What Kind Of Women are looking To Be Picked Up?

Before you go out and pick up women you need to know exactly what kind of women you are after. In this article we’ll be referring to picking up women for fun and one night stands. If you’re looking for a bit of fun then you should steer well clear of women who are looking for long time serious relationships. To try it on with this kind wouldn’t be fair on the woman in question.

Where To Find Single Available females

Most females who go out looking for no strings attached fun with guys can usually be found in…

• Bars

• Singles bars

• Holiday resorts

• Online dating / flirting sites

• Online chat programs such as MSN and Yahoo chat.

How To Attract Women

The best places to pick up women are bars in holiday resorts. Lots of single females on holiday looking for fun in the sun. For a male these conditions provide good hunting grounds. Firstly…

Calm the nerves: If you’re nervous have a couple of drinks. Make sure you don’t overdo it on the alcohol. You certainly don’t want to get too drunk. This’ll render you incapable of talking and getting it up if you score.

A numbers game: Go into the bar and eye up available females. Make sure they;re not accompanied by boyfriends or husbands etc.

Eye contact: Make eye contact with the girl. If she responds then smile. If she smiles back then move in. Go over and ask her if you can sit down and buy her a drink.

Small talk: Guys don’t make that fatal mistake of talking about yourself. Always try to talk about her, try to make her feel that you’re really interested in her. Don’t be too serious. A few one liners usually go down well. If you’re not a particularly interesting kind of a guy then spin a bit of BS. It’ll go along way.

Drinks: Keep her well topped up with drinks. This’ll loosen up her inhibitions.

Back To Your Place: If all goes well and she agrees take a taxi back to your place or her hotel and reap the rewards.

Following the above steps will help you to attract women. Remember always use protection!

There’s a ton of millionaires online teaching the art of picking up women, and I blame them for making it complex and difficult. You see, it is impossible to become rich by giving 1 page solutions to problems. These guys have to justify 400$ pricetag products, so they have to produce 40DVD sets. In order to justify 40DVD set products on such a simple product, they have to take small minutae detail that doesn’t matter, and make it seem important.

Picking up women follows the same principle as in all other areas of life… About 5% of the information is responsible for 95% of the results. You can go ahead and take huge courses that discuss the exact tonality to use, what line to say, and the exact hat to wear on a tuesday if picking up redheads, or… You can just come back to sanity and focus on what matters. I’m about to share it with you, so pay attention…

1) It will always be a numbers game.

So many guys make their life harder by trying to make women want them. But the sooner you realize that women choose, the sooner your life will be effortless. Your job as a man is not to make women want you. Your job is to be chosen by as many women as possible, and then take action when a woman shows signs of interest.

I have worked with the most famous pick-up masters in the world, and if you knew their rates, you’d never listen to them. They are only able to pick up 1 out of 50 random women they try to pick up. In essence, you can try to deny nature, and try to choose women, but its simply unnatural, as proven by the fact nobody has a higher than 2% ratio when it comes to the man choosing a woman to pick up. If she however chooses you first and shows interest? You’re looking at rates as high as 70-80%.

2) If you know women are the ones who choose, you will focus on becoming the guy that gets chosen.

Fortunately for you there’s a bunch of tricks that get you chosen that very few guys utilize… And here they are:

a) Going to enviroments with no male competition. The funny thing about female attraction mechanisms is that they’re relative. Whereas you as a guy choose a woman who’s attractive, a woman chooses the most attractive guy in the room. To you, an unnatractive girl will be unattractive even if she’s the only woman on a desert island. To women, a geeky, nerdy guy will be seen as a stud on an empty island, because their attraction mechanism is relative. They compare guys to other guys subconciously.

This is why you want to pick enviroments that have a lot of attractive women, and few guys. This includes volunteer groups, cooking classes, aerobics classes and many others. This is how you see geeky guys with ultra hot women

b) Jealousy and competition from other women. Another thing that women’s attraction mechanism has built in, is the need to get another woman’s man. Its actually been proven in scientific studies where they’ve shown a man is more attractive if he’s taken.

This is why you want to make as many female friends as you can. If you go out with them, you will find a lot more women choose you. It is odd, but you will find tons of hot women checking you out, staring you down etc… Guess what? Your odds of picking these women up is at 70-80%, which is much better than the measly 2% rate of trying to pick up random women who didn’t invite your approach.

Did I confuse you though? I hope not, but if I did, feel free to take the dating quiz, and find out what you personally need to change or improve to start picking up women.

The deal with beautiful women is they react very differently to the other women we are used to hang out with. These women get all the attention of the men all the time. Their everyday exposure to men allows them to read if the man approaching them is just another guy who is going to try and flirt unsuccessfully. Thus, once they see you’re just a sheep among the alpha male wolves, they close the door hard on your face.  The following will explain how you must behave to be the alpha male and attract beautiful women.

First, DO NOT even try to imitate a prince in the fairy-tale. In other words, do not kiss ass. Complementing them will only make it worse. After all, beautiful women get compliments all the time from men in a daily basis. They are sick of it. These mean nothing to them anymore. They do not need any more confirmation that they are beautiful; they already know they are. If you throw out a “Hey you look really beautiful in that dress” line, they will interpret you as a guy who just wants her to get laid. In a nutshell, do not show anything that well spell “I like you” out to her face.

Second, give her negative comments. Why? Beautiful women rarely get this. Throwing negative compliments at them will surely get their attention. Of course do not make it too harsh. You must also think about negative comments. Throwing a “Hey B*tch” will surely get you a slap on the face, literally.  For example, you see a beautiful woman in the bar, approach her and say “Hey aren’t you the zombie stripper from the movie Zombie Strippers?” To be clear, it’s not exactly a direct, premeditated insult aimed to hurt her. We are saying as if apparently, it’s just that she just looks like the zombie stripper from the movie! Another example is saying “Are those nails real? They look really fake to me”. These comments shatter the ego of the beautiful women. Thus, instead of them just replying a cold “Thanks” to a compliment, your negative comment will receive a reply such as “Huh? What did you say?!” or if you’re lucky she’ll give you a soft punch. Negative comments help send messages to the beautiful women that you are not interested in her and thus, she will be more than willing to continue a conversation with you.

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As a summary, since beautiful women behave very differently from other women, our approach to them must also be different. In the everyday of beautiful women, they receive compliments all the time.  They are sick of it. Thus, our approach must be the opposite – not kissing ass, not showing interest and by giving negative comments. These attract their attention into striking a conversation with you. By just changing your words, beautiful women will love your company.  Who knows, you might just get laid too.

That little intro is an example of mind-gone-blank syndrome, which is something a lot of men suffer from when they talk to women. They speak for a minute, then they just can’t think of a damn thing to say that won’t sound completely forced and boring. So let’s look at a little action plan that you can use to stop this from happening to you the next time you find yourself in conversation with a pretty lady… I mean a hot girl.

Tip #1: Learn some great stories

Preferably, make them your own. Don’t just create them like works of fiction. Think about great times you’ve had or unusual experiences from your past and create short, engaging stories out of them. Aim to have 5 locked in your head. For example:

“I was in this bar with my friend once and there was a sign on the wall that the nutty owned had put up saying, ‘No caps, hats, or helmets’. Anyway, my friend is bald…completely…and he wears hats all the time. He’s got one on. The owner tells him to take it off, but he says no, I won’t take it off. The owner gets all up in his face, irate and all. Why not? He yells. Because I’m bald and this hat takes up the same amount of physical space as a large haircut…that’s why! The owner didn’t know what the hell he meant, so he explained it to him in some detail. The owner thought he was just joking because he was drunk, but he was deadly serious…he felt he had a point. I was just sitting there like this…mouth wide open. It was one of the best things I’ve ever witnessed. Such a crazy argument.”

Don’t make the stories too long. Pack them with details and include a joke or two, or better yet, make the whole story sort of funny. If not funny, then make the story emotional. Like, talk about a road trip you went on with your friends and all day you were all arguing in the car and throwing stuff and wishing you hadn’t come and all. Then, right at the end of the day, you parked up in the middle of bloody nowhere and it was deadly quiet. No one was speaking, but not because you’d fallen out. There was this stillness in the air. The sun was setting and the clouds were glowing orange and almost purple. You all sat down together and from that point on the trip was incredible. You get the idea.

Tip #2: Get Good at Making Transitions

Once you’ve got the stories locked in your head and you’ve practiced telling them really well, you need to get good at transitioning into them mid-conversation. You don’t just want to launch into one randomly, otherwise it will look like you’ve been planning everything you want to say. Wait until the woman says something that relates to one of your stories. Or, you can create the transition by asking the woman if, say, she likes travelling. Encourage her to tell you about one of her trips, then you can tell her about YOURS…the good story you have, your ace in the hole.

Tip #3: Learn to Digress

The best conversations you can have with women are free-flowing and unstructured. When you and she get an idea in your heads, you run with it. You have fun. There’s no pressure to stick to certain topics for a certain amount of time. So, always remember this. Go with the flow. If she interrupts your story halfway through to ask you about a part of it, then you explain, then that leads onto something else that you can talk about that’s really fun, then go with it. Allow that to happen.

Using these tips, you should never be stuck for something to say when you’re talking to women. If you tell really good short stories, the woman will too. And if you can transition into and out of those shared stories…you’re on to a winner.

1. Approaching a beautiful woman isn’t hard. Any schmuck can do it. The difference is, they do it badly, and you’re going to learn how to do it successfully. It’s not about having the perfect pick up line. Women see those coming a mile away, and the only thing that they think about is “great, here comes anothing guy that just wants to sleep with me.”  The very first key to picking up a beautiful woman is putting sex completely out of your mind. Of course you want to sleep with her, but eventually. If you’re looking for that one night stand, just keep going for the women that you don’t want. Putting sex out of your mind makes you into something that women really want first. A friend that they can get to know. I know you don’t want to hear that, but that’s what a woman wants. She wants trust, conversation, and shared fun experiences. What she does not want is to be treated like a piece of meat.
2. Now that you have gotten sex out of your mind for the moment, it’s time to spot a woman that IS approachable.  If she’s around a large group of other women, she’s probably not wanting to be zoned in on. If she’s with a date, don’t try to grab her eye. If she’s with maybe one other women, looking around the bar or club, or sitting alone reading a book, then give it a try. What can it hurt. You have to be used to being turned down. But I’ll tell you this. The ones that are worth getting to know, and picking up, they will be receptive to what you bring with you.
3. The first and only way to physically approach a woman without freaking her out is to have something in common. Otherwise, they don’t really know why you are there, and probably getting scared and ready to pull out the mace.  Look for something that you can talk to her about. Maybe she’s reading a book by an author you like. She could have something you can talk about on her t-shirt, bag, on a jacket.  Anything that you can talk about that doesn’t make you look like a stalker. And if you use your head a little, you’ll come up with something to talk about. If you just jump right into meeting someone with a relationship on your mind, you’re shooting yourself in the foot. Talk about being out at a certain place, like the park you see her in, or the music store.  Be cool. Don’t sweat and stumble over your words. Pretend that you’re talking to a really good friend of yours. You have to be comfortable to be confident.  A woman gets more turned off from a scared, shaking man then she does by a dirty, smelly person.
4. Alright, now you’re talking to her. You brought up a subject that you are somewhat knowledgeable about, and you asked her opinion about it. Now listen to her. Ask leading questions about what she just said. If you ask her if she has always loved Star Wars, like the t-shirt she’s wearing, then ask her who her favorite character is. Ask her about which movie she loves. Listen to her and respond to her. Put the focus ON her, and her opinion. Lead the conversation further. You don’t want to be at a lost of what to say, so keep it interesting. I picked up a woman once by pointing out that I just loved watching people, and I got her laughing by making up stories about people walking by. She confessed to enjoying the same thing, and we sat there for thirty minutes just watching people walking by. I asked for her number and we spent the next seven months together. The point is, don’t be a doof by using some line. Don’t start complementing her. And stay confident and comfortable. Get her laughing, that always works. And please, don’t offend her.
5. Finally, it’s time to close the deal. Once you have her talking about herself, laughing, and staying comfortable in your company, it’s time to finally tell her that you wouldn’t mind talking longer.  The best way to do this is to suggest that you continue exactly what you’re doing at that moment, and the sooner you do it, the better. The same woman I picked up at the mall that day told me she had to get going when her friends came up to her. I suggested that I would like to keep people watching with her, and asked what she was doing that night. It so happened that she wasn’t busy, so I asked if she would like to meet me at a baseball game i had tickets to that night. Yeah, I had a pre-set plan, that wasn’t some boring dinner or a walk.  She agreed, and it was sealed that I would meet her at the gate at the ball game, and not alone somewhere. She felt comfortable, was excited about further conversation, and something stimulating to do.  I didn’t seriously ask her out until we had hung out in public three times.  I took my time, didn’t pressure her, and let her know that she was a great person that would make a great friend, but also that I was feeling something for her. Just remember this….it’s all about her until SHE makes it about you. 

So, follow these steps. Be comfortable talking and responding to a beautiful woman. Just remember, she’s a person just like you. And if she doesn’t have a boyfriend or husband, then she’s looking for one. And you could be it.