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		<title>Blacks Need to Step It Up for The Sake of Our Children</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 26 Jul 2010 21:56:58 +0000</pubDate>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong><em>Growing up I was told I was creole. I didn&#8217;t know at the time what that actually meant. I heard racist comments within my home regarding the skin color and appearance of blacks. I was told I was a mixture of Black from my Dad&#8217;s side and Mexican/ Indian (black foot) from my mother&#8217;s side.</p>
<p>In high school I attended a majority white school and had friends of all races. I dated all races. It wasn&#8217;t until I began to date primarily blacks that I heard I better not bring home a monkey child. I didn&#8217;t see color when I dated. I saw humor and boys that were cute and were able to make me smile.</p>
<p>When I finally went to the military I discontinued dating any race other than black. Maybe it was me being rebellious or stubborn but I knew I didn&#8217;t want to date outside my race anymore.&nbsp;</p>
<p>It wasn&#8217;t until I was 48 that I learned that my grandfather was not a black foot but did indeed have black in him. Why I wondered was I lied to all these years. </p>
<p>Blacks are a group of people for so many years that have suffered to injustice and prejudice. Within the own race it is most prevalent. Lighter skinned thinking they are better than the darker skin. Lighter skinned thinking that they are better. Good hair vs nappy hair. Black features verses less than prominent features of an African were favored.</p>
<p>We are the one race that should be proud we have come so far despite so many barriers. Parents use to hate hearing the word N**** but now it is said so freely and we forget the meaning of the word and how many died to change it.</p>
<p>Kids think it is OK in movies and music. They blast it, sing it and dance to it. It is OK to demean the black woman calling them bit** and Wh***&#8230;.So we are going back in time only it is us doing it to ourselves now.</p>
<p>Women should be teaching their sons to respect women. Girls should be taught they don&#8217;t have to have s** with any boy to prove they are loved and wanted by them.</p>
<p>Grown women accept less than what they deserve. Men succumb to the wants of another race thinking the black woman is to strong and stubborn. </p>
<p>But that is history. They were forced to handle the house.&nbsp;It is 2010&#8230;We must take back who we are. But to do that you have to respect and love you first. Demand respect from your children and your mate.&nbsp;</p>
<p>The only advantage we have is pride and education. Don&#8217;t let your kids stay home and dream of being a rapper. Teach them to be a business owner and producer. Inspire them to get a degree not just be a rapper but own the company. Have them dream big.&nbsp;</p>
<p>When you hear them cussing correct&nbsp;them. Watch the people they hang out with. Don&#8217;t let others have more influence than you do. But to do that you must take control of your own life and be a role model.</p>
<p>There is pride in being black no matter the shade. No matter the feature.</p>
<p>It is time to get back the pride and it begins inside you and in your home.&nbsp;<br /></em></strong></p>
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		<title>Colorism: Guidelines for Social Acceptance</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 23 May 2010 09:30:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Colorism was a standardized method of pseudoscience used by African Americans to categorize themselves among Whites and other Eurpean Americans.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Colorism was a heuristic function widely regarded in the United States by slave masters as principle. In this case, lighter skinned slaves (house niggers) who were usually the offspring of a slave master would be allow to benefit from less strenuous domesticated duties. In contrast, the darker, more grim slave (field niggers) endured hard, manual labor.</p>
<p>After abolitionists emancipated Africans and Blacks from slavery, such principles were internalized by African Americans because of a psychological desire&nbsp;to gain in social acceptance among the cultural mainstream. Termed <i>The Brown Paper Bag Test</i>, this anti-black ritual was common practice during the early 1900&#8217;s among upper class Black American societies and families.</p>
<p>Howard University in Washington DC. was among the many prestigious historically Black educational institutions which practiced colorism as a method of pseudoscience. As evidence, Howard University once required African American applicants to submit a photograph of themselves in order to ensure that new students met the social standards to achieve among Whites and other European Americans. Spike Lee&rsquo;s innovative, yet offbeat, music-filled, contemporary 1988 comedy, &ldquo;School Daze,&rdquo; accurately depicts self-conflict struggles between lighter and darker skinned students on historically Black college campuses. As depicted in Spike&rsquo;s movie, neither sorority nor fraternity groups would allow those whose skin tone was darker than a brown paper lunch bag admission into college societies.</p>
<p>The Brown Paper Bag Test also has guidelines for acceptance among the lighter ranks, which includes the &#8220;comb test,&#8221; a procedure that establishes one&#8217;s hair coarseness, and the &#8220;flashlight test,&#8221; which examines&nbsp; facial profiles to make sure features are comparable to Caucasians. Such internalized hatred of the-self socializes the perception of standards among African-Americans at colleges and universities across America.</p>
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		<title>Jamaican Blacks Dying to be White: There&#8217;s Much to Remain Black for</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:45:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[There are many young people who do not know of the accomplishments of black People. This might be the factor behind the desire of many to lightened the black race because the black Man's greatest accomplishment was slavery. The black man is remembered in history for being  a servant but disregarded for the fact that his servitude built the metropolitan countries we have today. Europe and the Americas were rich due to african slave labour and agro-industry in the days of slavery.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Jamaicans are dying to be white because they are unaware of the accomplishments of individuals who belong to the black race. Proud Jamaican Black African Descendants! Be proud, because your race has accomplished much and just as Bob Marley said, the half has never been told&hellip;</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Here are some black inventors that I was&nbsp;exposed to by the assistance of a very intelligent black man that i was fortunate to be acquainted with recently.&nbsp; Thank You Baerie Guy.</p>
<p>&nbsp;I cannot believe that during high school, I did history for seven years and was not taught about the accomplishment of my ancestors. I remembered history was the&nbsp; subject that made our class angry because we were primarily african descent. Many were glad that Paul Bogle and other national heroes fought for the abolition of slavery and the emanicipation of the race.</p>
<p>The only history I was exposed to was that of African greed, black betrayal, slavery and the Negro emancipation. I remembered my History teacher Miss Binns, firmly telling us tha Black people were crabs in a bucket. Always undermining their own endeavours and stymie the negro man&#8217; success. Sometimes my class mates and i conceded that we hate being black. How could someone betray their own race to ingratiate the white man?</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I was not taught about the Philosophies of Marcus Garvey, the sapient political dogmas of Emperor Haile. Few if any, black Jamaicans know about the Kemetics, who are the founders of our modern civilizations. &nbsp;Few blacks know that civilization began in Africa with the University of Timbuktu and the Egyptian Civilization.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; I have discovered, by a black afrocentric and negritude friend of mine that being an African Descent is not bad after all!!!!</p>
<p>Tall sky scrapers would not exist if it was not for Alexander Mills a black man who invented the elevator, and without it we would have great difficulty climbing numerous stairs.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; There would be few if any cars thanks to Richard spikes, a black man who invented the automatic gear shift. There would be numerous accidents on the roads if Joseph Gammell also a black man, did not invent&nbsp;&nbsp;the Super Charge System for the Internal combustion engines, and Garrett Morgan invented the Traffic Lights.</p>
<p>Furthermore one could not use the rapid transit system because; its&nbsp;precursor was the Electric Trolley, which was invented by another black man, Elbert R Robinson.</p>
<p>The streets on which cars and rapid transit system would not be in operation due to paper cluttering if it was not for Charles Brooks who invented the street sweeper to keep the streets clean.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Did you know that the existence of written knowledge in papers, books and magazines of yesteryear should pay homage to John Love, who&nbsp;invented the pencil sharpener, William Purvis who&nbsp;invented the fountain pen, Lee Burridge who invented the type writing machine and W A Lovett who invented the advanced printing press. They were black men.</p>
<p>Even if we could write our letters, articles and books they could not have been transported by mail if it was not for another black man William Barry who invented Postmarking and cancelling machine.</p>
<p>William Purvis invented the Hand stamp and Phillip Downing invented the Letter Drop.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Our lawns would be dry and wilted had not Joseph Smith another black inventor, invented the Lawn sprinkler and John Burr invented the Lawn Mower.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Our homes would be poorly ventilated and cold if it was not for another black man Frederick Jones who invented the Air Conditioner and Alice Parker who invented the Heating Furnace.</p>
<p>Our homes would be dim and dark if was not for the genius of Lewis Latimer who invented the Electric Lamp, Harvey who invented the Lantern and Granville T Woods who invented the Automatic Cut Off Switch</p>
<p>&nbsp;Our homes were filthy until another black man Thomas W Steward invented the Mop and Lloyd P Ray invented the dust Pan.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Walking into our homes barefooted would make our floors and carpets dirty if it was not for Jan E Matzelinger who invented the shoe Lasting Machine,</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Walter Sammons who invented the comb to keep us well groomed and Sarah Boone who invented the Ironing Board to keep our clothes looking sharp at all times.</p>
<p>Do not forget another black man George T Salmon who invented the Clothes Dryer .</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Remember that our food would start spoiling after a couple days if John Standard another black man had not invented the Refrigerator.</p>
<p>Every time you reach for some peanut butter remember Professor Carver who invented peanut butter.</p>
<p>When you need some granulated sugar remember another black man from Louisiana who invented granulated sugar.</p>
<p>A black man by the name of Robertson was the first one of the first individuals to make a motor car.</p>
<p>&nbsp;He made 30 plus cars before he was forced out of the market due to racist discrimination by Ford Motor Company.</p>
<p>The classic Robertson Cars can be found in antique museums today.</p>
<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; Martin Luther King JR said by the time we leave for&nbsp;work each day we have depended on half of the world modern inventions in America because of the inventions that Black Men and Women made for us all.</p>
<p>Happy Black History Month!!!</p>
<p>I am Young Black and Powerful&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Positive Thinking</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 18 Jan 2009 09:17:00 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Low self esteem stems from negative thoughts, which cause problems with more than just ourselves. Low self esteem can cause problems in our relationships as well. But by reversing our negative thoughts, we can begin to change our lives.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Often times we find ourselves thinking negative thoughts, either about ourselves, other people, even sometimes our loved ones. Many of us are so used to these negative thoughts, we don&#8217;t even realize we&#8217;re having them anymore. It&#8217;s just as natural to us as brushing our hair everyday.</p>
<p>These negative thoughts usually lead to negative feelings, about ourselves and about others around us. Without even realizing it, sometimes we find ways to confirm these negative thoughts, so eventually we grow to believe that they must be true. It may get to a point where we don&#8217;t have a single positive thought in our head about ourselves or particular loved ones.</p>
<p>Due to our negative thoughts and feelings, we&#8217;re incapable of accepting compliments, and automatically believe someone is fibbing if they try to contradict our thoughts. For example, if you&#8217;ve spent your whole life telling yourself you&#8217;re fat, even if you aren&#8217;t, you&#8217;ve probably grown to believe this negative thought. Then someone may pay you a compliment by saying how thin you look, and you won&#8217;t believe them. You&#8217;ll think they&#8217;re just saying this to be nice.</p>
<p>Negative thinking is one of the main culprits of low self esteem, low self worth, low self respect etc. etc. Sure many of these issues start in child hood, but it begins a lifetime of negative thinking, and unless we break the cycle, we&#8217;ll never have a positive view of ourselves or those around us.</p>
<p>I am personally a woman who suffers low self esteem and negative thinking. Like many others, I&#8217;m unaware of my negative thinking, it&#8217;s just a part of my daily life, just the same as breathing. I know I&#8217;m doing it but not making a concious effort.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve recently become aware of the fact that my negative thinking is not only affecting myself, but also my relationships with others around me. I think negatively about the relationships, thinking to myself &#8220;That person can&#8217;t truly love me, or find me beautiful.&#8221; This negative thinking spirals out of control and I begin to truly believe I&#8217;m not loved by anyone. This is mostly due to the fact that I have low self esteem and continue to tell myself I&#8217;m not worthy of love.</p>
<p>Believing you&#8217;re not capable of being loved will of course lead you to act in an unloving way. If you&#8217;re not loved, how can you love back?</p>
<p>When they say &#8220;It&#8217;s all in your head&#8221; they truly mean just that. The problems we have with ourselves and our relationships are all due to our negative thinking. Only we have the power to break this cycle and live fulfilling lives once more.</p>
<p>It starts by negating every negative thought we have in our heads, starting with ourselves. Yes, it&#8217;s going to be difficult at first, especially since you won&#8217;t believe the opposite of your usual negative thoughts. But keep in mind, the only reason you believe your negative thoughts is because you forced yourself to do so.</p>
<p>Whatever your negative thought is, just tell yourself the opposite.</p>
<p>If your thought is: I am fat.<br />Tell yourself: I am thin. (even if you aren&#8217;t, thinking thin never hurt anyone)</p>
<p>If your thought is: I am ugly.<br />Tell yourself: I am beautiful.</p>
<p>If your thought is: I&#8217;m not worthy of love, attention, affection&#8230; etc.<br />Tell yourself: I&#8217;m worthy of getting what I want and need.</p>
<p>The more you think about each positive thought, and the more you confirm each thought, the more you&#8217;ll believe it. Soon you&#8217;ll have a better view of yourself, more self respect and self esteem. You&#8217;ll also find yourself to be more confident and more successful in your relationships and other aspects of your life.</p>
<p>You&#8217;re the only one who has the power to change. It starts with you.</p>
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