How many ‘little’ lies do you tell on a daily basis without even realizing?

In a study, students were secretly videotaped having conversations with people they had just met. Afterwards, the students were asked to watch the tapes and to identify any untruths. On average, each of the students told 3 lies in each 10 minute conversation.

Most people will agree that they dis-like liars or simply could not trust anyone who tells lies but these people may also add that to tell a little ‘white lie’ is OK. So what exactly is a ‘white lie’?

White lies (or fibs) are insignificant, benign or trivial lies; mostly used to reinforce the self-esteem of a loved one or friend.

Think about it. When was the last time you told someone they looked beautiful or no, their bottom didn’t look big in those jeans or yes, that meal was delicious when you didn’t actually mean it?

White lies or fibs are the kind we use to be ‘tactful’. Can you remember a time when you pretended you had already made plans when someone you didn’t like too much asked you out? So what exactly is wrong with telling the truth?

The problem is that telling the truth on these occasions can be cruel and extremely damaging and to be honest with you, most of us are simply not that unkind.

When we do come across a person who is too honest, they are often considered to be extremely blunt, rude or plain antisocial so where exactly are the boundaries?

Scientific evidence shows that depressive people are more honest and that when people recover from being depressed they become less honest. So can telling lies be better for our health?

Many of us simply can’t handle the truth. We may ask a question and already have a predetermined answer we are hoping to hear so that when we hear that answer, we don’t question whether it’s true or not.

Lying, like many things in life, can become a habit and there are times when one little lie can grow and mutate into something horrendous so they certainly should be used sparingly (like sugar) if at all, and just like sugar they might make things sweeter but too much can cause rot so keep this in mind: there are times when a half-truth can do more harm than a whole lie.

I want to write about liar and telling lies.

A person that says lie we called liar and we believe a liar is the enemy of God and the telling lies are not good for us. There are many reasons that people say lies. When they want to get out of trouble or to avoid getting into trouble and embarrassment or to keep a friend out of trouble they say lie

Some people don’t love to know somebody their secret so they say lie.

There are two kinds of lies “bad” lies and “white” lies.

Bad lies are never OK such as:

* To get out of trouble

* To tease someone

* To hide thing

* To tell lies about people

* To cheat someone and………….

But white lies might be OK such as:

* Keeping yourself

* Using good manners

* Keeping good secrets and…………..

Some lies are very bad and the name of it is a conspicuous.

My worst lie was when I was a child, I didn’t do my homework but in the morning I got up at 7:00 and I said to my parents I want to go school but I didn’t go and I went to park. In the park there was a person and I thought he was an addict and he teased me and said to me” give me some money”

I said “for what?” he said “I want to buy cigarette and opium”, I afraid and run away.

The opposed of lie is truth. My father doesn’t like that his children say lie and he always to me” tell the truth, my son”.

There are many signs about lie in Quran (a holy book for Moslems) such as:          Chapter 9: AL-TAWBA

 ”He has caused hypocrisy to be in their hearts till the day they meet him, because they have changed what they promised Allah and because they were liars.”

A first person that injured as lie is himself. Quran said “the source of lie is Satan”

(Satan: Satan is a name given to the devil in the Jewish, Christian, and Muslim religions.)   

Good luck.

Writer: Mahdi Mohammadi

A Way a Person Smiles

There are two types of smiles: fake ones and genuine ones.

You can detect a fake one because the smile I only in the mouth.  You should check out the mouth and see if the person’s showing any teeth.  More times than not, a person giving you a fake smile will not show their teeth.  This is a tell that a person may not be as happy as they expect you to believe.  I must admit that I have given fake smiles to people that I don’t like or who annoy me.  This is a sign of being deceptive.

A genuine smile will be seen through the eyes and the mouth.  Unfortunately, this can cause crow’s feet.

Observe Body Parts

Check out their hands, arms, and legs.  Their movements will be limited and stiff when a person is lying.  The person may do something distracting with their hands like touching or scratching their face, nose, or behind the ear.  I saw this happen on “Lie To Me” when the person was lying. I have also seen people do it in person too.

Detect Microexpressions

Microexpressions are facial expressions that flash on a person’s face for a fraction of a second and reveal the person’s true emotion at the time that they are lying.  In other words, a person who’s lying will have their true feelings in their face briefly.  It will usually be a sign of distress.  An example will be raised eyebrows being drawn upwards towards the middle of the forehead when a person is lying.  You might even see short lines on the person’s head.

Check For Sweating

Liars tend to sweat more than people who tell the truth.  There is an exception to this because a person could be shy or nervous. It might also be hot, but then again, someone who has to keep their lies straight would suddenly become very hot.

Check Eye Movement

Liars may deliberately make eye contact to appear more sincere. They seem to think that they will give themselves away if they don’t look at you.  Liars also tend to blink more often than people who are telling the truth.  Right-handed people tend to look towards their right when they are remembering something that’s the truth.  If they are lying, they will look towards the left or down.  The reverse should be true for left-handed people.  They will look to the left when they are telling the truth and down or to the right when they are lying.

Reactions to Questions

Watch the person when you ask a question.  A liar will feel uncomfortable and turn their head or body away from you.  They may even put something between the two of you.  I think that it might be a way to distract themselves so they can avoid facing you when they are lying.  Also, an innocent person will go on the offensive while a lair tends to go on the defensive when accused of something.  My uncle did this with my grandmother when she accused him of taking money that he ended up taking.

Responses to Questions

Someone telling the truth will answer you right away.  A liar has to think about everything they’ve said and done carefully to keep the lie straight.  They want to avoid inconsistencies in their lie.  They want to cover up all the holes in their story so that the lies don’t start to contradict each other.

Usage of Words (Non-Physical Signs):

• Use or repeat your exact words when answering a question.
• Tend to not use contractions.
• Duck questions.
• Talk too much.
• Speak in the same tone.
• Won’t use pronouns

Change the Subject

A liar would be willing to change the subject while an innocent person would be confused by the change of topic.

These are the tips that I have for now.  Feel free to try them out on people you think are lying. You may end up becoming an expert on liars.

In this article we will see a brief overview in regards to the hints and telltale signs that are exhibited when a person is telling a lie as opposed to the truth.

What Liars May Do or Say:

• Overcompensation (adding details that weren’t asked for in an attempt to convince you.).
• Change in voice pitch
• Anxious to change the subject
• A guilty person tends to get defensive while an innocent person tends to go on the offensive
• A statement with contractions tends to be truthful. “I didn’t do it” as opposed to “I did not do it” may tell a lie from the truth
• Liars try to avoid being discovered by not making direct statement in regards to what they are being asked about. They imply vague answers instead of denying something directly
• A guilty person may speak more naturally and calmly (adding those unimportant details) and tend to want to lead the conversation as opposed to following it
• A liar may leave out pronouns: we, us, I, (a subconscious attempt to make a matter less personal) and also turn the subject of discussion around to discuss something about the accuser’s recent behavior
• A guilty person may speak in a passive manner and purposely avoid raising their voice to draw attention to what they are saying

Facial Expressions:

• Eye movement (usually in an upward manner as if grasping for an idea) is a good hint that someone is spinning a fabrication
• A forced or polite smile in which only the muscles around the mouth are involved could be the hint of a lie. A genuine smile involves the muscles of the mouth, the forehead, eyes, cheeks and the area around the nose.
• Staring at an object in the room as opposed to looking you in the eyes could also be the sign of a lie. This gets confusing as some liars try deliberately to look their accuser in the eye while spinning a lie, but look at the rest of there face when confronted like this. Are they straining to look at you? Does their voice have that fake relaxed tone? Are they tilting their head to one side or the other? Are they adding unnecessary details? Eye contact may very well give a liar away when these other factors are taken into consideration.
• Facial expressions are usually limited to mouth movements when someone is telling a lie instead of the whole face

Test for a Lie:

If you believe that someone is lying to you about a specific issue here is s simple test: Change the subject deliberately and very suddenly. A liar will follow along with the change willingly and becomes more relaxed. This is because the guilty want the subject changed. The innocent person is confused by the change and will want to go back to what you were talking about in an attempt to show their innocence.