The ‘father of psychology’ Sigmund Freud (1908) described a stage of psychosexual development, the Anal Stage, where children gain sexual pleasure from retaining a full bowel, or from excreting. He proposed that one could become fixated in this stage in adulthood as a result of childhood experiences of over-gratification or frustration of the act of excreting. This fixation, Freud theorised, was projected subtly through personality traits which he called the anal triad; obstinacy, parsimony and orderliness. These traits were described as defence mechanisms against earlier childhood toilet-training habits. Orderliness, coming from a desire to excrete at the correct time and place, referred to conscientiousness, reliability, and a concern with cleanliness; obstinacy, coming from a desire to refuse to excrete on parental order, involved stubbornness, wilfulness, and irascibility; and parsimony, coming from a desire to retain a full bowel, involved a tight and miserly way with money.  He claimed that adults act in this way as a reaction to their previous pleasures in filth and faecal retention. These traits have been discussed and embellished by other researchers who agree with Freud’s theory. For instance, Jones (1950) and Abraham (1923) describes obstinacy as being projected through a desire for control, orderliness through perfectionism and a desire for cleanliness, and parsimony through being tight with money, and through collecting. Jones went on to describe all collectors as ‘anal-erotics’.

Abraham (1921) and Reich (1933) expanded upon Freud’s anal character to include traits such as obsessive and compulsive characteristics and their relation to indecision, self-doubt and a lack of initiative. In 1950 Erikson expanded upon these ideas further, adding that excessive parental criticism resulted in an overemphasis of self-control and discipline. This relates nicely to the orderliness aspect of the anal triad, which is achieved through parental ruling.

Fromm (1947) led the anal personality away from the most graphic and biological descriptions it had come to know in the past, and instead described a ‘hoarding orientation’, one of his six personality types which had unmistakable anal personality traits such as orderliness, stinginess and pedantism.

Shapiro (1965) described a character we are much more familiar with today; the obsessive-compulsive character type, who is described as living by rigid rules and noticing the details of things rather than the bigger picture. The anal personality has been added to, edited and adapted in such a way that many now use the anal personality and obsessive-compulsive personality interchangeably.

From these different forms of the anal personality, it is clear to see that there has been a move towards someone who was not so fixated on extractions and faecal matter, but someone who still had many of the anal personality traits Freud described.

What evidence is there?

Research has found that, as Freud proposed, many of the personality traits described do correlate with each other. Sears (1939) found that measures of the anal triad did correlate with one another in adulthood, and Barnes (1952) supported this with evidence that orderliness, reliability and cleanliness all go together. Further support comes from Lazare, Klerman and Armor (1966) who devised a test of ‘obsessive personalities’ and found an inter-correlating set of anal traits. This evidence all suggests that an anal personality does exist, and Freud’s ideas on personality traits were quite accurate. Juni and Semel (1982) however, could only confirm the existence of the anal personality in men rather than women. They did, however, use the Rorschach ink-blot test (1921), which has been found to be extremely subjective and unreliable.

There is also some evidence that anal personality traits do actually link to the anus and faecal matter. Rosenwald et al (1966) studied defence mechanisms regarding the anal personality and proposed that subjects who performed poorly on a hand-eye coordination task in a medium resembling faecal matter could not successfully repress their anal impulses. They hypothesised that these subjects would be indecisive, and they found they had slower reaction times and a selective sensitivity to anal content than subjects who performed well on the task. This alone gives evidence for the anal personality, and it is further supported by a final element to their study where a questionnaire indicated greater discomfort in areas which are characteristically troublesome for anal personalities. This indicates that there is a link between the anal personality and concepts regarding the anus. Juni (1984) gives some support for this from a study which indicated that people who are compulsive had relatively high levels of disgust regarding people who steered away from the anal personality traits and who leaned towards more oral traits such as slurping their soup. Although this is some evidence that the anal personality does have a link with anal behaviours, there is relatively few studies to draw support from.

The disgust shown from anal personalities when regarding faecal matter may not be due to harsh toilet-training, however.  Hetherington and Brackbill (1963) found no correlation between toilet-training practices and measures of obstinacy and orderliness in five year olds, a finding supported by Sewell, Mussen and Harris (1955). There is very little evidence that the anal personality is linked to harsh toilet training. McClelland and Pilon (1982) discuss the possibility that the personality comes not from toilet-training, but from general strict parenting; toilet-training may be just one expression of this.

It seems to be that although there is little evidence for the Freudian causes of the anal personality, there is evidence that it exists, although it may now be referred to as obsessive-compulsive disorder. Indeed, the DSM-IV (APA, 2000) lists eight personality traits under obsessive-compulsive disorder which are extremely similar to the original traits of the anal triad.

A man or woman in charge, that is all love, love, responsibility, a super organized person, you have a good job earning high salaries not to suffer hardships, to have vacations and entertainment, with harmony and understanding in the home that will be.

The ideals are splendid, but it’s the disappointment that comes when your dreams do not go as planned, and you want an Adonis, your Prince Charming and married you join a frog that jumps to reality with its true form, given the environment in which they grew, which gives them a negative pattern of how they treated him or wanting to flee their homes to be free and not hear screaming or insults. The transformation of couples, go to live alongside dragging out his personality and character. It becomes a power struggle to see who tames whom, while living with a partner are coming to bear, but kill the love be told when they joined and as the years pass disappointment is rooted removing the submissive personality and prudent if loves, but lives depressed, taking it out on the stems or those around them. Without being emotional balance, not grounded in God who is love and protects the heart to love each other and form a team to enjoy the ideal home, durable, which exudes harmony, peace, tranquility, making children safe, successful, with hopes of fighting for the stability of the home of my memories, longing to return to you, no place under heaven sweeter than home truly Christ-centered

Becoming a more appealing person

It’s important that such a person learns to build on his social skills.  Essential is his ability to interact with others.  It is not enough to flit like a butterfly from person to person saying, “I’m your friend.  I love you”  It is not enough to do charitable work and pat yourself on the back and say that you are a good person.  It is not enough to participate in walkathons and be happy that you have joined the fight against the ravages of cancer or muscular dystrophy.  It is more than these things.  Your personality should bring you face to face with these problems in profound ways.  You should meet these with such maladies.  Listen to their stories – really listen, empathize  and be open in providing a helping hand.

Learn to be a good conversationalist.  Work on your speaking skills and enunciate your words properly.  Listen to those social leaders that you deem effective role models.  These could be discovered through talks, seminars and workshops.  Visit museums, art exhibitions, and the theater.  Be well informed about popular culture.  But try never to become despondent and bury your head in the sand like an ostrich.  Not everything you hear will be flattering nor suits your taste.  You do not have to agree with all opinion leaders, but you should strive to cultivate opinions of your own.  Hold on to the way that you view the world and look at it differently through a variety of prisms.  If something makes greater sense incorporate it in your belief system.

Expand your horizons

Learn new things.  Some people will attest to the fact that it is not too late to spread your wings to be those things that you never have been.  Did you always want to be an artist but never had the time to?  If so try dabbling in painting.  What about trying your hands at being a sculptor?  Learning to play that piano or guitar may reveal hidden talents or it could be just for fun.  What about picking up a new language?  Does French, Spanish, Arabic, or Mandarin sound appealing?

Develop your love of other cultures.  Do some traveling.  Which parts of the world did you always want to see.  Look into more profoundly how life and culture are in countries other than your own.  Let these discoveries tickle your imagination.  Obtain foreign recipe books and try out some dishes, or at least sample foreign cuisine especially in many urban areas where there are immigrants.  It is not unusual to find these restaurants, e.g., Italian, Greek, Chinese, Indian, Vietnamese, and Caribbean.

Cultivate your uniqueness

Stand your ground.  Be a person of integrity.  Do not lie, cheat, steal, and exploit others, or be “wishy washy.”  These will be many moments when you will be tempted to do so.  Resist it.  Believe in a higher power beyond yourself and keep searching for man’s elusive answers.  Continue asking questions like: Why are we here?  Why is pain in this world?  What forms do evil take?  What happens when we die?  Be familiar with religious figures, e.g., Spinoza, St. Augustine, etc.  Review the teachings of religious texts.  Have a basic understanding of the major religions of the world.  Delve into philosophy, ethics and science and take note of enlightening passages and contradictions.

Read fiction and non fiction works.  Purview history, art, medieval and modern literature, and enjoy romance novels.  Read for fun.  It does not always have to be profound.  Like a flower see yourself blossom like a beautiful sunflower on a summer’s day.  Take long walks outdoors along trails in public parks, or on the seashore.  Listen to the birds chirping and feel the wind as it caresses your face.

Always eat right. Get a good night’s sleep and be at peace while doing yoga exercises.  Never give up on life.  Always look on the bright side.  Embrace life with your own uniqueness and fully enjoy it and relate appropriately to the sad moments.  Such attitudes will foster the best that you have to offer of yourself, community, and the world.  It is your responsibility to enhance your personality.        

They say opposites attract, but do they stay together? Can two people who are so different stay together and honestly say that they are happy together? If someone had asked me this question a year ago I would have confidently said no, but I’ve since changed my mind through personal experience.

Me and my boyfriend couldn’t be more couldn’t be more different, most people didn’t expect as to last very long, well we’ve now been together for over a year. Even now though I am very aware of how different we actually are. For example I constantly plan for the future, whereas he is more than happy to go with the flow.

Have you ever stopped to think how different or alike you and your partner really are? Sometimes its very noticeable other times it isn’t. Does your differences pull you closer together? Or does it threaten to tear your relationship apart?

Do you share the same views on the important things or do you share different opinions? If you are so different then what do you feel and keeps you together and why? For some people being with someone who is very different from them works, for others in doesn’t and can mean the end of a relationship.  

Y is the overall personality Inger seeorangdalam behavior interact.

MAW Browwer personality is the way the behavior of individuals in day to day in the community

Theo dore M. New comb is the attitude of a person’s personality Dario behavior in society.

Roungk and warren bipologis personality factor is organization, psychological attitudes underlying psychological basis of behavior

koefjaraningrat keporibadian is the arrangement of the elements of mind and soul memnentukan seseorang.Jadi behavior is the way a person’s personality to interact include = attitude behavior, and habits in society.

Factors that shape the personality is

environment

surroundings

custom

Circumstances and conditions

experience

Typology of character traits

Kepribadia person is

realistic

Meaning = like physical strength

feature = shy

instance = farmers, builders

investigative

Meaning = relished the thought

Analyze the characteristics = like / want to know

Example = IR work, DU

social

Meaning = likes to help others

Cirri = easy to get along

Teachers = BK etc.

conventional

Meaning = love of the regulations clearly

Cirri = rigid

Enterfrising

Meaning = like activities affect others

Cirri = ambitious

Example = manager

Psychologists study such phenomena as perception, cognition, emotion, personality, behavior, and interpersonal relationships.

Psychology also refers to the application of such knowledge to various spheres of human activity, including issues related to daily life—e.g.

family, education, and work—and the treatment of mental health problems. Psychology is one of the behavioral sciences — a broad field that spans the social and natural sciences.

Psychology attempts to understand the role human behavior plays in social dynamics while incorporating physiological and neurological processes into its conceptions of mental functioning.

Psychology includes many sub-fields of study and application concerned with such areas as human development, sports, health, industry, law, and spirituality. Psychology describes and attempts to explain consciousness, behavior, and social interaction.

Empirical psychology is primarily devoted to describing human experience and behavior as it actually occurs.

Since the 1980s, psychology has begun to examine the relationship between consciousness and the brain or nervous system.

It is still not clear how these interact: does consciousness determine brain states or do brain states determine consciousness – or are both going on in various ways? There are several branches of psychology.

Comparative psychology refers to the study of the behavior and mental life of animals other than human beings.

It is related to disciplines outside of psychology that study animal behavior, such as ethology.

Although the field of psychology is primarily concerned with humans, the behavior and mental processes of animals is also an important part of psychological research, either as a subject in its own right (e.g., animal cognition and ethology), or with strong emphasis about evolutionary links, and somewhat more controversially, as a way of gaining an insight into human psychology by means of comparison or via animal models of emotional and behavior systems as seen in neuroscience of psychology. Personality psychology studies enduring psychological patterns of behavior, thought and emotion, commonly called an individual’s personality.

Mainly focusing on the development of the human mind through the life span, developmental psychology seeks to understand how people come to perceive, understand, and act within the world and how these processes change as they age.

This may focus on intellectual, cognitive, neural, social, or moral development.

Quantitative psychology involves the application of mathematical and statistical modeling in psychological research, and the development of statistical methods for analyzing and explaining behavioral data. Psychometrics is the field of psychology concerned with the theory and technique of psychological measurement, which includes the measurement of knowledge, abilities, attitudes, and personality traits.

The way you do the dance moves may disclose information about your personality, according to the scientists.

The dance floor is where many couples first time glanced at each other and now research shows that the floor is a perfect place to measure the potential mate’s personality.

Scientists claim that the way a person rotates in harmony music can unlock the secrets of his character. Similarly, as reported by the Telegraph

With personality tests, researchers classify the volunteers into five “types”. Then they observe how each member of each group danced to different music types. They found that:

The extrovert much to move his body on the dance floor and often with vigorous movements and exaggerated.

Neurotic people are dancing with a sharp movement and hands and legs twitching, a style that might be known by the wedding guests as a clubber and style “tap”.

Tend to have a pleasant personal dance style is more refined, moving from side to side dance floor while swinging the arms.

People who are open to other opinions or ideas tend to perform rhythmic movements up and down and not doing much other than motion.

Individuals who are cautious or obey a lot of moves on the dance floor, and also moving his hands with a wider range than the other dancers.

Dr. Geoff Luck of the University of Jyvaskyla in Finland, who led the research, said: “The music known to evoke strong emotions in people and emotions are expressed through body movement.

“People use body movements as a reliable indicator of personality type of others and even the movements of robots have been demonstrated showing the properties of ‘personality’ by the people who pay attention.”

The researchers studied the movement of the dance 60 volunteers who have been selected from 900 people who underwent a personality test. The dancers were chosen because it has a high value on one of the five main personality traits being studied.

Each volunteer was asked to dance spontaneously to 30 different songs from six different musical genres, namely rock, techno, Latin, jazz, funk and pop.

By using motion capture technology, the researchers recorded the dance style of all the volunteers as they listened to each music clip before analyzing the movement with computer software.

The researchers found a strong correlation between a particular dance style and every personality. They also found that each person dancing in a different way depending on the music.

Rock music tends to bring the conventional movements shake of the head, especially for those who are extroverted personality.

Those who have an open personality seems a lot more to do other than limb movements during play techno music.

Nice people who seem to move more confidently than others during play Latin music, on the other hand participants who carefully changed from the movement around the dance floor into a small jerky movements while listening to techno music.

Rock music seems to be the only genre that brings people out of shelters neurotic them other than that they tend to make little movements look jittery.

Dr. Luck, who is a researcher “movement associated with the music”, also known as dancing adds: “certain movements may be more representative of special schools in the way listeners tend to nod your head or tapping their feet while listening to jazz.

Michelle Groves who is associate dean of the faculty of education at the Royal Academy of Dance professionals say that the dancers are trained to express their emotions when they danced and tend to hide their personalities, but this would be less obvious to people who are not trained.

He said: “There are studies that show that the last time you can guess someone’s personality from the way she moves, but the study did not investigate about the dance.

“The professional dancers tend to have introverted personality, but they are very emotional when the show. It is an interesting difference of this research with people who are not training because of their personalities emerge more clearly and not made.

Dr. Peter Lovatt, who is a psychologist at the University of Hertfordshire and is a former professional dancer and dance moves that can convey subtle messages about what he thinks and feels those routes derived from our evolutionary history.

He said: “There is a general thought that the dance sequence associated with sexual selection and is part of the process of mate selection.

“We managed to get 14,000 people to describe their style of dance and dance we saw that change with age as their confidence in the dance changed.

“Self-esteem plays an important role in the way people danced. Respect for yourself also play an important role and this can affect a person’s personality.

  Yea, I know this sounds a bit cliché and frankly it is.  However, that being said, this is one important chapter and we must keep this thought in our minds as beauty is more then in the eye of the beholder and once you read this, you will understand the point being conveyed here.

We all perceive a beauty with virtue, kindness, honesty and worthiness.  Just as we perceive ugliness with contempt, and revulsion.   That is how we see both beauty and ugliness at first glance if you will.    Now here comes the true path to how we actually see beauty and for most of us it takes some time to perceive what actual beauty is.

We have and will meet countless  people throughout our life times, and during those times we will meet people we like and dislike.  Some will become friends, some will be lifelong friends and others will be an acquaintance or a business relation and so on and so forth.  Obviously the ones who have become friends are the ones we like.  

Usually we become attracted to a person when we first meet them it is safe to say that we are physically attracted them first hand.  Yes, when I say physically attracted, I don’t mean in a sexual way (although sometimes that may be the case) I mean we a drawn to that person by their looks and how those looks appeal to our own particular senses.    We automatically like that person at first glance and we may even be in awe or even intimidated by them if they are particularly attractive to us.   The same goes for someone who we are not attracted to at first glance or when we first meet them.  Automatically we associate them someone of whom is not deserving of our respect, its just human nature to feel that way.  However, that being said (and yes I love that saying, so I am going to use it quite a bit in this book and if you don’t like it then you don’t have to read it. So there you go.)  attractions such as this  can and will change once we get to know that person either for the good or the bad. 

We tend to judge first by what someone is without weighing the evidence of that person of who that person is.

Have you ever noticed and most of us have or will notice at sometimes in our lives, that when an extremely beautiful person who have a personality so bad that all of a sudden that person becomes ugly to you and that you have no desire to be around and when you are amongst them they become more and more ugly,  and it does not matter how stunning they may look on the outside, you come to the point where you have no attraction to that person and your sense of trepidation becomes one of trepidation towards them.   On that same token, if that person has what we call an awesome personality they become even more beautiful to us not simply because of their looks, but simply by virtue of how they make us feel when we are around them.  A truly beautiful person knows how to make others feel comfortable being around them and they attract more and more people to them.

An attractive personality is more important then being an attractive person.

 This same analogy applies to someone who is not attractive to us.  If that same person has a truly remarkable personality, then all of a sudden we see things in them that we may have never noticed before and the more we look at this person them more attractive they become to us and we come to truly like this person.  The same does apply if that unattractive person has that ugly personality they too become more unattractive to us.  Which brings us back to the old saying that “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” well it is all in the personality of the beheld.

And if you want to see what true beauty is on the inside, just watch this video.  This is a prime example of how we tend to pass judgement on those on first glance and how we discover the beauty inside afterwards

http://www.godvine.com/Shy-Boy-and-his-Friend-Shock-the-Audience-with-The-Prayer-Unbelievable-1318.html

 Just look at the latest  article by Ashley Judd, who blasted critics about her so called Puffy face.   Good for you Ashley, you are a beautiful women and the critics are just that: Critics who know nothing about nothing.

His biography reveals that Marc is known to carry with him the behavior of his father who easily gets angry when frustrated. It is known that Marc does not hold long to his job. He leaves his job every time he is not comfortable with it or with his colleagues.  Apart from this, he believes that he has a sense of pride when he leaves his former company and tried to seek another employment. The same satisfaction and pride might explain his choice to shoot people in his school.  He believes he can manipulate people through his power. This concept is reffered to as an intrinsic reinforcement which is another tenet of social learning theory.  It is noted that behaviors reinforced with certain rewards either intrinsic or extrinsic are likely to be easily learned and practiced by the observer (Siegel, 2007) in which Marc Lepine is no exemption.

Although, there are many other psychological theories that may explain the case of Marc Lepine, social learning theory could best explain it. His personalities are a result of his association with the key people considered to be the most influential at his young age.