Not that easy?

People often describe being single as an unhappy experience. Never believe in what they say, for happiness is within yourself. It’s up to you whether you want to be happy or sad, whether you are single or not. You might be forced to be single, but you still have other options; would you prefer being a happy single, or the sad one?

Look at yourself

Check on the mirror. How do you look like? Do you like it or not?

Many people forget to take care of their self when they’re in a relationship, for they’re too busy taking care of their loved one. Now that you don’t have anyone to take care of, it’s time to get yourself together.

One left,  more to go

Being single doesn’t have to make you alone, or lonely. Many people even have so much more time to catch up and have fun with their friends, families or relatives after they’ve returned to their single life.

According to experts, more powerful one’s memory when she was in her early age. The more young person’s age, the more fragile memory, so it is very dependent of the guidance of adults (especially parents).

For children aged 4 months, he was only remembering her mother’s face. After stepping 12 months, he started doing some new behaviors such as eating with a spoon hit the spot as well as with other objects. When the child is 18 months old, he began to remember things he used to do every day, such as bath time, eating, sleeping, walking, and so on. Children also have to remember where you move the object that he loves to another place (if at that time, he sees you move it), although in a long time.

After he was 2, 5 years, children are able to remember what he was doing that day, friends or acquaintances who often times he met. Ages 3 to 5 years, children are able to remember the simple rules such as if lost in a mall, he could come to the information. He also remembers not to cross the street alone. Children will also remember the things that makes it impressive or trauma.

Children older than 5 years, can remember more and more detail than in previous ages. He was able to remember the home address, telephone number (both home and mobile numbers of his parents), 1 to 6 tasks and how he can do it, the streets around the home environment, how to take care of pets (such as giving them something to eat and drink , invite them for a walk, and taking care of them if you’re sick).

The weird thing is to have the curiosity of knowing how we will die? What will you do if you know the date, place and exact details of how you will die? Of course, many of us will do everything just to avoid or prevent that event by doing some changes in our lives. Some might consider it as a gift by knowing things beforehand. They might even use it as an advantage to weigh their priorities given the fact that they have a deadline. Unfortunately life and death doesn’t work that way. Death is every persons very own mystery to solve. We can live comfortably by not thinking about it or keep on worrying about it in our entire existence. Many of us doesn’t know where we will go or what will going to happen to us after we died. Some said they knew but let us set aside our beliefs to that matter. The important question is are you ready to die? Death might find us sooner than we think so isn’t it wise to be prepared for it so that if ever it occurs whether sooner or later we won’t regret or wish we could have done something before we finally face it. A well prepared person can live conveniently and confidently that even if he dies today, he will have no regrets.

When we heard that someone died too early or unexpectedly, aren’t you asking that of all the people in the world why it happened to him or her? We get sad or even mad when someone dear to us passed away. What would you feel when you heard that someone you knew committed suicide? Or a friend or family member died in a freak accident? Or they were killed by a random criminal? Or they drowned or burned in a fire or hit by a bus? Accidents happen all the time so we’ll never really know.

Let’s find out some of the most intriguing question about our death. How do you want to be remembered? What do you think people will say and feel when they heard the news about your demise? Why do you want to be remembered? What will be the impact of your absence in their lives? Is it a positive impact or a negative one?

I also have important question to those who were left behind. Have you been nice the person who passed away? Can you proudly say that you made them happy or worthy when they still exist? Or did you made their lives miserable or gave them problems or caused them troubles? Do you wish you could have done something if you only knew that they will leave sooner? What kind of role did you portray in their whole existence? Is it a protagonist or antagonist?

What marks the line between life and death is the challenge to make both ways worthwhile. It really matters how you live and even how you die.

I saw it coming, destroying everything on the way, it was big and anonymous, it didn’t have a defined shape or conscious, it just existed and was everywhere. I could not breath, I was so scared I could not move or react, my voice was shaky and I could not defend myself. Slowly I started to get blinded, a dark cloud appeared in front of my nose, I could not see clearly the objects in my surroundings and the cloud went far beyond my eyes and covered my conscious. How could I see it in first place? Where did it come from? Why everyone here had it?

I suddenly wake up and turn to see what time it was in my clock when suddenly I lost part of my vision since the green light of the alarm shook me. The image of that amorphous object was still in my mind and it burn even stronger in that moment where the green light shocked me. My eyes got better after a while and I could see the time, 2:00 AM. I was still scared about all what happened in my dream and could not concentrate enough to fall asleep again. I have had this dream since I have memory and it always scares me to the point I only sleep a few hours a day, I decided to sit in my bed and every night and write details that may explain what this dreams are. I started to write when suddenly I remembered when I was small, I used to go and talk with the girl next door. I remembered that situation since she had the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen and the blindness in my dreams remembered me about those eyes. Her eyes where blue and the color was so intense that one could not look her directly at her eyes for a long period of time without blinking. We used to play in the sand box at the park near our houses and we used to be friends. Her name… it’s not important, I just remember those eyes and that when we grew up she started to lost the color in her eyes. What seem estrange was the fact that I was the only one that believed that her eyes where losing their color, the other guys didn’t notice it. Slowly, she started to get away from our friendship to the point I cannot recognize her any more.

The words matched with the paper of my diary where I have had write those details of my dream. It’s still uncertain why I have this dreams, a details that seem important about my dreams is that apparently everyone start without any sight and I start to get blinded by that darkness. I decided to start scanning my room for details as if my problems where somewhere hiding inside those four walls. I saw my television, it have made me so happy for so long but as it make me happy it makes me blinder, every single piece of light that passes through my eyes is nothing against what I actually see. I remembered that one commercial I saw few years ago where they displayed an abstract painting with apparently no sense at all. The only thing I remember is that during that year I went every two days to Burger King even though I didn’t liked the burgers they made. Two years later I studied more carefully the commercial I constantly saw in television and suddenly in the background I saw some shades in the orange sky, it was not easy to see since the colors of the background and of the shade where pretty similar, but there it was, the phrase that made me eat garbage for so long, it said “I LOVE BURGER KING”. I could not believe all that time I lived in a shadow, all the things that could have been better than those burgers but then, suddenly the image of those eyes came to my mind. The relation was clear as water, those eyes should have been a shadow, I couldn’t recognize easily but that was there, but a shadow of what?

I turned off the light and the shadow of my hand in the paper disappeared. Then, for having a shadow, there must be an object that creates it or something else that can make it. I turned the light again and remember that her character changed too, then, the shadow in her eyes was caused by her character? Or maybe the intensity of the color was caused by her character? A dualistic idea, it was the light in her eyes or the lack of light that was caused by her character?

I took a book that I had in a table next to my bed and went searching for an answer. I found something that could help, it was the ideal of dualism stated by Parmenides of Elea that didn’t just accept the idea of two opposites but also the idea that those opposites where divided into one positive and one negative term. He stated that things like the light, the idea of what is hot and the being where positive while the darkness, the idea of what is cold and not being where negatives. Then I realize that since her character changed, the positive component of her character that was when she was young was the one that gave the color to her eyes while the character she developed was the negative that made her eyes turn lighter and lighter.

I felt glorious since I just solved that issue my mind gave me but still I didn’t know what my dreams where like they were. I turned and took a look at my clock, 2:00 AM. The light didn’t shock me this time, but then the answer came to me as the other issues where solved. The blindness was caused by the negative change that took my friend into a stranger, that same anonymous mass that is everywhere is the one that attacked my friend and now I could see more than before, that same thing that she lost and that apparently I could recognize more than she could.

She lost something of extreme importance, something that made the human something different from the rest of the animals, something special and unique. That something was herself. The feeling of that cloud entering to me came again, when it came, it didn’t make the person completely blind since in the dreams I couldn’t see clearly the objects but that was just an effect of something much worst, the lost of the self, that was caused by the same shadow, by the same immutable cloud, the same in all directions and that didn’t just make you go and eat burgers but also make you lost the power of the self, the power of taking your own decisions, the power of believing in what you want, the power of creating was lost, it was replaced with a treaty, accepted by everyone like in a contract where one didn’t read the small letters, like when you don’t know something but you still need to make a decision on what you want. That treaty is the easy path to having a life, a path full of laziness in where one just accept what the amorphous cloud wants one to do, a path in where one accept all the terms that society gives, been global.

Now I could understand why I could see it and the reason was not complicated, I could see it because the clouds didn’t went beyond my eyes, I had still the power of the self and could understand everything now, everyone had it because they accept the treaty while they grow up and just decide to don’t care about what can they be, they are just anonymous as the cloud, and that cloud was not created, it existed from the moment society developed, it was the image of the weakness of humanity to develop as a social network of individuals, it’s the invention of a easier and accepted treaty where everyone just followed the same basic principles and where everyone could live in harmony. But then it flashed again in front of my eyes. I saw it coming, destroying everything on the way, it was big and anonymous, it didn’t have a defined shape or conscious, it just existed and was everywhere. I could not breath, I was so scared I could not move or react, my voice was shaky and I could not defend myself. I turned and saw the clock, 2:01 AM. Slowly I started to get blinded, a dark cloud appeared in front of my nose, I could not see clearly the objects in my surroundings and the cloud went far beyond my eyes and covered my conscious. And that was the last time I had that dream, but it was the beginning of the reality of that dream.

I was twelve years old at the time, in the middle of my seventh grade year and spending the holidays at my grandparents’ house in Woodcrest, a rural (at that time, now more suburban) community outside of Riverside, CA located about 60 miles east of Los Angeles, which I had always done as until three years before, I lived with my grandma and grandpa.

We didn’t have any stockings to hang above the chimney with care, and as I was 12 I held absolutely no hope whatsoever that St. Nicholas would soon be there; believing in that jolly red-suited guy would have been social suicide in Santa Monica, the seaside community where I lived, and everywhere else in junior high school culture.

However, we did have a tall (as it seemed to me) Christmas tree that I was quite proud of, being that I was responsible for decorating it, and had been for years. Grandma would get the tree, with me coming along, and it was generally understood that once that green-needled fir stood in our living room in front of our big picture window facing Van Buren Blvd., it was my job to make it look appropriately Christmassy.

And for several years of my childhood, at around that time, I took quite a bit of pride putting the ornaments, tinsel and star on that thing. Seeing those red, green, blue, and gold bulbs and that gold and silver tinsel generated the Christmas spirit in me as much as anything else, if not more.

Anyhow, I was sleeping in my little twin bed in my room during those cold, dark wee hours when all of a sudden it went from the still quietness that the country is known for to a loud burst of bells and dings. “What the heck is that?!” I thought as I jumped out of bed, my afro all matted up every which way like I had stuck my finger in a light socket.

I walked down the little hall into the family room when to my left, out on the patio, with his breath showing in the cold, was my grandpa playing a plastic pinball game, his finger controlling the levels and keeping the ball in play.

Now it must be understood, in those days pinball was the “in” thing among me and my peers, as we hung out in arcades, particularly in a nearby mall and the Santa Monica Pier, all the time, so you can imagine my ecstatic elation at seeing this Christmas present that was all mine.

As soon as grandpa got off and let me have a go at it, of course.

Yes, it was freezing on that wire-enclosed patio, I was appropriately cold and like grandpa, my breath was hanging in that Woodcrest darkness, but I didn’t care – if you were a 12-year old boy who was into pinball games and had an actual machine of your very own as a Christmas present, would you care? 

I didn’t think so.

It took roughly an hour and many admonishments from my mother and grandma before I finally got off that machine, which of course wasn’t the real thing that you’d find in the arcades, but that didn’t take away the joy of playing my very own pinball game.

To be honest, except for spending much of that day, as soon as the sun came up, playing on that machine, which of course barely lasted through January, I don’t really remember much else about that Christmas, but that was OK as it was certainly the kind of memory that is so prevalent in my brain that I can describe it in detail over 30 years after the fact.

And it was the kind of memory that, as much as I like Christmas now and fully understand the meaning of the holiday – peace on earth, goodwill toward men (and women, and children, and animals) – makes me miss those Yuletide days as a young boy, when it just pure fun seeing all those goodies like that pinball machine under the tree all for me, and you didn’t have to worry about fighting the crowds in the stores and the malls to get that perfect gift for your loved ones, or dreading the bills coming in the mail a week or so later.

I’m sure that most folks who experienced joyous Christmases as kids feel the same way as I do.

I hope my holiday memory triggers some good recollections of your own.

And, to risk a cliche, I certainly wish everyone a Merry Christmas.

Scientists in thought study have similar problems requiring verbal responses from people under study.  The pattern of study is subject to generated hearsay instead of first person what the eye saw information.  Granted, most summations are not just assumptions, but the area between dementia and reality is a very fine line.  The medical reports used by Psychologists and Psychiatrists are determined by understood social norms analytically determined by statistical probability of the masses studied.  The mind doctors consume the data and cognitively make a line with enough gray area to fill the Grand Canyon.  Again, an additional party makes a judgment call making reliability questionable.  The broad stroke of gray is necessary to treat the people within it.

In the brain, the mind personally gathers information.  It is stored in relative positions for the sake of thought management.  The basis of the methodology used is presented differently in every human being.  One mind is different from another for mysterious reasons, but not unlike the saying “you have a twin walking around.”  There are people existing that are very similar in deductive skills, and there are people from different backgrounds with similar ideas.  This makes human sociality groupings under mental activity.  The negative is manifesting prejudice through ideology.  Ideologies make the facts arbitrary under unknown reasoning.  The assumption factor takes priority and people are as they are.  The writings of the sages depict this human failing in the statement “no man (human being) can (should) judge the other.”  Why?  The failing is universal.  In greater ignorant ages, simpler language was in order.

History was passed along verbally.  Songs and chanting helped people’s memory with wording and phrases.  The human awareness came through tradition education.  It may have been empirical facts starting the race, but the empirical fact weight lessens when people commence to argue over conceptual issues.  Plato and Aristotle may have been the first to touch on cognition through their language, but people lived and died for ideas many years before them.  Languages were simple and perhaps expressionism was in the idioms of earlier languages that have no translation in the current world.  Cognition bristled!

Which and when are the five senses active in the fetal state and what innate experiences has the fetus placed in memory?  The facts are not known and it is unknown if fetal memory would have an affect later in life, but obviously they can and they do.  Everyone is born physically and they are mentally active at birth.  There is no switch turned on when the baby’s head passes through the birth canal yet the baby has sensations.  A slap on the butt proves it.  It is a bewildering sensation without a name in the infants mind starting the crying.  People went through trials to reduce infant death and a slap on the bottom was one technique to start breathing.  Cognition is at work.  The doctors may have some idea to the reality of the human thought process, but they are shooting at a coin from a mile away.  Reality exists in the mind, but real and reality are two different things.  Good Luck with your life.

1. Note the nutritional intake

memory is part of a child’s cognitive and influenced by physiological factors (physical) and the environment. Parents should watch your intake of food – related to the development of the brain and other organs – from the fetus is still in the womb until birth. If the content is problematic, then it will affect fetal development, especially the brain.

Satisfied nutrition, vitamins, folic acid to stimulate the child’s brain that will ultimately affect his memory. If nutrients are not met – for example, iron – the child will easily sleepy. As a result he is not optimal when receiving or recall information.

2. Enough oxygen

Oxygen demand is also important. If the oxygen supply is met then the blood circulation will be smooth since the toddler more outdoor activities, so it will support the cognitive process. Memory skills of children increased.

3. Given the while singing

Many ways you can do to improve memory and sharpen the child’s thinking sharpness. One of them learn while singing. Simple things is capable of providing stimulation to the sharpness of memory such as remembering colors, letters, numbers, through the song.

4. In view of the object

the child is still in the process of cognitive development, therefore in taking children to remember something had to use something (media) are concrete. Children will be easier to understand using props rather than simply with words. For example, in introducing the shape, color or visual symbols.

5. Memorizing through fairy tales

Read the story for children, before sleep. When finished, take your child to re-remember the story the story, such as character names, place names and so on. By doing repetitions, for long the child will get used to listen to and record it in their memory. In addition to story books can also hand puppets receipts, pictures that can be changed or improvised parents.

6. Mimics the movement

Physical activity at the age of the children is necessary to develop sensors and motor as a way to explore the environment. This can be utilized to simultaneously provide the ability to remember stimuli in children.

The trick, he mimicked invite moms. For example, jump, run. If the child is successful, proceed to a stage that is more difficult with more movement. As a result, the child will get used to remember something that is received quickly and be able to “call” his memory back.

7. Associate the form

If moms want to introduce various types of numbers on your child, using a form of associate certain things with the hope the child will easily remember. Example, number 2 is like a duck, number 4 as the bench upside down.

8. Toys berprosedur

If you want to introduce toys, choose toys that stimulate memory suitable for children. Recommend toys that have such procedures; snake ladder, monopoly, and so on. So the stress on the procedure, what to do in the first stage, then where and what next, there are repetitions gradually. Then the children will remember these repetitions.

9. Given through images, sound, and movement

There are several types of learning for children, through visual (images), auditory (songs / voice), or kinesthetic (movement / props). Here’s what to watch out! For children with type learning visually, he’s more interested in something that is the shape (picture) – look straight ahead. For example, if you want to tell you about the tree, not just using words, but also must have a picture.

For children with type-auditory or kinesthetic learning, he will easily remember things by sound or movement. For example there is a movement in the story ran, take the child come running. For children who are easy to learn with the movement, the part when he came running, it will unlock memory. Well, through fairy tales, there is usually a combination of visual, auditory, and kinesthetic when children recounted.

10. The concept of mind mapping

Concept of mind mapping can be moms teach when children have started to recognize shapes, colors, visual symbols. This method does not have to use words, but use the pictures. For example, introducing the concept of home. At home it’s usually no cabinets, doors, tables, chairs, window. Then in the yard, no trees, grass, or flowers. All that must be spelled out in pictures.

Other objects that can be moms teach with this method such as human body parts or car. That way, little memory had been trained from an early age and can help the process of learning as he went up to where he does not have to memorize.

Are you familiar with the situation where you enter a room or office and you can’t remember what you wanted to do or where you wanted to go?  Sure, everyone does once in a while. Maybe you were thinking of three things at the same time; maybe you were interrupted by someone or by a phone call; or maybe you had a cold and your head was so clogged up you can’t remember what day of the week it is.

But, researchers at the University of Notre Dame are claiming that just the mere fact that you walk through a doorway may cause “brain freeze” or a lapse in memory.  That’s right, just stepping across a threshold might cause your mind to go blank.

‘Event Boundary’ Can Cause Brain Freeze

The researchers say that going into or out of a doorway represents an “event boundary” in a person’s brain.

To prove their theory the researchers crated three experiments using college students.  The students were asked to perform certain memory tasks while they crossed a room and when they exited a doorway.

In one experiment the students used a computer program to move from one room to another, chose an object on a table and exchanged it for another object on yet another table.  They repeated the exercise a second time, but did not enter or exit a room – they just did the task asked of them in the one location.  The researchers found that the students, when they walked through a doorway, forgot more of what they had been asked to do than when they performed tasks inside one room without leaving to go through another doorway.

Similarly, a second experiment had the students hide objects in boxes and then move the boxes either across a room, or take the boxes into another room through which they had to pass through a door. Again, when the students had to walk through a door they forgot more about the tasks they were asked to do.

In the third experiment, the same results were achieved when students had to pass through several doorways that ultimately brought them back to the room they started from.

The researchers suggest that the rooms and doorways help people compartmentalize their thoughts and actions.  This “separates episodes of activity and files them away,” making the task of retrieving them slightly more difficult.

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Being so, the brain has the magnificent ability to absorb the universe. It is “capable of anything, for everything is in it: all the past, the present, as well as the future.” (Joseph Conrad). Man’s memory— allied with his instincts—makes possible the use of prior experience and learning for the modification of subsequent behavior and thought for him to shape and re-shape his future.

Through his brain man has thought processes which enable him to control or alter his environment, to submit Nature to his will, although his environment controls him in return. He has a system of learning, understanding, abstracting, conceiving, perceiving, projecting, and creating. His concepts have found their way into law, literature, science, medicine, art, and so on.

Man projects himself towards the future using the brain as repository for experiences and information and the body’s processing or analyzing mechanism. Though he is seasonal and cyclical in his chemistry, he is forward-moving in his mind; even the movement of his body is forward. He has prescience, or foreknowledge, the ability to envision and shape his future. In doing this he interacts with his own body and his environment in a conscious and unconscious way.

Within the brain is a compartment we call the limbic system where many of the regulatory functions of the human body take place. The limbic system controls temperature, eating, drinking, sleeping, and daydreaming; it is the repository of certain survival instincts such as aggression, rage, and fear; it contains a source of pleasure, self-stimulation, and aspiration— and sex.

Through his brain, man has advanced in cultural evolution as he reasons himself into a sophisticated toolmaker and searcher for the meaning of life and existence. Through his creativity he has advanced in science and has created a technology and technique that can either build or destroy. Through his conscience and feeling he has power to empathize and sympathize, to praise or despise, to accept or reject, and so forth. In short he can choose to be either good or evil depending upon the dictates of his mind.

Objective and scientific research and experiments cannot dispel the mystery of the brain or the “mind” (”soul” to the Greeks) as the prime mover of man’s actions and reactions. Analyses of its functions and structures brought about by discovery only deepen the mystery. Who did all these for man? We can only ask in awe and wonder. There should be a power higher than man. ###

We use our imagination consciously and unconsciously while describing an event, giving directions, or to remember something important like the anniversary of your wife, because if you forget that you would be in a serious problem. Imagination helps reduce stress, depression and boredom, because it’s a quality that gives us momentary joy because we can travel anywhere without obstacles. There’s so much power behind thinking positively because it attracts opportunities into our lives. Our thoughts develop an image that we can attract and create into becoming a part of our lives and that is how dreams become goals that get accomplished. It’s as simple as someone having a thought, and working to make it come true. Unfortunately many people think negatively and expect the worst and these thinking patterns attract difficulties and problems into their lives. Imagination is not just another world we can dive into; it is a truly powerful tool that attracts both good and bad thoughts into our lives. Too many humans have expectations to do terribly in any given situation (as goes the quote: ‘hope for the best, expect the worst’) and when we fail we complain about our lives, but in reality we’re at fault for thinking negatively. If our attitude can change our lives will also change, if we’re constantly thinking positive it can have an extremely good impact in our daily lives. All of us should know how to properly use the full potential of our imagination because it can give us a life filled with joy. The gift of imagination also helps develop creativity needed for projects and inventions such as designing clothes, writing a story and more. Children have the greatest imagination, it plays a large role in their lives and they live well into their world of fantasy. For example if they saw an aircraft fly in the sky they’d be inspired and ask themselves “can I fly like this?” They pretend to be superheroes, they playing pirates and this proves that a large portion of their amusements are based on their creative thoughts. Unfortunately many children turn into teenagers that lose their imagination because of school, homework and the internet and it seems that there is an activity to do every minute which reduces their essential creativity. It is necessary for us to just sit and let our imagination guide us through another world, but nowadays this is more difficult to do because of the media and development of technology.
Did you know that studies prove that children with imaginary friends are more creative and intelligent than the majority of other kids? This is why parents are encouraged to develop the imagination of their children. Unfortunately there is almost no imagination in the lives of adults because of work. Many adults work hard all week and their lives become more stressed with the responsibilities of their children, taxes and millions of other tasks waiting to be completed. Adults rarely sit down and let their thoughts flow for a few minutes.

Imagination is a quality of great importance in life. It is the  quality of the greatest influence in the development of the world, many people think that it is technology, but where do you think technology came from? They came from ideas, otherwise how would of Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone? The idea was to talk to someone in another location and the idea was made into an object, it all began with imagination. If there was no such thing we would not have anything.  Something as simple as eating food or travelling to the moon are inventions of the imagination, it is necessary to have this for a living. Before composing a piece Beethoven heard the sounds and melody in his  imagination, before making a painting Edgar Degas saw his picture in his imagination and before J.K Rowling wrote a story she had to plan out the problems, solution and events using her imagination. Everyone thinks different; if you accumulate people from different parts of the world and show them something and ask them to write a story about it they would all have a different story. The whole story writing process consists of the imagination so no one would write the same story because the human brain has not limits. We can imagine what we want without any obstacles and it gives us a unique experience. Our imagination is an extraordinarily powerful tool which plays a huge role in our lives.