Most people have a relationship problem. Even when they are mentally ill and they have other psychological problems, they also have a relationship problem.  

My example is about love, because love is the most important matter of your life. Love is so important that it is a big danger for your mental stability. This is why the unconscious mind is very generous with you. You have trustful information about the person you love, or clear guidance about how to find your perfect match if you have no relationship. This is a dangerous problem too.

The unconscious guidance helps you calm down and understand the truth.

You will perceive that you can trust the unconscious mind because the unconscious messages have a protective character. Thus, you’ll feel supported and relieved for having precious guidance in your own dreams.

You’ll learn everything you need to know about the special person. You will also predict the future and understand how to correct your mistakes before making them (again) and ruining your own life. This way, you’ll have the chance to change your destiny and avoid bad consequences.

The unconscious mind shows you how the future will be unfolded if you’ll follow the wise guidance you have in your dreams, and also how the future will be for you if you’ll disobey the unconscious guidance.

First of all the unconscious mind shows you your good destiny (if you’ll be obedient). Then, it shows you your bad destiny (if you’ll be disobedient). This order is not always respected in all dreams. You may have first of all negative dream scenes in a dream, showing you your bad destiny in the beginning, and your positive destiny only in the end. Dreams comparing different future results are very common.

You have to be obedient in order to be cured and in order to achieve your goals. If you keep making the same mistakes, you cannot be cured.

For example, if the unconscious mind will show you in a dream that the real reason why your husband told you that he needs some time to think and remain alone is the fact that he is cheating on you, you must be very careful and respect the unconscious guidance.

The unconscious mind will tell you to stay alone and never bother your husband again. It will tell you also not to answer his phone calls or email messages.

Your husband must feel that he completely lost you in order to miss you, and understand how much he really loves you. He must also understand that if he loves you and he wants to live with you, he must respect your relationship.

If you’ll be immature and disobedient, you will face the tragic consequences of your mistakes. You have to obey the guidance of your wise doctor instead of doing silly things that will cause more problems.  

If you are an obedient student and patient, your progress will be visible after a few days of dream therapy. The unconscious mind changes your life into practice, besides helping you transform your personality.

Your husband will regret having betrayed you and desperately desire to be with you.

If you’ll be silly and easily accept meeting him before he will really regret having betrayed you, he will never be loyal and respect your relationship. Of course you miss your husband, but this doesn’t mean that you should believe in his lies. You have to bear your separation during a certain period of time and precisely follow the unconscious guidance if you want to see the positive results you desire.

If you want to solve all the problems of your life in a short period of time, you must be obedient and patient. Each dream will help you calm down and understand what to do. When you are impatient you pay for your impatience with more suffering, and you delay even more in order to finally solve your problems.  

You’ll save time and pain if you’ll be patient, and if you’ll do only what will surely help you solve your problems, instead of making costly mistakes. The unconscious plan may take some time if you have a difficult problem, but this plan is perfect.

If you’ll obey the guidance you have, you will surely triumph in the end. This is guaranteed because the unconscious mind is God’s mind. The unconscious mind doesn’t make tests (like ignorant human beings). You have clear guidance about how to achieve your goals. You only have to obey the directions you have in order to see the results you desire.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung’s research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to accurately translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness.

Learn more at:

http://www.scientificdreaminterpretation.com

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     I don’t know what it was that people didn’t like about me, but whatever it was, it surely wasn’t that I was a mean person. I’ve always tried to be as kind and as fair to everyone as much as possible. Perhaps that was one of the problems. People are cold, and some see kindness as weakness. Something they can use and take advantage of. This is a thought, but I find that for me at least, the friends (and I use that term loosely) I used to have, were nothing more than distractions. Taking my focus away from school work and on their bullshit agendas. I used to have “best friends” that inevitably dropped me like I was just some extra wight they didn’t need. Bums me the fuck out, but we all move on.

     As for the present, my grades currently suck and the friends I’ve managed to scrap are pretty fucked up and unreliable. There are maybe one or two of them who “seem” like they are really there for me. So for the time being, I will take that at face value. In conclusion, I would recommend to anyone younger than me in a similar situation; you have the ability to change your situation whether you realize it or not. So act now and don’t wait. For me the only ones I can count on are my family. 

There is a tragic awfulness to the sight of something as magnificent as a whale being washed up dead on a beach, and local residents will go to extraordinary lengths to get rid of the decaying and putrid smelling flesh. Such carcasses would be put to use in olden times, but not so these days.

Varying enormously in size, dead whales are by no means easy to dispose of. Burying them through using large excavators is one option, though machinery capable of doing the job is likely to sink itself into a sandy beach, so a preferred option for  disposal of the corpses is using explosives.

Blowing up dead whales is not uncommon, and mostly works very well, though there are occasional mishaps, like that which took place, in 1970 in Florence, Oregon with a 15metre long sperm whale carcass. Decided to have been too big to bury, the locals opted instead for the explosive route, but in an awesome misjudgement employed 20 full cases of dynamite!

The blast was so powerful that, huge chunks of blubber were hurled skyward,  one 300lb lump chunk landing on the roof  of an Oldsmobile 88 and trashing it, the exploding whale story keeping many a bar-fly occupied for months afterward, even though the reality had been anything but funny.

Taiwan was the location, on a beach in 2004, on January 26,where another beached whale blew up explosively, this time because decomposition gases exploded from the decaying corpse. Fifty men had manoeuvred the huge body onto a flat-bed truck to transport it, over a gruelling 13 hours.

It was driven slowly through the local town of Tainan, where a 600-strong crowd, enjoying snack foods, were ignoring the chilly weather to see what was going on. In the centre of town, those gases finally caused the bursting of the  whale corpse, splattering blood and whale guts over everything around it.

Salt Spring Island, British Columbia, locals experienced the same thing, but on a local beach, the blubber reportedly hanging off nearby trees for weeks afterwards. In 2001, a humpback, beached near South African Port Elizabeth, and Southern White, beached by Cape Town in 2005 both got blown up to dispose of the bodies.

It is not at all uncommon for whales to beach, or for those living nearby to want to dispose of the bodies as efficiently as humanly possible, but such sad sights are a tragic reminder of the delicacy of oceanic eco-systems and the vulnerability of wildlife, and blowing up these tragic remains is nothing whatever to be amused about.

In this post, I will try to answer the most basic issues about a first date, and I’ll also suggest some more free resources you could use.

Where to Take a Girl on First Date?

Tough question, right? It seems that everyone you ask will have a different answer – and sometime the answers will even be the opposite.

Let’s begin with where not to take her: some men might think that on a first date, they need to impress a girl. While impressing isn’t always that bad, it’s definitely wrong to try to impress her financially.

Because unless you want a girl who will suck all your savings – there is no reason to make a girl like you for your money!

Taking her on an expensive dinner? No. Picking her up in your (rented, probably) Limousine? No.

You shouldn’t spend a lot of money on a date. If it’s a first date, this means you hardly even know the girl – so why spend hundreds of dollars on her?

My favorite place for a first date should be a quiet bar. A bar is actually a great place because it provides you will good music and various topics to talk about (ie, other people in the bar can be great topic conversations).

Plus, the environment of is less formal, so your date won’t look like a job interview. And the alcohol is always a bonus, as it gets you comfortable and relaxed.

A café can be also good, but less recommended. However, some conservative women will not like the idea of a bar date, so a café is the proper solution for them.

Good First Date Topics

So many first dates turn into a job interview very quickly.

“Where do you live?”, “What did you study in college?”, “Where do you work?” – these are terrible boring question!

The first thing you should try to avoid is using too many questions. Asking questions is not the only way to develop a conversation, so you should make sure you diversify your conversations.

Use statements, opinions, stories (very important), jokes and humor – and make your interaction far more interesting.

Another important thing is not to make a first date too serious. You can’t decide if the girl is going to be your wife, or even your next girlfriend, based on a first date.

Instead, make it funny for you both, and see if there is a connection and chemistry between you both.

Talk about hobbies, interests, fun things, dreams, about love. These are exciting topics, especially for women.

Women usually get pretty boring and weird dates. So be different, make her enjoy it, and your chances for a second date will skyrocket (of course, if you like the girl too. Never continue to another date if you don’t want her too.

Kissing On First Dates

Some women might consider a kiss is inappropriate and “too early” for a first date. But for many others (according to my experience, it’s the majority), getting a kiss on a first date is going to be a great bonus and upgrade.

Before even thinking about kissing, you should make sure that you like each other and feel some basic attraction (no attraction = no kissing).

Regarding kissing, the mistake most men make is to learn from Hollywood movies, and attempt to kiss the girl at the very end.

Now, odds are that this attempt will be pretty awkward and uncomfortable for both of you, and eventually you will give up kissing.

Instead, kiss the girl in the middle of the date. The perfect moment for a first date kiss, is during the middle of the date, when you’re having a great conversation.

Not too early, because you need to be comfortable with each other first, but after a bout 40-60 minutes, it is a great time for a kiss.

!0 THINGS TO STOP CARING ABOUT TODAY!

Stop caring about everyone’s opinion of you.

For the most part, what other people think and say about you doesn’t matter.  When I was younger I let the opinions of my high school and early college peers influence my decisions.  And at times they steered me away from ideas and goals I strongly believed in.  I realize now, many years later, that this was a foolish way to live, especially when I consider that nearly all of these people whose opinions I cared so much about are no longer a part of my life.

Unless you’re trying to make a great first impression (job interview, first date, etc.), don’t let the opinions of others stand in your way.  What they think and say about you isn’t important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.

Stop caring about being politically correct.

I had a discussion with a friend yesterday about censorship and how speaking a certain way simply to please others contributes to the loss of one’s true inner voice.  During the discussion I watched him closely, and I could actually pinpoint the heated moment when he was about to give me a piece of his mind, but stopped himself.  It was so obvious!  So I called him out on it.  “You just censored yourself, didn’t you?”  He laughed and nodded.

Everyone has this little watchdog inside their head.  It’s always there watching you.  It was born and raised by your family, friends, coworkers, bosses and society at large, and its sole purpose is to watch you and make sure you stay in line.  And once you become accustomed to the watchdog’s presence, you begin to think his opinion of what’s acceptable and unacceptable are absolute truths.  But the watchdog’s views are not truths, they’re just opinions – forceful opinions that have the potential to completely brainwash you of your own opinions if you aren’t careful.

Remember, the watchdog is just a watchdog, he just watches.  He can’t actually control you.  He can’t do anything about it if you decide to rise up and go against the grain.

No, you should not start randomly cussing and acting like a fool.  But you must say what you need to say when you need to say it.  If it isn’t politically correct, so what.

Don’t censor yourself.  Speak the truth.  Your truth.

Stop caring about looking a certain way.

There is no right way to dress or right way to wear your hair.  No, I’m not saying to you should dress like a clown simply to rebel either.  Everyone who purposely tries to look different ends up looking the same.

Be you, just the way you are, in the unique way only you know how.  Wear clothes and styles you feel comfortable wearing.  Dress the way YOU dress.

You’re a one of a kind.  Trying to look like someone else is a waste of your own beauty.  In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self.

Stop caring about what everyone else wants for you.

Unfortunately, just before you take your first step on the righteous journey to pursue your dreams, people around you, even the ones who deeply care for you, will usually give you awful advice.  It’s not because they have evil intentions.  It’s because they don’t understand the big picture – what your dreams, passions and life goals mean to you.  They don’t understand that, to you, the reward is worth the risk.

So they try to protect you by shielding you from the possibility of failure, which, in effect, also shields you from the possibility of making your dreams a reality.

As  Steve Jobs says:

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.  Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.  Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”

Stop caring about the boundaries others set up.

No matter how much progress you make there will always be the people who insist that whatever you’re trying to do is impossible.  Or they may incessantly suggest that the idea or dream as a whole is utterly ridiculous because nobody really cares.  When you come across these people, don’t try to reason with them.  Instead, forget that they exist.  They will only waste your time and energy.

Try what you want to try.  Go where you want to go.  Follow your own intuition.  Don’t accept false choices.  Don’t let others put a cage around you.  Definitely don’t listen to the watchdog.

Whenever somebody discredits you and tells you that you can’t do something, keep in mind that they are speaking from within the boundaries of their own limitations.  Ignore them and press on.

Stop caring about what everyone else has.

When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or someone famous, stop!  Realize that you are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t possess.  Take a moment to reflect on all the awesome abilities you have and to be grateful for all the good things in your life.

The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life — a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc.  Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you might have a new destination in mind.

Instead, appreciate where you are and what you have right now.  Try comparing yourself to those who have less, those who are dealing with tragedy, and those who are struggling to survive. Hopefully it opens your eyes to all the things you should be grateful for.

Stop caring about the imaginary state of perfect.

Perfect is the enemy of good.

Many of us are perfectionists in our own right.  I know I am at times.  We set high bars for ourselves and put our best foot forward.  We dedicate copious amounts of time and attention to our work to maintain our high personal standards.  Our passion for excellence drives us to run the extra mile, never stopping, never relenting.  And this dedication towards perfection undoubtedly helps us to achieve results…  So long as we don’t get carried away.

But what happens when we do get carried away with perfectionism?

We become disgruntled and discouraged when we fail to meet the (impossibly high) standards we set for ourselves, making us reluctant to take on new challenges or even finish tasks we’ve already started.  Our insistence on dotting every ‘I’ and crossing every ‘T’ breeds inefficiency, causing major delays, stress overload and subpar results.

True perfectionists have a hard time starting things and an even harder time finishing them… always.  I have a friend who has wanted to start a graphic design business for several years.  But she hasn’t yet.  Why?  When you sift through her extensive list of excuses it comes down to one simple problem:  She is a perfectionist.  Which means she doesn’t, and never will, think she’s good enough at graphic design to own and operate her own graphic design business.

Remember, the real world doesn’t reward perfectionists.  It rewards people who get things done.  And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time.  Only by wading through years of practice and imperfection can we begin to achieve momentary glimpses of the perfection.

So make a decision.  Take action.  Learn from the outcome.  And repeat this method over and over and over again in all walks of life.

Stop caring about being right all the time.

We all dance to the beat of a different drum.  There are few absolute ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ in the world.  What’s right for you may be wrong for me, and vise versa.  People need to live their lives their way – the way that’s right for them.

When it comes to life choices and opinions, not much is worth fighting about.  Step back from arguments with your spouse, family members or neighbors.  When you feel anger surging up and you want to yell that vulgar remark on tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away.  Let mind calm down.  You don’t have to be right or win an argument.

Instead, open your mind to new ideas and opinions.  Don’t just concentrate on what others are doing, spend time figuring out why they are doing what they’re doing.

Stop caring about mistakes.

Mistakes teach you important lessons.  The biggest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re too scared to make a mistake.  So don’t hesitate – don’t doubt yourself.  In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance.  You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work.  Most of the time you just have to go for it!

And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  Win-Win.  Remember, if you never act, you will never know for sure, and you will be left standing in the same spot forever.

Stop caring about things you can’t control.

Some forces are out of your control.  Accept this fact of life.  Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation.

The smartest thing you can do to compensate for the things you can’t control is adjusting your attitude.  Your attitude has a profound effect on your overall potential.  Consuming yourself with the negative aspects of a circumstance gets nothing productive accomplished.  But if you instead look at the circumstance productively and positively, coming from the standpoint of “What’s my next best move?” you put yourself back in the driver’s seat.

Bottom line:  As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  You can’t change what happened, but you can change how you react to it.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.  The opposite is also true.  The choice is yours to make.

The “Mean Girls” star told the magazine in an interview accompanying her 10-page nude pictorial that during the past five years she’s come to understand “that ultimately we are responsible for ourselves and our own actions.”

Magazine founder Hugh Hefner has said he advanced the street date of the highly-anticipated issue — in which a blonde Lohan channels her idol Marilyn Monroe’s famed 1953 Playboy photo spread — in part because photos were leaked online.

The Lohan issue hit Playboy’s website on Saturday and the magazine lands on newsstands December 16, one day after Lohan’s scheduled interview on Ellen Degeneres’ daytime TV talk show. Excerpts of the Playboy interview were released on Saturday.

The former child star whose career has suffered in recent years following arrests for drunken driving, drug possession and theft, told Playboy she would have done things differently in her recent years of trouble.

“Looking back, I probably would have listened to and taken more advice from the people whom I admire and would have followed through with it more,” Lohan said.

“My stubbornness at 18 and 19-years-old got in the way,” she said. “During the past five years, I’ve learned that time flies faster than you think, and because you only live once you have to learn from your mistakes, live your dreams and be accountable.”

In November, Lohan was sentenced to 30 days in jail for violating her probation on recent criminal charges, but served less than a day behind bars due to overcrowding.

In an excerpt that apparently references her decision to pose nude for the magazine, Lohan said: “Sex and sexuality are a part of nature and I go along with nature. I think Marilyn Monroe once said that.”

And the actress, who first gained fame playing twin sisters in 1998 Disney film “The Parent Trap,” said she doesn’t understand why her life has become tabloid fodder.

“I have no idea why there is this fascination with everything I do,” she said. “I suppose it is all part of this trend of people wanting to know every single detail of a celebrity’s life.

“I mean, once we get to the point where magazines are doing pictorials on my wardrobe to court, that’s just so unimportant,” Lohan said.

What is it about people that cause them to make excuses for everything; for every action (or inaction), for every mistake, for every character flaw, for every fault? Is it so hard for us to take responsibility for our own lives? I went about searching for what other people have to say about excuses, and came up with some great quotes to share.

People spend too much time finding other people to blame, too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past, and getting on with their lives.

~ J. Michael Straczynski

I will freely admit that we are all, to some extent, a product of our environment. We learned some basic values and behaviors (good and bad) from our parents and other adults as children. Some of us may not have been given a solid foundation on which to build our lives. We may have had limited opportunities because of where we lived. But as we aged, we should have learned and grown. We should have looked around to see all the great men and women who came from humble beginnings. We should have recognized that our past does not determine our future; that is, unless we allow it to. When we make no attempt to try to climb out of the box of our past and move forward, we remain stuck there for a lifetime. Rather than accusing others of holding you back, shake those people off your back (be they in your past or your present). When you lighten the load, you will find the way gets a little easier.

Bad men excuse their faults; good men abandon them. 

~ Author Unknown

How many people do you know who are constantly making excuses for bad habits or bad behaviors? When we come to the realization that the things we are doing are wrong; when we know that our actions are hurtful to ourselves and to others, we should stop doing those things. PERIOD! Those that know better ought to do better.

Excuses are the tools with which persons with no purpose in view build for themselves great monuments of nothing. 

 ~ Steven Grayhm

This one is directed to all those who have no purpose, no goals, no ambitions and no dreams. It is so sad to see people in this state of mind; people so afraid of failure that they never even try. They settle for little or nothing out of life and leave a legacy of mediocrity. I for one do not want to be a person who travels this road of life and leaves not one footprint.

The person who really wants to do something finds a way; the other person finds an excuse. 

~ Author Unknown

I first heard of this quote through a friend. I wanted to find out who said it so I could try to meet that person and shake their hand. It rings so true in my life with some of the people I know (myself included). I have always been a person who, when faced with an obstacle, tries to find a way either over it or around it. But there are others who let the obstacle become a full-on roadblock that stops them dead in their tracks. What is most upsetting is that often there is just a little bump in the road and if these people were so motivated to step a few feet to the right or left, they could easily get past. The trouble is that they never wanted to accomplish the task in the first place, so this bump makes it convenient for them to give up.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.  No apologies or excuses.  No one to lean on, rely on, or blame.  The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.  This is the day your life really begins. 

~ Bob Moawad

This gets down to the real nitty-gritty; the meat of the issue. I am almost ashamed to say that it took me many years to come to this realization. I spent way too much time expecting other people to make me happy or to help me reach my goals. But do you know what I found out? You are not going to come across very many people in your lifetime who actually believe in your dream. They may say they do, but they are skeptical. They won’t expend any energy in supporting your efforts because they fully expect you to fail. When we fully take responsibility for our choices, where we want our lives to lead and what we want to accomplish, we become free.

©2011 – Andrea J. Shannon

   First, use the advantage of technologies related to communication. You may use your phone, either landline or mobile to ask for forgiveness.  Use soft tones as well as clear voice to the person that you are asking forgiveness from. Do not heighten your voice, since you could exacerbate things up, which may possibly lead to arguments. Clarify the mistakes, and promise the other party that you will try your best not to repeat such mistakes again. If you are afraid to use phones, you may also use e-mails. Most of time, to write is better than to speak. Use clear words, and avoid using long sentences or complex words. Also, it is advised to explain things related to the mistakes gradually, rather than compressing lots of points in one e-mail. This is crucial to ensure that you know how the next party would respond, either positively or negatively.

   Second, if you make mistakes to a number of people, such as to your family, direct your forgiveness to all related members. Do not ask for individual forgiveness since you would never know what the other members are thinking about your mistakes. Besides, if you make amends towards an organization, do it formally. Use official letters, or you may clarify your mistakes in meetings, such as board meetings.

   Third, asking for forgiveness from loved ones is much easier than you thought. If you are afraid to talk, you may give gifts or presents to improve the mood of related parties before saying that you are sorry about something.  Gifts should be moderate, rather than extensive, or else you would give an impression to the intended person that you are being nice because you want something from them. Apart from gifts, you may take the individual out for a meal. This is usually common with people who are on love.

   In conclusion, saying sorry is not the hardest thing in the world, if there are crucial elements supplementing such action. On the other hand, asking for forgiveness should come straight from the heart and not by verbal means only. Therefore, good luck in following the methods given and do try your best not to repeat the same mistakes again!

Setbacks in life can have you feeling guilty about everything from the choices you’ve made to those you’ve failed to act on. You’re wondering if you went to school would your life be better. Maybe you’re asking yourself how would your love life be had you married the other person. Don’t allow your feeling of guilt to hinder your future.

Stop Feeling Guilty About Everything When You Make Mistakes

Depressed people often feel they did something wrong. The guilt they carry within causes them to feel like they are not worthy of anything. Everyone makes mistakes. We all have our own shortcomings. Before you begin feeling guilty about everything realize everyone has faults. You are no different when you make a mistake.

Learning from Your Experiences Can Prevent You From Feeling Guilty About Everything

There is so much joy from overcoming trials of life. Learning from these experiences gives a greater reward. To avoid feeling guilty about everything simply make changes in your life. If hanging out at a particular place leads you down the same road, don’t go there. Do you have a friend that wants to travel down the same path you just escaped from? Limit the time you spend with them. If you do, chances are you will continue feeling guilty about everything.

Smart Choices will Prevent You from Feeling Guilty About Everything

Our choices are one of the many things we do own. Despite the influence others may have on our choices, in reality, we have the upper hand. Learn to make choices in life based on what you want and what you feel is best for you. By doing so, you’re less likely of feeling guilty about everything because you had total control of the choice you made.

Don’t Start Feeling Guilty About Everything Based On the Criticism of Others

The comments and actions of others are usually what makes a person start feeling guilty about everything. It’s a common practice of people to point out the faults of others rather than observe their own shortcomings. Those that judge you base on your past are trying to keep their own faults in the dark. In fact, they too may be living a life of feeling guilty about everything. Just mentally note you are not as bad as they would make you seem.

Overall, know who you are to avoid feeling guilty about everything. Recognize what makes you the individual that you are. As selfish as this may sound, it’s all about you. You can put yourself first unselfishly. Follow these tips and stop feeling guilty about everything.     

1. Giving Yogurt to my Toddler when he is on My Computer. I thought it would give my little 1 year old a heads up in school and work with his fine motor skills if he was able to use a computer. He learned how to use the mouse and press keys enough to get Sesame Street up and running.  So I let him go on the computer with my assistance. I grew too comfortable and soon let him watch without me a few times. One day, I made the mistake of giving him yogurt and he dumped it onto my Mac Book and wiped it on my desk. My husband had to hook up another keyboard and use the laptop like a desktop. What a bummer. I could no longer move freely around the house anymore. 

2. Playing Mail with a fragile Android Phone replacement screen. I just did this yesterday, September 6,2011. Since my toddler was 1 years old, his father and I would take him with us to get the mail. When he got inside we let him open some of the mail and packages. Well, last night as I was feeding my 6 month old and could not get up to give dad the mail. I gave it to him and he opened it up and dropped it on the cold,hard tile floor. A crash and it was cracked. We had just ordered it last week and there were only a few left.  

3. Give him the keys of my car to play with. He always asks to play with my keys and I usually just let him play right in front of me and only for a short time. Well, I got distracted when the phone rand one day and he grabbed my keys and ran to the front door. I ran after him. He tried to open the front door almost scratched door knob. I got them away from him just in time. 

4. Give my little guy a banana when tired. He was in a mischievous mood. I thought he was just hungry. He ate some and when I turned back around to talk to my husband, he had smeared the rest on the seat and I had to wash the car seat. I found out when we got to our destination and took him out of the car seat. 

5. Giving coupons while grocery shopping. I let my little guy hold the coupons and he  ripped part of the coupons I needed to give the checker and they could not be used. 

I love my little ones and I admit I should know better than to trust my little toddler with more responsibility then he is ready for. My little girl is almost six months this month and I have learned to be much better with her. It is getting too expensive to trust my little one with $1200 Mac computer and $200-500 Atrix cell phone.Yes, I know I should know better. I do now. So remember that commonsense is not so common all the time.