When the word abundance is mentioned, immediately thoughts of material things come to mind such as fine homes, beautiful cars, yachts, nice clothes. True abundance, however, has nothing to do with these things. There are many who have the finest material possessions but still seem so unhappy and unfulfilled. An abundant life, on the other hand, is filled with things like good health, the love expressed by family and friends, and peace of mind.

Money Can’t Buy an Abundant Life

Many spend their entire adult lifetime working hard for the goal of making more money. They work six and seven days a week and overtime to provide the best things they can for their families–the best house, schools, vehicles, vacations and whatever else it is that they desire and that money can buy. But instead of the family being grateful or appreciative of this hard work, they are more likely to be resentful toward that person for never being around to spend time with them. Both sides end up feeling that the other is selfish. Although money might not be a problem, neither side feels like it is living an abundant life in this situation.

An Abundant Life Begins Within

Each person has the power within to live his or her best life. It has often been said that the person that goes into each day choosing to be happy will indeed be happy. So an abundant life begins within–with the attitudes and actions of each person. There is always the need for making money to provide for basic needs and some comforts, but instead of trying to work harder and harder for more and more money, a better option would be to seek some balance. Work is important, but won’t provide the full abundant life that everyone desires. Some time should be spent with family and friends. Giving and receiving love from family and friends will do much to make life feel abundant despite times of economic hardship. Also, attention should be given to maintaining health. Some health problems are unavoidable or inherited, but society is more educated in these times than ever before about the things that can be controlled, such as eating right and getting enough exercise.

Peace of Mind

Finally, peace of mind is a byproduct of the element of abundant life mentioned above: good health, good friends and a loving family. These things are far more powerful than any amount of money. They will keep the stress levels low which will in turn make a happier person.

In conclusion, when an abundant life is desired, great wealth and possessions are not the answer. Working hard and making money, though necessary to survive, are not the answers. The answer lies in things that can’t be bought, things like true friends, the love of family, peace of mind, good health; and other things not previously mentioned like kindness, spirituality, concern for others, honesty, and so on.  These are the things that really matter in life, despite life’s inevitable problems, and these are the things that will lead to a happier, fuller and more abundant life.

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In order to restore balance in the world, nature has devised neat ways wherein the person who needs to acquire new gifts should give away one of their old ones. This give and take policy ensures that there is a natural harmony amongst the living organisms, as well as the nonliving. Therefore, human ancestors have come up with religious ways in which they encourage people to give what they love to get something that they desire. It could be as simple as giving hair by tonsuring or as complicated as sacrificing livestock animals that are huge wealth items for villagers.

No Pain, No Gain:

Unless the person is willing to take pain to themselves, they would not be worthy for any sort of gains. Knowing this simple rule, the forbearers have made sure that temples are built in places far off from regular human settlements and in dangerous places such as hilltops, rocky caves or in the middle of forests so as to ensure that the person would take pain when they ask for the blessings of nature and supreme beings.

Small Fish for Big Fish:

Life itself is like a fishing expedition where one would punch in a worm or small fish in the hook to ensure to get bigger fish for food. By sacrificing the food and other worldly pleasures, one would make themselves eligible for greater gifts that they have always desired for.

Accepting Death:

Sacrificing other animals or plants to the Gods and Goddesses is another way to accept that nothing is permanent in life and the mind would ready itself to accept death as an essential part of life. The villagers of the past, who are not educated, would welcome death much easily when they age than those who claim to be highly civilized.

Celebrating Death:

When the coconut is broken in the stones of the temple or when the lemon is squeezed in front of the wheels of the newly bought vehicles, one ensures to make death itself as part of the celebration. This is a subtle yet strong communication to others that one should not try to defy death, as well as live a life worrying of death. People of those days and even some today believe that the life is the gift of death. Without burning out the old reeds in the farm, one cannot get manure to give life to the newly sown seeds. Without killing the plants, even the staunch vegans would not be able to feed themselves.

Instead of blindly sacrificing the innocent animal lives in the name of religion, one has to intellectually take up the lessons and use them wisely for growth and development.

In the past, for you to reach anyone, you had to be in a particular office or house at a particular time, to be able to receive phone-calls. Those who did not have the privilege of  owning their own phones in their houses, and were not employed in offices with telephones, had no alternative but to go to telephone booths to make their phone-calls.

In some cases, they were forced to make long queues. Moreover, a number of users would talk endlessly, to the agony of those behind them on the queue.

The telephone booths would sometimes be out of service. In such cases, it would take quite some time before it would be back to working order.

In short, for you to be reached, you had to be stationed at a particular place, at a particular time. Otherwise, whoever would want to reach you, had to travel to where you were, hoping to find you.

Cases whereby you would dial the correct number, and end up getting the wrong number were numerous.

There is a friend of mine whom I can reach any time, anywhere, without a problem. My success rate as far as reaching Him is concerned is 100%. I’ve never tried to reach Him and failed. There are no obstacles to reaching Him.

Not only do I reach Him at all times. He gives me time to talk to Him. He always pays attention to what I tell Him. He always responds to what I tell Him. He always has an answer for me.

Unlike all my other friends, He gives me perfect answers. His answers are always VERY timely. He gives me answers that are good for me. His answers are in three categories, namely, “yes, immediately”, “no, never”, and “yes, but not immediately”. When He says yes, immediately, it means that what I’m asking for is good for me right now. When He says, “no, never”, it means that what I’m asking for is not good for me now, and will never be good for me. When he says, “yes, but not immediately”, it means that what I’m asking for will be good for me some time in the future, however close or distant.

I can reach him twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, four weeks in a month, twelve months in a year, all the days of my life.

The communication lines are clear at all times, and there are NEVER any communication hitches. There are no queues when I want to speak with Him. Neither is He ever too busy to listen to me. There has NEVER been a situation whereby I find Him speaking with someone else, hence unable to speak with me.

Most importantly, in my attempt to communicate with Him, I have NEVER EVER gotten a “sorry, wrong number” response.

This friend is Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior. You too can take Him as a friend. He is the friend that will NEVER disappoint you. Through Him and Him alone is life eternal. There’s therefore no better friend than Him. Choose Him today as your friend, Lord and Savior, and you shall NEVER be the same again. Life will take a new meaning. You shall have peace of mind.

He was there in the beginning, and participated in the creation of the heavens and the earth. (John 1:1-3)

If we believe in Him, we shall not perish but have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

He has gone to prepare a place for us, that we may, if we are faithful to the end, go and join Him there. (John 14:1-3)

In the modern world, there is so much to do, so much to achieve that only someone who has is an absolute failure or not well can be idle. Most of us are always busy in something or the other. Often there are so many challenges to meet that merely deciding which ones you should take up can become a matter of stress! The greatest iron, however, is that efforts to bring a semblance of balance and harmony in this madly busy life requires efforts that can sometime lead to even more stress and make the life even worse!

In such a scenario, it makes sense to pause for a minute, take stock of your life and make sure you are going where you wish to be lead into. It makes even sense to ensure that you are not caught in a directionless obsession of activities that lead nowhere.

Do we really need to be that busy?

In fact, most of the stress of our busy life can be a result of habits that have long outlived their utility. When we begin our career, we need to struggle much more. We need to make every second count. We learn not to let opportunities go by. During that period we are always looking for that one breakthrough that will let us into the path of success. In the process, we grab every possible opportunity that crosses us. In time, we become well placed and better off, but still not enough. SO we need to work more … grow more … and more …and then it becomes a habit. Even when we need nothing more, we can still not let an opportunity go by. We never realise that we are doing it at enormous cost, in terms of time, which is the basic unit of life!

The cost of being too busy

Life is not made of money or investments, It consists of years, which in turn are made of hours and minutes and seconds. We can create everything else, but with our knowledge and technology, we cannot create time. Time is the essence of life – the only commodity that we cannot buy in the market, and yet, very often it is the only commodity that we are ready to spend without thinking twice. We spend life as part of our habits. We pay with our life to do what we have got into the habit of doing. We are busy not because it is good for us, but because we are in the habit of being so.

Hazards of a poorly balanced life

A life too busy is actually a life spent in confusion. Every day, we will end up spending exactly twenty four hours, irrespective of whatever we do or don’t. What matters is HOW we spend them. When we are unable to balance those twenty four hours properly, they lead to stress and frustration. Such an outcome itself negates all other success. It also becomes a hazard for peace of mind and health of the body. In short, it messes up the quality of life.

How to avoid missing your life while you were too busy

If there is anything that any sane person would like to keep as the first priority, it is to ensure that she does not miss her life while trying to make arrangements for it. Career, wealth and success are important parts of life, but not the whole of it. There is more to it than what we often aim for.

Deciding one’s priorities can be the first step in ensuring a proper balance in your busy lie. We all need money, but we also value certain other things far more than money. It could be family, the company of loved ones, friends or it could be experiences, hobbies, travelling, socializing or just taking a break from the monotony of daily routine. Whatever it may be, we must not let it remain an unfulfilled dream just because we are busy. This small step itself can take away a lot of our stress, and add years to our life while adding life to our years.

As the second step towards bringing greater balance to life, we should strive to avoid the ‘traps of stereotyped roles’. Our social upbringing often makes us used to certain stereotyped roles in life. For example, right from our childhood, we are taught to be nice, and while no one needs to be impolite, it is very important that do not get caught in this social traps and emotional black-mailing, either as a family member, friend or social person. Even as a family member, we must get trapped into carrying Utopian ideals on ourselves. As a mother or as a son, there are limits to what one needs to do as part of one’s responsibility. One must not live with guilt when not being able to do any further, and should be able to say no when faced with exploitative expectations of people around them. Once you make yourself clear, most of those who care for you would understand and adjust, while those never bothered about you in the first place need to be given a taste of their medicine.

The same principle is also true for the working sphere. Very often, we take up more than what we should, in an attempt to develop or retain other’s goodwill. There can be no denying that such goodwill is a great asset, especially during an adversity. At the beginning of one’s career, one needs it the most. But then there come a time in life that you may have to avoid the temptation of being good and nice, if the cost of doing so is far bigger than would be justifiable. Keeping others’ expectations from you down might be a better strategy than to keep fulfilling them at the cost of your life, meaning time.

Having a long term perspective of your life is another good strategy to avoid getting entrapped in a life that is so busy that it makes you miss the life itself. Try making an year long time table for yourself, and you may be surprised to see how little of your time you have been left with for your own self. Such realization itself can help you in making the best of whatever life you are blessed with, in a manner that you end up enjoying instead of continuing to invest in a future that will never be witnessed. Remember, returns on time invested come in the form of everything other than time itself.

Small things like managing a healthy daily routine can sometimes be the most important way of bringing balance back to a seemingly unmanageable life. Ideally, your daily routine should itself lead to de-stressing your mind and body, something that cannot be achieved with a very tight and inflexible scheduling. A simple uncomplicated and flexible life-style can be a great asset in this regard. Keep a substantial part of the day with your own self. A feeling of having time at your disposal can itself prevent most of the stress related with busy life and inflexible time-lines.

Lastly, there are some time tested small and simple ways to decrease pressure on one’s time and life. Separating work from home and leisure is one of them. Balancing your domestic time between self and family is another simple step that can unclutter your life. Each one of us has her own priorities, and circumstances. Each one of us needs to find his own solutions. While doing so, we also need to ensure that we do not let the life go by just because we too busy in making arrangements for it!

Let us start with the rationale for the existence of sex. Sex is a system of regeneration of any species on earth, animate or inanimate. All must have sex in their own ways in order to preserve their generations from extinction over time. Thus, originally, sex is aimed at regeneration, nothing more. This is justified by the fact that there are a lot of couples seeking help form professionals when they do not have the first child after a year or two of their marriage. Some have to end their marriage (by divorce) when they finally find that they cannot have children. Others are consoled by a traditional saying: If God gives you children, He trusts you (that you will have to be responsible for the welfare, education of your children). If He does not give you children, He really loves you (that you do not have to worry about responsibility taking care of children).  

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Sexual desires develop during ‘teens’ or possibly before depending on the social exposure of sexual fantasies. The more sexually exposed an individual is, the earlier he or she will develop his or her sexual desires. The problem lies when an individual knows sex too early, that ends in a self-destruction in early marriage practices.  What about sex before marriage? What we worry about it is when they do not know the practice of sex safety, resulting in sexually-transmitted diseases and / or unexpected pregnancy. 

With respect to marriage, there are two types, and you can choose the  one that suits you best. What ever choice or detiny you have, there are always benefits of marriage.

Oriental sex as I described above is sex in a family which may aim to have fun or to have children. The man will normally initiates sex, rather than the woman. There are special clues signalling that the man wants it; the woman has to respond to the clues accordingly. A woman may occationally signals sex to her husband, but she normally does it more indirectly than the man normally does, for example by personal groomings. On this signal the man should respond wisely whether or not he wants to have sex. This is simply because a man can have sex if he manages to have errection. This is the mistery of a man in which he may have it when he does not want it but he may not have it when he wants it—it is errection. 

It is therefore different from a woman. She can be sexually aroused at any time, depending on how the man performs his preliminary sexual activities. Once a woman is sexually aroused, she can be very wild. Eastern or western styles? Take the best.

1. Don’t let little issues ruin your peace of mind.

Oh yes, we are all guilty of this. We allow little problems to rain on our parade and then we wonder why we are not happy.  We allow ourselves to worry all day and night of things that we should just forget and surrender. And when real adversities come we then realize how absurd our little worries were and see how our time was wasted because of those little trifles.

2. Keep yourself busy.

We should have no time for worry. As the famous saying goes, Idle minds are a devil’s workshop. Filling our lives with stimulating and meaningful activities is the way to go. If we are completely occupied doing something constructive, we would definitely put aside worry. Get busy!

3. Acceptance is the key.

Okay, when we are really faced with something BIG, what shall we do? Be willing to accept the worst and carry on. There’s nothing you can do now and no amount of worry and sleepless nights can change the situation. Face the worst, learn from it and move on.

4. Pray.

Last but definitely not the least, is pray. We often forget that there are things in life not in our control. It is such a comfort for us to know that there is Someone who is wiser and mightier who can carry our troubles for us. Thus having faith in Him and his ways are a sure remedy for our worries.

I fell like flying constantly in the love wings. I had no anger, no sorrow, no misunderstanding, no disappointments, no judgments, no regrets, no sorrow, no doubts, no pretending, no excuses, no blame, no shame and no return. This light felling that took account of my being is here to stay.

What does make me fell this way? Was had re-manufactured my thoughts, purified my soul and set free my heart? I re-manufactured thoughts without evidences, justifications and reasons. I recreated a new thinking way reprogramming believes into a flex ball dance of acceptance.

I purified my soul, when allowed the mask drop into the rock bottom, and did myself a literally translation. Those fears, distress, self-conditioning, and pride were removed with affection. In their place, I planted love, tranquillity, appreciation, recognition, gratitude, forgiveness, kindness, enthusiasm, encourage, and beauty seeds. These seeds germinated, and I reached the sky of my life. I set my heart free by crying a river of tears.

I set my heart free, when I drove my mind to surrender. I set my heart free, when I looked at the side, and plunged into the soul of another. I set my heart free, recognizing my imperfections beauty. I set my heart free whispering words of compassion to my mistakes. I set my heart free, spreading resignation along my body.

My meeting with the state of mind was long, profound, blue, purple, and revealing. What was revealed? That I did not need to hurt myself anymore, that my thoughts are the source of my well-being, that life is the easiest of the exercises, and love lives of our breathing. The revelation of finding my real self in the right time. The being the one that I dreamed revelation.

Invaded by this plenitude state, now I walk with happiness, feed me with love and breath in peace. I do not need to prove anything to anyone. I do not need to show anything to anyone in order to be me. I do not need to hide my personality behind the falsity wall. Now I know that I belong to the present which I am creating with love and no map to the future. I am glad trough this journey of immeasurable learning. I do not want and decided never leave, this state of mind.

When you download a type of dose they it is just a audio file.When you start the dose with your earphones you must lay down in a quite place with no distractions for best effect.The audio file will begin to send hertz of waves in to your ear repeated for a certain amount of time.These waves disrupt your brainwaves and you brainwaves start trying to track this sound going through you head kinda what happens when you do drugs,alcohol, or smoke.

Although the effects are not the same for everyone small amount of people will see stuff afterwords such as unicorns and goblins.In my opinion this may not be something people will be getting high off…but instead be a relaxing recreation that does truly improve your dreams.

My aggression has landed me in prison at a young age. It’s seen me bash people that were the closest to me. It’s seen me beat police officers into a pulp, got me sacked from jobs, severely hurt, and almost drove me to suicide. To me aggression has been a fuel to feed an engine that would not give up, but it’s also been my poison, the cancer eating away at my peace of mind and happiness. Over the times since I was a young child id control my anger through art, writing and channelling my energy through my teen sport, boxing. Over time I found that nothing no matter what I did, especially writing, my skill couldn’t be developed to my maximum capability if my mind wasn’t free of aggression. This is true for today. If I get aggravated I can’t write. If I get exposed to others aggressive behaviour I can’t concentrate, and expand upon my thought. I find it to be the most counterproductive external influence upon a writers mind. I live in a house where the people around me argue every day. As much as I try to ignore, the anger reels inside as my peace gets disturbed. I find being subjected to other people’s arguments, as a noise I struggle to block out and conquer for my state of peace.

It’s only once I manage to create a somewhat private environment where external noise gets muffled at the very least, could I sit down and think straight. Only then could I write. I don’t mind peaceful noise as it doesn’t impact me mentally, as long as it’s not loud, intrusive aggression getting impaled through my mind like a fucking jackhammer through pavement! Literature got developed through different religious institutions. The monks that wrote the manuscripts worked in peace free from violence and human aggression. It was in this environment that the written word flourished, as if it wasn’t for it, literature wouldn’t be around today!

So here are three tips of the day before I finish this quick article. Ignore external aggression. Ensure you create an environment that would nurture and allow for your thought process and writing journey. Try to maintain the most peaceful state of mind as without it you might as well give up now! Thank you.

Let me draw in a particular example from a simple non-working day.

When I woke this morning, I told myself that I will have a fruitful day. According to my tabletop calendar, one month had actually passed since I scheduled those things I wanted to do, which is room rearrangement.

I woke up at 4:30 AM. Thanks for the nightmare I could not even remember. After my morning routine (fix the bed, brush my teeth, go to the bathroom, and wash my face), I cooked breakfast for 4 people including myself. A cup of hot mocha finished my meal with a splash of enthusiasm in my head to go extra mile of washing the dishes. It was almost 6 AM when I went back to my room, which is a hundred steps away from the kitchen.

As I entered into the room, my comfy bed seduced me to take a nap and I heartily jived in to its invitation. Thirty minutes later, I was awakened by the sunrays from the slit of the window curtain. It reminded me of my tasks for the whole day. I told myself that lying on bed the whole day is a sign of laziness. And laziness is the number one friend of losers who accomplish nothing in the entire life. I hate that. I don’t want that to happen to me. The thought of growing old without any accomplishments freaks me out.

            Rearranging my room includes cleaning the floor, walls, ceiling, moving the cabinet, ref, tables, chairs and bed from one place to another. It is indeed a simple yet tiring task. But having a neatly arranged room gives me great peace of mind. It makes me feel like my sequence of thoughts is arranged in proper order, which makes me do things clearly and smoothly. After my first big task, I still had plenty of things queued on my list including reading some articles, commenting on other people’s blogs, writing at least one blog, ‘Facebooking’, listening to music, sorting my computer files, washing 20 pieces of under garments, watching movies, etc. It seemed like the day wouldn’t be enough to accommodate all those things. But prioritizing which ones are important, everything was just a piece of cake. By 7PM, I was able to relax after having my dinner, which I also prepared myself.

The day was as fruitful as I wanted it to be. And the whole benefit I get from it is even more than just mere self-satisfaction. Pushing myself to accomplish those tasks is a form of giving myself a discipline. If I continued to get enticed to slouch in the slumber land, I won’t be able to accomplish anything today. That also applies in the bigger world. If I want to accomplish anything both great and small, I have to work for it. If I can’t perform such a simple task for myself such as rearranging my room, how can I perform bigger duties for others?

            Instead of just complaining on how little time you have, the best way you can do is to make the most of it. If you actually train yourself to make the most of the time you have, you would realize that you actually have the luxury of it. Try tracking the things that you’ve done yesterday, you’ll be surprised that you had more idle than fruitful time.