There are various other fears as well which can lead to various complications in life. It is better for you to get rid of them because if they are consistently going on in your life then these fears can become even worse for you. You should look to get proper rid of them and one of the best ways to do it so is with calmness. If you are cool and calm then there will be just no issues for you in overcoming fear. Emotions are also involved in it and one have to ensure that his emotions are also well balanced and in the control as well so that there will be no complications with respect to fears.

There are many people all around the world who believe that fears can be really hard to overcome and this is silly to do something stupid while overcoming fear. This concept is wrong because there is nothing to worry about silly improvisations while you are going to overcome your fears as they can surely be controlled with ease. Relaxation is the basic requirement of overcoming fear and if you are able to get proper relaxation with any method or mean then there will be just no issues for you to get rid of the fear. Controlling your emotions and ability to stay cool and calm are included in it.

There are many ways and methods which are available to attain proper control on your emotions and you can even stay clam in complicated or tougher situations. Once you are able to learn the art of staying calm and relaxed then there will be ease for you in overcoming fear. All you have to do is to just ensure that you are not willing to waste your time in doing some silly stuff in order to overcome your fear because easier methods of mind and thoughts controlling are available. There will be just great results for you with these methods and you will feel a massive change all around you. There are various unique states of mind where you can get proper relaxation with ease.   

Learn the ways of overcoming fear and improvise such tasks in life which were beyond your expectations.

It is futile to learn how to be more courageous if we do not understand the true nature of courage.

There’s no doubt that fear is a concomitant feature to discuss whenever we talk about courage. But this does not necessarily mean that fear and courage are directly antithetical to each other. Confused? Let’s take death for an example.

There is a famous quotation that says “the fear of death is more dreaded than death itself”. If fear is truly antithetical to death, it would paradoxically mean that those who fear death have no courage to live.

If you get the point, you will realize that courage is not the absence of fear. In fact, there is an old saying that says those who cannot fear cannot love. The logic is simple. Everyone is fearful of losing what they love, which includes life itself. If you love your life, you fear of losing it. Yet at the same time, choosing to live regardless of your circumstances is courageous. Overcoming your fear is not about eliminating it, but choosing to look at a situation positively. You can be fearful of death, yet at the same time, be courageous to face any upcoming danger.

Here are 3 simple steps to learn how to become more courageous:

1.       Acknowledge your fear. More often than not, you are more afraid of something whenever you try to tell yourself not to be afraid. That is because, as aforementioned, fear is a concomitant feature of love. As long as you still love a particular thing, you will not be able to eliminate that fear. For example, if you’re afraid of failing your exams, you can never get rid of the fear by just trying to eliminate it, because it will not stop you from your love and desire for good results. Hence, you need to first acknowledge that the reason why you fear your exams is because the exams are important to you.

2.       Acknowledge your love. It would be tautological, but once again, fear is inherent when you love something. But what we can do is to choose to acknowledge and focus on our love instead of our fear. While fear is a negative energy that pulls you down, love gives you courage. If you are afraid of your exams, don’t just acknowledge the fear, but acknowledge the love and desire for good results. Ask yourself why you want the good results. Once you have something for your mind to focus on, you will no longer succumb to fear although fear is always there.

Last but not least, always give yourself a set of goals to achieve. Why? Have you ever felt courageous for something just for a short moment only to let fear take control again? That is because we lack something for our minds to focus on in order to remind ourselves of the love for something. Apart from long term goals, short term goals are much easier to keep ourselves positive. For example, if you are afraid of job interviews, instead of your long term goals such as to be rich, which is too abstract to focus on, try giving yourself some short term goals. Tell yourself what you want to tell the interviewer, how long you want the interview to be so that he gets enough information from you to know you are capable, or even try setting yourself simple goals like smiling all the time. With that, while you will always fear of not getting the job, your courageous side will prevail.

Fear is a kind of feeling which we get when we are confronted with a threat. Fear is always in the future or past, anticipating or remembering unpleasant. Besides indicating a threat or loss, fear can be a signal of an unmet need. The nature of that need, too, must be recognized before you can respond appropriately. Fear is a natural part of our life. We usually experience fear when we are frustrated, when our self-esteem is threatened, or when we feel pressure to perform beyond our perceived capability. Healthy fear is very useful for our lives, at the same time unhealthy fear can ruin it. Fear can act as protective or destructive force for our lives. Fear can help us avoid dangerous situations, triggering the fight or flight response when we feel threatened. Fear can become a serious obstacle in our lives. When you live your life in the mindset of fear, you see fear in almost every area of your life. Fear, if it is transformed to work for the best, our lives can be joyous. The following are some of the techniques to make fear work for us. 

Affirmations for peace. These are statements which are said in the present tense, several times a day. Affirmations, to be effective are to be said positively. Persistence is very required for getting good results in this method.

Staying in the present moment. One of the best and effective remedies for fear is to living in the present moment. Do not ever brood about the past or think about the future. The thing which has happened can never return back. The future is unknown. The only thing which is true is the present moment. Live this present moment to its best.

Gradually choosing better and positive thoughts. Changing the way we think can be an effective way to make fear work for us. Try to think positively in each and every task you do and be positive with people whom you meet. Negative thinking can trigger fear in us.

Doing meditation can also reduce fear in our lives. Make a peaceful place and sit calmly, close your eyes and concentrate on your breathe or some other object. This method can clear of all negatives and calm your mind.

Turning the fear into gratitude. Gratitude is a fantastic way to not only ease turbulent emotions like fear, but it can actually help you to better appreciate your life as it is right now as well as continuously keep attracting better experiences.

Feeding your mind with Inspiration and Wisdom. The more you focus on things that make you feel frightened, the more those fearful feelings will continue to grow. On the other hand, if you can distract yourself from those fearful thoughts – even for a few minutes – you will notice that you automatically start focusing in a more positive direction.

When fear is made to work for us instead of against us, our lives become more purposeful.

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All through my teenage years my depression didn’t fair any better.  I was so good at hiding my misery that my own mother had no idea how I was feeling.

A survival mechanism that I used all too often was getting into trouble.  I craved for someone to notice me, to talk me out of my sadness, so getting into lots of trouble was one way people would talk to me. As you can imagine this wasn’t in my best interest and after getting caught for many stupid mistakes didn’t allow me to discuss my issues at all, but rather I’d get grounded or put in ‘solitary confinement’ which actually made me feel even more depressed.  Spending time alone just gave me more time to think my way into an ever deeper depressed frame of mind.

By the time I got pregnant with my first child I had a very poor self image and extremely low self esteem.  My baby made me hopeful though, I was convinced that this person would love me no matter what, and that would some how cure me of my dis-ease.

After giving birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl, my dreams of being a happier person were soon dissolved.  Depression had hit me harder then ever, but now I could not run and hide.  I had the responsibility of a new life in my hands and could not, would not let her suffer like I had.

You probably can guess what I did.  I buried my insecurities even deeper.  I completely ignored any and all of my own needs to be sure my child was happy.  There were times I thought I would completely loose my sanity and contemplated suicide on more then one occasion.  The only reason why I decided not to take my own life was the fact that my child would end up suffering because of my actions, and my child’s unhappiness was not an option.

I continued to pull myself out of bed each day and stick on my fake happy face. No one could see how ugly I was inside for fear I would be completely alone with no friends what so ever.  I would fall out of love with people just as fast as I had fallen in love with them, which left me feeling even lonelier.  I was pushing 30, a single mother and no hope of feeling better anytime soon. This went on for years while my heart was heavy with grief and loneliness.

Desperate for someone to love me I continually got myself into relationships with alcoholics.  I figured they were worse off then me, and thought that would make me feel better about myself.  Of course that didn’t work; it only made me feel worse knowing that I wasn’t enough to make them change their selfish ways.

When my daughter started school I decided to further my education too.  I got a lay off from my employer and went to college to earn a business degree.  Surely this would make me happy…I would get a good job and shower my child with anything she wanted. If I couldn’t be a happy person, at least I would be able to make someone else happy.

I finished my courses, got a good paying job with great benefits but the stress was too much for me to handle.  I ended up at my doctor’s office begging for her help. She gave me a prescription and an appointment with a Psychologist.  

The pills seemed to help me for a while, but I was soon dependent on them.  As for the visits with the shrink, they made me feel even worse!  She only brought to the surface the many years of pain that I had tried so hard to avoid. Even if it were a good day, I would leave her office with puffy, red eyes, sore from streams of steady salty tears.  I didn’t say much when I was there, but it was like she could see through me. She once told me that I looked like someone who was trying to hide my shame. Shame of what I didn’t know, but she was right. I felt that shame since I was a small child but had no idea why. The more I tried to answer why, the worse I felt about myself. I was just too stupid to figure it out!

Looking from the outside in nobody had a clue of my deep depression until after I found myself in and out of just one more dreadful relationship and pregnant once again. I didn’t want anymore children to be responsible for.  I had to pull of the miracle of providing my daughter with a fun filled life, how the heck would I be able to handle any more? 

Of course there are choices when it comes to unplanned pregnancies; there is adoption, abortion, leaving the baby on the stoop of a nice family or church, letting family raise the baby; but I decided to keep it.  I had a certain amount of faith that God wouldn’t give me anything I couldn’t handle, I made this mess and I was just going to have to deal with it.  The thoughts of abortion would make me cringe…taking a life?!  I knew this would only add to my depression and guilt for the rest of my life.  I made this baby out of what I considered to be love at the time, so my mind was made up.

Then came the clincher.  I was going to have twins! Oh My God!  Maybe I was wrong. Maybe God just plain forgot about me and didn’t see all those years of suffering I went through.  He must realize this would kill me! It must be a mistake. What will I do and where will we end up? 

I moved back in my mother and was thankful everyday for having her in my life. I wasn’t completely alone and if it weren’t for her, things would have been so much worse.

Times were hard and all the gifts that had once showered my only daughter were becoming distant memories as I had a hard enough time just to keep food in her belly.

My depression grew stronger, I started to drink too much, and worst of all I started having thoughts of hurting my babies.  The thought of ending it all was an urge I had to fight off daily. 

The stress was much too hard to keep hidden any longer. I could find no reason for life, it was meaningless to me.  I completely lost all hope and one night after drinking a little too much wine I talked openly about suicide to my mother. The littlest things would make me cry and I felt I would never be happy, so what was the sense of living.

They say the darkest part of the day is just before the dawn and I agree 110%. Telling someone for the first time how I really felt was my darkest day, but talking about it created space inside me where the Light was finally able to shine through.

Things started happening to me and in my life that lit the way.  I started reading self-help books and learned about Spirituality.  My best friend at the time introduced me to Kabbalah and the rest you can say is history.

Each day was a bit better then the last, there was hope after all and I was finding answers to the many questions I had like why are we here, where do we come from, where do we go when we die, and what Gods master plan really is. It started to make sense and connecting to my soul helped me finally feel love in the purest way.

Prescription medication for depression is a thing of the past for me because of many reasons, but the first thing you have to do to begin digging yourself out of the darkness is to Love Yourself.  You must put yourself first or you will have nothing to give to others no matter how hard you try.

“To thine own self be true” should be the number one Commandment, for without this, nothing can grow or flourish into what it was meant for.

Stop worrying about the ‘whys’ in your life…why me, why do I feel this way, why can’t I just get ahead…why, why, why!?  Knowing the answers may only make it worse.  Instead, just realize there is a part of you that is pure, is Love, is in fact a piece of God himself.  Begin by loving that part of you first. Know that it’s there, that its real and your love for yourself will expand. 

Don’t dwell on your mistakes, only learn from them. Don’t keep horrid memories of the past vivid in your mind – it isn’t healthy for anyone to keep those pictures alive day in and day out.  The past is over with; forget about it, the future hasn’t even happened yet so who knows what it’ll bring; worrying about it doesn’t give you power over any of it.  All you have is this moment, so start right now.

Start with feeling a tinge of love for yourself, do nice things for YOU, just as you would someone else you love. Be kind and stop the self destructive thoughts about yourself. Replace them with loving thoughts; point out to yourself the good things about you. You need to care enough to at least try.  The rest will take care of itself. Practice self Love and you will be shown the way to ever brighter days filled with more joy then you can possibly imagine.

Life isn’t about suffering or depression, it’s about abundance, Joy and Love. We need to cure this world of needless stress and worry and the first step begins within you.

You Can Do It, and you Better Believe You Are Worth It!

I am loving kind and thoughtful

I am strong and persevering

I am courageous 

I am a good friend, faithful and true

I am a good worker, conscientious and diligent

I care about people, I consider their feelings

I care for myself in a healthy way but can deny myself to meet the needs of others

I am sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of others

I can speak my opinion because I have value therefore my opinions have value

This is just a partial list. Identify the things that are affirming to you. Believe in the power of the declaration and begin using that power to transform your life. This is the time…start now….you can do it!

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FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real

Papering over the cracks isn’t a solution, the only way to get over these fears is to seek them out from where they originated and confront them head on. Scary isn’t it?  Yes it is scary, but like many things we dread doing or facing, it’s never as bad as you expect it to be. In fact did you know that 90% of all we worry about never actually comes true? Isn’t that just an outstanding fact?  If you look back at your life how many hours, days, weeks, months or even years of worrying does that add up to? How much time is wasted worrying about things that will never happen? Ok if the worst thing imaginable does happen, what do we do? We get on with things, we deal with them the best way we can. Look back at how many times you have come through a really tough situation. Use this knowledge as your armour whenever you have to face doing something scary.

Some fears are generalised, these types of people may be known as “born worriers” it’s not that they are scared of anything specific happening; they just always expect the worst to happen in any given situation.  Other people have specific fears such as; agoraphobia – a fear of open spaces or Claustrophobia – a fear of confined spaces.

Some of these fears have their roots in things that happened to us in the past, for example slipping under the bath water as an infant may manifest as a fear of water in later years. If we can trace these fears back then that is a good thing, as it grounds them so they no longer have power over us now. To confront a fear of water you could take swimming lessons from an expert used to dealing with this type of issue.

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Some fears have roots that are a little trickier to find and these may lie in our past lives. Through hypnotic regression you can be taken back to the lifetime where you will discover the root cause of your fear. This is done carefully and gently, you do not need to relive the incident but can view it from a safe a distance as you would watching a movie. This information is then integrated into your current lifetime.  

Once you see these fears as nothing more than projected memories of your past they will lose their grip on you, but only if you are willing to let them go. You may ask why anyone would choose to be in the grip of such an overwhelming negative force. There are a number of reasons for this; some people actually like the attention it brings them, it makes them feel special, they are made a fuss of. For others it’s a way of avoiding doing something, or of trying something new. You often hear someone say “oh you know I CAN’T do THAT!” because they don’t want to. Someone close to me will actually manifest illnesses to get out of doing things that she fears, rather than facing them; the last time resulting in a nasty attack of shingles. The first step in ridding yourself of fear is to really want to, more than anything else. It’s like quitting smoking; if you are not 100% committed to it you will fail over and over again. You have to do it for you, not for anyone else.

Fear hides in the shadows, when you talk about things and “bring them to the light” they lose their hold on you forever. Fear loves darkness and secrets; it shows its power by distorting the facts and clothing them in illusions.

This brings us back to;

FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real

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As discussed earlier, to be cautious is natural, it is what keeps us alive, but living in fear is not. After all you wouldn’t walk out across a busy road without looking both ways would you? You wouldn’t drive along the road with your eyes closed either. It is caution that keeps you from doing these things, however, fear wouldn’t allow you to step out of the house, or allow you to get into the car in the first place. Finding a balance between the two is the healthy way to live.

You have stood on the edge of the path and looked both ways for long enough now, the coast is clear, so take a deep breath and cross that road. The only obstacles you face are the illusionary ones in your mind.

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Today, I have two simple questions for you. Please think carefully about them, and find a way to act upon them.

1 What risks would you take today if you weren’t afraid?

2 Is what is stopping you really a valid reason, or is fear deceiving you again with smoke and mirrors?

You don’t believe me? Hear me out. Why is your neighbor always talking about what he “should” do, but is never “doing” it? Do you know anyone who watches all the infomercials, gets fired up, and either doesn’t make the call, or makes the call and when his product arrives he looks it over, gets nervous, then puts it on the shelf for a “rainy day”? Most likely you do know such a person. I too have a few “business” products lying around my house or filed away on my computer, waiting for me to make my move. So why haven’t I done anything? You guessed it, fear. I’ve done what countless others have done, but now I know why I did it.

Years ago, when I was taking one of my first “creative writing” classes I had a writing teacher who, after reading the first chapter of a novel I had begun for his class, informed me “This is a great beginning!” Then he told me something I never forgot. He said his brightest students, the ones who were excellent writers, were often “left in the dust” by his mediocre students who went out and made money publishing. It’s true. I know, because I was one of those “left in the dust.” I hesitated and failed to act. Even after being told by many others, including published college professors, that I was an “excellent writer” (I’m not trying to toot my own horn here, just make a point) I still failed to act. I didn’t believe that I could do something better than others. I thought others would criticize me, or that my writing would be rejected, or that I would be embarrassed to have even tried it, so
I continued to write…for myself. Why? That’s right, fear. Like I said, I never forgot what my teacher said, but I did not act on it. So why did my teacher’s mediocre students succeed, while the excellent writers failed? They overcame their fear and acted on his advice. They followed through. Sometimes the only thing that stands between us and our dreams is that we don’t act on them.

Again I ask, why? And again I answer, because of fear.

So what is it that we are afraid of? One of the biggest fears is failure. (Some of us even fear success, but I’ll save that for another article.) Failure is an interesting word. Although the word is most often used to define an action, such as “The investment was a failure.” Or “The failure of the union to reach an agreement with management precipitated the strike.” Unfortunately, we sometimes think it applies to people, such as “I am a failure.” Although we sometimes “fail”, and we all do, that doesn’t make us failures. Remember when you started to learn to ride a bike, or drive a car. Did you do it perfect the first time? I’ll wager that you did not. But then I ask you, did you give up and not learn? I’ll bet you didn’t! Although you failed, perhaps numerous times, you kept trying until you “succeeded!” I’m right, huh?

So, now what? You see, you have already proved that you can fail and then succeed, that failure is the seed of success. All successes have once been failures. Most of us learn from our mistakes. Perhaps the impact of failure has changed and so the fear seems greater. Instead of fearing falling off a bike, or running over an orange cone, we are afraid of losing time, a small fortune, the respect of our peers, being embarrassed if we don’t succeed the first time, or we may even fear losing the love of someone important to us. So we hesitate, or do nothing. You can’t fail if you don’t try, right? But didn’t you just fail to try? Okay, I’m playing with words here, I know. If you don’t want to fail big, then start small.

For instance, if you want to be a writer, start writing for free. Write for a local charity or newsletter. Are you a budding playwright? Try writing your first play for a local theatre group. You gain experience and you also build your portfolio. If you want to invest in stocks or real estate, there are many online games where you can learn and try your hand at it, risk free. The list goes on. Almost anything you can think of that you might want to try, you can begin with little or no risk. The libraries are full of “how to” books. In fact, the Internet is full of how to books and articles as well. But the world is also full of people who come in the library, check out ten books, read them, get excited, and then do nothing. The same goes with the Internet. They download everything they can find on their subject, and then they don’t even read it. I admit it is really easy to get overwhelmed with information. After all, this is the Information Age and it does have its challenges. Nevertheless, occasionally, a person does catch fire and overcoming all fear changes his life into what he dreams it can be. So can you! It may be that the only difference between you and the wealthy guy living in the big house on top of the hill is that he took action to pursue his dreams.

If you have a dream, go for it! You don’t have to read everything before you make your move. Like I said, start small! But start! Once you start it is easier to keep going. As Newton said, an object in motion tends to stay in motion. Who knows, maybe “you” will catch fire. Few of us are going to say on our death beds, “I wish had spent more time working at my job.” There was a man I knew who used to say, “A failure is someone who quits trying.” It’s true! You cannot fail, if you consistently learn from your mistakes and keep going. In fact, it is impossible! Remember Edison? He failed over 10,000 times before coming up with the electric light. Where would we be if he had feared failure? In the dark? (Unfortunately, I’m afraid some of us still are.) Yet, in spite of his many failures, Edison became the man with the most patents in history, almost 1200. So don’t be afraid to fail. Without failure, there can be no success. Go for it! Don’t be afraid to fail. Each failure brings you closer to success. Go for your dreams! You want it! You deserve it! And I firmly believe, “You were born to succeed!”

Understanding Doubts

When do doubts appear? Doubts will appear often at the most inappropriate moments such as when you encounter a small hurdle or a setback. Doubts will come when you least expected it. You begin to doubt all your efforts and often ask whether it is worth it at all. You begin to question your capabilities and convince yourself that you’re no expert to be doing something big like this. You doubt yourself and sell yourself short. However, you need to understand that doubts develop out of fear.

What are You Afraid Of?

This is the next question you must ask yourself. What is causing your fears? If you said that you are afraid of failures, you have come up with the right answer. When you encounter setbacks or obstacles in your projects, you are most afraid that it might fail. At times, you might be most afraid that you might just succeed. And then what?

The fear of failure is one of the biggest inner contradictions that you may encounter every now and then. The fear of failure often keeps you in situations you dislike, jobs you loathe and people you despise. So, now that you know that your doubts come from the fear of failure, what can you do to overcome it?

Identify the Worst Case Scenario

The best way to overcome the fear of failure is to ask yourself what will happen if you fail. How badly will it be? What will you lose? Will you lose your job, your friends, your credibility? What is the worst that can happen if you fail? Write them all down.

My project involves the setting up of an online business. My main concern would be how much I would lose if this project were to fail. So I did all my calculations and realized that I would not lose my entire savings if I failed. And I will not die from starvation if I failed in this business venture. So I carried on with my business idea. Every time I encounter my doubts, I will revisit the worst case scenario for my project.

How to Pick Yourself Up?

Another question that will help you overcome your doubts and fears would be to ask yourself how you can pick yourself up if your project fails miserably. For me, I could always go back to work if my online business falls below expectation. Although it’s a thought I try to push to the very back of my mind, but I know that there is a way out of a bad situation. It’s good to be prepared for the worst, but at the same time, hope for the best.

Take Action

Kill your fears with positive action! Write down three steps that will bring you closer to the completion of your project. Do you have to make a phonecall, do an online research, or send an e-mail? If it is just these simple tasks, you will find that you will start to return to your main focus as soon as you start doing something that brings you nearer to your goals. You will soon forget about your doubts and fears.

Every doubt and fear need to be addressed. By understanding your doubts and fears and the steps you need to undertake to overcome them, doubt clouds will soon disappear into thin air and your self-confidence will be restored quickly. Never give up!

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To accomplish something, one should overcome fear. Hence, the need for a plan of action. Here are some suggested steps which one may follow to overcome fear: First, acknowledge that you have a certain fear. Do not deny it. Second, determine its nature and type. Figure out if it is real or imagined and if it is something that is serious or not. If needed, ask another person’s objective view about it. Then, define it: Is it fear of rejection, of success, of failure, of not being good enough, of not having enough, of not being loved, of not being worthy, of heights, of water, or of something else? Third, identify its cause/s. Is it your low self-esteem, your upbringing or culture, an external pressure, a bad experience, etc.?

Fourth, do any or a combination of the following techniques (depending on the nature, type, and causes of your fear as well as your personality, access to some needed resources or services, financial and other conditions):

Visualization, Meditation, or Controlling your mind/imagination. Concentrate on the target results and “experience the feeling of already having/doing them”.

Creating a “vision board” and placing it somewhere where you can see it always. Stick/draw on it some pictures or symbols of the things that you desire to happen if you don’t have fear anymore.

Writing a journal. Divide each entry/page into two. On the left column, jot down your fear & everything related to it (e.g. symptoms, effects, etc.). On the right side, write down the opposite of that fear & all the things you experience with it (e.g., the feeling you have, the impact it has on your routine, etc.). Then, “mentally delete” the entry on the left side and concentrate on the things you wrote on the right column. Celebrate the joy, peace, etc. of experiencing them.

Doing a physical activity. Exercise at the gym, walk for 30 minutes or so, do some gardening or any household chore, play tennis, etc.

Taking deep breaths, relaxing in a comfortable place, temporarily getting out of the situation (”taking a time-out from the situation that creates or brings out the fear), & doing something else which is constructive (e.g. cooking, buying groceries, playing chess, solving crossword puzzles, etc.).

Reading self-help articles/books, watching inspiring shows/movies, attending seminars, visiting web sites which are addressing your needs, or talking about your fear with someone/people you trust and who could help you.

Asking for a professional help from a life coach, therapist, etc.

Designing an action plan and following it seriously until the desired result is achieved.

Following the mentioned steps and applying any one of the cited techniques should be leading towards overcoming one’s fear. For better results, however, it would be wise if he or she would choose a technique which he or she enjoys doing, make sure that it is practical — something that he or she is capable of doing at a reasonable time — given his or her existing condition, apply any technique or a combination of techniques as needed, and consult an authority, when in doubt regarding the technique to be used or the step to do and when fear becomes “life-threatening” or hazardous.