My Corset of Love Challenge One

This next challenge we are about to take is meant to open our awareness to the amazing wonders around us everyday.

A grateful heart yields greatness.

I remember a song my dad used to listen to when he was still living. It was called “Looking for love in all the wrong places” and the lyrics went on to say “Looking for love in so many faces”

Your challenge number 6 is to actually dedicate one day or two if you life to Looking for the faces of Lovers. About 3 years ago I was experiencing a very difficult relationship. My heart became very burdened and I began to see I was listening to and seeing many many relationships that were similar. I was hearing woman complain about the men in their life and equally hearing men complain about the woman in their lives. My grandparents were married 50 years!!

It could seem as though Lovers were growing extinct.

So I set out to do this very challenge. I spent a day looking for Lovers in the ordinary strangers. In stead of looking for Mr. Right for myself I looked at Lovers. 

I was surprised what the Universe revealed to me! I hope you will be too!

2. Start a hobby. This can be a good way to meet people, because as you get involved in events and go to stores to get supplies for your hobby, you will find yourself coming into contact with people who have similar interests.

3. Call someone. So, if you’re like me, you may not have many friends to call in the first place! But you can still call a family member. Just someone to talk to and help you feel a little less alone can sometimes be a helpful thing.

4. Adopt a dog. If this is within your budget, it can be a great a way to meet other people, especially other dog-lovers. Take your dog for obedience training and other dog activities and make some new friends, as well as find a great friend and confidant in your doggy friend.

5. Watch a movie. Don’t want to have to put effort into escaping loneliness? Involve yourself in something that takes your mind off your life. When I watch movies, I find it very easy to get so absorbed into the characters’ lives that I forget about my own troubles.

6. Take a bath, eat some chocolate, and cry. Okay, so this doesn’t really solve anything, but sometimes it’s good to let out all the pent-up emotion that we carry around; otherwise known as the agony of loneliness. After this, get a good night’s rest and see if you feel a little better the next day.

7. Go to a concert. Depending on the atmosphere, there may be a chance to meet peopleand create some friendships. You may have to approach others, though, and that can be hard if your lonliness is resulting from shyness or some type of social anxiety.

8. Join an online forum. I know that for myself it is much easier to get online and “make friends” rather than go out and meet people in person. Perhaps the best first step is to find a forum to join. Look online for groups that have your interests/issues at heart and start talking.

9. Join a group in your area. There are social groups, business groups, and all sorts of different interest groups in most areas. Look it up on meetup.com to see if there’s a group or club you can join.

10. Join a bible study. If you are a Christian, look for bible studies given by your church, or find an organization like Bible Study Fellowship to go and meet with other Christians and make some friends!

11. See a counselor. If you are at a lonely place in your life, a counselor can be a great person to talk to. They are there to support you!

12. Go out to eat with someone from work. Perhaps there’s someone you’d like to get to know. Just take a step of courage and ask them out to lunch!

13. Get in touch with old classmates. Reach out to people you use to hang out with in elementary, high school, and/or college. Have fun getting to know them again!

14. Join a singles dating site. There are lots of them and it can be a great way to gradually get to know someone without a lot of pressure.

15. If you are a Christian, spend some time with God. Rest in His presence and let His peace come over you and help you fight your loneliness.

I hope some of these tips have helped you and given you some ideas for making your loneliness go away.

At its centre is an alleged female serial killer.

She is reported to have picked her prey on account of their vulnerability.

The victims are believed to have been lonely men whose common mistake was to look for companionship on the internet.

Kanae Kijima is accused of befriending six men, stealing their money, and ultimately their lives in a manner made to look like suicide.

The body of Yoshiyuki Oide was found in his car. The cause of death was determined as carbon monoxide poisoning.

But investigators soon learned the 41-year old had been happy. In fact, he had been preparing to propose to his girlfriend, Kanae Kijima, and take her on a luxurious international vacation.

Further analysis of the case revealed other oddities.

In the days before his death Oide deposited approximately $60 000 in Kijima’s account. Traces of sleeping pills were found in his bloodstream.

Another of Kijima’s male friends, 80-year old invalid Kenzo Ando, also had traces of sleeping pills in his bloodstream when his blackened body was found in a house fire.

But police say they have video footage showing Kijima withdrawing money from Ando’s bank account on the day of his death.

The Japanese media has dubbed the story “the black widow serial killings”.

….A lot of occasion like this repeated them selves over and over again. One day, not so long ago I decided I had enough, and couldn’t take it, so I made the decision of leaving him, but of course and as expected by family and friends that know about the situation, he cried and begged he promised to sign the divorce papers if I give him a last chance he say that one little bad thing he did and I could process the papers and now one month later, I’m sitting here thinking…

WHAT WOULD IT TAKE?

This was the question I had in my mind the day I wrote that. Now I can talk about what did it took. I took one comment my oldest son made that made me realize that staying with him was affecting my kids more than if I leave him. My son wanted to eat some cookies before dinner and I didn’t let him, so he told me he was going to ask daddy to hit me… I couldn’t believe the kind of impact my husband was making in our kids, and me accepting this behavior, made my kids think is ok to hit a woman and I DO NOT want that for my kids.

So, I gave him that chance to improve him self, to show me he could change almost forcing my self to try to be happy with him once again.BIG mistake, things didn’t change much, they weren’t as bad as before, but I finally realized that even if he had change to this perfect dream like husband, that I didn’t love him anymore and he wasn’t making me happy. Once love is gone there’s not much you can do to save a relationship anyways. days before actually moving back with him, deep in my heart I always knew I was doing something that didn’t felt right in my heart, so I tried talking to him about how I felt, but it didn’t work, he blinds him self to the fact that I don’t love him and cannot see it nor accept it. It brakes my heart to see him like that and as much as he hurt me, I don’t hate him. I moved back with him, feeling completely wrong about the whole thing. I knew it made him happy to see me there, but I wasn’t happy. Once back in the apartment, some things didn’t change. He’s always been a VERY jealous & controlling man, and the first time I went to do groceries he demonstrated it once again. Before I left the market, I call him to make sure I had everything. As he was talking to me I was trying to reach one last item he wanted me to bring. I was on my toes trying to reach it and a nice lady that work there (taller than me) offered to help me. He didn’t ask me anything about that on the phone, but said something I couldn’t hear, the call was dropping off so I couldn’t hear anything else he said, when I finally did he asked me where I was and who I was talking to so I told him I was still at the store and I’ll be there in a min…and when I got home.

He told me I was lying, that I was with someone somewhere else and that I was just acting as if I couldn’t hear him. I wasn’t surprised of his reaction, just disappointed, and just thinking to my self, what was I still doing with him. The next couple of days were ok, but than we had this argument about how I go over my parents house way too often and that from now on I was going to go only on weekends. I told him once again that I’ve had enough of this and I wanted a divorce. He said that was a good idea, since I wasn’t willing to follow his rules. I spent the night there because I wasn’t going out with both kids already sleep. The next morning before he woke up I started preparing a bag, with 3 baby bottles full of milk,as many dippers as I could put, some kids clothes… I made me and the kids breakfast, cleaned the house a little bit. I left the bag on the kids room inside the closet. He woke up acting like nothing happened and pretending the conversation never happened. I however was remembering every where and decided it was time to leave.

I did tried talking to him one last time, but it didn’t work and as always he was obsess with me staying. The only way to leave was doing it with out him noticing, so I waited for him to go take a shower to take the bag I had left at the kids room, take the kids and left him a letter I’ve write a day before. This is not how I wished things to turned, but I felt it was the only way to get out. It’s been a week since that happened, and I am now happier than ever. The kids stayed with him this weekend for the first time, and though it was hard to be without them, I think is best this way. Hopefully one day he’ll learn to accept it, right now I’m taking each day as it comes and thanking God for every day.

If you read a person’s file and think you may click beware that many people do not tell the truth. They simply say what they think you want to hear (just like in any first meeting with someone). They want to impress you but what they don’t realize is that they are misleading you and presenting themselves as liars since the truth will be found out anyway.

Depending on which online dating service you use will determine whether or not you will be able to email the person you are interested in without having to pay a monthly fee.
Some services will be free to women while others are free but you will not be able to email which means you will have to hope that the person you are interested in will contact you as well as being a paying customer.

The costs for most online dating services are reasonable costing $20 to $30 a month. Many services allow free membership, but try to get you to pay once you see how many opportunities you have to meet someone.

I wonder what would make someone want to go online. Convenience is the first thing. It definitely is easier than going out to different places hoping to find someone. You can also contact people in other states. That can be good and bad. If, by chance, it does work, then you will need to figure out who is going to move. On most files it will state whether or not the person is willing to relocate. For me, I constantly found people outside the state and even willing to pay for my flight to come see them. As a woman, that is the most dangerous thing to do when you don’t really know this person. Plus if they are willing to pay for your flight and give you a place to stay then they anticipate much more than you may be willing to give.

After experiencing online dating, I would recommend it only to those that realize there are chances that the other person is probably not telling the truth. That is very discouraging. Nevertheless, there are those few times that people will be honest and allow a relationship to occur. I have also found many people find it a way to have online sex. Never thought that could happen but many, many men have tried with me and I finally stopped using it all together. I choose to meet people in person. This way I know what I am dealing with and if there is any chemistry between us.