Do it yourself

Perhaps you’re considering to ask for an apology through text messages, emails, by phone, or by asking others to do it, but what if the message you want to deliver is being misunderstood? I know it isn’t easy, but you need to do it by your self.

It doesn’t have to be too formal

You can always ask for an apology in a casual and simple way.

Admit your mistakes

Asking for apology supposed to be started by admitting the mistakes you’ve made. Asking others to apologize you without showing your regret about the mistake you’ve made is equal to opening up another chance for another war.

To the point

Say that you regret whatever mistakes you’ve made and you feel so sorry for that. Showing your intention to make it up is a great point, but don’t forget to make it true.

Don’t blame others for your mistake

Sounds like moving the battle field to another area. Would this make the war end? Nope. It would just raising the risk of creating a wider battle field.

Sincerely

As a friend told me, “Don’t just say, ‘I mean it’.” The person that you’re dealing with can feel whether you’re asking it sincerely or you’re just pretending to ask an apology. So, don’t fake it.

Listen

Perhaps that person you’re dealing with need to channel his/her emotion. All you need to do is listen, pay attention, and again, sincerely do so.

The point behind apologizing for something you have done is to let the person you have hurt know that you acknowledge your wrong-doing and that you will not do it again.  The problem with this is that many people will be forgiven and then go back and do the very same thing they had recently apologized for.  One would think that after apologizing for it that the person would realize they should not do it again.

Over the years I have had people in my life who have done hurtful things to me and apologized for them only to do it again.  Once someone attempts to apologize again I will usually tell them I don’t want to “hear” sorry, I want to see it!  What I mean by this is that I don’t just want them to say the words, I want them to prove that they are sorry by not repeating the same act.  

Saying “I’m sorry” should not be something that is said just to get the person who is upset with you to forgive and forget.  The words in themselves mean that you feel bad about what you have done.  However, when the person saying the words continues to do the very thing they are apologizing for then the apology means nothing at all!

• Focus on the Partner : Both the partners must keep the other in focus while talking to each other or interacting in any other way. This will ensure that your partner keeps you in focus. Thus, both enjoy each others care and love.
• No Self-aggrandisement : Avoid telling your partner how great you are in conduct or performance but let him/her sense it from your grand conduct and performances with him/her and others. Conversely try to be sublime with the partner to make him/her sublime for you in return. This will ensure sweetness between the two.   
• Don’t tell your Problems : Some persons keep on telling their own problems to others to earn their sympathies and attention. This proves counter-productive in a relationship, as no one wants to be a partner of a problematic person. It does not mean hiding own problems from the partner but stating those clearly when the partner enquires about your well-being. If you ask and take interest in the problems of the partner, he/she will surely reciprocate the gesture in the same coin. Thus, both know each others problems and be cooperative with each other.
• Never Annoy and Get Annoyed : In a new relationship, as a little closeness keep on deepening to become an intense love between the partners, same is true for a small fissure in the relationship which keep on widening if not taken care of immediately. So never annoy your partner or get annoyed with him/her if you are serious about the relationship. Whenever some possibility of an annoyance arises, withdraw yourself from the unhappy situation and try to normalize the relationship without any delay. 
• Sorry, Thank you and Please : Say sorry as soon as you realize a gap between the two for some silly mistake of yours and really feel it to strengthen the bridge of understanding again. It is not a weakness, but a strength of the person showing how much he/she has interest in keeping the relationship. Get habitual of freely using the words thank you and please in the beginning of the  relationship to indicate how much cultured you are. 
• Acknowledge Partner’s Good Gestures : If you have failed somehow to show your interest in the partner and the relationship, and the partner has played that role better, show your gratitude to the partner and appreciate his/her good gesture in quite demonstrable terms. A good gesture remaining unacknowledged for long loses its spirit and never appears again leading to a break-up in the relationship.
• Touches – Real or Virtual : Touches play the most important role in developing and nurturing a relationship, it may be physical touches or even emotional touches when the two hears tend to resonate synchronised with each other.     

With all such minor steps and gestures, you demonstrate that you have a deep interest in the relationship and inspire the partner to follow suit, leading to a greater understanding and affinity between the two partners.    

“The art of any given period or culture is a faithful mirror of that culture’s philosophy.”- Ayn Rand

  Within this anti-value culture, the entities which exist to protect individual rights (the police, the military, and the law courts) have suffered acts of physical violence and have been maligned, disrespected, and disregarded (to say the least) by the citizens who need their services.

   Rapper Soulja Boy’s lyrics in his song “Let’s Be Real” represent the latest results of an era where it appears to be cool to knock cops, the armed forces, and officials of the judicial system.   

  As the artist issues words  like  ”f–k the FBI and f–k all the Army troops,” we must recognize that yes, misconduct and malfeasance have appeared in each of the agencies mentioned above. Yet, such actions represent a minuscule part of the  appropriate functioning of these governmental groups. This, therefore, does not excuse Soulja Boy or other performers who disparage the same people who guard his and others’ rights to spout such vitriol. 

  It would be too easy to just passively blame Hip Hop and shake one’s head at society.  Instead it is more rational to sit down, think, and encourage artists to responsibly display their opinions.

  In light of his official apology, it is important to forgive the rapper but to never forget that taking swipes at those who serve and protect is 

unacceptable.  The fact that he took the time to say sorry shows a  member of a generation struggling to live in accordance with a proper morality that has never fully manifested.  His mea culpa may just signal a young Soulja Boy ready to become a grown man.

all i could say, is yeah it’s true. . .

it consists of pride, humility, anger, bitterness and lots of love. . .

it was also said that it is easy to love your neighbors but it’s very hard to love your enemies most especially if it’s the ego that was hurt. . .

what are some causes that it is hard to forgive anyway?

it’s the ego. . .it’s okei to say some things but some things that hit your belief and who you really are hurts what had happened and that causes you to become stone hard bitter that makes you hard to forgive

another thing is that if it hurts you that you did something well and all from the heart then unable to be appreciated. . .they didn’t know it was from the heart and automatically they had hurt you. . .causing you to say such bitter things that are out of the heart despite what you had done still unappreciated

in addition to this is the fact that there’s the emotions. . .out of the ordinary you are just moody. . .then later on for small thing even for only an item misplaced anger and unforgiveness was already there. . .

swallow your pride and have common sense. . .would you risk losing a great relationship formed just for the reason of one small issue and unable to forgive which could be erased. . .

humble down and love the people. . .practice yourself saying sorry. . .

letting time pass to cool down isn’t really called forgiveness but just letting the bitterness cool down but not really losing the anger inside. . .in a small issue that would happen again, it’ll then be repeated and you will mention it again. . .

don’t just say sorry on yourself saying you had already forgiven the person. .. you have to confront the person itself. .. i’m sure there’ll be small hurtings, but at least it is settled and both of you forgave each other. .. 

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     There are those who do stop and apologize, no matter the time limit for the apology.  There are those who keep the statement going in spite of the impression in the room, waiting and expecting others to join in or side with their wit.  And there are those who would never apologize, even after they have stopped and knew that others had  turned away.

     Ever try to talk to someone but couldn’t get them to listen as you tried to get your point across?

     There are those who would listen and are willing to say, “Sorry, I just don’t get what you mean.”  There are those who do listen but with a defensive ear.  Aiming to criticize you and bring up the level of annoyance, just because you gave them more to think about than what they wanted to hear.  And there are those who listen in order to give you back a purposely positive response with no or little complications added to your life.

• a)   There are those who can’t hear you due to many fault factors.
• b)   There are those who won’t hear what you have to say because of pride, embarrassment, or guilt.
• c)    And there are those who have matured enough to openly hear you and respond respectfully.

      In the back ground are those who observing but do not get involved….necessarily.

• a)   There are those who see what’s happening but never ask why.
• b)   There are those who see but could care less to even wonder why.
• c)    And there are those who see to understand more and may adventure to ask the question why.

     Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?  In this world we obviously have trust issues with listening and being apart of stepping up.  The many, many, stories that are heard and shared by one another serve as living examples.  Even the laws of the land, backed up by our court systems are given as a reflection of this dilemma.

     The best position for attack, when there is an enemy of some sort, is from the inside out.  It can hurt our feelings, create doubt and unbelief, or even give us physical illness which ultimately effects us mentally speaking.  It is the order of things.  From the inside out.  To be feeling as though an attack is happening.

     Cancer of the air is when people shake up an atmosphere of peace, just to trade it in for a little hell.  But hell was already with the person before the shake down could begin.

STORY:  Your on the edge of the pond.  Watching as the ducks paddle in the water.  In the pond are many ducks swimming gracefully.  Viewing this, you interpret that the ducks appear to move without struggle or very little effort.  On top of the water they seem to move across the waters as though the wind is moving them gently.

But in order to be understanding the whole picture, you must see underneath the water.  It becomes a little bit of a different story.  Under the water, you see rapid movement.  A faster pace and an appearance of being a bit frantic as they peddle their way from here to there.

     People can be a lot like this.  On the outside of what you see of them looks to be calm, in control and well balanced.  Things look worked out and can give an appearance of smoothness.  But generally when you look closer, deeper into their belief systems, their life’s experiences and choices, it can look to be a bit more chaotic than you thought.  When you spot this dilemma, they don’t seem to be who you thought that they were.

     People like to hide their imperfections and misgivings. Giving others a false sense of security and respect about who they are when your looking.  The problem is who are they when no one is looking?

     Preachers, teachers, parents, relatives, governmental officials, Friend or Foe can fall to taking this approach. According the Bible no one is perfect.  But we can give the impression that we are.  A lot of never get to our full potential of truly who we are.  So keep that in mind.

Revealing this kind of evidence to a person who has been hiding, can intensify and overwhelm them to a negative response. Plain and simple, some people don’t want to hear it and they hinder their human growth experience by avoiding change.  Non-change requires no growth.  And growth requires maturity which is built upon listening.  If you are reading this, you have just put another notch in your belt for growth.

Being a prisoner to your own life rituals can result in shackling yourself to rebellion, selfishness, and soon after, abandonment by you or by others.  And no one likes a know it all.

If you find yourself in place for being uncomfortable secretly or being uncomfortable out loud, there are a few things to take into consideration in order to establish some change, on the inside of your mind.  Here are some tools that you can gather to help maintain a little bit more of a healthy life style for yourself or for others.

What does it mean to Respect?…..Well, respect means;

• No invasion of space or territory without permission.
• Truth in what you are saying to yourself and others.
• Practices wide range of patience.
• Trustworthy to being depended up.
• A caretaker or a service in gentle and favorable ways.
• Disciplined enough to be in control of ones habits.
• Thoughtfulness for being involved.
• Honesty practiced in the relationships.
• A provision of tools for many relationships to survive on.
• Listens and listens some more.
• Gives fair advice to self and others.
• Royal and loyal to communicate with others.
• Cautious about going to slow or going to fast in life.
• Intention’s of getting meaningful results in conflict.
• Obedience to the laws of the land.
• Loves to listen and listens to love.
• Understanding limits and their consequences of safety.
• Honorable behavior admired by many.
• Encouragement increasing growth.
• Forgiving acts allowing things to be move on.

     Commit your mouth not to sin.  By what you do say, or what you should say and don’t. Cussing, dirty jokes, or even gossip cast shadows of doubt up against trust.

Words are containers for power and replacement or power of drainage.  It is a either a blessing or curse to weaken or strenghten a spirit.

Get done with pettiness and have some peace.  For tomorrow is not promised to you.

Don’t grave dig by saying, “I can’t, it won’t work, I tried, it won’t happen….etc.

Teachers are held at the higher end to people falling or succeeding.  Hint, we are all teachers.

Death and life are in the tongue.

God uses those who ask.  But be not surprised by the long hours and the commitment.  Because the benefits are great.  And can be long lasting past your death.

Who we are means that before you can experience the yes’s in life, you’ll generally have to understand the No’s in your life.  So that what you do comes out of who you are suppose to be.  We are not just to have respect for others but ourselves too. Take care. Nan

Sorry is just a five-letter word often used by people in their day to day life. Some say sorry is not medicine but I would like to say sorry is more than medicine if expressed in good way. Sorry is also a word of sympathy and is accepted by the people are around the world. 

Sorry is something that if forced to say is not sincere. If someone says because they genuinely are sorry then it is good. Sometimes people want someone to say they are sorry for something they did not do at all and are not to blame but get blamed because the other people, person did something and wants to put blame on someone else so everyone thinks the one blamed did something they did not do.

Sorry can be used correctly and incorrectly. Some people say it with no intention on sincerely meaning it, some use it lightly and some use it to express apology for something they did such as hurt someone. Sometimes sorry isn’t enough for me and I can’t accept an apology that isn’t truly genuine. And all medicine doesn’t make you better.

 When sorry is used correctly, some people feels ok when we hurts them physically or mentally by mistake but there exist some people who intentionally hurt others to say sorry because they think saying sorry is enough.  But we really don’t know whether they mean it or not when they say sorry to us.

Whether others accept it or not, saying sorry cost nothing. So keep on saying sorry. If they accept it, your preventing somebody from getting hurt which otherwise would let him or her to be in bad mood at least for few hours.

One of the world greatest conflicts is World word II. World War II, or the Second World War, was a global military conflict ranged from 1939 to 1945; this brought many great nations to the battle field, including all of the great powers. This eventually divided the world into two opposing sides. In the period of war the major participants placed their nation’s economic, industrial, and scientific capabilities at the service of the war. World War II was the deadliest conflict in human history, resulting in the deaths over 60 million people, both women and children where its casualties. This war saw the introduction of tools of mass death which includes the nuclear bomb.

World War II started on 1st September 1939, with the invasion of Poland by Germany and Slovakia, and subsequent declarations of war on Germany by France and most of the countries of the British Empire and Commonwealth. The Germany goal of this war was to create a large empire in Europe. This war ranged fro 1939 to early 1941, with various military campaigns which saw the Germany nation conquering much part of Europe. Britain and the Commonwealth remained the only major force which where no conquered by the Germany forces.

World War II ended in Europe with the finally surrender and subsequent capture of Berlin by Soviet and polish army, this lead to the total surrender of Germany in 8th May 1945.on the Japanese side, The Japanese Navy was defeated by the United States, and invasion of the Japanese Home Islands. This lead to the final surrender on the 15th August 1945 by the Japanese forces, and Asia was at peace.

World War II is still one of the world greatest battles, which lasted from 1939 to 1945. Yet we still see the effect till today, they scare and hate it has coursed even to our present generation can not be undone.

When people fight over an issue, once naturally assumes that they have not reached a mutual agreement or a point of joint understanding between the two warring parties over the issue. Wars are formed out of disagreement, misunderstanding and inability to say “I AM SORRY””. This four letter word is simple to say but in real sense it hard for people these days. “Sorry,” an expression of regret or condolence.

Conflict resolution is a wide range of methods of addressing sources of conflict; this process is used in achieving peace. Processes of conflict resolution generally include negotiation, mediation, diplomacy, creative peace building and saying the word “I AM SORRY”.

Let’s start with saying am sorry. This would go along way in averting conflicts, disagreements and misunderstandings which might end us all in war.

The word am sorry is a gift mankind should embrace and use to its own benefit.

‎…I might just come watch you, just because… Have a great Birthday weekend sweets!

Have much fun!

Have much fun on your birthday weekend sweetie!

WHAT…WHAT…WHAT??? Hold the freaking phone, are you serious, AGH!!!

Oh D.j. is your mind playin tricks on you…Yeah, your truck tricked me yesterday!

So you are just sans the kids and not the, well you know?

I have already had a crappy day! So…

Do not have a Hangover weekend though. Call me if you need a ride to or from…Whatever, okay…

No, you be illin’…illin’…

I’ve never had any problems with your wife or girlfriend? Of course you have, if you know any time at all! We can not help it, because the guys always do something or say something without thinking that upsets our partner. Say you’re sorry you can get from the place where it was, but only if she really believes you are sincere and remorseful. If she thinks they are just excuses to enjoy the incredible to have sex, you will be in hot water than it was before!

One of the things that shows sincerity and remorse better than what we operate. What I mean by that, make a conscious effort not to repeat the same offense again. If you find forgiveness again and again for the same offense not only show that regret, but also shows that you really do not care what troubled him.

If you know exactly why she is upset, then apologizes exact thing. Just saying you’re sorry, without the knowledge of reason is not only hypocritical but also prepared to repeat it, because you do not know what is needed to avoid doing or saying. If you really have no idea, humiliated and ask what you did to upset him, tell him you’re an idiot and do not understand, but I really want to know, why do not you want to do it again.

Never apologize to your phone if you can do it in person and never do it with a message or an e-mail. Again, this kind of cold and removed the apology shows a lack of sincerity and not show that you are truly sorry for what you did. Take your time and effort to meet personally so that you can show how upset you and try to make amends.

If you want to go down in flames, go ahead and charge of the situation while you are excused. I know a lot of times the problem may have helped, but the question is your apology. If you have an honest woman, she will do so with an apology and as long as you have the right path. The only way to get your apology accepted as being the most sincere is to accept full responsibility.

Do not leave too much time to spend, if you make an apology immediately, it will be better accepted than if you wait and she thinks they are just excuses to return to his good graces after the fact. On the other hand, if you have an argument and tries to apologize to the heat of the moment, is likely to fall on deaf ears because they wanted to hear what you are trying to convey. A good gift can fix things too.