have remained far more receptive to the natural science of creation. The animals do not question nature or impose selfish thinking to such an event, they merely accept it, and survive.

When you cradle yourself in the bosom of nature, it takes care of you. Learning is not a process of abandoning nature. Somewhere in the process of building our own egocentric world, we have fatally forgotten the source we come from. Nevertheless, nature neither forgets nor forgives. It just balances its own creation.

I have watched God to amazing things in his life.  We come from two completely different back grounds.  God has softened his heart and healed alot of wounds.  I walk in faith everyday that as the bible tells us, God will finish the good work He has started in my husband.  I get impatient sometime, but God is not on my schedule, so I will continue to walk in faith.

There is a lot of years that have went by without a relationship with his estranged child. The holidays always remind you of the ones you love and are not here.  I tell him that has long as there is life, there is hope.  I know that only God can restore was has been stolen and give you beauty for ashes.  I pray that he can just hold on and cast his care.  It is hard sometimes to explain to an unsaved person how to walk by faith. It is hard to explain that what is impossible with man in possible with God. 

I can see over the past years how our choices have led us to this place.  We all can.  I look back and wished we had done things differently, but that  is dangerous ground where the devil can have a field day with your mind.  So I look expectantly forward to what God is going to restore and heal. I am walking by faith that forgiveness and healed hearts are around the corner. 

This morning, I bask in God’s abounding love. I am blessed beyond all I deserve.  I know that all things are possible.  It is exciting to walk in that hope.

Over the past forty days doctors have called in the family to say their goodbyes on multiple occasions. With thousands of people praying for his recovery, he has had many ups and downs but has been relieved of most life support.

After the wreck, a Facebook page was created to inform others of his condition. At this time there are more than 2,500 people involved with the page and growing! With the prayers of each of these members and others, God has allowed a great recovery so far. Many people have been touched by his story. He has given others hope for their own situations.

Please join with us to continue to uplift Lucas and his family in your prayers!

We had just made up from all of our fighting the night before. It ended as a normal Wednesday night. We kissed goodnight and fell asleep together. The alarm went off at its usual blaring time of six am. After pressing the snooze several times Jesse finally got up. Usually I would go back to sleep until he kissed me goodbye but I had decided to let the dogs outside.

Around 6:35am Thursday morning we passed eachother in the hallway, gave eachother a kiss and said goodbye. The last thing I said to him was “wear your jacket.” Jesse rode his motorcycle to work every day during riding season. A lot of the times in the colder mornings he would just throw on a sweatshirt and take off. There seemed nothing out of the ordinary about that morning. He left and I went back to sleep until eight. I got up and went to the neighbor’s house to escort her daughter to the bus stop.

Daniella and I walked my two dogs down the street to the bus stop. The bus was five minutes later than usual. As we stood there and waiting an ambulance drove down the road. At that moment my one and a half year old black lab looked at me and let out the oddest howl I had ever heard. It was deep and monotone and made the hairs on my neck stand up. Just as quickly as it had started it had ended, as if it never happened. This was around 8:40am.

After getting Danielle on the bus I decided to walk the dogs. We went for about two to three miles and arrived home at 9:28am. Before I got the chance to change my neighbor called me. It was this moment when everything about my normal morning came to a sudden and devistating halt.

I had thought she was calling to make sure her daughter had gotten on the bus alright but I was wrong. Her words had not registered to me at first. She asked me if Jesse was home and I told her he was at work. Then she informed me that her neighbor had called her and said he thought he saw Jesse’s motorcycle on the side of Ryan road. This was the way Jesse takes to work but I could not believe it seeing as he should have already been at work two and a half hours ago. I told my neighbor I would call Jesse and check in and let her know when I got in touch with him.

I called his cell twice and both times it rang the usual thirty seconds before going to voicemail. Then I sent him a text to just let me know if he was alright. Something told me it was not enough though. I jumped on the computer and looked up the number to his workplace. Our roommate and his best friend was sleeping on the couch and I did not want to wake him for the number.

When I got Jesse’s boss on the phone my body had already begun to go numb. I asked if Jesse was there and he told me to hold while he checked. In the twenty seconds it took him to come back I am sure my heart did not beat once. When I heard him say the words “No he isn’t here, we are kinda wondering what is going on.” I went into hysterics. All at once my mind threw all the obvious pieces of evidence together in my mind. I started screaming the explination that he had been in a crash and quickly hung up the phone.

I ran back into the living room screaming at Nate to wake up. Somehow I had managed to blurt out the summary of everything that had happened. To this day I am not sure how he had managed to remain calm. Perhaps it was because he had been through this a year before with Jesse’s first accident or perhaps Nate know if he freaked out I would really lose my mind. He gave me instructions to call Jesse’s mother to find out where we needed to go and told me to get ready as well.

Everything after that was a terrifying blur. Nate drove us to the hospital as fast as he could. We met up with Jesse’s parents and were allowed to see Jesse for a few moments before he was taken for emergency brain surgery. I had never thought of my boyfriend as a fragile person. Seeing him in that hospital bed shivering as the nurses tried to stablize him in preperation for surgery I felt as if I were having an out of body experience. Surely this was not happening. It had to all be some sort of night terror I was having and no matter how hard I was trying to wake up it was not happening. Thankfully I could compose myself enough to find a bathroom and reatch.

It has been a little more than a month since that day. Yes there are more details that I could have shared but I feel that much is all I need to say to help me cope and share with people how suddenly one’s life can change. Jesse had crashed his motorcycle when a man turned left in front of him at approximately 6:45am on September 22nd, 2011. He was on his way to work. For nearly three hours afterwards my life was going on as “normal” until I had recieved a phone call from a neighbor.

I suppose nobody really thinks of the time that passes from the moment of a loved one’s accident to the moment they find out. Your life alters drasticly when you find out the information but how much actually changed in the time it took for someone to inform you? I think about it all the time. Over and over I replay that morning in my mind searching desperately for something I missed, some sort of sign or even anything out of the ordinary that would have hinted to me something was devestatingly wrong. There is nothing.

I have not seen Jesse since the Sunday after his accident. His mother forbids anyone but family to see him. I will not dwell into detail about it since bashing her is not was this is about. This whole article is about me getting my feelings out. I can not describe how it makes me feel physically and emotionally not being able to see my boyfriend. I deeply hope that nobody is ever purposely seperated by the person they love especially when that person is hurting.

Since the accident Jesse has had surgeries on his brain in which they removed a small blood clot and took his left skull flap off the day of the accident. He collapsed his right lung and thankfully to two tubes being inserted it was able to start healing. The last day I saw him was after he recieved a metal rod in his left leg. The rod extends from knee to hip. A few days later he recieved plates in the right side of his face to repair his crushed cheek and jaw bones. Due to his brain swelling he still has not been cleared to have his skull flap put back on.

I will post more updates when I can but as far as I know for now he is awake and talking. Nate and I spoke to him on the phone a few days ago but it did not reassure us on much. Jesse does not know who anyone is but mother and father. He does not even recognise his own sisters. Perhaps if everyone prays for him things will get better and he will recieve some of his memories back. Thank you everyone for your support.

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You have probably heard that failures are just missed opportunities. That statement has always irritated me. What do you mean missed opportunity? What I have learned is that I just could not see or understand the opportunities were in front of me. So how do you own your mistakes and begin to see opportunity. You begin by taking responsibility for those actions and the outcomes that they produced. You need to start your financial comeback with change your perception of failure, be responsible for your actions and deal with the consequences of your previous actions.

Understanding the importance of failure is imperative. There is a professor at MIT who offers a course on failure. He does that, he says, because failure is a far more common experience than success. No one recognizes all the attempts that are needed to make a success. Failure is tough – actually it is devastating. However, it can put your life in perspective for you. You are not perfect. You can attempt, but life is still going to happen around you. And the more you try to be perfect, the more difficult it will be for you to handle your imperfections when they come. It may become apparent in one failure to that you thought you could control. But often you cannot control the outcomes after decisions have been made.

I say again you need to change your perception of failure. Failures are the steps to great success. As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”  Failures are only the results of the choices we make. They are the steps to getting what we ultimately want. Remember your individual choices may have failed, but you are not a failure. You have the opportunity to make new choices that will allow you to succeed! Here lies the key to why failures can be opportunities – the opportunity is the chance to make a new decision, the chance to try again! That is the opportunity. That is your winning lottery ticket. You have figured out how “NOT” be a financial success. Whatever you were doing before it did not work. Because you are now in control you have the chance, the opportunity to make new choices, choices that can make you successful!

See my website for a FREE guide to help you start on your emotional healing so you can also heal financially. Visit our website for your FREE Seven Step Guide to Financial Recovery at http://www.hdpriceinc.com. Hillary D. Price is a financial counselor and coach, author, and entrepreneur in Southern California. Her innovative and in-demand “Make Dollars and Cents with Emotions” course is available at http://www.hdpriceinc.com. Private counseling available by appointment only. 888-769-7714, Fax 888-380-9876, info@hdpriceinc.com.

So your financial life is broken and now you are going to begin the steps of repair. After a surgery you go to physical therapy to retrain your muscles and joints to work as they once did. This is the same method for your financial life. During your monetary rehabilitation, you are going to focus on three things: MOOD, ATTITUDE, and GRATITUDE.

Have you ever noticed how your mood can change your whole day? I certainly have. When my mood is bad, all I can think of is all my dissatisfaction with my situation, the world and me. I also tend to worry a lot more when I am in a bad mood.  And when I am in a bad mood and I am worrying about money, I tend to sleep poorly. If I am sleeping poorly I am tired. When I am tired, I tend to make poor decisions. My partner jokes with me when I am tired: “Time to make an important decision?” I have learned to laugh at this question, but when I first heard it I was exasperated. It is so true.

There is a snowball effect: Bad mood = Worrying = Lack of Sleep = Poor Decision Making Ability. Bad moods seem to instigate negative, fearful and self-deprecating thoughts. We tend to compare ourselves to others. Work becomes even more difficult. You do not see any opportunity and often perceive that others have it easy. A bad mood can set limitations that do not really exist. 

On the contrary, a good mood it is totally different. All of sudden you see an abundance of opportunity. You have increased energy to try new activities and tackle challenging tasks. Rather than seeing limitations or others as having it easy, you jump into the game of life and go for it yourself! Your understanding of mood can change your perception of the tasks in front you. It allows you to take your mistakes or failure less seriously. A good mood gives you freedom

See my website for a FREE guide to help you start on your emotional healing so you can also heal financially. Visit our website for your FREE Seven Step Guide to Financial Recovery at http;//www.hdpriceinc.com. Hillary D. Price is a financial counselor and coach, author, and entrepreneur in Southern California. Her innovative and in-demand “Make Dollars and Cents with Emotions” course is available at http://www.hdpriceinc.com. Private counseling available by appointment only. 323-446-8655, Fax 888-380-9876, info@hdpriceinc.com.