Socyberty » shy people http://socyberty.com Fri, 17 Feb 2012 19:14:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 en hourly 1 Being Shy and Dating http://socyberty.com/relationships/being-shy-and-dating/ http://socyberty.com/relationships/being-shy-and-dating/#comments Thu, 22 May 2008 11:47:56 +0000 lrh2310 http://socyberty.com/relationships/being-shy-and-dating/ A shy person can have a difficult time dating. The fear of being turned down or making a fool of themselves is overwhelming for the shy person. So, instead they will turn away and not ask the person out on a date. If the shy person is being asked out they tend to have a hard time saying no. They are so surprised anyone even noticed them that they react quickly and say yes. Here are some dating tips for the shy type.

  1. Avoid strong personalities

    If a person asks you out and they tend to be aggressive then say no. If you know them from work or school and know that they seem strong minded and don’t like someone who tells them no, still tell them no. Do not accept since it could be more damaging to your shyness than anything else. You will find yourself in a relationship that you will not be able to tell the person no or give them your opinion. Their strong personality can diminish yours. Sometimes it could lead to physical or mental abuse. Accept a date with someone closer to your personality.

  2. Avoid phone calls

    If you want to ask someone out do not do it by phone. Many times you will choke and since most people have caller ID they will know it is you calling. Then the person will think you are strange or odd more than just shy.

  3. Talk to the person face to face

    If you cannot find the courage to ask the person out in person what you can do is write it down and hand it to her/him, but remain present. Do not have someone ask for you and do not leave a note on their desk either.

  4. Double date

    This can be very helpful for the real shy person. Having a friend nearby assisting you on what to say or do can be very comforting. You can also go out in a group.

  5. Be comfortable in your environment

    Be sure that the environment of the place you are going to is comfortable to you or is familiar. This will take one less worry off your hands.

  6. Use your friends to your benefit

    If they know someone you like they can introduce you to the person. Friends can also introduce you to those you don’t know, but they are certain that the person is good for you.

]]> http://socyberty.com/relationships/being-shy-and-dating/feed/ 0 Why Shy http://socyberty.com/issues/why-shy/ http://socyberty.com/issues/why-shy/#comments Sun, 24 Sep 2006 12:23:35 +0000 progq http://socyberty.com/issues/why-shy/ I’ve always wondered why some people are real shy. From my personal experiences with people, I’ve come up with a few answers. Sometimes people are shy as an adult because they have had something bad happen to them and they do not like to talk about it much. They might have also been picked on as a kid and beat up as a child. I know shy people who hide they’re feelings because they just want to forget about the past. So if you know someone who is shy, try not to let it bother you. If you want to make them less shy, start taking them to places more often where you interact with the public. If you know they are shy because of something bad happen in their past, than have them write about it so they get it off their chest and maybe they can heal their wounds.

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