Are you ready?

Ask yourself whether you’re really need and ready to do it. Both, study and work would require more of your time, energy and mind. When you’re certain enough that you’re going to do both at the same time, go for it.

Find the perfect job

Make sure that you can combine your work schedule with your schedule at school. If it is possible, tell your bos that you’re still studying. Hopefully your bos can help you in adjusting your work schedule with school.

Work to learn

Mostlikely you can use your work as a form of learning. Perhaps not exactly related to your major of studies, but one day you’ll need to know how to share, cooperate and compete in the healthy way.

Manage your time

Working while studying would make you have less time in almost every aspect of your life. That way you need to manage your time accordingly and stick to the plans you’ve made.

Don’t forget homework

Since you’re a student, then your study still have to come first. You can do your homework after work, or ask your bos if is it okay if you’re doing your homework whenever you’ve got nothing to do in your working place.

When it’s time to refresh your mind

Use holiday to the max. It is time to take a rest or indulge your self with things you want but can not do during working and studying hours. That way, forget anything related to study and work. Go ahead have some fun.

One of the most important academic exercises that go in almost all educational institutions of higher learning is the practice of conducting research (Faisal, 2009). The conduct of research has actually come to be part of the cumulative scoring grade for most students graduating from these institutions. On daily basis also, people conduct research with the hope of coming out with different findings. As a matter of fact, the debate of whether or not there is hope for conducting perfect research as sparked by Griffiths (1998, p93) depends largely on composition and modus operandi used conducting research. Much also can be argued with relation to what the meanings of research and perfect are.

Prenhall (2010) defines research as “the systematic process of collecting and analyzing information to increase our understanding of the phenomenon under study.” The word perfect has also been explained by the ARD (2011) as “brought to consummation or completeness; completed; not defective nor redundant; having all the properties or qualities requisite to its nature and kind.” Making inference from these two definitions, it can be said that once a person sets out to collect information with the hope of increasing or understanding a phenomenon under study and this process is undertaken with all its qualities requites to its nature and kind, then that research can be judged as perfect. Another question that may arise from this assertion is, ‘What then constitutes the qualities requisite to the nature of a research?’ In every research work, the researcher sets off with a set of aims and objectives and it is these aims and objectives that are expected to be achieved for the research to be said to be perfect.

In academic practice, students are supposed to realize the aims of their research. In a personal encounter, I was assigned to a research topic in which I was supposed to find intervention to poor female participation in science lessons through a teaching strategy. The aim I set was that by the end of the study, performance of each female student in the class would increase by at least 15% due to the teaching strategy to be adapted. In doing this, I used the discovery and experimental methods of teaching, which ensured that the female students in the class participated in the class personally and actually discovered basic scientific processes for themselves. After three weeks of research, a post-intervention test was conducted and compared to the pre-intervention test, the female student with the least score improved by 22%. From every indication, the aim of the research was achieved and so the research could be judged as perfect.

There remain some people who hold the view that for research findings to be perfect, their validity should be universal. The response to this argument is that research work comes with specific requirements, one of which is that every research should have delimitation (O’Neill, 2006). The delimitation defines the scope within which the research and its findings will be confined. For this reason if the results of a particular research prove workable within its delimitation and not in other places, the research still fulfills its aim and therefore continues to hold as perfect.

Others argue that researches are often improved and that if the researches were perfect, there would be no need for improvement. This is however no point to nullify the perfection of researches. In a typical instance, I led a research to improve sales at the school cafeteria. The ultimate conclusion was that sales improved after the research because the research suggested that there should be an online ordering and purchasing system that would make it possible for people to access the cafeteria easily. Later, there was a research by another group of persons to improve our research based on our recommendation for there to be accountability with the improved sales that were anticipated to be recorded. The latter came up with an automated machine that recorded sales electronically and so for there to be embezzlement was highly impossible. Though the improvement was good, our aim was still achieved and so our research remained perfect for the aim for which it was set out.

Having laid all the above points down, I take a stand against the argument that there is no hope of doing perfect research. As a matter of fact, several perfect researches have been conducted and researches are encouraged to continue in that manner to continue to help the world overcome most of its problems it currently faces.

Cited Works

Faisal, Frederick. Academic Research Among Institutions of Higher Learning. Accra: Good Shepherd Printing Press, 2009. Print

O’Neill, Henry. Issues in Contemporary Research Activities. Durban: Ultimate Press House, 2006. Print 

Perfect. ARD. Free English-English Online Dictionary. 2011. Web. 4 January 2012. <http://ardictionary.com/Perfect/3855>

Research. Prenhall. Pearson Prentice Hall. 2010. Web.  4 January 2012. <http://wps.prenhall.com/chet_leedy_practical_8/0,9599,1569572-,00.html>

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A delightfully macabre contribution to the Mammoth Book Of Best Crime Comics. The button is a story of a man’s stark terror and paranoia contributing to his downfall.

The killer here shouldn’t really try to commit murder at all. He is already such a nervous wreck and pathetic figure that you know his efforts to get rich quick will end in tears.

The villain overhears friends talking of how most crooks get caught by a simple mistake, and an over-looked detail at the crime scene. Toothpicks and links from a watch-chain are cited as examples of what it took to put some killers behind bars.

Our villain is desperate enough to try and mug a man anyway and when it ends in murder, he finds that a button has fallen off his coat. He returns to the murder scene to scramble around for it, desperate to cover the one loose end able to land him in the hands of justice. He lingers so long, he is still there when the police arrive to discover the body, and the victim has the button clutched in his hand from the struggle they had. Oops!

The story has a creping sense of inevitability to it. The ending is no surprise whatsoever and for once, that is exactly how it should be.

Arthur Chappell

Rakhi Sharma and Awadhesh Kishore

Institute for Development of Technology for Rural Advancement, Mathura-281004 INDIA

Sarvoday Mahavidyalaya, Chaumuhan-581406, Mathura INDIA

Before being agree or disagree with the quote of Griffiths (1998, p97), it is a primary need to be acquainted with the words ‘hope’, ‘perfect ‘and  ‘research’. The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language has defined the word “hope” as emotional state which promotes the belief in a positive outcome related to the events and circumstances in one’s life.  The term “perfection” has generally been translated as completeness. Things having this quality may be termed as “perfect”. The word “Perfect” denotes a state that is complete and without any fault, weaknesses or error. The Greek philosopher Anaximander described the world as “endless” and “the greatest” but while he ascribed great qualities to the world, he had not regarded it as perfect (1) that meant there was nothing to be complete and perfect.

Sometimes research is termed as the repeated search of a search (re+search) established already.  This is not true. Research is a systematic investigation and has been defined as the search for knowledge to solve new or existing problems, prove new ideas, to develop new theories and to establish novel facts.

On the basis of these definitions as described above, it may be concluded that research is a systematic search for knowledge and knowledge is endless. Research is aimed to solve new and existing problems and to prove new idea. Anaximander was obviously correct that the world of knowledge and research was not ever ending, complete and perfect.

It has thus been agreed that there is no hope of doing perfect research. There is a never-ending list of reasons of imperfection of a research. Neither two gardens are same on a day, nor two days in a garden. Similarly, ideology, environment, culture, religion, society, politics and economics etc. are varying and affecting needs of a common person and objectives of a researcher. This change in needs of a common person and objectives of a researcher may be due to variation because of differed locations and/or time intervals. Thus previous knowledge is insufficient on today and today’s knowledge will be insufficient on tomorrow.

Sometimes the person doing research overrides the true outcome of research. The researcher’s biased attitude also caused an error in search of knowledge to make it imperfect.

Few examples have been illustrated here to make clear the imperfection of research due to various reasons:

1.           We had got an idea from the literature that if the buffers are included in the food of a lactating ruminant, the content of fat in the milk produced, may be increased. A series of experiments was conducted to test the hypothesis to draw valid conclusions. The idea has been recorded to be correct. Further, a work is now required to supplement existing knowledge regarding economical aspects of the outcome of the research before recommending it among the farmers. It can thus, be percepts that the research conducted before me was neither perfect, nor my work because the knowledge and the facts generated were insufficient. The reason is clear that a person and his activities may have a limit but the knowledge may not.

2.         Here is another example that we would like to quote. At the time of green revolution in India chemical fertilizers and insecticides were promoted among the farmers in various ways. That promotion was based on a continuous series of experiments on productivity of the crops. After some years, the properties of soil and the environment were affected badly due to application of such chemicals at farmers’ level on the field. Now, the community of researchers is advocating restricting the use of such chemicals on the field and advising the farmers to return to organic farming.

3.        An example in India is well known today. Some biased persons in the Government were giving clean chit to Mr. Raja and 17 others in a renowned 2G spectrum scam on the basis of investigation of the facts and the documented records. But, the Hon’ble Court of law, after trails, examination and investigation of those facts and records, framed the charges against all alleged persons. The reason of imperfection of the research was that the biased people were conducting the research and overriding the conclusion .

4.         At its initial period, Psychology was the study of soul but after some time, it was turned to study of mind. Now the subject matter of this subject is to study of behaviour (2) and mental processes. Thus, research is a never-ending and continuous process. This property of research enables the possibilities of further improvement or revision in the matter.

So many other reasons may be responsible for this happening but it was clear that there is no research work which is perfect. Mostly, a newly conducted research on the same topic adds something new to the existing knowledge or sometimes even proves that the previous findings were wrong. Similarly, no claim can be made that the outcome searched today is perfect. There is no any research that could be termed as “perfect”, otherwise the people may not be innovated and rehabilitated themselves. Who knows in coming future, a simple pill will treat today’s serious diseases like cancer, AIDS and leprosy etc.

Conclusion:

 We do agree with Griffiths (1998, p97) that there is no hope of doing a perfect research.

“Perfect” as a statement is not cute or endearing and at this time it is one of the most absurd statements that is being over used and insults most people without them even knowing. How can it be insulting you ask? Well let’s ask, “What is perfect?”

Perfect is defined by Collins Dictionary as finished, whole, unspoiled, faultless, excellent, of the highest quality. So does this apply to the human being themselves or to the act between two or more individuals?  As a spiritualist I have studied for many years to obtain perfect and have in my studies realized that perfect is a state and not necessarily an absolute. Perfect is not obtainable by any human standards I know of. It is not the act nor is it the person who is perfect.

So what does it mean to each of us? Well to some it is this grossly unobtainable level of accomplishment that continues to stretch out of the person’s reach. The bar who ever is in control of it being raised or lowered continues to push it out of reach. This makes perfect by any standards impossible. So that leaves you with good enough. Well isn’t that a self-esteem builder? Never being satisfied with what the accomplishment is and not what else it can or could be. How can a society filled with such diverse individuals force perfect on everybody? Well, we as a human race have standards to live up to. You are a law abiding citizen, you have a job, you are to treat every body the way you want to be treated etc. So the standards are met and most of us sit back and say we have done enough and that it is good enough. But yet we still are pushed for perfection even beyond our own ability to perform. The consequences of the push are nasty, depression, stress, heart attacks, are just a few to mention.

So moving right along with “perfect” are we lazy or self satisfied? What are your personal standards for perfect? Most of us have learned in life that there is a hierarchy of the human race and that some of us are more privileged than others. But that does not mean that our idea of perfect should be on the same scale. As human beings we are naturally lazy and unsatisfied. Donald Trump’s version of perfect is certainly different than the homeless person on the street corner with his hand out for spare change. Not saying the homeless man is lazy just unfortunate. But there are those of us who are innately lazy and have expectations of life with no regard for the amount of work contributed to society to become one of the Trumps of the world and then sit back and complain that they are amongst the have nots. Well those people can stuff it where the sun don’t shine!!! If you are not going to work for it you will not have it!!! So where do we draw the line at satisfied? That is once again an individual choice. If you believe that stopping work everyday at 5 pm sharp is going to get you that raise and promotion think again. It will be the dude in the carol next to you who stays that little bit longer to get the days work done. So once again ask what is lazy and what is satisfied and how does satisfied meet perfection?

Well if you become satisfied with the career you have and that meets your life goals than it is entirely possible that you have obtained perfection with your career and financial life. That is terrific!!! But what about those of us who have raised the bar for someone else, the bosses of this world the Donald Trumps; why do you feel that inflicting your version of perfect on the rest of us is mandatory? Well if we think about it, it is about improving the human race in general, but if you believe that you need to read some of my other articles. As human beings we need to pushed to accomplish otherwise we are lazy and never strive for perfection or even satisfaction. Take a good look at the guy with the well-manicured lawn and garden what do you think he or she is striving for and what is their accomplishment of perfect? It would seem typically to be raised standards and a little bit of friendly competition from around the neighborhood.

So when someone says to you in response “Perfect.” how do you feel? Insulted, condescended too, as if this person knows what your idea of perfect is? Maybe if it is the exact amount of change for an item purchase the response “Perfect.” can be applied but to the everyday activities and the motions that we go through it is nobody else’s business what you think is perfect or not. It is a “to each his own” kind of area with in the human psyche. Remember don’t tread on my perfect and I won’t tread on yours. Who needs these ridiculous catch phrases anyways?  

Confidence is not giving a care about what people think of you,

Confidence is achieving things you want.

I learnt this valuable lesson from an early age, my parents used to say “if you have no confidence then you have no life” and you know what, I still believe every word of it. People with no confidence always have no self-esteem and are always self-conscious that’s why they don’t get far in life – lets face it, even if you get straight A’s you won’t get the job of your dream because your confidence will let you down in the job interview. Employers have changed in the last decade or so – not only are they looking for bright individuals, they’re looking for individuals that burst with confidence. People that believe in themselves and believe in what they can achieve. I have written this article to help those who are not so bursting in confidence and find them they’re confidence.

Be your own best friend:

I learnt this lesson from a you tuber and lets face it, it’s quite a good lesson. Some of you might think its stupid but i think its one of the most important lesson you need to learn to gain confidence. Confidence isn’t something you can buy in a shop – you have to build it up like a strong brick and steel sky scraper. You can’t trust anyone as much as your own self – not even your closest friend because there’s a chance you might have a fight and she/he will go off telling anyone she/he can get her/his hands on. Its really important to be your own best friend – it makes you independent and helps you believe in your self. Independence is really important because it means that you don’t have to rely on people like your bank or friends cause they can make your life living hell. I mean if you really need help why don’t you comment yourself.

Don’t doubt yourself:

People with little or no confidence often doubt themselves – and that is a complete no no. Everyone must rely on themselves and believe in every decision they make, if you doubt your self then others doubt you and believe me it wont create a good image of you. One of the things people who doubt themselves need to learn is to let go of expectations. Its usually people with high expectations that get greatly disappointed. When people get so greatly disappointed they start to doubt themselves. When something like that does happen, you need to question yourself and ask if there were any reason behind why you probably didn’t do so well. By doing this you are separating your expectation and disappointment.

Stop comparing yourself:

This is one of the most common factors as of why people are lowering the confidence they have. I mean, people don’t care whether your not a skinny and fit as other people, not as clever as other people or not as popular as others – they care about who you are as a person. There might be a man or a women at work or school whose got the perfect body and is intelligent and is rich but that doesn’t mean they’re perfect and you HAVE to be like them. For all you know they might have lost family or might have had a bad past – REMEMBER, NO ONES PERFECT.

Love yourself:

Many people hate themselves, they’re body or their personality. Every single person is individual and unique – there is no such thing as perfect. Love yourself and always think about how lucky you are because there are people in Africa and poor countries where they will do hard manual work for a penny a day, not being able to afford to feed their family and having to watch their children,babies and wives starve to death and just knowing that they will never get anywhere in their life. Think about how lucky you are safe and sound in the comfort of your home with an education that can achieve you anything you’ve ever want.

Bullying:

Everyone has experienced bullying once in their lifetime whether at school or at work. Bullying can really lower ones self esteem as that’s it purpose. Bullying can come in many forms, if it hurts your feeling then it counts as bullying. Try to build a shield around yourself, anything designed to hurt your feelings just gets rebound. Remember – harsh comments only become true when you make them true. If someone is being a bitch and is bitching about you then don’t try to bitch about them as-well, this will only make you just as bad as they are. The only reason why their bitching about you is because they want to look superior against someone that they know has no confidence because they think they can trample all over you. There’s a chance that their being bullied and they want to take out all their doubt in themselves on someone else to make them selves look good. Remember if it continues try to stand up for yourself, believe in yourself and tell someone you can trust because then your not on your own.

I hope this article has helped just remember – YOU ARE UNIQUE IN EVERY WAY!!!

Best of luck

Beautytips101

I want to start off by saying that no man is perfect (and to be fair no woman is either). So if perfection is what you are looking for you are going to be searching for a really long time!  Everyone has their flaws but what you need to figure out is if the flaws your man has are a big deal or something you just can’t deal with.  

When it comes to relationships having a great sex life is awesome (who wouldn’t want that?)!  However, being able to communicate is even more important.  Being with someone that you feel you are unable to talk to will only drive the two of you apart.  

What do you have in common? Do you like the same movies? Do you hang out in the same places? Do you like his friends? These are all things that will help you figure out if he is “a keeper”.  If you like to shop and he refuses to go with you would that be a big deal? Or are you okay going alone?  I honestly hate shopping alone but in recent years I haven’t had anyone to go with me!

The man that you deem to be Mr. Right should be someone that you can very easily see yourself with in the future.  He should be someone that you have no problem going on vacation with and introducing to your family.  If you are uncomfortable doing either of those things that may be a sign.  Granted it could just be that he is of a different nationality or faith and you are afraid your family will not accept him. However, if that’s not the case and after a while of dating you are still not comfortable introducing him to your parents there may be a reason.

In the end only you and the man you are with can decide if you are right for each other.  For a truly happy relationship there needs to be a good balance of all the important parts in it.  You need to keep your passion alive and your communication lines open! If you think you have a great relationship odds are that you do!  Follow your heart and if it your heart tells you he is Mr. Right he may just be!

Hearsay is actually accounts with a see for an out-of-court declaration produced by the third-party declarant which declaration has been provided by the actual see in order to show the facts from the issue declared within the declaration. Hearsay is usually not really admissible within courtroom because of the fact the actual trier associated with truth (whether Assess or even Court) can’t create a dedication regarding if the declarant had been sincere when creating the actual declaration. Although claims that be eligible because hearsay tend to be inadmissible within courtroom, there are lots of conditions that the courtroom enables.

Hearsay claims that come under a good exclusion tend to be the majority of very easily categorized in to 4 groups: Non-hearsay, Declarant Obtainable, Declarant Not available, as well as Information. The next may quickly clarify these types of groups in addition to supply a few of the conditions.

Non-hearsay is really a declaration which may or else be eligible because hearsay, however continues to be allowed from test (essentially a good exclusion with a various title). Both large non-hearsays tend to be: earlier claims with a see as well as entrance with a party-opponent. Earlier claims with a see from test may come within with the accounts of the third-party when the declaration was handed below pledge and it is sporadic using their present accounts or even if it’s in line with their own present accounts and it is on offer in order to rebut a good accusation associated with fabricating their own accounts. Additionally, the earlier declaration that was associated with determining someone else created following perceiving one is categorized because non-hearsay. Entrance with a party-opponent is actually the place where a third-party testifies regarding claims produced by the actual opposition celebration, on offer towards which opposition celebration. A typical instance of the will be a car incident exactly where 1 celebration admits obligation for that incident.

Even if the declarant can be obtained, claims becoming offered with a see could be inadmissible underneath the Hearsay Guideline, nevertheless you will find conditions that utilize. The most typical hearsay conditions that come under the actual Declarant Obtainable class tend to be the following: Existing feeling thoughts, fired up utterance after which current psychological, psychological, or even health. Existing feeling thoughts tend to be claims explaining a meeting whilst which occasion had been recognized through the declarant. Fired up utterances tend to be claims associated with the surprising occasion created as the declarant had been underneath the tension from the exhilaration brought on by the big event. After that current psychological, psychological, or even health claims tend to be claims produced by the actual declarant concerning their own after that current frame of mind, feeling, feeling, or even health. All these kinds of claims tend to be admissible because of the fact the actual courtroom thinks there’s a lower possibility of the actual declarant laying when creating the actual claims because of the character from the claims.

Declarant Not available is actually the place where a celebration wants in order to state regarding claims produced by the third-party who’s unavailable in the future in order to courtroom as well as state on their own. This particular class demands how the declarant end up being ‘unavailable’ because of the subsequent factors: the actual declarant is actually exempt through testifying, continues within neglecting in order to state, testifies in order to deficiencies in storage, not able to actually show up because of sickness or even passing away, or even the actual declarant is actually lacking and also the celebration may be not able to obtain their own work in the listening to. Below this particular class, the actual declarants lack can’t be brought on by the actual opposition celebration but still possess the claims are available in. The actual claims that are nevertheless allowed below these types of conditions consist of: previous accounts through the declarant, claims below perception associated with upcoming passing away, as well as claims towards curiosity. Previous accounts is actually allowed only when it had been below pledge and also the opposition celebration experienced the chance in order to cross-examine all of them. Claims below perception associated with impeding passing away doesn’t need passing away by itself, however simply the fact that passing away is actually close to. Lastly, claims towards pursuits tend to be claims that are therefore unlike the actual pecuniary and/or amazing curiosity from the declarant that the sensible individual wouldn’t possess created the actual declaration unless of course these people thought this to become accurate.

Information tend to be a type of accounts the place where a celebration efforts to provide the record associated with some sort because evidence regarding the issue declared within the record. The greater typical information utilized from test tend to be: documented remembrance, information associated with frequently carried out exercise (or even the actual lack of info within the exact same), or even Public record information. Documented remembrance is really a record that contains the memorandum regarding the issue the actual see as soon as experienced understanding of, however no more will. Information associated with frequently carried out exercise should be information held within the frequently carried out company exercise and it is the standard exercise from the company to maintain this kind of information. Additionally, the actual report should have already been created from or even close to the period from the occasion through somebody along with understanding of the big event. The actual lack of info within the exact same kind of report can also be admissible. Public record information tend to be paperwork associated with open public workplaces or even companies, environment on those activities from the open public workplace or even company, or even issues noticed pursuant towards the responsibility enforced legally regarding that issues there is the responsibility in order to statement. There’s also a number of other kinds of information that are admissible being an exclusion towards the Hearsay Guideline, such as relationship permit, baptismal records, loved ones information, paperwork impacting the eye within home, marketplace reviews, industrial magazines, and so on.

Because greatest since the post offers attemptedto clarify the actual Hearsay Guideline conditions, the truth is, it’s software within courtroom can be quite very subjective. Numerous experienced lawyer nevertheless possess difficulty identifying regardless of whether the hearsay exclusion is applicable or even not really. For any much better knowing regardless of whether any kind of hearsay will come in to your unique test and/or in the event that a good exclusion is applicable, consult with an area lawyer training in the region of the situation.

Like a Raleigh Felony Lawyer as well as Raleigh DUI Lawyer, I’ve experienced numerous as well as diverse encounters on the planet associated with Felony Rights. I’ve encounter upon each attributes from the ‘isle, a because I’ve been each the Felony Protection Lawyer in addition to a good Helper Area Lawyer. Earlier during my times from New york Main College College associated with Regulation, We created a good thinking about Felony Regulation. Particularly, the way the program depends on most of the open public lacking the nicely curved knowledge of the actual laws and regulations and also the Rights Program accustomed to impose all of them. Because of this, I’ve went after my personal fascinated right into a profession like a Felony Protection Lawyer exercising associated with Raleigh, New york. We opened up my very own lawyer, Matheson Regulation Workplace, using the purpose to be among Raleigh’s best Felony Protection Lawyers.

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Another big mistake made is assuming men care about the sentimental value of an object. Having spent a wonderful weekend in Italy with your significant other does not mean buying him a souvenir will automatically endear him to you. To the contrary, he might secretly think of you as frivolous.  

Men value different things in different ways. Reward or gratitude accompanying a gift is often valued more than the gift itself. In essence, if you give a man a gift and expect him to adore you for the effort, you have a lot to learn. But give a man a gift because he is so special and dependable, and you may just have given him a new purpose in life. In this case, making you happier. After all, you have just proven that such efforts would not be in vain and would in fact be rewarded.

Men expect to be told they are good at what they do. After all they spend a lot of energy in trying to be the best. This is one of the main drives to their ego. Men hardly ever assume that they are being praised, not real men in any case. So he needs to be told why you are giving him the gift to add meaning to it. What type of meaning you want to add is up to you. Just because you remembered his birthday does not mean that he thinks you are so cute for being this thoughtful.

So how should a woman approach the matter of gifting where men are concerned? The interests of the person receiving the gift should be foremost in your mind. Gifts should always be practical. A man is quickly irritated by pointless trinkets. So make sure the gift can either do something or is used for something. It really doesn’t matter what the gift is as long as it is functional.

Rather carefully consider the manner in which the gift is presented. You should try and keep the occasion as private as possible and during the exchange of the gift, care should be given to express your love and adoration of him. You might even go as far as downplaying the gift for being a poor comparison to all the things he has done for you.

                Now a lot of woman out there is going, hell no. But consider this, if you care enough to give him a gift, you might as well flatter him a bit. Men can easily be manipulated with flattery and the best part is they rarely realise when it is being done.

                Many women might be wondering, why go through all this trouble? The fact of the matter is, is he worth it or not? If he is and you do decide to go the extra mile you will soon know if you have a gem of a man or not. His reaction will clearly show this. Firstly he would be very flattered to receive such attention from you for something he sees as his duty and secondly he would increase his attempts at keeping you happy. When this is achieved, you will know that the man you are with is irreplaceable.

                A woman should never think such attentions would go unrewarded. If you reward a man for doing well, he will always try better. After all, when properly motivated a man might move mountains for you.

It speaks softly, normally. At other times, quickly and intensely. 

It defines who you are, what you’re going to be. It quietly decides the most delicate aspects of your life. Your innermost dreams, goals, and aspirations. Who will be your hope and your secret wishes. The soft touch that reminds you who you really are. This quiet little noise will inevitably decide who you will end up with. 

It’s a fickle thing. Easily broken, but ever so ready to take a chance. A chance to soar. A chance to become intertwined with such a thing that could so readily destroy it in a matter of seconds. It has an urge to find something. Something that makes it fly, even when it has no wings. Something that keeps it grounded even when the world beneath is falling out from under. 

It’s waiting for one moment. When something just clicks. When it can connect with another thing, such like itself. When it can relate and feel warm. When nothing in the world can keep it down. Dum-dum..Dum-dum…Dum-dum.. When it feels like it’s beating right out your chest.

It’s your heart whispering softly, calling out the name of the thing you desire most. Your soulmate, your love. Even if you haven’t found them yet, you’re heart already knows of theirs in such an intimate way.