What came to your mind when this gory news got to you? On our Family/Marital issue for this special edition, we brought to you the reactions of Nigerians to the question that beggar for answers: WHAT WILL YOU DO WHEN SUDDENLY YOU REALIZE YOUR DEAR CHILD HAS LOST HIS/HER SEXUAL INNOCENCE? Read the reactions from fellow Naija peeps and send your reactions to our e-mail address – editornaijapeeps@yahoo.co.uk or call +234 803 3537679

This has always been a recurring issue with our children. As a parent I know what sex is all about and I equally knew how I lost my innocence. For the sake of my children, I will help them by preparing them for the journey into sexual knowledge. It is a fountain they will definitely shower in; for my boys, use condom and for my girls, cleanliness and dangers of unprotected sex. Mrs. Adams, Abuja

As a parent, I’ll not loose sleep seeing my children begin to go out and gain practical sexual experience. The catch here is not to build castles in the air around your children. Let them be free and learn stuff by themselves. When you realize they have lost their innocence, you begin your responsibility of teaching them the best sexual practices. There is no need cutting off a fellow man’s penile beauty and tool. It is callous and evil. No man has such right to dismember another man’s joy-stick.  Joseph, Jos

To be honest with you, when I heard the news, I knew I can do such a thing. I’m yet to come across the print copy of this newsbreak so as to see the man’s reason for dismembering a man’s joy-stick. This kind of thing happens when a man is close to his daughter as fathers are wont to be. A man like that wouldn’t believe his angel of a daughter would one day have carnal knowledge of a man not that he would want to do the job himself. I believe it is a psychological thing for the man. But whenever I observe my daughter has started seeing boys, I will pray for God’s protection and guidance for her as I know I will not ever open my mouth and make her tell me she has lost her virginity. If I do, I know I will definitely go after her carnalist. Mr. Ade, Lagos

As a believer, I know the dangers of raising children in this generation. I must have started teaching my children that fornication is against God’s dictates. Their manner of dressing will also help stop evil predators from attacking. To make heaven, you must abstain. But like your question suggests, I’ll raise the tempo of my moral teachings if I realize they have lost their innocence so that by doing so, I’ll make heaven and not have any of my children stop me like the children of Eli in the Bible wasted him. Mrs. Ijeoma, Lagos

I know of a friend who threw his daughter out of his house for having and keeping a boyfriend against his instruction and the child ended up a prostitute today. On the issue of cutting off another man’s joy stick, it is left for God to judge but I will not do that. All I will do is sit my adolescent children down and talk to them one on one. Make them your friends if you are finding it difficult broaching the topic of sex education at home. That way, they will tell you more about their sexual knowledge from the streets and you will give them your best teachings knowing that they now see you as a friend and not that autocratic father who always screams and shouts at them. It makes our children begin to hide such things from us and at the end of the day, what we tried to prevent will explode into unwanted pregnancies and STD’s. Mr. Smart, Lagos

Children are wonderful and bring a lot of joy into your life, but along with that comes responsibility and hard work. So with that in mind how many of us are really planning for our child’s future so make sure they grow into happy and successful adults?

Before I write any more I’m not talking about being an insane pushy parents that we see on TV, simply putting a little thought into what type of parent you want to be and what you want you child to turn out. After all everyone needs guidance, especially a young child.

Encourge And Support – but never force your child to do something they don’t want to do, even if you help them with their homework every night, that might seem like like nothing but studies have shown it helps children do better in school.

Set Up A Bank Account – Even if you can only afford a little every month, if you chose the right account it will go along way, it could help pay for college or a car. Just make sure they can be responsible with it.

Support Their Dreams – even if they seem silly to you they are important to your child and you must understand it, don’t be scared into letting your children make their own mistakes. It will benefit them in the long run.

I am by no means a clever person but I like to think I am able to absorb - up to now at any rate - what has in the past and what presently is going on around me and the community in which I live.  What does in fact surprise me is the manner in which many people automatically assume the easiest explanation to what appears to be a situation or problem is the correct answer or solution.  For instance if a man walks past a window and the window suddenly breaks which could be for a veriety of reasons such an event can happen, onlookers from a short distance away will automatically assume that the the man walking past the window has had something to do with it.  The fact this man on hearing the crash then out of fear or shock started to run off quickly from the scene does not mean that he had anything to do with the breakage of the window.  More than likely he ran off out of shock and for fear he was going to be injured by the fragmenting flying glass.  Police call this circumstantial evidence or in certain cases, some courts might accept this scenario as ‘evidence of opinion’.

This is a responsibility that people who investigate accidents or incidents such as this have to be extremely careful and assess all possible aspects of the situation before coming to a conclusion as to what in fact has happened.  In an aspect of finding out of a ’who did what’ or ‘who said this or that’ situation.   Parents with several children know that they have to be like police detectives to a point and just because one of their children who, for example, hate animals or is a jealous individual cannot be automatically blamed for kicking the cat or dog when the animal reacts in a violent manner to an incident that can be heard only from an adjoining or upstairs room.  Children could react withan anti social manner or attitute becaiuse of some form of deep rooted or inner form of insecurity.  Again how many times have falsely made accusations against a sibling has been made because of a previous incident or disagreement between them has been made.  Their own  easiest answer I suppose is to go to their parents with falsely made accusations in order to ‘get their own back’ for what they saw in their own minds as wrongly having been done to them, said or happened to them on a previous occasion.  Children, as a lot of us know from experience can be excellent actors and very convincing to adults who even in this advanced modern day and age naivelybelieve that children don’t lie or make things up like this.  BEWARE because these days the sound of pound notes ringing from the criminal compensation funds tills etc ring very loudly in their ears when new clothing, a bicycle, game or other article for personal use, entertainment or activity needs to be acquired at the time, with these adult attitudes getting money quickly in this manner at the time appears to be a quick and easy way in which to get it.  Living in times of hardship as we seem to be doing today where the priority of financial gain exceeds other important issues is tempting and at time can be  very dangerous to others as well as creating victims of criminal injustices which can and does have long term devastating effects on very many people and their families.

The main issue is that as adults we have to be far more responsible with regard to the manner in which children are influenced.  There always has been that danger of children ending up mixing with the wrong sort of person or in the wrong environment that will influence or offer the ‘quick and easy way’ to get what they want by the quickest and easiest means – and not necessarily by legal means either.  Whether children are academically, physically or psychologically gifted or not does NOT mean they have to be bullied by older people to find what they feel or think the child should or should not be doing.  The best way for a young person to learn about life is by our own examples of how we react in the world at large to others and also by their own experiences and in their own time.  Being there to be a guide and support is entirely essential but different from using strong bullying tactics and not allowing young people to progress in their own way in their own time.  We as adults may well have made mistakes in our lives – many mistakes having a serious and devastating effect on other people but we should not overlook the fact that there are abilities and a scope to successfully achieve in matters positively with everyone no matter how, what or where the background is.  There is a right way and a wrong way to do things as there are good and bad individuals.  Wealth. opulance or an environmental background are certainly no different to that equation.  I have met many wealthy people in my time and they are not in many psychological aspects successful or happy by any means.  Wealth is a good thing to have and a good goal to aim for but it can and very often does take away the true aspect of correct attitudes, outlooks on life and actions correctly. 

One only has to read an array of autobiographies to see what in fact is achievable despite all the negative and poor backgrounds experienced in one’s life.  Sociologists and psychiatrists may have what they think at times are the correct answers but at the end of the day it is up to the individual to seek this out for themselves the answers to their individual purposes and roles in life.  Adults – parents, teachers, care workers and other child bureaucratic officials must accept and be able to see their own faults before influencing children or their charges and telling them what in their personal opinion is right or wrong with their lives.  Every young person is an individual who has the right to seek their own path in life.  If they choose the wrong path then their OWN experience is the only teacher that will have any long lasting influence or affect on their futures – NOT our own past histories or experiences.  No two people are alike.  This perhaps is a common mistake we all tend to make at times.  Police fall into this trap when coming across crimes that need to be investigated think that in many cases their M.O. (Method of Operation) is identical.  This to a point may be the case but human nature being what it is will ALWAYS show that there is an individuality somewhere along the line that can be found once it is identified.  I suppose this is what good policing and detective work is about.  Parents and teachers also have at times got to be like good detectives within their own home or work situations as well.  

Leslie Lewis      

I’m not talking about not wanting to know the sex of your baby at the 20 week scan and wanting to keep it as a surprise until the birth. No its more complicated than that, one woman choose not to tell people the sex of her child even though HE is now 5 years old.

Beck Laxton is shunned my other parents because she refuses to tell them that her child is a boy. She makes sure she dresses him in uni sex clothes, insists he plays with both girls and boys toys and is careful never to refer to his gender.

Beck’s argument for doing what she does is so that her child will develop a real personality and will not be tied down with gender stereotypes. Saying she does not want her son being put into a category by society.

I do not agree with what beck is doing, she is being far too extreme. She may think she is protecting him by keeping his gender a secret but it will only cause him damage in the long  run. 

Children should be free to express themselves in a way that makes them feel comfortable, its how they learn and develop. This mother really needs to t

Growing up in rich families or the not so rich,   most children have become demanding and lack  of communication with their parents or other family relatives is the result.  Bad behaviour abuse and neglect in many ways is noticed and  busy parents fail to see the issue.

Is there a better way of raising children from the older  generation to the present?

Discipline seems to  be  a thing of the past, not every one fits in, talking to your child seems impossible, sometimes you feel hatred, anger and  sadness.  It is entirely up to any parent on how they raise their children patience is required, a good childhood results in a happy adulthood, you don’t want your child to carry the childhood memories  to adulthood, especially, if they are bad ones.

Make your child’s life a happy one, never ignore your child, always be there when needed, show love, care and talk all the time be interested in your child’s activities.  A parent interested in their child’s life will see the signs of depression, bullying at school, cyberbullying and other issues like unhappiness will be noticed from the start and resolved faster.

Children raised by grandparents or other family relatives are good when  both parents are working, but sometimes the idea is not  so helpful.  Most children get away with any thing being raised by other family members, and then expect the same from the parent.

Choices are hard when raising children compromise and be  part of your child’s life

To my eldest, who inherited my green eyes, I said that if she didn’t eat her broccoli, her eyes would turn blue. I told her that if she wanted her eyes to stay green, she would have to eat the broccoli. But it was a lie. She has rarely eaten broccoli, and her eyes are still green.

I pretended once that the phone had rung. They were especially noisy that day. I told them that a mom from China just called. She said that it was night time over there now, and could we please keep the noise down.

I once announced that we were going on a treasure hunt to search for buried jewels. But they were not thrilled with the idea of picking up the thick layer of toys on the floor of their basement playroom to find all of their missing earrings, necklaces, bracelets and rings so that I could vacuum. I am pretty sure that several pairs became vacuum cleaner food.

Making a game out of cleaning up worked for Mary Popins. Jane and Michael were suspicious at first, but it really was a game. Unfortunately, I have never developed a knack for snapping my fingers and making the toys put themselves away.

(V. Nited kingdom. Singh, the highly regarded Indian native physician as well as teacher associated with natural biochemistry, may be learning autoimmune problems as well as autism as well as vaccines for that much better a part of two decades. Byron Richards is really a founding person in the actual Worldwide as well as United states Organizations associated with Medical Health professionals and also the overseer associated with Well being Assets, Inc. This short article leans seriously upon each of the physiques associated with function. )

Lots of people happen to be sobbing away how the autism-vaccines link is actually patently fake since the actual Democratic applicants raised the problem with this United states selection period. The actual thought is straightforward: the very best concept many people will find about the link may be the existence associated with Thimerosal, the mercury-based additive, in several vaccine preparations. Everybody knows which mercury is actually poisonous, as well as it seems sensible which there is the causal hyperlink. However along with a bit more investigation, everybody discovers how the FDA as well as CDC needed the actual vaccine suppliers to get rid of thimerosal through the majority of vaccines (but not really the actual flu chance! ) in 2002, as well as autism prices still increase.

There’s an additional, a lot more delicate link in between autism as well as vaccines, nevertheless. Based on Byron Richards: “The price associated with autism is actually straight time-associated using the elevated vaccines directed at the babies. inch This will guide all of us towards the summary which, when there is an association, it’s in between autism and also the quantity — not really the actual existence — associated with vaccines directed at babies. The amount of pictures directed at babies below 15 several weeks old offers tripled within the last 15 many years, through 7 in order to twenty one.

The idea?

Therefore, how about obtaining much more pictures might lead to this particular improve within autism? Individually, Richards as well as Doctor. Sixth is v. Nited kingdom. Singh possess develop noticeably comparable ideas.

Based on Singh, autism exhibits numerous impressive commonalities for an autoimmune illness. Exactly the same types of assessments which sign-up autoimmune illnesses additionally sign-up autism; autism happens 4 occasions more regularly within kids compared to ladies (similar towards the pathology associated with a number of typical autoimmune problems — ladies might be genetically much more proof for this trend due to the autoimmune hazards associated with showing the child); autistic sufferers react nicely in order to remedies with regard to autoimmune illnesses.

Singh stated: “The linkage associated with vaccines in order to nerve problems arrives with the marketing of the auto-immune procedure, brought on through the computer virus contained in the actual vaccine with the adjuvant accustomed to sensitize your body for this computer virus. inch Simple, which means that the actual adjuvants put in just about all vaccines bring about autoimmune responses that may trigger nerve problems.

A good adjuvant is really a material put into the vaccine to improve your body’s immunological reaction to the actual vaccine’s main component. Based on Richards, this particular “initiates a good inflammatory response (the very first part of any kind of defense response). The concept is actually to find the defense mechanisms revved upward in order that it can easily see the actual destabilized illness as well as discover exactly what this appears like to ensure that in the event that this actually views this once again it will likely be much more ready to battle this. inch Therefore, adjuvants trigger irritation (which assists the body discover as well as construct defenses towards the computer virus within the vaccine) — as well as bring about autoimmune nerve problems.

The aspect be aware

Singh additionally hypothesizes, instead directly with this author’s viewpoint, which “a measles virus-induced autoimmune reaction had been the causal element in autism… [which] could also clarify the reason why a few kids display autistic regression following the measles-mumps-rubella (MMR) immunization. inch (For people which are unaware, an enormous MMR-vaccine scandal erupted within European countries regarding about ten years ago, that is most likely the origin associated with Doctor. Singh’s concentrate on this specific vaccine. )

Quoting an additional physician’s function, Singh highlights: “In a number of instances, electron microscopy offers exposed reside measles computer virus within the intestinal tract coating associated with kids using the gastrointestinal abnormalities typical within kids along with autism. inch Interpretation: a substantial quantity of children possess reside measles within their guts — along with a statistically-significant quantity of individuals children possess autism. In the event that Singh’s measles-induced-autism concept is actually proper, this means which much more kids had been nearly autistic, however prevented which destiny via a few unrecognized system.

Irritation from the mind

Richards, within an post upon naturalnews. com, stated “It is actually obvious which individuals with autism come with an too much swollen mind… The actual several inflammatory insults in the adjuvant within vaccines, for a price of just one within a hundred and fifty instances, models the mind ‘on fire’ as well as leads to autism. Being an apart, and also to a smaller degree (but just like vital that you society), a small ‘brush fire’ leads to ADHD as well as reduced cleverness. inch

The mind offers lots of what exactly are known as ‘glial’ tissue, that are tissue that offer nourishment as well as produce myelin, that type the actual external coating in our neurons as well as maintain all of them through short-circuiting. These types of glial tissue function a second anti-inflammatory perform for that mind. The fragile glial anti-inflammatory hurdle may be the reason 1 within a hundred and fifty individuals drop target in order to autism caused through vaccine adjuvants.

We do not would like my personal child to visit unvaccinated. So what can I actually do?

Fully-developed kids (2 many years associated with age) possess much more time for you to create a glial hurdle compared to babies, in whose anxious program continues to be building. Additionally, the actual glial hurdle regenerates as time passes, therefore vaccinating babies much more gradually is actually less dangerous (though not really completely secure, associated with course).

Remember that, based on Singh, “A little..

percentage associated with kids create autism due to pre-or post-natal bacterial infections — for instance, along with rubella, cytomegalovirus, herpes virus simplex, HIV, and so forth. inch There isn’t any complete assure which, through staying away from shots completely, your son or daughter will even prevent autism — however whenever you look at the actual autism price these days (1 within 150) using the autism price two decades back (1 within 500), you are able to reduce the opportunity of the kid obtaining autism through a lot more than two-thirds.

Getting carried out the actual mathematics personally, like a first-time dad, I will let you know which my personal kid is not obtaining vaccinated towards something till he’s annually aged, as well as next, I will demand which a minimum of per month move in between shots. (As the aspect advantage, there’s a opportunity, nevertheless trim, this may inflate within the pharmaceutical drug companies’ encounters meanwhile, and they’ll have to reformulate the actual vaccines along with less hazardous elements prior to I must vaccinate my personal kid. ) Which will nevertheless provide sufficient time to find the required immunizations over time with regard to him or her to visit college, as well as maintain this particular entire autism as well as vaccines issue to some minimal.

As a Father and an electrician I am always thinking about safety in and around my home. It scares me to think that there are some so called “electricians” out there who put families like mine in danger every day by not following a few simple safety procedures. In this article I am going to talk you through a few things you can do to make sure the electrician you employ is following the IEE wiring regulations who are the UK standard to which all industrial and domestic wiring must conform. 

When I say that electricians must comply with IEE wiring regulations it means that all electrical work carried out by viable practitioners is to the latest high practise procedures laid out by the IEE Wiring Regulations BS7671. Good practitioners should also keep up to date with all amendments made to these regulations therefore keeping their work safe and correct, the latest regulation is amendment 17.  I know you are all thinking “how on earth am I meant to know if they are complying with these regulations”, well the truth is you won’t know but one of the easiest way to find out if they comply is to ask. That’s right you read that correctly, just ask and see what their reaction is, if they look blank then you know that this is not the right electrician for you. 

Of course that isn’t the only way to filter out the cowboy electricians, another great way is to go by word of mouth. Ask some of your friends who carries out their electrical services because chances are they are either going to recommend an electrician who is efficient and knows what they are doing or tell you who to stay away from. On electrical company’s websites they usually display testimonials from past customers, in my experience most of these are often genuine but this is not always the case. A good way to test their testimonials is by asking to speak to past customers and maybe arrange to go and look at their work, this way you will find out if the company is trustworthy or not.   

Of course there are many other ways to find a safe and efficient electrician but I hope my suggestions will help to protect you and your family in the future. 

I chose PR Electrical Services for my electrical works. Their electrician in Bournemouth was so helpful and professional

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The solution lies in planning their summer activities to include what they have learned, and to teach them new things as well. These activities should emphasize what they will be learning when they return to class, and parents can know this by discussing the curriculum with the teachers. Trips to museums can be planned, or to places the kids will be learning about. At home, scientific principles, for example, can be incorporated into activities. Math and geometry can be taught through building something together. If children have an inclination to cook, then measuring out ingredients, dividing portions, and even the cooking process itself also give their parents a chance to teach them about math and science.

Such joint projects can have multiple benefits. They provide opportunities for parents to bond with their kids, have fun together, and continue the learning process at the same time. And they provide children with immediate proof of the relevance of all they have learned and are learning.

Participating in your children’s activities also shows you have a personal interest in what they do, thus bringing you closer together. It also naturally reveals to you whatever problems they may have with learning. Read a book together, or when it comes to math or science, you can enhance their learning by not only giving them problems to solve, but by asking them to give you problems to solve. This ensures that your participation not only means your teaching them, but is a two-way street that strengthens your bond with them. And another important benefit of all this is: Kids learn a lot more when they are having fun learning.

Many children struggle with writing, but it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, in short time, a mediocre young writer can become a good one. Here are five ways:

1. Set aside a time for journal writing: This is something, admittedly, that should be happening in school with second and third graders at a perfect age to begin basic freeform composition. If this isn’t happening, give a kid 15 or 20 minutes each day to jot down their thoughts, practice writing for themselves, and hone their craft. And consider transfering schools.

2. Work with a child on their writing: Let me address this one personally, as I remember how I got my start in writing. Early in third grade, I brought home a report I’d written on the sun that I’d gotten a well-deserved D on, for lackadaiscal focus and scant information. Sitting me down at the kitchen table, my dad proceeded to work with me until I was regularly getting A’s on my reports on the solar system. It wasn’t always easy work, with me sometimes bursting into tears as my dad methodically taught me attention to detail, but I learned to write reports packed with every bit of pertinent information, as if my reader was from another planet. More than 20 years later now, my father’s lessons are still with me.

3. Insist on reading time: Sports Illustrated columnist Joe Posnanski was asked by a baseball website in 2010 what advice he’d give to an aspiring sportswriter. He replied:

“I always say that, to me, it starts with reading. This is something I tell high school kids, college kids, people trying to get into the business, that it’s just so much about reading. Read, read, read. So much of everything else falls into place when you just do a ton of reading. It works on so many different levels. When you’re reading, obviously, it gives you the knowledge, the background and that sort of thing. But also it helps you, I really believe, form words in your mind. It gives you an idea of how things need to be written, it gives you style points. There’s just so many things, some of them very much below the surface.”

4. Give kids ways to publicly showcase their writing: With the rise of the Internet, it’s easier than ever for anyone to write for an audience. One thing some parents are doing is allowing their children to start their own blogs, albeit with appropriate levels of supervision. Children thrive on positive reinforcement and can build their confidence sharing their work publicly. In time, it can lead to other writing opportunities.

5. If all else fails, hire a writing tutor: There’s no shame in engaging tutors. Often times, they can offer expertise and hands-on instruction outside the normal parental realm.

Denise James, a <a href=”http://tutorspot.com/professional-writing-tutor.html”>writing tutor</a>, is a retired teacher and now opens a small tutoring center that help <a href=”http://www.tutorspot.com/”>tutors</a> kids in math, science and writing. During her free time she loves to write and travel around Asia.