Sugar daddies are usually men who are significantly older than the girls seeking them, who are willing to enter into agreements to pay the girls to do various things. This can range from being paid to talk to them on the phone to going on dates and holidays with them. Although some SDs do expect sexual contact with their girls, this is not always the case, and you will find that a lot of them are just bored businessmen who want to spend some time with women who they can talk to.

So, what kind of women try to raise money using this method? You would be surprised. A recent survey suggests that almost 90% of women using such websites to meet men as seekingarrangement.com actually have a degree, showing that it isn’t just uneducated women who are thinking about selling themselves to pay the bills. Because most students leave their course with a fair amount of debt these days, many girls think that selling themselves might just be an easy way for them to get the funds that they need.

One question that soon arises is the amount of money that a girl could expect to “earn” from her SD. The simple fact is that there is no flat rate, and most arrangements are sorted out on an individual basis between the girl and her SD. It is not prostitution, and is therefore entirely legal. SDs are paying their girls to spend time with them or talk to them on the phone; not to have sex with them. Payments range from £10 per hour to £5,000 per hour, as some of the men are multi-billionaires who just want to have a good time.

If you’re even considering this as a way to make money, then you have to think about how it’s going to make you feel t the end of each “date”. Yes, it might clear your debts, but it will certainly cause a lot of friction if you’re already in a relationship, because they surely won’t be all that happy with you going out with another man every week. 

Here are ten good reasons why Sugar Daddy Dating is becoming increasingly popular in the online dating scene. The comparison is based on age difference in the long term relationships in mind.

1. / In general, a woman can feel more confident in the company of mature sugar daddy type date, especially in the first session. He is more inclined to suggest coffee or dinner in a crowded place as the first meeting place, or very happy for them to a place where they feel comfortable offering. Its simplicity in mind, that during the first meeting, in particular is high on his agenda.

2. / There are exceptions to the rule, women from older types of Sugar Daddy notice a high level of respect shown to them in such a relationship. The emphasis on romance overshadowing his desire is to get into bed more often seen. It is less likely to meet in the superficial be interested.

3. / Prospects for long-term relationships tend to be very real, his playing days are to be deleted in the past. His mature mindset focused on many other aspects, namely the advantages of staying long term in adoring Union.

4. / “Sugar Daddy Sugar Baby relationship often comes around to the need to protect men and to show support for his younger partner. Miscontrue Many a thing as” sex for favors, “the agreement. Nevertheless, in his mind, sex is not condition. His pride would be severely dented if he thought that sexual contact as a direct result of his demonstrations of kindness was caused.

5. / Loyalty will also be important. His desire to protect and support are extremely concentrated, and when he discovers that his beautiful, the eye is less likely to be included in other directions. The strength of the relationship is an important issue, and he will defend this vigorously.

6. Baggage can often be a problem in any new relationship. Whether it is the family of the current work, the former partner or financial issues, baggage from the past often corrupt another great opportunity. Older, more mature men are less likely to allow external issues spoil the possibilities and often outside the current work of its partners on the board with grace, understanding and positive attitude.

7. / Sex, if not quite the opportunist he is to be used, it must delight and satisfy will often be stronger than seeking his own pleasure. It will take time to seduce her mind, has developed his idea of foreplay far beyond “buttons on the couch ’status. After this intimate meeting is also lovely and warm, with pillow talk into a delicate part of the process.

8. Romance is an important aspect of any dating relationship, but sugar daddy will pay much more attention to the romantic suggestion. It is not just with flowers, gifts and material things, but by the hand and public displays of affection or little notes left discreetly for manifests to find it.

9. / At the end of the term before, it is believed that women are much more mature men of all ages. So it makes sense that it has more in common with a man older than his age have. They will make each other’s attention, keep the longer term, they have to share more interests and they are much closer than friends in the overall plan.

10. / Genuine Sugar Daddy pampered and enjoy pampering his young lover, and seize every opportunity to make her feel like a princess. not necessarily material things from their souls, but generally take care of them. Create the feeling that it was important to him, a favorite .. cherished .. reserved.

1920-version of Sugar Daddy, normally the soul of his young lover with gifts, often cash, as a “reward” for your company or sexual favors. In these days of the agreement with the relationship, a firm connection between the two partners involved. should pamper, pampering and protection satisfy both his need and get it. It was the twenty-first century can Sugar Daddy Sugar is often the situation of the child grow into a powerful unity of body and soul, so that the conventional relationship in the dust.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the drama associated with everyone, from NeNe and Sheree both losing their homes to the disappearance of DeShawn Snow. DeShawn has not reappeared, looking like she wants nothing to do with the drama. I’m sure DeShawn just had enough from last season. DeShawn, poor child, you just got caught in the cross fires of everyone else’s stubbornness and need to be portrayed as the ultimate divas. Now all the smoke has cleared and the mirrors are gone and everyone has just reached a point where they want to know the truth and move on. Kim is still on her little girl tip and couldn’t fess up and caused so much trouble.

Housewives of Atlanta Session 2, appears to have a focus on drama and new formed bonds and relationships. Love it, great concept!  I think that’s the reason we can’t tear ourselves away from it. We just have so much drama and tension within only the first two episodes that it leaves you salivating for your next fix next week. You know I’m not over exaggerating. I mean, I got an email from a fellow Housewives of Atlanta fan, revealing the identity of Mr. Big Poppa (Kim Zoliack’s sugar daddy whom feeds into her every revealed whim). When I found out who Big Poppa was I screamed.  My shriek caught the attention of others. I had no choice at that point but to reveal my new revelation so others wouldn’t think I was crazy lol. You should have seen the crowd that gathered. For those of you who don’t know who Big Poppa I, drum rolls please, Lee Najjar. Lee owns his own real estate company and is the father of a CEO of Archangel, prominent jewelry line, named Jared Najaar. I also see why NeNe won that award; we were captivated by the mystery, and the question that women struggle with all the time. When do I know it is social acceptable to step over the line that separates my classy and not so classy side.  

Everyone seems to hate Kim. Poor baby even if they don’t love you girl, I do. You are like a playboy bunny in your own playboy mansion and everyone’s just hating. How dare they hate on your come up, girl. I am upset though that you decided to retaliate by putting everyone else’s dirt out in the street. That was childish and wrong on so many levels. Even if Greg Leakes (NeNe Leakes’ husband) was broke, why tell the whole world. NeNe was living ghetto fabulous and we loved her for it. I was just glad my girl had the class to keep her head up and not break your jaw like so many others probably would. Lisa’s rumor was also a low blow! Even if the girl had smoke, inhaled, snorted, or shoot up a little something that was not your business to tell. Some things you must keep in house! You see how we found out Michael Jackson had a problem. You think his family didn’t know about his habit? Give me a break! You know that girl got a reputable conglomerate forming that she has built from ground up and is supported by her loving, fine and supportive husband. Then you cry when someone reveals that you are at the root of the corrosion of everyone else’s crumbing relationships. Don’t act like you aren’t because you are and you need to grow up just a tad bit!

(DESHAWN SNOW)

Speaking of which, what happened to DeShawn Snow. Girl, we miss you! I see how distant you were acting during the reunion show. I know you have a true class that wouldn’t allow you to seep to that level of public explosion but did you have to leave the show. We miss you. You were always the calm in the storm of the otherwise stereotypical perspective that the show’s drama continue to whirlwind into. Come back…please! Now not that I don’t love the replacement…Kandi Burruss.

I feel that Kandi was an excellent replacement for the real go getter and motivators of the other’s DeShawn and Lisa. This was another excellent choice by producers.  Not to take credit away from Lisa. Speaking of which, wasn’t it crazy how Kandi Burruss felt the warmth of Lisa’s heart so much that she just opened up to Lisa about her poor woes with her new lovely, hard working, fiancée, that everyone from her daughter to her mother have been unable to become completely accepting and excited about his six kids.

Let me speak my mind. I believe you when you say that you brought that big old rock for his girl. Let me explain why, Kandi is not a loud flashy person. She would never buy a rock that big. She explained that in the scene with the girl in the salon. Kandi likes her cars but she has never been big on a lot of jewelry. Not to mention the way A.J. jumped up to say he has proof of his payments for the ring. No need A.j.!! We believe you love Kandi just that much.  I say hold on to him Kandi. He is a good attractive, attentive, family man with a go getter attitude that matches yours. He is everything you want girl. Your mom will come around because everyone else around you is semi excited besides her. The girl wasn’t close enough to even get a label. Girl, if you need to hear it from someone. I am the one. You have my blessing is one of the best moves in your life A.J., stop trying to show us the receipts for that ring. We believe you brought that ring. You have shown that you love Kandi enough to work hard enough to give the women you love something big, flashy and nice. Who cares that you have 6 kids as long as you take care of everyone. Your man is just trying to make sure men see that ring, so they keep away, and make sure you stunt on everyone at those award shows.  Make sure you never stop doing that boy! Sorry ya’ll…just nothing like a strong black man. They come so few and far between so when you have a good one you have to hold on. America has come to this realization too. If you think not, tell me who our president is?

Speaking of good men, I am glad you decided to give Ed Hartwell, the additional babies that he wanted Lisa. Ed may leave and go play football but you are the only thing he seems to love just as much as the game. Girl, I also wouldn’t say no after that impressive dinner he made you with the spring salad and dressing made from scratch! I also love the rose pedals and lit candles leading up to the massage table and the warm bubble bath in your Jacuzzi style bath tub. Good move Ed! Even though you may have broke that massage table you got a well deserved reward at the end. I wish I had a man who worked that hard from my heart. You’re voted one of my couples of the year. The communication and passion are so strong and that’s what we lack in our couples today. I also know that that is why you opted at one of time of being pregnant. I hope you both get the number of children you want in that run.

Kandi and Lisa also discussed the pocket monologues. Which I must admit I knew nothing about until the show. I had to go and attempt to do my research…lol. You know you have never heard of a business man giving refunds because you misunderstood the term and condition you didn’t read and just signed in the first place lol. Have to do my research, it turns out that the pocket manual is similar to the more popular Vagina Monologue. I can’t lie I tried but couldn’t find anything on line yet must be real small but Kandi Burruss and Lisa spoke to someone that assured them that the money was going to a good cause. I would support them, and go out and buy a few tickets to see them perform a monologue about a black girls van-j-j as sister girl from Grey’s Anatomy would say.

It seemed that Kandi was also trying to throw hints about what got her to do the show, with the mention of her knowing Dallas Austin and only knowing Kim that way. It helped explain the blogs released that Kandi Burruss was only booked on the show to help boost Kim’s career. Go Big Poppa that was an excellent business move to keep your sidepiece happy. You know Kim wasn’t lying when she said her man can afford to wine and dine her. That’s why we know Kim is lying when she keeps saying she is going to leave Big Poppa. Big Poppa is a CEO of a local prestigious record level and with the recent economy we all know how just a CEO bonus looks. I say you go girl. I know girls who spread their legs for far less. Kandi stressed the fact that, regardless of Kim’s rant and rave about Dallas Austin being personal friends, Dallas is a man about his money first. Which makes sense; I would have never even known who Dallas Austin was until I show the Housewives of Atlanta. Hearing the list of who he has worked with makes him creditable but obviously the man has the no passion for the lime light.  Hold on though, I have a question for you Austin. Did Kim really get under your skin so much that you felt the need to post on her twitter account that she was whore. Not nice!! We knew you weren’t feeling Kim when you gave her that sour face when you told you she spells cat as K-A-T…tsk …tsk Kim. Way to make a good impression on a potentially outstanding producer.  

What I have put together. Big Poppa (whose identity has been revealed) is married and keeps feelings that infamous line that he is going to leave his wife for, the two years…tsk…tsk… Kim when is enough is enough.

I must say though Kim, until the fight at the restaurant in that episode “Kim-tervention”, we didn’t know that Sheree could be a possible suspect in the whole “Who Done It: Bloggers Exposés” mystery. I think they both played a part by planting their own seeds of mayhem but it got out of hand and Sheree just told first. That’s why Kim called Sheree an opportunist, on several occasions but still tried to salvage her friendship with NeNe. I think Kim does this because despite it all NeNe really gets her. NeNe even goes as far as to tell info about Kim in her tell all autobiography entitled “Never Make the Same Mistake Twice”. She defines Kim’s uncontrollable need to be accepted and urges to feel loved by relating it to Kim’s man incidents of Kim’s dishonest attempts to unsuccessfully conform. This has lead to Kim unfortunately being the Season’s outcast.

Is it me, or is Kim terrified of Lisa. I don’t know what happened between break of Season 1 to Season 2 but I saw the anxiety you displayed as you walked past NeNe and Lisa on the red carpet at Niecy Nash’s party. Then it seems you tried to approach NeNe at the party but you saw Lisa then left right afterwards. I also realized that she denied any attempts of allowing Lisa to confront you during any of the episodes during the Kim-tervention show.

(NENE LEAKS)

NeNe, our award winning diva and the peace maker of this Season 1, is showing growth. Readers let me ask you this. Did you see that transformation on NeNe from before and during the Niecy Nash’s party to? I wanted to say nice job to makeup and hair and you need to call me because you work magic. Plus I see you NeNe trying to show the world that you got a little singing voice. This show, where you were singing sounded way better than before when you broke into that drunken song about Kim and how she couldn’t sing in the limo. You may have been being honest, but it was the wrong crowd to do it in front of. You thought it was funny but it was hurtful and that’s why Kim turned on you.

NeNe has shown us a lot more this Season. NeNe agrees that she has stripped in her life, but we knew her past was never sweaky clean. Don’t forget that NeNe and Lisa both left relationships that were not as happy as their current ones. NeNe had experienced abuse in her past and that can shatter a women’s world, but I am happy you were able to climb out and find better. Plus I must admit that Dwight’s (6th honorary housewife) suggestion of putting a stripping pole in your movie room for you and Greg was hilarious, but as we all know a fabulous idea and doable NeNe. Sometimes to keep the fire burning and strong, magic needs to be created, outside of the bedroom too.

(Niecy with her new ring)                                   Don (ex-husband) and Niecy Nash

Nash is married again currently. Ya’ll I didn’t even know she was ever married before. It turns out the guy was a pastor/ real estate agent named Don Nash. They had three children ages 16, 13 and 8 years old. If I was unhappy in my marriage and my interest shifted and you couldn’t adjust with me then it’s time to find someone who can.  I like the advice released in Essence about your learned relationship tips and pointers that you offered proudly. You go girl!!!

Well, you know I give praise when do but I must also reprimand those who miss behave. Niecy you know you’re wrong for trying to stir up drama on the red carpet at your own party. Niecy went to Lisa (obviously the one Kim has been avoiding the most) and told her I hear you were feuding. I love the way Lisa trumped with her class and just made it clear that they were no longer friends but she wasn’t seeking to kill Kim. She made it evident she just wanted to enjoy the night and the party but not to introduce or confront any drama that night.  I see why NeNe was so excited about attending your party telling Greg that there is “always some drama at Niecy’s party”…I hope you’re not at the root of all those incidents Niecy.

(YOU ALL KNOW WHAT THIS IS!)

I have to ask you! Did you see how hilarious Kim and Nene were especially after she got that Patron Silver in her system! Now I know that the stuff is good but not that good. The Patron Silver acted as a truth sermon for Nene. She spoke every thought on her mind including that she was going to go and give Greg some of the business tonight and that Kim would eventually end back up with Big Poppa. NeNe always says that she is through with Big Poppa but he comes right back. This means either Big Poppa is just that good in bed or the money is just that good. Maybe, both in Big Poppa’s case it.LOL!  

Ok, ya’ll remember when I discussed drama before? Do you remember the scene when Sheree Whitfield went off on the party planner (Anthony)? Ok…Do you feel that Sheree’s demands and actions were reasonable or just a tad extravagant? Well…I do but, if we remember Sheree’s first party was extravagant too and that’s just how our baby girl rolls, Anthony agreed that he could meet those demands and even went as far to offer good customer service but he did neither. I would go off too especially within a week of my party and you have none of my extravagant extras ready, that I told everyone about already. You have officially done nothing I paid you to do …I’m going off. You know you would too…lol.

 I love Sheree’s new friend Tania. It is what Sheree needs to grow. Tania shows Sheree that you can learn to protect yourself and still be sexy and look classy. When Tania read off her qualifications to teach Sheree how to fire a gun, they included; being a in the military for three years, being a desert storm vet, who’s shot a nine millimeter, m16, 50 caliber, and a plethora of other weapons. They were incredible. I was almost in disbelieve when a women was able to enlist and step out feisty, empowered and that good looking? She reminds of Regina King in a Thin Line between Love and Hate. I have just one question for you… where do I sign up?

Tania is not the only person in Sheree’s cabinet of empowers of encourages providers. There is also Lawrence, (her gay hairdresser). I have liked him ever since he reached out to Sheree and took her to a gay, tyranny and etc fashion show and exposed Sheree (a heterosexual woman) to one of the wonders of his culture. Lawrence serves as a sense of sister girl strength. He not only makes her hair look good and healthy (the staple of a women’s beauty), but he also helps makes her healthier by letting her know when enough is enough. He tells her when, certain things are not acceptable and it’s time to speak out. Sheree seems to cherish not only Lawrence’s advice but his ability w/ a flat iron and a curling iron. I can’t blame you girl! You are a lion and you toss that regal mane to let them know whose boss when you step on the scene you know between strength and attitude that should accompany it.

Lawrence and Tania, you know you played a contributing factor to that blow up between the party planner and Sheree. We know Tania is the encourager so who does that leave as our source is strength, Lawrence. Think about it, when she got on her designer clothes about the progress of the designs. It was due to Lawrence’s advice and in Season 2 Lawrence tells Sheree to get on the Party Planner. Sheree definitely did that when questioned his horrible customer service that he promised would be “wonderful” and his lack of results and communication. Sheree‘s last two major events ended up happening, but little went as planned. Lawrence noticed that Anthony (the party planner) was not on his job and questioned his inability to provide a helicopter or/and the poet promised to Sheree.

Kandi, girl, I love your style girl. Your songs show that you still have that raw, refreshing, crisp sound that we digest into our souls like Pepsi on a warm summer night. Your lyrics satisfy a thirst that Hip Hop and the Urban Movement need period. You are upfront and honest, without being raunchy and we have lost that along with Queen Latifah and U.N.I.T.Y.  You have a sincere depth, that lets other see how genuine you truly are and how humble you remain in the grace of fame.

You displayed the troubles of a single mother and admit the regret but relief that you felt. When you decide solely to not give Riley’s biological father a chance to be in the picture. The beauty is you have grown and realized the importance of having a husband, who loves like you love, and who is there when you need him. Kandi, I wanted to tell you that you should never let go out that go getter attitude. You have a little glowing and bouncing piece of sunshine with an unending love and a huge loyalty to her heart. It has shaped your career if continued it will and forever keep you popular and living good.

I love the fact that you introduced your daughter to the camera. Riley is an angel and a good child. She is the example of what a loving single mother can still become accomplished. Even after becoming a single parent at a young age. That show that it doesn’t necessarily when the end of your world. You have to sacrifice some times but the rewards of a warm, loving, child and the love and respects they provide are priceless.

To Kandi Burruss, I promise that your mom only has the same concern my parents have whenever I date a man with kids. Baby Mama Drama. I love my fellow black sisters but I feel that we allow feelings and past experience to take over and we act déclassé. I have had my fair share of stories and I’m sure your mom may have them too. You’re mom seems a little jaded on the idea of you marrying a men with baby mamas. Once she sees how happy he makes you, she will be apologetic and happier than ever.

For Kandi this is a semi obvious but none the less a hard decision.  She is a single mom, a song writer, singer, now a fiancée and the only monkey-wrench in her plans is that her mother won’t give Kandi a genuine blessing, which may lose one of the three people she truly loves. One of my favorite scenes is the truce in the forest between NeNe and Sheree. The lighting was serene and the chirping birds made it calm and a welcoming attempt to either put up white flags to surrender or going to come to explosion clash and they are just never going to be friends again and thank goodness they went with the first choice…lol.

Kandi is producing her own independent record. Kandi vents about her relationship with her man and talks about relationship between each other after the season. Kandi also talks about her struggles between current and soon to be family members. Kandi thanks Bloggers for being the inspiration for her songs.

The two used the scene inspire them to openly express emotions so that they could clear up all miscommunication without worrying about how people are viewing them.

Sheree is currently dating Al B sure!!! Who, by the way, is a popular DJ in Miami!!

I feel like Housewives of Atlanta is interesting. It shows women in all aspects of womanhood, both good and bad but I do feel the fights and our about pity all driven by he say…she say. C’mon ladies I’m sure you’ll run around on a day to day basis. I know you have to do with your time then date.  Just can’t wait for your next episode when we find out more about the “Who Done It: Blogger Exposés”. Speaking of which someone has leaked it to the press that NeNe is being smashed by an NFL player. Let me find out girl.

For those of you who are reading in hopes of landing one yourself, well, there are a few websites available for this. The profiles of their members are different, but I guess there are some real sugar daddies on there if you look hard enough. However, I was not surprised to find that most of the members are actually sugarbabies (the terms of those of us hoping to land a wheezing, 90 year old millionaire). It turns out that there are more people wanting to score Anna Nicole style than vice versa.

I guess I am a sugar baby. Well, maybe not. I actually earn a descent salary and really don’t have expensive tastes (unless you count a Mercedes, Prada, Gucci and vacations to Fiji). But once I started researching and looking around, I quickly realized that there are a lot of true sugar daddies out there, but they are not going to be what you expected. For example, there are many wealthy men who are not conspicuous. They drive Ford Tauruses, live in modest homes and quite conservatively at that. The uber-wealthy do not advertise for a date – they don’t need to.

Then I got thinking about meeting some nice guy who is wealthy but modest. He’s probably hard-working and financially conversative. I’m hard-working and financially conservative. He’s probably pretty low-key but intelligent. I’m pretty low-key but intelligent. He’s probably fairly conscientious about the motives of the guys he dates. I’ve been fairly conscientious about the motives of the guys I’ve dated. That was when I realized, would I ever hand over a monthly allowance or give a new car to some guy I’ve dated? Hell, no. I would share what I could provided I could see indications of mutual contribution. I might treat him to a vacation or nice outfit from time to time, but it would certainly end there. If I met someone as generous as I could see myself being in a similar situation, I would be grateful.

So do sugar daddies exist? I suppose they do. But remember, there are millionaires living all around you but just as you cannot easilty ascertain who they are, they are not going to readily admit it. Be yourself, be respectful and be independent and let love find you for what it is worth…everything else will fall into place.