Giving the Wrong impression:

                Misinformation or the wrong impression is usually how kids are introduced to sex. Some parents choose to give a brief explanation of sex to their children that just leave them more confused. This idea can leave the child susceptible to wrong information and may lead them to a road where they will experiment to find their own truth. Some parents also choose the option of giving their children a book hoping it will clarify all questions their child might have. If handled wrong this is a cowardly option, some parents give their children books in hope that their children will learn everything they need to know, so they don’t have to answer any questions. Kids can tell when their parents are giving off negative feelings. They watch their parents hoping to learn how they are supposed to act when they are adults. Most original opinions that children have are learned directly from their parents. Think about it: When a teacher in school tells the class to settle down, that she has something important to tell them. She proceeds to give a lengthy lecture on the importance of the sex education. The student needs to give them directly to their parents and tell them the school is going to be teaching sex education at the end of the week.  Some students in the class start to get fearful they have only heard the word sex a couple of times on the playground.  They know they aren’t supposed to know what it is. So they go home and their parents either encourage the learning experience or they give the wrong impression. Kids will watch adults closely and it is those experiences that a child learns from.

                For example I was one of those kids who had gotten a book to help explain to me what sex was. I came home one day and found it lying on the bed. Thinking back, I was confused I didn’t really understand what this book was trying to teach me. If my own parents could not explain this to me it must be bad and horrible right? The book was titled Grown Up, but I wasn’t a grown up and I didn’t want to be.   I barely comprehended the book; most of the words I had read had went through one ear and out the other. I only remembered the one phrase after reading “all sex really is, just people touching each other on their private parts,” that was it. I was done! I put the book down.

 I couldn’t understand why people would want to touch each other there, so after that I waited for my own sexual education day at school. But it never came, I remember sitting in the school parking lot with my mom and I could feel myself grow sicker by the second. I did not want to go learn about this horrible sex, I didn’t want to learn body parts or see other children learning about body parts. My body parts! My mom decided I didn’t have to go, and I didn’t learn about growing up, I never learned about boys and girl body parts, and I didn’t learn about what sex really was. My parents let me think that sex was awful, I had received the impression that it was shameful, and that good people don’t participate in it.

Life Lessons carried into adulthood:

In religious and Non-religious households sex is usually grouped in with unhealthy activities that parents do not want their children to participate in. Don’t sluff school, don’t sneak out, don’t go to this party there might be alcohol, don’t do drugs, and don’t have sex. By grouping sex in with unhealthy practices it gives the impression that sex is bad and you shouldn’t participate in it ever! This is a completely wrong misconstrued Idea that people usually link to sex especially in their adolescence. By not giving children the right education adolescents become over curious and want to discover the truth themselves or worse they never discover the truth.

Religious Households: 

The major problem in religious households is that they teach that sex is sin. When you’re not married being unable to keep yourself pure is a sin, but when you’re married it is taught that god wants you to experience the full joy between husband and wife.  So this negative wrong impression that sex equals sin can stay with a child into adulthood. Adults when married still think their sinning when they have sex.  This is an extremely unhealthy idea that can never lead to sexual fulfillment.

Non-Religious Households (ideas here are still applied to Religious Households):

The focus is on physical and emotional stability so that the individual is ready to participate in sex. There’s a problem, most people never know when their ready to have sex. If their uneducated and unsure they can end up doing something that is potentially dangerous.  Sex is intimate and to experience that pleasure that comes from sex takes time and knowledge. The individual needs to understand their own body and their feelings. An individual cannot just know about the consequences of sex, like pregnancy or sexual diseases. To reach sexual fulfillment requires knowledge about sexual activity and a partner who understands it as well.

Steps for New Learning:

First: Gain the education about your own body and the knowledge about how sex affects the body. Knowing how the sex organs work for both male and female.

Second: Gain your own individual beliefs; they don’t have to be religious if you don’t want them to, but they can be a foundation. They can help you set boundaries for further relationships. This also helps the individual determine how they would like to be treated emotionally and physically. Knowing this information can also help you decide when it is the right time for you to have sex.

·         For example after experimentation with sex, I experienced much heartache. And learned for myself that I truly believed sex was something sacred and that I needed/wanted to wait until marriage to ever experience it again.

Third: Find the right person, sex is very intimate you are literally sharing yourself with another person.

                If you want sexual fulfillment, then you need to have the right information. Toss away old negative feelings and experiences you received as a child or as an adult. Go out and find the truth. If you have the guts go ask your loved ones to tell you the truth about their sexual experiences. Make them finally give you the sex talk you deserve. Most importantly do not be ashamed of sex, it is natural and it is better to learn the right way then wander around in the dark.

The sexual content of TV shows

Sexual content can be classified in so many different ways.  It can be a hug, a peck on the cheek, or in more intimate ways.  It is however estimated by the Kaiser Family Foundation that about 70% of all TV fare includes some sexual content.  It was found that some 56% of all shows make sexual references.  TV executives know why they  produce shows like these.  They realize that sex sells.  It spices things up and titillates the imagination.  If sex was not a part of shows many people will not watch them nor the advertisements.

Young people find these shows fascinating that trigger their hormones which are a driving force.  In the male these work overtime from the testicles.  In the female its the ovaries.  These are all further influenced by the adrenal, cortex, pituitary gland, and the hypothalamus.  Testosterone is associated with the male sexual drive, while estrogen and progestins are found in higher concentrations within women.  Young adults are caught up with these changes, so this is when their bodies begin to do a number on them and TV shows reinforce certain sexual drive and feelings.

Learning perspectives and their choices

On the one hand, TV bombards youths with sexual images.  On the other, they are warned to be careful and smart about their bodies.   Some have had sex education classes in their schools.  It all depends on the school.  Some fundamentally inclined institutions still teach abstinence while others may introduce their students to birth control.  Schools that are religiously oriented may stress that a sexual relationship should only be entered in at the time of marriage.  However, on TV, young adults view a diversity of lifestyles from those in stable marriages, cheating spouses, individuals living together, and gay relationships.  That is why many young people are confused concerning what they should do.  Some are just swept away by the bombardment of some of these contradictions.

On TV, they learn too about STD.  Many hear that even if they use condoms there is no guarantee that they would not contract HIV-AIDS.  Although this disease is on the decline in the United States, it is still ravishing the African American community.  TV presents stories of the struggles of some African countries to bring this killer under control.  It provides information that those who are not circumcised are at a great risk of contracting HIV-AIDS as opposed to those who are.

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What we find therefore among young people are guilt and anxiety concerning how they should handle their sexuality.  In many cases they are not able to talk with their parents about sex because they see them as coming from a different generation.  They will often confide with their peers that have information that is inaccurate or take their clues from what they see and hear on TV or film.

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Awadhesh Kishore, M.P. Gupta*, Lalit Mohan Sharma* and Rakhi Sharma**

Sarvoday Mahavidyalay, Chaumuhan-281406, Mathura

*RBS College, Agra-282002 INDIA

**Institute for Development of Technology for Rural Advancement, Mathura-281004 INDIA

Summary:

Perceptions of 200 teacher trainees of Uttar Pradesh (INDIA) were collected which concluded that sex education including information regarding sex related body organs, physiology and diseases is required to be included in curriculum for an adolescent for development of personality and successful life, and to avoid AIDS, pre-marital relationship, sexual crime and sexual harassment.

Key words:

AIDS, Curriculum, Crime, Harassment, Personality, Relationship, Research, Sex education, Teacher trainees

Introduction:

Sex education (SE), sometimes called sexuality education or sex and relationships education, is the process of acquiring information and forming attitudes and beliefs about sex, sexual identity, relationships and intimacy. Present research work was entitled “Educational Evaluation of Sex Education as Perceived by Teacher Trainees under Distance and Traditional Education Systems”.

 Objectives:

-To find out perceptions and various acceptable and unacceptable aspects of SE by teacher trainees (TTs) of various genders and under distance (DSE) and traditional (TSE) education systems with regard to various aspects of SE and .

-To compare perception of TTs under DSE and TSE with regard to various aspects of SE.

-To suggest regarding implementation of various aspects of SE in Indian schools on the basis of opinion of DSE and TSE.

 Methodology:

 Research Design:

All the TTs of Uttar Pradesh (INDIA) were considered as universe. Two hundred TTs including equal number of males and females and from distance (DSE) and traditional (TSE) education systems were selected randomly for study from 46 out of 72 districts of the state.

 Description of respondents:

Specific features of respondents included: age group 20-35 years; locality rural 54% and urban 46%, annual income below Rs. 1,00,000-00 42% and above 58%; marital status unmarried 59%, married 41%, family structure joint 27% and nuclear 73%, education post graduate 54% and only graduate 46%, from SFS college 77% and aided college 23%, social category general 38%, OBC 33%, SC 27% and ST 2% and parenting kids 0-4.

 Data collection:

Observation schedule method was implemented to collect authentic primary information from respondents. Questionnaire including 40 easy and clear items after suggestions of three subject matter specialists and removal of difficulties and confusions were handed over to the respondents to find their responses. Data obtained were analyzed statistically using χ2 design.

 Hypothesis:

Perceptions of TTs under two education systems viz. DSE and TSE with regard to various aspects of sex education (SE) were equal.

Perceptions of two genders with regard to various aspects of SE were equal.

No specific aspect of SE was acceptable to TTs.

No specific aspect of SE was unacceptable to TTs.

 Experimental findings:

-All the females and all the TTs under both educational systems perceived that SE was required to avoid development of inferiority in children whereas males and TTs under DSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to develop personality of children.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required for a successful marital life.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid AIDS disease in society.

-However, all the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid development of poor mentality regarding sexual differences in children but, those, under DSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid deviation to evil course in children.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid pre-marital relationships.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid sexual crime in society.

-However, all the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid sexual harassment in society but those under both DSE and TSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to avoid tendency of sexual crime.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to control population.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to develop healthy mentality regarding SE in children.

-Male TTs under DSE perceived that SE was required to develop moral values in children. Female TTs in both DSE and TSE and males in TSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to develop positive mentality regarding sex in children.

-Female TTs under TSE perceived that SE was required to develop self confidence in children. female TTs in DSE and male TTs in both DSE and TSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required to live a happy marital life.

-Female TTs under DSE opposed vision that SE was opposite to Indian culture. Female TTs in TSE education system and male TTs in both DSE and TSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-Female TTs under DSE and TSE perceived that SE was required to respect opposite sex. Male TTs in both DSE and TSE had no definite perception on this aspect. TTs under both DSE and TSE and all the TTs reported their perception to support same.

-Female TTs and TTs under TSE perceived that children should be educated regarding sex diseases in SE whereas male TTs and TTs under DSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-Female TTs and TTs under TSE perceived that SE was required for modern society whereas male TTs and TTs under DSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-Male TTs and TTs under DSE opposed vision that consent of parents was required to provide SE to children whereas female TTs and TTs under TSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE could awake children so that they could not be sexually harassed.

-All the TTs had no definite perceptions that SE was required to cherishing Indian values and traditions.

-All the TTs perceived that SE could educate children to understand each other.

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required for happy and successful life.

-All the TTs opposed vision that SE should be provided to children by their teachers only but male TTs under TSE had no definite perception on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that assistance of magazines should be availed for sex education.

-All the TTs had no definite perception on this aspect that SE should be given to children indirectly.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should be given to children in addition to magazines.

-Male TTs and TTs under DSE perceived that SE should be given to children in curriculum whereas TTs under DSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should include knowledge related to cleanliness and safety of sex organs.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should include knowledge related to MC period.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should include knowledge related to MC period in advance, but male TTs under DSE had no definite perceptions on this aspect.

-All the TTs perceived that SE is required to provide information regarding physiological changes.

-All the TTs except male TTs under DSE perceived that SE should include knowledge related to sex organs.

-All the TTs perceived that subject experts should be consulted to provide knowledge related to development of sex organs and physical changes.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should be given to a child by answering his queries related to sex.

-All the TTs perceived that SE should be given to a child during adolescence.

-All the TTs opposed perception that SE should be given to a child since childhood.

-All the TTs perceived that SE can rectify confusions related to sexual behavior.

 Conclusions:

-All the TTs perceived that SE was required for avoiding aids disease and sexual crime in society, deviation to evil course in children, pre-marital relationships and tendency of sexual crime.

-SE is required for a happy and successful life, a successful marital life, controlling population, providing information regarding physiological changes and developing personality of children, healthy mentality regarding SE in children and positive mentality regarding sex in children.

-SE could be imparted children for awakening so that they could not be sexually harassed and educating children to understand each other.

-SE should be given to children in addition to magazines, answering his queries related to sex and given to a child during adolescence but not since childhood.

-SE should include knowledge related to cleanliness and safety of sex organs and MC. assistance of magazines should be availed for SE. Subject experts should be consulted to provide knowledge related to development of sex organs and physical changes. SE is not opposite to Indian culture. SE cannot rectify confusions related to sexual behavior.

Suggestions:

Sex Education is necessary to be included in curriculum for an adolescent for development of personality and successful life, and to avoid pre marriage sexual relationship, sexual crime and sexual harassment. SE should include information regarding sex related body organs, physiology and diseases and should be provided to children through teachers, magazines and subject experts through explaining fact and to remove quarries.

Sexual Satisfaction

In his acknowledged book The Joy of Sex, Alex Comfort writes that “sex care to be a wholly acceptable hotlink amid two affectionate humans from which they arise unanxious, rewarded, and accessible for more.”

He adds that there are alone two rules one charge chase to accept acceptable sex – don’t do annihilation you don’t absolutely enjoy, and acquisition out your partner’s needs and try not to cramp at them if you can advice it.

Everyone has their own abstraction of what constitutes “good sex”, experiencing sex and their own changeable in altered ways. And while amusement and acme can absolutely play a big allotment in the equation, attaining an all-embracing faculty of animal achievement in action can generally crave a lot more.

Here’s how Canadian advisers MacNeil and Byers call it:

“Sexual achievement is not just concrete pleasure, nor is it artlessly the absence of annoyance or problems. Rather, animal achievement involves the all-embracing action we are larboard with afterwards because the absolute and abrogating aspects (or animal rewards and costs) of our animal relationships.”

That accepting said, amusement and acme are agreeable “rewards” whether we acquaintance them on our own or with a partner.

Physical Pleasure

The animal physique can acquaintance concrete amusement in abounding altered forms – from hugging, kissing or affable affecting to the highs accomplished during exercise. For now, let’s allocution about the concrete pleasures of animal arousal, either by oneself or with a partner.

“Seeking animal achievement is a basal desire, and masturbation is our aboriginal accustomed animal activity. It’s the way we ascertain our eroticism, the way we apprentice to acknowledge sexually, the way we apprentice to adulation ourselves and to body self-esteem.”

- Betty Dodson, acclaimed artist, columnist and sex educator

Sexual amusement can aswell be accomplished in abounding forms – from masturbation, affecting or articulate sex to animal fantasies and a advanced ambit of added sources. There are aswell abounding means to heighten this animal amusement – by accepting adequate with yourself and your partner, for example, or by cat-and-mouse for the affection to be appropriate for both of you, or by accepting assertive that you are adequate from adventitious abundance and sexually transmitted infection.

Orgasms

From a absolutely concrete standpoint, macho and changeable orgasms are absolutely similar. They are both a alternation of adroit beef contractions accompanied by pleasurable, generally acute sensations.

Mentally, however, they can be accomplished absolutely differently, as anniversary accepting has his or her own way of anecdotic the action of orgasm. Action and activation activate the process, followed by a plateau of animal acknowledgment and again the acme itself, an acute awareness that after-effects in a absolution of animal tension.

It is important to bethink that acme doesn’t consistently chase activation and excitement, and may not be all-important for you to adore acceptable sex.

Good Sex

“Good sex” is a awful alone and altered experience. How you apperceive sex has a lot to do with what you’ve abstruse about it, how it’s beheld by your association or culture, and what amount you abode on it as a allotment of your life.

In the ambience of an advancing animal relationship, acceptable sex can beggarly alive what you wish and what your accomplice wants, alive how to allocution about it comfortably, and never accepting affected to do annihilation you don’t wish to do.

Having acceptable sex in a accord can accord to a person’s all-embracing animal satisfaction, but it’s not the alone factor. Characteristics that generally accomplish the aberration amid accepting in a blessed accord and accepting in an black accord aswell arise to enhance animal satisfaction. Characteristics such as acceptable advice and analytic skills, astute aggregate expectations, and accepting able to adore anniversary other’s aggregation in added aspects of life.

Life changes, like accepting accouchement and accepting older, can aswell accept an appulse on sex and animal amusement (both absolute and negative). Dealing with such changes could crave you and your accomplice to be flexible, admit your limitations and even about-face the way you anticipate – and it is consistently important to accumulate the curve of advice open.

Grand Illusions

To many, going to a bar or a swinging party give them a high.  They dress up for these occasions.  Many do so in provocative clothing, and they expect their evenings to be magical.  They come with their friends and plan as they say, “to be wasted.”  Many of these college students are away from home for the first time, and are exploring a world where they hope to find a new freedom.  They fail to realize, that they should be most careful about their sexual activities on the front burner and that it should be diligently controlled.

Some of these students may not be consumed by popularity contests, nor are they caught up in the fun experienced by others.  They feel responsible.  They are not drawn into situations that would make them targets of sexual conquests.  They refuse to sacrifice their values, so when the booze begins to flow, they restrain themselves, and act responsibly about it.  These individuals will not drink, for they know what will happen, and take seriously what the repercussions can be.

Major Consequences

For one thing, persons that participate in free love, may face surprises when they unexpectedly wake up next morning in another bed and have to take the morning after pill.  Some may allow a period of time to lapse only to discover that they are pregnant, forcing them to explore possibilities of having an abortion, or to consider if they can face their friends and deliver the baby.  Since this child will be born out of wedlock, for the most part, the best way of handling this problem for some, is giving him up for adoption.  This may usually be a rather sad affair and some women live to regret their actions for the rest of their lives.         

It therefore pays for individuals to be prudent and not be swept up into such unfortunate situations.  This is when couples should play it safe.  If they know that they will be having sex, they should use contraceptives.  It should be noted, most STDs are not prevented by contraceptives.

Benefits

For the most part, many young people plan well for their future.  They know that sex and alcohol do not mix.  For many, they are like fire and gasoline.  When they combine, they are explosive.  That is why persons should practice restraint, keep the two separate, and exercise control over them.  All ships are not able to enter every port.  It takes planning and preparation.  Persons should know where they are going and what they plan to do during  their life.

Such arrangement calls for a realistic view of sex.  Sex education and commonsense are important.  Persons have to be able to control their sex drive.  This may not be the easiest thing to do, since we are bombarded with sexual messages throughout the day on TV and in film.  At times, we encounter people to whom we are sexually attracted, but it does not mean that we have to act on this attraction.

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For our own sake, we have to control our sexual desires.  Our inability to do so, could cause STDs and  lead to many embarrassing and explosive situations.  It takes family planning and sex educational programs to counter many of these challenges.

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It is undeniable that there are cultural differences in views on sexual issues, especially between the Western and Eastern world. The Western world is more open to these matters, assume that sex is a private affair of each and is part of human rights. Responsibilities and burdens became each other’s personal affairs and is a human duty. While in the East, in Indonesia, sex is considered as something that is very closed. Very private as well, but became a family affair and is a family rights, community rights, in determining the affairs of this one. Responsibility and the burden was a matter for joint and mutual obligation.

Both have advantages and disadvantages of each. In my opinion, the advantages of the Western world is to see that sex is not just a matter of morality, ethics, and religion. But look more broadly. Sex is considered to have an enormous influence on social and cultural circumstances. The drawback, is that sex is very mechanical. Merely function as well as psychological and biological needs alone.

For instance divorce affairs. Where divorce is very difficult in Western countries. Affairs is not religion, but accountability. Dad could not take his responsibilities granted to his divorced wife and his children. All his life, he still must take responsibility. This is not only valid for a formal wedding, you know! That cohabiting same law! But then, making people think twice to be bound in a bond. Feeling will have the burden of life and liberty disturbed.

Advantages of the East is, sex is very guarded spiritual values ​​and religious. Moral and ethical influence the development of views on sex itself. Hence, marriage is very important. The drawback, is, because sex is considered very taboo and covered up, so could not see sex more generally. Considered only as part of the ritual intercourse, and do not have any relationship with the social and cultural and community circumstances.

For instance the wedding. Marriage is important to validate the relationship of a couple. If you do not have a bond, is considered invalid. But later today, many consider marriage as a mere status. The values ​​of marriage itself is ignored. The proof, many, tuh, who married siri ‘or under the hand? Became law and its status is unclear. What about the fate of children born of couples like this? What if the divorce occurred.

Today, both the West and the East, either open or closed, both have a major problem. Namely, unhealthy sexual behavior. Venereal disease, HIV, AIDS, and sexual deviance are everywhere. The main cause, by experts, it is believed is a matter of education. In the West, sex education is given, is too logical and mechanical. Relying anatomy functions only. While in the East, sex education is lacking. Cover-up and more emphasis placed on the religious side and the rules and norms, ethics, and moral force.

If in my opinion, the problem together. Sex education of spiritual values ​​are missing and disappeared. Both in the West and East. Philosophy and sublime teachings about sex are more profound, more emphasis to the soul, spirit, and heart less attention. Moreover, then the culture and values ​​has actually been around a long time, since the time of our ancestors, such as vanished. Rarely are willing to study it in more depth. Considered primitive and not modern at all. Even if the learned, at most, only Kamasutra doang!! Yes, right? That was only a matter of intercourse positions only. Underneath it all, who would understand?

I am very interested in the theory of Julius Evola, in his book, Revolt Against the Modern World, published in 1958. Within this work, he explains the metaphysical theories about sex, which is based on the results of his research about sex. He mengkirik that the approach of biology, sociology, psychology, and sexology in studying sex is too “shallow”. So also when viewed only from the moral, religious, or ethical policies. You see, each of these disciplines, studying only one aspect of sexuality alone. Not fully and thoroughly. According to him, sex is not just a body or spiritual matters only. But both of them. The sexual act should be a form of merging body and soul are put together to become a unity. Therefore, sex has the ability to make a person or a couple to be “empty” or “full”. And the root of all this is what he describes as love. In essence, love is supposed to make sex into something that is intact.

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The U.S. Educational system suffered in the last U.S. administration, especially in regards to the pros cons of sex education. When then president George Bush was still campaigning for more funding for abstinence-only education programs in November 2007, it was immediately following a national study found that sex education programs – which included contraception information as an integral feature – were most effective at preventing teen pregnancies. This focus on abstinence-only sex education flew in the face of the findings by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.

Today, we are hoping to see a positive increase in the awareness and habits of young people regarding abstinence and safe responsible sex. Unfortunately it remains the poor who lack the opportunity to get the help they need or have a voice as to what their opinions are on these issues that impact their communities. Polls show that most teen pregnancies continue to be amongst blacks and hispanics living in lower income regions of the U.S. The sex education curriculum must consider these findings in better reaching its audience.

Cons – Without Sex Education many young people will be left to the media and hear say to find answers to important questions. Questions – if left unanswered – can lead to unplanned pregnancy and the repetition of a continuing cycle of ignorance. It seems impossible to get an exact match on every parents core values when it comes to sex education, and so it is an ongoing debate more than a con or conflict.

Pros – With Sex Education, young people have the opportunity to learn a basic understanding of their bodies, human reproduction facts and pregnancy prevention techniques. There is no replacing parental, guardian and peer influences upon the behavior of young people. The sexual attitudes and low teen pregnancy statistics of many European cultures is a great example of progressive education. It is hopeful that the current U.S. policy toward sex education will be encouraged by the study of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.

When I counsel families and couples, I try to encourage a proactive approach to learning about sex. There are two extremely good resources that I recommend to my clients for their knowledge of intercourse and hopefully have an impact on lesson plans in their families and communities. Having knowledge and wisdom about sex is an invaluable gift to share as a parent or peer of a young person who may not find the greatest sex advice elsewhere.

According to Anna Freud(n.d), definition of sex is about something you do, sexuality is something you are. This way of understanding highlights the difference between the act of sex and the individual experience of sexuality, which is an intrinsic part of who we are and one that can’t be separated out of ourselves any more than our ethnic or religious. Sex education can be defined as a process that begins at birth and continues until the day we die. It is a process of building a strong foundation for sexual health. Sexual intercourse among the teenagers has become widely debated all over the world.Sex education becomes necessary for people either adult or teenagers. There are many advantages, disadvantages, and perspectives about sex education.   

One of the advantages of sex educations is that it is necessary to know it to generally reduces risk behaviors. Based on Unprotected Sex (2011), sex education can prevent from unprotected sex among teenagers. In addition, sex education also may equip individuals to make informed decisions about their personal sex activity. Unsafe sex may lead to dangerous diseases such as HIV infection or AIDS. Furthermore, the risk of getting cervical cancer before the age of 30 will increase with a peak incidence level from 60 to 69. (Mellor, 2004).  Other than that, everyone can get any diseases including homosexual, bisexual, or even victims of sexual abuse. Besides that, young women or under age children also can avoid pregnancy out of wedlock and will help to educate pregnant teenagers.

            On the other hand, sex education also has itsdisadvantages. Some parents or guardian are uncomfortable when talking about this topic themselves. (Sex Education Essay, n.d.).It can be seen that parents are not providing sex education information to their children in this daily life .They are also afraid to reveal too much informationabout sex to their children. Some of them also may not know how to answer their children’s questions. Another disadvantages of sex education is that will become curious enough to do sex (Sex Education, n.d.)It occurs when people especially teen are not mature enough. Besides that, they will have sexual notions and sexual ideas in their head. People also will be traumatized because of inability to handle their feeling about sex .Many people faced failure of using condoms. (Lee,2008). When they do not know how to used condoms safely, they will suffer from Suffering Transmitted Diseases(STD) or Sexually-transmitted infections(STI). Other than that, they are also facing unplanned pregnancies and it will increase sexual activity thinking that it was safe.

Last but not least, some perspectives of sex education are being discussed (Khan, 2008).From Islamic perspective, sex education is acceptable to their Islam followers is universal whereby is they allowed learning sex education because human are created with sexual desire. It is also encouraged that their followers study topics that related to reproductions that is natural phenomenon which is known to all. Another perspective is from west, they are having conflict over sex education in their communities (Kaiser, 2004).Parents think their children are better prepared to deal with sexual issues. Besides that, western communities are more open-minded about sex with each other. Furthermore, most of schools are not really teaching sex education but teach on to use condoms which may encourage their children to make sex.

            In a conclusion, sex education have lots of advantages and disadvantages which have many benefits people may learn but also have some of opinions that are may agree or disagree on this sex education.

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1. Children age
At the age children can begin with the mention of genitals is right, then proceed with its function. If the child had understood, taught how to care for and maintain the genitals.

2. Age Teens
At the age of adolescence, the sex education given was to find out how children understand about puberty, such as wet dreams, the growth of Adam’s apple (the boys) or menstruation (in girls).

3. Ages Pre-Marriage
At the age of pre-marriage, a new sex education provided containing about how to make healthy sexual relationships, and religious norms that accompany it.

In essence, there are a few suggestions and restrictions that parents should consider when giving or addressing sex education, sex education in order to be effective for the child, as described below:

Recommendation:

1. Let the kids get sex education in schools. You may not agree with some that are taught, but education can be used as a starting point.
2. Keep communication open with children.
3. Ask about the education section in the school curriculum.
4. Relate well with the teachers of sex education, but not memorable dictates.

Precepts:

1. Do not be too fussy and make children ashamed of sex education which he acquired at school.

2. Do not think that sex education that children receive in school is enough. Children today have been bombarded with a variety of access pornography, both from the media or friends. So keep damping the child.

3. Do not force your opinion on sex education in children. The issue of sexuality has some gray areas and each generation mempiliki own opinion. Respectful opinion of your child, but still armed to the rules prevailing religion.

Rakhi Sharma and Awadhesh Kishore

Institute for Development of Technology for Rural Advancement, Mathura-281004 INDIA

Sarvoday Mahavidyalaya, Chaumuhan-581406, Mathura INDIA

Objective:

In present study an attempt has been made with the object to study the perception of teacher trainees of Uttar Pradesh (India) from various classes on the item “Whether sex education is required to avoid development of inferiority in the children.”

Methodology:

The teacher trainees in Uttar Predesh (India) were asked whether sex education is required to avoid development of inferiority in the children.” The sample size was 200 including 124 males and 76 females and 100 each of two systems of education viz. traditional and distance. The survey was conducted with the respondents of 23 districts out of 75. The age group of the respondents was 22 to 35 years. Chi square analysis was implemented to draw valid conclusions from the observations.

Findings:

Significant (p<0.01) majority of teacher trainees (69%) was perceived that sex education is required to avoid development of inferiority in the child with χ2= value equal to 19.92.

Female teacher trainees were also presented their significantly positive (p<0.01) view in this direction with a majority of 79% and χ2 value equal to 17.80, however, the majority of male teacher trainees was just 59% and remained non-significant (p>0.01) with χ2 value equal to 17.80.

Teacher trainees under traditional system of education were recorded to be non-significant (p>0.01) to present their positive view to provide sex education for avoiding development of inferiority of 63% χ2 value equal to 5.00, however, the majority of teacher trainees under distance system of education was remained significantly positive 75% with χ2 value equal to 14.92.

As far as the interaction between the two genders the teacher trainees i.e. male and female and two systems of education i.e. traditional and distance are concerned, highest support to the theory that sex education is required to avoid development of inferiority in the children was received from female teacher trainees under traditional system of education with a majority of 86% and χ2 value equal to 17.80, followed by those of females under distance education system with a majority of 72% and χ2 value equal to 4.84 and males under traditional system with a majority of 64% and χ2 value equal to 1.96,  Lowest support to the theory was given by the male teacher trainees under distance system of education with a majority of just 54% with χ2 value equal to 0.16.