2.It is an established truth that verbal abusers are usually people with inferiority complexes and they hurt people to feel an evil satisfaction which they would never get otherwise.Fight them off like a soldier, learn to shrug them off as soon as you realise that they are attacking you or insulting you.Learn to give them a good shut up call.

3.Never give in to the abuser, no matter how hard they try to trick you to get into a conversation. If the abuser has unavoidable presence, make sure you say as little as possible and never involve yourself into something that is said to provoke you or anger you one way or the other.

4.The abuser might try to do it when there is no audience or select a good time with the audience of their choice, just learn to walk out on them with a smile, nothing infuriates them more than that.No words, just a plain “you don’t mean anything attitude” and a graceful exit.The more you learn to ignore them, the angrier they would get. Never lose your calm.

5.Gather strength and be authoritative when defending yourself, don’t ask them to back off, state it as an order.Always hit the negativity with an air of courage and bravery, take a deep breath and use your inner strength to keep your brain working in such situations.

6.Refuse to stay in contact with the abuser, if the attack is constant and persistant . Inform family and friends about the behaviour of the person and if possible always stay in touch with someone who can help incase the verbal abuse converts into physical abuse.

7.The abuser might be jealous of something you have achieved recently. Don’t let that person destroy your sense of achievement.

8.Make a mental note of keeping the abuser out of focus. Your goals in life are way more important than wasting your precious time on staying hurt, sad and frustrated. People like these don’t deserve to be thought about or remembered. Keep yourself indulged in activities of your interest and blank them out through your positivity.

9.If the abuser tries to ruin your relationships, move away as soon as possible.Ask your friends and loved ones to stay away from the abuser and inform them of dangerous nature of the situation.

10.Lastly, just remember that the abuser is a weak person who uses aggression as the tool to destroy you and your key to counter that is to never let them gain control of your life.

How long has the low courage factor affected your decision making capability?

Has the sissiness stuck to you practically all your life?

Has your cry baby whining act attracted more audience than your irritated siblings?

Have you chickened out of complicated situations?

Has the nervousness been ringing in your ear in a crowd observing you?

Has the feminine recoiling part been a prominent trait of yours?

We are not only interested in identifying a wuss when we see it, because if you’re here reading this, it is pretty obvious that either you are one or you know one . We are more concerned about curing this trait as soon as possible .

Here are a few crash courses to get rid of this embarrassing problem:

• For shouting out loud , make your own decisions
• Never get intimidated by heavier more stronger built people
• Don’t complain about weather , people , mortgage , income , job , salary and  boss way too much
• We don’t ask you to follow brands and fashion but please loosen that 50s shirt tucked into your pants
• Never allow women to pay or guide you through a date
• Do not fear going over board and and telling someone wrong , when they are 
• Don’t squeeze yourself into pre-defined criterion of how you should behave , let your personality define that for you
• Live with your parents if you have the guts to carry it off but we would strongly advice you to grow up and get a life
• Keep your sentimental roller coaster ride packed off in the trunks in the attic
• Your lack of self confidence is no ones fault, get over it 
• Weaknesses are to be left behind , be a man , take charge
• Your insecurities are past , don’t be a cry baby about them
• Your fights should never look like cat fights
• You are not the old dog who can’t learn new tricks , be a puppy all your life if it has to be that way
• Lastly , you are hunter , the devil,the stalwart,the knight , the man who is responsible for all the battles and wars the world has seen , the nukes , the armies , the wrestlers …it’s you ! and you are not a wuss.

Lets say you suffer a setback. Your girlfriend left you. Most people would turn into someone they wouldn’t think they would be in the first place. From mr nice guy to the bad boy. We’ve seen it. Stay true to yourself, one day people will appreciate you for who you are and not for someone you’ve become.

Set your boundaries

You don’t always have to agree what people say. If you feel what you’re doing is right then do it. If you make a mistake, learn from it.

Stand up for yourself

If people bully you they probably do it because they are insecure or jealous of you. If they provoke you, try giving them a one-liner. However, don’t go overboard and start a fight, especially if you’re alone.

Don’t care what other people think

The truth is that no one thinks of you. They have their own problems to think about than worrying about you. Stick to your guns and you’ll be fine. Just don’t get intimidated by people.

Enjoy the moment

You’ve got nobody to prove who you are so why worry about the future? Life’s short. Have fun =)

Cheers,

Karl Stripes.

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1. Ask Question. When you’re talking to someone who makes you nervous, bring up a topic you can both relate to. In colege interview, for example, ask about one of the cool classes you read about. It will remind you that you can find some common ground with anyone. And suddenly, you’re both on the same level!
2. Just Fake It. It sounds crazy, but acting as if you’re confident actually tricks your brain into thnking you really are as assured as you look. Make small adjustments in your body language, like pulling your shoulders back to stand taller and making eye contact. Even if you’re not feeling secure, no one will know!
   
   
3. Smile. If your nerves start to take over, forcing a smile instantly eases tention and say “I’m not afraid of you.” It will probably make the person whom you’re talking to act jst a little bit warmer, too–you may even get a smile in return!
   
   
4. Stay Present. It’s only natural to want to bail when you’re scared. But try to stay put for just one minute. Once you see that you can survive, try to go one minute longer. (Take three deep breaths to keep your heart from racing.) You’ll prove to yourself you can handle awkward situations and deal better next time.