How did you have to cope with forgiving  someone?

Letting go is difficult no matter who it is the effect it has on an individual is painful  and often you don’t know where to start.

It can be of any  experiences, like for example, your bad childhood, if you had one, or neglect hurts you when a child and it never really heals completely, you are affected throughout your entire life.

Another which happens with many relationships, one of the partners lied about loving you

Your parents lied  to you about  your dog instead of telling you the truth they lied that the dog had run off but had died, and you worry yourself about it

Your son is a drug addict and he steals from you to buy drugs how do you  forgive that?

Your husband cheated on you years ago

Can you forgive someone on anything you still remember?

You were found guilty of a crime you didn’t commit, and no one justified it

If you were called a slut even though you were a virgin at that time

Keeping secrets

Being betrayed by a  best friend

Can you forgive September nine eleven?

A victim of abuse, like if you were raped or someone you knew was murdered

You sometimes have the hardest time forgiving yourself for the little things and can’t go back to fix them.  Though it will make a difference you still find it most difficult to apologise.

Technically you learn not to  forgive to your feelings, the hurt feelings makes you a stronger person

If a relative had  gained access to your banking account and taken all your funds

Is it hard to forgive your husband and your sister if  you caught  them red-handed in bed?

Let me know of your opinions and if you had to forgive any one.

How did you cope with forgiveness?

Instead of doing the inner work to sweep out the people and things causing you anguish, you learn to dolefully handle them. You become a victim to your situation; and the negativity allows you to continue to have a reason to think you are powerless over your life. And, you adapt to your life instead of making changes to it. You begin to anticipate your life being negative – you lose your sparkle for the day. You expect a headache and you get one. Your day to day is so negative you start to think yourself ill just to escape it for a moment. And, much like everything you think, you soon become ill often. It’s a vicious cycle you find yourself trapped in.

Let’s be honest, feeling ill or having a disease is not something anyone really wants to have. We want to be known for our accomplishments and to be appreciated for being us. We want attention and if we cannot get the positive reinforcements, we turn to the negative ones with open arms. We stop believing in our dreams. We allow them to be pushed in the background for things like friends, work, family, children, bills, etc. We wake up after sometime and barely recognize the person staring back at us. We start to hate our lives and find nothing really worth smiling over. We get comfortable with misery, and we toss our hands in the air. In fact, someone speaking positively about life is comical – they are just naïve right?

No, they aren’t naïve! You are! You are taking the easy route out. It’s easy to let the negative things in our everyday lives over run us, and fill us with doubt. It’s easy to settle for that “almost” perfect relationship where you find yourself crying more often than smiling. It’s easy to allow that friend to treat you badly than to stand up for yourself and ridding your world of them. It’s easy to spend money in order to cause yourself to continue to think about all the bills you have instead of saving and getting yourself out of the debt little by little. It’s easy to talk yourself out of picking healthier food because you have given up on ever losing weight from the impossible goals you set – You knew in six months unless you starved yourself you would not be a size two; and yet, you set them anyway. It’s easy to be negative in life. PERIOD.

Life is what you make it. You are never going to be positive or have a positive filled life without making the conscious decision to do it. It’s not going to come without tests and struggles, but if you are committed to the long term, you’ll be happier and in a better position than you are right now. For every decision in life there is a sacrifice and a gain. Sometimes the price is great, and other times it’s little. But, in regards to happiness, the only things you are losing are misery….why woulddn’t you give it up. You can always find something positive to relate to; just as you can easily find something negative to relate to. And, just saying you are positive is not being positive. It’s time you started really paying attention to your conversations, thoughts, and expectations.

These tools and techniques can change our inner representation of anything we are currently aware of, delivering a new relaxed inner feeling when we next encounter those things we have been having difficulty experiencing and accepting.   NLP can help us to react differently in the presence of such things as social awkwardness, lack of confidence, prolonged anxiety or mood swings, an inability to either do something in a relaxed fashion in the presence of others or to feel comfortable in those situations we have attached anxiety to.  

On becoming familiar with the techniques of NLP one acquires a readily available lifelong friend, offering a positive alternative to inability.

Although NLP is used widely in the business world because of its ability to deliver effective solutions and enhance behaviour in any situation, it is an extremely beneficial tool for self help and self discovery.

One can discover his/her conflicting parts through using the tools of NLP and instead achieve an inner tranquillity.   This tranquillity can then rub off on others, since moods are contagious. The more relaxed and level headed you are, the more likely other people are to respond in this same way.

Before embarking on an NLP course it is advisable to read up on the subject as it can be quite involved and overload your mind with new techniques.  However, if you take the time to sort the information into categories and study them individually, you will become efficient at identifying them on their own merits and acquire the ability to identify which tool is best for which situation.  

There are many very informative books available explaining the techniques and applications of NLP.   As in most subjects, if not all, actually being involved with other people, engaging in the technique and experiencing the affects and results of NLP first hand is invaluable to acquiring an in-depth knowledge and understanding of the subject.

For those who find the teachings of NLP a lot to absorb and initiate, choosing one or two of the many tools available and applying them to any issue will deliver new realisations about that subject and open up your awareness to new ways of dealing in its presence.  

It’s a good idea to start reading up on NLP now that you are already realising it has many valuable applications.   Your mind will absorb the information readily now that it has become awakened to an interest in the subject.   

NLP offers a life changing experience and a remarkable journey of self discovery.   If you have ever felt excited about travelling to somewhere you have never been before, then you will identify this could be the journey of a lifetime.

People are happy without negativity, like being underwater, once you let go, it all comes back to the surface.
 
Being successful makes  you feel best.
 
 
Lack of Vision
 
A lack of vision holds one back from being successful, you have this clear mind about what it means to be successful,  but it is not about having  a fancy home and a car, but about  the life that you truly need.
 
 
Negative Expectations
 
 
You think negative about yourself, not being good enough to accomplish your dreams, some don’t believe in affirmations. 
Positivity makes you feel good and do good too.
 
Blame
 
Don’t blame others, show your responsibility whatever you have done in the past can be forgiven.
The only one suffering from you blaming others is you.
 
Negative Beliefs
 
People have their own set of beliefs, learn of what yours and let each go, don’t think of it.
Most people like their negative beliefs so  letting go is not easy, because they have benefits and feel used to these beliefs.
 
 
Familiarity

Everyone is held back with familiarity, this is of your comfort and safeness. You are scared to move on. It is normal to be  uncomfortable when making a change,  it is all part of what you do.
 
 
No Trust
 
You must learn to have faith in what you do, trusting the process is how you exactly earn more from life.
Only you know what is right for  yourself.
 
 
Lack of Focus

Your lack of focus holds you from success, you can’t achieve  goals if you don’t focus on  what you want.
The more you focus on your goals, you wil show great improvement.
 
Wrong View of Happiness
 
Happiness comes within, not outside, whatever makes you happy go for it.
 
 
Settling for Mediocrity
 
Mediocrity go together with familiarity, it is when you only feel up  until the moment you decided to become successful.
 
All of what you believe in is just a map and the map is never the territory.
 
 
Passion Procrastination
 
You become successful if you enjoy what you do, being passionate about your achievements.
Those who hate what they do are successful but will hate that kind of life.
 
To be a success, you got to love what you do it is not about money,  more about feeling good, and showing fulfillment.
When you love what you do the money tends to  follow, with outrageous successes you can make your decision about how you want to be.

Not everybody has the gift of being able to see the positive side of things, some consider this as a waste of time but what harm will it do? Most of the people who use this gift do not know how to achieve thins from it, this article will teach you just how to do that.

It is very common to hear people telling you to “Think positive!” when your in a bad situation or if you are feeling down and worried, the probably don’t know what the power of positive thinking themselves. How many people do you know actually know the true power of positive thinking and how to achieve great things from it?

Here is an example;

Danielle applied for a new job, but her self-esteem and her confidence were both low and she also considered herself a failure at everything she was sure that she would not succeed in getting the job, she had a negative attitude and believed that the other applicants were better and much more qualified than her, of course, this also made her very miserable most of the time. She was so sure he would get rejected on the spot…

The day of the interview she woke up late to find out that the blouse she was planning on wearing was dirty and creased. As she had already woke after the interview was due to take place she had already given a bad image, turning up to the interview with a stained and wrinkly blouse just ruined it even more.

Annie also applied for the same job, but cleverly Annie woke up an hour before the interview and had ironed her shirt in advance the day before…

Annie had the exact same qualifications as Danielle but gave a positive impression because she looked smart and turned up for the interview ten minutes early, Annie was also thinking positive and that was the icing on the cake. Annie had got the job, maybe if Danielle’s body language was more positive should would have increased her chances of getting the job.

There is no harm in thinking positive, try it, it isn’t harmful.

The person  you love and care about  has certain addictions, it is difficult to stand by and do nothing, you want to help but don’t know how.

Substance addiction, verbal or physical abuse, eating disorders, or negative attitudes  can  take control of an individual’s life.

Don’t Embarrass Them – Provide Security

You should approach someone with a problem privately, don’t shout it out in public, yelling at your husband about his drinking problem  in the presence of others won’t stimulate a positive outcome.

Be wise about your timing, provide security for the person, comfort, and express your opinions safely.

Don’t Talk Too Much – Listen

Rather listen instead of chirping away, the person involved needs to be listened to,  not lectured to of the problem. The realization of admitting to failure a solution is not required be encouraging and open in your communication.

Don’t Discourage – Encourage

Have an open-minded conversation,  the concerns should be openly expressed and in a positive manner, there shouldn’t be fear or the  feeling rejection. Don’t negate their feelings, if you discourage and reject personal feelings you are automatically being judgemental. You wouldn’t want to steer the conversation in the opposite direction.

Don’t Argue – Understand

You may want to  start the conversation with your own opinions and ideas, try be neutral, allow the other person to open up to you, if you disagree on a subject, show understanding and see why they feel that way. Be positive and caring in situations.

Don’t Expect A Miracle – Be Patient

When confronting someone about a behaviour problem be patient,  you can’t  change old habits over night, it is not easy to admit one has a addiction talking about it is uncomfortable. Sometimes the time is never right allow time for conversation.

Don’t Be Ignorant – Be Informed

Have an idea of what  to talk about and be informed of the problem before getting into it.  Be knowledgeable of the topic it will be easier.  Do your research  to learn of the issue, you need to be all clued up about the behaviour.

Don’t Be A Hero – Be A Friend

Learn to be able to deal with the confrontation, as much as you want to fix the problem you are a bystander in their life and only they can decide what to do. Be a the best friend you can it will help the most, don’t ignore or avoid helping as a friend.

Being a friend is very important to your loved ones, show concern and never give up. Work together wherever possible.

Committed, you  make your audience well stimulated into your information getting people thinking of what you are speaking of and allow them to talk, as you are committed in changing their lives, and in the process forget about the rest of  what is going on around you.

Divorce, one can pull the trigger on divorce very quickly, but you fail to see that you got to get a divorce, and earn your way out by doing all the work, try turn over every stone and see this from every avenue, think  about it before you decide to quit.

The worst anyone can do is to suffer with no meaning and no purpose

You have critical choices in life and that is of planning your goals, what you do with your present and future is important leave the past behind, that is where it should stay. The future hasn’t happened and  your focus should be  now.

Give yourself what you wish don’t forget about you.

Parents got to do whatever they can to protect their children and sometimes this is even from themselves.

You should trust yourself not someone who has your heart of interest.

Never fade away from the truth teen crisis in America is one of the biggest in the history.

You can only be you with a  lifestyle, this has to be internally and externally, and it is a support of your definition.

To want more of anything life, you got to do this by  getting more from yourself.

At times you decide right for you and other times you make the decision right.

Your failure is  of no accident, by altering yourself, difficulties are met.

Your true character is not about how much you of performing  a task but about the way you behave in not knowing what to do.

Life is full  of surprises you never know  when  or how things can change, if  you appreciate what you have and strive for your goals it will  be well achieved. 

Low self esteem can be improved now a day. Few regular practices of certain habits help in developing this situation.

• Do not criticize yourself. It simply creates a negative impact in the psychological state.

• Fix your goal or have a specific aim. Having a specific goal makes someone to drive to one direction. Try to work for meeting your goal and in a regular fashion have the review your progress. This helps in moving progressive.

• Maintain the momentum of your action plans.

• Start believing that your strength will really help you to go ahead.

• Read self improvement books more and more. They are really good sources of motivation.

• Think progressive and on meeting every landmarks of your goal, try to have satisfaction.

• Relax in a periodical gap from your work. It will recharge your spirit to your mission.

• Avoid thinking about your weak points. Rather start thinking that your weaknesses are gone and you are simply progressive.

• Have self confidence and have self respect. Start accepting yourself more.

Self esteem is a very important thing in our life. It affects in our acts, our beliefs and our performances. Low esteem can bring only negativity in our life. By practicing the above tips we can improve our esteem level.

Dreaming is an exercise that comes to different people in
different means. Some people dream while in a trance while others encounter
theirs while asleep. But the kind of dream I’m talking about here is that dream
you see in your mind’s eye’s. That dream that makes you smile to yourself and
make people not to believe you and in you.

You happen to be the only person that believes in yourself.
Remember the Wright brothers who dreamt about airplane – a flying mechanism and
machine that would transport human beings from one location to another. Theirs
was the kind of dream I’m talking about here today. The dream that would make
your doubters embrace you and eulogize you to the high heavens knowing that you
have positively imparted humanity.

From the foregoing, I want to give my own definition of who
a dreamer is. A dreamer in this context is an achiever with ideas to make
his/her life better and ends up affecting the rest of humanity positively with
their positive approach to their ideas.

Dreamers are never-say-dies. Nothing puts them down. They do
not scare at all until they accomplish their dream of success.

That is why you must not quit as you know quitters are sore
losers who never amount to anything in life as they have personal devils
tormenting them and ruining their God-given talent from being of great value to
humanity.

I always write about people making use of their talents to
impart humanity. It is what God has blessed you with and you must search
yourself to figure out your own talent. Every human being is having it in them
so don’t go believing that you do not have yours as you must make impart before
your time is up here on earth.

If we all believe and contribute our individual quotas, the
world will definitely be a better place for all. Make that change of heart
today and dare to dream, as dreamers are the best things to have happened to
humanity.