The analogy of this, at some point you feel that any of your friends in one class is always trying to get something from you. At that time you always give you what you need from your friends, but the opposite actually happens when you need something from your friends. Each individual making friends of course has the objective to look after one another. Such individuals would be expected to do something for each other, help each other if needed, and give each other support when his grief. However, it also maintains friendly relations costs (cost), such as lost time and energy as well as other activities that are not to be implemented. Although these costs are not seen as something that is expensive or burdensome when viewed from the point of award (reward) obtained from these friendships. however, these costs should be considered if we are to objectively analyze the relationships that exist in a friendly transaction. If the costs appear not in accordance with the return, which happened just a bad feeling in those who feel that the remuneration was too low compared to the costs or sacrifices that have been granted.

An analysis of social relations that occur according to cost and reward is one characteristic of the theory of exchange. This exchange theory focuses on the micro level of analysis, particularly on the interpersonal level of social reality (interpersonal). This discussion will focus on the exchange of ideas theory by Homans and Blau. Homans in his analysis adhered to the requirement to use the principles of individual psychology to explain social behavior rather than just describe it. However, Blau on the other hand trying to move from the level of interpersonal exchanges at the micro level, to a more macro level of the social structure. He attempted to show how the larger social structure that emerges from the base exchange processes.

Unlike the analysis described by the theory of symbolic interaction, exchange theory is primarily a real look at the behavior, not the processes that are purely subjective. It is also shared by Homans and Blau are not focusing on the subjective level of consciousness or the mutual relations of the dynamic interaction between the subjective and real as diterjadi on symbolic interactionism. Homans further argues that scientific explanations should focus on the real behavior can be observed and measured empirically. [1] The process of social exchange has also been expressed by the classical sociologists. As expressed in classical economic theory of the 18th century and 19, the economists like Adam Smith has analyzed the economic market as a result of a comprehensive collection of a number of individual economic transactions that are not visible magnitude. He assumes that transactions pertukuran will occur only if both parties can gain from these exchanges, and public welfare in general can be very well secured when individuals are left to pursue personal interests through exchanges are negotiated privately.

Debra and John are a classic example of post divorce stress. Debra would like to move on with her life but feels that John over steps his boundaries and keeps returning into her life. He routinely invites himself in and helps himself to whatever is in the cabinets after dropping off the children.

During the counseling session, John’s new mate is in attendance. She wants to make sure that the session is not able re-opening the marital relationship. John and Debra are advised to keep the parental relationship in place, but set up mutual boundaries.

According to the Social Exchange Theory, stress on pre/post divorce is directly related to shared leisure time and perceptions of the positives and negatives. The contribution of children equates to the amount of leisure time previous marriages and remarriages also.

The Family Stress Theory of Recoup ling is based on the double ABC-X model and the contextual family stress model. A+aA (Hardships and pileups) include but are not limited to implementing two different cultures, adding family members to the equation, boundary and role uncertainties. The b+bB (resources) include the individual’s health and mental state, willingness and availability of resources to change. The step families’ resource requires expectations that are realistic along with open communication. In the c+cC (perception), divorced couples view remarriage as a way to correct past mistakes. Some individuals fear that the step children or step parent may unbalance the new family structure. Researchers have concluded that bon-adaptation is the step families’ successful adjustment to new family member roles and expectations while keeping open boundaries for visitation of the non-residential parent and family members. Stress levels are lowering than families who have not reached bon-adaptation. It is also noted that bon-adaptation and mal-adaptation can occur simultaneously. Single mothers who remarry typically have less supervision over the children (mal-adaptation) but parent-child relationships improve along with more appropriate discipline which is a return to bon-adaptation.