‘What makes an issue ethical?’ Most young readers would not be able to answer this question. But before answering this question, a better question is ‘what is ethical?’ Ethics is a set of unwritten rules of moral behaviour and values within communities. This means that these set of ‘rules’ determine whether you are doing the right thing or the wrong thing. An ethical issue is an issue where there is conflict on what a certain person or organization is doing. The actions of the person or organization are evaluated as either right (ethical) or wrong (unethical). There are multiple approaches to avoid all conflict so that no issue arises.  A main consideration is Utilitarianism in which you consider the usefulness of a decision before making it so that it pleases most others. In other words, think before you act. When wanting to seek revenge on someone, it is best to think before you act before something worse happens. An ethical approach would be to forgive the person.

Subjectivism is also a key factor in avoiding conflict, but can also be brought out incorrectly depending on the person’s thoughts. Subjectivism is deciding by your own self-esteem and for yourself, through your own experiences, whether your actions are right or wrong. Deciding for yourself can sometimes be an incorrect decision because some people are unable to tell right from wrong due to their own experiences in life. An example of correct usage of subjectivism would be a person seeing a fight and stopping it rather than cheering it on with other bystanders. Situational ethics is making a decision in terms of the situation. With this approach, the actions seem unethical but the situation that they are placed in makes it ethical. For example, Breaking a window, to escape a fire or assaulting a stranger, in self defence. Without the specified situations, the actions are deemed unethical. A problem with relativism is that it asserts each person has the right to choose what is right or wrong that they can’t adopt themselves.

Relativism is a person’s ‘truth’ which is actually a belief. An example of relativism is hitting a person back because you believe it is the right thing to do. The opposite of relativism is Natural Law in which we believe that every person has an innate behaviour and are born a raised with a correct understanding of human morals. The Catholic Church believes that the Natural Law was adopted from the 10 commandments and without the Commandments, there would be no innate behaviour of ethics because there would be no guide for the first few people to live. The Catholic Church also believes that the ‘innate’ understanding of ethics is God’s creation. In my opinion, I believe that natural law is correct and that we are all born with some understanding of ethical and unethical situations but sometimes it can be personal experiences that make up your mind.

In a pluralist society, it would be complex to make ethical decisions because the society is diverse and what seems normal to some could be very different to others. A pluralistic society is a society which the community are able to legally choose their own ethical views and what ethical beliefs, if any, they wish to hold. It is similar to relativism in a sense that people are able to have their own ethical views but it is different in a sense that the society is allowed to have their own ethical views and few/no laws stopping them. The complexity of this would be that there would be little to no restriction to most people and it could potentially create chaos and possibly continue to the extinction of the human race. An example of this would be choosing to be homosexual rather than heterosexual; the human race would die out in one generation. In a religious point of view, every person has the choice of which religion they wish to believe in and the ethical views that come with it. It would be complex to make ethical decisions because there would be no correct right or wrong, only an opinion of every single person in the society. Although it seems like freedom, the world needs boundaries to survive. To some people murder would be seem as unethical but to others it could possibly be seen as ethical. Seeing murder as ethical is wrong in our society, but in a pluralistic society where everyone has their own choice, the people can choose to think that it is right. Within a Pluralistic society, human rights, responsibilities of individuals and groups of society would be different for nearly every person and wouldn’t even be considered with the same importance that it has today. If there was to be a Pluralist Society, the matter of life or death would be put into the hands of every human being.

The 10 Commandments started of as basic rules for relating to God and to others, but it has gained a greater importance throughout the years. Most of the rules within the 10 Commandments are used for human rights rules and approaches to ethical decision making. It is possible to say that the human race would have eventually arrived at these rules after some time, but with the influence of the 10 Commandments, it sped up the process. I do believe that we would have arrived to the rules eventually to create peace and harmony without the 10 Commandments (even though it would take longer). The 10 Commandments were first created to ‘obey’ God and to keep his creations safe. Most people believed in God and therefore followed the ‘rules’. But the people that didn’t believe in God, they still followed the ‘rules’ because they deemed it to be ethical. If they did not believe in God, why did they still follow ‘God’s rules’? It is because they already had an understanding of peace but had not perfected on how to bring it out, and still in our society today, we still don’t have a solution on how to create ‘world peace’. To create these rules, it would take time and experience throughout your life but it is fair enough to say that the 10 Commandments did help out in solving bits and pieces.

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We, in some parts of our lives, probably experienced being judged by other people. They passed judgment on us based on their personal opinions sourced from the opinions of other people and not from facts or material proofs. 

A classic example is the recent brouhaha in the impeachment trial of the Philippines’ Chief Justice Renato Corona. From the time the impeachment trial started, all sides of the fence, from media, from the Church, from the business groups, from the different political parties, and from the different sectors of society took their Chief Justice to the stage and took turns in throwing him stones. He was already convicted in the eyes of the public even if the trial is still ongoing. Majority of the Filipinos as shown in public surveys believed that the Chief Justice is guilty and should be removed from office even if the side of the accused was not yet fully-presented.     

It is so sad that some of us allow ourselves to judge others without full knowledge of their situation. It is so easy for us to throw negative opinions about a person’s misfortunes or misgivings without complete understanding of his life and situation that he is in. It is fortunate for the Philippines’ Chief Justice for he was given a chance to partly clarify his side of the story on national television. But for some of us who were judged and were not given the spotlight to explain our side, is such a painful situation to be in.

We all have our own stories. The pages of our lives were written solely by us. People should not judge us by the cover of our book. The struggles and challenges written in our life’s chapters define our present self and have a direct effect on our present day actions. People who have not read all the chapters of our lives have no right to judge us.

“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation.” -Paulo Coelho.

Have you ever taken a course where after just the first class you knew the entire year would follow the same boring routine? Chances are, that even after a short amount of time, students can make a reasonably accurate assessment on the effectiveness of a professor. This idea of making an accurate assessment after a short period of observation is supported by the research of psychologist Nalini Ambady. Her study found that the assessment college students gave a professor’s effectiveness after watching a two second clip of their teaching was the same as the assessment of students who took the professor’s class for a full semester.

Traditionally, we are taught not to make what seem like impulsive decisions and to gather as much information as possible before reaching a conclusion. However, advice like “stop and think” might not yield any better of a decision than our instinctive inclinations. Gladwell describes the concept of “thin-slicing” which is “the ability of our unconscious to find patterns in situations and behavior based on very narrow slices of experience.” He analyzes this concept through the evolutionary perspective, arguing that over time, humans have learned to make better snap decisions that would facilitate their survival. A modern example of this is a basketball player’s “court sense,” his ability to assess the current game situation, predict future actions of the play, and respond accordingly.

Overall, Blink offers a unique perspective on the psychology behind quick decision making. Most of the process is already pre-wired into our unconscious, which might help explain why we can make up our minds so effectively under pressure.

Source: Gladwell, Malcolm. Blink: [the Power of Thinking without Thinking]. New York: Time Warner Audio, 2005. Print.

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Don’t know what you look like sound like and feel like. Don’t know how you think or what you desire. Niether do I have the slightest hint of where you come from and what it is that you believe in. But I like you. All I know is that you and I are different. That there is none other like you such as there is none other like myself. That reinstates that you are unique. To be unique is also like being original and that in itself is worth giving all admiration to.

Beloved stranger the nature of that which makes you mysterious is incredible. For me to acknowledge that there is more to you that meets the eye and in this case the imagination of my own. I can say I have thought of you at least once. Pondered and wondered about your existance. Smiled at just the thought that God took the time to create you, whoever you are, where ever you are. I am content.

I have also thought of those who don’t exist. What life would have been like if you were here. Will I ever meet you in another realm. If so what is imagination? A portal? You impact me in every way like our brothers who do dwell the same lands I live in and breath the same air we grow in. Does birth happen after we reach the end?Or is eternity simply a series reinassance?

You and I are immortal you know. Another thing we have in common. Not immmortal in the since that we are trapped here physically or spiritually like the gods in our myths. But stranger even though I don’t know you and I have never met you, uncertain if I ever will, I know that what you carry with you is a legacy and a reputation. Amongst that acknowledgement it is apparent that you know you continue to live even after death.

If your name is forgotten your deeds forever bless the generations after you. Your dreams guide them and provide the foundation for humanity to succeed. If your deeds where never known by storytellers then maybe you didnt exist. In that abscence you may have saved the world of your mistakes but the world may have also suffered without them. Because stranger, mistakes make beds for lessons to sleep in right? If the anointed ones don’t wake them up then others never learn. Let me be clear. Mistakes are never done on purpose. 

You fall many times and you do wrong. You hurt people. Your hurt nature. You hurt yourself. You cheat. You steal. You lie. You hate. But you also comfort. You consider. You teach. Tell truths. You regret things and apologize. You shine and you love.

I don’t know you. But I like you.

Much of the testing performed for competency has to do with cognition, recognition, abstract thinking and memory. So, it seems that if you can think fairly rationally, you’re good to go. What tests do not measure, however, are feelings and judgement. As we get older, many of us get fearful. We may feel vulnerable and weak. We may experience confusion and have problems with insight into situations. We may not know who to trust any more, and we may even become distrustful of those we know well. 

The shape of the brain changes with age. It can experience shrinkage or trauma from an accident. Subtle changes in thinking or judgement may occur. Small strokes, not seen on MRI’s may not show stroke activity. Even diet can influence an older person’s thinking, or medications. Family may note these small changes, but are not too concerned, knowing that for the most part, the person is managing pretty well in their daily activities.

Feelings of vulnerability, especially after a spouse has died leaves many older people susceptible to being taken advantage of. It could be being sold a new roof when it was not necessary, having an air conditioning system replaced that was already working well, or any number of scams that are designed to scare and prey on those feeling of vulnerability. Being pressured to buy something because “This price is only good for one day” and variations of that theme can net huge profits from the older population, especially women, who may have always relied on their husbands to have roofs and air conditioners fixed.

Similarly, there are those who will offer to “take care of” someone in their home, whether they really need taking care of or not. Things start out alright it seems, but the person offering may move in with stories that they don’t have anywhere to live. As time goes by, they earn the trust of the older person, and things at that point may get out of control. Debit cards, checkbooks, Power of Attorneys, withdrawals from investments and related secured finances may begin to take on an unusual pattern. Money may come up missing, the older person may start “lending” money to the individual for any number of things that seem like a good return on investment. This is usually money for the perpetrator to start a business. The person may be promised that this money will be repaid with interest. Of course, it never happens. 

The laws protect the criminals. When older people voluntarily withdraw money from their savings, often no one asks why. The law states that people can spend their money wherever they wish. It is their money. Interference by family or well-meaning friends may incur the wrath of the victim and the perpetrator. Often, by the time anything is done, the money is all gone, the house has been signed over to the perpetrator, and the ink is dry. The family is left bereft and confused as to how this could happen. The will may have been changed suddenly, leaving virtually everyone out of it, for exchange for the promise of lifelong care which ended up getting paid for from the victim’s money in the form of other hired help.

It is imperative that families call their local aging agencies to report suspected exploitation the second it is suspected. Usually the suspicions are correct. Letting Aunt Sue do what she wants so as not to interfere, is not always the best thing. Often, the individuals who are scamming have a criminal background, easily found on the Internet and through records searches. If Aunt Sue had known this person had a criminal history, perhaps she would think twice before inviting them into her home. But this information usually doesn’t come out until it is too late. Internet background checks are easy to do on anyone, by name and date of birth.

Sometimes, if the perpetrator knows he or she is being found out, they will disappear. They don’t want to go to jail. But last minute withdrawals are also common, so accounts should be flagged or locked until further investigation can be conducted by local law enforcement, the court or local agencies serving the elderly. 

Anyone suspecting a situation such as this should notify someone sooner rather than later. As time goes by, the victim may be threatened or intimidated by the perpetrator, and be adamant that thngs are fine. If you do not know who to call, call the Circuit Court in your county, or any social agency that can direct you. If all else fails, call the police and make an anonymous report. You will never be identified as the reporter, in any case.

As we approach into 2012, the doomsday myths come out. You might have heard many stories about how the world will end on December 21, 2012. You might have heard for example, the world might end with the moon crashing into the Earth, Nibiru, maybe even an asteroid hitting Earth, polar shift, and even the aligning of the planets in our solar system causing untold consequences. Well it doesn’t really matter in any of these situations, because in any of those given, we are still screwed. But the question is, which one of these theories is correct?

The truth is people, the world DOESN’T end on December 21, 2012. Why is that, you ask? Why should it end anyway? Wasn’t it supposed to end in 1994? 2000? 2003? What ever happened to Harold Camping’s failed October 2011/ prediction of the end? 

As of record, there have ben 63 previous failed predictions of the apocalypse. What’s different this year? Really, there is nothing to worry about. 

But particularly, December 21, 2012 is a famous date because this is the date the Mayan calendar ends. The Mayans ( a large group of natives who emerged around 250 AD in Mexico) actually predicted their own downfall and other tribes in Mexico, predicting the arrival of the Spanish, who conquered Mexico, leading to the downfall of the Mayans and the Aztecs in Mexico. That’s why many people believe that the world ends in 2012 since the Mayans could predict their own future, it is believed that the end of the Mayan calendar is the end of the world (because most people think that the Mayans predicted the end of the world) but actually it’s not.

If the Mayans wanted to make a prediction that the world will end, I think they would just say it would end, and give an exact date and NOT go through all that trouble to build a groovy pie calendar just to predict that one moment. Besides, The Mayan’s didn’t say the end of the Mayan calendar was the end of the world, it is just the end of the Mayan calendar. 

So there you have it. Actually, someone starts these hoaxes usually for profit,for example, Harold Camping said that the world was going to end in October 2011, then someone who actually believes him takes out his life savings of $149,000 and spends all of it to advertise the end of the world. Of course, he gives credit to Camping for the prediction and Camping gets more famous, aside from the fact that he is all over the news , getting more known, and letting more people know of his radio show. But then again, we are still here, and whoever used up his life savings to advertise the apocalypse ran out of luck.

All the other 2012 predictions are also false. They are simply silly. When you watch a video or read an article that makes doomsday seem real and start explaining how the world ends in words you can’t understand , take it with a grain of salt , and search for the actual scientific proof of it because it’s most likely they can make the information up, also search for articles and video that contradict doomsday, because the anti-2012 articles/videos usually make more sense.

Actually I have heard they are now changing the doomsday to somewhere in 2013. And well, you guessed it. Someday they will change it to 2014, 2015, and so on….

So sleep well people. It’s just a scam.

Scientists have found archaeological evidence that Neanderthals buried their loved ones with handfuls of flowers – neatly organized, doesn’t this show that there was some belief in an after- life. The film exorcism was actually based on the true story of a girl called Annelise Michal that was possessed by a demon. Unfortunately, she died of starvation and dehydration after tried and failed attempts to heal her soul. 

This piece of writing is from Wikipedia:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anneliese_Michel

Anneliese went on a pilgrimage to San Damiano with a good friend of the family, Thea Hein, who regularly organized such pilgrimages to “holy places” not officially recognized by the church.[3] Because Anneliese was unable to walk past a crucifix and refused to drink the water of a holy spring, her escort concluded that she was suffering from demonic possession.[2] Both Anneliese and her family became convinced she was possessed and consulted several priests, asking for an exorcism. The priests declined, recommended the continuation of medical treatment and informed the family that exorcisms required the bishop’s permission.[1] Eventually, in a nearby town, they came across vicar Ernst Alt, who, after seeing Anneliese, declared that she didn’t “look like an epileptic” and that he didn’t see her having seizures.[3] He believed she was suffering from demonic possession.[2] Alt urged the bishop to allow an exorcism. In September 1975, Bishop Josef Stangl granted Father Renz permission to exorcise according to the Rituale Romanum of 1614,[2] but ordered total secrecy.[4] Renz performed the first session on 24 September.

Once convinced of her possession, Anneliese, her parents, and the exorcists stopped seeking medical treatment, and put her fate solely into the hands of the exorcism rites.[2] Sixty-seven exorcism sessions, one or two each week, lasting up to four hours, were performed over about ten months in 1975 and 1976.[2] At some point, Michel began talking increasingly about dying to atone for the wayward youth of the day and the apostate priests of the modern church, and refused to eat. At her own request, doctors were no longer being consulted.[2]

On 1 July 1976, Anneliese died in her sleep. The autopsy report stated her cause of death as malnutrition and dehydration from almost a year of semi-starvation while the rites of exorcism were performed.[5] She weighed 68 pounds (30.91 kilograms).

However there are accusations from scientists that Anne in fact was suffering from a mental disorder that made her believe she was possessed by a demon. 

 Ermmmmm……Anyway, let’s get back to ghosts:

I don’t think I’ve ever been scared in my life, but last night was one of the scariest nights ever. I was looking after a friends pet whilst she went to check on her mom (she lives on a floor of a large Victorian type house). I decided to watch a bit of telly when the door swung shut behind me – I got so scared since there were no windows open in the house because its winter here in England. I finally built the courage to look around – armed with a blanket, to find that there was nothing there…… I swear, this has spooked me so much – I’m going to have to sleep with the light on today!

Why? Maybe some ghosts are just spirits that have not realised they are dead yet. Or they are confused and want to stay in familiar surroundings – maybe they have a message to a person that’s living. I mean who said ghosts have to be mean. Some people even say that ghosts are spirits waiting for judgement day. Ghosts are just lost people that don’t “actually” have physical bodies. There is a scientist in Russia called Dr Konstantin Korotkov (search him up) that photographed the soul leaving the body using a hi-tech science equipment that traces energy.

Or Ghosts just don’t exist………….

The best scientific answer to this is it’s just a pigment of our imagination – we, as human beings, fall for anything believable and we trick our mind into believing Ghosts? Simple….

Any way you look at it, Ghosts might or might not exist, the arguments on both sides cancel each other out, but if you want my opinion………I think I’ll stick with believing in them – after that experience last night I don’t know who wouldn’t believe in them.

Ask questions that allow the person to express his feelings. Ask: How are you feeling? What did you do when (whatever) happened? What are your thoughts about it?

Let the person vent. Don’t place any judgment on what you hear. Listen quietly and don’t let these thoughts run through your head, “I can’t stand this.”, “That’s the wrong attitude.” “You are making me crazy.”

When the person stops venting surprise him or her by saying, “Do you really think so? Please go on.”

When the other person continues, notice how much he or she reveals about his or her outlook and fears. You will learn that the most negative person will open up to a responsive listener. And you will begin to see the human lurking underneath the persona. You may not suddenly like the person but at least you will see the deeper layers of the personality that will allow you to empathize.

Empathy helps you to treat even the most unpleasant person with fairness. These people are not used to being spoken to with understanding. They begin the conversation expecting to argue. They very seldom meet anyone who takes an interest in what they are saying.

Every human encounter gives us a chance to gain understanding of the values, fears and feelings of those around us. When we are around difficult people, the same rule applies, but empathy becomes stronger. You will sometimes have to empathize with people you do not like or respect, and you do not necessarily want to step into their world, but empathy builds alliances and understanding. It’s worthwhile.

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A friend once told me that she felt like she had met the man that she wanted to marry. “Its too soon to have these feelings” she said and put him on the back burner while she finished living up her life and making her own naive mistakes. 

I couldn’t help but ask myself if she just spoke what most women feel. Do we stick with bad choices in our younger years just to say that we have lived it all? I mean we all have to kiss a few toads before we find our Prince, but do we hang onto the toads until we feel like the princess that’s ready to settle down? 

Our world has completely changed. People used to get married at sixteen or even younger, and now people wait much longer. Has our feminine independence cast us into a spiral of testing the water longer? The thought of marriage feels more threatening to me in my twenties than catching an STD. I can protect myself against infection, but marriage is so permanent. 

In a recent trip to the store where my purchases consisted of new make-up, potted plants and magazines to make my butt tighter, eyes smokier and sex life godly. The couple in front of me was probably no more than 5 years older than me with a baby asleep in a car seat while their toddler grasped to the carriage they pushed. They purchased baby wipes, diapers and oversized underwear. Those things in due time may be appropriate, but the look of misery was not.

It made me realize that forcing yourself on someone is not a solution to loneliness or judgments of being single. I’d rather take the time finding my prince, than be stuck inexperienced, and unhappy with a toad I ended up doing more than kissing with and wound up with a headache and a stroller.

I may not have a man’s shoulder to hold onto, but mine are getting broader to hold the criticism that comes to my single life. All the while making the head that rests between them stronger than it has ever been.

When you really think of the whole concept, it can have many pros an cons to it.  I have heard some say, its the best way to be near one you love but can’t have, some say it’s a way to get sex without any demands on one another, some say its just a casual fling, nothing more.

But I think it has a different meaning to each individual, each person has their own concept of what it really means to them, I see a movie coming out to where you can go and watch how big movie stars play a role to what their storyline of what the concept would be, but I wonder how close it will be to the real reality of how it truly is.  I also believe that it can end us causing pain to some without the other ever really realizing it.

 An example would be for instance, you find yourself attracted to someone, maybe your too shy to tell them your attracted, maybe you feel they like someone else deep down and you don’t know exactly what to do or how to deal with that situation, maybe your afraid they do not like you at all or not attracted to  you.  As a bit of time goes along, you become friends, hang out together, spending a lot of time together, but it is just as friends, nothing more, then all of a sudden, the unexpected comes along, your in a situation where you can let things happen, or you can say NO, we are just friends, I do not want that.  Deep down, you know you do, you know the feelings have become stronger on your side, but they have never showed anything more then just friends.  So now is decision time, shall you let it go forward or shall you stop them in their tracks. 

You let your emotions take over and maybe if you do, things will change between the two of you, will it get better, will it get worse, you wonder, then you decide to take the chance.  So your with each other, no complaints on either side, but then as time goes by, your feeling that your still just friends, can you continue on this way, are you hoping that if you continue to be intimate with them that maybe feelings will change, maybe they will become romantically involved with you, what happens next.

As time goes on, you feel there is no difference, and you know in your heart there never will be, so are you still being with them for the sex, for yourself, or as a close friend, are you really just letting them be satisfied, maybe your worried if you don’t,  they will find someone else and you will fade away in the distance?.  It is a confusing situation and yeah can be fun at times, but in the long run, someone will get hurt, then, will it hurt the friendship, will it tear the friendship apart, if all stops, will the friendship ever be the same again?.  

Kinda like being a 1-900 for a friend, they want some fun times, they call you and say come on over, or even now days, they just call and expect you to take care of their needs over the phone, but do they really have any intentions of really making a possible commitment to you in the future, or is it their way of being “safe”  with no commitments, no relationships, no worries on their parts.  I then have to think about, are they also doing it with other friends?  Are they keeping each of you a secret, how many “Friends With Benefits” can you actually have?.   

As one girl told me once,  I do not know if I am coming or going, we seem to be great friends, but then again, she does not seem to want to go any farther then that, or at least she does not show me so, so then what am I to do, just sit and be her toy doll or be with her when “SHE” has the feeling to?.  Funny how he told me this as most of the time, it’s the other way around, a girl crazy about a guy, and wants to be near him, and she feels if this is the only way to have that closeness, then so be it.

So what is actually the pros and cons of such a thing?  Sure a telephone call and sex is at your door waiting for you, but what is the real deep emotion between the two, what if it is one sided, doing it to just be near the one you love?  I think if that is the real situation, in the long run, one will be deeply emotionally hurt when the other decides to find someone more permanent to be with, to actually start that relationship with, so where does that leave the other, standing out in the cold, wanting them, seeing them with another, no one can tell me that a situation like that would not HURT.

Maybe its just my own thoughts, but I have seen friends like this, and yes, one went away in pain, and the friendship faded with it,  and that is truly sad, as I believe some, a guy and a gal, can be the best-est of friends forever, and some can even fall in love and get married.  But maybe its my old way of thinking that if you want more then friendship, then let the relationship develop and then you two go forward, cause 
Friends with Benefits, someone will be hurt when all is done and the other decides to move on.

Guess you just have to sit and think for a moment, the pros and cons of the situation with your friend, shall it be just a fling, no demands, pure fun, but what happens if the other starts to develop feelings, will you be able to see it, feel it, or will they be the one who sits and waits for the next time, wondering if you will find another and leave them hanging, or what someone told me once,  wonder each time the phone rings, am I just a 1-900 number to them, will they ever really want to see or be with me, cause deep down, he feels so much more for her, but as does not want to lose that close friendship, is afraid to put her on the spot and come straight out and ask.

Whichever your situation may be, I hope it works out for the best, and that no one is getting hurt at the end of it, so weigh your pros and cons and let your best judgement win.

(These are my own thoughts that came to my mind when seen movie title, I judge no one)