VIOLENCE IN OUR COMMUNITIES: A COMMENTARY

On Friday, February 10th we had another school shooting.  It happened during lunch hour in a cafeteria filled with elementary children happily eating lunch.  All we can ask is why?  The school is about 20 minutes from my doorstep and diagonally southeast as the crow flies.  I know several of the teachers and students that work and attend this school.  We share sports programs and the arts.  It is a good school.  Who would have thought such a tragedy would strike here and with a child so young carrying a gun and somehow getting it past the eyes of a watchful and caring staff.  It is heartbreaking. 

We don’t think of these things happening is small, rural communities like the one I live in or those children live in but it even happens here.  Why?

When I was growing up we only occasionally heard of a murder, maybe a few more robberies and off and on a case of domestic violence but it was rare, very rare, especially in rural communities and we never heard of such violence and tragedy in our schools.  What has gone wrong?

Where are all this hate, fear, bullying, desperation, violence, vengeance and moral decay coming from?  Is there anything we can do to stop it?  God help us.  I sure don’t have the answer.  I wish I did.

Maybe it is the broken families, lack of stability in the homes.  Both parents work, they have to.  They have no choice.  Maybe it is because there is only one parent to start with and you just can’t be mother and father and bread winner all in the same breath.  Parents are pushed beyond their limits and children end up ignored and without the discipline and moral upbringing they need.  We may love our children but we are too busy trying to survive to let them know just how deeply they are loved.  There is very little if any family unity anymore. 

The TV becomes the nanny, the babysitter and it doesn’t teach very high morals.  The same goes for the video games and internet games we and our children play and the media plays their part in the nightly news and the daily paper too as they lean toward scandals, violence and all manner of sensationalism with next to no reporting of the good that happens in the community, State, Nation or the world.  We are being fed a very heavy diet of negative with little to no positive.  Children learn what they live.

Schools push for the competitive edge, win no matter what it takes when it comes to sports or any other competition and academically every child still passes to the next grade and still gets some sort of award even if they haven’t truly learned or earned it…No child left behind.  It is sending mixed signals to the child.  It is okay to fail in one area or another.  Why do my best, be my best.  The effort is a waste of time.  We are all going to get some special award and our diploma anyhow.  So what if I can’t really read or write or even do basic math.  Machines will do it for me.  I don’t have to read a book.  I can listen to it or watch the movie, same difference, right?  Who really cares so long as I’m not in the way?  I don’t have to learn math, I have a calculator that with just the push of a button will give me the correct answer so why study.  Who really cares about the process?

Churches are not much if any better today.  They no longer teach morals and God given laws.  They are politically correct and just about anything goes.  That helps bring more money into the coffers when no one is offended in any way.  Many now speak of God as a higher power, not Lord God Almighty but whatever higher power you choose to believe in, be it the Judeo-Christian God or some other god or whatever power you choose, wind, rain, stars, the moon, the cobra, the cat or a tree.  It makes no difference as long as you believe in something beyond self.  Not every church is this way but a lot are today.  I’ve been there and listened to them.  God forbid we offend anyone and stand up for God and His teachings.  I’m sure God is very offended and that bothers me. 

No wonder children, our young adults don’t know right from wrong.  Oh some will blame it on Satan and his legions of fallen angels called demons (You know, the devil made me do it.) and that may be correct to a point but it is each of us who make the choice.  We decide for our self how we choose to behave.  How can we choose when we are not taught morality in the first place?

We are a society that has become segmented, segregated and morally corrupt.  Drug and alcohol abuse is no longer just ghetto garbage; it is rampant in the highest echelons of our society and affects everyone from the homeless wino in some back alley to the CEO of our multibillion dollar corporations to the government leaders of our communities and nations.  We reap just what we sow. 

It is sad when we see young children becoming so disconnected with reality and life and living and the wonder of being human and alive that they no longer feel life is worth their next breath and they put a gun to their head or their neighbors or peers and squeeze the trigger.  BANG and it is over in a split second.  No more worries, no more fears, no more feeling lost and alone, no more being bullied and belittled, no more nothing.  Is this what our society as come down to?  God, I hope not.

Maybe we shouldn’t have thrown God out.  Just a thought on my part. 

• Your beauty aside. Your sincerity prevails.
• When in the third person, he would lose reason and willing to do anything to take back her boyfriend.
• He will always send the SMS. Although it is not rewarded. This is a sign so that she is always thinking about you.
• So that she would shed tears for her beloved. Not all men angel shed tears only for a woman. Do you not see a man who touched willing to shed tears for you? To prove his love is so strong true.
• Always entertaining when is down in your heart. Always hard to do something for you.
• Do you consider a strong male friends If every time he tries to give you advice. Remember, remember the advice means.
• If its love, all kinds would you consider including the fear of loss. Likewise, if your male friend said she always think and worry about the outcome of your relationship. This means he is always thinking about your relationship and how to save it from ending up on its own.
• There is also a man who quickly feels sensitive and easily upset if what he had said not to mind, especially from people who he loved. Whom you indifferent. This can cause jealousy flare, then if you can become loyal listeners when side by side with others. Sure he felt he was not useful to you.
• But the fact is so funny when your male friends behave just like small children just to get attention from you. The pampering and want him to love her more than anyone else treat once you love. If he sulk heart, never try to persuade him.
• You encounter a problem and the first person to come help you is your male friends. Sign is that he does not want to see you hard and feel responsible to help.
• If your male friends are always asking the same question, “You still care I?”, Do not think it is a question that is boring. It’s a sign he does not want to love you to be resilient. For this reason, the word is repeated so that you know how’s he always wants you to remember yourself you already owned by him.
• Not like you do not like to wear sexy, you observed another man even short sleeve.
• He attempts to restrain freedom lover for feeling the seething jealousy.
• He continues to monitor the movement of her lover as he is always suspicious.
• He often felt jealous and sensitive when her lover did not devote his full attention.
• He will not treat other women who do not have important business with him.
• If abandoned by her lover, he will feel tired and did not believe the other woman’s love, but she always hoped her lover back to her.
• He does not like you go out the night, a sign to take care of your views on the org.
• He will not lie to her lover, but if he does so he is not 100 percent mean that his girlfriend loves.
• He does not like any other man approached her lover.

1. ‘Enjoy’ Taste Jealous with Controlled

Do not opposed to the feelings of jealousy. Feeling jealous of it is a natural thing. But of course, do not let jealousy take over or control of your life.

2. Ask Yourself Why You Jealous

The initial step to overcome jealousy is to recognize the situation first. It can make you get the views of other more objective. Ask yourself, is seeing the he had lunch with her girlfriends make you have good reason to be jealous or is this just an overreaction.

3. Build Good Communication

Begin to share doubts, fears and thoughts are with him, of course the right way and in a cozy atmosphere. Alternatively, start a relationship with her closest friends she was. By getting to know his world, you are more able to think from different angles.

4. Have Personal Time

Although dated, it does not mean you and he should always be together. Set aside time for yourself and friends when the he did not get along. This can avoid negative thoughts and assumptions that come your way every time he is not anywhere near you.

5. Make a list of Kindness

Make a list of everything that makes you and him love each other. If jealousy toward, read the list again to remind that he loves you, and you have no reason to be jealous with another woman.

6. Express feelings

Rather than too late and harbored emotions and anger, it’s better express your feelings on the couple. It could also pave the way for you and your partner to communicate about the problem. Who knows, you and he can solve this problem together.

7. Positive Thinking

Eliminate prejudice against the couple. No need to check the phone or appointment book. Convince yourself that you only woman on the liver couples. When you think positive, your mind becomes more clear. You can see the goodness and the compassion of the couple is intact, undisturbed prejudice.

8. Stop Fantasy

People who feel jealous, usually start thinking about a no-no partner. If he has yet to show signs of cheating or other strange things, these fantasies can actually make you more and more occupied with envy.

source: http://fandimin.blogspot.com/2012/01/cara-mengatasi-cemburu-yang-berlebihan.html

Long ago in the land of Greece the ancient gods and their people loved to eat. But there was a problem. The people started getting bored of the same old Bland food until one day an explorer discovered salt. Initially it was a rock but after it was turned into powder, everyone yearned to use it on their food. Even the gods loved to use it with food. All the gods loved it except for one; Hades. There was only one problem with salt, if anyone from the underworld were to eat it, it could only be eaten there. So, all the gods forbid Hades to have salt.

The ocean was also a very different place. It was full of life. Fish were plentiful and were often as big as the humans that caught them. But that all changed on the faithful day.

One day Hermes was particularly bored and was looking for something fun to do. He got hungry and bought some salted bread, with the bread he decided to visit Hades. 

“Why art thou eating in my palace, allow me to fetch thy some food” said Hades.

“No matter, I have here some salted bread” replied Hermes “would thy like some?” he had completely forgotten that Hades couldn’t eat salt. 

“Get out of my sight!” said Hades enraged. Now he was going to get rid of salt forever. Hades understood that if he got rid of it in the open all of Greece would hate him, but he had a more cunning plan in mind. He planned to send a spirit demon into the soul of The King of Olympia where all the Salt of Greece was mined. 

When all the salt mines were exhausted the possessed King decided to withhold all of the salt, much to the anger of the gods and the rest of Greece. The townsfolk decided to ram down the door to his palace and take the salt for themselves. When the King realized what was happening he loaded up all the salt onto his ship and set sail for the Ionian Sea. With the immense weight of the ship some of the salt fell out and killed a few fish. Unfortunately the god of the sea Poseidon was there. It enraged him so much to see his fish die that he summoned a huge tsunami and destroyed the king’s ship. 

This was a huge mistake for it caused all the salt on the ship to fall in the sea. But what Poseidon did not know was that the great wave had also spread the salt to the four corners of the world killing many fish in its wake. Zeus was furious but did not know who to blame, yet it would not change the fact that the Greeks would never be able to have salt again or that they would not catch nearly the same number of fish. And that is why the ocean is salty.

You know, what arguments are most often occurs among couples? All Women Talk reveals, there are eight common arguments and how to deal with it.

1. Money
The main cause of the couple quarrel is a matter of money. Lack of income or spending habits are often a source of tension. So, when it has touched this topic make sure you both do not let it drag on, look for a mutually agreed solution. Unless you want your relationship continues to heat up.

2. Jealous
Tension following relationship derived from a common fact: jealousy. Associated lover with another woman is very likely to make partner jealous, even though they are just friends. It’s like when you are dealing with a male friend.

Once informed, remember to keep your jealousy so as not excessive. Remember, too, do not ignite feelings of insecurity lover with too close with male friends.

3. Incompatibility
Sometimes, you can feel very fit person but felt no longer find a match at a later date. If you have lived opposite, may you both have an interest or a different lifestyle.

Communicate with each other and find the midpoint of all of this difference can save the relationship. However, if you have too many differences giving rise to constant quarrels, it may be time to evaluate the continuation of the relationship.

4. Priority
If a relationship, you both priorities can be very similar to each other. If you prioritize family, he’s likely to have similar priorities. When something important your career, it also should be important for the couple. This is the important thing to remember if you think long-term relationship with someone.

5. Sexual intercourse
Undeniably, intimate relationships can be a source of contention in many romances. Male partner wants more sex while women feel not only take care of this. If you experience it, try to look deeper, there may be a deeper meaning to why you both miss the sex more often.

6. Past
The story of the past with a former lover usually triggers a fight that hard to be appeased. Remember, the past is the past, you can not change and that too has ended. If you both disagree, do not relate to the past. Also avoid quarrels as a result of the past.

7. Stress
Everyone in the world can feel depressed. Day-bad day at work or home care do not get carried away when with a partner. Spouse is the person that makes you relax, not vice versa.

8. Place a date
Another source of contention is the choice that is sometimes experienced dating you and your partner want. You want out, but he’s very comfortable in the house. Or conversely, he wanted to breathe fresh air while you want to watch television alone.

When you experience it, compromise is a fair answer. You also do not want to date outside all the time or just stay home instead? Once in a while, doing your own dating and mate alternately

So now the same people that support Tyler Perry’s coonery want to hate on him because he decides to cast Kim Kardashian in a movie.  If you look at Kim Kardashian’s “career”, it has coonery all over it.  He wants to work with her, when no one else in Hollywood would, in that capacity.  So why hate on the man, it is so hypocritical, particularly when you have supported his degredation of the Black community from the very beginning, cloaking it in a guise of Christianity.

This isn’t the first time he cast White actors and actresses.  You all know that this is the Holy Grail.  This has nothing to do with Tyler Perry, it is jus Black women, and their hatred of Kim Kardashian, resurrected.  Just hating on any White women that is known for their sexuality, but when some Black women gets it, she is the best woman in the world and a role model.  Like they all want to be Beyonce and Rihanna.  Getting mad because of how Kim Kardashian treats their men, just jealous because they can’t treat men the same way.  No, a Black woman would have stuck next to Chris Humpries, regardless of how bad he treated them. 

As reported by All Women stalk, here’s seven most common problems that make lovers quarrel, and how to react to it.

1. Money
Arguing because money is not only experienced by those who are married. When I was dating, the couple can debate the money issue. For example, men complain about the spending habits of women spending money, ask for a salary in the pair work or how much money deposit in the account of her lover. Money is a sensitive issue to talk about lovers, so you should not need to talk about it unless you and he had intended to marry.

2. Jealous
It’s not surprising really, but jealousy is one of the main causes of the couple arguing. When the lover found the way with another woman or to be nice with a female friend, certainly there will be resentment. Vice versa, the he also would be jealous if they see you hanging out with male friends. Jealousy in romance is very reasonable, but not to grow so jealous of blind that can damage the relationship.

3. Dissent
Sometimes if too long in a relationship, you will realize that there is a mismatch between the two of you. Whether it’s a matter of differences in hobbies, work, friendship and life style. Romantically can indeed unify the various differences, but if it causes you and he quarreled constantly, you should start thinking to reevaluate the relationship is being undertaken.

4. Priority
Often conflicting priorities between the pair, if what you and he preferred different. He prioritizes the relationship, while you consider more important work. Lovers attach great importance to his family, while you want to get more attention than anything. If you want lasting relationship, you should first agree on what is most important thing for you both.

5. Past
Everyone will feel uncomfortable if the relationship is always tilt his past brought up, let alone people who brought it up is a partner in the present. Fights that often occur, usually caused by one of his lovers compare with his ex, or he’s constantly asking about past relationships. Bak a mirror, the past should only be seen occasionally to step back as a better reflection for the future.

6. Stress
Who are people in this world who never experience stress? These psychiatric disorders could lead to a pair of lovers quarrel. Often a person is exposed lampiasan rage because his girlfriend is under pressure at work or have family problems. If stress whack, better ask your lover for a while had not met until a clear mind, so the problem’s office not to disturb the relationship.

7. Going Out
Triggers a fight that often happens is to go out. Lover would like to invite you to go with friends, you refuse, but it turns out he went. Tofu lover can still go have fun without you, can cause irritation and ignored. Nothing wrong accompany lovers to hang with his friends. You can make friends even more.

JANUARY:
The man was born in January, the usual character stands out is easy to fall in love but do not easily forget her love when betrayed. These men, including a romantic, but a hard time expressing his feelings. Because they are usually shy and easily jealous. Jealousy is what often makes love to end the relationship.

FEBRUARY:
The man was born in February, usually have abstract thinking, intelligent, temperamental, frequent mood swings, sometimes inferior, shy, simple, overly sensitive and easily hurt. But this man of high courage and stubbornness. They also do not like things that are not considered important. In addition, they have a strong determination, if the ambitious tend to have dreams or desires and trying to get it in every way.

MARCH:
Men Born in March, usually the man has an aura that attracted the sympathy of the opposite sex. Another notable trait is the shy, pecemburu and highly dependent on the couple. He is also demanding and many wants.

APRIL:
Men Born In April, it is very difficult to open the door in his heart when his heart was wounded and hurt. They hold the view that it is better than receiving harbored feelings of rejection. His soul is far from romantic, but he is very loyal to their partners.

MAY:
Men Born In May, they usually appreciate honesty more than anything. Indeed, he may very easily fall in love, let alone knowing she could understand her soul who likes to daydream. They are a fun person, but now with a partner, she likes to organize.

JUNE:
Men Born in June, this man is very picky and very brand minded. Because it is they have a very high taste. Explosive emotions that often remain silent action and volatile mood. The goodness of his heart can be influenced by something that is considered quite convincing. Despite having lots of ideas but doubts always enveloped his mind.

 JULY:
Men Born in July, usually they are very happy to be beside her lover. They always say the truth, sensitive but easy to forgive someone. Easily provoked by something related to her feelings, but they’re a good listener.

 AUGUST:
Men Born In August, the original character to lead happy and always stand in front of his friends. They have a loving and compassionate soul. This man has a romantic type, so the more intelligent tend to treat women like bragging. Her feelings are very delicate or sensitive. The most notable thing is that they love to lament on others, without having to be questioned.

SEPTEMBER:
Men Born In September, clever persuade, compromise, be firm, quiet but smart talk. They very rarely showed his emotions so it is more likely to hide his feelings. This man also has a strong memory and the type of person thinker. So that the slightest mistake, it will be remembered. They are also very picky, not haphazardly choose mates and hooked criticize. Love sports, adventure and relaxation.

OCTOBER:
Men Born In October, they include skilled communicators and happy talk because it said the language is smooth and sympathetic. Do not like convoluted. He was not good at lying and could not pretend. Having a bad temper, selfish. Highly influenced by personal opinion and tend to hell with the opinions of others. Quick decisions and one of its advantages, he gifted a great astrologer because his instincts are very strong.

NOVEMBER:
Born Born In November, he usually has a far-sighted thinking, unique and intelligent. He has ideas that are extraordinary. Their thinking is sharp and always wanted to know. Establishment is powerful and vindictive. He rarely angry, unless forced to. Have a profound love and patience. Prominent feature of her strong-bodied and always passionate.

DECEMBER:
Men Born In December, they have properties that loyal, generous, impatient and in a hurry. Easy to fall in love and in a hurry in touch. Has a high dependence on a partner. Easy to anger but also playful. Basically he has a good sense of humor. Personal a fun, sociable and do not like being in a constrained situation. Is it true that you please geriknya attention through motion.

Many men are unaware if they often behave flirtatious, seductive whether other women through social networking sites or flirting directly. Whatever its form, the man has made women feel jealous. Men are also not aware if his attitude could hurt the feelings of women.

For men, his behavior, which is considered flirtatious woman, is a reasonable action. They also feel better when doing it because he felt his ego satisfied.

In fact, many ways that can be taken to confront the man who often flirt. As summarized Helium, here’s some ways to deal with that often coquettishly lover.

1. Talk about it
If you get annoyed with the attitude genitnya, talk to him carefully. Tell me the situation and explain how you feel when the he behaved flirtatiously. When a man loves a woman, she’ll understand and try to change its behavior so as not to offend again and hurt her feelings.Instead of making ultimatum that led to fights and rebellion, should talk nicely. The key is gentle and clear communication.

2. Back Warms Relations Asmara
Men flirting with other women could be due to the he tired of the relationship. For that you need to warm up again romantically. You can give little surprises for him or take him for a holiday.

3. Ignore it
Men flirt in other women sometimes just want to see the reaction of her boyfriend. He wants to know whether you jealous or just test you. Try to ignore it and behave as usual, show even more in the attitude of your affection. Indeed, ignoring the problem not the right way, but sometimes indifferent attitude that just managed to change his views on your way.

4. Overcoming Feelings of Jealousy
To stay calm about lovers who often flirt is to overcome your feelings of jealousy.Excessive jealousy will not solve your problem and the him, it could provoke a big fight. To overcome feelings of jealousy, wolipop never discussed in this article.

5. Is is worth to Si He Defended?
Sometimes not easy to deal with situations where the boyfriend is too flirtatious. For that you must ask yourself, ‘whether he’s worthy to be preserved?’. Are you sure he can change? Or if indeed you can still understand each behavior? Apapa Either way, you alone can judge. By knowing your own feelings, then you can decide what’s best for your relationship and him.