Pedophiles in the neighborhood

 There is nothing redeemable about a pedophile or a kidnapper; they have no conscience, no remorse, they have one goal only; an irresistible urge to have sex with the child. According to statistics by the time they reach your child they would have molested about 260 victims during their lifetime. And here is the rub; a pedophile can be convicted over and over again for the same offense and come and live in your neighborhood again after he has served out his sentence.

Protect your kids from child molesters

 Your only way to protect your children is to have a serious talk with them and apprise them of what can happen to an innocent child when he gets into the car of a stranger or the car of someone he does not know. They are your children; you cannot afford for them not to know. It is your duty to teach them the danger of talking to strangers and getting into strange people’s vehicles. If someone you don’t know asks you to get into the car, you don’t. You run away as fast as you can; even if it is a woman asking you to get in. In Canada years ago there was a husband and wife child molesting team driving around the neighborhood looking for someone they can molest. They stopped for a girl supposedly looking for directions, and took the girl to their house, raped her, drugged her, took photographs, and eventually killed her. One has to be as aware of female predators as one would be with males. The most serious repeat offenders show early signs of strange behavior.

·                     Don’t let your children open the door of the house when nobody else is home; in fact do not let your child be on his own unless he is old enough.

 ·                     Don’t leave your children with a babysitter who is the same age as the children.

 ·                     Never send your young child on his or her own to the shop.

 ·                     Teach your children how to use the alarm.

 ·                     Teach them not to get into anyone’s car, not even the uncle.

Child Abuse – The Cloyne Report (Photo credit: infomatique)

Give your child a whistle and tell him or her to carry it in the schoolbag and use it when someone wants you to get into the car to give them directions. According to a report there are about 400,000 sex offenders in the United States. Protect your family by educating your children on the dangers of strangers luring you to come with them.

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Coaches, Teachers, Preachers, Priest…so many people that parents trust with the kids. That is why it is sooooooo important for parents to talk and LISTEN to their kids daily. Ask them about their day. Watch their behavior and report anything suspicious. If the school doesnt act go to the police. I do know for a fact that the police wil send you back to the school and tell yo to report it to the school police…It happened when I was a foster mom. But I demanded a report be taken. I didnt allow them to turn me away. A parent has to be the childs voice. They have no one else to do it for them

Over 56,000 cases of child sexual abuse were reported and substantiated in 2007.

As many as one in three girls and one in seven boys will be sexually abused at some point in their childhood.

In as many as 93% of child sexual abuse cases, the child knows the person that commits the abuse.

Most perpetrators are acquaintances, but as many as 47% are family or extended family.

Approximately 30% of cases are reported to authorities. These are SAD facts……only 30% reported….Abusers are bullies…We have got to LISTEN to the children….

Facts about Sex Offenders

Let us see how much we know-and see how much of what we think has been based on the myths we have all heard about sexual assault and sex offenders. Take 5 minutes to complete the True or False Quiz: 

Most men who commit sexual offenses do not know their victim.  False. 90% of child victims know their offender, with almost half of the offenders being a family member. Of sexual assaults against people age 12 and up, approximately 80% of the victims know the offender.

Most sexual assaults are committed by someone of the same race as the victim.  True. Most sexual assaults are committed by someone of the same race as the victim. An exception to this is that people who commit sexual assault against Native Americans are usually not Native American (American Indians and Crime, 1999).

Most child sexual abusers use physical force or threat to gain compliance from their victims.  False. In the majority of cases, abusers gain access to their victims through deception and enticement, seldom using force. Abuse typically occurs within a long-term, ongoing relationship between the offender and victim and escalates over time.

Most child sexual abusers find their victims by frequenting such places as schoolyards and playgrounds.  

False. Most child sexual abusers offend against children whom they know and with whom they have established a relationship. Many sexual assaults of adult women are considered “confidence rapes,” in that the offender knows the victim and has used that familiarity to gain access to her.

Only men commit sexual assault.  False. While most sex offenders are male, sometimes sex offenses are committed by female offenders.

Child sexual abusers are only attracted to children and are not capable of appropriate sexual relationships.  

False. While there is a small subset of child sexual abusers who are exclusively attracted to children, the majority of the individuals who sexually abuse children are (or have previously been) attracted to adults.

Victims of sexual assault are harmed only when offenders use force.  

False. More than any physical injuries the victim sustains, the violation of trust that accompanies most sexual assaults has been shown to dramatically increase the level of trauma the victim suffers. Emotional and psychological injuries cause harm that can last much longer than physical wounds.

If a child does not tell anyone about the abuse, it is because he or she must have consented to it. False. Children often do not tell for a variety of reasons including the offender’s threats to hurt or kill someone the victim loves, as well as shame, embarrassment, wanting to protect the offender, feelings for the offender, fear of being held responsible or being punished, fear of being disbelieved, and fear of losing the offender who may be very important to the child or the child’s family.

It is common for both child and adult victims of sexual assault to wait some time before telling someone about the abuse.  True. It is common for victims of sexual assault to wait some time before telling someone. When the person was assaulted as a child, he or she may wait years or decades. The reasons for this are numerous: victims may want to deny the fact that someone they trusted could do this to them; they may want to just put it behind them; they may believe the myth that they caused the assault by their behavior; or they may fear how other people will react to the truth.

If someone sexually assaults an adult, he will not target children as victims, and if someone sexually assaults a child, he will not target adults.  False. Research and anecdotal evidence indicate that while some sex offenders choose only one type of victim (e.g., prepubescent girls, post-pubescent boys, adult women, etc.), others prey on different types of victims. Therefore, no assumptions should be made about an offender’s victim preference and precautions should be taken regardless of his crime of conviction.

It helps the victim to talk about the abuse.   

True. The victim’s recovery will be enhanced if she or he feels believed, supported, protected, and receives counseling following the disclosure that s/he was assaulted. However, sexual assault victims should always have the choice about when, with whom, and under what conditions they wish to discuss their experiences.

Sexual gratification is often not a primary motivation for a rape offender.   

True. While some offenders do seek sexual gratification from the act, sexual gratification is often not a primary motivation for a rape offender. Power, control, and anger are more likely to be the primary motivators

Offenders could stop their sexually violent behavior on their own if they wanted to.   

False. Wanting to change is usually not enough to be able to change the patterns that lead to sexual offenses. To create the motivation to change, some offenders need a variety of treatment and corrective interventions, and for others learning how to make the change in their own behavioral cycle of abuse is more effective.

Men who rape do so because they cannot find a consenting sexual partner.  

False. Studies suggest that most rape offenders are married or in consenting relationships.

Drugs and alcohol cause sexual offenses to occur.   

False. While drugs and alcohol are often involved in sexual assaults, drugs and alcohol do not cause sexual offenses to occur. Rather, drug and alcohol use may be a disinhibitor for the offender, while being under the influence may increase a potential victim’s vulnerability.

Victims of sexual assault often share some blame for the assault.   

False. Adult and child victims of sexual abuse are never to blame for the assault, regardless of their behavior. Because of the age difference, children are unable to legally consent to sexual acts. They are often made to feel like willing participants, which further contributes to their shame and guilt.

If a victim does not say “no” or does not “fight back,” it is not sexual assault.  

False. Sexual assault victims may not say “no” or not fight back for a variety of reasons including fear and confusion. Rape victims often report being “frozen” by fear during the assault, making them unable to fight back; other victims may not actively resist for fear of angering the assailant and causing him to use more force in the assault. Pressure to be liked and not be talked about negatively by a peer will sometimes cause adolescents or children to avoid fighting back or actively resisting.

It is time for people to stand up for those that can’t do it for themselves. Why can adults hide behind contracts and say I couldn’t call the police my contract said so? Bull shit!!! When you take on a job working with kids you are morally obligated to protect them.

The government needs to step in and now stay you will be legally obligated as well. Doctors, Teachers, Social workers, Therapists and more are… So should boy and girl scout leaders, sports coaches, foster parents, tutors …anyone that has access to children..

We trust them..they have full access to our children…..They should also be legally obligated to protect them….If they know they are being abused they are just as bad as the abuser…..

They are adult BULLIES…They are Bullying our children..It has got to stop!!          Hold them accountable!!!!!!

Be these days the boys are being used and abused by the men that parents trust the most.

Parents need to pay attention when the kids dont want to go to school. practice, church…dont want to be alone with a man…start paying CLOSE attention…. ask questions….dont assume that person YOU trust…is the best person for your child.

Please watch for the signs….If your usually loveable loud happy child is quiet, sad, crying or angry…..ask questions…take them to a counselor…Do not stop asking questions….Find out why he has changed

If you love someone, you make time for them and they make time for you. You feel it and they do. When one of you is hurting, sad, happy, excited or whatever the mood when you are in sync you will know without a single word being said.

This applies to your children as well. When my daughter walks in I can tell when something is on her mind without a word being said. I don’t ignore it. I ask and make time to listen. I let her know she is important to me. You can’t ask someone how their day was then walk away, answer the phone, watch television or start cooking. You have to make time to listen if you ask the question.

Many times people can talk and talk about themselves, but don’t make the time to listen to others. You are no more important than the person listening. Always be observant of those you say you love. If they are unusually quiet, isolated, withdrawn or angry talk to them. Don’t lecture but get them to talk. Listen to what they have to say. You don’t always have to give advice, sometimes all a person needs is someone to listen.

Sometimes all they need is someone to hold them and show they care. Never be to busy for those you claim to love. When my phone rings and my loved ones are talking to me, I let it ring. The television show can wait, the dinner can simmer….when someone you love needs you…and you say you love them…SHOW IT

Saying it all day, all week all year long doesn’t mean a thing …If you aren’t there when it really counts

Know and teach your child the signs of a wrongful touch

Signs of Wrongfull Touch

There are thousands of children’s innocents being violated everyday. The majority of the children that are being wrongfully touched are being wrongfully touched right at home by a family member or a friend of the families. Alot of family members don’t know the signs of misconduct or they overlook the acts of a child thats being wrongfully touched, so in my article through my own experiences of being a child that was wrongfully touched by a family member I hope what I went through will shed a little light on what to look out for:

1.) A child that cry’s continously when you drop them off at a sitters, family members, day care, etc. or cries when you leave them at home with a person and they never use to cry in the past.

2.) When your child tells you that there’s monster in the closet or coming out of a vent and they just can’t sleep because they were told this from the one who is wrongfully touching them.

3.) your child suddenly at night is taking off there clothes and your finding them with no clothes on in the morning.

4.) When your child is suddenly wetting the bed for no apparent reason and they never done that in the past.

5.) If your child is being violated at home your child suddenly is by your side at all times and doesn’t want to leave your side or suddenly they want to start sleeping in your bed with you.

6.) A sign that I noticed is when you ask your child if someone’s doing things to them and they have the look of fear in there eye’s and there very quiet because the one that’s violating them is in the room with both of you when asked.

7.) A dramatic drop in school grades at school and suddenly your getting notices home with your child that there not listening and doing there work during class time.

8.) If your child is female your child will suddenly complain of her private areabeing sore when she uses the restroom or her private area is red routinely even though she was tested for an infection. If male they”ll also complain of there private area hurting as well.

9.) You’ll also notice your child not listening to what there told to do, they have behavioral out breaks and develope an hate attitude towards everything.

10.) You also notice out of no where your child will start calling themselves stupid and they”ll start hitting themselves in the head.

11.) When you child is telling you or someone to touch there private area and giving the private areas nicknames.

12.) When your child is constantly changing there underwear because they feel dirty in that area.

These are a few things that I have experienced and have seen happen with children that have been violated. If you feel your child is being violated don’t be afraid to ask them but do it in a room where no one else is around, reassure your child that it’s ok to tell you and that you wouldn’t get mad and that it’s not there fault, also reassure that if someone told them that they would hurt you or them that is’t not going to happen that it’s all lies, If that’s one thing a violator does is they put fear into children that if they tell that they’ll hurt them or a family member. If your child say’s it’s a family memeber don’t doubt them by thinking no that couldn’t be because I’m sorry to tell you YES it can be and it probably is cause most of the time it happens with in the family. I hope these things that I listed are an eye opener because many people don’t know what to look for or understand why there’s a change in there childs’ behavior and maybe you need to ask yourself if this could be happening to your child.

Be informed. You can check your area. Know who your children are around. 

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 In California you cn research your area here as well http://www.meganslaw.ca.gov/disclaimer.aspx?lang=ENGLISH

A number of factors have allowed trafficking and child sexual exploitation to flourish. Among many reasons, the common ones  include  widespread poverty; inequitable socio-economic and political structures resulting from the caste system and enormous  economic imbalance; risk faced by female headed households; lack of guidance and awareness on human trafficking and forced prostitution; gender discrimination that views women as less important than men and saleable commodities; demand that is maintained by a social and cultural acceptance of prostitution stemming from a patriarchal and caste-based society.

THE NEED FACTOR THAT ENSURES THE PROFITABILITY OF THE SEXUAL EXPLOITATION OF A GIRL IS OFTEN OVERLOOKED OR disregarded AWAY AS BEING AN INEVITABLE PART OF MANKIND, EXISTING SINCE THE BEGINNING OF TIME TO MEET the needs of a man.  WHETHER MEN (or sometimes even WOMEN) TURN A BLIND EYE TO THE CIRCUMSTANCES WITHIN WHICH GIRLS ARE KIDNAPPED, SOLD AND BROUGHT, THEN ENSLAVED AND SUBJECTED TO FORCIBLY IMPOSED RAPE IS UNCERTAIN DUE TO A LACK OF RESEARCH AND KNOWLEDGE ON THE CUSTOMERS.  TRADITIONALLY FROM A LEGAL PERSPECTIVE IT HAS NOT BEEN POSSIBLE TO SUCCESSFULLY CHARGE AND PROSECUTE A Consumer or a customer ( a word I hate to write here)
IN CASES OF FORCED PROSTITUTION, IT IS HARD TO PROSECUTE A CUSTOMER WHO KNOWINGLY ENGAGES IN COMMERCIAL SEXUAL EXPLOITATION UNDER THE CURRENT LEGISLATIVE structure especially in Asian courts. EVEN IN CASES WHERE A WOMAN OR GIRL IS RESCUED OFTEN THE VICTIM woman or a girl (OTHERWISE THE PROSTITUTE) IS ALSO CHARGED ALONG WITH THE BROTHEL-KEEPER AND/OR A CUSTOMER.

 In countries such as China, Thailand, Burma or India it is impossible to get accurate statistics. None of the police forces across the various states have any means of assembling their separate databases of information and even where they have those, the details are sparse and often inaccurate. A girl disappearing is a parental problem and a minor one at that. She’ll turn up or she won’t turn up. Going to lodge a police case is a not a good idea with many families. Nothing we can do to help. Sometimes the girls rescued would not like to return home because of the taunt and humiliation back home.

Blondie children are a very valuable commodity in places like North Africa. It’s the obvious conclusion to come to, not some far-fetched flight of fancy” says an unguarded second in line trafficker Karim Baig. On many an occasion a rich Saudi or Kuwaiti or other Arab couple takes along one or two of their house slaves notably girls with them to their mansions in maybe London or New York or in Dubai. There are cultural differences that admittedly affect the perception of when sex work is “acceptable”. There are shades of grey based on age, culture, religion, and conditions of service. At one extreme, there are girls of all ages from tolerant cultures (such as Buddhist) that willingly participate in sex work. At the other extreme, there are girls from intolerant cultures, (i.e. Muslim and Hindu girls) who enter the sex trade involuntarily and who have very little chance to easily re assimilate if they are given their due freedom. One must also conclude that there are no winners, and forced sexual servitude is not an occupation of choice.  Under the circumstances I would request all the readers to stand up against such forced kidnapping of girls by one single voice. Lets recoil and pause- to ponder, by dedicating a day of year 2011 to such unfortunate girls. Lets therefore dedicate 13th January every year as the day of “Save the girl from getting kidnapped or abducted.” You have to only give one day to save the girl into prostitution. I am sure everyone can do it. Let’s all do it.

Michaels father, Joe Jackson was the driving force behind his sons early fame and success. Himself, a a wannabe famous musician, it is likely he was living his dream through his children. Reportedly he made his children practice constantly. Eventually pushing five, including Michael, of the nine children to form “The Jackson 5”.

When they were not in school, they were practicing, when they were not practicing, they were playing music in bars and strip clubs. In an interview with Oprah Winfrey in 1993, Michael opened up and spoke about physical and mental abuse that took place at the hands of his father. He spoke of never having what would be considered as a “childhood”.

Could it be that the missing out of a childhood, the ability to act as a child, is at the root of any later problems Michael may have had?

Photo by Alan Light http://www.flickr.com/photos/alan-light/210431823/

Not only did Michael build a park most children could only dream of, Neverland Ranch, but he surrounded himself mostly with children. He even spoke openly to the fact it thought it was normal, and healthy, to share his bed with children. Although he denied there was anything sexual about it, others saw this as a sexual act and Michael was eventually accused of molesting boys. In court he was found innocent in a 2003 court case. An earlier civil case was settled when Michael made a payment to the family of his accuser.

Photo source http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:NeverlandRides.jpg 

Did Michael really molest young children? Without photographic evidence the world will never truly know. However, if it did happen, it could have easily been the result of a grown man, in a child’s body, trying desperately to to recapture a lost innocence.

Michael Jackson has often said the song that is the most biographical is his song “Childhood”.

Perhaps these lines from the song tell it all:

“…Before you judge me, try hard to love me,

Look within your heart then ask,

Have you seen my childhood?

People say I’m strange that way,

‘Cause I love such elementary things,

It’s been my fate to compensate,

for the childhood I’ve never known…”

(excerpt from Michael Jacksons song, Childhood)

Photosource http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Michael_Jackson2_2006.jpg

Without a doubt the world lost a talented musician on June 25, 2009, Michael lost his childhood years earlier, and certainly a lost childhood is never a good thing.