But then as we know, “life is a box of chocolates”, we’d never know what we want to get. We take it or depart it but that is just lifestyle. One day, you get a affect on the home and get welcomed to a real-estate residence start home. You offered in to the invite just to have that no cost lunchtime which will extra you from baking and cleansing recipes afterwards. But then you end up with your little lot residence increased to a residence model because without you acknowledging it the per month payment you are remitting when totalled already associated to the necessary lumpsum put in to take benefits of one model of a residence from the same creator.  Yes, best aspect about it indeed! The sensation is like your most popular graphics on the market that you have been seeking for several weeks was delivered to you for no cost. Aside from celebration and presents, there is more to it this Xmas period. Who would anticipate it when you never imagined of anything better than individuals around distressing you! But then, it seems that there is caveat to enjoyment. And it is like you can be completely delighted if you would master how to on an emotional level remove yourself to bad information. Verifying on what is developing around just to see a million and more passed away from a disaster that hit your nation while you are on your edge of a achievements leap is not too consoling. Actually, it is gloomy. There were too many ideas that just came in after this.  Just think about the actual time you were rejoicing are large numbers of individuals mourning and mourning. And you began asking God as to what excellent stuff did you do to create Him really like you that much?

And you imagined of the kids who missing their loved ones and the concept of using one of them came to thoughts. It was just an difficulty because after a while, you know you can’t when from self-assessment with your one and only kid, you know very well that managing and increasing a kid is not your cup of tea. You are just doing the best you can which that best is not even near to excellent. And you say, ” it is life”. It may harm but what can we do if it is a box of goodies which again we never know what are we going to get. And you lastly hit the bed and instead of generating yourself comfortable through looking at a walls graphics of bright colours, you just shut your face and requested God to please keep all the people missing from the loss to his heated accept and bath the surviving with so much really like and relaxation.

          Do we have respect for death or a fear for death? In my situation I have a fear for death and that gives me a respect for death. A respect for death because I have been there in the way of a boat sinking and I was trapped inside, through luck I manage to survive. In 1985 I had a stroke and then again luck was on my side. As we look at people who have lost their lives we feel remorse for them, we pray for them to go to heaven. It is like we put the finishing touches to their lives, but they will always be with us in our mind. In some countries the dead are with the loved ones all the time, mentally and physically.

          Mentally you know about, but physically is a different matter. In our society we mourn, we bury the dead with respect, and we go home and eat, but in some countries they mummify the corpses and display them. They display them in a way as to respect them all the time. When you think of mummification, you think of Egyptian mummies, but there are mummies all over the world, in Greenland, South Africa, China, and even Native American, and that does not even touch the surface of mummification. There are some cultures that even go as far as putting the love ones on the roof of their houses and some exhibit the dead as fixtures in the home.

           Now there are other ritual effects that are weird to our western culture, such as charm boxes, mystic potions, medicine men, and my favorite is in Haiti, it is zombies. A man in Haiti walked into an emergency room regurgitating blood and had aches all over his body. Three days went by and the Doctors pronounce him dead, he was kept in a cold storage unit for twenty hours and he was buried. He remembered the Doctors saying he was dead and his sister was weeping at his bedside. When he was found he told his sister a voo-doo man raised him from his grave and took him to the sugar fields where he worked as a slave. His death was documented as a Narcisse’s incident. Most Haitians believe in zombies and not Narcissist.   

In Budapest, Japan the priests attempted to mummify themselves while they were still alive by starvation and then they would dry themselves out by candles. When they died their body was almost mummified. To complete the process they were placed in a tomb for three years and then dried out again by candles. In our culture I do not think that this is the Right of Passage, it is suicide.

          The Right of Passage in my opinion is not that you pass away, but how you are presented in death. If you believe in the mores of your culture you will be offered in a honorable way. If your beliefs are different, if you’re an outsider from society and do not believe in what the public thinks you have created a stigma for you and your family. The social consequence for you not believing in what the culture is, is  that your family is disgraced in the eyes of the public.  The passage is one that nobody denies, because death is the last thing you do on earth, it is literally inevitable.

          Bill Gallaher

Yesterday the family delivered my sister in laws remains in her final resting place. Part of the interment is a short program wherein the immediate families/ members say their final words, goodbyes and thanks to the people who supported them the whole process of mourn and wake nights. The host caught my attention; she is not a family member but an employee of that certain private cemetery. I cannot imagine myself working in such kind of job. I saw the host wipe her tears as she announces the final viewing. Soon as she announced and ask the family members to close the casket, and my sister in laws children cries, the host also cried and turn her back wiping her tears.

                        Interment ceremony 

Imagine how many funeral she hosted for a day as I saw from a distant that there would be an interment to follow soon. How she carries all the sorrow each time she hears people cry. Goodness, my tears did not even dry up since we headed to the cemetery until the final part of the burial.

                          Loyola memorial park 

Why do people cry when we hear the word goodbye? I also wonder why and I hate to say the word either. Why tears are sure to fall when we know we did it all once we lost someone we love. Death will come to us in the right time, it only happens that someone go first before us and left us broken and hurt in. This is life, we came to this world crying and everyone rejoicing, we left this life with happy memories and everyone around is crying.

                              R.I.P

Today, whilst on my way back home via public-transit. I saw a man of no particular importance to history die in front of me. He was, from what I saw- Young. He was obviously of military statue. But. As I sat there and watched people gather–I just watched. I watched the people gathering. I watched the people helping the man on the ground. I wasn’t void of feeling, but I was most concerned about how someone who would take to the news that their boy died or… that their husband died. I thought about this often and even now as I write this that… It’s not because I’m some emotionless hermit, but that I had two people I loved dearly pass in front of me. 

My Grandma. From the hospital to house-care. I saw her slowly die and at the time, I didn’t understand. I was 5 or 6. Something young, but I still remember deeply it effected me. The day my grandma passes was one morning when everyone was asleep. My mother, crying, and my father equally ridden with sadness came to the edge of the bed and woke me up with the news. I really didn’t allow this to sink until after my mother and father walked me down to her body. She was cold, and lifeless. I still didn’t take it the fact that one of my most beloved and passionate person was gone. But she was. That following few days slowly eroded most of my feelings away and in the wake was a wall. 

I never went to her funeral. I couldn’t. 

Few years later…. One of my best friends committed suicide. I’ve for the longest time told a few people that she died some other way then how she had, but in the end. She committed an act that… was a permanent fix for a temp. issue. 

These were the last times I felt any real emotion leave me for another person. It’s not because of some lack of character or void of emotion–but instead a better understanding now that… Life happens in strange ways. Live your life the best way you can. Don’t let someone pull you down, or make you feel wrong-Enjoy you life, because in the end. It’s the only one you have. So make something of it. Be happy, make something worth living and enjoy it up to your last moment. 

Today, a man died. You don’t have to know him, you don’t have to like him; You don’t even have to have an emotional attachment, but one thing you should have is the respect and the hope that… in the end. He lived his life to the fullest. 

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Day Rant: A small bit of unedited, unfiltered ranting on the day and in the moment. If you don’t like it, sorry, but I am not going to stop until I can do it no more. Til then. Lates.

Even though this problem will get worse over the years, there is something we can do to lower it. Report any abuse that we see in our community. Always be on the look out for suspicious activities. Warn neighbors of any violent activities in the neighborhood and report it to the police. If you are driving home and you notice that someone is constantly following you, drive to the nearest police station immediately. See a child getting abused in any form of way (does not include a parent disciplining their child)? Report it to your nearest law enforcer.

There should be an international day just for people who suffered from such tragedies. A tribute to all who lost their lives from crime and violence. For all the families out there that are grieving about their innocent love ones that got murdered, I have news for you. God has a plan for you. God won’t make you go through anything that you can’t bear. Trust God and he will work out something for you. Pray to him about your problems and thank him for life. Rejoice because the day when Jesus comes back for us, you will see them again. 

Everything happens for a reason and it was God’s plan to take them home. Your suffering and mourning will only be temporary because Jesus is coming soon and when he comes we will live with him for ever!

The person  you love and care about  has certain addictions, it is difficult to stand by and do nothing, you want to help but don’t know how.

Substance addiction, verbal or physical abuse, eating disorders, or negative attitudes  can  take control of an individual’s life.

Don’t Embarrass Them – Provide Security

You should approach someone with a problem privately, don’t shout it out in public, yelling at your husband about his drinking problem  in the presence of others won’t stimulate a positive outcome.

Be wise about your timing, provide security for the person, comfort, and express your opinions safely.

Don’t Talk Too Much – Listen

Rather listen instead of chirping away, the person involved needs to be listened to,  not lectured to of the problem. The realization of admitting to failure a solution is not required be encouraging and open in your communication.

Don’t Discourage – Encourage

Have an open-minded conversation,  the concerns should be openly expressed and in a positive manner, there shouldn’t be fear or the  feeling rejection. Don’t negate their feelings, if you discourage and reject personal feelings you are automatically being judgemental. You wouldn’t want to steer the conversation in the opposite direction.

Don’t Argue – Understand

You may want to  start the conversation with your own opinions and ideas, try be neutral, allow the other person to open up to you, if you disagree on a subject, show understanding and see why they feel that way. Be positive and caring in situations.

Don’t Expect A Miracle – Be Patient

When confronting someone about a behaviour problem be patient,  you can’t  change old habits over night, it is not easy to admit one has a addiction talking about it is uncomfortable. Sometimes the time is never right allow time for conversation.

Don’t Be Ignorant – Be Informed

Have an idea of what  to talk about and be informed of the problem before getting into it.  Be knowledgeable of the topic it will be easier.  Do your research  to learn of the issue, you need to be all clued up about the behaviour.

Don’t Be A Hero – Be A Friend

Learn to be able to deal with the confrontation, as much as you want to fix the problem you are a bystander in their life and only they can decide what to do. Be a the best friend you can it will help the most, don’t ignore or avoid helping as a friend.

Being a friend is very important to your loved ones, show concern and never give up. Work together wherever possible.

Social skills seem to be forgotten

The anonymity of the internet has caused many people to simply forget what they should have learned back in kindergarten: To Play Nice and Get Along With Others. These seem to be two very important social skills that, ironically, some social networking site users seem to be lacking. People who might not ordinarily blurt out mean and hurtful words seem to have no problem typing them out for all to see. Unfriending, changing a relationship status or posting thinly veiled digs at or about anyone we’re annoyed with can easily be done with a few key strokes.

Send a private message please

The fact is Facebook has a messaging system in place. But for some reason this is blatantly ignored by some people whose primary motivation is being seen and noticed, driving them to post personal grudges rather than discreetly sending a message. We get it. You’re annoyed at your husband, wife, son, daughter, gynecologist, whomever, but we can all see your posts. Sending a private message is far less embarrassing to the person you’re annoyed with and to yourself as well. Better yet, call the person. If what they’ve done is causing you so much angst that you feel it necessary to harass them on Facebook you most likely have their phone number.

Don’t blame the messenger

For the love of Mark, please start conducting yourselves like adults. I doubt the original intention of creating a social network was to become anti-social people. Think before you post. Ask yourself, will my words help an already sticky situation or will it just serve to escalate the problem further? Use the same common sense you hopefully use when you are talking with someone face to face. We’re all responsible for our behavior on Facebook and any other social media site so we really can’t blame the messenger too much. Remember, Facebook doesn’t kill relationships, people kill relationships.

Making a Will

Wills aren’t just for people who have considerable wealth, they are for everyone. Not only can making a will ensure that the wishes of the deceased are carried out as they would have liked, but they can safeguard their significant others family if the latter’s finances aren’t in good health as well as help to pay for a funeral.

Here are some issues and suggestions if you are considering making a will – you can download a free guide to making a will here and here is a helpful article about making a will online here

They can describe your exact wishes for your funeral or cremation, those who should become guardians of your children in the event of an accident involving yourself and your partner; you can express clearly if you want your organs donated to medical research, or for transplants; you get to appoint the executor and trustee of your goods (an important decision) and many other matters.

A lot of people assume that when they die, their money and belongings will automatically be passed over to their loved ones, and dealt with smoothly, when this isn’t necessarily the case. Though many nations’ laws for

those who die without a will do ensure that their immediate family are to inherit their property, this does not include de facto partners or close friends. So, if you wish for a certain person to inherit an item of your property, for example, it is essential that you indicate this in a will; even more so when it comes to deciding who one would like to be their children’s caretakers in the event of a tragedy.

If you don’t have a will in place, it may also cause your family more anxiety and stress at the time of your passing. This is because the administration of your estate may take a longer time to deal with and cause your family added expenses through law firms, taxes, or other costs- especially if they challenge a decision that gives the state a perceived unfair proportion of one’s goods or savings.

In many countries, generally speaking, to be able to make a will one has to be 18 or over, or having been registered as married at some point. In order to do so, you can contact your lawyer and he can draw a will up for you.

A solicitor or lawyer is recommended because the signing formalities (required before a Will can be valid) must be strictly observed under law.

Before doing so it is thoroughly recommended that you are advised on all laws that affect the decisions that you are taking, particularly those relating to marriage, property and children. Examples of these in the UK are: the Family Protection Act 1955, the Testamentary Promises Act 1949 and the Matrimonial Property Act 1976.

Once having created a will, one can alter it art any point in the future: in fact, it is recommended that you do so immediately after getting divorced or remarried, having another child, adopting or in the case of losing some item that may be included in the document. A “codicil” is often a convenient means of making a minor alteration to a Will, however, if you want to make a number of alterations to your Will it is often easier and cheaper simply if a new one is made.

Thus, if one chooses to make a Will, doing so is an easy procedure that can be undertaken without much fuss; and is an action that ensures that the one’s post-death wishes can be successfully executed- for the benefit of the will maker and their family.

Another reason to be thankful for is the fact that we are still alive and away from disaster and calamities that other people are experiencing. We still have a home to live while others are living in evacuation centers because their houses are damaged by earthquakes, tsunami, fire and flood. We still can sleep with comfort while others have to share their sleeping area with other victims of calamities who have no place to go.

We must be thankful for the food we have in our tables in spite of the tough economic situation we are in, We still can eat three times a day. There are people who have a hard time eating even once a day. Is this not a great reason to be thankful for? Think of those who lost their properties and homes due to natural disaster, for sure some of them are suffering from hunger. We must be thankful that we have food  to eat everyday.

We must be thankful that we have family and friends who are with us through thick and thin. Some people have no one to turn to when they needed support. There are lots in the world today who are abandoned by their loved ones and has no one to share their burdens. We must be thankful that we have families to lean on when we need support.

These are some of the good reasons to be thankful for to the Lord because of these blessings in our lives.

Here are just a few things that contempo studies accept revealed:

• One abstraction begin that 44 percent of nursing home association accept suffered some anatomy of abuse. 48 percent appear accepting been advised or handled roughly. 38 percent appear accepting witnessed the corruption of others.

• Almost 30 percent of abiding affliction agents had witnessed some anatomy of concrete corruption of a accommodating in the antecedent year. 81 percent address accepting apparent some anatomy of verbal, physical, or added anatomy of corruption over this aforementioned time period. 40 percent accept to committing such acts at atomic already over the antecedent year.

• 66 percent of nursing home association ache from Alzheimer’s ache or added cerebral problems which acutely banned their adeptness to yield affliction of themselves or be acquainted that corruption is occurring.

• One third of nursing homes or added abiding affliction accessories accept been cited for violations that had the abeyant to advance to corruption and 10 percent were cited for absolute concrete abuse.

• 85 percent of nursing home agents blames staffing shortages for the could could cause of abuse.

Perhaps the a lot of alarming accomplishment indicates that alone 20 percent of instances of nursing home carelessness and corruption are anytime reported. There are several accessible affidavit that such instances do not get reported. For one, abounding nursing home association are too cognitively broken to accomplish a address on their own, whether they suffered the corruption or witnessed addition citizen getting abused.

Those who are able of authoritative a address generally accept not to out of abhorrence that accomplishing so would alone could could cause added abuse. Considering that abounding nursing home association do not accept accompany or ancestors adjacent who can analysis on them consistently to see that they are getting advised properly, this corruption can become a abiding issue.