I discuss this NOT solely as a gay issue but as an issue to each and every adult – particularly parents who either cannot handle the fact that any of their children may be gay, simply refuse to admit it or face it. 

To use an old cliche ‘I have been there, done that and worn the tee shirt’.  I am now an unmarried man (having been married twice before with no children - divorced from my first wife and widowed from my second wife).  Being on the gay scene for a while in my earlier years - which I hated because of the bitching, jealously and general nastiness that gay people at times adopted – which may well be a survival package because of their past bitter experiences - has also given me a somewhat qualified and hopefully now that I am settled down now more than I have been for years I would like to give an unbiassed viewpoint and nevertheless now that I am 67 years old and I am interested in writing about the different experiences I have had with different subjects.

I have to say that NOT all gay men are hip swaggering, limp wristed, outrageous in their dress or speech or otherwise as camp as a Christmas cake at Easter.   What is MOST annoying especially is that a lot of people put gay people down (men especially)  as child molesters when this is simply an evil form of malevolent form of wrongful and ignorant typecasting.  More gay people do NOT display their sexuality in any form of imaginary typecasting image at all.  Whilst in a way I admired Quentin Crisp for standing up for his beliefs of sexual freedom I have to concur that his outrageous mode of dressing did as far as I am concerned quite easily have done more damage than good to himself at that particular time but these days is in no way necessary.  It is only after the traumatic efforts to make himself accepted at the time that modern day attitudes have been more liberal.  As I have said on a previous occasion gay people just have to accept that in order to be accepted by others they they themselves MUST make themselves acceptable to others in the first place and that is only done by respecting their views also.

My own belief as a Christian Spiritist is that of an individuals predestination by the time of birth by the supreme creative force – whatever name we choose to give it –  and that we all have patterns that we are destined to follow.  It is a way of showing other people – who care to study any particular individual, their actions, make up, personality or individuality etc  as to why they react in ways that they do.  Basically we are all here to teach one and other the lessons of tolerance, acceptance and understanding. It does indeed take all types to make a world 

Bullying parents who have felt that their children has ‘let them down’ for whatever reason – and there are many reasons that I have heard of.  Because of  children’s sexuality does NOT mark parental failure as parents and parental aggression does not help achieve anything other than sheer resentment by the children who are gay.  Trying to study what and why has caused the situation may well help the parents concerned to understand the problem (if you can call it a problem), condition or situation.

Luckily enough today most of the parents I have spoken to about such subject in this last thirty years or so have been aware of the fact that the way of life their children have turned to – whether gay or straight (the term I will use to demonstrate hetrosexual (male only wanting female partners – or visa versa) sexuality – still,in the main accept and love their children irrespecive of their sexual activity - or what they are no matter.  Unfortunately not all of us have been so lucky.

I strongly feel that anyone at all in this day and age who castigate gay people because of their sexuality have for reasons best known to them got resentments (hang-ups) about their own lives somewhere along the line and I am NOT going to delve into psychological reasons for this at this point.  One of the key necessities in this day and age is TOLERANCE to other people’s way of life led legally (by consenting adults of legal age only) - which sadly is not always indicative by strong religious followers who tend to quote only rel event parts of the Bible to suit their own arguments or in many cases their inhibitions.  You just cannot get anyone more homophobic these days than our churches or certain police force members who are against gay people in he first place.  For whatever verse or chapter in the Bible is given against homosexuality one will never ever argue against is one of the greatest quotations given of ‘Judge not lest ye be judged’ and judging is just what certain police forces and most (if not all) of the churches in this land in fact do. 

                                HOW HYPERCRITICAL CAN ONE GET?     PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT                                

Many gay people struggle very badly with coming to terms with their sexuality, some succeed but many others commit suicide because of the sheer bullying or indoctrination they all get concerning this issue from family and churches.  Nobody (unless gay people such as myself) will ever know about the inner struggles individuals have especially when they are faced with the inevitability of after having to come to terms with their sexuality that had at first with themselves then having to tell their close family and friends without that constant fear of retribution,  hate, aggression or general disdain that other people show – and unfortunately although the majority of people accept that there are gay people and that gay people will exist on this earth until its’ end - there are still those with archaic and dangerous attitudes of none acceptance that we can all well do without.  The time has surely come when all this nonsense of homophobia is stopped as it it an attitude that will not solve, help or overcome sexuality that some people may feel in their naive ignorance is abnormal.  Some gay people have a great deal to offer the world today as indeed many top successful people in all walks of life are in fact themselves gay.  This then leads onto the million dollar question ‘What is in fact normal?’ but that again is perhaps another leading discussion for another time.

Views and opinions to me directly are – as usual are more than welcome on this or on any other subject I have written about.  Please send them to me on my e-mail facility - marking the subject line ‘Article on Triond’ and my e-mail address is lamedlamed@yahoo.co.uk                                                                                                                                      

Leslie Lewis   

I know one of my coworkers who looked so flirty and obvious the minute he appeared on the scene, although he was masculine. He had to tell people he was gay for them to realize it. Same with a lesbian who is girlish, everyone expects them to be butch or something and therefore considering a woman, who is automatically straight. Therefore, it is not rare because most of the time people cannot tell on either side of the spectrum.

I do agree with why people cannot understand them. I think the attitude to gay people is far better in Europe than it is in many other countries. Catholic countries are renowned for treating gay people badly, m as most, very religious countries do.

I cannot speak for the USA or Europe because my country is India. Your opinion about homosexuality here could not be more inaccurate. You seem unaware that being, biased because of some ones sexuality is a criminal offence here, although they may feel differently here without expressing their views openly.

It would not be just because the person is gay but because a gay wanting to date is likely to want to date a fellow gay.

Helping a acquaintance who is gay

When you apprentice that a acquaintance is gay, you may acquaintance abruptness or shock. A getting you anticipation you knew so able-bodied turns out to be gay. You may be agitated that they kept this from you or you may admiration if you can abide the friendship, now that you apperceive the truth.

It’s acquire to accurate abruptness to your friend. If you pretend like you’re not surprised, or you try to adumbrate the way your feeling, your acquaintance is traveling to see through you. On the added hand, you owe it to your acquaintance to action your support, even if you acquire to advance yourself in that direction. It may advice to anticipate of your friend’s abandon as getting neither acceptable nor bad, but artlessly the way it is – like getting awkward in a mostly right-handed world.

Even if you acquire that homosexuality is “wrong”, your acquaintance stands annihilation to accretion from your acrid disapproval – he or she will alone feel added alone and unloved. Bear in apperception that gay adolescence backpack out a top amount of all boyish suicides. You may blame of what your acquaintance is doing, but try to acquisition it in yourself to acquire who your acquaintance is – a homosexual.

By acknowledging your acquaintance through this difficult period, you acquire the befalling to accomplish a absolute aberration in the activity of a disturbing person. Here are some accurate means you can help:

Find out if your acquaintance has appear out to his or her parents. If not, action your abutment while your acquaintance approaches this awe-inspiring task.

Do not acknowledge annihilation about your friend’s animal acclimatization unless he or she has accurately accustomed you the go-ahead.

Protect your acquaintance from atrocious animadversion from schoolmates or added people… at the actual least, don’t participate in such discussions. If you’re afraid about your own safety, argue an developed such as a academy counsellor.

Listen, listen, accept – finer after judgment. Take the befalling to apprentice what it’s like to be gay.

Our analysis indicates that most lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals have actively or reactively under control or repressed the main cause of their excessive sex-related pushes and side effects. For many, the real resource of their psychological discomfort and sex-related pushes are unconscious or hardly aware.

There is much difficulty being created nowadays about homosexuality, the reasons how different heterosexuals from gays, whether they should be permitted to get married to, or have the same city privileges that other individuals love. The unfunny scam is that the only change between homosexuals and a lot of heterosexuals is a considerable element in their parent or guardian connections and their parent-related encounters during their increasing up decades.

For the benefit of all bisexuals and homosexuals everywhere, it is essential that we quit knowing can be found and incorrect thoughts about the cause of their sex-related personal preference and sex-related pushes. It is not inherited, nor is it a way of life option. There is much more to the conduct than most are willing to acknowledge. To study about the real cause of homosexuality press on a hyperlink below.

The genuine acceptance of gays who took part in our study, in addition to Jean’s email parts reveals, greatly invisible adverse facts of what took place between lesbians, gays, and bisexuals and their mother and father that led them to the self-centered side effects that reveal as gay or bisexual behavior

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 Expert;

“Gay is a word (a noun or an adjective) that primarily refers to a homosexual person. The term was originally used to refer to feelings of being “carefree”, “happy”, or “bright and showy”; it had also come to acquire some connotations of “immorality” as early as 1637. The term’s use as a reference to homosexuality may date as early as the late 19th century, but its use gradually increased in the 20th century. In modern English, gay has come to be used as an adjective, and occasionally as a noun, referring to the people, especially to men, and the practices and cultures associated with homosexuality”

I have a close friend. Physically he is very amazing, he is tall strong and handsome. However no one knows if he has different interest to have a couple. He hates almost all the girls but he loves the boys only.

Once he and I were in the botanical garden nearby our town, at that time there were some girls tried seducing him. What a surprise! He treated them so bad with so many rude behaviors. I didn’t understand that. Slowly I tried to make him calm down and discussed about it. In short, he was so calm and told me why he like being mad when the girls want to make approach with him.

According to his story, the reason why he did something rude to each girls that wanted to make him as his friend- was the worst experience that he got.

Ten years ago he was normal. He had a girl friend and he managed to marry her. Unfortunately before wedding day came, the girl whom he loved felt in love with another man and canceled the wedding day. Of course he was broken heart and couldn’t help himself for being ashy.

Handling the situation he became a big drinker. He spent almost all a day long with alcoholic things. And then she tried to suicide, drowning himself into the river but he was so lucky that he didn’t pass a way. Finally he had a symptom of becoming a Gay. A kind of illness made him keep bad tempering to every woman and up to the present he didn’t want to get a life couple.

He was crying when she told me about that. He said “I would curse myself of being single forever” I couldn’t say single words as he was expressing the gloomy mood.

     After Ricky Martin came out as gay in the year 2010, he has become very open with his sexuality and has also publicly confirmed his relationship with his boyfriend Carlos Gonzalez Abella. Rumors have now come up that he is going to marry his gay boyfriend Carlos, in New York on 28th January.

      It was on March 2010 that he came out as a fortunate homosexual, Ricky Martin also confirmed his relationship with Carlos in March 2011 during an award function. Thought recently the rumors of his marriage on the 28th of January has been denied, Ricky has said that he has no plans to get married now but maybe one if future. Ricky is happy and busy raising his twin sons with Carlos alongside. Ricky Martin has been granted a citizenship in Spain, and in the year 2005, Spain has legally recognised sex-same marriage. Therefore, rumors have also come up that Ricky Martin and Carlos Gonzalez Abella are in plans of getting married at Spain itself, though Ricky has given no confirmation about his gay marriage. He told in his recent interview that he would love to have a sister for his little twins and as far as marriage is concerned, he may marry Carlos in the near future.

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All women do is complaining and all men are idiots. Well, that’s how it looks like to a lot of people, but why? Why are woman usually the one cleaning after the man? Why are men such slobs at home in the first place? Why aren’t men romantic? Why do woman nag men to death about not being romantic enough?

These questions have been asked all around the world and since people spoke for the first time. First and foremost you have to understand that the brain has change because of human’s physical traits and evolution. For 100,000s of years women had to stay home to protect they’re child especially when they’re pregnant. Woman wouldn’t want to hunt a saber tooth and risk the life of their unborn child, so they stay home a let the men do the hunting. Only in a proximately 50 years, women were known to go out and take charge in the work force, but there is still evolutionary bits left in woman’s (and man’s) brain that stayed with the humans.

In general when it comes to problem solving, men and women have different ways in viewing things. consciously a woman will ask “How do I solve it?” An example that could be used for 1,000s of years; when a mother’s child gets sick, she needs to find the solution to that problem right away, without asking any other questions.

when problem occurs to men they will first ask “Why should I solve it?” Another example that can be used for 1,000s of years; when men go out to hunt for food and risk their lives, they want to know why instead of how first, to make sure the risk is important and worthy.

In modern times where the differences in roles between men and women had blurred significantly but their attempt to solve the problems has not change, so as they attempt to solve everyday challenges subconsciously the woman will only ask “why?” after their attempt. “Why is this happening to me? Why am I even doing this in the first place?” In that attempt the woman will complain because she doesn’t have the answer that she was asking subconsciously, While men in the other hand will ask “how” after their attempt, usually looking like incompetents.

If you go to a woman’s house usually it will be clean, pretty and with lots of decoration while inside of a man’s house usually dirty and barely any decorations whatsoever. The reason behind that is evolution. Remember that for 100,000s of years the men would hunt while the women would stay home. That has affected both sexes up to even today. Men in general do not like to stay home compared to women (they much more rather go fishing, hunting or go play football) Women in general much rather stay home and read a book. Because of evolution, men are more comfortable to go outside of their environment.

Psychologists at Queen Mary, University of London did a research that shows gay men and straight women share a poor sense of direction. The Sun news site says: “Both (women and gay men) are poor at navigating and rely on local landmarks to get around, the study suggests.

They are also slower to take in spatial information than heterosexual men.

This means driving in a strange environment is likely to be more challenging for gay men and women than for straight male motorists.

Psychologists at Queen Mary, University of London, conducted computer-based tests of spatial learning and memory on 140 volunteers recruited through advertisements in newspapers and magazines.

They showed that gay men, straight women and lesbians navigated in much the same way and shared the same weaknesses.

But there were also differences between gay and heterosexual men and straight and lesbian women.

Previous research had already shown that the male myth of women being poor navigators has some bearing on reality.

Men consistently outperform women on tasks requiring navigation and discovering hidden objects.

Women, on the other hand, are more successful in tests requiring them to remember where objects lie.”

This means the female human learned to organize to their surroundings; the human male did not.

As hunters the men tend to be visualized and be systematic; women (who were left in the village) were socializing, tacking care of the children, and doing whatever they can at home. This can explain why men are not as romantic as women would like them to be. Women sexuality is stimulated on touch, and tends to sympathize when it comes to romance. Men sexuality is stimulated more on visualization, and tends to systemize when it comes to romance. This would explain why men are known to be more sex oriented, and woman to be more oriented towards relationships.

It is common knowledge that men and women are different; these differences have caused a great deal of arguments that has ended in terrible circumstances, all because they do not quite understand each other. Men and women both have they’re strong points and weaknesses but together with two different mindsets, they can complete each other, and lets not forget some of the best romantic literature were written by men, and some of the best world leaders were women, we should never judge anyone simply because of their sex.

I’m gay so I can’t be taken seriously

I’m gay so I can never be truly happy

I’m a gay woman so I must hate men

I’m gay so I must be an abomination

I’m gay so I must have AIDS

I’m gay so I can’t raise children

I’m gay so I have no morals

I’m gay and as a result worship the devil

I’m gay so I must be the devil

I’m gay so I’m going to corrupt children

I’m gay so I’m going to recruit others to be gay

I’m gay so I can’t be a leader in anything

I’m gay so I must only say lies

I’m gay so I must be eradicated

I’m gay so I must be raped repeatedly by multiple homophobic men

I’m gay so I’m an easy target for an assault

I’m gay so I can get barred from having a job

I’m gay so I can’t call police for help

I’m gay so I can’t do anything

Well, I am gay but I am none of the above things.

This is just the stereotypes a gay person is faced with everyday

This is called homophobia which is only found in the human race

Some argue we have common sense

Is is common sense to beat each other senseless because a man sleeps with a another man, or a woman sleeps with another woman, or a bisexual sleeps with both sexes (not both at once hopefully…).

Yeah, you decide

I wrote this to combat all homophobic people

It’s a shame but no matter what humans will always find something to fight over

Whether it be left handed (Believe me you’d be surprised as I was over this issue…)

Homosexuality

Interracial marriage

And even other things that some of our species

Hasn’t evolved from yet

I see it everyday

The lunatics

I pity them

Aw well

Hopefully the future only gets better

Maybe humans will stop this utter nonsense among each other

But alas, that will not happen in my lifetime…

Homosexuality is one the evil we are facing today in youth specially. People who supports these things have many points in its favour. They say that it stops world population. It shouldn’t have to be ban in many countries. Religious norms should have to be eliminated and so on.

What is Homosexuality?

Homosexuality is romantic or sexual attraction or behavior between members of the same sex or gender. As a sexual orientation, homosexuality refers to “an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affections, or romantic attractions” primarily or exclusively to people of the same sex; “it also refers to an individuals sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them.”

(definition from Wikipedia)

Look at the definition carefully. Sexual attraction. Which only depicts the idea that homosexuality is been present just to fulfil the sexual desire of a person, to whom girls are not available, most of the time.

Many people says that it is a natural behaviour of a person. They give, in support, many examples of homosexual animals. I just comment that how it is proved that behaviour of an animal can be natural for a man. Most animals eat flesh. Most just eat grass. Can this be natural for a human being of not?

There are many to say, but just to avoid the lack of attraction, i would give an end to this article. I would like if somebody would like to discuss this issue with me personally or any other forum.