“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

This is the real meaning of love. If all the people on earth will learn to practice what this kind of love dictates, will there still be chaos, war and hate? Will these evil continue to prevail if love is taught, learned and practiced according to this standard from the bible? It may not be perfectly done, but if more and more people will learn to love this way, the world we live in will be such a beautiful place for everyone.

You must be patient.  Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives.  Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online.  Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face.  She will think you are desperate or a pervert.  Patience.  Patience. Patience.  

Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job.  A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit.  Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.  

A picture really is worth a thousand words.  Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots.  If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.  

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours  and that she bring a friend with her.  After all, you have nothing to hide.  You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you.  The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

     The people who don’t listen to others are the most pessimistic and unsocial human beings . Being a good listener is the key to be a good speaker and to succeed in life . It helps to build your life ease and sound .

     If you think about something , your opinion counts and you need more opinions to approve it . So, there is no way to go ahead , just begin listening others . Who knows you gonna get a valuable decision from others’ tongue .

    It doesn’t mean that you have to listen to all the people who come across your way, but if any voice comes to you focusing at you , then first listen to it . Figure out what’s the matter is ? Useless ? Ignore it . If it is for the betterment of  life , just note it . And try to follow it directly or indirectly .

    Listen to kids , listen to your elders , listen to poor, listen to your heart . Just keep on practising and think about  ”how to be  a good listener .” It’s one of the most important characteristics in your personality .

Storms, fire and weather disturbances come sometimes suddenly and most people are very much unprepared as well as unaware of what is and has taken place. It leaves some people despondent, angry, confused, and disillusioned, wondering what did I do to have this happen to me.  It is the same way spiritually when trials, circumstances and attacks come up against the people of God. They began to think that the Lord is angry at them or lied by forsaking them. The Lord promised to NEVER leave us nor FORSAKE us. The situations have you feeling like you are in a forsaken and in a very dark place, when actually it’s a blessed place. Once you realize the season (trial) you then will be able to realize the reason (purpose).

Your destiny will probably need a fire whiles others may need a tornado. The both of them are terrible and could be deadly but that is the true purpose of them ALL. We must really and truly die (spiritually) from the flesh and circumstances in order for the Father to get what He wants from and out of us ALL. Our mind tells us that we really wished or hoped that we were actually dead (physically). The attacks and catastrophes are just that upsetting and devastating sometimes to most of us.  If you could only see or get the revelation of your mishap, you will relax, STOP kicking and complaining, be still and KNOW that He is God and want His desires fulfilled in and through you for His purpose and for your happiness, always.

When catastrophes or certain seasons come; people from ALL walk of life will come together to lend a helping hand for the betterment of the injured or victims. This pattern is so recognizable when trials come to test or buffet you; the ministering angels are there to do what is needed on your behalf, as well.  You do not accept the help readily, for you want out and for the hard wind to stop blowing against you. The Lord PROMISED that He would NOT leave us ever but because of the present pain from the trial, we forget the help, and PROMISES FOR BEING TOO FOCUSED ON THE PROBLEM. Let the pain, mishaps, trials, attacks and every encounter takes its course as you allow the process to be fully completed without interruptions from your emotions of whining, rejecting and fighting it. Eventually you will come to understand and know that it was NOT that horrible as it seems.

The pain will last ONLY as long as you allow yourself, to feel the sting, focus on the attack from the pressure of it all, rather than the victorious expected outcome or end. You know it came, it is, and shall be resolved, for that too MUST pass where the Lord gets the glory and you get the reward of being the OVERCOMER as you were created to be. SO whenever a catastrophe come your way just say Lord what will you have me to DO and rest in HIM knowing that He has your best interest at heart and as long as you have breathe in your body, you will make it to that place called VICTORY.

NEVER doubt the journey that the Lord puts you on but ALWAYS doubt it when you have decided to take a journey without Him, and His approval. Your pleasure comes from your divine purpose and therefore He KNOWS the directions you should take and embark upon. STAY PUT and continue FORWARD-NO MATTER WHAT, NO MATTER HOW HOT OR PAINFUL, for it does subside in due season.

With all those modern gadgets — cell phones, speed dials, e-mails, search engines, websites, Facebook, and similar stuffs, it’s impossible not to have a word from him. If a guy really wants to be with you or would want to talk to you (if only because he thinks his voice is glorious to you), he will find a way to connect : no alibis.

An alibi is worse than no alibi; it makes the fault worse than the alibi. Alibis are forms of deceit. Deception is deception in any language. There is no justification for it; it just does not happen. On the other hand an alibi could be a form of polite rejection or polite evasion. Either way it hurts, definitely not in the job description of true love. If you have lost him to someone else, remember that no man is stolen or allows himself to be stolen. Nagging him would only give him a chance to say NO louder—- to inflict the wound deeper. It’s like beating yourself, digging the hole deeper for your grave. It’s painful to be left licking his chops. Unfair.

Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship. If he likes or loves you enough he won’t forget how nice you are. Ever. He promised to call or come but didn’t, making you appear like a creep. All right, he did call but told you that he had an insanely busy day. That’s a load of crap. You should be after a guy who’s good as his word. To waste time with a guy who’s not serious is to waste time and feeling— feeling stupid. “There’s no cure for stupid.” Time enough to sniff the bad news: he’s just not interested. A guy who wants a woman to be part of his life will work for it.

While those omniscient books advice patience and understanding, this time it should not be the case. Listen to the knell of parting. Assume rejection no matter how much he is worth dying for. Being dumped or taken for granted is an insult. He makes you feel so unattractive and meaningless. Why should you feel needy and obsessed and allow yourself to be stepped on like a doormat?

Don’t allow the fall-off to rattle your world. Cut him off. Get on the saddle again. Don’t ever give him the chance to ever reject you again. You are simply fabulous in your own way. Out there is a guy who can’t wait to love you. Find him, keep moving. Look no farther than your own happiness. ###

In these days of retrenchment, stress, deadlines, and 24 hours of the day falling short, our temperament has changed drastically. Have we forgotten to be patient? Have we forgotten to be compassionate, understanding, and least of all – loving? Most alarmingly, the answer to both of my above questions will be a YES for most of us. Don’t blame yourself…the everyday grinding that all of us go through give us this state of mind. Most obviously you vent out your frustration on people weaker than you or whose relationship you take for granted.

Let us take the closest person to you…your spouse or better half. You have a hurried stressed out day, the boss randomly targets you, you end up late for collecting your children from school, the grocery store is packed with people and you wait a long time to get through, you get home and hurriedly prepare dinner to the best of your ability, then your hubby dear comes home at 9 in the night, has a comfortable bath, spends some time with the children and then comes to the dinner table and says “Honey is this dinner?” BOOM! This acts like a prick of pin on a full blown balloon…!. Now, take a scenario, where you are home the whole day, relaxing out, then if the same dialogue came from your hubby, would your reaction be the same? Maybe not!

Sometimes, we do the same thing with our children, parents, grandparents……Now stop right there! All this does not mean, we have become mean people. It is just that we are pressurized. The level of expectation is very high from us. We are running pillar to post every single day, morning to night to meet those expectations. Sometimes we are successful and sometimes we are not…these “are not” times are the ones that put us into tantrums. But for a minute, pause your thoughts. Get into the boots of the person on whom you are venting. It will surprise you that even they are in the same mode as we are. PRESSURIZED! Maybe we don’t think so……but remember the saying: The other side of the river always looks greener!!

At this point, I want to share a personal experience, which changed the way I thought. Only the other day, after a long tiring day, when we sat for dinner, a petty issue rose up and I ended up venting on my spouse…for sometime he tried to calm me down, then I left my food half eaten, stormed into my bedroom, hit the bed…..and believe me, I do not recollect anything after that. I was so tired – I FELL ASLEEP! Next morning, when I woke up, I felt really sorry for what I had done…I told my hubby so. To my utter disbelief, my husband, who is generally very short tempered, in a soothing voice told me “it is okay…..I know you are trying very hard. Take some rest.” It brought tears to my eyes. He realizes my condition, do I realize his?

We are human beings, we tend to make mistakes, but being human we have the responsibility to rectify it also. Patience and Love are the key things for any relationship. If you love your relations, you can never think of hurting them and if by chance you do, there is no harm in a simple SORRY. It will not make you bow down in front of any one, instead it will grow the love.

Do not take any relationship for granted. Every relationship needs care. Quitting is an easy way to shrug away your responsibilities but being in a relationship, where making it work and keeping it happy is in your hands……takes a lot of efforts. We are excelling in all our outside ventures, then can’t we excel in our family life also? If both the people start thinking in this way, life would be such a wonderful journey. If my article makes a difference in even one family life, I would think I am successful. My husband’s thoughts influenced me to think in this way and my endeavor is to influence at least one mind, who would take up the task of keeping a relationship healthy with his or her efforts. Let us try……Will We? Every time you are angry on a person, SHUT UP, and just think how much you love him or her…..Which weighs heavier?? THINK and then go ahead and react!!! Have a happy life!

`Everyone is responsible to promote love with respect, love with self- control and love with LOVE. How can you love with out love? of course by disrespecting your partner.

`But, there is one thing for sure we are agreeing with; media have forgotten to promote love, morality and character, instead they are promoting sex, crimes, violence, abortion, divorce, disrespect, hatred and a lot more.

`What included media? television, internet, radio, newspaper, magazine and technologies. Most of their shows are really hazardous to children. Poisoning the mind of everyone through ads that saying “it is alright, everyone does it”.

`Unfortunately, everyone loves media. We need it. But media are irresponsible in many ways.

`Who will love waiting? Who will love the idea of sex after marriage? Who will engage himself to a promise and vow, no kissing until we reach the altar?

`Hard! right? But this is God’s plan in humanity, to enjoy  sex with his presence, blessings and favor. Sex is sacred and holy thing before God, because He is the maker of sex. 

`Because of our disobedience to God, we are now experiencing poverty, illness and sicknesses, broken family, no peace in heart, and ruin.

`Maybe waiting is not easy but it is worth trying for.

  Sex is awesome feeling, and it will be more awesome in God’s perfect timing.

I view patience as a female mainly because of the name really.  Some people met her and liked her.  Some people met her and didn’t like her.  And then there were some that didn’t meet her at all.  The reaction or lack thereof a person had to patience in the life before decides how they are with patience in this world. 

If a person liked Patience they will have patience in this life and use them well.  If a person didn’t like patience, they still have patience, but they don’t like to use them.  If a person didn’t meet patience then they have none.  It’s really pretty simple.

Not all believe in a life before.  In fact, very few do.  For more on my belief in a life before this one please read the article I have placed a link to in the comments.

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We read many books or we face many situations from that some times we may feel that we should not react like this if we are in th same situation. But the funny part is when we are in that situation then only we realize that why the person responded to that situation at that movement. But it’s good if we react how we thought . This makes us different from others as well makes our life easily. It’s hard to go against our ego. But if really that important to our life better we should think about properly and get things happen easily. Sometimes if we act against our wish to satisfy our self or others it may turn odd. But it’s important that if you gone in the right way or not. It’s not that you acted against your will that happens. If you are in the proper way also it happens sometimes. Here patience comes into picture and need to have trust that if you are going in a good way nothing harms you. May be it hurts at present but that’s temporary. Always finally the true sense wins and rest will go off. Always face everything with a smile . Smile also makes wonders and it give you strength to face odd. Sometimes that smile makes worse situation to favour us. It’s timing, patience, truth and smile makes our life very easy. We have to keep that in mind that our goal and true sense is important in life like for a goal keeper  how important to make his team win even after he met with many injuries. Same as in our life we face many odds   that’s not matter the aim is to achieve or win what we want . Rest all no matter.

Writing for Triond  has been a wonderful experience for me. I have many good and true friends, who have encouraged me to continue writing and comments from them are of value to me.   

I go through many articles each day and this is not  for me to get back their favours but to  know what is new on the site and if they choose to return the the favour fine with me.   A while ago I was harassed with other trionders using vulgar and I blocked them off, it is  my way of getting rid of them.

My new cyber bully, I received this message a few days ago.

You’ve just received a new message from Earthwormick:

What is wrong with you? Can’t face the truth – you have to block me because you feel insulted that I said your comments are meaningless – it’s probably a bot writing them anyway. You’re a truly despicable human being, and the way to solve arguments is not just to block someone. I’d dislike your facebook page if I could!!!!

You’ve just received a new message from Earthwormick:

If you want to get popular with people, don’t post meaningless comments

According to this message I am not sure if I  handled the situation correctly by blocking this person off or should I have just stopped commenting?

As far as I am concerned whoever is on Triond to earn will earn on clicks even though comments do help encourage them to write, in this case  I commented as I thought and  was honest, now I am accused of meaningless comments.

I don’t care  of the kind of comments I receive I either learn from it or become a failure in what I do  but to have someone message me  like this,  I think is really ridiculous.

It is frustrating to see such  a message it seems like it won’t stop it has  happened more than twice why doesn’t Triond ban people like this?

Cyber bullying is for sick minded people they should either accept what is or confide in someone if they can’t help living, just don’t  ruin other people’s lives with their awful thoughts.

Please let me know what you think.

Is this  Cyber bullying or am I just over-reacting on the situation?