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Making New Friends: Very Easy

Mon, 14 May 2012 13:33:16 +0000

By the time we settle down in our lives, we might find that the friends that we had while we were growing up have gone in a different direction so we are not able to see them any more. While this is a perfectly natural thing to happen, it can be upsetting, and occasionally we can find that we have nobody who we can turn to when we need somebody. In such an instance, it makes sense that we should be trying to make some new friends, but this might seem like a daunting thing to do.

If you have children, then your child’s school gates is the best place to make friends. You instantly have something in common because of the fact that you both have children, and this means that you have something that you can talk to them about while you’re waiting to pick up your child. Make sure that you get involved with things at the school as this means that you are more likely to meet people and be able to stay in contact with them. Even if they don’t end up as close friends, it is giving you something to do and people to chat to which is better than nothing. If you have young children, then parent and toddler groups are the best place for you to make friends, as you will all be going through the same stages of parenthood and it would be nice to be able to get friendship and help from people who know exactly what it is that you’re going through.

If you don’t have children, or your children are adults, then now is the time to reinvent yourself and get a new hobby. If you keep your eyes on the local news and papers, you would most likely see that there are many clubs that run every week. It could be an exercise class, pottery, baking; anything you like. But if you try to do something that you have an interest in then you’re likely to find more people with things in common with you, and that has to be a good thing.

Ask your friends to bring people along with them when you go out. If you do this, then you might find that you are able to make friends with people who you never thought that you would, and that is great. You can do the same thing in return and take a friend with you who your other friend doesn’t know, and see if they get along. If you do this, then you could very well end up with a large social group and more friends than you’ve ever had.

Don’t ever underestimate your family, either. Although not friends as such, days out with your family can be very fun and you might actually find that you have more in common than you thought!

A Fraction of The Philosophy of Life

Mon, 05 Mar 2012 23:31:48 +0000

Life is just a thing. How we perceive it turns it into something. When we think it is good, then it will be just as good as we think. We can smile and feel excited very much. Conversely, if we believe that life is tough, that will make our life become tougher than we ever imagine.

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Life never changes actually since our ancestors lived here. It is human beings who fill in life with everything that eventually alters life itself. So, the power to change life is on our hand truly.

If you now feel lonely and powerless. Do not look around or expect any power from something or somewhere we do not know their nature. Take time to think, have time to make friends, and search time to enrich our knowledge. It will come in handy later on.

Lonely

Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:19:41 +0000

Lonely came to haunt her today

as she watched him walk away.

The teardrops fell down from her eyes.

Her heart broke as she said goodbye.

They once made a promise;

a vow to keep.

He held her in his arms

as she fell asleep,

but things happen like they do;

they were in too deep.

Now lonely is the sound

that makes her weep.

Lonely don’t see the rainbow.

Lonely don’t see the sun.

Lonely only sees the dreary clouds

and that life has come undone.

And the dreams that surround a broken heart

have all been shattered and torn apart,

but if you have the courage to dream again

The clouds will drift away and you can lift your chin.

So don’t let lonely shroud your rainbow.

Don’t let lonely cloud your sun.

Let blue skies fill your mornings.

Let your life be full of fun.

And the dreams that surround a healing heart

give you hope and courage for a brand new start.

When you live your dreams out till the end

you can be proud of your life again.

Don’t let lonely shroud your rainbow.

Don’t let lonely cloud your sun.

Let blue skies fill your mornings.

Let your life be full of fun

A Lonely World

Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:47:45 +0000

“It sucks, doesn’t it?”
    “What?”
    “Being alone.” I dipped my toes into the icy water and scrutinized the gray stalactites. As I shifted my hand, a single stone fell against the craggy floor and echoed throughout the cave. It was quite lonely there.
    “Yeah, it does.”
    “Why are we alone, Armi? Did we choose this?”
    I nodded slowly. “Of course we chose it. We wanted to be individual. We wanted to be the best. We also wanted to be good, which goes against humanity’s natural trend. We chose to be alone.”
    Aaron sighed and sat down beside me, accepting it. “Were we wrong?”
    I blinked as drips of water rippled past my left foot. “It depends on how you look at it. We went against the natural flow. If the general consensus is assumed to be the right answer, then we are wrong for going against it. However, not everyone within that general group believes that the general consensus is right; it’s simply what they do. Then it could be argued that anyone else is ignorant of the truly right path, but that would leave you and I as the only people that are right in the world. That can’t be right, can it? And even if it is, no one would believe us. No one could really know, could they?”
    “But if we were right, wouldn’t people agree with us? If multiple people were right, they would team up, wouldn’t they? And since it makes no sense for only two people to be right, wouldn’t it have to work that way?”
    “Teaming up gives way to compromise. Compromise could take away the accuracy of the correct path. To be entirely correct, one would have to accept all correct views, and refuse to be influenced by those that are not correct. Anyone else wanting to be correct would need to conform to the correct path.”
    “Isn’t that what we try to do? We conform to what we believe is correct.”
    “Hardly. We conform to what everyone agrees on. Not everyone wants to follow the correct path, so we find a middle ground for conformity.”
    “Is conformity wrong?”
    “Not if it’s correct.”
    “Now I’m confused.” He untied his shoes and dropped them on the cave floor. The second echoed louder than the first.
    “I think we all are.”
    “But Armiella- If no one can be right, and no one can agree on what exactly is right, why is conformity bad? Aren’t we coming closer to the general consensus?”
    “Do you often agree with the general consensus?”
    “Well, generally.”
    “I don’t. I think the general consensus is confused.”
    “Well… so are you.”
    “Yes, but I would rather take my own word than the word of those who don’t live inside of me.”
    He reached out as if to take my hand, hesitated, and took it back again. “Can’t you just ignore it? Pretend everyone agrees? Agree to disagree?”
    I huffed and shook my head. “For a little while, yes. That’s what I’ve always done in the past. Eventually, though, there are facts you have to face. Loneliness is just a hard one to swallow.”
    “You always swallow the hardest pills… Most would switch to something softer.”
    “And deal with the horrific taste? I would rather take the pain.”
    “You are different.”
    “I am lonely.”
    “So am I.”
    “So is everyone else.”
    He reached over and laid a hand on top of mine. “It’s a lonely world out there. At least we’re not alone.”

Foster a Pet for The Holidays

Tue, 06 Dec 2011 18:33:50 +0000

Many animal shelters close for adoption the week of Christmas. There are many reasons for this, one being they do not want people adopting a pet on impulse and then returning it a month later when they realize the “Christmas gift” was not such a good idea. Additionally they know that Christmas can be a stressful time and do not want to put a new pet into a frightening situation of hustle and bustle and gift opening and busy get togethers.

Sometimes animal shelters have fewer volunteers over the Christmas holidays, and generally reduce their staff as well, as such the pets in the shelter often get less attention. As such some animal shelters are allowing people to foster pets over the holidays provided the people are having quiet (stress free) celebrations.

Petfinder.com has launched its “Foster a Lonely Pet for the Holidays” program, and encourages people to approach their local animal shelter to see how they can help. Note this is not a way to get a cheap or free pet, and is only a temporary arrangement to help shelters at this time of year.

In order to get involved you must be over 18, own your own home or have landlord permission to keep pets. You must have a fenced yard or dog run if you are considering fostering a dog. You must be willing to keep a cat indoors only if you are fostering a feline. There may also be foster options for fostering small caged pets.

If you have any pets of your own, they must be vaccinated.

You can also discuss fostering pets on a more permanent basis if that is something you would want to consider.

Sometimes your foster role will be to foster an animal that is actually already living in a foster home but in a situation where that foster parent cannot care for it through the holidays.

Please visit the petfinder.com site to learn more, or visit your local animal shelter and ask if foster care opportunities are available to you.

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Missing The City Life

Fri, 28 Oct 2011 13:52:44 +0000

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As I wake up this morning, I don’t feel the same energy that I felt a few days back. I already feel tired when I opened my eyes. As if I did a lot of work the whole night and I haven’t had some sleep yet. This might be caused by anxiety. I want to get out of this place as soon as possible. Problem is, it looks like it will still be a long time before I will be able to do that. Worse, I might not be able to do so for a year or two.

I am missing the city. Feeling the home sickness as if I was not from here where I am right now. Every time I watch the news on TV reporting something about the traffic, I am missing the city even more. I can’t believe that I will be missing the traffic jam because I am bored to the bones around here.

Last night, I did my on line window shopping That worked out just fine. But today, it seems that I want to be doing that physically rather than just seeing pictures of cute dress and stuff for sale. I want to be there for the Halloween. However, people from there seems to get away from there and spend time going back to their provinces.

I don’t know what else to do but I feel the sudden urge to write. That’s the good part. I will be able to submit my lonely blog. I just don’t want to affect other people and spread this virus like feeling. Maybe tomorrow will be a good day. Since I can’t just shoo this depression away, I think the only thing to do is to let it pull me down. When I reached the rock bottom, there’s no way to go anymore but go up and feel happy again.

You, Me and The Change – The Struggle with Life

Mon, 10 Oct 2011 20:37:08 +0000

        It has been truly said that, day by day you see no change in yourself, but after a while when you look back you see, everything has changed and so has, it happened to me. I was this guy, who wanted to have no regrets for whatever he did in his life. I chose ways, I move along, I did stop, I looked back and waited, but moved on. I did come across hurdles, some I crossed, somewhere I fell, but I got up and actually started running, and now I reach an entirely different place from where I used to be, where I am no longer me. I’ve lost myself, I’ve lost everything I have, actually I have really lost everything.
      Its been a while I have not written anything, specially lines like this, about what’s going in my psycho mind trapped in my huge skull. Writing was always an inspiration for me, that would inspire me to learn new things so that I would express what I knew and share it with everyone. It was an expression but nowadays, I’ve stopped expressing myself, with words, with actions or just anything I have. People don’t know me and I actually don’t want them to know what I am really too.
      I know its been a very tough journey, and I know its gonna be really tougher in the days to come. I feel scared that I may not even be able to go through it. Literally got no one to give me a push or hold my hand and move on or just cheer me up and give me courage to move.
          I think about you. I miss you. Yes, I do miss you, and do you know whom I’m talking about? I’m talking about you IDIOT… Yes.. YOU! Got it? I guess you’re smiling reading this (i.e. If you’re reading this ). Yes, I really do miss you. Time made us change, you did change so have I. And its amazing, you’ll never find me, in me now and I won’t find you, in you.
       You see, I really wanna hold you, but when I even think of you, my heart skips a beat. It used to skip a bit due to the lovely air that was entrapped between us, but now, it skips, due to fear, a bit of awkwardness, sadness and such wordless weird feelings that makes me go crazy and actually SAD. I never wanted you this way neither did you want me the way I am right now, I guess. But with the changing time, to survive in it, you adapted yourself that way so did I this way. I really wish life had a rewind button to go back and pause it forever, but that’s really not possible. I realize I’ve lost you forever. My heart wants you, my arms misses you and my eyes are hungry to see you, but I’ve lost you, FOREVER.
       I don’t know what the days to come holds for me. I really don’t think it is gonna be you with me, as I know, I’ll always be lonely. But everything is unpredictable and nothing has happened that I predict. Life gives you surprises, some are actually more of a shock than a surprise. A miracle would only make me perfectly happy, and I would be the happiest, only with you. I know miracle happens, but I find it even impossible for a miracle to make things go the way I want. I know you love me, so do I, but this word LOVE too is just a word now when such matters of life are concerned.

Memories make me smile, happy and sometimes cry also. All I want is to built memories now. Memories with you, memories with life, memories with friends, to discover how beautiful and worth living is this life. As time flows, I’m building memories, and I really want you to be a part of my life, building my memories, actually building our memories.
P.S. I Love you, Still Love you and will always do.

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Should You Stay with Someone Who Cheated on You?

Mon, 10 Oct 2011 13:27:11 +0000

When you are in a commited relationship there is an expectation of exclusivity. You wouldn’t dream of cheating on him and the thought never crossed your mind that he would. Yet, one day you may find yourself sitting down and realizing that he had in fact been unfaithful. What does one do with that information? Should you leave him or forgive him?

My first thought when finding out that my ex cheated on me was that if he could it once, he could do it again! I honestly lost any trust I ever had for him and no matter how many times he told me that it was a mistake or how sorry he was I couldn’t forgive him. To me, he had broken something that couldn’t be mended. Yet, there are women out there who can forgive and forget and I wonder how they do it!

Is the tempation to lie and cheat on someone you love so great that it takes over? What makes a man (or even a woman) cheat on the one they love? To me, I have always thought that if one is thinking of cheating they are not truly happy in the relationship they are in! Wouldn’t it be better to just break up then to cheat? Or to talk to the person you are with about why you are not happy? What do you think?

She Was a Hard Fifty Five

Thu, 15 Sep 2011 14:40:53 +0000

For weeks her place was as quiet as a mouse,

she lived in a white stone house,

her yard was in much need of a rake,

the paneling on her walls were fake,

her ceilings were dropped tile,

and her fireplace was a worn out brick pile,

she was heavyset, and ugly too,

and about that,

there was nothing she could do,

her home was dirty,

not fit for pigs,

and a thoroughly unattractive woman

whose penchant for wigs,

and fire engine red lipstick,

suggested the need to look good,

but nothing did the trick,

ugliness just stays,

people at work said she was missing for days,

she was very forgettable,

no one remembers the last time

they saw her alive,

her family forgot her birthday,

she was a hard fifty-five,

the homicide unit finally kicked in her front door,

there she was on the floor,

with no need to worry about her ugly looks,

anymore.

Liar, Liar, Plants for Hire

Sat, 10 Sep 2011 20:51:15 +0000

Biggest pet peeve: people calling me a liar.

You know how people say that anyone who says, “I don’t lie” is lying? I HATE that! How am I supposed to convince people that I’m telling the truth when they automatically assume I’m lying? I’ve made it a part of my personality to be bluntly honest with everyone. Sometimes I’m TOO honest, even. But a liar? Nu-uh! I even read over the terms and conditions once in a while! That really was my last piece of gum, and I really have no feelings for that guy you think you saw me flirting with. I’m telling the truth.

Sometimes I think it’s just that I say so many unbelievable things. See, I have these morals that not everyone has. I don’t cuss, I’m a virgin who will stay a virgin until marriage, and I don’t lie to people. To me, those all seem perfectly logical. If the world wasn’t so messed up, people would have no trouble believing me. So why is it that people always say I’m lying?

The Bible say I shouldn’t even have the appearance of sin. In case you haven’t heard, lying is a sin. So I feel pretty awful when people assume I’m messing up when I’m not. One thing that happens a lot is people thinking I’m cussing. You know how you can say “dang” and it sounds like another word? Or I could even be saying something completely innocent, and someone with their mind in the gutter hears something else. When I tell you I didn’t say that, I mean it. Maybe it doesn’t matter to you either way, so you can laugh about it and bug me about it without it bothering you, but when you do that, it’s killing me. I swear whenever you try to laugh that off and randomly bring it up throughout the day to annoy me, my entire being is filled with anger, regret, and the need to rip someone’s head off. There’s a reason I don’t like people. You’re it.

It really hurts when it’s someone that knows me. You know I’m a Christian, you know I’ve never cussed, (except that one time in first grade when I didn’t know what a cuss word was), and yet you still hear what you want to. If you call me a liar after I defend myself, you don’t know me at all. Knowing me isn’t just about being around me for years, it’s about believing me and understanding how I work.

Whenever something like this happens, I either break down into a mini-depression cycle for the rest of the day, or I do everything I can to prove it wrong. I rant about life and try to show people how honest I am. I just want people to know me for the true me, and I want them to trust me when it matters. I can’t do that when you don’t believe me.

You don’t realize what you’re doing to me. I’m not kidding, and I’m not exaggerating. This is a serious issue. The world is pretty lonely when no one else knows the truth.

I am NOT a liar.