All women do is complaining and all men are idiots. Well, that’s how it looks like to a lot of people, but why? Why are woman usually the one cleaning after the man? Why are men such slobs at home in the first place? Why aren’t men romantic? Why do woman nag men to death about not being romantic enough?

These questions have been asked all around the world and since people spoke for the first time. First and foremost you have to understand that the brain has change because of human’s physical traits and evolution. For 100,000s of years women had to stay home to protect they’re child especially when they’re pregnant. Woman wouldn’t want to hunt a saber tooth and risk the life of their unborn child, so they stay home a let the men do the hunting. Only in a proximately 50 years, women were known to go out and take charge in the work force, but there is still evolutionary bits left in woman’s (and man’s) brain that stayed with the humans.

In general when it comes to problem solving, men and women have different ways in viewing things. consciously a woman will ask “How do I solve it?” An example that could be used for 1,000s of years; when a mother’s child gets sick, she needs to find the solution to that problem right away, without asking any other questions.

when problem occurs to men they will first ask “Why should I solve it?” Another example that can be used for 1,000s of years; when men go out to hunt for food and risk their lives, they want to know why instead of how first, to make sure the risk is important and worthy.

In modern times where the differences in roles between men and women had blurred significantly but their attempt to solve the problems has not change, so as they attempt to solve everyday challenges subconsciously the woman will only ask “why?” after their attempt. “Why is this happening to me? Why am I even doing this in the first place?” In that attempt the woman will complain because she doesn’t have the answer that she was asking subconsciously, While men in the other hand will ask “how” after their attempt, usually looking like incompetents.

If you go to a woman’s house usually it will be clean, pretty and with lots of decoration while inside of a man’s house usually dirty and barely any decorations whatsoever. The reason behind that is evolution. Remember that for 100,000s of years the men would hunt while the women would stay home. That has affected both sexes up to even today. Men in general do not like to stay home compared to women (they much more rather go fishing, hunting or go play football) Women in general much rather stay home and read a book. Because of evolution, men are more comfortable to go outside of their environment.

Psychologists at Queen Mary, University of London did a research that shows gay men and straight women share a poor sense of direction. The Sun news site says: “Both (women and gay men) are poor at navigating and rely on local landmarks to get around, the study suggests.

They are also slower to take in spatial information than heterosexual men.

This means driving in a strange environment is likely to be more challenging for gay men and women than for straight male motorists.

Psychologists at Queen Mary, University of London, conducted computer-based tests of spatial learning and memory on 140 volunteers recruited through advertisements in newspapers and magazines.

They showed that gay men, straight women and lesbians navigated in much the same way and shared the same weaknesses.

But there were also differences between gay and heterosexual men and straight and lesbian women.

Previous research had already shown that the male myth of women being poor navigators has some bearing on reality.

Men consistently outperform women on tasks requiring navigation and discovering hidden objects.

Women, on the other hand, are more successful in tests requiring them to remember where objects lie.”

This means the female human learned to organize to their surroundings; the human male did not.

As hunters the men tend to be visualized and be systematic; women (who were left in the village) were socializing, tacking care of the children, and doing whatever they can at home. This can explain why men are not as romantic as women would like them to be. Women sexuality is stimulated on touch, and tends to sympathize when it comes to romance. Men sexuality is stimulated more on visualization, and tends to systemize when it comes to romance. This would explain why men are known to be more sex oriented, and woman to be more oriented towards relationships.

It is common knowledge that men and women are different; these differences have caused a great deal of arguments that has ended in terrible circumstances, all because they do not quite understand each other. Men and women both have they’re strong points and weaknesses but together with two different mindsets, they can complete each other, and lets not forget some of the best romantic literature were written by men, and some of the best world leaders were women, we should never judge anyone simply because of their sex.

For example, I took sociology at AS level and feminism was a topic that popped up in almost every lesson. The majority of the class were girls, and were constantly going on about how great women were and that we didn’t even need men in our lives whatsoever. Now don’t get me wrong; I’m a girl, and of course I think girls are great. They make amazing friends because of their general caring nature and their ability to be emotionally connected to you when the need arises. But there was no way in hell I was going to sit there and agree that whatever a man can do, a woman can do better. I love men. And as weird and overly sexual as that may sound, I really don’t mean it in that way. I simply mean, that if I were to be presented with the opportunity to live in a world without men, I would gladly refuse.

Here is a small…ish  list of why I think men are cool (no, I didn’t say better than women, I said cool):

·         They are, in most cases, physically stronger than women. If I can’t open something, which is often the case because I am pathetically weak, then a man is the answer. This also makes them super handy around the house when decorating or just moving heavy stuff around. Plus, their arms look sexy. Just saying.

·         Most men are (or seem to be) quite strong emotionally too. Now, if my pet cat has just died, I don’t want to be sitting next to one of my girlfriends who will probably be on the verge of tears too, I want someone who is going to comfort me and be strong for me. Which would be a guy. Probably.

·         They are brutally honest. Sometimes this isn’t such an obvious plus, but if you’re about to hit the town looking like an absolute fashion failure, the one who will tell you will most likely be your boyfriend or male friend (however you want to put it) and not your girlfriends. See, girls don’t really care; as long as they look hotter than you, it’s all good. Guys on the other hand, look at the mess that you are and immediately recognise that you do indeed need some major adjustments. Lovely.

·         Guys are incredibly easy to get along with. I find that a lot of girls get easily offended and take things very personally, and you find yourself constantly watching what you say. Of course, the reason guys tend not to get offended by what you’re saying probably has to do with the fact that half the time, they’re not actually listening… but, as long as it looks like they’re interested in what I’m saying, I don’t particularly care. Your typical guy is chilled and easy going; great to be around on a cosy night in watching a movie and also awesome if you need someone to watch sports with, because none of your girlfriends like it.

·         They have an inbuilt desire to provide, protect and take pride in what is ‘theirs’. I find a lot of women dislike being ‘owned’ by their husbands or boyfriends but personally I find it endearing to think that this man likes me enough to want to actually make me his. It doesn’t necessarily make you an ‘object’, it simply means he absolutely adores you and doesn’t want anything to make your day, week, month or life miserable. There’s nothing quite like knowing your guy has told all his other mates how gorgeous he thinks you are, and how perfect you are to him. And sure, they might seem a little work-crazy but at the end of the day… a genuine man is only doing it to give you an easier life (most of the time. I admit, some guys are just morons, just as some women).

·         Some men… are just incredibly nice to look at. Probably not such a great reason but it’s a reason nonetheless. Could you really live in a world with no eye candy?

Okay, so I overdid the ‘small’ list. And I hope you don’t think I’m trying to prove that women should indeed ‘get back in the kitchen’. I totally support those who are genuinely fighting for the rights of women all over the world. The only thing I am questioning is, is it really necessary to state that men are useless? No wonder they carry on acting like complete cavemen-like idiots and insist that we make them a sandwich; we’ve slowly been stripping them of their manliness and pummelling their worth into almost nothing.

So in conclusion, I guess I didn’t really answer the initial question. But that’s because I don’t think there is one. Men are good at what they’re good at, and women are good at what they’re good at. At times, their paths may cross, and yes, one sex may be better than the other at that thing. But in the long run… there’s no point ruling out one of the genders; without each other, I’m pretty sure we’d go insane. Plus the tiny problem of procreation. So stop moaning and just appreciate each other!

2. Give more than you take. This applies to me too in whatever relationship it is, even with friendships that you have, if you give more than you take, the relationship will grow, like a savings fund of a bank… If neither of us go into debt (for a prolonged period of time), we’ll both stay happy. (note: you might have the question: give what? the answer is whatever the other person values. For me, basically whatever makes my life easier or helps me reach my goals… ask me to find those out!)

3. Communication. If you communicate what’s bothering you or what you want, that’s a big step to getting it or having the problem solved. If the person you’re communicating with respects you, they’ll help in whatever way they can. Communication in general is the reason some relationships work and the lack of it is often why others fail miserably.

4. Confidence over doubt. Confidence helps life in general so much more than insecurity and doubt. If there’s anything that happens that a person is unsure of, a confident person will often expect something harmless or a simple explanation later, whereas an insecure person will expect the worst, and go into a brainstorm of terrible possibilities. Giving someone the benefit of the doubt is much better than always fearing the worst. (Not to mention a confident person is always more pleasant to be around.)

5. Expectations low –> Surprise and enjoyment high. Keep your expectations of me low, and you’ll constantly be surprised. I enjoy doing remaining unpredictable, it’s hard to do that when you’re expecting a shopping list of actions before I’m allowed to do something out of the ordinary that you’ll like.

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Afterthought: Obviously trust, commitment, sense of humor and having good chemistry/naturally getting along is important, but the other stuff is pretty key and I feel that if I’m spending time with you already, you’ve got those qualities already.

Afterthought 2: Somebody recently was confused by my actions and proclaimed that “there’s no guide! How do I know?” Well now there is a guide and I’d just like to say that it would be easier to understand both guys and girls if they made something as simple as a guide to what they want and what’s most important to them when they’re interacting with other people.  More Relationship advice at DarkGrin.com

Baby smiling. Cute photo (source:Wikipedia commons)

What’s the big deal?

• As men, not only don’t we understand women’s fascination with newborns, and we struggle to comprehend women’s need for babies.
• Having a baby is starting a family, and the baby becomes part of both a woman and man. Women, sometimes, beg their men to have babies, the need can be strong, part of the ‘maternal’ instinct, that we as men, don’t always understand.
  

  

  Beautiful baby girl(source wikipedia commons)

Babies.The big question mark on Women’s minds.

• As men we love playing with our toys.Like buying a motorbike or fast cars, for the thrill of it.We also like going out with our male friends, spend money on beers and alcohol.We go home and  the  first question the woman asks is: Are we going to have a baby?. So, what’s our reaction to the question? Do we go along, or think about it? Ultimately, you have to be happy with your decision.

Babies and commitment.Babies need a LOT OF CARE.That means, you have to be committed.You have to:

• Feed it. Special food, baby doesn’t have teeth.
• Change nappies everyday.
• Wash. Have baths.
• Talk to the baby.
• Dress with clothes.
• Go for walks with the baby in the Pram.
• Entertainment. Toys, you need to buy them.

A Baby is part of ourselves, are delicate and need care from us.

• Be prepared to get out of your comfort zone.

• Wake up several times in the night, as the baby cries and needs attention.

• Tantrums. —–>> Lots of it. The baby loves to cry.That’s how they communicate.They can’t talk yet.

Money, you need lots of it for a baby.

Are you prepared financially for a baby?

A baby needs money for:

• Toys. — Get soft ones, so they don’t hurt themselves. Babies are gentle, and very delicate.
• A Pram. For walks.
• Nappies.They need these everyday.
• Food.They are growing up.
• Clothes.You could even second hand clothes from family and friends.Save money.
• Baby’s washing products. Get the rubber duck in that bath and lots of bubbles!
• Other unexpected surprises.
  

  

Babies. Reflection of ourselves.

If your woman has a baby, it will change your life.

• Your woman will feel like a Woman.
• The man feels like life has a different meaning.
• You probably will get more mature.
• You will learn to love another human being.
• You will have Responsibility.The baby will learn from you.
• CONNECTION. You will connect with your baby.As you love your dad or mom, your baby will love you.
• The baby Knows you are his dad.
• He will IMITATE you and Look up to you.
• You will Love your son or daughter.They are a part of you and your life.

Your GENETICS are passed on to your baby.He will look like you or your woman, or have a combination.

Babies. An excuse for shopping?

Let’s admit to it.Women LOVE Shopping.They have more sensitive taste’s than ours, are able to discern the mulititude of colours available, and are more inclined to be big fashion fans.Have you seen the different styles of shoes and clothes that they have? It’s HUGE.Their minds are going into overdrive when they shop.

Women and babies.

Ultimately, babies are more inclined to want to be close to their mothers.Women can feed them with breast milk, which is what nature has intended to do.Not that men are not useful to them, but babies have a big bond with their mothers, as they grew up in their bodies for a long 9 months.Does this explain the connection? It’s part of nature, women’s nature is a lot more caring, and sensitive to a baby’s needs.

• Men just don’t understand nature, as nature never designed men to understand the special bond between babies and women. 

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Now, as I have promised, first of all, a thought experiment.

Say you have a healthy mixed group of 100 children.

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Now, you divide them into two groups.

The first group receives all of the standard training. Nothing too bad, nothing too good. Just the bare average. Their education will be sufficient, if not a little bit over the average.

Now, the second group, let’s call it “The privileged ones”, they receive a special education. They get awarded more attention, receive extra training, are told that they can be whatever they want to be, and are constantly monitored, measured, and improved. If there seems to be an opportunity for them to learn more, somebody will take them by the hand, and show them.

Clearly, the second group seems to have a hugely popular focus, and a very huge advantage over the first group. Let’s just for the sake of science say, the usual is true.

10 % of a group are exceptional

40 % of a group are average, but could be better

40 % of a group are below average, but care enough to learn

10 % of a group are just hopeless cases.

Now, In the first group, the average one, the results will be as following:

The 10 % exceptional children will continue to stay exceptional, no matter what

The 40 % that are above average will slowly decline , from both sides, towards the average. After all, why should they care?

The 40 % below average will split up evenly. 20 % will make the jump to average, while the other 20 % will decline towards hopeless cases.

And the 10 % that are hopeless will stay hopeless.

Now, in the second group, things will be different. They, who have been as privileged as to receive the special education, will behave a little bit differently.

The top 10 % of the group will continue to stay exceptionally bright, and maybe, with the added resources, some will even reach the level of genius.

The 40 % will divide up. 20 % will raise to the status of exceptional, because as most of us no doubt have noticed, a little additional motivation for the education will go a long way. 10 % will stay above average, and only 10 % of them will sink and become average.

the 40 % below average will split up. Let’s say, given the benefit of the doubt, that additional motivation and scholastic possibilities are not as good as it seems, then we have about 20 % that go to average, mainly because someone cares enough for them. 10 % will stay below average, because we have a certain population that just cannot be helped that much, and 10 % decline to below average hopeless cases.

The 10 % of the hopeless cases will split up. 5 % of them will realise that there is some hope for them, and move onwards with their education. 5 % will stay there, because they where hopeless from the beginning.

Now, these numbers, though roughly an estimate, can be verified by a lot of people who have worked in the field of education.A little extra can go a long way, as far as most of us remember.

Whether it is the gym teacher, that sacrificed his break so you could play some football in the gym. or it could have been that first class teacher, the female Madonna, that all of the kids have been in love with, because she all ways cared for what was going on in your home. Or it could have been the English teacher, that pointed out that Shakespeare has over 9000 words in it that were Victorian area slang for genitals, and thus opened up the way into your love of the English language. or it could have been that tiny librarian lady, that organised special sleep ins in the library, where she would read with her birdlike figure, surrounded by a flock of happy children, the first novels of harry potter.

Teachers, as most of us hopefully remember, played a big role in antibody’s life. The more attention they gave you, the harder you tried to please them.So, it could be concluded that most children would do everything for a little bit extra, even learning.

Now, in a fairly recent article, I stumbled over a common problem in today’s society. http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/story/RTGAM.20090515.wlfair15/BNStory/lifeMain/home

Today, more and more girls excel in the field of science and such, while more and more boys seem to not care anymore.

My position on this subject is clear, when you substitute the first group in the experiments with boys, and the second group with girls.

Most of the time, the dis equality is more obvious. But I think we should start here.

It seems clear, from the thought experiment, that you would automatically agree with my previous position. You could have said, why yes, of course, if one group receives all the special attention, then why should it not be better then the other one?

But, if you fill the sample with boys and girls, suddenly there will be a silence.

Now, if you are male, you have one of two preformed positions. The first one, which I have received mostly from my peers, is “so?”

It results from the male sense of accomplishment. If a man accomplishes the slightest thing, he has learned that nobody in the world will gratify him for something he is supposed to do. So, he will give himself a high five. This leads, usually, to the two male behaviorism we have come to love:

- Puffing it up: Similar to the male cat, the man is forced to seek at least some social acceptance for the deed. Thus, every time it is retold, he will add a little bit of difficulty, a little more twang, until the story accurately reflects not what has happened in reality, but how it should have happened, according to his feelings.bad things will become worse, good things will become even better, and in general, he tries to be a man.

- Playing it down: in a similar fashion, men usually tend to play a difficult accomplishment down, once they receive open admiration. Every man knows the situation where you had your ability to shine, and you feel a little embarrassed by it. So, you play it down, to fit the mental image of your dad, a simple man who could do the most wonderful things, and never boasted openly.

Now, the male side, simply put, has huge shoes to fill. The generation before them always made the first steps on the moon, fought the darkness, bought stuff, and were real men.

Now, on the female side, accomplishment is usually treated totally different. When my girlfriends do something, they usually call everybody, and receive some special credit. they have a large circle of peers, and most importantly of all, they have open admiration. They never need to fill footsteps, because their mothers did not have a fifth of the available possibilities they have today. Yet at the same time, they are totally enshrined in the glory of the myth of the Lady. they expect to be treated like one, and they easily get angry if they don’t.

Now, to even further the gap between the sexes, let’s compare the usual benefits they receive, compared to the duties they have.

In my country of Germany, I have to either get into the military, or spend a certain time doing social things. my girlfriend, on the other hand, is allowed to do whatever she pleases.

If I decide to split the check on a date, everybody in the restaurant thinks I am an asshole. if my girlfriend decides she will pay for herself, she is an independent woman.

If I turn on the TV, I see many males being displayed as the most loathsome overgrown kids, who play dress up and are emotionally immature.if my girlfriend turns on the TV, she sees multiple examples that a woman can be sexy, successful and family oriented at the same time.

If I don’t get something, it is because either I am too dumb for it, or I did something wrong.If she does not get it, it usually is because it is a dumb male thing, or because it is prejudiced against women.

if I want to start a macho club at university, I will most likely be burned at a stake by some feminists. if my girlfriend wants to open a feminist club, she will be a model of courage and progress.

Does anybody still wonder why today’s youth do no longer get the equality of sexes?

Now, to top it all off, and to stir up some trouble, my last point.

I get the feminist side. I know that men are vain, ignorant, greedy pigs, who objectify women in the harshest of ways, and who about ruined everything they touched. I know that women usually get payed a lot less then men. I know that you have grown up, being taught that you will have to fight twice as hard for anything then a man.

Now, I will do something that most men will probably kill me for. I admit that men are an outdated idea. I admit that we are the weaker sex, and that we usually run away at the first sign of trouble. I admit that you women have to work more and endure more then anybody out there. I know that you have behind your belt a century of oppression, slavery to men, and that that made you strong.

What I also admit is that you start to have all these despicable qualities that men have. When I tried to get a past time job teaching at a preschool, the female head of school looked me straight in the eye and told me that what i did not have the social skills to make up for it. When I wanted to visit the course in self defense, the teacher looked me dead in the eye, and asked if I was a pussy.When some girls beat me up, I was told that I was weak, and could not stand my ground. When I sent one of them in the hospital, because I broke her leg, I was suspended for three Weeks, and nobody believed me that I was being bullied.

You see? I feel with you. I know how it feels to be an oppressed minority.

Now, I do not want to dictate you anything. I just want to get you thinking.

True equality of the sexes would be:

- if the preferred status of the female in courtship would disappear, along with any notion of the word gentleman. In my understanding, a gentleman is someone who is nice to somebody who is weaker then himself, and as I have already mentioned, women are equal to men. In return, I would gladly help to crucify all these fashion designers, who force you to look like seven year old boys. If I would like the look of seven year old boys, I would date one.

-You would either erase the notion of a “Girls Day”, or do the same for the boys. As it is easily clear, the female side of the population is equal to the male side, so a one sided treatment is gender based discrimination.

- Stop the male gender mutilation, and we stop the female gender mutilation. Whoever has created us obviously knew what he or she was doing, and made each and everyone of us perfect. Cutting away even the tiniest part will take away from this perfection, and no religious excuse can justify that.

- Allow boys to be boys. Nowadays, it is a popular fad to erase all typical male behaviour from male children. Stop that at once. Young girls are allowed to behave however they want. So, the next time some male compares male reproductive organ sizes, gets drunk, or treats his Car like a woman, just smile, and literally be the stronger sex.

-Stop objectifying us. I have read your magazines. I have watched your shows. basically, you treat males like a finite state automaton, where this manipulation leads exactly to that result. If you stop that, and just like us men for what we are, I promise you, we will stop objectifying women.

-understand that there are some fundamental differences between the sexes. You girls got basically all of the good side effects. us males only have a very strong sex drive, and the ability to lift heavy stuff, and open jars.

Real Equality of the sexes would be if Everybody would just judge the person next to him by the contents of his or her character, and not by some preconceived notions about what should be, and how the ideal should be.

At this point, I can hear most of the female readers already fuming, so to top it of, some last bit to get you thinking.

Remember the article I based my judgement on?

It also demonstrates why so many women succeed in school, yet so few succeed in real life.

With the help of these programs, like girls day, or similar stipendia, women are basically told that they are something special, and that they deserve what is coming to them. Their sense of accomplishment is driven up, while their ego almost swells to the point of no return.

Now, at the workplace, we meet two children of the thought experiment again. The woman, now on her own, is slowly realising that the job she applied for does not offer that comfortable buffer of heightened expectations. She is basically told that she has to deliver some kind of service, and that she will not get a cookie for it.She seems utterly crushed by the idea, and resorts to the last possible explanation:

That it was true what the women told her. That the male pigs still dominate her, and that she will not succeed, until she gets more girls in the workplace. So she picks up the phone, and becomes a lobbyists for girl power.

All the wile, the male simply does what he is supposed to do. He has been told that if he wants to succeed, he cannot rely on anybody but himself, and that he has to be better then all of the others. He will therefor get less depressed, and as a result, will perform better. And the big bosses usually do not give out valuable executive positions by gender equality, but by who is more fit for the position. And perhaps, only perhaps, the males remember how they were treated in school, how they suffered from the feminists, and will judge accordingly.

Think about it.

We all know how important children are in a persons life. Well people who have never had them don’t have a clue. I do feel bad for them. It’s your connection to yourself. Parents always put their kids before anything. Well any good parent. That’s what parents do. Some step parents want to be put before the kids and that’s dangerous. Don’t get in the way of a Mother or Father and their cubs because they will rip your heart out. I was told by someone that my ex should come first and the kids second. Then again this was coming from people who’s kids hardly talk to them and a couple of them are in jail. My kids, God I love them, are upstanding young adults with pretty good heads on their shoulders. Unfortunately the heads look a lot like me.

Anyway my ex decided to resurface. I was not prepared for her wanting to get back together with me nor wanting that. She realized that I was the love of her life and she would do anything to get me back. I talked to my daughter and she said that she probably had a fight with her boyfriend. My daughter is smart beyond her years. I received constant calls and text messages saying that she wanted to hear my voice and she would do anything to get me back because she screwed up. She said that for months she has been telling people how she had screwed up her life and messed up the only thing that was good. Now if I was her boyfriend I would be wondering what the hell I’ve gotten myself into because believe you me I had already been in that soup. And it was messy.

After a week of this she realized that we had too much baggage and it wouldn’t work out but that I’m the love of her life and she has to go back with her boyfriend. I guess I was being used to motivate the unmotivated. Am I the confused one. No I figured it out. Rumor has it that the guy woke up and they are now intimate together. You can’t make this stuff up. I mean all the time I knew she had no scruples but now here was the proof. The best thing is this guy is oblivious to the whole thing. Let me tell you after going thru 3 of her romantic affairs, while we were married, I think I am getting a well deserved rest. Oh I drove her into the arms of other people because I put my kids first. Can you say responsibility for you actions. She can’t.

Hmmmm. Well now I have a girl who is low on drama but high on love. I close my eyes and I can see her smile and when I touch her face with the palm of my hand it’s electric. But when her kids call I move out of the way because I don’t want to be mowed down. That’s what love is.

FAILURE TO COMMUNICATE

When individuals do not communicate well, they feel misunderstood, frustrated, distressed, defensive and often hostile, all of which increase their stress level. Faults and flaws in communication habits, as well as communication gaps, cause stress too many people and those with whom they interact on all levels, from the most intimate to the most distant of acquaintances. People who don’t communicate effectively are more vulnerable to disease: they can be hostile and confrontational, and they are at increased risk for heart disease. People who fell misunderstood report more depression and more mood disorders of the kind shown to weaken the immune system. When communication breaks down, heart rate speeds up, cholesterol and blood sugar levels rise, and they become more susceptible and sensitive to headaches, digestive problems and pain. In work settings, communication gaps can reduce productivity, make workers irritable and even increase the risk of accidents.

DIFFERENCES IN MALE-FEMALE COMMUNICAITON STYLES:

According to a personnel communications specialist, differences between communications styles of male and female managers in business can cause problems in efficiency and in accomplishing goals. Males in the corporate world often use a complex combination of business, sports and military jargon. Their behavior is action oriented and competitive. On the other hand, women generally are more demonstrative and frame their speech with qualifiers, questions and questioning intonations. They express doubts, uncertainties and feelings more frequently than men.

According to specialist when women wait for men to speak first, they create an image of incompetence. “Men may then fall into the stereotypical role of treating women as incompetent, and the stereotypical interaction continues in a destructive way. It would be more effective if managers of both genders would “speak the same” language”.

“Many women attempt to crack the male communication code in the workplace until something happens that shows they have underestimated its complexities, “says Candiss Rinker, an expert in the science and practice of change management. She explains that women have been socialized from childhood to avid direct communication about difficult issues, so they often use a sugar-coated approach that other women understand but men do not.

According to linguistics professor, gender differences put women in a double blind at work that is not as evident in personal relationships. “Workplace communication norms were developed by men, for men, at a time when there were very few women present. The situation is aggravated when women hold positions of authority. If they talk in ways expected of women, they may not be respected; if they talk in ways expected of men. They may not be liked”.

Do you I believe that bisexuality is a separate orientation? Yes, I believe that bisexuality is, without question, a separate, sexual orientation. To say that only heterosexual or homosexual orientations exist is like saying the world must be divided into dogs and cats, when in reality the world is mixed with both. As there is so much to contemplate, it’s quite obvious that people possess a lot of views, to which bisexuality is so diverse, it’s problematic. However; time has changed and science has proven that bisexuality does exist. Not just in theory or in human development, but also in the animal kingdom.

In the 1950s era, there was an American biologist named Alfred Kinsey. He taught entomology, botany, and zoology. Kinsey always had an obsession with sex, but never really discussed it in the open until the 50s persuasion (and if you read his biography, you would be fascinated with his story). Keep in mind, in the 1950s sex was more private and talking about it was sort of shocking to vast majority of the status quo population. Anyways, as time proceeded he became a sexologist and became open about his thoughts on sexology. He developed an interesting theory called the “Kinsey Scale” in an attempt to measure sexual orientation. The scale was exactly 7 points and went from 0-7. If you were a 0, you were exclusively heterosexual and if you were a 6, you were exclusively homosexual. If you were a 1, you were technically bi-curious and if you were a 5, you were bisexual, but more leaning towards homosexual. If you were a 2, you were bisexual, but not open and if you were a 4, you were bisexual, but more curious about homosexuality, although not technically leaning towards homosexuality more so. If you were a 3, you were basically just bisexual. I believe his theory makes sense and proves that bisexuality is it’s own orientation. If you would like to know more about Kinsey, I highly recommend watching the movie “Kinsey” which stars Liam Neeson.

Another interesting theory called the “Klein Sexual Orientation Grid” (which is similar to Alfred Kinsey’s “Kinsey Scale”) by Fred Klein was developed to further expand the Kinsey Scale in measuring sexual orientation. 1 simply meant “other sex only” (or opposite sex/heterosexuality) and represented heterosexuals and 7 simply meant “same sex only” (which constitutes for homosexuality). Although, similar to the Kinsey Scale, the Klein Sexual Orientation Grid is different and bases it’s experiments on sexual attraction, behavior, fantasies, as well as, social and emotional preferences. Fred Klein also provides evidence in “The Bisexual Option” a book that was introduced to the public in the late 70s, that was entirely devoted to bisexualism.

People often mistake bi-curiosity with bisexuality because bi-curiosity is hetero and homo flexible, therefore; critics and nilihists believe that bisexuality is not an orientation, but a feeling or choice of action upon curiosities, that develops in time, for the same sex (or the sex to which you aren’t usually attracted to). The term passively-bi may also apply to be an exception to the rule. Some people may also believe that bi-curiosity is a bit ambiguous and assume bisexuality is the same way. In fact, some heterosexuals, as well as, homosexuals find bisexuality a threat. Individuals who are bi-curious often are heterosexual (most commonly) or homosexual. When someone is bi-curious, it does not mean that individual is bisexual, unless that individual feels closeted or in denial. Bi-curiousity is not an orientation, whereas; bisexuality is an orientation.