A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men;

and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions

run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.

: o ) Herman Melville

Everything we do has an effect on our life.  The decisions we put off, or act upon make us who we are now and whom we may and will become.  I say the word may before the word will due to the fact that we need to continue our chosen path. Act upon our decisions or we may become something else that was not intended.

When we have a clear focus on the world outside of our immediate self.  We will then possibly be able to add some sympathy and tolerance into our fiber.

We are made up of thousands of strands of DNA, that make us who we are in a very individualistic way.  No two of us are exactly the same.  Another miracle from our creator.

But within that individualism is a common thread, that if we focus on weaving in love, hope, compassion, sympathy, acceptance, tolerance we will indeed blend a different fabric for generations to come.  Can we do that?  More importantly will we do that?

One person at a time we can.

One person at a time we should.

One person at a time, will you be that one?

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“Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.”

Colossians 3:12 (NLT)

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Therefor, only one who is careless of his or her life… or a fool… approaches, let alone openly seeks out, welcomes, and embraces the unknown wholeheartedly and without caution.

This is not the same as those rare, extreme, but nonetheless real moments in our living and exploration of life when we may be faced with having to choose between the certainty of destruction or death on the one side, and the unknown, which may hold out at least the possibility of success and life on the other…

… those (hopefully few) times in one’s life when hope must, and rationally does, rule against caution in choosing the unknown, our doing so then coming from our thrust FOR life, being at those moments the only – and coldly logical – choice to be made to HAVE a chance to live by experiencing the glory of a miracle in random chance… or the Universe’s (or God’s, if you prefer) blessing… instead of the sureness of non-existence.

But in our everyday lives, what is much more often the case is that we hold on to many things that make us unhappy because, for bad or worse, they are familiar and have become “home” to us… the place inside and outside us to which we have become accustomed or inured (which is often a palpable dullness), but are at least certain that they exist… fearing that to venture outside of and beyond what we know simply for the sake of what only MAY be is to risk that the unhappiness, and the awareness that we feel that we somehow don’t “fit” well in our life as we’ve come to know it, may get even worse, that we might not even be able to return to living even with the degree of unhappiness we’ve become used to and know that we can at least live with (despite our discontent)…

… and prove to us NOT that our hopes for the existence of “better” may be real, but that our fears that we cannot… and will NEVER… experience the happiness and joy that our souls innately know and so BELIEVE life is capable of containing for us are (real)…

… causing the loss of all hope… which we fear would be the death of our soul.

In that way, accepting unhappiness in our lives and becoming content with it is to live by a compromise with our desire for happiness, a kind of wager with our souls, clinging to the hope that we may yet find or achieve happiness, but doing so ONLY by never risking loss of it by ever actually seeking it out and possibly not finding it, or, having found it, finding that it doesn’t last as long as our unhappiness does.

And therein lie the half-lived and continually unhappy lives of countless many…

.. existing in the purgatory of the misery of life, while believing that they may be avoiding something worse, Hell… which is to live with the soul’s having died…

… by never taking the chance – in any way other than in our dreams – to be more fully alive, to look for and possibly find and live our dreams, and to soar.

It is no wonder, then, that depression makes us want to sleep…

… depression being so often the sadness and frustration of feeling only partly alive and hopelessly “lost” without enough of a functioning sense of ourselves and who, and what we are (which is the inner flame of our souls) to even know where to LOOK for happiness and fulfillment… let alone find it.

          My senior year through graduation I tried everything to find something I could put my trust in.  I tried friends, substances, art, and finally I found myself lost in my hometown and ready to move to a place that no one knew my name.  I left Tennessee and moved to Oklahoma.  That is where I met my husband.  My entire life I was taught how I was to think and believe.  I lived my life accordingly even though I doubted most of those things.  My husband was someone I could be honest with about my true thoughts without judgement or isolation.  He made me feel like it was okay to have a different view or opinion than my family.  When I finally declared my independence I lost a lot of people.  They didn’t stop talking to me or disown me, but they immediately decided I was troubled and my kids were at risk. 

          Its a scary, lonely world out there when your faith isn’t where the majority of your peers find it to be.  Just being a good person wasn’t and still isn’t ever enough.  No one sees that.  Once you say you don’t believe in a god or supernatural being you are labeled as someone without a conscience.  People find it hard to believe you can be a good person without religion.  I’m here to tell you that isn’t true.  Everyone with a mentally stable mind knows what is right and what is wrong.  When you get into specifics there are many different views, but everyone should work that out on their own turf and live life accordingly. 

          I’ve lost hope in many things, life has gotten me down to the point of giving up.  Once I found myself being true to my own feelings, I found a freedom regardless of the outside opinion.  It meant letting go of how others perceived me and taking hold of my right to individuality. 

          People have asked me how I could be happy or positive when I believed in nothing.  Every time I am questioned this way, I must correct them for they have it all wrong.  Maybe I don’t have faith an a physical or spiritual thing, but I have faith in myself.  I have faith in who I am and hope in what I can be and do.  My life has its ups and downs, and I don’t always make the right choices, but I know that I can. 

          Its very hard to only have yourself to rely on.  Never could I say it was easy.  Its very hard.  One thing I have found to be certain is that when you are the only person to let yourself down its much easier to digest so you can get back up and try again with the knowledge of what failure has given you.  I haven’t accomplished much of anything I have set forth, yet.  But, once I do make it to the finish line I will be able to say I did this on my own and my self worth doesn’t depend on my surroundings.  With this honesty I have motivation.  I only need to prove to myself what I am capable of.  I only have me to impress. 

          Everyone who has something to live for is a winner in my book.  No matter what it is, as long as you are honest with yourself you can make your life whatever you want it to be.  I don’t believe in limitations.  Your only as good as what you accomplish.  I have nothing but respect for those people.  The only thing I desire is the same respect.  That may never happen.  However, those people who I allowed to let me down will no longer have that power over me.  Freedom came when I was honest and success will come when I make it happen.

Rakhi Sharma and Awadhesh Kishore

Institute for Development of Technology for Rural Advancement, Mathura-281004 INDIA

Sarvoday Mahavidyalaya, Chaumuhan-581406, Mathura INDIA

Before being agree or disagree with the quote of Griffiths (1998, p97), it is a primary need to be acquainted with the words ‘hope’, ‘perfect ‘and  ‘research’. The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language has defined the word “hope” as emotional state which promotes the belief in a positive outcome related to the events and circumstances in one’s life.  The term “perfection” has generally been translated as completeness. Things having this quality may be termed as “perfect”. The word “Perfect” denotes a state that is complete and without any fault, weaknesses or error. The Greek philosopher Anaximander described the world as “endless” and “the greatest” but while he ascribed great qualities to the world, he had not regarded it as perfect (1) that meant there was nothing to be complete and perfect.

Sometimes research is termed as the repeated search of a search (re+search) established already.  This is not true. Research is a systematic investigation and has been defined as the search for knowledge to solve new or existing problems, prove new ideas, to develop new theories and to establish novel facts.

On the basis of these definitions as described above, it may be concluded that research is a systematic search for knowledge and knowledge is endless. Research is aimed to solve new and existing problems and to prove new idea. Anaximander was obviously correct that the world of knowledge and research was not ever ending, complete and perfect.

It has thus been agreed that there is no hope of doing perfect research. There is a never-ending list of reasons of imperfection of a research. Neither two gardens are same on a day, nor two days in a garden. Similarly, ideology, environment, culture, religion, society, politics and economics etc. are varying and affecting needs of a common person and objectives of a researcher. This change in needs of a common person and objectives of a researcher may be due to variation because of differed locations and/or time intervals. Thus previous knowledge is insufficient on today and today’s knowledge will be insufficient on tomorrow.

Sometimes the person doing research overrides the true outcome of research. The researcher’s biased attitude also caused an error in search of knowledge to make it imperfect.

Few examples have been illustrated here to make clear the imperfection of research due to various reasons:

1.           We had got an idea from the literature that if the buffers are included in the food of a lactating ruminant, the content of fat in the milk produced, may be increased. A series of experiments was conducted to test the hypothesis to draw valid conclusions. The idea has been recorded to be correct. Further, a work is now required to supplement existing knowledge regarding economical aspects of the outcome of the research before recommending it among the farmers. It can thus, be percepts that the research conducted before me was neither perfect, nor my work because the knowledge and the facts generated were insufficient. The reason is clear that a person and his activities may have a limit but the knowledge may not.

2.         Here is another example that we would like to quote. At the time of green revolution in India chemical fertilizers and insecticides were promoted among the farmers in various ways. That promotion was based on a continuous series of experiments on productivity of the crops. After some years, the properties of soil and the environment were affected badly due to application of such chemicals at farmers’ level on the field. Now, the community of researchers is advocating restricting the use of such chemicals on the field and advising the farmers to return to organic farming.

3.        An example in India is well known today. Some biased persons in the Government were giving clean chit to Mr. Raja and 17 others in a renowned 2G spectrum scam on the basis of investigation of the facts and the documented records. But, the Hon’ble Court of law, after trails, examination and investigation of those facts and records, framed the charges against all alleged persons. The reason of imperfection of the research was that the biased people were conducting the research and overriding the conclusion .

4.         At its initial period, Psychology was the study of soul but after some time, it was turned to study of mind. Now the subject matter of this subject is to study of behaviour (2) and mental processes. Thus, research is a never-ending and continuous process. This property of research enables the possibilities of further improvement or revision in the matter.

So many other reasons may be responsible for this happening but it was clear that there is no research work which is perfect. Mostly, a newly conducted research on the same topic adds something new to the existing knowledge or sometimes even proves that the previous findings were wrong. Similarly, no claim can be made that the outcome searched today is perfect. There is no any research that could be termed as “perfect”, otherwise the people may not be innovated and rehabilitated themselves. Who knows in coming future, a simple pill will treat today’s serious diseases like cancer, AIDS and leprosy etc.

Conclusion:

 We do agree with Griffiths (1998, p97) that there is no hope of doing a perfect research.

  From behind the red door, on the second floor, the curtains stir and the blinds close hastily. Hope paces back and forth counting each step and questioning each count. Everyday he has noticed the girl on his steps creep onto his house…cell. Deceit. Hope puts another hole into the the peeling wall in aggravation. The house, or cell, moans and this only aggravates Hope. With busted knuckles leaving a trail of red out of his study down to the first floor he sits on the bottom stair and weeps. Longing. Hope glares at the door through the sting of salty moisture. There is no knob from inside. Hope built the foundation and structure in an attempt to isolate himself. He grew to hate himself and the house which he wished would collapse and swallow his being. Hope felt the cold bitter breeze of depression enter. Shiver.

  Loneliness wished longingly that the red door would open and she would gain access into a world she never knew, never could dream, never felt. Hope. But alas she knew that if whomever, whatever was inside cared for her they would’ve let her in by now. Assumption. With regret accompanying her she took leave taking a final glance at the carvings in the door. She began tip toeing to wherever home would be.

  Hope heard the sobbing cease and in a excited panic raced to the second story window, had she decided to knock and open the door? No, of course not. There is no need to have a false hope such as this. Inside his house Hope felt alone.

 From the house came the sobbing of Hope given up, under a bridge slept a hopeless Loneliness, and the red door held a secret that neither would ever know. The only thing that changed was the growing crack in a weathered concrete stair case that lead to a dream Loneliness would never know and a deceived Hope would never leave.

                                                  THe eND

As with the Aliayah Lunsford case, a few months earlier, there are discrepencies in the case and in the stories that set people on edge, such as the cast on her arm, and the fact that time has been called into play. Sadly, these issues also cause many people to simply give up hope, fearing that family members are liekly involved and that there is little hope for a safe return.

With the newest edition of the case becoming a criminal investigation, due to new evidence, people are even more on edge and losing hope fast. However, while many cases do end badly, there is reason to hope that each one will not. Police have stated that they believe that there was foul play involved in the disappearance, but haven’t elaborated on it. Still, they claim to remain at least somewhat optimistic for Ayla’s safe return, and hopefully the public will too.

One can only hope in cases such as these, that a loved one was involved, and that they are simply hiding the missing away safe and sound, as that really is one of the best case scenerios.

Her loved ones have set up a website for her, which you can visit at aylareynolds.com. They are offering a generous reward of $30,000 to anyone that has information that will help to solve this case.

Stay informed, report anything that you might know, keep hope alive, and pray that this baby comes home safely!

So why is it that we fail at our resolutions?! Well, I have a guess that is based off my own experience with them. However considering every person is not exactly alike, which is our birth right my experience won’t explain all!

To me, the reason most of us fail at our resolution is because we lack the will power in ourself to do it and keep with it. If that is not the case sometimes we just end up forgeting about it in the hustle bustle of our day to day life chaos.

Well, here is my advice to fix these problems. If you forget about it every year until the next new year, try writing it down. May I suggest to have it saved in as many reminding spots as possible. When you have it in multiple places make it a simple version to save your hand or printer ink! Like if your resolution was that you wanted to loose 10lbs a month, write it as 10lbs lost this month! Yes, the goal and drive to success is writing goals in the past tense as if you already completed it. Write down one thorough plan to your ways of acheiving this goal, don’t forget to write in past tense to make you feel the greatness of success so that you can get that energy drive from it. For example:

I worked out everyday for 10 minutes with this fun latino dance dvd for the warmup. Then I went for a walk/jog alternating the two to get my cardio pumped up. After that, I came home and divulged in a fruit and nut salad with only a little dressing and a bottle of water. By day 28 I had lost 12lbs, 2 lbs more than I expected and i was absolutely ecstatic about my success and treated myself to a lazy day at the end of every week. I worked out 6 days a week, alternating my exercise from muscle training, to dancing to fas tpaced music to feel the moves work my body, and just calm walks or jogs. I can definitely denote my success to the support of my fiancee and his encouragement daily. It helped me so much to have little notations all over my house.

See that would lead to success. Ok, no I have not done it this way yet. However I have used this method before and my goal was accomplished.

Now the other problem is low will power. Tell friends, your lover, and family about your goal and that you are afraid you will falter and not be successful. Ask them to help you get through it by contributing by either involving with the goal or moral support as you try. My fiancee is an awesome moral supporter for me. I am very critical about my work, especially art work. I can lose interest in my work if I am not thrilled with the results. So to help me keep trying and going, he often critiques me and tells me where I have done good and then makes a joke about where I messed up to teach me to laugh at my mistakes, instead of criticize myself. Moral support and anything to help your esteem will aid in your will power.

For example…let’s use the 10lb goal again: A friend could go jogging with you or do a dance routine video with or even be coach, a personal trainer type thing. Your friends know your limits and know when you are quitting to easy just to give up because it is too hard. So trust me, they will drive you hard core! I had asked a friend one year to help me and for three months straight every day after school we went for walks. Then school work and our personal life got in the way and it fell through. But in that time I had lost 8lbs! But when I quit and stopped caring about my body I gained it back with bad old habits.

So good luck this new year on success to your resolutions!

2011 Unpublished work. ©  by Rebbecca Abernathy.

In this case, little Aliayah was the buzz of the Internet from the end of September to the end of November, and then it all went quiet. It is difficult to even find an update on this case. Of course there was plenty of speculations flying around, which is always the case, but there seems to be little hope amongst the majority of folks believing that this little girl will be brought home safely.

Hope really started to dwindle when we learned that the dates and times of Aliayah’s last known whereabouts feel under speculation, then the step-dad pulls a vanishing act. Afterwards the trail seemed to go so cold that police were fairly baffled, leaving us all to wonder just how long this little one had really been missing. Yet there was still sparks of hope, a small lead here or there, but they quickly fizzled.

It all started to look as if the parents were in on it, and that there was a cover story being put into place to pacify any questions as to the child’s whereabouts. That is when most people gave up the hope that this child would ever be found – alive or dead. The general, (and unofficial), consensus is that she was likely killed earlier in the year at an unspecified time, the parents covered it up, and when social workers showed an interest in checking out the family due to the new additions coming soon, they decided it was time to Aliayah to “disappear”.

With so many inconsistancies, including statements from family members, it is difficult to know where to stand on this one. I, for one, hope that the family had nothing to do with killing and hiding her and that she will be brought home safe and sound soon.

So if you say a prayer or make a wish, remember this little one and the family and loved ones that are still worried and hoping for a safe return!