That quarrels get out of hand occurs when one assumes the other is incorrect. This may cause an exaggeration of a misunderstanding and it often occurs when one has not heard clearly what the other has said or shuts out details. This comes through when reading Andre Gides quote on arguments: ” Most quarrels amplify a misunderstandng”. In other words there is little in the way of a solution to the cause of the arguement in his opinion.

Oscar Wilde referred to arguments as something to be avoided because they often tend to “vulgarities that are often convincing.” If one wants to keep a friendship and avoid having the friend convinced of a falsehood that could be created through a heated discussion than it would be better to drop the disagreement according to this statement.

Donald Rumsfield stated that arguments of convenience lead to a backfire. They “lack integrity and eventually trip you up”, he said in that statement. When his reasons of continued war in Iraq were disapproved, one might think that he had to follow his own advise. One can think of statements refrring to weapons of mass destruction when for the most part there was very little beside some buried fighter aircraft.

John Deacon the instrumentalist stated that arguments “help to clear the air” which sounds positive in that one would be able to iron out differences by being able to understand why the other person was in argument with you.

Thomas Mann another great author wrote that if one has greater love than one only leaves himself to greater suffering. In effect if one cannot reason that love sometimes hits us like a stroke of magic, that it is ethereal and hardly exists the same way as one matures, that one leaves himself open to be being hurt. This often translates into suffering.

Woody allen has thought that love causes the tension that sex relieves when he said “Sex alleviates tension. Love causes it. ” In his movies like “Manhattan” and “Hanna and her Sisters”, one may se how tensions mounted between couples as they fell in love or struggled to keep the love alive and that tension broke when they made love. Love making and love are of course to be considered related but it is common knowledge that the former may not have the latter as a precident.

1. I’m not young enough to know everything.

2. America is the only country that went from barbarism to decadence without civilization in between.

3. Always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much.

4. Scandal is gossip made tedious by morality.

5. What is a cynic? A man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.

6. Work is the curse of drinking classes.

7. Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes.

8. To disagree with three-fourths of the British public is one of the first requisites of sanity.

9. It is a very sad thing that nowadays there is so little useless information.

10. The true mystery of the world is the visible, not the invisible.

No one better epitomizes absolute selflessness than Mother Teresa. She was probably the greatest of all givers. It would be unreasonable to expect the common man to do what she did. Spending one’s whole life being devoted to the well-being of others is impossible for most. The sad thing about today’s dog-eat-dog world, however, is that most people do not even consider reaching out to the poor or providing a helping hand for the needy. Charles Dickens’s repugnant character – Ebenezer Scrooge – has materialized in all of us and unlike him, we do not have the help of the supernatural.

Sure, you’re busy. Aren’t we all? But can you not spare a tiny fraction of your life volunteering at a homeless shelter or an orphanage? Almost everyone would rather prefer eating Doritos and watching re-runs of Two-And-A-Half-Men. But where has the innate, human quality of compassion and caring gone?

Where were you when this baby needed your help? 

Too busy, apparently.

In  Oscar Wilde’s short story – The Model Millionare,  Hughie Erskin, a “delightful, ineffectual young man with a perfect profile and no profession”, feels pity for a supposed beggar and gives him a sovereign, reasoning that the beggar wanted it more than he did.

Here’s an excerpt from the story:

“The old beggar-man …..  looked so forlorn and wretched that Hughie could not help pitying him, and felt in his pockets to see what money he had. All he could find was a sovereign and some coppers. ‘Poor old fellow,’ he thought to himself, ‘he wants it more than I do, but it means no hansoms for a fortnight;’ and he walked across the studio and slipped the sovereign into the beggar’s hand.

     The old man started, and a faint smile flitted across his withered lips. ‘Thank you, sir,’ he said, ‘thank you.’ “

To his utter surprise, Hughie discovers later that the “beggar” is actually Baron Hausberg. Hughie’s act of kindness does not go unrewarded as the Baron later gifts him with 10,000 pounds:

“  ‘The Baron,’ said the old gentleman, with a smile, ‘has commissioned me to bring you this letter;’ and he extended a sealed envelope.

     On the outside was written, ‘A wedding present to Hugh Erskine and Laura Merton, from an old beggar,’  and inside was a cheque for £10,000.  “

Kindness is a two way street. When we give, not only do we help others, but we also help ourselves. I have often felt a strange surge of happiness and warmth spread through my body when I’ve offered a helping hand to a person in need. The human “helping” gene has been wired into us; all we need to do is unleash its potential.  I, for one, revere those who choose to spend their lives trying to help others, but I, like many others, do not have the determination nor the will to do so. Yet, I hope that one day, we live in a community which is bound by love and compassion, sharing and good-will.

And I hope that one day, we all find, as Mary Angelou did, that “… among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver.

Peace.

One can say that there are so many fixations types of men.Most often, they look certain physical criteria: brunette, wearing skirts, shaved, has braces … 

For example, Michael is only attracted to women with pale eyes, “Green, specifically. I did not ever love a woman who does not have eyes see.”Future dads, he hopes his daughter will inherit the mother’s eyes: “If you have green eyes, will have a major advantage over other girls.” 

…but not at any price! 

Some men see in these simple criteria fetishism, others can not imagine life without a woman that meets these criteria.”My girlfriend is blonde, she knows that if I could paint leave a brunette!’s Something above me, I could still love her if she brunette,” Luke says frankly. 

But there are still men who go over the criteria to individuals who dream of when they were little if they can see a completely different woman a strong personality or different from others. 

So here are a cause for encouragement: even if you do not fit the criteria of a man with a fixation, all is not lost! 

Where do these obsessions? 

As usual, all rooted in childhood, often arising from the relationship with the mother. 

Adam, a man attracted to women with glasses, said it is his hair they look fragile.”We men, we always tend to protect what is fragile. I love to feel indispensable,” he said ironically.So a little superiority complex? 

Some men simply an addiction, how some people are addicted to chocolate and shopping, so you can be addicted and red or blond women.It is an emptiness that can not be filled only by meeting this expectation. 

Tips for people with erotic fixations 

Not only men but women such fixations.There are some women who do not accept in any way a man who knows how to dance or has blue eyes. 

Professional advice for all those experiencing this “problem” is to fulfill the fantasy. 

Fantasies are indicators of self and to know you better and to progress, we must put them into practice.So, to get rid of a fixation, it is best to turn into reality. 

Some obsessions are downright unhealthy, make you miss many good things and the only way to get rid of them is to confront it.It’s best to follow the philosophy of Oscar Wilde, who said: “The best way to resist a temptation is to yield to them.”

As for outfits that are even walk and shown on the catwalks, worn by the most popular models, we can say that designers are more inspired in their implementation. Occur every day new models for which will always be difficult people to be “in step with fashion . “

dress the food, the collection Hunger Pains

Tone designs, materials and colors used are changing from season to season. Not know what is in vogue, and besides that, stay in front of costume mask or monumental, or they can not see them, considering them excessive, unusual.

Many are not interested in trends, fashion, wear what they like, they think it looks good and the clothes you feel good. But an eye for fashion to admire or criticize her voice, is everyone. Fashion you to dress and style, everybody can make it fashionable.

Fashion is a form of ugliness we have to change it every 6 months. Oscar Wilde

Outfit of bananas and wafe

Fashion is, ultimately, an art because it combines tradition with innovation, outfits classic and modern, which have in the past and clothes that we want to go. Influence is everywhere, and designers can always be put to the test on around or in the lives of everyday people, be inspired to the most current trends.

dress Bakery

With imagination in motion, outfits can be made ​​of anything. As Lady Gaga appeared in public in a dress of flesh,made ​​by designer Franc Fernandez, in a style quite artistic and innovative, some designers have realized t of food held in a very interesting, but more pleasant sight.

suit made of pasta products

In a series called “Hunger Pains”, a team of 15 designers who were led by Ami Goodheart from Soto Productions have created costumes expensive, made ​​entirely of food true. Foods were chosen according to the desires of the people involved in this project. Lasted for hours until every item fashion be … cooking, made ​​and assembled.

Dress artichoke is the creation of designer Daniel Feld and Wesley Nault from Project Runway. It took six hours to be completed, and the model was there all the time, while they attached the leaves turn. Art also requires – in addition to daily work, talent and creativity – a strong dose of patience and discipline.

Photographs were taken by Ted Sabarese .

The theme of pleasure in The Importance Of Being Earnest, written by Oscar Wilde, is explored and developed in many ways throughout the play. It takes many different aspects, such as physical pleasure and pleasure upon the misery or dislike of others. Oscar Wilde himself intended to make this in play in order to criticize the Victorian society of his time and succeeded so well that his society did not remark the deeper meaning of the play. We can take from this that the theme of pleasure is developed through a satiric view and takes multiple sides for the actors’ personal pleasures.

Pleasure is spread out all throughout the play with a first aspect of physical pleasure. The play starts out with Algernon’s pleasures of having the police after him due to his debts in a sort of cat and mouse game. The police makes him take his mind off his everyday boring matters in the city. The physical pleasure is satisfied by different means through each different character, for example, compared to Algernon who likes some adventure in his life for fun, Jack, or Ernest, just gets his pleasure from talking and flirting with Gwendolen along with blackmailing Algernon when he arrives at Jack’s country house to meet Cecily. The physical pleasure is therefore very variable from character to character and let’s us understand that each character is complex and unique. Physical pleasure for Gwendolen is similar to Ernest’s, in the way that she gets satisfaction from flirting with him. As the movie suggests when Gwendolen says “I intend to develop in many directions” she gives Jack a smile, suggesting a flirt and therefore an ambiguous meaning. This smile and phrase satisfy Gwendolen to let Jack know that she intends to develop for him.

As the first couple’s physical pleasure is unveiled, we can see a rather sharp contrast with the pleasure of Cecily with Algernon. Cecily finds her pleasure through writing in her diary and daydreaming about a knight coming to rescue her. These fantasies lead on as she meets Algernon, having then shared fantasies with him as the knight and the princess. The third couple’s pleasure is very awkward as this is Miss Prism along with Dr. Chasuble who apparently are much shier than the other characters. They do not show their emotions and leave their intentions hidden. “My metaphor was drawn from… bees” is just one of the many excuses used by Canon Chasuble to escape from the real meaning of his previous sentence. Therefore we can see that their physical pleasure is only revealed at the end of the play publicly as Miss Prism runs into his arms. Physical pleasure is almost absent in this couple’s relationship as the only encounters they have that make them happy is when either Dr. Chasuble or Miss Prism is waiting for the other in the vestry. This pleasure takes place for a small note by Oscar Wilde to criticize the Victorian Society and mainly the clergy for showing that a reverend and a woman would meet together in the vestry of the reverend’s church.

At last, we can see that physical pleasure is different for each character in the play and is shared with their loved ones in various manners as well. The theme of pleasure is here useful to better understand the characters, their personality, to see how they react to the emotions of love and how each of them uses their own methods to seduce the other.

As we have seen that physical pleasure helps to understand the personality of the characters, pleasure is also seen at the expense of an other’s misery. One of the first and most obvious examples for this is when Jack returns to his country house to announce that his brother is dead when actually Algernon replaced his brother to meet Cecily. Jack therefore tries to get rid of him with the coming of the debt collectors. This smile and satisfaction from Jack is purely at the expense Algernon’s misery as he has to leave Cecily. The pleasure is therefore the annoying of an other character to achieve his own goals. The same accounts for the meeting of Cecily with Gwendolen. As their conversation unfolds, Cecily shows how she is not as innocent and vain as we expected as she gives exactly what Gwendolen does not want to eat or drink. Pleasure here is very sadistic and is used in the decision of preventing love or getting “the prior claim” over a certain person, in Cecily and Gwendolen’s case being Ernest.

The play is completely twisted around the name “Ernest” and the irony in “the importance of being earnest”. Pleasure is also felt in the audience’s mind as they can see all the irony created by the author to show how being earnest is exactly what all the characters do not do. The whole concept of pleasure in the play is hereby satirical to criticize Victorian society of Oscar Wilde’s time.

We can conclude from this that the theme of pleasure is very complex and explored in all possible directions throughout the play. The pleasure of characters and their text puts the comedy right in heart of the play. We can see that, as we dig deeper, the satire in the title of the play and the main name that creates the plot of the play is “Ernest”. As pleasure is explored in the play, there could exist a whole different dimension of analyzing by including the context of the play.

2)      Wilde, it may be stated, received a very good education.  He was schooled at:  Trinity College, Dublin and Magdalen College, University of Oxford.

3)      As many are aware, his literary achievements were spread across a number of genres inclusive of a) the story or tale; b) poetic works; c) the novel; and d) drama.  Wilde is considered most successful with regard to his composition of drama.

4)      As a child, Oscar Wilde was greatly influenced while visiting his mother’s salon in Dublin and hearing all of the literary chatter of the day.

5)      Wilde was quite colorful as a youthful adult and student at Oxford.  He was tremendously successful in his composition(s) of poetic works and the classics.  It may be said Wilde possessed an eclectic and interesting lifestyle.  During the era, Wilde wore his hair long and his breeches at knee level.  He ascribed to a cult which was in-line with his thinking: “Art for Art’s Sake.”   Further, the room where he resided was full of many unique, artsy objects.  In example, displayed within the author’s room were items such as a) stylized blue china; b) fashionable peacock feathers, and c) colorful and bright sunflowers.  Wilde’s expressionistic, eccentric behaviors were mocked (endearingly) by some; however also won him a loyal following with others.

6)      Wilde’s mannerism were ridiculed within the magazine (comical in theme) titled “Punch”.  He was a figure of satire within the comedic opera (by composers Gilbert and Sullivan) known as “Patience” (Date is:  1881).  Regardless, and as somewhat stated, the witticism and genius of the author earned him many fans. 

The publication dates of some of Wilde’s works are as follows as well as a chronology of his life’s events:

·          His first published collection of poetry was simply entitled “Poems” (1881).

·         Wilde’s first play “The Nihilists” also known as “Vera” was produced in New York City in 1882.  After this was accomplished Wilde engaged in a rather extravagant lifestyle.  He did so after leaving the states to reside in England.

·         He established himself within the city of London; and in 1884 married a woman from a very prosperous Irish family.  The Wilde’s had two sons.  It was afterwards, he decided to make a commitment to writing full-time.

·         True to Wilde’s excessive form of living; during the high-point of the author’s career (1895) he became the primary person in one of the most sensationalized trials or court cases of the century.  The results were not good; and brought scandal to the middle class of Victorian England.  Wilde was convicted on a “morals charge” and sentenced to two years of hard time.  After Wilde’s stint in prison; he came out of it bankrupt and dispirited.   

·         Wilde spent the remainder of his life writing under the ghost name Sebastian Melmoth.  He resided in Paris, France until his passing.

·         Wilde’s fictional works, during his early ears include the following: a) The Happy Prince and Other Tales (1888) – Fairy Tales; House of Pomegranates (1892); Lord Arthur Savile’s Crime (1891); and The Picture of Dorian Gray (a novel) 1891.

·         Wilde’s dramatic works include (among others): The Duchess of Padua (1891) produced in New York City; Lady Windermere’s Fan (1892); A Woman of No Importance (1893); An Ideal Husband (1895) and The Importance of Being Ernest (1895).

Here some facts most all “experts” on Ireland would agree on being strange but true!

1.    Ireland is the only country in the world where windmills turn clockwise; instead of counter clockwise, as the wind churns their blades.

2.    St. Patrick, the patron saint of Ireland wasn’t Irish. He was a Roman Priest who tried to convert the Celtic folk to the ways of Christianity.

3.    One of Ireland’s traditional musical instruments is called the bodhran. The bodhran is a goat-skin drum used in many dance jigs and step dancing. It is seen  as the primary rhythm instrument in most Celtic dances.

4.    The original Guinness Brewery in Dublin has a 9,000 year lease.

5.    The “Oscar” statuette given to winners at the Academy Awards was designed by an Irishman named Cedric Gibbons, who was born in Dublin in 1823.

6.    There is an old Irish legend that says a ringing in your ears means “a deceased friend stuck in Purgatory is ringing a bell to ask for you to pray for him/her”.

7.    Montgomery Street in Dublin was once considered the largest red light district in all of Europe, with over 1600 prostitutes practicing their trade.

8.    The Irish Saint Brendan is said to have discovered America 1,000 years before Columbus.

9.    There was a time when pigs were allowed to live in the house with the family on an Irish farms. This pig traditional was commonly called “the gentleman who pays the rent.”

10. The infamous Oscar Wilde was born Oscar Fingal O’Flahertie Wills Wilde in Dublin in 1854.

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11. Most people do not know that Bram Stoker was working as a “civil servant” in Dublin when he wrote “Dracula” in 1897.

12. It was once popular in Ireland to put shamrocks on your coat on Saint Patrick’s Day in remembrance of his using shamrock leaves to illustrate the idea of the Holy Trinity.

13. The national symbol of Ireland is the Celtic harp, not the shamrock. Ireland is supposedly the only country in the world with a musical instrument as its national symbol.

14. Ireland boasts one of history’s famous female pirates Grace O’Malley. She was known as the “Queen of the Pirates,” and it is written she commanded a ship with a crew of over 200 men off the west coast of Ireland during the 1500’s.

15. According to Irish tradition, it is said: a wedding party should always take the longest road home from church.

16. Muhammad Ali has some Irish heritage. His great grandfather was born in Ennis, County Clare.

17. President Barack Obama’s maternal great, great, great grandfather Fulmuth Kearney came from Moneygall, in County Offaly.

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18. Ireland has one of the highest church attendance rates in the Western World (over 40%+ of proclaimed Christians attend church on Sunday).

19. Genealogists estimate over 40 million Americans have some Irish blood in their veins.

20. Legends states, St. Patrick banished all snakes from Ireland. It’s true no snakes exist on the island today, but there have never been any snakes in Ireland.

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Antisthenes was a student of Socrates who set up a philosophical shop in a gymnasium outside Athens. In which, he preached the primacy of virtue and the worthlessness of material things. Antisthenes claimed that happiness had nothing to do with pleasure but everything to do with the freedom from desires and purity of the soul. Most Athenians thought that the ‘pupils’ of Antisthenes, including Diogenes, were self-righteous and self-satisfied. Most Athenians would call the ‘pupils’ ‘cynics’.

The word cynic, as the Athenians used, was derived from the name of the gymnasium Antisthenes taught from. It was called ‘Cynosarges’, which isn’t a million miles away from th Greek word for ‘dog-like’: cynikos. The nickname ‘cynic’ then helped convey the contempt the Athenians held towards the gymnasium.

Diogenes himself once made a sardonic comment on the nickname when he said:

“I fawn on thoe who give me anything,I yelp at those who refuse, and I set my teeth in rascals.”

It wasn’t until the 16th century that the word ‘cynic’ and ‘cynical’ became used in the English language. Robert Greene, in his 1588 romantic work Pandosto, said: “Canst thou not love? Cometh this cynical passion of prone desires, or peevish frowardness?”

Perhaps it was the haughtiness or contempt of comfort that was soon associated with a sneering attitude towards humanity that has made the word ‘cynic’ mean what it means now to what it meant in ancient Greek. Oscar Wilde’s quote showed a meaning of cynic that was ‘disposed to devalue people’s motives’. A sentiment that was shared in The Egoist, an 1879 work by George Meredith.

“Cynics are only happy in making the world as barren to others as they have made it for themselves.”

George Meredith may well have been on to something there, but, ironically, his statement on cynics is rather cynical itself!