Values, traditions, pre-determined formulas of years, the sayings of the old, proverbs, golden sayings even the universal truths, today nothing is 100% for sure. The yesterdays theory can be proved false today and today’s experience can be proved wrong tomorrow. The advancement of science and education has changed the structure of the world.

Now people are following new thoughts, imaginations and modern philosophy such as in the Europe and in many developing countries, physical expression is considered more effective than verbal. Especially in the elite class “body language” has acquired the shape of a regular art. Who would bother choosing the adequate and beautiful words from the store of millions of words, is it not better making use of smile, shaking hands or embracing excitedly? Now this way is becoming customary.

The communication professor George Foster of Washington University also determines “body language” the successful method of the present era. She says, “You cannot recollect such effective and beautiful words in few seconds that can give you required results, whereas the hand-shake of few seconds can produce results beyond your expectations. The reason for it is that every person seeks full attention and sincerity from his opponent regardless of his rank and that is certainly expressed from stepping ahead and shaking hands.”

Similarly, one of the public relations experts woman of Britain Salena Arthur who teaches methods of communication and renders services of uplifting the latent capabilities of the business community says “You cannot achieve tenacity in your relations unless your palm does not touches the opponent’s palm completely.”

Petty Wood says that “It takes only 90 seconds for any person setting any concept about you in the first meeting and if these 90 seconds are those in which you are shaking hands excitedly then this act will go into your favor, especially if you are going to deal some business matters, it would be a first ladder of your success.”

Petty Wood also opines that more effective implications can be put by shaking hands zealously or embracing in the similar manner instead of using thousands of words. By the way it is also comparatively easier and less time-consuming way. An identity of a good business man is that he leaves such an effective impression in his first meeting that compels other to meet him again.

Regardless of the result the first 90 seconds of every business meeting are very important and sometimes these 90 seconds makes you millionaire.

When we take support of words in an interview, the listeners examines our whole personality by judging our expressions, ascending and descending of our voice tone, the acts of our hands etc and determines some opinion about ourselves. Sometimes, in these situations we express some such expressions unwillingly that are not in favor of our business relations.

Although body language itself also does not have expertise in expressing pleasant or unpleasant expressions but there is one quality of this language, you have more opportunities of masking your face or changing yourself according to the circumstances. That means if we wish the opponent would not feel about our displeasure of his arrival or speech, we can conceal it by just keeping silent and shaking hands with the same enthusiasm at the time of departure, this will be considered as a wonderful business tactic.

Actually, physical expression is a regular art, about which few people are aware of. On the other hand, if this method would also gain popularity, it would also lose its effectiveness like verbal expression. People who are aware of the art of body language can read the internal matters of the opponent with his little smile. But, even then the experts of body language can deceit the opponent easily.

There is lot of difference is judging by the saying of any person “I am confident” and judging his confidence by his expressions but the fact is that face is more reliable than words provided you have expertise in reading body language, otherwise you may be risking great cheating.

“Body language” is an ancient art, although researches were carried out in the mid of 20th century, when a book “An introduction to acts and actions” of Ray Berdastal introduced in the market. Afterwards many such books started coming at intervals and gaining popularity, especially Nany Armstrong’s book “How can the human expressions be recognized and conveyed to others?” gain unbeatable popularity. The subject of body language was described in detail in this book.

In this book nature and human habits are also described profoundly. For instance how people overweigh others, how some people show sincerity without having in reality, what is the reason of pressing hand without any reason? What does eye hints and several body actions depicts? All such things are described in this book.

As regards to body language a famous writer Foster also detailed the vague body language. He says,

“What I see the biggest flaw in the expression of body language is the vague body language expression. This method often makes you dubious. It can also develop doubts and false assumptions. Personally I am totally against the vague body language. Today when actions are noted more than words such as when you are giving interview for a job, the members of the board keep an eye on your acts rather than your words, therefore in this case what is the need of using vague expression method? What you want to say, express it openly so that no doubts would be created in the mind of the listener.”

The body language experts have also developed many methods for youth to achieve success by means of body language. For e.g. Wood says, “If you go for an interview at some place, the initial 10 seconds when you go walking and sit in front of the board, your confidence should remain intact during all this time. Your steps should be put at the same place where you want to be and then going and sitting on the chair is utmost important.”

The foundation of your bright future is going to be put from this point. Likewise, soft and friendly smile all the time on your face is a guarantee of confidence. Wood says to shake hands enthusiastically at the time of arrival and departure. This is a guarantee of any successful meeting.

Similarly, according to an expert putting hand on the shoulder is considered to be a childish act but it is not necessary. This act is an indication of confidence as well. Such as some people think about a person, who avoids eye-contact while talking perhaps he is doing so because of respect but in my opinion such a person is suspicious. What is the use of extra respect of any person? Yes, if the opponent is an aged person or a woman, then it can be understood. Foster and Wood both are of the same opinion regarding vague or suspicious way of expression.

In their opinion if any person continue adopting vague way of expression, then there is no harm is asking from him (whether politely) “What he wants to say?” Especially if any man or woman adopt this kind of attitude then may be he is doing so unintentionally and if doing so intentionally, there is no harm in asking him strictly, whereas it is a basic right of every woman.

Today “Body Language” is considered an authentic way of expression all over the world. This custom is also making its root rapidly in developing countries as well. Such programs are broadcasting on the electronic media nowadays where hosts make use of hands and face expressions more than words in order to describe their point of view.

Some while ago this method was not prevailing but today it is considered an identity of a successful host. In this way they succeed in displaying themselves more confident and at any place their tongue fluctuated, liberal hand actions are there to support words.

In order to master this art, you can take help from several books and internet. There is no doubt this art is proving very helpful in proving your importance and getting successes. However, “Smile” and “Enthusiasm” are the basic pillars of it. If you get awareness of using it correctly then other comparatively small milestones are achieved automatically.

We recommend to youngsters to start making effort of reading people faces and then examine your estimations from today and also sometimes speak without using words to see if the opponent is getting to the base of your talk or not. Make yourself habitual, a day will come when you will not only become expert in this art but also start climbing the ladder of success.

Because in today’s modern and hasty world, your body language is also being made the gauge of judging your personality due to shortage of time and if your body language is supporting you then the same act would be the first step of your success.

By Muhammad Irfan Zafar

Content Writer

In the crux of this passage, the real question that is imposed is within verse 3, “What does man gain by all the toil at which he toils under the sun?”  This question is imposed unto man’s work, and how useful it truly becomes.  The cycle of life continues, and yet, there is still work that needs to get redone, the life cycles continues on earth, and what may seem a beginning or an end in this world continues in a constant cycle. 

I find that even if you do not have an aptitude for science, you can still develop an understanding on how the Coriolis Effect changes wind and cloud patterns; the water cycle continues on this earth, whether it may come from a mountain stream flowing down to the ocean, only for the rain to return this pattern.   Where does life go, even if the earth continues?  This is where the teacher is developing the ideal that, “there is nothing new under the sun” (v. 9, ESV).

Where should life begin and end?  This is a tragedy of the world.  Where is our life if we know that our endless toil can end to waste if not truly cared for?  If man does not prepare for the future generations, then the toil of man will have gone to waste. 

Here are some takeaways from this Ecclesiastes 1:1-11. 

What are you doing that is causing you to chase circles? 

Is there a break to these cycles?

Are you trying to search for an answer and cannot find it? 

Where do you find solace and how does it contribute?

1. Appropriate Words: words that come naturally, that run smoothly upon wheels, that are not forced, and that are without design to hurt are like apples of gold upon carving silver.

2. Reproving Words: words of a wise reprover to an obedient ear like the most beautiful and cherished ornaments of fine gold to a refined and beautiful woman.

3. Refreshing Words: words of a faithful messenger are a refreshing and satisfying as a drink cooled by the snow in the heat of the harvest labor.

4. Vain Words: words of the boaster are as disappointing as clouds without rain.

5. Kind Words: by words of kindness, understanding, and longsuffering a judge is persuaded- as easily as a soft answer overcomes obstinacy in others.

Remember your words shape your life. Choose right words everyday. Close your ear from bad words.

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“Men anpil, chay pa lou.” – Many hands make the load lighter.
“Anpil ti patat fè chay.” – A lot of small potatoes make a load.
“Avan ou ri moun bwete, gade jan ou mache.” – Before you laugh at those who limp, check the way you walk.
“Bèl anfòm pa vle di la sante.” – Pretty and in shape do not mean healthy.
“Je wè, bouch pè.” – The eyes see, the mouth is afraid.
“Pa pale sa ou pa we ak prop je ou.” – Never talk about something that you have not seen with your own eyes.
“Pa pèdi founo pou yon sèl pen.” – Do not lose your oven over just one bread.
“Padon pa geri maleng.” – Forgiveness does not cure illness.
“Pi gran nèg se moun ki fè respè-l.” – The greatest man is the man who shows respect.

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“Pito ou mize ou nan wout, ou pote bon nouvèl.” – Better to take your time on the way, if you bring good news.

“Tande ak wè se de.” – To hear and to see are two different things.

The way we conduct our affairs at our business, at work, and at home is the key to prosperity.  No more can we be led by the flesh and expect for God to bless us.  When we operate under the flesh, we cannot do the things that we should, as it says in Galatians 5:17 (“For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other; so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.”)

Christians, whether they are business owners or have jobs, learn through a relationship with Jesus how to treat people.  If we follow his example, then we should begin to see major changes in our lives and more profits in our business, regardless of the times in which we are living.  We need wisdom in order to do this.  Wisdom involves doing the right things at the right time with the right people.

Proverbs 2:6 says, “For the Lord giveth wisdom; out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding.”  If we study the life of Jesus, we will see that he had wisdom, knowledge and understand.  We must begin to act with wisdom, and gain knowledge and understanding of our business, our circumstances, and the people with whom we come into contact.  We can no longer continue operating under the flesh, but with righteousness judgment and equity in our dealings, (Proverbs 2:9).  We must make a conscious radical change in our thinking and in our actions.  God’s wisdom must operate in all of our decisions. 

If we lack the wisdom, we can pray for it.  James 1:5 says, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given to him.”  No matter what walk of life you come from, you can change it by making a conscious effort to walk in wisdom.  The early settlers of the United States taught students how to run a business using the book of Proverbs,which contains many rules for making sound business decisions.

The insults, the lack of consideration for others, the pride, the selfishness, the jealousy and selfish ambition have to stop.  God does not bless this behavior, he hates it.  We have to find ways of showing grace to others who are falling short, because that is how God treats us.

I am noticing some changes in my own life because of this and I am looking forward to even more blessings as I acquire more of God’s wisdom.  This is possible for everyone regardless of your walk in life because “God is no respecter of persons” and we are sons and daughters of God.  Obedience to his commands will bring us into receiving his promises.  We have to begin to do the things that he requires of us.

Albanian: Ai që përton sot, pendohet mot. –Vlorë
English: Who is lazy today, regrets it later.

Albanian: Gjykon puna, s’gjykon guna. –Librazhd
English: You are judged by the work, not by the clothes (appearance).

•          A sun will shine on those who are standing before it shine on those who squat.(A Nigerian prov)

•         A patient dog eats the fattest bone at last for It pays to wait,

•          A whisperer separates chief friends, for a  gossiper destroys a nation.

•          Currency of life is TIME,yesterday is in the TOMB and tomorrow is in the WOMB.The only place you will ever be as you are alive is TODAY. 

•           When wrong leaves your life,wrong things stop happening.

•          The hunter does know that he would eat the antelope’s head,he would have prepared it very well. (Ghanaian prov)

•           A child does crack a snail but does not crack a tortoise.(Ghanaian prov)

•           The lion said”it is common to complain but uncommon to endure”.

•           A child dines with elders when has learn to wash his hands well.(Ghanaian prov) 

•           No one shows the Supreme Being to a child. (Ghanaian prov

•           If you want to say something to God,say it to the wind.(Ghanaian prov)

•           God drives away the insects from a tailless animal.(Ghanaian prov)

•           wisdom is not in the head of one person.

•          If someone looks after you to grow your teeth,you must also look after him or her to lose his or her teeth.

•         To possess a virtue is better than gold.

•         Knowledge is the baobab tree;no one person can embrace it.

•        When an adult knows how to walk with children,they happily carry his or her traveling bag for him or her.
•       The tortoise said “hands goes and hands comes”
•       Beauty does not pay off a debt.

All this is admitted by everyone. Yet no other method of testing students on a mass scale has yet been devised. So, examinations have become a necessary evil! If there were no examinations, it is likely that the majority of students would not bother to study at all. We would never be able to separate the brilliant students from the average ones. Then whom would we select for higher professional training?.

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We expect a handsome person to behave in a genteel way. We are pained and surprised when such person turns out to be rude and mean. On the other hand, a person with plain, simple, ordinary looks can behave quite endearingly and you can learn to love and respect that person more than you would a stunningly attractive person. So, never judge a book by its cover, but by its content.

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