Rape in the Storm (Photo credit: DucDigital)

A 23 year old man was recently arrested by Kenyan police after raping two octogenarians aged 84 and 86 for hours. The two grannies weren’t walking down the street wearing mini skirts and boobs showing all over, they were actually sound asleep and just didn’t know what they were getting themselves into when they opened the door for the suspect.

He is reported to have broken into one granny’s house at 9pm, held her by the throat, and pulled her out of bed for the dastardly act. The first granny later fled to a nearby home, screaming for help which alerted neighbors.

The suspect fled into the darkness and knocked on yet another granny’s door. The second octogenarian opened not knowing what lay in store for her only to endure sexual abuse which lasted for hours until the man got tired and slept in the granny’s bed!

The two grandmothers are now recuperating at a local hospital. When asked what came over him, the culprit could only blame marijuana!

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Two weeks after Bollywood Superstar Amir Khan’s show Satyamev Jayate did an episode on CSA – child sexual abuse, the law was passed on May 23. A timely and appreciable action of Indian government.

I have read so many stories of CSA today that it pains me to even think about the torturous times those toddlers must have gone true. In India where these topics are taboo, it takes an herculean effort for the child and the parents to even come face to face with these issues.

Most of the cases are swept under the carpet, some keep it a secret suffering in silence. It is high time that parents become aware of their children’s need and emotions. To take them seriously if they report any such incident. Most of the time it’s the victim’s relative who violate them. And then it becomes tough to acknowledge the situation.

Whatever be the case, be there for your child.

$2.85 million is the sum that one woman received after suing children’s services for failing to protect her from someone who was allegedly abusing her. The woman is reported to have sued DSHS in 2009, stating that a social worker from the state did not investigate the allegations of abuse and neglect that were going on.  The woman was repeatedly abused and molested by her father, who was later charged with 14 counts of molestation, incest, and rape.

Amber Wright, the woman who sued the state, lived with her father until 2004, when he had been arrested on suspicion of several charges. These charges included child molestation, communicating with a minor for immoral purposes, as well as attempted child molestation and providing drugs to minors. The girl, who was then 13 years old, was temporarily moved in with her grandmother.

The Department of Social and Health Services opened an investigation after the arrest, but closed the investigation after the woman said that her father was not abusing her. The lawsuit allegedly states that DSHS didn’t take the steps that were needed to protect Amber Wright from her father’s abuse, despite warnings from people in the community, which included warnings from law enforcement and local neighbors. Five other children also admitted to being molested by the same individual.

The  lawsuit  was  scheduled  because a social worker did not properly investigate the case and returned the girl to her father, who abused her both physically and sexually. The state agreed to pay the money, hoping that it would cover any needs that the girl would have. The lawyer states that his client is focused on moving forward from what happens.  The state agreed to pay the $2.85 million suit, which they state that they hope “fairly compensates” the woman for the trauma she suffered. DSHS has since taken steps to improve its services to the community. 

Sanctions for an embarrassing scandal was issued before the completion of the investigation carried out against 27 priests linked the possibility of their involvement on a number of suspected cases of abuse against children.

The twenty seven priests were previously forced to take time off to undergo a process of investigation. They all made ​​the decision to investigate the jurors in the trial concerned.

Archbishop Chaput added, the fifth case was lecherous priest had entered the trial. They will also lose a number of duties and authority, such as preaching and presiding. They can file an appeal or objection to Rome, but after that they can also be fired as pastor.

In addition to the five priests, there are three other priests who had already completed a process of investigation. Two of them were declared to be proven and the other was reported to have died.

“I expressed deep regret, and at once begged forgiveness on behalf of the archdiocese, especially to all victims of sexual abuse,” he said in a press conference.

Besides the actors, the court also sentenced to Monsignor William Lynn, who was accused of conspiring with the perpetrators and victims of endangering the child. Lynn was known to be involved to cover up allegations of abuse by a priest, which he later transferred to another parish.

Brian Spillane (69), was indicted on nine charges of indecent assault relating to the abuse during the 1970s and the 1980s, when he became a pastor in Sydney and rural disebuah in the state of New South Wales.

The judge who jailed Spillane, Judge Michael Finnane said that he had used his position to gain the trust of the family of the young girls and consent to their homes.

He called on each attack is an attack that is “serious, deliberate and callous” and described Spillane as “perpetrators of violence and cowardly”.

“He’s very reliable and the parents of each victim gave him easy access to their daughter and because of the belief that is what membut he was arrested,” said the judge.

“This is sexual harassment committed by a trusted priest and a great breach of trust.”

Some of the violations occurred when Spillane was alone with his victims were in their bedroom for the evening prayer. One occurred in the car after she attended a memorial service.

The court heard that Spillane has shown remorse.

The forms of violence Children (Child Abuse). Terry E. Lawson, international psychiatrists who formulated a definition of violence against children, said there are four kinds of violence (abuse), that is emotional abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse.

Emotional abuse occurs when a parent / caregiver and child protection after knowing her for attention, ignore him. He let the children wet or hungry because mothers are too busy or do not want to be disturbed at that time. He may ignore the needs of the child to cuddle or be protected. Children will be given all the emotional abuse emotional abuse if it takes place consistently. Parents who are emotionally cruel to force her will to continue doing things the same throughout the life of the child.

Verbal abuse occurs when a parent / caregiver and child protection, after knowing her for attention, telling him to shut up or do not cry. If the child starts talking, she constantly uses such verbal violence, “you fool”, “you nag”, etc.. Children will remember all the verbal abuse if all the verbal abuse that takes place in one period.

Physical abuse, occurs when a parent / caregiver and child protective hit children (when the child actually needs attention). The blow will be remembered that if the child physical abuse took place within a certain period. Meanwhile, sexual abuse usually does not occur during the first eighteen months in the lives of children. Child sexual exploitation is a dependency, sexual development activities that do not mature in children and adults, where they do not fully comprehensive and are not able to give consent as opposed to a taboo in the family.

According to Moore (in Nataliani, 2004), violence or abuse against children in general can be classified into three categories, including physical, sexual and emotional. Purbani (2003) said that domestic violence whether committed by a husband to his wife or parents of the children can take the form of physical or nonphysical. Non-physical violence can be shaped like verbal abuse, humiliation, mencuekin (silence) wife, or other forms such as no pay for months, while physical abuse may take the form beating, penjambakan, etc..

While Patilima (2003) consider that child abuse is the wrong treatment. Hamid defines child abuse in the treatment of children is all the consequences that threaten the welfare and development of the child, whether physical, social psychology, as well as mentally. Mistreatment by DR. Irwanto (in Hamid, 2003), can be classified into various categories according to the impact of treatment, namely:

Sexual abuse;

Physical mistreatment, and

Mental mistreatment.

The forms of violence contained in Law no. 23 in 2004 (www.kowani.or.id) on the Elimination of Domestic Violence (PKDRT), where ingkup households in this Act include husband, wife and children, namely;

1) Physical abuse: Physical abuse as defined in Article 5 letter a refers to behavior that result in pain, sick, or serious injury;

2) psychological violence are: psychological violence as defined in Article 5 letter b is the act of inspiring fear, loss of confidence, loss of ability to act, a sense of helplessness, and / or mental suffering on a person’s weight;

3) Sexual assault is sexual assault as defined in Article 5 letter c include: Forced sexual intercourse carried out against people who define the scope of the life of the household; Forced sexual relations among individuals within the scope of the household with another person for commercial purposes and / or a particular purpose,

4) Neglect of the household. Each person is prohibited displaced people within the scope of the household, neglect referred to in paragraph (1) also applies to any person resulting economic dependence by limiting and / or prohibit to work properly inside or outside the home so that the victim was under the control person.

According Sitohang (2004), these forms of violence against children include;

1) physical abuse, Non-Accidental “injury” ranging from mild “Bruiser laceration” to the severe neurologic injury and death. Physical injury due to corporal punishment out of bounds, giving poison or cruelty;

2) Neglect of children / omission, the act or behavior which may cause direct damaging effects on children’s physical condition and psychological development;

3) emotional abuse is characterized by criticism / words that are degrading the child, does not recognize as a child. Such mistreatment generally always followed by other forms of maltreatment;

4) Sexual abuse, use a persuasive approach. Coercion on the person taking the child to behave / conduct real sexual activity, thus describes the activities such as: sexual activity (oral genital, genital, or anal sodomy), including incest.

A  substitute teacher in the United States was forced to deal with the police. Marla Sizemor (44) is accused of sexually abusing her own students who are minors.

Dailymail.co.uk in his writings, Monday (16/4) said that the mother’s high school teachers teaching in White Hall High School in the White House, Arkansas, USA. In the article said Marla had  sex with a student in their home while a party was held. The party was attended by 25 students under the age of 18 years; Marla provided a lot of alcohol.

According to witnesses, Marla has held two times a party and invited his students are still adolescents. In recognition is also revealed that she had sex with two students in the main bedroom after drunkenness. What’s worse, according to the recognition of one of his students, the mother of two children ever had sex next to her daughter who was sleeping soundly in the same bed.

Police are asking witnesses, the students who attended the party, the recognition of three students who had sex with the teacher. The recognition is also said that Marla advised her students not to tell about a party at his house aperitif. Police continue to investigate and gather evidence of these sheets to reinforce allegations of sexual abuse to minors.

Marla is now must face charges of sexual abuse first degree and second, and related to providing alcoholic beverages to minors. Knowing these cases, the school fired a substitute teacher Marla.

What do child molesters look like?  Your grandfather, your brother, your aunt, your employee, and yes, brilliant college football coaches.  No one is all good or all bad; and sex offenders are no exception. They may be extremely talented, intelligent, successful, good-looking, blessed with beautiful families and “normal” sexual outlets. They cover all walks of life: early 20’s through 70’s, all ethnicities, races, religions, IQ levels, education, sexual orientations, and all socioeconomic strata. They don’t all look like “perverts.” There is no typical profile.

In psychology, there is a basic belief that “What is beautiful is good.”  Therefore, if someone who is beautiful (or does beautiful things) does something bad, it creates cognitive dissonance, a confused state of being that can block comprehension and appropriate action.  It is fairly easy for us to believe that an unattractive, low-achiever could commit sex crimes against children, and we then vilify the “pervert,” even after he/she admits it and works to control it.

Many child molesters and pedophiles actually hate themselves for what they consider uncontrollable urges and would get help if they knew where to turn.  Sadly, the global belief is that they cannot be helped, and most reoffend.  Fortunately, this is completely false.  With treatment, the recidivism rate is between 5%-13%, much lower than for non-sex crimes (US Dept of Justice; Bureau of Statistics). While there is no cure for an attraction to children, it can be managed much like substance addictions.  Again, therapy and support are crucial to success.

Adults fail to intervene and report abuse for a variety of reasons, one of the most salient being denial or minimization of the offense.  This is enabling, and enablers are more culpable than offenders, who can be “crippled” by their  disorder. Enablers do not want the offense to be a reality, and keenly hope that it will just “go away,” particularly if it involves a celebrity or someone we really admire. The American culture all but deifies sports figures.  We want heroes, and athletes and coaches bespeak health, fitness, confidence, winning, and an all- American wholesomeness that blinds some of us to their blemishes or weaknesses. While not excusing their response to the recent accusations at Penn State, Joe Paterno, Mike McQueary, Spanier, et al, I believe, were caught in this immobilizing, enabling position. While it appears that they put football before the wellbeing of children, potentially what was occurring was their inability to comprehend the severity of the crime and respond appropriately. Their actions may have been completely different and appropriate if the perpetrator were a stranger and not part of the success machine of Penn State Football. 

Let us all use this tragedy as an opportunity to learn proper protocol for reporting abuse, even when an abuser attempts to exploit his/her position. Sexual abuse affects us all. This is a public health issue that can be resolved when the media and public move beyond sensationalism. Let’s offer help not only to the victims, but also to the abusers, for the best way to help victims is to help abusers. Let’s focus on accountability, responsibility, solutions, and management vs. blame, demonizing, and retribution.

She wanted the community and world to know that children in this country are abused every day, just as she was, who are afraid to come forth. Abusers are pillars of the community. They are respected members of churches. They are your next door neighbor. They are your dad’s best friend. They are your Scout Master. They are your Sunday school teacher, sometimes it’s your own dad. Nobody wants to believe it can happen to a child they know. We don’t want to believe a leader in our community, our co worker, or pastor  is a child molester. Alby said, “Telling the truth, after feeling shame all these years changed my life.”

In Georgia a victim of abuse previously had seven years from the time a report was filed with a government agency or the victim’s 16th birthday to press criminal charges, but recently the Georgia General Assembly struck that law down to eliminate the statute of limitations. Which is a big win for all children of abuse. This will give these children a chance to tell what happened to them later in life as adults. Alby said, ” Most victims of child abuse cannot even think about coming forward before 20 or 30 years have passed.”

Alby said when she was 12 she tried to tell her Sunday school teacher but her teacher didn’t take her seriously and she was so ashamed she never mentioned it again until she revealed the truth in her thirties. Alby said her abuse took place every day in her home. This child lived her own worst nightmare with no one to turn to. She dated, married, divorced, her parents died and she was still haunted by the abuse. She said she wants to tell her story to help others who are in the situation she was in. To let the victims understand they were victims, and can still live a normal life without shame

Ruby’s Articles:

http://socyberty.com/issues/pedophiles-and-molested-children-in-the-roman-catholic-church/

http://socyberty.com/issues/was-the-popes-apology-another-cover-up/

http://socyberty.com/issues/violence-against-women/