Girls are not as complicated as men think. Now if you follow these very simple rules you will become the perfect boyfriend in a matter of weeks.

Make Her Laugh – Every girl loves a funny guy, throw a few jokes her way and she’ll be yours before you know it.

Don’t Be A Fool In Front Of Your Friends – Some guys will at different in front of their friends, which is fine. But if your girlfriend is present try not to leave her out or act like a complete jerk.

Be Sensitive To Her Feelings – Take the time to listen to her and care about how she feels, it will make her feel loved even if you haven’t said those three magic words yet.

Be Honest – This is the key to any successful relationship, without it you will have nothing. Its also not a good idea to begin a relationship with lies.

Surprise Her Once In A while – It doesn’t have to be anything huge, send a sweet text message, buy her favorite chocolate bar. Women love the little things their men do for them, and believe me they remember it.

There you have it the starting point to becoming the perfect boyfriend. Look out for my other article, how to be the perfect girlfriend coming soon.

Let’s look at the three main compatibilities between two people. The first obviously would be physical. There must be at least some form of physical attraction for two people to be together in a normal, sexual adult relationship. That said, the two people find comfort, and pleasure in each other’s bodies to an extent that they both need each other, and ‘want’ each other equally. For sex to be pleasurable both people need to be compatible to a point that they satisfy each other’s needs. This is physical compatibility. The degree by which physical compatibility plays within the relationship varies, and is based upon individual couples and their values. Personally speaking I’m very broad in what I consider physically compatible, as I like women no matter their body shape, given that they have beautiful eyes, and a nice smile.

The second compatibility is mental. That is intellectual compatibility. I’ve read that people of vastly contrasting intellectual capacity could never live together successfully. I can tell you now from personal experience, that it’s very wrong. My girlfriend has an intellectual disability, and despite being a grown 18 year old woman, she has the intellectual capacity of an adolescent. I’m far superior to her intellectually but yet I don’t see her disability as a barrier within the relationship. I see it as a blessing in a way that I get to nurture her more, and we get brought closer through me helping her and guiding her in life. Although mental compatibility is nice if you wish to share a more common intellectual ground with your partner, it is by no means a necessity. The one that’s more intelligent should always care for the other one. You never give up on somebody just because they are not as smart as you, or if they lack mental confidence in life. Instead you should become their rock, and help them improve themselves through life experience and nurturing.

The third and most important is the major building block within a relationship, it’s also the quality I have focused upon the most in this article; emotional compatibility. If two people are not emotionally compatible within a relationship they will lack what should be the very backbone of a relationship. Couples should share a common emotional requirement and investment within the relationship. If one invests their emotion, whilst the other doesn’t, then the end is usually near. The couple must share the same emotional needs and values, and must respect those needs of each other equally. Emotion is the bedrock that a relationship is built upon, and it must play the same role in both of your lives. Neglecting this would result in a very short lived relationship. If one is emotionally distant, whilst the other needs emotional security and nurturing, then all other physical and mental compatibilities lose their value, and the special bond between the two will crumble. Emotional compatibility will also be the most difficult quality to come by, or even discover in a relationship, as it requires two people that are both equally attuned to their emotional state, that understand themselves equally, and seek the same emotional environment in a relationship.

I hope that this article reflects my thoughts clearly as I help you better understand the sheer importance of emotional compatibility within a relationship. Thank you.

Do Your Part

This sounds like an obligation, and it is, but it should be easy.  Being in a relationship implies that there is a mutual understanding or expectation of conduct which usually comes in the from of how one ought to relate to the other.  Again, if both people love each other this should flow more naturally.

A long distance relationships, like any other kind of relationship, is advanced through communication and contact.  The long distance constrains this to such things as letters, phone calls, instant messaging, online social sites, and so on.

This means that in a long distance relationship, one ought to stride to contact the other person on a regular basis through these means.  If one is busy, one ought to make time.  Remember, this is how the relationship will be advanced and experienced, so the degree to which two people will have a relationship during the distance is determined by the degree to which the two contact each other.  Regular contact is very important.

Variety is the spice of life.  If one calls the other person everyday at two in the afternoon, that’s great, and it would be even better if a few emails were sent out every now and then or even a few calls here and there at different times.  It’s nice when one can expect contact from one’s other at any time or can at least expect something more than a mere routine and habitual relating.

Be Aware of the Other’s Dimensions

As human beings, we can often have many layers and even many minds.  We can receive input and give output in a variety of senses and methods.  Without getting to far into this for the moment, there are a few things to be aware of in this line of thought for long distance relationships.

There are stories of couples who went through a long distance relationship and then upon meeting found the other person to be intolerable.  A couple could meet and stay in touch via email and get along very well but then, upon meeting, find that they can’t get along at all.  How could this be?

Corresponding by writing is all good and fine.  One should be aware though that it is a limited experience; the other person’s voice cannot be heard, the eyes cannot be seen, and all the other nonverbal communication is lost.  Getting to know what a person is like by email is like trying to figure out what someone looks like by looking at pictures of that person’s shadow.

This limited ability to fully experience the other person is one of the most difficult parts of long distance relationships, and one should be aware of this.  One should strive to enrich the communication as much as possible.  Instant messaging is better than just emailing, because instant messaging tends to be more casual and personable.  Calling is better yet because the voice can be heard.  Video chatting is better yet because the face and voice can be experienced.  One should be creative and resourceful in communication, and know that nothing beats actually being with the person face to face.  If the distance isn’t too far, a weekend visit will prove valuable to see what the other person is truly like “in person” and whether a future with this person is feasible since many more dimensions of that person can be experienced in this way.

Even if all one can do is email or write letters, stay positive.  Any contact at all is worlds better than no contact.  One should make good use of the resources available so that one can experience the other person as fully as possible.

Make the Distance Temporary

One of the worst things to happen to a long distance relationship is for it to become habitually long distance.  A guy would not want to become just someone who the girl always flirts with online but nothing more.  If there is not a planned time for the distance to end, then where is the long distance relationship going?  There absolutely must be an agreed upon date or time when the distance will end.  The point of a long distance relationship is to one day be together and to end the distance, so this should be worked toward.

Conclusion

One should fulfill one’s obligations to the relationship, be open to the other persons many dimensions, and have a plan to end the distance.  While long distance relationships may not be ideal, they can succeed.  As in any relationship, it is helpful to have an open mind, keep a positive attitude, and to follow one’s heart.

Excellent Tips to Create and Maintain a Great Relationship

1. Consider Your Goals

   The facts suggest that the personality traits are pretty much constant throughout the lifespan. If when you met your partner they said that they were not ready to commit to a long-term relationship, or did not want children at any point in the future, the chances are that they probably meant it. Thinking that when they realized what a fantastic person you are, or what a great parent you would make would change their mind is probably inaccurate. In reality, if your goals for the future are not the same, one of you is going to be sadly disappointed. Ensure that you are both clear about how you feel about future issues and save yourself some heartache.

2. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

   One of the main reasons relationships tend to breakdown is that channels of communication close. Make time to listen to your partners feelings and value what they say. If an issue is important to them, even if it seems small and insignificant to you, make sure that it is dealt with in a sensitive way. Ridiculing, belittling behavior is synonymous with bullying and will leave your partner feeling low and sad. Do your best to make positive, esteem-boosting comments and your partner will tend to follow suit. The result will be an open, happy relationship.

3. Keep a Check on Your Spending

   Another sore point in many failing relationships is money. Being under constant financial pressure can lead to stress, resentment, and arguments. Create short and long-term financial goals to get the things you want. All of us would ideally like to live in a huge house and drive brand new cars, but the majority of us do not earn enough money to accommodate this lifestyle. Live within your means, keep a good check on your money, and remind yourself of the differences between wants and needs on a regular basis. There is much more satisfaction to be gained in saving up and buying something, than buying it right now and fighting over the credit card bill.