No one can live a joyous life if his mind is full of lonely thoughts. What is inside you will always express itself. Think thoughts of loneliness and you will upset your mental well-being and ultimately your physical well-being. Because your mind is linked to every part of you, it’s only natural that when you feel below-par mentally, you’ll start to feel below-par physically. That’s the definition of psychosomatic illness — a manifestation in the body (Greek soma) of what is happening in the mind (Greek psyche).

The wife of one of America’s assassinated Presidents was a bedridden paralytic for years. Her husband waited on her hand and foot, even when he worked in the White House. She seemed to take great delight in ringing a bell to summon him when he was in the middle of an important meeting. Yet after his death, she got up and lived a perfectly normal life. What was the cause of her invalidism? Her mind, of course. As some of those who knew the couple said later, she was in competition with her husband: She was jealous of all the attention he received, and she made her presence felt — probably quite unconsciously — through sickness.

Reprogram Your Mind: Think of your mind as the internal computer that runs your whole person. It is a wonderful, intricate apparatus. But just like a real computer, it has to be given the right program if it’s going to do its job. Getting right with yourself, therefore, begins with putting the correct program into your “computer.”

You may think your mind is so much a law unto itself that imposing any sort of control over it is impossible. Be assured, it is not. If most people have disorganized, random minds, that’s because they haven’t taken the trouble to use them  properly. The fact is that it’s no harder to control what goes into your mind than what goes into your body. When lunchtime comes around, you don’t open the refrigerator and stuff the contents indiscriminately into your mouth (at least I hope you don’t!). Eating is an organized activity. You eat at certain times, and you try to get a balanced diet. And you do that because you know that what you eat affects your overall health.

The same motive should apply to your mind. Good thinking means good living and good emotional and physical health. Ella Wheeler Wilcox puts it aptly in her poem Secret Thoughts:

            I hold it true that thoughts are things
            Endowed with bodies, breath and wings,
            And that we send them forth to fill
            The world with good results or ill.

            That which we call our secret thought
            Speeds to the earth’s remotest spot,
            And leaves its blessings or its woes
            Like tracks behind it as it goes.

            It is God’s law. Remember it
            In your still chamber as you sit
            With thoughts you would not dare have known
            And yet made comrades when alone.

            These thoughts have life; and they will fly
            And leave their impress by and by,
            Like some marsh breeze, whose poisoned breath
            Breathes into homes its fevered breath.

            And after you have quite forgot
            Or all outgrown some vanished thought,
            Back to your mind to make its home,
            A dove or raven, it will come.

            Then let your secret thoughts be fair;
            They have a vital part and share
            In shaping worlds and molding fate —
            God’s system is so intricate.

Be careful what you allow to go into the new program for your mind! It’s easy to accept ideas that seem encouraging and helpful but are really destructive intruders. I tell the secretaries at our offices to be sure to lock their car doors day and night — not because I want to instill fear, but as a wise precaution. You probably do the same with your car. But if you are vigilant in protecting your property, how much more vigilant should you be in protecting your mind? Make no mistake — there are negative, loneliness-inducing thoughts standing at the door of your consciousness, waiting to gain admittance.

God won’t protect you from thoughts like that. You can quote all you like from passages such as Psalm 91: “He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways . . . lest you dash your foot against a stone” (Psalm 91:11, 12b). The psalmist isn’t advocating that you run across a field of rocks in bare feet. The condition of God’s help is that you exercise a bit of common sense in avoiding avoidable problems! You don’t take medication without checking the label on the bottle. You don’t just assume that your children will choose the right friends or make the right decisions without guidance and sound training. Doing stupid things in the belief that God will protect you isn’t faith — it’s presumption.

So take care not to be dragged into consensus thinking. Analyze the ideas you’re receiving from the media. Be cautious in your choice of books, magazines, and TV programs. Watch out for the times when you dwell on gloomy, depressing, or lonely themes. Everything you let your mind concentrate on will influence you, whether you like it or not. If you don’t want to pick up bad influences, make sure you avoid them, just like you would avoid visiting a place with a smallpox epidemic. Your aim should be to have every thought under your control, every thought doing what you want it to do. As Paul said, “Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5).

In particular, be careful what kind of company you keep. Generally, the person you spend the most time with will have the greatest influence over your thinking. A negative person will program your mind negatively. Be on your guard against that. If you spend time with people who disparage the things of God or project cynical opinions, think carefully about your priorities. Real friendship is never bought with the betrayal of your principles; attempting to win the approval of scoffing acquaintances by accommodating their ideas will often cast a lonely Christian into greater depths of loneliness. In cases like that, standing alone — deliberately being the Outsider — is the true road to success. Anything less is really a sell out. You would be saying, “The unspeakable gift, the Lord Jesus Christ, my Saviour, is not adequate to give me the strength to cope with these pressures.” Of course He is adequate! In fact there’s no winning over loneliness without Him, no getting right with yourself or with others without first getting right with God. Dr.J.E. Haggai.

I. L. SAMBO ESQ.

ATTORNEYS-AT-LAW, ARBITRATOR &

CAPITAL MARKET CONSULTANT.

Abuja – Nigeria.

EMAIL: ilsambo@yahoo.com

1/2/2012

A person’s attitude is one of the fundamental determinants of success, in any task that a human being takes on. The rudiments of success are to be found in the mind. It is a principle written in the pages of Scripture. As a man “thinks in his heart,” the writer of Proverbs tells us, “so is he” (Proverbs 23:7).The old adage makes the same point: “You are what you think.”

No one can live a joyous life if his mind is full of lonely thoughts. What is inside you will always express itself. Think thoughts of loneliness and you will upset your mental well-being and ultimately your physical well-being. Because your mind is linked to every part of you, it’s only natural that when you feel below-par mentally, you’ll start to feel below-par physically. That’s the definition of psychosomatic illness — a manifestation in the body (Greek soma) of what is happening in the mind (Greek psyche).

The wife of one of America’s assassinated Presidents was a bedridden paralytic for years. Her husband waited on her hand and foot, even when he worked in the White House. She seemed to take great delight in ringing a bell to summon him when he was in the middle of an important meeting. Yet after his death, she got up and lived a perfectly normal life. What was the cause of her invalidism? Her mind, of course. As some of those who knew the couple said later, she was in competition with her husband: She was jealous of all the attention he received, and she made her presence felt — probably quite unconsciously — through sickness.

Reprogram Your Mind: Think of your mind as the internal computer that runs your whole person. It is a wonderful, intricate apparatus. But just like a real computer, it has to be given the right program if it’s going to do its job. Getting right with yourself, therefore, begins with putting the correct program into your “computer.”

You may think your mind is so much a law unto itself that imposing any sort of control over it is impossible. Be assured, it is not. If most people have disorganized, random minds, that’s because they haven’t taken the trouble to use them  properly. The fact is that it’s no harder to control what goes into your mind than what goes into your body. When lunchtime comes around, you don’t open the refrigerator and stuff the contents indiscriminately into your mouth (at least I hope you don’t!). Eating is an organized activity. You eat at certain times, and you try to get a balanced diet. And you do that because you know that what you eat affects your overall health.

The same motive should apply to your mind. Good thinking means good living and good emotional and physical health. Ella Wheeler Wilcox puts it aptly in her poem Secret Thoughts:

            I hold it true that thoughts are things
            Endowed with bodies, breath and wings,
            And that we send them forth to fill
            The world with good results or ill.

            That which we call our secret thought
            Speeds to the earth’s remotest spot,
            And leaves its blessings or its woes
            Like tracks behind it as it goes.

            It is God’s law. Remember it
            In your still chamber as you sit
            With thoughts you would not dare have known
            And yet made comrades when alone.

            These thoughts have life; and they will fly
            And leave their impress by and by,
            Like some marsh breeze, whose poisoned breath
            Breathes into homes its fevered breath.

            And after you have quite forgot
            Or all outgrown some vanished thought,
            Back to your mind to make its home,
            A dove or raven, it will come.

            Then let your secret thoughts be fair;
            They have a vital part and share
            In shaping worlds and molding fate —
            God’s system is so intricate.

Be careful what you allow to go into the new program for your mind! It’s easy to accept ideas that seem encouraging and helpful but are really destructive intruders. I tell the secretaries at our offices to be sure to lock their car doors day and night — not because I want to instil fear, but as a wise precaution. You probably do the same with your car. But if you are vigilant in protecting your property, how much more vigilant should you be in protecting your mind? Make no mistake — there are negative, loneliness-inducing thoughts standing at the door of your consciousness, waiting to gain admittance.

God won’t protect you from thoughts like that. You can quote all you like from passages such as Psalm 91: “He shall give His angels charge over you, to keep you in all your ways . . . lest you dash your foot against a stone” (Psalm 91:11, 12b). The psalmist isn’t advocating that you run across a field of rocks in bare feet. The condition of God’s help is that you exercise a bit of common sense in avoiding avoidable problems! You don’t take medication without checking the label on the bottle. You don’t just assume that your children will choose the right friends or make the right decisions without guidance and sound training. Doing stupid things in the belief that God will protect you isn’t faith — it’s presumption.

So take care not to be dragged into consensus thinking. Analyze the ideas you’re receiving from the media. Be cautious in your choice of books, magazines, and TV programs. Watch out for the times when you dwell on gloomy, depressing, or lonely themes. Everything you let your mind concentrate on will influence you, whether you like it or not. If you don’t want to pick up bad influences, make sure you avoid them, just like you would avoid visiting a place with a smallpox epidemic. Your aim should be to have every thought under your control, every thought doing what you want it to do. As Paul said, “Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” (2 Corinthians 10:5).

In particular, be careful what kind of company you keep. Generally, the person you spend the most time with will have the greatest influence over your thinking. A negative person will program your mind negatively. Be on your guard against that. If you spend time with people who disparage the things of God or project cynical opinions, think carefully about your priorities. Real friendship is never bought with the betrayal of your principles; attempting to win the approval of scoffing acquaintances by accommodating their ideas will often cast a lonely Christian into greater depths of loneliness. In cases like that, standing alone — deliberately being the Outsider — is the true road to success. Anything less is really a sell out. You would be saying, “The unspeakable gift, the Lord Jesus Christ, my Saviour, is not adequate to give me the strength to cope with these pressures.” Of course He is adequate! In fact there’s no winning over loneliness without Him, no getting right with yourself or with others without first getting right with God. Dr.J.E. Haggai.

I. L. SAMBO ESQ.

ATTORNEYS-AT-LAW, ARBITRATOR &

CAPITAL MARKET CONSULTANT.

Abuja – Nigeria.

EMAIL: ilsambo@yahoo.com

1/2/2012

  From behind the red door, on the second floor, the curtains stir and the blinds close hastily. Hope paces back and forth counting each step and questioning each count. Everyday he has noticed the girl on his steps creep onto his house…cell. Deceit. Hope puts another hole into the the peeling wall in aggravation. The house, or cell, moans and this only aggravates Hope. With busted knuckles leaving a trail of red out of his study down to the first floor he sits on the bottom stair and weeps. Longing. Hope glares at the door through the sting of salty moisture. There is no knob from inside. Hope built the foundation and structure in an attempt to isolate himself. He grew to hate himself and the house which he wished would collapse and swallow his being. Hope felt the cold bitter breeze of depression enter. Shiver.

  Loneliness wished longingly that the red door would open and she would gain access into a world she never knew, never could dream, never felt. Hope. But alas she knew that if whomever, whatever was inside cared for her they would’ve let her in by now. Assumption. With regret accompanying her she took leave taking a final glance at the carvings in the door. She began tip toeing to wherever home would be.

  Hope heard the sobbing cease and in a excited panic raced to the second story window, had she decided to knock and open the door? No, of course not. There is no need to have a false hope such as this. Inside his house Hope felt alone.

 From the house came the sobbing of Hope given up, under a bridge slept a hopeless Loneliness, and the red door held a secret that neither would ever know. The only thing that changed was the growing crack in a weathered concrete stair case that lead to a dream Loneliness would never know and a deceived Hope would never leave.

                                                  THe eND

People don’t change much. We see the same thing happening today, and if we’re honest we’ll admit to seeing it in our own hearts. We enjoy complaining because it brings us a swift payoff of sympathy. In fact, we sometimes like sympathy so much that we’re willing to buy it with a little real unhappiness. But how much better not to need sympathy because we have something far more gratifying! James says, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning” (James 1:17).

We don’t have to look to other people for happiness. We don’t have to look to ourselves. Our strength is not obtained deep down in the human mind, as humanism would have us believe. Our strength is Christ:“In Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily” (Colossians 2:9). He gives us all we need — every perfect gift, including the answer to loneliness. Not only that, but Scripture makes a direct link between thanksgiving and effective prayer: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God” (Philippians 4:6). “Therefore I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men” (1 Timothy 2:1).

Many blessings are in store for those who will go back and thank God for what He has already done. Years ago at the Gull Lake Bible Conference, the four-year-old twin granddaughters of the song leader were greeted on the grounds by Mrs. Will Houghton, the wife of the former president of Moody Bible Institute. She gave them each a pad of paper. A bit later, the twins were separated. When they came back together, one noticed that the other had a beautiful pencil. “Where did you get that pencil?” she asked.The other answered, “I went back to thank Mrs. Houghton for the pad of paper, and she gave me this pencil.” “Then I think I’ll go back and thank Mrs. Houghton for my pad of paper, too!”

You may chuckle, but there’s an important truth in that little incident. God can give us more blessings if we go back to thank Him for those we’ve already received. I hope by now I’ve said enough to convince you that thanksgiving is beneficial. First, through “the Smith Effect” it transforms our attitude toward experiences both pleasant and unpleasant. Second, as a vital element of prayer it releases extra blessings. But I must be honest and add that besides making you miserable, a refusal to give thanks does a real disservice to the name of Christ. You are saying in effect, “Yes, I’m a Christian, but it’s not doing me any good!”

Do you want to be a witness like that? Of course, you don’t feel like giving thanks when you’re lonely. But once again, remember that you’re dealing in facts, not feelings. The fact is that Christ is with you. This means that you have many blessings to be thankful for in spite of your loneliness. So I recommend that you catch the habit of thanksgiving. Thanksgiving to God, in Christ’s name, banishes the loneliness blues and infuses into us a divine vitality.

But maybe you don’t know where to start. If so, here are some practical hints.

1.  See a new you.Write a detailed description of your self-image, and look at it carefully. Then write another description — this time not of the way you are but of the way you want to be under God: a new you that looks on life with the eye of gratitude, a new you that honors and glorifies the Lord. Keep that “new you” on hand; flash the image on the screen of your mind continuously.

2.  Displace lonely thoughts with thankful thoughts. You’ll never eliminate loneliness (or any other negative trait) simply by saying, “I don’t want to be lonely.” Negative thoughts need to be replaced, not just removed. Leave an empty space behind them, and they’ll soon be back! Every time you have a lonely thought, counter it with a word of thanks to God. If you like, take five minutes several times a day to review recent events and thank God for them. At the very least, make sure as you retire in the evening that you look back on the day’s activities and deliberately thank God for each experience you’ve been through. It may help if you keep a diary for a few months. If so, make specific entries, even of very simple things like a good meal or a friendly word. And most important, don’t be afraid to confront hard experiences. I guarantee that not one will be without at least the potential for good. If you seem to be on the brink of a disaster, thank God for using this means to drive you to your knees and trust Him more completely.

3.  Express your thanksgiving. It’s good to occupy your mind with thankful thoughts. It’s even better to let them spill over into your conversation. Let your verbs become radiant, dynamic verbs and your adjectives become glorious, optimistic adjectives. When someone asks how you feel, don’t say “Not bad”; say “Fine, thank you!” And get rid of those grumbles. Imagine what it’s like to be on the receiving end of miserable talk like: “I can’t find the time to do what’s required of me. I’m at the end of my rope, ready to fall apart.” Not much fun, is it? So spice it up with some thanksgiving: “God has blessed me with so many opportunities. He’s showing me how to set my priorities and how to utilize my time. It’s such a glorious experience!”

Back up your words in your actions, your posture, your walk, your facial expressions, and your gestures. Ask yourself: “If I didn’t feel lonely, how would I act and speak?” Go back and review that “new you” and think how you can express what God wants and intends you to be. Then begin thanking Him immediately that you are developing into that person. Remember: acting thankful will help you be thankful. Not only that, but it’s a proven fact that people are attracted to others of like attitude. Being thankful will tend to put you in company and situations that encourage thankfulness, giving you positive feedback and making the thanksgiving habit easier.

4.  Let faith grow. Recognize that adopting the thanksgiving habit makes you use your faith. Faith is like muscle — the more you use it, the stronger it gets. And the stronger your faith is, the more natural it becomes for you to glorify the Lord by giving thanks. Dr. J.E. Haggai.

I. L. SAMBO ESQ.

ATTORNEYS-AT-LAW, ARBITRATOR &

CAPITAL MARKET CONSULTANT.

Abuja – Nigeria.

EMAIL: ilsambo@yahoo.com

21/12/2011

People say that loneliness can kill. Someone could have a lot of friends and family, but deep inside he still felt alone. The reason, because they feel understood, not to hear or feel different from others. The more one thinks of happiness, a sense of loneliness is even more whack. Until finally he was no longer able to face alone, and eventually die.

However, you need to distinguish the meaning of loneliness and solitude. According to Emily White in his book, Lonely, lonely makes a person feel confused, sad, and drained her energy. Despite feeling lonely, anyway someone could just take time for the move itself. While the desired solitude makes a person feel peaceful, creative, and empowering.

When you feel lonely being away from family, underwent a long distance relationship with a partner, being a single parent, or indeed lost friends because of marriage or work in another city, there are several ways you can do to cope with loneliness.

1. Keep myself busy.
One of the easiest ways to reduce loneliness is to keep myself busy. Caring for others, either by raising your kids, keep animals, or teaching, will keep you busy so that it can alleviate loneliness. You also can offer themselves as volunteers in the neighborhood a place of worship, special schools, shelters, foundations, and others. If you love to write, why not try to create a blog?

2. Engage with the community.
Create a goal, because it has a purpose and a feeling that you are involved in a particular community will not make your own. Find out the activities that will involve you into the community. Read newspapers and magazines as often as possible, to search for music concerts, cultural exhibitions, and seminars of interest to attend. There are many ways to get involved with a specific community, which lets you get new friends.

3. Work harder so easily fall asleep.
One of the most common indicators of loneliness is a disruption in sleep. You need more time to sleep, woke repeatedly, and feeling sleepy during the day. Lack of sleep, with any cause, can decrease mood, make you more easily fall ill, and spent energy. So, these issues need to be addressed immediately.

4. Know what’s missing in your life.
According to White experience, make many plans with his friends did not relieve her loneliness. “What I want is a quiet presence of someone else,” he said. He longed to have someone accompany her activity at home. The more you understand what you do not have, the greater the solutions that you can find.

5. Make a commitment to interact with others.
Negative emotions such as loneliness, jealousy, and guilt, plays an important role in getting a happy life. Emotions are an important sign that something should be changed. Pain of loneliness should urge you to immediately connect with others. Unfortunately, loneliness itself can make us feel negative, critical, and judgmental. If you realize that the sense of loneliness that affects you that way, take steps to fix it.

Tips and tricks on how to get rid of this loneliness will make you far from lonely. You may try one or even five ways above. Hopefully these tips get rid of loneliness can be useful for you.

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We are all good about giving food and toys to others at Christmas time, but what about the rich, lonely elderly?  Sometimes just a simple gesture of kindness like offering to drive an elderly person to a church service is very appreciated.  If you have time, offer to go to the service with them.  Or offering to have someone in your home on the holiday itself is a welcome change to their lonely apartment full of sad memories.

Visiting the nursing home around the holidays is a great way to share.  Bringing caroling books to host a Christmas carol sing a long is one of many ideas.  Help an invalid decorate their tree that is now a cumbersome task for them. 

I have been guilty of spending a whole afternoon with an elder person that I was not looking forward to.  You lose track of time enjoying their wonderful stories and cannot wait to return.  A dreaded meeting suddenly becomes a joy.  And most elderly people are just so pleased to have your company.

One day some of us are going to be that older person without anyone.  You may live to be over one hundred and may outlive your children.  No one ever expects to be the sole survivor of a generation or anticipates all the things it may mean.  So this holiday season, open up your home and your heart to a special persons with no one left.  It is so easy to make a large difference with your presence.  Someday that recipient may be you or someone you once loved and cared about.

It’s sad to live in loneliness. Besides the lack of social support, the results showed that loneliness also interfere with the rest of the night. The researchers say that the lack of sleep is one way to feelings of loneliness can affect health.

Researchers from the University of Chicago compared the levels of loneliness 95 adults in rural South Dakota, USA with the results of measurements of sleep cycles. No individuals who are socially isolated, but the perception of loneliness varies.

Higher loneliness scores associated with high levels of uninterrupted sleep at night. Total sleep and daytime sleepiness did not affect.

“Not only because the individual who is very lonely to be lack of sleep. The relationship between loneliness and anxiety sleep occurs in a variety of perceived relevance,” said lead author Lianne Kurina, PhD, of the Department of Health Sciences at the University of Chicago as quoted from medicalxpress.com, Tuesday ( 11/01/2011).

“Loneliness associated with adverse health effects. We want to explore the theory that sleep may be influenced by feelings of loneliness. We found that loneliness does not change the total number of individuals sleeping, but woke indvidu more often throughout the night,” he said.

This finding is similar to previous research, published in 2002 by the American Psychological Society that compares loneliness to the quality of sleep reported by students. The students who feel lonely more often disturbed her sleep at night.

The similarity between this study helps to show that loneliness and social isolation are two different concepts. Researchers argue that loneliness reflects the perceived social isolation or the feeling of being an outcast, ie the gap between the desired relationship with the actual social relations which are often painful.

“We all seem to rely on feeling safe in a social environment to be able to sleep soundly. The results of this study could provide further understanding about how these factors affect the social and psychological health,” concluded Kurina.

 Let not loneliness scare you. It seems a curse. But it is only apparently so. Actually it is a boon, because it is in loneliness alone, in a atmosphere of solitude and seclusion that the mind of an intellectual works most. Deep concentration and the resulting meditation are possible only in seclusion. The lives of all great men are an eloquent testimony to the fact that great things of life, be it art, science, literature, culture or philosophy have been achieved by men who forced themselves into self-imposed loneliness and solitude and brought out gems of thought humanity is proud of. Let us convert loneliness into an opportunity and let loneliness make us strong.

Least alone while all alone. This paradoxical statement is attributed to one of the men of wisdom, who when asked to elaborate The implications of his statement, said with a smile that you cannot be said to be alone when you are busy with something, your­self or your thoughts. Moreover, those persons are always with yon whom you remember or with whose thoughts your mind is occupied. When you are engrossed in thoughts, you become unaware of your physi­cal body. In this case the question of your being alone or in some body’s company does not arise The flight of thoughts may lake the man round the world, may make him soar high up in the sky or make him comfortable on The waves of the sea. Does such a man miss any body’s company or to be practical does he need someone to talk to? To give an illustration, when you are busy with preparations. For your examination, you do not want that anyone should come lo you and disturb your concentration. Only a disturbed and empty mind needs company because one needs com­pany when one has nothing at hand lo be occupied or to be busy with.

While in isolation, persons often try introspection and during this period, the mind stops chattering and wandering. In the words ef John Milton, “The mind, when itself and in its own place, can make a heaven of hell.” Obviously a man, who has withdrawn himself from the crowd and whose mind is at rest, is in heaven, no matter, whether he cares or tries for it or not.

Another great thinker, W. E, Canning spent most of his time in Library, He liked most the company of books, since to him books were like a multi-purpose friend, guide, helper, teacher, philosopher and what not. For development of faculty of intelli­gence; the discipline of meditation is prescribed. Contemplation is the next step in this direction, which leads to evolution of consciousness; isolation provides the proper atmosphere for carrying on and practicing this dis­cipline. It was for this reason that the ancient Rishis and Munis were re­cluse and lived in their Ashrams far away from the din, noise and turmoil of the society. Nature was their company and gods were their friends, who used to interpret in silence the dictates of the inner voice. Every particle of nature seemed to tell them something new. Day and night, they heard the music of silence. Who would say they were alone, although they lived alone?

All great persons like Buddha, Confucius, Moses, Mansoor, Jesus, Mohammed, Newton , Madam Blavatsky, Vivekanand, Gandhi etc. received their light in seclusion. All of them had to be alone for sometime, when their higher selves divulged to them The secrets of life. It is also a fact of life that the toppers al different examinations and competitions used to read and study with doors of their rooms, closed and kept aloof from all sorts of distur­bance. Their goals of life were their guides and the books their friends. Animals as well, to get nourishment from the food and fodder they eat, do chewing the cud in silence. Introspection and self study are done best in seclusion. If you do so, you will be surprised to see new vistas of know­ledge and new pathways of progress opening before you. A poet rightly exclaimed, “O Solitude! Where are Thy Charms?”

In a big crowd, there is hardly anybody to help or lift the person, who has fallen down. Then how one could say that he is not alone in a big crowd ? It sounds paradoxical but is a fact of life. The crowd saps the vigour of the mind and its possessor is at a discount to make use of it. So, avoid crowd and shun becoming a part of it.

Vacuum is against The Law of Nature, One receives only by giving. A controlled mind, born of medita­tion in aloofness, will tell us that by sending nut good and helpful thoughts, we get the good and help­ing hands of others. In this way, the still mind keeps in constant company of goad and thoughtful individuals. These words of Samuel Kogers are worth a heap of gold, “He only is alone, who lives not for others. Come what will, the generous man has his companion still.” When alone, one cannot sit idle, one must do one thing or the other and mostly constructive. The best things are produced under undisturbed conditions be they works of art, scientific invention, philoso­phies of life etc.

Nature tells us the green grass is busy in searching for its companions and keeps low, while the tree in isolation goes high to make explora­tions in the sky above.